It goes without saying that the honeymoon period in most relationships has a shelf life. Yes, there are some special couples that seem like they can keep it going for ages for little to no effort at all, but this isn’t the case.
No matter what it looks like on the outside, if you want a healthy and happy marriage, you are going to need to work at it. And, getting it back to that honeymoon stage will require even more work.
Of course, this doesn’t mean you can’t bring back those butterflies and feelings of excitement and anticipation. All marriages go through patches and some don’t even survive long enough to come out the other side. Despite that, there are many that do, but as was mentioned above, it does take work, industry insight, and dedication from both parties.
Appreciation Is A Must
If you are in a marriage that’s been going on for years, you’ve likely already experienced that drab stage. In fact, this is probably where you are at right now and how you found this page.
It is easy for the passion to die down after years of repetitive motion. That passionate kiss when you walk through the door or see each other first thing in the morning turns into a simple peck on the cheek.
Of course, there is nothing wrong with this, as sometimes that peck can be more meaningful and romantic than a smooch on the lips. You just have to make it that way. And, one of the best ways to do this is by constantly reminding yourself and your partner that you appreciate them.
Even falling into a comfortable routine can be dangerous. You might be surprised to learn it, but half of the mean that cheat do so because of the emotional connection, not the sexual attraction of gratification. When you don’t feel connected to your partner or appreciated, you simply feel worthless or like you are going nowhere, working towards nothing.
Whatever the situation is, it doesn’t have to be this way, even after years of routine. Find unique and different ways to make sure that each of you knows just how much you appreciate what the other does.
Always Express Your Gratitude
Speaking of appreciation, you have to always be willing to express your gratitude for the things that your partner does. Not only this, but your partner will need to return the favor.
Hopefully, once you start thanking them for the things that they do, they’ll likely catch on a reciprocate. If you have to, sit down and make a list of the things that your partner has done or does on a daily basis.
Does he get up and go to work every day for you and the kids? Does your wife keep your kids content and clean? Did one of you sacrifice being close to your family so that you could relocate for a job? Whatever and however little the act was, you need to make sure that you are acknowledging it. And, you want to do it before your partner has to point it out, otherwise, it is going to mean little to nothing.
Keeping Things Interesting
You can say thank you all you want. You can leave nice little romantic messages here and there, but if you aren’t actually taking your relationship to the next level, there will eventually be problems.
Do you know how that morning or evening kiss can become routine? Well, sex can become routine as well. This is why Tim and Sandra from My Sex Toy Guide recommends incorporation sex toys into the bedroom. Sexual toys can be utilized by both men and women as well as used on both sexes, so no one should feel left out.
These toys will not only open new and exciting possibilities in the bedroom, but they will take your satisfaction and contention to all-new heights and levels. Heights and levels that you’ve likely never experienced before if this is your first time.
Keeping It Honest
This one is pretty much a given, but it is without a doubt one of the hardest to practice.
This is especially true when it comes to money. Have you maxed out all the credit cards when you and your spouse are looking for a permanent home? Maybe you’ve been hiding the monthly statements or avoiding the issue to keep it at bay.
Well, this is certainly no way to deal with or approach the situation. You can bet actions like this will only come back to bite you later down the road. Eventually, your partner will discover something is going on. And, it doesn’t necessarily have to be related to money. It could be any number of things.
Maybe you just aren’t feeling as connected to your partner as you used to. Whatever the situation is, you have to come out and express your true honest feelings because if something doesn’t change, it will eventually lead to infidelity or something worse.
Keep Up Appearances
Put on some weight? Maybe you aren’t dressing up or doing your hair as often. With many years and few kids under your belt, it’s pretty understandable as to how things like this can happen. And, that statement can go for men as well.
Whatever the situation is, just think about when you first met your partner. Would you have walked around in stained sweatpants? Would you have even got close to him or her without cologne or perfume on, let along giving a peck with dirty teeth? The answer is more than likely no.
Now, this is not to say that you need to undergo some big great transformation or you need to spend hours in the bathroom every day getting all dolled up. No, you just simply need to make an effort. And, let your partner know that you appreciate the effort they make by telling them that they look good before walking out the door, or simply come out and tell them that you appreciate the effort that they are putting towards their appearance and it is really working for them.
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