My Dating Expectations & Experiences
I absolutely love dating, which is probably why my job as a companion has come so naturally to me. I love the flirting, the laughter, the intimacy and as a result, have made long lasting connections with my amazing suitors. I’m an extrovert at heart, so I also find it really exciting to meet new people.
Have you ever been on a date with someone for the first time, and within the first hour felt like you’ve known them forever? I have, and it’s an incredible experience to connect with someone like that. However, I have noticed that this kind of chemistry is less common (really rare, actually!) in traditional dating, than it is in the world of professional companionship. After some reflection as to “why” that is, I realized that in traditional dating, there are so many outside factors that affect the way we date. Are we compatible? Will they like my friends? Is this someone I see a future with?
These are questions that don’t need to be considered when you’re on a date with a companion. It takes so much of the pressure off and allows us to be much more comfortable with one another. It’s crazy to see how much more enjoyable a date can be when we let go of these expectations and just simply live in the moment.
How Women & Men Differ In Dating
We’ve always been told that men are very sex-focused and women are more emotional when it comes to dating, but I really don’t think that is always the case. People date for a wide variety of reasons. Some just want company, some are looking for someone long-term, some want something fun, and of course some people are simply looking for a sexual experience.
In the real dating world, this can cause a lot of confusion. More often than not, people aren’t on the same page and it can often lead to hurt feelings and awkward conversations. This is where professional companionship becomes a great option; there’s no need to explain yourself or to feel confused about where you stand with your date. If you’re looking to connect and build a relationship with a provider, you can do that.
Most of us love having regulars, and we genuinely care about them. But on the other hand, if you’re just looking for a fun one night fling, there’s absolutely no hard feelings if you never reach out again. Whatever it is you’re seeking, it can surely be found in the world of courtesans.
Unrealistic Dating Expectations I Have Encountered
I’ve definitely gotten some unrealistic date requests from clients. Things like overly specific outfit requests, play-by-plays of how they’d like the entire date to go, long lists of services they’d like me to offer…basically a lot of entitlement and a need for control.
Early on in my career I would try and accommodate these requests, as I felt that it was my job to help create the fantasy my client had in mind. But, I quickly realized that those dates were never as enjoyable for me as the ones that unfolded naturally. I consider myself to be a really genuine person, so it’s hard for me to feel like I’m acting out a script.
Companions can definitely cater to a general fantasy or theme, but we’re not circus performers that are going to jump through hoops for you. Besides, one of the funnest parts about going on date is the uncertainty of how it will all unfold. I think a little bit of mystery is sexy.
Do I Have Expectations Of My Date?
Absolutely. There’s the basics: be clean, be respectful, and be on time. Always put the donation out where I can see it at the beginning of the date. If I’m coming to see you, be a good host. Dim the lights a bit, put some music on, and be sure to offer me at least a glass of water.
Don’t expect to pounce on me as soon as I walk through the door, a little bit of flirtation or witty banter is a necessary part of foreplay. Although it is certainly not required, a small gift like a bottle of wine or chocolate is a very sweet gesture. I really do appreciate the little things.
Does Physical Attraction Matter?
A gentleman’s physical appearance does not matter to me at all. I often get emails from clients apologizing for their looks as they’re concerned it will be a deal breaker for me, and it breaks my heart. Aside from very basic hygiene expectations, your appearance is not important.
It’s unfortunate that we live in a society that’s made so many people feel like their ability to be liked is solely dependent on their looks, when in reality we are all so much more than that. I’ve actually noticed a trend that clients who email me boasting about how good looking they are usually end up being the worst dates. Arrogance is such an ugly trait.
Personally, I love a man who is attentive, respectful, kind, and who understands healthy boundaries. When I know a man really cares about me and respects my body and my time, that’s when I feel like I can really let loose with him.
What Turns Me Off On A Date
A few of my date turn offs are: bad hygiene, gossiping, having a negative attitude, and not behaving discreetly when we’re in public together. I’m very privileged to be in a position where I can be selective about who I spend time with, so thankfully these aren’t things I encounter very often.
Hayden Scott – I am an international luxury companion, catering to those seeking an encounter with someone far from average. I am an intelligent, educated, and attractive young woman yet very friendly, approachable, and down-to-earth. If you are looking for a fun girl with stunning looks and an addictive personality, we should talk!
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