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  • What It’s Like Being In An Open Relationship

    What It’s Like Being In An Open Relationship

    My relationship towards sex has evolved over the years, and I fully expect it to change in years to come! With every positive sexual interaction I’ve had, I’ve realized more and more that sex (for me) is about connection in all forms, and someone’s personal reason for seeking connection is not for anyone else to judge.

    Sex can meet your need for love and caring and affection, but it can also be utilized to process grief and anger, to fight loneliness, or to discover, accept, and even love parts of yourself that you can’t indulge in anywhere else. It can be furious, healing, ridiculous, relaxing, whatever is true and authentic for you and your partner(s) in the moment, it’s all valid.

    At this point in my life, having sex is most often a celebration of how deeply I can enjoy myself and others, and I’m grateful for the opportunities to do so!

    Why Non-Monogamy Appeals To Me

    Most importantly, consensual non-monogamy allows for the flexibility to ask for what you want and need from your partner(s), and for your boundaries to adjust with you as you all change and grow. I’ve never been a person who makes choices based on what is most widely accepted, but rather based off of what I want, and what aligns with my own internal moral compass; so the option to curate relationships in a way that feels right to me is essential!

    Open relationships also require you to have confidence in your own inherent value, to be in tune with your emotions, and to keep your communication with your partner(s) open and honest. These skills are incredibly important to me in any relationship, and dating in a non-monogamous way has helped me develop them for myself as well.

    I also choose consensual non-monogamy as a feminist statement. When I am not sexually bound to only one person, it is undeniably clear that I belong to no one. I am a fiercely independent person, and the only person that I want to have ownership over my sexuality is me.

    And yes, open relationships are a lot more work, but they are also a hell of a lot more fun! As someone whose hedonistic side roars quite strongly, it’s essential to me that I be allowed the freedom to follow my impulses when I think it’s safe and appropriate to do so. It’s also fun to reconnect with your partner(s) after a sexy escapade with someone else… sharing some special details can keep the spark in a primary relationship burning brightly, and at the very least it’s almost guaranteed to make you feel grateful to be able to come home to someone who knows and loves you after an exhausting night out.

    Is There A Stigma About Open Relationships?

    Absolutely, there are a ton of biases and misconceptions that people have. Some of the more common negative misunderstandings are:

    – People in open relationships are afraid of commitment

    – Real, trusting, romantic relationships can’t exist without monogamy

    – People in open relationships are wildly promiscuous/hypersexual

    – Open relationships require no boundaries

    – Non-monogamy is inherently immoral or dangerous

    – Having an open relationship increases the likelihood that your partner will leave you

    There are also plenty of people who are open to consensual non-monogamy, but perhaps have misplaced expectations about what that will look like, including:

    – Having an open relationship will fix all issues with my current partner

    – Engaging in non-monogamous dating means that I don’t need to have accountability to my partner(s)

    – I will now always be in competition with other people for my partner’s attention

    Rules In Open Relationships

    The best part about being in an open relationship is that the rules are what you make them! No two non-monogamous relationships are exactly alike, because there is no reinforced, socially accepted structure that everyone is expected to follow. What I usually require is that everyone involved communicates honestly about their needs, comfort levels, and personal boundaries… but I think that would be beneficial in any relationship, monogamous or not.

    Trust in a relationship is built by not only honoring the boundaries that all parties have agreed to, but also being upfront and speaking your mind (in a caring and respectful way) if you’d like those boundaries to change BEFORE acting on any desires.

    Tips For Couples To Explore Open Relationships

    In my personal experience, there must be a base of mutual trust, care, communication, and respect in your relationship before you start including other people in it. If you and your partner are comfortable being vulnerable with each other, asking each other for reassurance, and validating each other’s experiences and emotions, you have a lot of the tools you’ll need to navigate consensual non-monogamy!

    It’s also important to know that, especially at first, choosing to try an open relationship will most likely feel uncomfortable. This does NOT mean that non-monogamy is not for you! Changing up the familiar and stepping outside of your comfort zone is always going to feel weird, probably even painful. It’s up to you to decide how much discomfort you want to try and work through.

    It’s helpful to be extra caring, attentive, and affectionate with your partner during moments of discomfort, and it’s ok to ask for that care in return! Knowing that you and your partner have each other’s best interests at heart, and that you both value the bond you’ve created together, will ease the transitions in your dynamic.

    I would also recommend that if you’re considering opening up your relationship, you not only think about what it will feel like for you to connect with other people, but what it will feel like when your partner does the same. It’s easy to get swept up in the (admittedly hot) fantasies about all the adventures you’re going to have, and forget that you may feel very differently about it when your partner wants to have those same adventures. Don’t create boundaries based only off of your own desires, but also off of how much freedom you feel you can offer your partner without resentment.

    Victoria Lindelle – Victoria is a warm, playful, and elegant provider offering otherworldly companionship in Los Angeles. A life-long lover of sensuality and affection, she strives to always cultivate authentic connections, and to enjoy the best cheese and chocolates life has to offer.

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  • How To Give A Mindblowing Blowjob

    How To Give A Mindblowing Blowjob

    My personal thoughts on blowjobs……There is no such thing as a bad blowjob in my world. Every blowjob I perform is to take the man and his cock on a mind-blowing experience. This can be through role play – fulfilling erotic fantasies – on location – I especially love to tease them and their cock until they can take it no more!!

    What Defines A Good Blowjob?

    Definition of a good blowjob – Well, a good blowjob is as I said previously – MINDBLOWING. The man should be groaning in ecstasy and his cock obviously will be throbbing with pure pleasure. It is important that YOU (the blowjob performer) get enjoyment and pleasure whilst giving the blowjob as this heightens their arousal leading to an intensely powerful eruption of cum.

    Favorite Blowjob Techniques

    One of my favorite techniques – After teasing the man and his cock through his clothing until he’s practically begging for me to touch/hold/stroke his fully erect member, I like to make his cock nice and wet with my saliva and his pre-cum. Whilst licking, teasing and sucking his helmet, my hands are not left idle. I touch, stroke, massage his shaft bringing my fingers over his helmet together with my tongue. This can be with both of my hands or with one hand paying attention to his testicles.

    Do You Have A Preferred Penis Size?

    Have I a preferred size of Penis – I have not yet come across a penis that has been too large or small to experience my blowjob skills. I adjust my techniques to accommodate the size – length/girth of the erection. However, if I come across a penis that is particularly ‘huge’ I might suggest after some teasing and sucking that I experience this sizable erection in my pussy.

    How To Make Deepthroating Easy

    Deepthroating is a technique that takes practice – It is definitely a case of practice makes perfect! The trick is to stay in control whilst giving the illusion that your man is the dominant one. Don’t be afraid to gag as when you take the entire length of his penis in your mouth, it will engage your gag reflex. With practice you will learn how to relax this muscle to overcome the gagging, it sometimes helps to quietly hum as this opens the throat. Some recipients quite like to hear the person gagging anyway!! I enjoy turning the man on and knowing that I am giving him pleasure, it makes me incredibly horny so often I will pleasure myself at the same time.

    How I Love Him To Finish Off

    I enjoy seeing the face of the man I am pleasuring with my mouth when he has his mind-blowing orgasm. Whilst I like to see his face, I also love to see the cum unloading from his penis. I particularly enjoy it when he cums all over my face and breasts.

    Tips To Kink Up Blowjobs Further

    If you want to kink up your blowjob (as you put it) – some men absolutely love a cheeky finger in their anus where I gently rub the prostate. Make sure you lube up of course!!

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  • Challenges Of Becoming A Successful Male Escort

    Challenges Of Becoming A Successful Male Escort

    As a free spirited and libertarian man, I believe that sex work is one of the most emancipating profession that exists. Although it is still highly stigmatized around the world, the proper practice of this line of work can bring personal enjoyment and satisfaction, a modest financial freedom, various travelling opportunities, flexibility in your work/personal life schedule and most importantly, the ability to be your own King or Queen and think for yourself.

    To outlaw forms of sex work is a moral and idiocratic crime, as no one is more deemed competent and rightful than the sex worker himself or herself to judge what he or she wishes to do with his or her body, mind and soul.

    Challenges I Faced When I Started Out

    As a heterosexual male escort, becoming legitimate in the industry is very challenging, and in many cases, most newcomers don’t last too long, or are perceived as a joke. There is countless amount of currencies worldwide readily available to female sex workers of all body types, ethnicities, age and social echelon. That statement is quite the opposite for male sex workers, especially if they wish to only see female clients.

    Without the right networks, it does take time to brand yourself in a recognizable fashion, and the cities where a male sex worker can successfully work out of are usually limited to the greater metropolitan areas.

    Although it was an uphill battle, I was able to establish my presence in the industry for over five years. Having the right networks, being fit and attractive, being multilingual and well-spoken and being creative and versatile in ways to work and advertise myself were just a few staples required to stay relevant in this industry. All gigs matter, and so do their subsequent reviews or impressions. Repeat clientele for male sex workers is, in my humble opinion, 10-100 times more important than they are for female sex workers, as the volume of opportunities for a male sex worker is 10-100 times lesser than it is for a female sex worker.

    The Competitive Male Escort Business

    The male escort business can be unpredictable. There are various niche avenues in which a male sex worker can practice his line of work, thus affecting the level of competition in a given city. In most cases, a male sex worker will have solid competition in major cities, especially if he is catering to women specifically. Unfortunately, too many male escorts are calling themselves as such only to attempt to have free sex with women. Some ads on leolist.cc are even worded in that way. Generally speaking, too many legitimate or amateur male escorts sell themselves short, which in consequence artificially boosts competition and attracts undesirable clientele.

    To be successful, you have to be patient, fit, clever, healthy and show no sign of desperation (even if they exist). It might take some time, but the right clientele will seek out a respectable required donation for quality services. Having another way to generate income in the beginning and even throughout your escort career is highly recommended. Personally, I have accounting and financial skills and education, which have proven to be very useful in this line of work and on their own.

    As for ways to advertise for clientele, I often have been more creative than just setting up an ad to sell a date or sex to women. Providing striptease for an event (bachelorette, birthday or divorce party), seeing couples, accepting men who wish to be a voyeur of a sex act performed by myself and a female sex worker or even seeing men on a platonic basis were ways to not have a going concern for myself in this industry.

    Are Male & Female Escorts Viewed & Treated Differently?

    Male escorts are generally less stigmatized than female escorts. However, female escorts often generate more revenues than male escorts. Female escorts have endless work and travel opportunities if they advertise themselves properly, but are also faced with much more dangerous situations and surroundings than male escorts.

    To my understanding, a female escort’s body is more important to the male client than a male escort’s body is to the female client. This is a parallel to the normal dating scene, where ladies are often more objectified than men. Where male clients often seek out a sexual release, female clients would often rather have a unique rapport with genuine reciprocity, in which some various particular forms of intimacy may occur.

    Misconceptions About Escorts & Male Escorts

    Still to this day, many escorts are considered to be desperately in need of currency to fulfill a form of addiction. Although this stereotype can be true at times, the spiritual and legal liberation of forms of sex trade are helping for this stereotype to slowly go away.

    Other misconceptions or preconceived thoughts can also be the following:

    – The escort is not an intelligent person or only has his or her body to offer.

    – The escort is being pimped and has no greater purpose or goals in life.

    – The escort (especially male escorts) is a thug and is bating the client into a financial or blackmail trap.

    – The escort carries countless amount of sexually transmitted diseases.

    – The escort has no chance of living a conventional life in the future.

    All of these misconceptions can easily be refuted with theoretical and practical arguments. But in the end, it is simply best to be abundant in all spheres of your sex trade and strive to build an impeccable reputation, so that actions and behavior demolish the misconceptions.

    Advice For Aspiring Male Escorts

    My general advice would be for any interested man to seriously reflect on why he is considering becoming a male escort, and also think about what he is bringing to the table and willing to do in order to be successful. Here are five sub topics to consider prior to joining the industry.

    1. Do you simply intend to have free sex with women? Go on Tinder or Bumble.
    2. Are you only in it for the money? There many other ways to reach financial freedom.
    3. Do you have innate personable qualities, such as hearing skills, patience, charisma, humor and diverse forms of intelligence? This line of work is more multidisciplinary than the average person may realize.
    4. Are you living a healthy and balanced lifestyle? You must, if you wish to last in this industry. If you have drug or alcohol addictions, you should be cautious.
    5. Would you consider seeing men on an intimate basis, even if you are heterosexual? This is a very personal question, and the answer may differ from a man to another and also depending on what the rapport is between him and the male client.

    Romulus – Greetings, ladies. I aim to please. I am a French Canadian educated gentleman. I am happy to provide you with the most upscale companionship for you to have a memorable time. I pride myself in being your emotional and sexual healer, as well as being a devoted conversationalist.

    Discretion is a two-way street. Although I am based in Ottawa, I do travel several times per year to Montreal, Vancouver and Toronto.

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    I am touring in Montreal from Dec 27-31, as my Twitter and leolist.cc ad both indicate.

    The rest of my tour is as follows:

    • Ottawa Jan 1-6
    • Toronto Jan 7-19
    • Vancouver Jan 20-27

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  • Misconceptions of Camming

    Misconceptions of Camming

    Cam modeling has given me tons of confidence in my work and everyday life. It’s something that teaches true commitment and patience. The outcome really depends on how much effort you are willing to put into it. So, realistically it can be difficult but the passion, knowledge, and confidence I’ve gained from being in this industry motivates me to succeed.

    How I Began Camming

    I’ve always been the kind of person that is comfortable with my sexuality and expression. I have always taken an interest in the sex industry, stripping being one of my first interests. I found out about amateur porn which I felt suited my need for freedom of sexual expression.

    Shortly after, I found camming and that’s where I felt like I had found a dope community of like minded freaks. I enjoy that sometimes people just wanna get off with me but other times, people just want a friend to chat with about anything and that’s equally as enjoyable.

    How Competitive Is Camming?

    The way a lot of cam sites are set up with rankings and exposure due to how much you earn, can be very competitive and discouraging even. Even though many models from this community support and respect each other, there is always an instilled mindset that you have to be number one in order to be succesful but that’s not always the case. Any model can be successful regardless of what their ranking is.

    Misconceptions About Camgirls & Camming

    Many people think that camming is the easiest part of sex work but from my own and others experience, it’s one of the most self-disciplined line of work and that in itself can be difficult to manage. Consistency is key, as well as being able to look after your mental health at the same time. You never know if streaming for hours all night will pay off the way you want it to.

    It’s not just about sitting in front of a camera, be cute, and you get a thousand dollars within minutes. It’s about making goals for yourself to work towards every night, having that entertainer aspect of being able to perform for people for hours at a time regardless of if you’re getting tipped or not.

    Preventing Such Misconceptions From Arising

    I believe that more people are starting to see the validity that makes cam modeling a real job, especially with the help of more people coming out about the experience. Misconceptions about sex work as a whole still affects us but the more communication on the topic has only spread more awareness.

    It’s still hard for people outside of this industry to fully understand without the experience but it is not for everyone and that’s okay. I just hope that everyone realizes we are just like everyone else trying to make a living and putting in the hard work to reach that.

    Levana Lenoir – I am a cam model and amateur content creator. I love blurring the lines between porn and experimental art. DIY is what I live for.

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  • How To Have Mindblowing Sex

    How To Have Mindblowing Sex

    Sex is personally my favorite part of life, and the most intimate way to experience another person

    What A Good Sexual Experience Is To Me

    An intimate connection and romantic interest in each other, going at each others’ pace, and passion made for my best sexual encounters

    My Favorite Sex Positions

    Missionary, spoon, and legs behind my head for kissing and intimacy, and doggy/cowgirl/standing/leaning over because these are universally easy to preform in most locations.

    What I Like My Partner To Do

    I love kissing and caressing and most of all, when my partner cums inside of my vagina.

    Tips To Enjoy Sex With Your Partner

    Be honest with each other about likes and dislikes from the start. Be gentle/rough as both of you desire (don’t force anything), and strong desire from both is a must.

    Jessy Bells – I’m a porn actress/model via my adult films and photo sets, and aspiring entertainer/educator on Twitter, Twitch, and YouTube. I spend most of my time maintaining these passions, with some time left over for artistic hobbies. I used to be a gymnast but have no more time or money to maintain that even though I hope to get back into tumbling, yoga, and trampoline practice in the future.

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  • What It’s Like To Be A Porn Star

    What It’s Like To Be A Porn Star

    I am free about sex and I like that. I do not really have taboos and I love everything about sex. Of course, there are some practices that I like, such as sucking for example. I love it, but I’m never against trying new things. To summarise, I will say that I am open to sex.

    What Inspired Me To Be A Porn Star

    I love sex and I wanted to discover new things and make new experiences. Why not combine the useful with the pleasant?

    Is There A Lot Of Competition?

    Personally I have not been confronted with competition. But I think we have to stand out as much as possible; and it is to have each a little thing.

    Misconceptions About Being A Porn Star

    There are many misconceptions. For example, all actresses are sluts who sleep with anyone etc…But I think we shouldn’t listen to all that. Frustrated people like to judge.

    A Typical Day Of Video Shoots For Me

    For me a typical day on the road, starts with the preparation of contracts and verification of HIV and STD tests. It’s not the funniest time but we have to do it.

    Then I have to choose what to wear and do my make-up.

    We start off by taking photos, soft and hard, and then we can start with the shooting. When it’s over, we have time to talk together.

    Advantages & Disadvantages Of Being A Porn Star

    So the benefits I would say, are all the messages of support and that of supporting my activity.

    As for the disadvantage, I will say are the prejudices.

    Tips For Aspiring Porn Stars

    Do not say yes to everything and especially not to anyone. Only do what we want. In addition today we can broadcast its own content so we do not have to accept everything.

    Cheryl Kitten – Young french porn actress and webcam girl. I make my own videos on ManyVids and Onlyfans.

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  • How To Be A Successful Mature Escort

    How To Be A Successful Mature Escort

    I believe our individual sexuality is a gift, something to be cherished and embraced.  I see sex work as an opportunity for those who want to fully and freely enjoy their sexuality and preferences without the strings of a conventional relationship.

    Whether they are denied that gift through circumstance, repression, opportunity or personal lack of self confidence in the dating world.  The recently divorced male for whom another relationship would be too soon. A widowed gentleman, still in his sexual prime. An executive too busy for the hassle of dating. A handicapped guy who might never find an intimate partner.  The cross dresser who is not allowed to express that side of himself at home. There’s always been a need in society for our services and I see myself as a facilitator to allow my client friend’s intimate desires, fantasies and fetishes to be realized.

    How I Got Into Escorting

    Frankly, an inadequate income in high end commissioned sales. I’d been in the “lifestyle” and a nudist for several years, married and than as a single woman. Highly sexual and comfortable in my sexuality.  By chance, I saw an ad in the Tampa newspaper looking for classy women for upscale lingerie modeling.

    I was offered the “night shift.”  From 6-10ish each evening after my day job. All the daytime spots were filled.  I called and asked, “Would you be interested in a mature woman for the position?”  The reply was absolutely and I wore a beautiful silk suit to the interview. Underneath a low black top, black stockings and gorgeous black stiletto heels.

    The manager of the shop was a stunning young woman.  We discussed my background and she said, “I like your look.  When can you begin?”

    The next Monday was my debut night.  No training in how to work, no idea or opportunity to screen the gent if he came through the outer door.  A dangerous part of the city. On my own, I decided to offer something more upscale. I carted in crystal glasses, Perrier, my own music, candles and an elegant wardrobe.

    My first client that evening resulted in a profit of $100.  When money is tight, that is a big deal. But even more importantly, I absolutely loved what I was doing. I felt I’d found my calling.

    To shorten this, I stayed three weeks, the management thrilled that I was making money for them during the slowest hours.  Jealousy amongst the daytime girls set in and it was time for me to go. Lies were spread. Thankfully, I had met the sales manager of the local adult magazine and he directed me to the world of internet escorting. I did my research and three weeks later, my first ad appeared on Eros. A month later, I resigned from my sales position and the rest of this joyous adventure began.

    What It’s Like Being A Mature Escort

    It’s enjoyable and it’s becoming more and more common.  Some of the top escorts in the world are older women. I get a kick out of being the age I am and being attractive to men of all ages and backgrounds.  I’ve visited all over the US, the UK and Ireland. It’s allowed me opportunities I’d never have experienced in my previous life. And….it keeps ME young.

    Advantages Of Being A Mature Escort

    It’s my observation that we attract a different type of client.  One who appreciates a keen intellect, the social ease one achieves from living life, the sexual experience and comfort with herself, rather than only a perfect body and face. I feel we attract the more thoughtful type of gentleman, no matter his age.

    What Does It Take To Be Successful In This Competitive Industry?

    There’s no doubt it’s highly competitive but I feel the key to success is to be authentically unique and to build your brand upon that uniqueness.  Obviously, you must take good care of yourself and your appearance but be happy about who you are.

    And like any other successful business, offer consistent exemplary service. If you treat your customer like a king, you’ll always be a queen. It costs nothing to be kind. In the end, everyone wants to be treated with respect and kindness.

    Advice For Clients Before Engaging A Mature Escort

    That she most certainly knows her own mind so treat her with respect and read her website before you contact her. Being a gentlemen is the key to a wonderful experience.

    Anneke Van Buren -A little bit older, a whole lot wiser. Ageless beauty, exceptional skills, a warm heart and a lusty soul. One of whom you will say, “How did she know?” Your mature lover, fetish goddess, sensual domina and confidant with no strings.

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  • The Role Of Companionship In Modern Society

    The Role Of Companionship In Modern Society

    Companionship is turning out to be quite the hot button topic in the 21st century. The word has the ability to take on numerous different meanings and implicates a variety of occupations. Escorts are increasingly referring to themselves as companions as this summation accurately embodies our role in modern society. Utilizing new terminology enables us to reclaim and clarify our value in society while also warding off the lingering stigma associated with being a sex worker.

    People are increasingly seeking companionship whether it be in one industry or another to regain a feeling of connection to others in our modernized world. Whether it be for a few hours, an evening, or more and whether it be classified as this, that, or the other. The rise of arrangements, escorts, and other forms of companionship are proof that there is a growing need for access to intimate relationships offering less pressure and commitment than the traditional models.

    It is really up to the consumer to define the companionship they seek based on comfort levels and preference, but they are all essentially the same activity with different labels. Companionship is immensely beneficial for mental health when untaken with the right individuals under the right circumstances. It is definitely in the running for the prize of one of the best forms of self-care available. Escorts are just one way of obtaining companionship while therapists, masseuses, active social circles, cuddle buddies, virtual relationships, and domesticated pets are all others.

    Companionship offers connection, and ultimately it focuses on tapping into love in the world by sharing it with another. When considered from an in-depth philosophical stand-point it makes little sense to stigmatize one form of companionship over another simply due to the nature of the intimacy. The most beautiful part of companionship is that anyone can be a companion. Everyone possesses a fundamental desire to feel connected to the world and be loved by its fellow inhabitants.

    What I Love About Providing Companionship As An Escort

    For me, what makes escorting so enticing will always be the freedom and connection. The freedom to make my own schedule, work with who I please, abide by my own code of conduct, be responsible for my own successes and failures, and of course the freedom the finances provide for me to utilize my free time on other aspirations. Of course, I am very lucky to meet such amazingly intellectual people I would otherwise never get the chance to be face to face with.

    I am also quite addicted to the spontaneity this occupation provides, clients and I share a dirty little hedonistic secret together as it is still taboo in our society which can add to fun. There is a kind of adrenaline rush from not being in an office all day and enjoying life’s intimate pleasures with people finally being their authentic selves. It is infinitely cool to see people finally be themselves because there is no expectation of who they have to be, and they don’t need to impress me. I don’t need any client to be anything apart from respectful. They can be themselves with no added pressure and finally express their genuine desires and personalities.

    It is the epitome of a safe space allowing them to focus mainly on their own enjoyment for once. This results in a re-connection to their authentic selves and feelings of happiness. Escorting presents as one of the realest industries in a world full of fake industries hinting at things and not actually saying what they mean. People are finally themselves which is tremendously refreshing.

    Common Reasons For Seeking Companionship

    To be honest, a lot of clients are married individuals that feel one person cannot fulfill all the love and connection they need in life. Companions offer a supplement to what’s lacking in a way that makes them happier in their relationships at home and in their day-to-day lives. Escorts are simply one version of companionship that allows them to retain their personal identities and meet their individualized needs. It is another form of seeking out a professional to cater to your personal needs. Clients are not individuals seeking out a new relationship.

    Companionship means a feeling of fellowship or friendship. Seeing a companion caters to a fundamental need, being an escort is an extension of being a friend. Intimacy is often the first thing to be deprioritized as it is not essential to someone’s functionality. And yet, intimacy is the source of most of our overall happiness. Intimacy isn’t a requirement of survival so it is often neglected. That intimacy is what can be most effective and beneficial to someone’s mental health because it is the epitome of sharing love and acceptance in the world.

    Companionship is fundamental because feeling a connection to others in life is fundamental. If people just wanted to have intimate fun, they could do that alone. Seeing a companion must then be providing something extra that benefits their mental health.

    What Should One Know Before Being An Escort?

    Being an escort requires a lot of behind the scenes work, it is easily a full-time occupation even for those attempting part-time work. Escorts must be able to mould themselves into whatever sculpture a client needs when they arrive. It entails a lot of resilience, confidence, and time management skills. Be aware that there is a large majority of the population that will not respect your decisions and the laws in place in this industry are not conducive to it being the safest it could be.

    I think the image portrayed of who an escort is is still wildly misunderstood and mischaracterized as a result of their depiction in media and literature over centuries. Anyone can be an escort.

    I really wanted to showcase how many amazing people are in this industry while attempting to shed light on the ways companionship is being inappropriately undertaken in a way that exploits vulnerable or misinformed people. Misinformation about the escorting industry still seems to reign supreme. I couldn’t think of a better way to let the industry speak for itself than to create a podcast to act as a platform for these extraordinary individuals and the people that hire them to share their experiences and what they’ve learnt.

    If you’d like to hear firsthand accounts from escorts and clients in the industry, I would recommend tuning in to hear what they have to say on the podcast. It all starts with a willingness to hear the differing sides of the story from the people actually working in and benefiting from the industry.

    Sienna Hunter – Luxury companion based in Toronto, Canada. I am a slender, athletic, passionate little go-getter in my mid-twenties. I relish being a companion and the endless opportunities and forms of beauty it presents. I am fond of delving a little deeper into the most enjoyable facets of life with whomever needs a little break from the repetition of daily routines.

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    Other Works:

    Podcast called ‘The Escort: Deconstructed” and can be found wherever you listen to podcasts or with the follow links.

    Podcast Website: www.theescortdeconstructed.love

    Twitter: @TheEscort_Pod

    Instagram: @TheEscort_Pod

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  • 7 Top Tips To Create The Perfect Evening For Your Man

    7 Top Tips To Create The Perfect Evening For Your Man

    Last week I received an email from a woman asking for some advice about how to create a special evening for her busy partner to help him escape the pressures of a stressful job and enjoy an intimate encounter. This request got me thinking, most of the content that I create is aimed at how men can please women which is great, but it’s also just as important for women to know how to please men.

    So as I sit here on a train to London to do a photo shoot for a piece that actually relates to this topic, I thought I’d take the opportunity to share my thoughts in a blog piece as others may find it helpful too.

    Here are my 7 top tips for creating an evening of escapism that your man will love.

    1. Set The Scene

    Setting the scene provides the context for the evening. This is about understanding your partner’s desires and thinking about what will really help them to escape with you for a night of sensual passion.

    Are you planning a dinner and a movie night on the couch? Or perhaps you’d prefer to cuddle up in bed and take the rare opportunity to converse? Or maybe an evening of sensual massage, pampering and lovemaking?

    It will be different for everyone but the key is to tailor it to the individual:

    – What would he really enjoy?

    – How will you keep his attention?

    – How can you help him relax and tune out the world?

    – What one thing would he really appreciate?

    Knowing the answer to these questions will make it a lot easier for you to create the perfect evening of relaxation and sensual pleasure.

    2. Tune Out The World

    This can actually be extremely difficult for many couples as our lives are so polluted with the everyday hustle and bustle. This means that most of the time we are actually operating on completely different frequencies so trying to tune in to each other when you’re both still thinking about work deadlines and house chores can be tricky.

    I think the best way to manage this is for you and your partner to identify the possible areas of distraction, make a decision about whether it’s something that is urgent, can be resolved quickly or can wait until the following day. Once these potential distractions have been addressed, you can make the decision to remove them from your mind and not stress about them for the rest of the evening.

    Note: Make a conscious decision to turn off mobiles, laptops and any other time-stealing devices that may intrude on your evening of escapism.

    3. Tune Into Your Man

    A fantastic way to tune in to your man after a long day is to spend some time meditating together for 15 minutes seated on comfortable cushions while facing each other. Place your hands over each other’s heart and focus on deep rhythmic breathing until you are in sync. Doing this while you look deep into his eyes is a powerful way to let him know that you are fully present and he has a warm invitation to connect with you.

    You can also take this opportunity to express to your man how much you appreciate him and why you wanted to make the effort on this special evening. In fact, giving gratitude and letting your partner know how much you appreciate them is a beautiful daily practice to adopt as it can really help to set the tone for the day ahead.

    4. Give A Full Body Tantric Massage

    The secret to giving an amazing Tantric massage is the slow everything down as much as possible and take the time to explore your man’s entire body. You can use oil but sometimes the friction of a dry massage can feel amazing too.

    Set the scene with scented candles and oils, sensual music, towels and anything else that will help him to relax. Ask him to hop in the shower (maybe you can run him a nice warm bath) and then join you on the bed when he’s finished. Ask him to keep his towel on at first as this will give you something to remove later on which is a massive turn on.

    Lay him flat on his stomach then slowly and gently start to rub your hands over his entire body with a feather-light touch. Let him know that this massage is purely for his pleasure and that you are there to please him. Ask where and how he wants to be touched and then tease him a little by moving in close and then pulling back. Repeat this until he starts to moan and pull you in closer. Have fun with him and enjoy exploring his body but let him know that you’re doing it for his pleasure.

    5. Three Hundred Kisses

    Most of us enjoy a warm kiss but taking the time to really embrace your man can be an amazing experience, especially after a lovely massage.

    The ‘Three Hundred Kisses‘ is something that my clients really enjoy and it’s a great way to learn exactly how and where your partner likes to be kissed (you can read more about this here). With your man laying on his back, you can gift him with 300 kisses all over his body, anywhere he chooses.

    Pay particular attention to how he responds when you move in to kiss different parts of his body. Ask him how it feels and where he would like you to kiss next. Tease him as you move in closer and hold off as he anticipates your next kiss. Play around with different types of kisses from soft and sensual to firm, wet and passionate.

    As you get to the last 50 kisses, he’ll probably be extremely aroused and dying to take things further but encourage him to relax and enjoy as there is plenty more pleasure coming his way.

    6. The Gift Of Oral 

    Oral pleasure is, without a doubt, one of the most beautiful and sensual gifts that a man can receive. And taking your time to really learn how to give your man the best oral experience he’s ever had will be something that he won’t forget – trust me.

    To start this wonderful gift, first, place your hands over his penis and gently and slowly massage this area until he is firmly aroused. Rub your hands up and down his inner thigh and then use your fingertips to stroke his penis, especially around the head. Now start to shower his penis with soft gentle kisses all over and be sure to make them wet and juicy – take your time and make sure he’s dying for you to put his penis in your mouth.

    At this stage, slowly start flicking and licking the tip of his penis with your hands firmly holding the shaft. This is where you take complete ownership of his manhood as you will be able to control his entire body at this point. Circle your tongue around the head of his penis and pay attention to how he responds when you lick a certain part. Once you find the sweet spot, learn how to turn his arousal up and down by inserting his penis into your mouth and gently wrapping your tongue around the head and stroking the shaft still held firmly in your hands. From this point onwards it’s very much about exploring but just these few tips alone will leave most men completely at your mercy.

    The secret to giving the best blow job is to make sure that your partner breathes deeply the entire time as you build his arousal. The aim is to bring his arousal to a certain point and keep it there for as long as possible until he literally can’t control himself any longer. When he finally does release, he’ll probably experience something he’s never felt before.

    Don’t be afraid to explore and try not to focus on providing him with a climax. Instead, encourage him to lay back and allow you to do something special for him to show how much you care.

    7. Learn How To Nurture His Arousal

    Ladies, if you want your man to be putty in your hands here’s what you do. When he’s least expecting it, e.g. when he’s having breakfast and about to leave for work in the morning, put on some sexy lingerie, walk up to him without saying a word and drop to your knees. Then pull out his penis and perform oral pleasure for about 10 minutes just like how I described previously.

    Give him exactly what he wants but do not let his arousal rise above a 7 out of 10. You can ask him how close he is to ejaculation if you’re unsure but DO NOT let him release. After 10 minutes, give his penis a warm dry kiss, lovingly place it back in his trousers AND WALK AWAY.

    Repeat this process for a few days and then watch how he responds when he finally gets his hands on you. He’ll likely have been wet and hard many times throughout his day and the mere sight of you in bed wearing your sexy lingerie (or nothing at all) will literally cause him to lose his mind.

    Learn to nurture his arousal (non-ejaculation) and teach him how to keep it with him throughout the day. Remind him to breathe deep, enjoy the feeling and think about you every time his dick gets hard. (I definitely advise men to do the same to their women also).

    There are many ways to please your partner but what I have mentioned above will definitely help your man escape the stresses of the world and embrace the sensual connection that you both share.

    This is an absolutely beautiful gift and he’s sure to remember every moment of it the following day. This is something that I encourage you to do often without a special occasion because it’s important to show our partners how much we care about them.

    This is not so much about sex, it’s about connecting with your partner and tuning out the noise. So relax, have fun and focus on learning exactly how to please your man – I assure you, this will be something that he’s probably never experienced before.

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  • How To Impress A Lady On A Date

    How To Impress A Lady On A Date

    I think of sex, intimacy and a good date experience kind of like a dance! The gentlemen always ask your permission, they likely introduce themselves and dance at your level. Then of course you get the men who are total show offs and really don’t care about your dance level at all, they grind up against you when it’s not wanted and get too close than what your comfort level is.

    There’s dancers that you have a great chemistry with and you get completely swept away. There’s those whom you can dance well with but lack that fire however, you enjoy it just the same because you both share a love for the music and the dance itself. There’s dancers that you feel a constant friction to pull away from or not able to dance as fully, freely or openly as you wish to. There’s some dancers you have that you just can’t wait to be over and then of course there’s some dancers that you just walk away from! There’s dancers you have observed, their mannerisms from afar and politely decline their offer to dance.

    So to bring it back to a good date experience I think it all comes down to respect, consent and connection. And just like in a dance, you both have somewhat of a foundation at the least, a connection can be built with almost anyone! As well as being curious and perhaps even playful! A good date experience will feel almost effortless and mutually enjoyable. You lose track of time for a brief moment, your body feels alive, your mind feels engaged and hopefully you share a few laughs! A good date experience always has me smiling at the end of the date and wishing that I see him again soon!

    First Date Experience

    Gosh I have so much to say about a first date experience…it definitely starts from the beginning upon first correspondence. I love when proper booking protocols are followed and when they read my website/ads/reviews/Twitter feed to get a sense of who Karina Espinosa is. I love when clients engage conversationally, I love when the intimacy flows naturally and when it feels mutual. Never expected, but always appreciated when a client goes out of their way to bring a small gift or drink/food to share or brings you on a social date. It’s so thoughtful and tends to the mood of the date.

    And of course some of my best and most memorable dates are the ones with one, two or even a few orgasms! I’ve had orgasms in ways that I never did in my civvie life before being a part of this industry. The fun part of this job is also exploring my own sexuality, so when connection and comfort levels are built over time, I can sometimes be open to what’s outside my norm, of course ymmv. I consider myself fairly ‘vanilla’ when it comes to sex but with time, builds trust and with the right man, I’ve been known to be open to exploring something more than what I consider ‘vanilla’. And of course I have my hard restrictions that will never change. Good date experiences often turn into several amazing date experiences!

    How Much Do First Impressions Matter?

    First impressions matter the most to me when I feel boundaries are being pushed. When red flags go up for various reasons, if a client did something disrespectful or perhaps we’re just not hitting it off then I will end the date or not see them again. Perhaps I haven’t even met them yet, it’s just through initial contact that I choose not to see them.

    Other than those reasons, I don’t put a huge emphasis on first impressions…when you meet someone in this capacity there can be a lot of nervous feelings, so I don’t tend to judge a first impression unless it’s in the latter. Connections build over time and I absolutely love that! As long as my date is respectful, then I’m happy!

    Expectations For Guys On Dates

    • Be respectful
    • Be on time and don’t go overtime
    • Give the donation at the beginning of the date
    • Be clean and hygienic
    • Be willing to engage in a conversation and mutual sensual play

    Common Mistakes Men Make On Dates

    It’s easier to answer this question as a list because yes there are several common mistakes men can make on a date:

    • Do your research and follow proper booking protocols, don’t just say ‘Hi’ etc.
    • Have the donation ready, don’t make the lady ask for it. To be fair, I think sometimes men are just nervous or mind-blown by the beautiful women they have the privilege of seeing, so a little reminder is needed sometimes, but it’s never preferred.
    • Hygiene, of course! Shower…and actually shower please! Common mistake is to fake shower or not use soap? I’m always freshly groomed and showered before a date and I expect the same.
    • I always tell my dates my restrictions before meeting them, so much appreciated when those limits aren’t pushed or asked for again during the session because no means no!
    • I’m not a clockwatcher but I try to give a time reminder. Being mindful of the time is so important! Also…don’t be late!
    • Fetishes: I get asked all the time if I’m fetish-friendly. Please share what your fetish is because oftentimes what some consider a fetish I just consider being completely affectionate and intimate. If it’s a fetish I don’t cater to, I will let you know.
    • Accept a compliment! On occasion I will compliment my date and sometimes I’m received by comments like ‘yeah right’ etc. It can be hard accepting a compliment, but if I give you one, believe me it’s genuine!

    I’ll leave it there, I think a whole article could be written on this question alone!

    Can There Be Too Much Flirting On A Date?

    I love flirting! I would say I flirt more so with my body by being affectionate, touching and kissing, I absolutely love kissing! I love aspects of both shorter and longer dates. I would say that more flirting happens on longer dates. During a longer date, as we are getting to know each other more I’m usually straddling my date on the couch, playing with their hair, lightly massaging/caressing them, slowing undoing their shirt buttons, maybe moving my hips around on them all the while having a light conversation getting to know one another! It’s like a flirting foreplay and I love that part of the date!

    I also love social dates, whether it be an activity or a meal there’s just so much buildup, sharing food, sipping wine, getting to know more about each other and also thinking about ripping each others clothes off later and exploring each other more intimately! No, I wouldn’t say there could be ‘too much’ flirting, I see it as a type of passionate foreplay that’s happening as soon as the date starts to when it ends.

    Experiencing Awkward & Bad Dates

    Yes, I’ve had many awkward and bad date experiences. I’ve asked dates to leave for various reasons as well as blacklisted others from ever seeing me again. I’ve thankfully never been in any dangerous situations or been harmed in any way physically. I’ve had dates eventually become obsessive to the point where its alarming and they are obviously blacklisted. I also had one crazy stalker, thankfully not a problem anymore. In these situations, I’m so thankful to have a police force that is supportive of sex workers here in Vancouver, at least that’s been my experience so far! Minor awkward and bad date experiences I won’t share as they may come across this article!

    Impress a lady by being one of those exceptional gentlemen kind of dancers and experience the unique and special kind of intimacy that only this industry can bring.  Thank you so much to SimplySxy for asking me to feature on this topic, what a privilege! And thank you to the readers for seeing what I have to say! I quite enjoyed crafting my thoughts for this article!

    Karina Espinosa -Vancouver’s Latina Sweetheart. She is an independent & well-reviewed Companion based in Vancouver, BC.

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