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  • How To Deepthroat & Give Awesome Blowjobs

    How To Deepthroat & Give Awesome Blowjobs

    Making sure my partner is pleasured is my treat and my mission. I love watching ecstasy spread across someone’s face as their eyes roll into the back of their skull when I put in work! Moans encourage me to keep going, just the same as their fingers gripping the back of my head or my neck. It’s a rush to feel the head hit the back of my throat.

    I love choking and almost drowning in all my spit. It’s fun to try different tongue and lip techniques and combos. All of it is just an amazing experience to share. I feel the most powerful after making someone cum just with my mouth.

    Photo: Ellen Stagg (staggstreet.com | IG )

    Does Size Matter?

    Size doesn’t matter! We really need to move away from shaming people for their natural bodies in any capacity. I’ve never met a dick I couldn’t suck the soul from! Personally, I like more width than length because it’s more versatile for different angles.

    Photo: Ellen Stagg (staggstreet.com | IG )

    Tips To Give An Awesome Blowjob

    Tease first. Building that anticipation gets their attention. Get that dick good and glossy with spit! The wetter the better, and keep your jaw as loose as you can until they’re close to coming then suck in your cheek muscles to give an even tighter squeeze.

    Once the dick is dripping in spit, take it as far into the back of your throat as you can and hold it there as long as you feel comfortable. Gagging is normal and okay, and it feels really good for the receiver! Twist your head and neck while you suck, too! Use your hands to massage their legs and butts, scratch their thighs, lower backs, tummies and hips.

    And don’t forget to massage and play with the balls—or the butthole, if they consent to it! And don’t be afraid to throw up a lil bit—you’d be surprised to find out your partner is okay with it because it feels incredible for them due to all the muscles constricting when you gag and wretch.

    Photo: Ellen Stagg (staggstreet.com | IG )

    Common Blowjob Mistakes

    Couldn’t really tell you since I’ve never been on the receiving end of a blowjob but I’ve heard that teeth can be an issue. Honestly, the worst thing you can do is be disinterested or unexcited. Lazy head is lame so try to make sure you’re both relaxed and interested in blowing someone!

    Photo: Ellen Stagg (staggstreet.com | IG )

    Is Deepthroating Challenging?

    It’s not hard to deepthroat but it can be tricky if you’re trying to get throat-fucked (to have your partner thrust a dick into the back of your throat as deep as they can and only thrust shallow so you’re truly gagging the entire time they’re in your mouth)!

    Try throat-fucking once you’re experienced, not for your first foray into oral—on screen or off. Regular deep throating is hard because most of us have gag reflexes, and while you can train your throat to the point where your reflex won’t be triggered by objects deep in your mouth, it takes a lot of practice. Nothing good is easy, and sucking dick is a skill like any other. Give yourself time to build up your own twist!

    Photo featuring King Noire and shot by Rachelle Clinton

    Ways To Enjoy Deepthroating

    You can be good at deepthroating even without training your throat. Just remember to breathe normally, don’t push yourself past your (or your throat’s comfort), and use as much saliva as you can! The more coated a cock is, the easier it slides down. Certain positions and angles also make for easier, deeper blowjobs — like leaning your head off the bed or couch.

    Photo featuring King Noire and shot by Rachelle Clinton

    How I Like A Guy To Finish

    In my mouth, on my face, on my tits — they’re all so good but I really love facials the most now! It the most flattering thank you after all that hard work.

    Jessa Jordan – An internationally renowned model, stripper, writer, and independent porn performer and producer! With her signature shaved head, facial piercings, and tattoos, Jessa has been stirring up the adult film world and is eager to prove herself as a long-lasting star. Fetish friendly and ready for action, Jessa typically shoots interracial scenes with her real-life partner, Reid Castle–including foot fetish clips, strap on content and of course, POV BJs. Powered by coffee and tequila, Jessa is based in Philly as a slave to her beloved cat overlord, Gambit. When not shooting, editing or conversing with her adoring fans, Jessa can be found reading any memoir, vampire or sci-fi novel she can get her hands on; listening to indie punk, metal or R&B; or overdosing on true crime podcasts, ice cream or old-school animes like Outlaw Star, Sailor Moon and Tenchi Muyo.

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    Canadian Pride pole and gogo performance: July 24th

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  • The Secret Life Of A Hotwife (Chapter 1) – Introduction To Hotwives

    The Secret Life Of A Hotwife (Chapter 1) – Introduction To Hotwives

    Ever wondered what really happens on a hot girls’ night out? Meet Juliet Adelaide and her friends in The Secret Life of a Hotwife as they drive into the sassy world in this no-holds barred account of a hotwife’s lifestyle, and uncover all you’ve ever wanted to know, from the sensual and provocative to the risque and unspeakable.

    Based on the steamy real-life experience of Juliet Adelaide, author of The Mrs Sexy Chronicles, this exclusive first-hand account of her exploration of sexual freedom and insight into the life of a hotwife will leave you begging for more.

    Chapter 1 Teaser – Introduction To Hotwives

    We order another round of drinks. I tell them that it gets much better. I talk about how Damian and I decided the car on the street was just too visible to be hopping in the back seat but we really wanted to fuck and it seemed my car was the only nearby option for the evening. We spotted a parking lot that seemed fairly empty and dimly lit so we moved the car and hopped in the back seat. The ladies are feeling their drinks thankfully as they giggle when I tell them that he said, “ladies first” as he wiggled my panties off me and rubbed his fingers along my pussy a bit before eating me out until I came in the backseat.

    Julie is more interested than the others and is the only one smiling. I continue anyways with the story of how I sucked his cock, rubbing my hands firmly over it, stroking it, licking and sucking this good looking, younger guy’s cock, gagging a little on it as we grabbed a condom. I tell them how I hiked up my skirt and straddled my new lover. I slid his cock into me and fucked him as he moaned in my backseat. I told them how I really like it when men cum inside of me and you can hear the change in their moans. They looked at me as if I had gone crazy. Kristin simply asked me, “Why?” I respond, “I’m a Hot Wife” as if they will know what the fuck that means.

    Purchase and read the rest of this amazing book by clicking here: The Secret Life Of A Hotwife 

    Juliet Adelaide has a Bachelor’s degree in Humanities and Culture from Arizona State University. She started dating her husband at the age of 17 and they were monogamous for 25 years. They are a devoted couple who only recently opened their marriage to new sexual experiences allowing Juliet to become a hotwife.

    “mrs Sexy” is the witty, erotic and true story of her experiences with this new polyamorous lifestyle. Juliet, (aka Mrs Sexy), takes you through the most personal moments of her romantic and sexual adventures.

    Follow Juliet on

    Website: https://mrssexybook.com/

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/mrssexybook

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Mrs-Sexy-469306166570252/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrssexybook2

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_p2kOC111O_3CEtat-7lCg

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  • Proven Tips That Will Make Your Marriage Happier And Stronger

    Proven Tips That Will Make Your Marriage Happier And Stronger

    It goes without saying that the honeymoon period in most relationships has a shelf life. Yes, there are some special couples that seem like they can keep it going for ages for little to no effort at all, but this isn’t the case.

    No matter what it looks like on the outside, if you want a healthy and happy marriage, you are going to need to work at it. And, getting it back to that honeymoon stage will require even more work.

    Of course, this doesn’t mean you can’t bring back those butterflies and feelings of excitement and anticipation. All marriages go through patches and some don’t even survive long enough to come out the other side. Despite that, there are many that do, but as was mentioned above, it does take work, industry insight, and dedication from both parties.

    Appreciation Is A Must

    If you are in a marriage that’s been going on for years, you’ve likely already experienced that drab stage. In fact, this is probably where you are at right now and how you found this page.

    It is easy for the passion to die down after years of repetitive motion. That passionate kiss when you walk through the door or see each other first thing in the morning turns into a simple peck on the cheek.

    Of course, there is nothing wrong with this, as sometimes that peck can be more meaningful and romantic than a smooch on the lips. You just have to make it that way. And, one of the best ways to do this is by constantly reminding yourself and your partner that you appreciate them.

    Even falling into a comfortable routine can be dangerous. You might be surprised to learn it, but half of the mean that cheat do so because of the emotional connection, not the sexual attraction of gratification. When you don’t feel connected to your partner or appreciated, you simply feel worthless or like you are going nowhere, working towards nothing.

    Whatever the situation is, it doesn’t have to be this way, even after years of routine. Find unique and different ways to make sure that each of you knows just how much you appreciate what the other does.

    Always Express Your Gratitude

    Speaking of appreciation, you have to always be willing to express your gratitude for the things that your partner does. Not only this, but your partner will need to return the favor.

    Hopefully, once you start thanking them for the things that they do, they’ll likely catch on a reciprocate. If you have to, sit down and make a list of the things that your partner has done or does on a daily basis.

    Does he get up and go to work every day for you and the kids? Does your wife keep your kids content and clean? Did one of you sacrifice being close to your family so that you could relocate for a job? Whatever and however little the act was, you need to make sure that you are acknowledging it. And, you want to do it before your partner has to point it out, otherwise, it is going to mean little to nothing.

    Keeping Things Interesting

    You can say thank you all you want. You can leave nice little romantic messages here and there, but if you aren’t actually taking your relationship to the next level, there will eventually be problems.

    Do you know how that morning or evening kiss can become routine? Well, sex can become routine as well. This is why Tim and Sandra from My Sex Toy Guide recommends incorporation sex toys into the bedroom. Sexual toys can be utilized by both men and women as well as used on both sexes, so no one should feel left out.

    These toys will not only open new and exciting possibilities in the bedroom, but they will take your satisfaction and contention to all-new heights and levels. Heights and levels that you’ve likely never experienced before if this is your first time.

    Keeping It Honest

    This one is pretty much a given, but it is without a doubt one of the hardest to practice.

    This is especially true when it comes to money. Have you maxed out all the credit cards when you and your spouse are looking for a permanent home? Maybe you’ve been hiding the monthly statements or avoiding the issue to keep it at bay.

    Well, this is certainly no way to deal with or approach the situation. You can bet actions like this will only come back to bite you later down the road. Eventually, your partner will discover something is going on. And, it doesn’t necessarily have to be related to money. It could be any number of things.

    Maybe you just aren’t feeling as connected to your partner as you used to. Whatever the situation is, you have to come out and express your true honest feelings because if something doesn’t change, it will eventually lead to infidelity or something worse.

    Keep Up Appearances

    Put on some weight? Maybe you aren’t dressing up or doing your hair as often. With many years and few kids under your belt, it’s pretty understandable as to how things like this can happen. And, that statement can go for men as well.

    Whatever the situation is, just think about when you first met your partner. Would you have walked around in stained sweatpants? Would you have even got close to him or her without cologne or perfume on, let along giving a peck with dirty teeth? The answer is more than likely no.

    Now, this is not to say that you need to undergo some big great transformation or you need to spend hours in the bathroom every day getting all dolled up. No, you just simply need to make an effort. And, let your partner know that you appreciate the effort they make by telling them that they look good before walking out the door, or simply come out and tell them that you appreciate the effort that they are putting towards their appearance and it is really working for them.

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  • How To Have Amazing Blowjob & Shower Sex

    How To Have Amazing Blowjob & Shower Sex

    Sex is still one of the basic instincts. People are created to struggle for food, life and reproduction. In this context, sex is the most pleasant task given to the human by nature. People invented a lot of ways and techniques to make sex as diverse as possible. We are changing partners, places, positions and making many other crazy things to get new impressions.

    But even ordinary sex in missionary position can be incredible if you have this special chemistry with your partner. So, I suppose the main and most important idea of the sex is just to make it!

    Why Are Blowjobs & Shower Sex So Hot?

    We usually have different schedules for all our vital activities – job, sports, trips and sex is not an exception. It makes our life more comfortable but at the same time not so exciting. Sex in the shower is unexpected and can be treated as a kind of adventure – just wanted to take shower and in a minute forgot about it cause ooops … and your mouth is full of dick. And the way that water is dripping from the naked breast, hips or ass makes everybody so horny!

    Reasons I Love Them!

    No matter where you are making sex but shower gives you more pleasure, especially with the right water temperature. You can feel both hot water on your skin and hot dick inside you.

    Use the moment and enjoy both!

    Blowjob & Shower Sex Challenges To Overcome

    Water in the shower is your friend but at the same time makes it a little difficult to suck a dick cause sometimes you can swallow some hot water instead of cum. So be careful and don’t mix them up! I usually try to take a position when water is directed to my back or ass, then I can relax and give all my thoughts to the best blowjob ever.

    Also, the surface in the shower cabin is usually slippery when wet, so be sure to follow the safety rules – don’t use very risky positions and try to hold on to something.

    Favorite Shower Sex Techniques

    There is a limited set of sex positions in the shower. The most popular is standing doggy but if you are flexible enough, you can try standing missionary or even cowgirl if your shower cabin has enough space.

    Also, I love to stand with my back to the wall and one leg up pushing the opposite wall. It allows deep penetration and tight contact.

    Blowjob in the shower is not much different from the blowjob anywhere, just open your mouth, use your tongue and follow your desires!!

    Tips To Kink Up Shower Sex

    There are a lot of ways… One of my favorite is to use the shower to masturbate and blowing dick at the same time. It gives some new impressions and incredible pleasure.

    Also, you can stick the vibrator to the wall and insert it inside you and give a blowjob to your partner – the kind of threesome!

    Or you can use some shower accessories to please yourself or your partner…just use your fantasy!

    Alexa Bi – Adult industry is growing like a grass after the rain. Thousands of movies, cam shows, photo sets are produced every day. So it makes very easy to find what you want and incredibly difficult to find what you really need.

    Let’s make sex, fun and money!

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  • What It’s Like To Shoot A Porn Movie

    What It’s Like To Shoot A Porn Movie

    I have always been a very open sexual person, even before doing porn I was willing to try everything!! I’m always horny!

    I think I was inspired to be an adult actress just by my insatiable sex drive and I loved watching porn and having sex, so why not be a porn star? It was really easy for me to decide I wanted to do it. That was in 2007 when I moved to LA and shot my first porn for a big company.

    Perks Of Being A Porn Star

    I love the sex of course and getting to have sex with professionals. I love to be watched and turning on my fans, the money is great too and the personal freedom of being my own boss and to chose what I want to film.

    What It’s Like Behind The Scenes

    Behind the scenes we are usually in makeup and drinking our coffees, just chatting about normal things! And while they are setting up lights and cameras, we are reading our scripts if we have one for the day.

    Process Of Shooting A Porn Movie

    It’s really quite normal on set, we get our hair and makeup done, then we take pretty girls which are sex photos and we do the dialogue for the scene. Then it might be hours before we actually get to the sex scene, it becomes a job where everyone has to do what they are paid to do and get it done right. But we enjoy it of course at the same time and we have fun!

    Key To Being Successful

    Unforgettable experiences, well hopefully every time we shoot is one to remember, I always want to give my all and make a great scene to remember. I guess that’s why I have lasted this long in the adult industry and have been so successful.

    My advice for anyone wanting to be in the adult industry is to take care of yourself first and make sure you are mentally ready. It can be challenging at times physically and mentally, and also you need to love your job because it shows on camera and save your money! It can be very financially rewarding!!

    Sarah Jessie – Award winning XXX actress and model based in Los Angeles.

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    Twitter: https://twitter.com/sarahjessiexxx

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahjessie420/

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  • 20 Questions With Adult Model Hadi Hart

    20 Questions With Adult Model Hadi Hart

    SimplySxy follows up with Hadi Hart after her feature on Loving Blowjobs. Find out more below and things you never knew about Hadi before!

    1) Tell me about yourself?

    My name is Hadi. I’m 23, Dominican born and raised in Miami Florida. I’m just your regular college graduate who loves to fuck and doesn’t care who knows it.

    2) How did you decide that you want to try something exciting like this?

    I started on Tumblr when I was 18 and I mostly just did it for my self-esteem I would take nudes and just love the feedback I got. It wasn’t until I was like 19? Then I met a friend who got me into the sugar baby lifestyle. And that really opened my eyes to the sex work community. And I just kept going and I loved recording and being recorded. It just seemed like the next best step for me personally.

    And I am kind of a nympho maniac so it keeps me at bay honestly. But to be fair I had no idea about online sex work until my friend told me about it, he convinced me to start a Twitter. And it was one of the smartest things I have ever done.

    3) What excites you the most about your work here?

    What excites me most is seeing my fans happy, I love feeling the power and seeing the excitement on their face or hearing about how happy I make them. It started off and is mostly about body positivity when it comes to my work but I do have to say I have a slight sadistic side to me that gets off on getting people off.

    4) When your fans comment on your body, how do you feel?

    Sometimes it hurts, I’m human. And I’m not perfect and that’s ok. But luckily I have an amazing support system which keeps me grounded at all times. Self esteem will always be an issue for me and a lot of others but it’s an every day job to love yourself.

    5) How did you loose your virginity?

    I actually planned it…like a weirdo. A lot of my friends wanted it (my virginity) and I was like fuck that. I’m gonna decide. So I chose a kid that was apart of my group of friends and I thought he was cute and I lost my virginity in a house with my best friends in the other rooms also having sex….I was a very weird/wild 17 year old.

    6) Any interesting stories, that you would like to share with your fans?

    Honestly I have too many horror stories to tell but I have definite rules to follow. Never have sex because you feel pressure. If you’re not ready, you’re not ready and that’s ok. Never feel like if you’re not a sexual person that something is wrong with you. And being different is fucking awesome. Be who you are and fuck everyone who tells you to change.

    7) What turns you on?

    Confidence, and honestly good conversation. If you can talk and actually have something start to say then you’re halfway there with me.

    8) What are your hidden fantasies?

    My hidden fantasies, hmmmm that’s interesting, I have a lot of them. But I would have to say that I would love to be “kidnapped” and “taken advantage of” and gangbanged. I’m a very sexually deviant person and love weird things!

    9) Do you love kinky gifts? Give some examples!

    YES! I love kinky gifts! I have a few onesies and even nipple clamps that I got from some fans that I use all the time during play!

    10) When you posted your first naked picture on Twitter, where you nervous/excited?

    I was super excited, I was like fuck yes, finally. I’m actually doing this.

    11) What is your favorite position?

    With an ass like mine?….Hellloooo definitely doggy. Or I like to be on top haha.

    12) What do you like sexually? What get you wet?

    I’m the kind of person that gets hot even by someone’s voice. Just by saying the right things to me can get me wet. I love being embarrassed or humiliated in a way. I love to be challenged and made to back down.

    13) Are you submissive or dominant?

    I am actually a switch. I’m dominant with women but submissive with men most of the time. I’m a brat and love to challenge people sexually.

    14) What was your favorite porn genre?

    Lesbian definitely. My first ever porn was a girl orgy funny enough.

    15) Do you have any favorite movies?

    The Harry Potter series will always have my heart.

    16) What is your favorite food?

    Right now it’s anything peanut buttery.

    17) What’s the kinkiest thing you’ve ever done?

    Hmmmm I’ve eaten and finger fucked a mans’ ass?

    18) Are there things you do at home that you won’t do at work or vice versa?

    When it comes to my vanilla job I’m obviously a different person, but to be honest, porn me and the real me are the same person.

    19) What are your views on public sex or showing off your body in public?

    I’m okay with it as long as you don’t involve anyone else who’s non-consenting into it. Other then that fucking go for it!

    20) What will be your message to your lovely fans out there?

    Thank you to everyone who’s been here with me from the beginning! I appreciate all the love from my fans and friends from the SW community. I love what I do and I hope you’re enjoying what I do as well. Thank you for being a fan, and for those who don’t know me. Come check me out!

    Hadi Hart – I’m 23 and just graduated with my Bachelors. I have been in sex work since I was 19, and fell in love with the body positivity and acceptance movement of it all. I’m from Miami and am a BBW content creator.

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    Twitter: https://twitter.com/lilmsthiccy

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  • How To Build Your Brand & Be A Successful Porn Star

    How To Build Your Brand & Be A Successful Porn Star

    My personal views on adult films and the industry itself and sex work in general is a very socially liberal modern open minded view. I always felt it’s a natural need like food or water, and it’s not only a natural need, it’s fun and exciting and makes most people feel good. I view it as a positive healthy and good thing.

    Creating adult films takes it a step even further into an art form. More so than anyone can realise until they try it. It’s like anything else in life though, moderation is key. Watching it in a specific way for the correct reasons is important. Like anything else, it can be abused. It’s not bad or good, it’s simply what you make it and it’s helped many people feel good and better in their lives, and it encourages people to feel confident and proud of their sexuality, instead of fearing it.

    Getting Started Into Porn

    Most people by now know my story of how I got into the adult film industry. I started later on at age 24, which is rare. Most models start at 18-20 years old. I also had the perk of being close childhood friends with people who were also in the industry. So for years, I learned about the industry without actually being in it.

    I finally at age 24, felt I knew myself well enough and my sexuality enough to make such a big decision. I also needed money and thought, well I love sex and I am great at it and doing it often enough anyways (laughs), so why the hell not. Then I did my first scene and fell in love more then I could ever imagine.

    It really made me want to go back and watch the scene and see how I did and how I could improve as an artist, that’s how I realised it’s just another form of art.

    Common Misconceptions About Porn Stars

    I think we all know the stereotypes. Blonde, fake, ditsy, air head, can’t do anything else, too stupid, demons, LOL, the list goes on and on. Basically overall looked at as less than human and unworthy of respect. I genuinely hate this because while sure some do fall under these categories, many also do not. Even the ones who do are still living human beings with desires and dreams and goals etc.

    I have met some truly loving models that may also be an air head but have a wonderful heart and soul. I have also met many very intelligent, strong, confident and educated ones. Who could do something different but choose adult films cause it makes them happy. I wish the general public could see that it is not easy by any means to be a performer.

    If you’re doing it correct, then it’s a full blown business to run and manage, but it’s also the most rewarding and freeing thing when you find your success at it.

    How To Stand Out In The Competitive Porn Industry

    The industry is incredibly competitive online. Saturated with newbies everyday. That said, it’s mostly on the cis-female side and in some ways, we also often work together at the same time. Doing content trades and being in networks on websites and resources to help aid each other are all things we love to do in the modern porn industry.

    There are less mega stars and more of a massive group of people finding ways to raise their followings, exposure and income together through clip stores and their websites. So it’s both, we work together but in the end the people who do the best are the ones who take those tools they received and be active in posting their content and putting on a great performances and also know how to properly market themselves on social media, whether it’s all organic or purchasing traffic or knowing about SEO etc. The more you do and learn on that front, the more your content bets out the saturated pool of content online.

    Marketing Your Brand To Other Areas

    So in my opinion, the rare few most established names in adult are mostly there for a set of specific reasons. Disclaimer before I explain, I by no means am saying all or most mega stars are lazy or lazier. I want to make that clear because they typically also work hard but in much different ways.

    With that said, the first factors in becoming a star at the top has most to do with you finding one of the top agents and impressing them enough overall with looks and performance and attitude. I would honestly say the first and most important factor to an agent is the look. Even if you excel at performing, are responsible and professional, they won’t typically care if your look is not to their standard, next is performance and then attitude.

    So if you were lucky enough to find that better agent and they accept you, then they pave the way for you and you typically just show up, do a good scene and grow. Where the top stars put in most of the work is mental and emotional balance to be able to be punctual and respectful and give it your all but also more then anything, they shoot way more often then the rest and are expected to do crazy things with their bodies.

    So I think its’ most work physically for them which can also affect the mental. To some degree, we all go through this but for most of us, at least half of the work is also the brand building and booking side most mega stars don’t have to work on as much or think about. This is again overall, and not always the case.

    Advice To Follow Before Being A Porn Star

    My advice is educate yourself as best you can before you make ANY decision. Do serious research and contemplation, look at the big picture, not just money blinders on for quick money cause it won’t last if it’s only quick easy money you want and then you can’t go back to the normal world easily anyways once you have done it.

    One wrong choice, especially early on can affect your entire path in life and in the industry from that point on. Some things seem little and simple like, should I use my real name or not, but every single choice even the small ones are actually big. It’s an equation you must follow for where you want to see yourself go. So be scared, be worried, take it seriously because the more cautious you are in decision making, the better choices you will make and find success and happiness, versus just blindly following a strangers lead.

    Figure out how you even want your path to look before you begin. Also, the biggest choice is how badly do you want it and what are you willing to do as far as sacrificing your time and energy on being a business owner and testing your body’s limits constantly. Please, when you think of porn, realise it’s very hard and odds are you won’t make it unless you badly want it and even then, you may not. Too many people badly want it and fail because they don’t realise its’ no longer taboo and everyone else wants to do it now.

    I’m Alix Lovell, a pornstar known for my sloppy crazy BJs and my big natural booty I like to twerk and my big natural boobs! I’ve shot easily over 150 scenes and with some of the top biggest companies like Brazzers, Reality Kings, and New Sensations to name a few. I have been a performer for 6 years, and for two years I have also been a business owner

    (New Verticals LLC) building brands for some of the top companies and models in the industry. I build brands through social media and channels/clip stores/platforms, managing them and developing them through SEO and proper branding and methods/techniques to raise numbers across the board.

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  • What It’s Like To Be An Escort In Germany

    What It’s Like To Be An Escort In Germany

    Becoming an escort was not a decision based on just one reason. Of course it gives me more financial freedom and I have enough time to study sociology and gender studies, to take care of my three dogs and enjoy my private life. But if money would be the only reason, I would not do it very long with so much passion. I love that, with every date I have a new opportunity being the perfect companion and I can create a connection with this person. I always liked about sex that it makes men honest in a special way. In my experience men mostly show their pure self completely being in the moment through erotic intimate moments. Probably it is hard to play a role when most of your blood is centered between your legs. Therefore, already before being an escort I loved to have sex with different men to get to know them in all facets.

    I like to find a unique way to create a connection with every single customer. Humans generally want to feel safe and loved. To be able to give someone this feeling that he can open up himself in my company is something I really enjoy. As an escort, I have a safe space where I can enjoy erotic and intimate connections for the time I am booked. Nobody gets hurt because of potential expectations for the time afterwards and one top I get paid for a shared amazing date experience.

    When I started as an escort, I didn’t tell my friends and family about it or asked for their advice. I knew they would love me no matter what as long as I am happy. So I knew they would also worry about me and based on prejudice probably try to change my decision. After around one year as an escort, I had already told my best friends about it and I figured out that I didn’t want to hide a big part of my life for the next years from my friends and family. Now I have a much deeper and more honest relationship to my family and they support me to be happy and accept my choices. I tell them everything and support them. I enjoy support and love from all my friends and family and it has been the best decision to be honest and stand behind my choices.

    What Made Me Decide To Escort

    I started escorting in the end of 2016. Even if it is legal in Germany, there are still a lot of negative prejudice about this industry. Nevertheless, to be an escort somehow has always been attractive in my imagination. I tended to be less attracted by the ideal of a monogamous relationship leading into marriage, a house and two kids. On the contrary, I have been attracted by the experience of creating a connection with another person. I wanted to explore the unique and special chemistry each relationship is built on.

    Therefore, I enjoyed to date a lot of different people over different time periods. Every time I thought about working as an escort. I was fascinated by the idea but scared about the negative consequences for my social life. So it took me some time and I needed to live one my own for a while till I was brave enough to face my responsibility of doing what feels right for myself. When I then thought about which work could suit my passion, escorting felt like the right answer and it still does!

    What It Is Like Being An Escort In Germany

    The biggest difference to many other countries like the US is probably that in Germany, escorting is a legal profession. When you work as an escort, you have to get the required papers at the city office and you have to pay taxes as in every other legal business. Even if in Germany, the content of the prostitution law takes place in many critical discussions, there is at least a law that provides the rights of legal work. Anyway, sex work in general has to deal with many negative prejudice. Therefore, to avoid social exclusion, many sex workers keep their job a secret.

    In Germany, it is more common for an escort to work with an agency than independently. Respectively, many agency websites can be found on the internet. Still, as in every other industry, you have to figure out which one fits best for your priorities. The good ones provide many detailed information on their websites.

    Being An Independent Escort vs Working For An Agency

    I started with an agency and now I work more and more as an independent escort as well. In general, I think it is a matter of lifestyle for everyone, whether working with an agency or alone is the better way. It is a matter of priority and time. For some, escorting is just a side job, for others it is a full time work with the character of even a life choice. As an independent, you have to do all the work and organization around your online representation and your dates on your own. You make every decision so you are the one who is responsible.

    An agency offers you to work with someone who knows the industry and can give you advice and support. The agency organizes everything for you like screening your clients, the communication and your marketing. Therefore, the agency charges a provision for every organized date. As an independent escort, you keep your full fee from every date but you have to invest as well in your website, in your advertising and what else is needed to support your business. If you want to decide everything yourself and above that you have enough time to do all the work yourself, you might not need an agency.

    To work with an agency basically means to outsource some work and pay them for their service. In this case still, you should compare the different agencies to see if find you one that suits you before you make a choice. A good agency works together with you and the work is based on respect and trust from both sides.

    Things That The Escorting Industry Can Improve On

    The escort industry in Germany is just one part of the sex work industry. In general, I wish as a first step, that all countries would decriminalize the whole industry. The law should define sex work as legal work in a way which respects and protects all sex workers as a part of the society. A law just issued control will not change the social acceptance. That’s why in Germany, there are still social stigmata and many negative prejudice.

    For me, this was the reason I didn’t tell anyone in the beginning about my profession. When you do it just for a while it might work but I think that hiding a part of your life from everybody costs as much energy and can hurt yourself a lot. The worst experience I made as an escort has been the feeling of a growing distance towards my friends, family and my private life. I loved escorting as a part of my life but I lived a life pretending escorting wouldn’t be a part of it.

    The decision to change that has affected my life in many positive ways. I wish everybody in this industry that they don’t have to struggle because of hiding their job.

    Considerations Before You Become An Escort

    As pointed out, I do have many positive feelings about being escort and I collect many positive experiences. However, there are not only nice people out there. Some want to take advantage of you, some might not accept your boundaries. You should be certain of what you want and what your boundaries are as well as how you can assure they’re kept. You should know how to screen your clients before dates and make sure you know what kind of a person your client is.

    Moreover, a safe meeting place is crucial. You need to decide whether you want to start as an independent or with an agency. Find a way to get support and the knowledge you need. Find an agency to work with or other sex workers to support you and give you advice. You should consider as well how you can manage to integrate the job into your life and combine it with your private life, and last but not not least, how you can keep the two of them separated from each other.

    Irina Le Fey – I am a cute, high energy, open minded girl from Germany. I love hiking in the wild nature and dating to explore human culture. Meet me as your little island to escape the ocean of daily life.

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  • What To Know About Sensual Domination & Sensation Play

    What To Know About Sensual Domination & Sensation Play

    My formal training background is in somatic sex therapy, Tantra and sexual healing. I evolved my sessions to go deeper and explore the “shadow” side of sexuality. I added elements of bondage, sensory deprivation, sensation play, and the psychological aspect of kink, fantasy and role playing to my sessions. When people think of a dominatrix archetype, they think ‘mean, cold, cruel’.

    I am naturally sensual, sexy and playful but I always remain in a dominant role. Many of my students don’t identify as submissive or kinky, so part of my work is getting into their head to see what makes them tick. My work is part psychotherapist and personal trainer. Erotic embodiment starts in the mind. Being pushed out of our comfort zones is where we grow.

    What Does Sensual Domination Involve?

    Many believe “sensual domination” is a focus on pleasure instead of pain. But what if bringing someone to the edge of their pain and pushing their boundaries to submit and let go makes it pleasurable? What if being “punished” meant you had to give up control and give it to another, but at the same time knowing they would not break your boundaries and really hurt you?

    What I personally enjoy about sensual domination is pushing my students boundaries (not crossing them), giving them pain, pleasure and a thousand other feelings and sensations they’ve never experienced. After 90 minutes strapped down to my table, deprived of their senses and taking them on a sensation roller coaster, most of my students are speechless when the session is over.

    I think many experience a spiritual awakening they can’t get from talk therapy or even sex with a partner. I love being able to give them something they’ve never experienced, and it often opens the doors to new sexual explorations.

    Why Subs Enjoy This Kink

    A true submissive is someone who gets pleasure from my pleasure, so I tell them what I like and they naturally enjoy giving. I love subs that love servitude! My favorite submissive students are foot and pantyhose fetishists. I love having my feet massaged and legs stroked over my stockings. I also love role playing with ‘sissy boys’ and seeing them dressed as slutty girls.

    If it’s something that turns me on, it turns them on, so it’s not really humiliation or punishment.

    Incorporating Sensation Play Into Sensual Domination

    Before I blindfold and place my student in bondage, we talk about what they want to learn, role play or simply let go of their thoughts completely. We go over boundaries, safe words, mutual trust, etc. We do a submission ritual and I ask them to let go of control, trust me to guide them on a journey and bring them home safely. I use all types of sensation, not just floggers and paddles. When we deprive the senses (eyes and ears), other senses get heightened.

    I often use essential oil scents in the air. The touch of my nails lightly caressing their backside, then it might turn into a spank. I use metal and glass objects (cold sensations), hot stones, intense vibrators, sex toys, feathers, fur, leather, silk. Even forks and toothbrushes might be used. I think of my students’ body as my canvas, and I get to use my brushes to creatively express myself while responding to their reactions. I also enjoy adding prostate massage, dildos and strap on play (if agreed upon before the session.) Endorphins are heightened, and they begin to relax and accept they’re helpless and vulnerable.

    I think most men have the ‘happy ending’ in the front of their minds when we start the session as that’s what they associate being naked on a table with an attractive woman touching them, but that’s not anything I promise. The session is about pleasing ME, I have to remind them. The more they push for that, the more fun it is to tease and make them beg. Every session is unique, and I might free up one arm to let a student masturbate if they beg and plead, but ejaculation is never the goal of a session.

    If This Is Your First Sensual Domination Session…

    If hiring a professional dominant, don’t expect a hand job. If that’s your goal, see an erotic massage provider. Remember, you are there to serve the Goddess first. Find professionals who’ve been around a few years and have a reputation. Look at their social media accounts, read their website and blog posts. You don’t want to be tied up or mind-fucked by someone you can’t trust. Before emailing them, read their website well. I can’t stress this enough!

    If you ask questions that are clearly on her website, you’ve already shown her that you’re going to be a difficult student. Write to her as if you were trying to land your dream job position. Would you email your potential new boss, ‘U avail now for work? How much u pay?” If she has a gift wish list or a way to tip her online, do it! It shows us you’re serious and you really like to serve. Little things can go a long away in making a good or bad first impression.

    Always shower right before the session and really clean between those butt cheeks and balls with a soap and a wash cloth! If you’re coming straight from work, ask her before the session if you can use her shower (but note that time may come out of your session time.)

    If you want to any kind of ass play or prostate massage (and she offers it), I recommend a few hours before your session, cleaning out the lower part of your anal cavity with a few squirts of warm water. You can lie on the floor and use an old-school hot water bottle with a douche attachment (always use lukewarm water); or a powerful hand-held shower massager for a few seconds; or just a plastic water bottle (get into a doggie style position with your ass way up in the tub while you gently squeeze a few ounces of warm water, then let the water flow out). This is for just cleaning the lower colon.

    If you want to take a really big toy or get pegged (strap-on play), you’ll want to do a full colon clean out, which I recommend doing the night before. Even with cleaning, “shit happens” sometimes. I can’t speak for all Dommes, but I don’t shame my students if it happens (but I also don’t offer scat play or diaper fetish play, so if that’s your thing, you should let the Domme know beforehand.)

    You should expect in any kink or BDSM play, the RACK tenets: Risk Accepted Consensual Kink. Dommes and subs are in charge of speaking their own boundaries, and at any point during playtime the Domme or sub may stop or alter what they are doing by stating their safe word. After the session is over, doing ‘aftercare’- Checking in with each other, making sure their sub is in a good head space and feeling ok physically (I always remind them to drink lots of water and have a snack if feeling light-headed.)

    A ‘sub drop’ sadness sometimes happens after dropping from ‘cloud 9’ euphoria and coming back down to earth. I give some time at the end of the session if they need to talk or process their feelings. Above all, expect to be pleasantly surprised and you’ll have an amazing session!

    Mistress Marlena Maven – A sensual dominatrix, certified somatic sex educator and couples’ kink coach. She is available for online sessions worldwide as well as her studio in Portland, Oregon.

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  • What To Know About Small Penis Humiliation

    What To Know About Small Penis Humiliation

    My personal views towards kink and alternative lifestyles are that everyone should try it and be open minded. Stop being judgmental because at the end the day, many people practice fetish and kink and don’t even know it. It’s a major part of my life and not just the professional part, I live the lifestyle as well.

    What Small Penis Humiliation Involves

    Small penis humiliation is exactly what it sounds like. It’s the art of making fun of men with little penises. I just filmed five videos of it yesterday. I love small penis humiliation as it’s one of my favorite fetishes. There’s ways to go about humiliating them, you can compare their small penises to other objects or much larger cocks. And you can chastise them for having one. Kind of like when a kid does something wrong and you’re punishing them. There’s so many ways. I suppose you just have to be creative.

    Misconceptions About Small Penis Humiliation

    Not sure if I’ll call it a misconception, but I will say, some people wanna engage in small penis humiliation and they don’t even have a small penis.

    Well here is my favorite one, they want to engage a small penis humiliation and their feelings are hurt and they never want to talk to you again and you’re the worst person in the world etc. Literally, the fetish has the word humiliation in it.

    Favorite Small Penis Humiliation Activities

    My favorite type of small penis humiliation is comparing them to a BBC (big black cock) and a tease and denial situation. I notice a lot of my submissive’s who enjoy SPH are also into BBC play. Which is nice because then I could really connect with them and plan a larger or longer session.

    I can also turn it into a coerced bi situation, depending on my subs limits. I love tease and denial and it’s one of my top favorite fetishes. I love to brag to my SPH fans how they could never please me in ways larger penises can. It’s really fun to taunt them as if they could have me and then deny them because of their small penis. I love it most that they truly love it themselves.

    What To Know Before Getting Into SPH

    I think that subs should know before trying small penis humiliation is that this is a fetish based on being crude and making fun of their small attachment. Do not go into this fetish thinking your Mistress is going to be sweet and nice to you or baby you. Also, if you do not have a small penis then you do nap in the category of small penis humiliation. If you just wanna be humiliated for having a penis, then just say so. Well maybe I shouldn’t tell people how to enjoy getting off. If having a normal size penis and wanting to be talked down to as if it was smaller gets you off then so be it. Just when requesting your session with your Mistress, make sure you inform her so that she can properly prepare for her session with you.

    People assume it’s easy to be a Dominatrix, that you just show up and fulfil people‘s fantasies. To truly connect to your sub, it takes planning and setting up for your session. Also, if you are trying to have a session with a professional, do not contact them if you are not going to pay. Find yourself a person who lives in the lifestyle and does it for free. Read all about the professional Dominatrix you are interested in. Read their websites and rules. Do not ask a million questions that are clearly answered on their website. That will turn your Mistress off. I personally ignore individuals who do. It shows laziness, that you do not listen nor follow directions, and that you are more so interested in the pleasures for you.

    Remember to be aware of your limits and to voice them. Respect the Dommes limits as well. If she says no, than it’s a no. If you are with a lifestyle or pro Domme, please make sure you’re being safe sane and consensual.

    Dominatrix Yessi Evans – I’m the countess of Femdom. My name is Yessi Evans and I exist for you to serve me.

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