My personal feelings about kink and fetish: it represents freedom, acceptance, love, and fun. You want to be able to reach down and embrace that fantasy or desire that you can’t indulge in during daily life. Sexual freedom is a very central part of my life, and I love to dive deep into my desires. All kinks and fetishes are valid, and if you have the opportunity to explore them with someone[s] you trust, do it!
Why I Love Roleplay
You might have a lifelong fantasy or situation you can’t shake, or you maybe saw something that piqued your interest and grew into a full-blown desire. We all have those fantasies that grow roots at an early age. Ever since I’ve had a sex life, I’ve been very into role play. Fantasies have filled my dirty little mind since day one! Situations that aren’t everyday sex are exhilarating – for me, it truly heightens the excitement!
Favorite Roleplay Scenarios
I typically love taboo scenarios. You know, Daddy/girl, blackmail, etc. One role play that always makes me melt is being “given” to someone as a sexual gift. Some other favorites that have been a part of my fantasies include the damsel in distress, slutty secretary, slave girl, prisoner/captive, pet… I love to play! Truly, any scenario that brings me and my partner delight is wonderful to me.
Roleplay Tips For Beginners
Don’t be embarrassed about your fantasy. It can be very personal, and sharing anything personal can be tough. Most importantly, enthusiastic consent and participation is required. You don’t have to do anything you’re not comfortable with. Exploration is always best in a mutually enjoyable, nonjudgmental environment.
Communicate with the person you’re playing with – have a conversation (even several!) beforehand to make sure you’re on the same page. Negotiating boundaries, safe words (a word that can slow down or stop play), and preferences is something best done before you start playing, no matter how excited you are! For example, you may not be okay with certain words being used in interrogation role play; anal penetration may be on your “no” list while playing doctor/patient. You may want very specific phrases, activities, or costumes to be included. Talk about all that before your role play scene – you’ll likely find it not only hashes out specifics, but makes the build-up to playtime extremely erotic!
A lot of emotions can come up before or during play. It’s okay to feel nervous or vulnerable! Remember that deeply personal conversations, especially those about our sexual desires, can be tough regardless of the subject matter. During play, you may have things arise requiring a conversation or a safe word, and that’s okay! It’s important to have the opportunity to discuss things you absolutely loved, anything you didn’t like, or ideas for next time! Diving into fantasy can be intimidating at first. Take things at your own pace. It’s perfectly fine to laugh, make mistakes, or go “off script.” As long as everyone is enjoying themselves, you’re on the right track!
Kinking Roleplay Up A Notch
Even if you’ve been role playing a long time, role play is something you can always kink up or reenergize. There are so many different scenarios and fantasies that the possibilities are almost endless. One of my favorite things is role playing over several sessions, building on the initial fantasy. Extended role play scenes give you so much room for creativity and opportunities for new setups. If you’re comfortable trying new role plays with your partner[s], I have confidence that you won’t be bored any time soon!
Are There Rules For Roleplay?
That’s the best part – NO! No rules in role playing!* Role playing is where you can let go and play. Sex and play are not mutually exclusive, so have fun!
* Except for the rules/boundaries you’ve set in your personal relationships.
Ava Adore – Ava Adore is a playful paramour with a lifelong fondness for vice. She’s a free-spirited companion and hedonist based in Chicago. When not occupied with erotic enrichment, Ava can be found digging through the stacks at indie bookstores and indulging in all of life’s finer things.
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