Category: Sex Ed

The Slave’s Suppose To Know…

I’m here in the middle of nowhere, alone with my only friend, the Fear. That unbearable feeling of not knowing. Maybe I should had it see coming? Working for her! Only if I had never screwed up that contract!

Now, no one can hear me except my frightening thoughts of the near so-close future consequences of my strictly forbidden love for my Lady Eve!

Two nights and days passed. The potent stenches in the room had faded in the wind, the cold freezing air out through the open window that kept Goddess Eves bound slave shivering and suffering in silence and alone.

All those stenches had dispersed the room but not where I had laid for two whole days, bound to a table. cemented in those horrible smells of cum and sweat and old cigarettes. My body was trembling in cold suffering. My balls has shrunken in the cold and my cock, still swollen and hurting from Goddesses abuse, was starting to turn a faint shade of purple.

Suddenly it begins to twitch as I’m alerted by the distant sound of Goddesses’ foot steps. They get louder and louder as they echo in the room. My heart starts to race, that after two days of isolation and suffering, that I am greeted by someone.

I hesitate at the thought if that’s worth it at the cost of Goddesses ‘extensive’ torture and abuse. It’s too late to answer myself as you finally approach and stand beside me. As harshly cold in the room as it is, you prepare considerably wearing a tight, shiny, black leather uniform and dawning a long black trench coat.

The table I am strapped down to is level with your waist. You remove one of your black leather gloves to reveal your pale white hand. Your light skin contrasts all that black leather I think. You graze your bare fingers across my frozen and bruised skin. It hurts a little bit, but it still feels nice to feel the warmth of your soft and heavenly skin.

You trace your fingers across all my scars from your thrashings. The scars have swelled in the cold air. All the more to display that I am owned by my Goddess. You feel the cold touch of my frozen skin. You can only imagine how much it suffered as your slave and that brings you so much pleasure and makes you grin. You remove your long leather jacket, revealing your tight black leather uniform. I bite on my lip in bashful arousal. I can’t hide how aroused my cock is. You rest your long jacket on a hanger in the corner of the room.

Walking back towards me, you return holding a strap-on. At first sighting my body clenches, already feeling swollen, bruised and frozen stiff. Not prepared for such ownage, though instead you to attach it to my waist… strapped down already, I am unable to protest or make resistance.

You get on top of me on the table, looking down at my frightened, submissive expression and my used restrained state. You slide your tight leather pants down bellow your thighs. I take notice at the contrast between the black leather and your exposed pale, white skin. It just makes my Goddesses body ever so more sexy and alluring.

You lubricate the strap-on and begin to adjust your ass exactly below the black, six inch strap-on as you slowly lower your butt down on it. I can feel the base of strap-on dig into my stomach as the tip of the shaft squeezes down against your butt cheeks. Slowly you push it deeper and deeper in your butt till your ass is resting on my cold stomach.

Soon you begin to move up and down on the strap-on at a steady but faster pace as your head rolls back and you completely ignore that I am alive. As cold as I may be and as warming it is to feel your perfect skin against my cold suffering, the base of the strap-on digging at my stomach hurts oh so much and the constant repetition of your ass cheeks smacking my frozen body and lifting back up as you ride that strap-on feels so very painful.

You start to ride the strap-on harder. I in return, grown and grunt as you smash your cheeks up and down my waist, riding that black cock, thrusting harder and harder..

You lift your butt up and off the springing thick strap-on and seat yourself on my chest. My chest is heaving. Breaths deep and intense from all that fucking I didn’t even have the joy to feel but nothing should make me happier than to be used by Goddess in any such way however that may please or pleasure her. After being left alone, freezing naked and strapped to a table for two days and two nights, I should be so lucky to have this.

You do look so warm and comfortable in your black leather outfit. My eyes gaze at that long black leather coat of yours in the corner though such a well tailored and high quality piece of attire is only exclusive to a pure and dominant Goddess.

You take notice at my gaze and see my desire. You slide that leather glove back over your hand and begin to slap my face and slap my check. Goddess slaps me relentlessly as I lay there under her and take her discipline and dominance obediently. My face is bruised black and red. One of my eyes is only half open. My look on my bruised and beaten face. You paid me no mercy, and my defeated and suffered beaten state turns you on immensely. “I need to fuck slave,” you remark, moving back down to my stomach, now positioning your pussy just above the long black strap-on as you slowly push down on it as it fits deeper and deeper in your precious cunt.

You lay your body face down on my own. Your crotch at my waist and your breasts pressing down on my beaten face as you thrust and ram and pound your pussy against that black cock attached to my body. Whilst you ride and fuck that strap-on, you unzip the upper half of your shiny leather outfit.

Your gorgeous, perfect, white breasts pop out and you not so gently grab me by the hair and guide my lips to meet your erect nipple. I suck my Goddesses’ wonderful nipple as you fuck that dildo attached to my waist. Still pulling me by the hair, you shift my head to suck your other nipple. I take it into my mouth and suck and submit and worship.

You ram yourself harder down on that plastic cock. Now you hold my head in-between your breasts, pressing me against your heaving bosom as you thrust in and out of that cock. You hold my head tighter against your smothering breasts the closer you come to climax. My waist and thighs begin to feel numb as you pound in and out, fucking that dildo. You hold me so tight between your huge and perfect boobs as you thrust faster and faster and climax all over that thick black piece of plastic.

You just lay on top of me, heaving and breathing heavily. That orgasm enveloping you whilst my waist cramps and aches. At least I get to feel Goddess’ warm whilst remaining completely naked in this freezing cold room. You un-strap the dildo from my waist, red markings remain having been buckled and strapped so tightly on my frame. You wipe the cum covered strap-on over my body to wipe it clean but you put it in my mouth and force it down my throat to suck it clean anyway.

You make sure that plastic dick fits all the way down my throat. “You look like you are warming up a bit slut,” you remark. “You must be so thirsty and hungry…” I nod my head desperately in admittance while sucking that plastic cock clean for you.

You pull the strap-on from out of my mouth. My breaths are heavy but then my eyes gleam at the thought of quenching my hunger. You look down at me at smirk, “Then how about a warm drink from my cunt because I need a good piss after a good fuck…”

You derive so much pleasure from the reality hitting me. I submit in subservience and obedience in my strapped down circumstance as you move nearer. My face is between your legs and then you straddle my face, your legs hang off the edge of the table.

“Now I don’t want you swallowing my urine straight away… You got that slut! If you can hold all my urine in your mouth for however long your Goddess decrees …. Then I will unstrap one of your wrists and maybe sometimes I will let you touch your cock. You got that!” I nod in obedience.

You make sure you are positioned correctly and let out a warm stream of golden salty piss into my open mouth. I make a great effort not to swallow a single drop of your urine as my mouth begins to fill up and bloat with piss.

I have to breath through my nose. The strong pungent scent of your urine filling up my mouth runs through my nostrils. It makes me not want to smell but it’s the only way I can stay alive and still submit to and obey your demands. You sit on my chest, thighs on either side between my face. You watch me hold that urine in my mouth, smirking at my bloated expression, struggling, tears streaming down my eyes.

You pick up a cigar from the pack that rested on the table. Lighting it with a wooden match, you inhale the tar and smoke and blow it in my face… My eyes tear up more and now red and stinging.

“When I finish this expensive Cuban piece, you are allowed to drink my urine slave.” I nod my head quickly, your piss sloshes around in my mouth. I hold every drop in.

You blow another puff of smoke in my face as you take pleasure and content in all my struggles and teary eyes. I can feel my tongue drowning in your urine the scent so unbearable. Another puff of smoke in my face and another. My throat feels so bitter and dry having sucked and cleaned your strap-on, I feel so tempted to swallow your urine to moisten my hurting throat.

I try to think about the cigar, your smoke, your gorgeous deadly beauty but your urine still envelops my tortured senses. Finally, the cigar begins to cinder lesser, and then no more, and you give me permission to swallow.

The heavy thick stream of your urine washes down my throat like a crashing river. My, I still can feel your golden rain in my mouth and abused tongue. I can taste that salty piss running all the way down my throat. The scent exits my mouth and re-enters through my nostrils. I am utterly over powered and overwhelmed and absolutely dominated.

Having lifted yourself off of me off the table, pulling up your tight leather black pants and zipping your leather black shirt, the sound of your tapping boots taking you to your long black leather coat. You reach one arm out to put it in whilst walking further away towards the door way leaving me completely restrained again.

“Aren’t you going to free one of my arms Goddess, didn’t you say you would!?.” Your slave cries out. “I don’t remember where I put the key, it might turn up eventually,” you respond as your voice distances as does the sound of your tapping footsteps, leaving me in bondage again. “Goddess”

…and alone again! I want more! OMG! If only I had never become a counsellor in the Lady Eve’s Financial Trust Office!

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February 27, 2020
Dating Tips: How to Find a Perfect Match Online

It seems like everyone’s on a dating site now. It’s how we find people to date and it’s how we find people to hook up with. You can’t just head out to a bar anymore and expect to find someone. No one’s really interested in it. If a woman is looking for a date, she’s going to be trying to find it on a dating site. That’s why it’s so important to take yours seriously. You really want to put some effort into making your dating profile perfect. Here are some tips to get your perfect match online.

Fill Out Your Profile

Don’t be one of those guys who makes a profile with no information on it. That’s not going to get you a good match online. No woman is going to send a message to someone she doesn’t know anything about. You want to write as much about yourself as you possibly can and be honest. You also have to realize that being honest will turn some women away. That’s for the best. If she’s not going to be a good match, there’s no point even talking to her in the first place.

Add Plenty of Pictures

You also need to show yourself off in the best light. That means you have to add as many pictures as you possibly can. Take a look at any profile on a site like Fuckbook. What you see is that everyone has a ton of pictures uploaded. That’s because they know it’s the best way to make sure they have people contacting them. You want the other people on the dating site to see you and think you’re attractive. Find the pictures that make you look hot without lying about how you actually look and you’ll find a match in no time.

Read the Other Profiles

No matter how much time and effort you put into your profile, none of it will matter if you don’t read the other profiles. You don’t want to waste your time by just sending out messages to random people. Just because someone’s hot doesn’t mean they’ll be a good match for you. You want to read what they have to say on their profiles. That’s the whole point of having them in the first place. Find out what the other person likes and doesn’t like. It will save you a lot of time down the road.

Make the First Move

One of the most important things for you to do is not be shy about sending messages. It can be intimidating to find a perfect profile and know what to say. If you think you’re going to be a perfect match for someone, let them know why. Talk about your shared interests. Tell them why you like their profile. Just break the ice by making them see that you can go together well. That’s what’s going to lead to the conversations that get you to your perfect match.

Remember to have Fun

No matter how long you spend trying to find your perfect match, remember to have fun with it. There’s no sense in dating if you’re not having a good time with it. Just talk to new people and enjoy meeting them. When you finally run into your perfect match, you’re going to know it. Enjoy the journey you take to get there. If you don’t let yourself have fun then no one else is going to be able to have fun with you. That’s the best way to go about online dating, no matter what you happen to be looking for.

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February 25, 2020
How To Get Started Into BDSM

Alternative lifestyles are fun and exciting and I could not live any other way. I honestly believe that people who live normal, boring lives by subscribing to society’s standards are truly missing out on all sorts of debauchery that they could be enjoying. Of course, to each their own, but once I fully embraced what a weirdo I truly am, my life became meaningful and fulfilling. I would encourage anyone who knows deep down that they are not like other people and want to live their own life for themselves should do it and see where life takes them, whether it be exploring new kinks or living in a van down by the river.

As far as kink goes, kink has made such a difference in my personal sex life and my career and I am eternally grateful for discovering it. I think it’s a great tool for escaping the humdrum monotony of life without relying on mind-altering drugs, though endorphins can be quite powerful. I truly believe that sex is an important facet of life, as it helps with mental health, building and sustaining relationships, and having fun (which every adult needs). Kink can be essential in providing the stepping stones to a fulfilling and satisfying sex life, as it’s important to try new things with your partner(s) to keep the flame going. It can be scary and exhilarating at times, which makes the outcome all the more worth it!

How My Interest In BDSM Began

I had had an interest in BDSM since age 6, having fantasies of being tied up and forced to do naughty things. I first experimented with blindfolds and handcuffs with my first girlfriend at age 13, which I loved. Other than some light choking and spanking with a partner of mine in my later teens, I didn’t really get to try out BDSM until age 22 (I am 27 now), when I started dating a woman who fully introduced me to the BDSM world by doing both dominant and submissive scenes with me. We went to play parties together and I became acquainted with the local BDSM community as well.

How Will Someone Know If BDSM Is For Them?

The only way to know is to try it and see if it does anything for you. Having an interest in watching BDSM porn is a good starting point, but actually doing it is kind of a different ballgame. Playing with someone who shares similar interests and whom you trust is important, as consent is the most important aspect of BDSM.

Ways To Explore BDSM & Get Into It

You can create a Fetlife account, which is essentially a kinky Facebook (except with much less censorship). In other words, it’s a social networking site for kinky people. This is a great way to meet people in your area with similar interests. In addition, you can discover local events, like munches, which are get-togethers, usually at restaurants or cafes, for kinky folks to meet new people and ask questions. I would definitely recommend munches to any newcomers to the scene. From there, play parties are also a great place to get into the community, though I would recommend going with another kinky friend and observing for your first time since it’s important to understand how these parties function first before diving into it. Some play parties will even have an introductory session before the party begins for newcomers to explain guidelines and expectations.

If you’re not quite ready to be open and social about your kinks, buy some porn from creators that make BDSM porn that piques your interests. This will give you lots of ideas and help you discover what interests you. You can explore the world of BDSM porn and whatever catches your eye, you can learn more about through Wikipedia or BDSM Wiki (as a start), basic Internet searches (there is a wealth of knowledge on the Internet nowadays, but be careful that you’re not getting advice from a novice – perhaps look for articles written by professional Dominatrixes), and books (not Fifty Shades of Grey). Once you’re ready, going to a munch is a great place to expand your horizons.

What Beginners Should Know Before Exploring BDSM

BDSM covers so many kinks and it can be a little overwhelming at first so starting with the basics is usually a good way to begin your journey. Also, if you think real-life BDSM is anything like 50 Shades of Grey, you will be sorely disappointed. Like I mentioned earlier, consent is the most important aspect of BDSM play. Having a safeword, checking in with your partner periodically throughout the scene, respecting boundaries, and aftercare are essential to safe and fun BDSM play. Safety is a key concern during play, especially with impact play, breath play, and bondage, just to name a few kinks.

BDSM can be dangerous and it’s important to start slowly. An important term regarding safety used in the BDSM community is RACK, or risk-aware consensual kink, which is a safety philosophy that permits risky play so long as the participants are fully aware of the risks involved. Risk-aware means being aware of the risks (and hopefully minimizing risks as much as possible). Consensual means that both parties are in agreeance with the activities taking and about to take place. And kink is the actual act of play or scene. There is also SSC, or safe, sane, and consensual (is it a safe thing to do? Is it a sane thing to do? Are both parties consenting?).

Lastly, there is PRICK, which stands for personal-responsibility, informed, consensual kink. The idea behind this philosophy is that all parties should take personal responsibility for their kinks, understand the inherent risks involved, and consent to the kinks and risks themselves. This is only a brief explanation of these philosophies and I highly encourage anyone who is willing to put some time into delving into BDSM to figure out which philosophy fits their ideals best, as there is no right answer.

But I think it’s important to note that the general public can at times have a skewed impression of what BDSM really looks like because of movies like 50 Shades of Grey or even Secretary. Movies like these totally disregard how important it is to establish boundaries and consent during BDSM scenes. They also fail to show aftercare, an important aspect of ending a scene, in which the dominant actor steps out of their role as the top to pamper and nurture the bottom, as some scenes can be quite intense for the bottom and induce vulnerabilities.

So if you decide to try your hand at some kinky sex, keep an open mind and you may find that BDSM can be a rewarding, fun, and exciting way to express your sexuality.

Favorite Fetishes I Have

That’s like asking someone what their favorite movies are… but I would have to say bondage, impact play, and power exchange. Bondage is the act of restraining someone during play with a physical instrument or by instruction, which can be done with leather restraints or rope bondage, mouth gags, or complicated devices that restrain the whole body.

Impact play varies depending on the instrument used, but it involves hitting someone with tools like floggers, canes, or paddles, or with body parts like hands or feet. Power exchange, a broad term in the grand scheme of BDSM play, means a dominant and submissive relationship of consensually relinquishing control as a submissive in exchange for dominance from another partner. Impact play, for instance, is a type of power exchange, as the dominant person holds power over the submissive by hitting them.

Ruby Riots – Ruby Riots is a professional switch, an independent fetish clip creator, and an alternative, fetish model. She was recently in a film titled Chelsea Submits by TroubleFilms, which was nominated for best BDSM film of the year by both XBIZ and AVN Awards. She has been published in Féroce Magazine and Sour Magazine. Ruby identifies as a punk and pansexual, and she is also a musician, artist, and writer.

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February 21, 2020
Ways To Improve Your Sex Life: Watch VR Porn

People’s sex lives has always been somewhat of a delicate topic. Some people find it hard to open up about it, while others don’t have such issues. When it comes to speaking to their partners about their deepest sexual fantasies and desires, not everyone might feel relaxed. This is why many people opt to find alternative methods to fulfill their fantasies.

This might include watching porn as traditional adult industry movies are familiar to many people. They can watch the actors following their roles and use their imagination to place themselves in the actor’s shoes. But with the advent of technology, even adult films have evolved.

What Is VR Porn?

Virtual reality (VR) adult films allow consumers to take immediate action and become the actor or actress in the movie. Becoming a part of the film and experiencing the rush is what makes a big difference. With VR adult films, people are finally able to fulfill their fantasies by not only spectating, but getting involved in the movie itself.

If you watch VR porn, then you know that the main difference between traditional adult films and VR adult movies is focused on the personal feel. Watching classic adult movies gives you only a glimpse of what you can get from virtual reality porn.

By watching VR porn, people will find themselves in the middle of the action they were afraid to go into before. Non-consequential sex is always better than the one that might have consequences. This way, people can learn a trick or two, but most importantly, they’ll learn to relax, and they’ll be able to think outside of the box in the future.

How Can VR Porn Help People Improve Their Sex Lives?

Not everyone can find a suitable partner who’s willing to indulge in their sexual fantasies. And when they do find such a partner, some people might still have reservations about discussing their sexual fantasies or kinks. This is where VR porn can help a person explore their sexual desires and improve their sex lives through the following ways:

1. No Shame

With a VR headset put on, users can dive into a world where there is no shame and judgment for their sexual fantasies. They’ll be able to enjoy the experience, fully aware that there’s no reason to be ashamed of anything. After all, they are alone in the virtual reality of their choosing. This is how their self-awareness can improve. Additionally, people will relax more when it comes to their sexual activity and desires, and they’ll be able to leap out of their comfort zone when it comes to the real thing.

2. Discover New Horizons

People often fantasize about sexual experiences they don’t feel too comfortable talking about. It’s never easy for them to ask their partners about fulfilling these fantasies since it might jeopardize the relationship that they have. Until they are assured that their relationship is at a level where they can openly talk about these things to their partner, people may feel as if they have no way of expressing themselves. Now, with VR porn, that has changed. People can quickly jump into numerous fantasies of their choosing without having an uncomfortable conversation with their partner.

3. Build Self-Esteem

With VR porn, people can finally be themselves and not worry about what may or may not be a successful sexual performance. The only thing that is present is the experience, and self-esteem that can be built through it. Experiencing their most profound desires through virtual reality will undoubtedly help a person feel less uncomfortable in the real world. This can be helpful for people who tend to be uncertain about sexual situations. Through VR porn, they can explore their desires and fantasies, as well as build the self-esteem they need in order to enjoy the experience in real life.

4. Au-Pair VR

Like-minded couples may want to spice up their sex life by incorporating new, more technologically advanced toys like virtual reality headsets. Experiencing new things with VR, couples can have a fantastic time and they’ll be able to learn new things. One of the things many couples like to experiment with is cosplay, and with VR, cosplay can go beyond their wildest dreams. They can dress up in ways that would fulfill the scenario they want to act out, setting the mood and extending their foreplay.

Moreover, many couples aren’t ready to test their love by inviting a third person into their bed, but with VR, that shouldn’t be a problem.

Conclusion

Virtual reality porn can help both genders experience new ways of enjoying their sex lives without having to go through embarrassing moments or awkward, ill-timed conversations with their partners. VR porn can help them discover new horizons and explore their kinks without feeling ashamed, or feeling as if they are being judged. Moreover, issues such as uncertainty and fear of failure during sex can also be managed with VR porn as it can help build a person’s self-esteem, preparing them for the social interaction that accompanies intimacy. Such an experience can be liberating to many people, so consider VR porn as an alternative, tech-savvy way of improving your sex life.

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February 19, 2020
How To Enjoy A Great Date Night

Working hard through my scientific career means I love relaxing and having fun! I definitely go more for personality, so a date that shows that is perfect. I love food, but would rather go somewhere chilled for food than a fancy restaurant – I’m not really into being ‘wined and dined’. I also don’t actually drink, so a date that’s geared towards getting wasted is not going to be ideal for me. I think fun activities can be great to break the ice, and help us get to know each other better – even if I’m terrible at them!

How I Prepare For A Date Night Out

As long I have enough warning, I like to exfoliate and moisturize my whole body the day before. Then on the day of, I’ll shower, shave my whole body, wash my hair – make sure I’m silky smooth and clean. I will do this even if I’m not expecting the date to go anywhere that night. It gives me a boost of confidence knowing I’m looking my best, and feeling prepared for anything. Then I’ll slip into some sexy panties, and a cute outfit. You’ll most likely find me braless! By then, I’m probably already running out of time, so I’ll throw some make up on (I like a natural look anyway), and rush out the door.

Do First Impressions Matter?

I would say first impressions matter, but honestly I can’t tell if I’m attracted to someone until I’ve got to know them a little. A guy can honestly turn everything around for the positive, or cause the date to crash and fail, regardless of how it starts.

Turn Offs Men Make On Dates

Talking too much about their ex(es) – especially saying they were ‘crazy’ or ‘psycho’! It’s a big red flag.

Another turn off is when they don’t give an indication that they’re attracted to me. I love some flirty banter! If it’s missing, I know it’s not a good fit.

Also too much work chat. I’m there for a good time, not more work. I can share my work woes once I’ve got them hooked in haha!

Signals I Give If I’m Having Fun

Eye contact, leaning in, probably subconsciously playing with my hair – all the stereotypical girly signals. I also have a few funny stories that I’ll use to gauge their sexual interest. For example, I know of a girl whose boyfriend folds up her clothes and underwear as he removes them – if they think that’s okay, we’re definitely not a match! Passion is a must.

Rosa Harlow – Hi I’m Rosa, a petite panty seller from sunny Scotland. In my real life I’m a scientific researcher currently working for a PhD in Biochemistry. You can usually find me in a lab coat and safety specs, or reading and writing scientific reports. When people think of scientists they usually think boring and nerdy, but that’s definitely not me. I have a wild side and plenty of fantasies – and wearing things for men all over the world is one of them. I also sell photos, sports gear and lingerie, but I’m always open to other suggestions! In my free time I love getting sweaty in the gym, baking and having fun with my friends.

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February 17, 2020
My Experiences From Sex Work

Sex is one of the fundamental elements to the human experience; it is, without question, one of the most intimate and vital aspects of life. The idea of “sex work” is not new, it has been called “the world’s oldest profession” and not without cause. Sex has been utilised as a service and commodity since biblical times.

Sexuality and the promise of sex has been used by advertisers to pitch sales for everything from vacuum cleaners to cheeseburgers and the trade of actual sex acts for compensation is really no more a moral misstep than featuring a pretty model in a bikini laying across a shiny Corvette at a car show to interest buyers.

At the end of every argument, for or against sex work, remains the fact that it is a provided service and product for use and consumption just like any other in the free market. And it beats the hell out of a desk job!

I got started in sex work by answering an ad for “adult models.” I was already working in a gentlemen’s club, so the idea of expanding the arena of adult work was natural. I started nude modeling and soon began working as a Companion/Escort. I am now working in adult film.

The Experiences I’ve Enjoyed In Sex Work

What I find amazing about sex work is that there is always a unique aspect to each interaction. A laugh, a smile, a touch…never quite the same despite the fact that the physical acts tend to become “commonplace.” That is not meant to imply that the acts themselves are mechanical or unenjoyable, but only that there is only so much one can feature on a menu!

I have had a couple of experiences that were special, in a way, each unique to the client. I am a people-pleaser by nature and when I know I have been able to provide something enjoyable to a client I’m pleased, as well. One specific encounter was with an elderly gentleman who was a widower. For him, he enjoyed the company and conversation as much as the physical acts.

Sex work can often include an emotional need for a client as much as a physical desire. And it is immensely satisfying to make another person feel good!

Worst Things That Can Happen To A Sex Worker

One of the worst things that can happen to a sex worker, indeed anyone, really, is assualt. It is a real danger in the realm of the adult industry. Workers do not always have additional security present and independent workers, even when stringently screening potential clients, are at risk because one never truly knows who might be on the other side of the door.

That is obviously a worst-case-scenario aspect of the work, but another downside is regular clients can often blur the line between professional provider and personal life. This is problematic on various levels. And as in any other job there is the occasional ” rude customer,” the ill-tempered malcontent who either complains, haggles or is just simply mean-spirited.

The upside to being a sex worker over a typical “employee”, however, is that sex workers can give someone the boot or just Black List them. The girl working a shift at the local coffee house or the customer service desk at a department store does not have that option.

Strange Requests I’ve Gotten

Most filming scenarios and client requests have been fairly standard (if there is such a thing in this industry), but I’ve had a few “off color” requests in the past. Foot fetish requests are nothing new, but one gentleman requested the exact shade of polish he wanted my toenails to be painted as well as the color of heels he wanted me to wear.

Another request was a general Dom/Sub scenario but the client wanted to berate me with names, etc. and have me repeat back to him what he said. It seemed awkward at first, but he enjoyed it. The worst request I ever received actually occurred in my private dating life and was, without doubt, the most uncomfortable and creepy request I’ve ever had. I will not go into grisly detail but divulge that the request involved a “stranger rape” type of scenario (he described a fully developed and detailed fantasy for me); needless to say, I drew my line firmly in the sand and the idea of dating this individual was immediately dismissed, as was he.

I am all for individuals playing out fantasies, exorcising a dark demon or two, but this situation raised flags for me and I couldn’t help but suspect that the line between role-play and reality was nearly invisible for this person.

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February 9, 2020
Balancing My Personal Life As A Sex Worker

I think of sex work as a business that builds connections between provider and client. Yes, it can be a good way to make money, but some of the connections can last for a long time. Even the short connections can be beneficial in some way. Everyone needs connections whether physically or mentally, shorter, or on a more regular basis…

Starting Out Into Sex Work

I worked as a waitress in a strip club for a short time and decided to dance at amateur night. I enjoyed it and toured quite a bit. I got invited to also work at a massage parlor. I did these two jobs for a few years. The massage parlor eventually changed to an outcall escort service. I stayed and loved it.

Many of my first clients were from strip clubs or through the service. A client led me to some online forums so I stopped dancing and eventually went out on my own as an independent girlfriend experience. Now I have a regular career but I have still done companionship on the side. It’s a great social outlet for me…like dating with boundaries.

Does Sex Work Affect Non-Sex Work Relationships?

It definitely can. Not everyone agrees with it. Most people I meet would never think that it is something I do. For the most part I have kept a great set of friends who couldn’t care less. I am open with everyone about it. Some family members have judgements but they just don’t talk about it and that’s fine. I prefer not to date while doing sex work. I feel that it makes it harder to make connections with my clients. Some guys even have issues and judge you if they know you had done it in the past.

Separating My Personal & Sex Work Life

I keep most aspects of sex work separate from my personal life. I book things in advance and have specific days that I market and advertise myself, or do my website and emails, etc. I, of course, have separate email addresses and phone numbers. When I tour I always leave time for me to do other things. I like to see the city and area where I am visiting. Since I have a regular career, I cannot be available for sex work all of the time. My persona is all me though. I keep my same personality and share that with my clients.

Typical Myths About Sex Work

I think because of social stigma, people think of sex workers as manipulators who always want or need something from someone. They aren’t all drug addicts or party girls or liars. Many have very typical home lives and take care of families. Many have regular careers or go to school. And many like being in sex work. It’s not some chore they use to only get paid. Most don’t need to be saved.

What To Know Before Going Into Sex Work

Treat sex work as a business even if you like it. You can do that and still be nice and personable with clients. Honesty and consistency are important to be good in sex work but you want to keep your personal life separate to avoid sloppiness. Once lines get blurred, it can become messy and stressful.

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February 3, 2020
What To Do When Seeing A Courtesan For The First Time

At any rate, allow yourself to expand your definition of sex. Relative to my peers, I stumbled late into the party and much preferred to hang out by first-floor windows for less-than-erotic escapes. My early university years proudly presented sex in all its glory. It wasn’t until after I popped my cherry out of much pent-up sexual frustration and making the call on a pricey Brazilian (wax) that I began to draw on what it meant to me to feel desired.

In allowing myself to first get deeply personal, I found what turned me on increasingly more enjoyable. Teasing neck bites in-between the pillows could cast the same frenzy as holding a hushed conversation inches from a stranger’s ear at the bar, well-wrapped up around their thumb. It won’t be the last time you hear it, but for all my firsts out there, know this: a climax cannot be appreciated without breaking a sweat, working out the kinks of foreplay.

How Are First Timer Clients Like?

My first timers are some of the sweetest nuggets out there. They constitute a little less than 15% of my reach who also book. They’re drawn to the playful humour and sly wit they see online and I think show up with just the faintest hope I’ll use it to help quell their nerves in person. They also send the best memes. Hands down.

I’d be naïve to think I could speak for all companions or sex providers (SPs). I find, however, that my first timers either ask all the questions or none. Experienced patrons can be no different but also include ‘not enough’ despite knowing better, you’d think. Our latter group here is not necessarily immune to mounting nervous energy either. It is, after all, a real date.

As with any real date, respectful, non-pushy use of language before and/or during this encounter involve understanding that requesting ‘menus’ right off the bat is off-putting to some SPs, including myself. With first timers and experienced patrons alike, I actively work to normalize effectively communicating boundaries to build an initial sense of trust in these sessions. Listening here is the power move. Both groups typically understand consent once raised—at least, in my experience. I cannot emphasize enough that consent is best expressed verbally by all parties involved to not shoot the mood for the evening. For our readers asking, ‘what if…’, I garner that you’re both adults—an email exchanging written confirmation of consensual acts beforehand is a green-light technicality.

When the door opens, there are a few from both groups that don’t seem to know what to do with themselves and I’m reminded of myself. I find it charming. I’d say I’m quicker now to Shepard’s crook them by the belt holes before they bolt—assuming I’m hosting, of course. Given the sound of room service trolleys fast approaching anywhere, I’ve never been all that slow or shy to lift a few jaws on the walk in. This is only a subtle reminder to have your Do-Not-Disturb signs ready in hand, gents.

Preparing For Your SP Before She Arrives

Prep has got to be half the fun. It’s highly likely the SP’s given you a little reading material for the nights you’ve been sitting up in bed, still awake in anticipation.

Work knocks you out good? Yeah, you can catch their Tweets on your commute to work or in an unassuming corner of the office during your lunch break. The most logical order IMO is starting with the website. Read it proper. If you’re not sold, or just want more than you’d like to admit, hit up the Media section on their Twitter—especially if you’re more of a ‘visuals person’. Then take a moment to check their Likes section to see if they’re still sane enough for you.

Confirmations—along with a complete form submission—can be very important for many SPs. This may include a deposit, which you’ll have made note of if you’ve read her website (proper). Confirm at least the day before. I would advise against looking to confirm more than twice for any date as unnecessary persistence begins to raise yellow flags.

If you’re working with a longer date, be considerate and well-prepared to offer them a bite (check for allergies, nutter butt) and glass of water at least. Drink some yourself. While you’re at it, moisturize your lips and tend to all grooming and hygiene needs. A little rinsey rinsey under the sink faucets would be most unwise. Even I’d pray for you. If the SP appears rather vocal online, do yourself a favor and don’t let yourself be sub-tweeted at. Tend twice to any areas you’d like to be appreciated.

Be mindful to have the compensation ready for them in an envelope or whatever means they’d prefer. Location-wise, it should be in plain sight. You can’t mess this instruction up—it’s my easiest one. Tidy up the place if need be and upon offering to take their coat past the door, kindly also direct their gaze to said patronage along with some direction to the nearest bathroom. I’ll add that this is part of the foreplay I stressed earlier. Though I don’t know you, reader, I do want you to have an amazing time nonetheless. Do as their websites instruct you. Waiting to present their compensation till the end leaves many slightly more reserved in session. The wrap-up at the end is actually a window better suited to tips. On tips, I would say if you have the means to be generous and truly enjoyed your time, prepare this while they’re showering. Even if you’re not tipping, do the decency of giving them the privacy to get ready in there alone. Trust me on this one too. I gargle often and spit facts.

Though not necessary, try to have a bottle of mouthwash, fresh bath towels and a neutral or relatively less ‘masculine’ smelling body wash available for their use at the end of the date. Your SP will appreciate it and not use your liquid hand soap by the sink. Should you fail to do so, don’t comment on how ingenious [she/they] smells.

Once The Meet Up Begins…

You’ve prepared yourself well! Assuming you read most of my last bit. The excitement’s got to be near through the roof at this point, I’ll bet.

I hope you both have a lovely little or long time together. Don’t know what that entails? Did you plan a theater outing together? Holding hands doing nothing? A couples mani pedi before your kink dungeon date? Snakes and Ladders, maybe? An indoor board game atop a new and *very* doable cuddling position? Or was it erotic wrestling? A home-cooked meal for two? Or season two of some genius Netflix realm while you practise your rope basics? Well, why don’t you ask them…?

Ways To Ease Nerves For A First Timer

As if I haven’t been already, this will be a space to be blunt. To engage earnestly with your SP and in more of a wholesome manner at that, do not excessively drink and/or abuse substances to ‘escape’ your nerves prior to your meeting, gentlemen. Even your boss could tell you that. If you’re your own boss, I just did, so have your delusions call my people, if you so must.

Second, read as much as want about your provider until you think you’re ready. This will still not mean you’re actually ready for whatever you’re expecting. Dates may flow every which way and controlling the stream too firm with expectation is a harder take than necessary; you could guarantee a flop. Be present and trust your SP. True intimacy is rooted in that initial trust.

Third, I’d like to separate this little bit of advice about trusting yourself. You have no one to be but yourself on this date. Feel no need to overcompensate or tear yourself down. Unless, of course, that’s your kink, then you will need to express this to your SP before the date to not make things awkward. Communicate what space you want or need with your SP verbally. This could mean starting the date seated across/next to each other and draw yourself closer as you feel more comfortable with each smile. Meet anxiety with some eye contact and a little willingness to laugh in the face of it.

First Timer Etiquette Tips

My advice for etiquette lies on and in-between the lines I’ve provided above. Everything said pertaining to hygiene, surrounding misc. preparations, and pre-date exchanges are very important. Be on time but don’t be one to watch the clock, that goes for SPs and patrons alike. Leaving on time is major, too. Overstaying your welcome or holding an SP from having to leave is a faux pas, meaning don’t you dare do it. I would also emphasize making sure to brush up on safe sex practices and communicating with your SP that you understand them.

Once the date has started, try to keep your reservations at bay and tune into your newest muse. Feel no pressure for anyone to claim to have climaxed two minutes of walking through that door. Most likely, this will be a mutual feeling for your SP. The real takeaway will be in how well the both of you listen to each other during foreplay. Come as your best self. Be ready to be open and/or equally ready to listen. Have fun!

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February 1, 2020
What One Should Know Before Meeting An Escort
To be honest, when I was just a civie, I never thought I would enter sex work. I never demonized it. I always knew woman were using sex work as a catapult to move up the socioeconomic ladder in society, so I was all for it, but as a career choice I never saw myself becoming a companion. Consequently, myself like most others, associated a stigma with SP’s, Sex work and the industry as whole. There are always questions about sanitation safety, location, how reliable is the money and confidentiality.

For starters, to burst that bubble of sex workers are “dirty” because we sleep with X amount of men is so untrue. I would say 90% of the sex workers I know including myself are “safe play only” providers. Which means everything is covered, and there is no bodily fluid contact or exchange. So, on top of offering safe services, we also get tested frequently, evidently because of the career choice we are in. There’s an awesome book to understand the psyche of a sex worker or just to understand the business as a whole called “Thriving In Sex Work, Heartfelt Advice For Staying Sane In The Sex Industry” by Lola Devine. I’m in the process of reading the last two chapters and it’s a good book for both civies and sex workers to get a general grasp of the business.

Looking back to when I first started, I was very ignorant towards the fact that yes, sex work is a multifaceted rewarding job and SP’s wear many hats between being our own boss. We are also our own marketing team, accountant, web designer, blogger and receptionist/secretary, just to name a few. I personally feel SP’s are true hustlers to the very core and essence. We embody the true saying of “getting to the bag“. I love sex work. It has granted me many opportunities and also the freedom to do what I want, when I want, and has helped me grow individually as a person and as a business women too. Sex work is work and to thrive in this business, you must treat it as such.

How Do You Screen Clients?

I love this question. Let me start by saying, the first forms of screening are initiated within first contact. What a lot of potential clients don’t realize is how you present yourself, whether it be through your first text or email to me, I’m analyzing it and can pretty much tell whether or not I want to engage further or even finish reading your text or email. As SP’s we get so, so many texts and emails a day that it becomes very apparent who is a time waster and who genuinely would like to book a rendezvous.

When you first make that initial contact with a SP, start with a short introduction “Hi my name is ________ , I am _________ . I saw your add on ________ , I would like to book you for ______ hours on __________.” That is good and all that is needed with first contact. After I have received a bit of info on you, it is my pleasure to respond and send you my booking form via email which includes light screening (i.e. two references, photo ID with pertinent info blacked out, work info and an email back from your work email or LinkedIn and a deposit). If a potential client can’t provide all the info, there are ways to work around it as not all methods are required to confirm booking.

One thing though I would really like clients to understand is we as SP’s don’t know nothing about you. Them on the other hand, if they have done their due diligence, have taken the time to read our websites, visited our social media handles and reviewed our adds, which gives you a better understanding and idea of who we are and what type of provider we are.

It’s only fair to give us that common courtesy in return. First impressions are everything, make sure to introduce yourself during initial contact.

Do’s & Don’ts For Clients To Follow

Yes there are some “ Do’s and Don’ts “
1. Do be polite. I know I speak for myself and many other SP’s. Don’t just text Avail? at three in the morning. Read our website to know what times we are available at so you can get a faster response. And even if we are available, it doesn’t mean we are ready right now for you to pop up at our incall.
2. Don’t bombard our phones with multiple back to back texts or emails. If we haven’t responded, chances are we are catching up on texts or emails and will respond to you as soon as possible or you haven’t really peaked our interest to return an email or text back because you haven’t taken the time to introduce yourself.
3. Do try to send screening info and references promptly. If you are aware that we are the type of provider to screen, provide the info and if you’re mid-comfortable with a providers’ screening method, they are not the provider for you.
4. Do not haggle or negotiate rates. My rates are firm and are set to that amount for very specific reasons. Trying to lowball me will get you blacklisted.
5. Do be yourself. There are a lot of nerves involved in the whole process between booking and when our eyes first. Take a deep breath and be present in the moment. This is your time you booked with me. I live for genuine moments so let’s create them.
What Happens At The Meet Up

When we first meet, my donation should be the first thing taken care of always. Business before pleasure. I prefer it to be given to me in my hand where then, while you get yourself comfortable, I can excuse myself to count it then return to start our rendezvous. I do offer GFE so depending on what the client prefers, we can curl up on the couch, and start off with a movie.

I can chef it up in the kitchen or we could take it to the bedroom where I could give you a sensual massage. It’s really up to the client and what he needs/wants. As long as the clients ask me to do something that’s offered in my services, I will be more than happy to fulfil their request. Be vocal with me so I can know what you, that way you leave as a happy client.

Ways To Ease Any Nerves

First off, I always greet my clients with a smile. I feel that’s so important to let you know everything is fine. Absolutely you will be well taken care of. I am a very bubbly person and love to have conversations, so expect me to strike up a conversation. I hate when interactions become mechanical. We are two human beings not robots.

I know for some clients, the whole process can be nerve racking. I usually start by asking them how their day was, and offer them a drink. I love when my clients are able to slip away into total bliss, let go and feel welcome and wanted. Even if it’s just for a short time, I feel like we create our own little Utopia together.

Client Etiquette To Follow

Yes, there is etiquette I would like potential clients to know. I pride myself on cleanliness and I expect my clients to reciprocate that. Please wash up when you come. If you have had a long day at work or even if you showered 2-3 hours before coming, please freshen up. There are toiletries and towels available for use. Secondly, please be mindful of the amount of time you booked. It gets very uncomfortable when I have to remind clients it’s time to get ready to leave. About ten minutes before our session is supposed to end is a good amount time to start freshening up.

How A Client Can Become My Favorite

A client can become my favourite with one being polite (as you can see, respect goes a long way with me) to filling out my booking form fully and correctly and sending a deposit. We SP’s love deposits because it reassures us you are committed to showing up for your booking. A lot of time and preparation goes into a booking on our end. So, even if a client has to cancel last minute because of an emergency or simply re-schedule, the deposit compensates me for a portion of my time, money and effort spent on the preparation to host and look fabulous for our time together. Also, doing/giving tokens of appreciation go a long way. I happen to be human and a woman too hahaha.

Surprising me with items from my wish lists is very much appreciated or simply asking what I like before hand so you can bring a gift to our appointment works too. In regards to safety and screening, potential clients need to keep in mind we do not know what you look like or know who you are. Chances are though, you as the potential client have done your due diligence in selecting a companion. You have checked all our social media handles. Have even check out our blog and current adds. Extend the same courtesy to us by giving us basic info on who you are, when you would like to book for and for how long.

Also, tipping a little extra is highly recommended if you enjoyed our services. I’m not sure why tipping sex workers is not a more common thing. As far as longer dates go which I actually prefer, making reservations for us in a nice upscale restaurant for dinner, drinks and dessert is always a win in my books. At the end of the day, if you want to be my favourite you must go the extra mile to prove so. I’m a classy woman and old fashioned, I like to be wined and dined.

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January 30, 2020
How To Meet And Mingle With Link-Minded Couples

There is no getting around the fact that the relationship game has completely changed from what it once was. Heck, if you are like most individuals, you can probably remember when it was only socially acceptable for men and women to marry. This is certainly no longer the case at all. While there are still plenty of people out there that do not approve of these actions, there are a number of states where same-sex couples can legally get married. That being said, no relationship is easy, especially not one that some people are not going to approve of.

If you want to get the most out of the relationship while ensuring that it stands the test of time, you are going to need to have fun along the way. Any boring relationship is doomed to fail right from the beginning. You can ensure this doesn’t happen to you by getting acquainted with like-minded couples that you can spend time with.

Consider Wine Tasting

Who doesn’t love a good glass of red or white in the late afternoon? Heck, it doesn’t have to be the afternoon to enjoy a good glass of wine. Any time day or night is a good time for a glass. Well, you are not the only individual that feels this way, and this is why wine tastings make the best meeting location for couples with the same interests. You can tour these wineries, learn about the history, and enjoy some good drinks along the way. With all the wine drinking going on, you will probably have a little buzz going so the edge will be taken off and it will make it even easier to mingle.

Host, Host, And Host

Just because you have lived in an area for 5 to 10 years it doesn’t necessarily mean that you know your neighbors. In fact, do your neighbors know that you are part of the LGBTQ community? If not, you have nothing to be ashamed of and they need to know. They might be part of the community as well. Whatever the situation is, you simply won’t know until you find out. And, there is no better way to find out than by throwing an open house. Get some good treats, some wine, contact the neighbors, and you will likely create life long friends.

Use The Apps

As you should know, there are apps designed specifically for members of the LGBTQ community. With that being said, you should not hesitate to take advantage of these apps. When you do, you can guarantee that you’ll be able to connect with like-minded people. Simultaneously, you might be able to find someone interested in developing a relationship with you. There are numerous apps out there for those in this group. If you’re interested in developing a connection with someone, you should not hesitate to take advantage of LGBTQ apps.

Use Social Media

While you’re at it, you should think about using social media. This is one of the best ways to find people who are a part of this community. When you use social media along with quality sites like hardcore sex, you’ll be able to spot members quickly and easily by looking at the images they post. If they post images that support the LGBTQ movement, you can guarantee that they’re a part of it. This allows you to interact with these individuals without taking a risk.

If you want to take the relationship to a new level, you can meet with these individuals in person.

Attend Local Events

Another thing to note is that you can attend local LGBTQ events. This will allow you to connect with members in your community and that can make a huge difference. By attending these events, you’ll be able to support the cause, have a great time, and develop relationships with others. This is one of the best ways to connect with these individuals. Finding these events can be difficult but utilizing the Internet will make things much easier.

It is a good idea to attend these events in groups. This will ensure that you’re able to remain safe and comfortable from start to finish. This is vital if you live in an area that is less tolerant of the LGBTQ community.

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January 19, 2020