Sex is something that I have always been very open minded about. It is really hard for me to wrap my head around the idea of monogamy. I do agree that sex is better when you have a connection with a person, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have connections with multiple people. A connection doesn’t mean love. A connection is a mutual attraction.
I believe you can love someone and have a connection with another person (or people) at the same time. As long as you are being safe, I do not see a reason that you shouldn’t be able to have as much sex, with as many partners as you please. Most people do not have the same views as me, which is why I will likely be single forever. Oh well…. who wants to bang? 🙂
What Is The GFE?
GFE stands for Girl Friend Experience. While this is a very common term among the sex worker community, its meaning can vary a little from provider to provider. Generally, it is a service that provides you time with a provider with whom you will feel is your girlfriend while with her. Contrary to most encounters with an escort, a GFE encounter will (likely) include cuddling, kissing, mutual pleasuring, conversation, and BBBJ (Bare Back Blow Job). While some believe GFE also includes BBFS (Bare Back Full Service), I believe this is unsafe, irresponsible, and foolish for any sex worker or client to engage in.
Best Things About The GFE
I enjoy the connections I make. Remember when I said I believe sex is best when you have a connection with a person? Being a GFE provider allows me to meet all kinds of people to develop connections with, which means I get to have all kinds of great sex! Mindless sex with someone I don’t have a connection with does not interest me much. Most men I see that are just looking for a hole to stick their dick in and nothing more are rarely repeat customers; I am not their ideal provider and they are not my ideal client.
I get to know my clients very well sometimes on a very personal level. Some use me as a therapist and will talk to me about their work and even home problems. While I make it a rule that I never reach out to clients, I do know that I have such a relationship with some that I could count on them to help me if I were to ever ask, no matter what I would need. I also enjoy cuddling, which I get to indulge in being a GFE provider.
Why The GFE Is Ideal For Men
I would say that 90% of my clients are married. I believe that this is because most marriages lose that spark and lighthearted fun that began the relationship. As a GFE provider, I give men that easy going, fun, flirty vibe that they miss in their marriage. It isn’t that they don’t love their wife, they just aren’t getting the exciting and engaging conversation and sex that they crave. Seeing a GFE provider gives them those exciting feelings again without threatening their marriage. If they were to engage in these things with just a random woman from a bar or the internet they risk her being a crazy chick who might contact their wife or become clingy and then demand more from the relationship.
With an escort, that is never a concern; but most escorts don’t provide the personal touch that a lot of men want in addition to the physical aspect. Seeing a GFE provider gives men a way to have a girlfriend without it being risky like an affair would be. For the single guys, it provides them with the girlfriend time and attention they want without having the fear of attachment. Also, some guys just don’t have time for a girlfriend but want to have the intimacy from time to time with someone they trust.
Tips For Clients To Enjoy The GFE
Do your research. Any legit professional is going to have lots of information about them on the internet and this holds true for escorts. They will have a website with photos, links to reviews, rates, and other information about them. You want to make sure it is someone you are attracted to and can feel comfortable with. Obviously, you won’t know how you will connect until you meet but you should be able to get a pretty good feel for them based on the content on their website as well as social media posts. Once you decide on who you would like to spend time with, contact them by way of call, text, email, or contact form on their website depending on their preference. Some will only communicate via phone call, while others prefer e-mail or text.
Be prepared to hand over personal information. For safety purposes only, I do a screening on all new clients.
Be respectful of your new temporary girlfriend’s time. Most clients do not ever get to see the behind the scenes work that high end escorts do. There’s bookkeeping (yes, I pay taxes), advertising, responding to inquiries, travel arrangements, personal beauty care, upkeep of website and social media pages, and a mountain of other time consuming tasks.
Spoil a little for better service. My clients that send me items from my wishlist and/or tip well get special treatment. I will carry on text conversations and linger after paid time is up more with generous clients more so than with those who moan and groan about rates. If you send a wish list item at the time of your booking request I guarantee you will get bumped to the top of the list!
Southern Jade – Southern Jade, 31, is an escort specializing in GFE, based out of Bismarck, ND. She has been a professional escort in the Bismarck area since April of 2017 but originally got her start while in college in Oklahoma. She is very passionate about her career and spends all of her time outside of her home life building her brand and running her business.
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