I think if more people were open and honest about their sexuality and less judgmental about sex, then this world would be a much happier and more peaceful place. Seriously, who wants to go out and be a dick to people when you could be having a mind-blowing orgasm instead?
I definitely feel like women get the short end of the stick when it comes to how their sexuality is viewed in society. If a woman does what she wants, for her own damn reasons, then she is labeled a slut and is made to feel guilty about expressing/exploring her sexuality.
Unfortunately it’s men who put women into this fucked up pigeon hole with their ridiculous Madonna/Whore complex. You have all these guys lusting after pornstars and “slutty” looking women, but then bagging those girls out for being comfortable in their sexuality and saying they would never date such a girl. It’s pure hypocrisy.
Me? I’d rather date the whore; she’s better in bed, she’s open and honest with herself and she goes after what she wants.
I love sex, I love having sex, I love talking about sex, I love exploring kinks and fantasies with my partner, it’s something I’ve spent my whole life learning more and more about.
And just like any other skill in your life, the more sex you have, the more varied experiences you have, the more you challenge yourself, the better you get at it.
How Long Sex Typically Lasts
It really depends how familiar I am with my partner and what kind of evening we’re having together, so it can be anywhere from 45 minutes to 1.5 hours.
If it’s our first time together then there will be a lot of exploring, experimenting to see what kinds of things really get her off; does she like having her neck kissed? Does she like having her hair pulled? If so, how hard? Does she like me whispering dirty things in her ear? Obviously most women are into all of this stuff, but some things are going to be bigger triggers than others, so I want to learn what her biggest turn-ons are first.
I love foreplay and building up anticipation so if we’ve been together before and I know what really gets her off then I’ll definitely tease her to the point where she can’t wait any longer and starts to beg for it.
I also love going down on a woman, the beautiful thing is that every women is a little bit different in terms of what gets them off, some women need you to go harder and faster, some need you to go incredibly slowly and softly until you almost tease an orgasm out of them. Some like you to use fingers while you’re down there, others don’t. It’s so much fun learning how to get a woman off, and so rewarding when you get to hear and feel her trembling with satisfaction.
What Women Want
They want a guy who is present to the moment.
This is a concept from meditation, but I find it’s very relevant here. If you’re present then you’re able to focus on your partners pleasure, as well as the pleasure they’re giving you, and you’re able to really connect with them in that moment and create a truly special experience.
If I was going to give guys advice, I’d tell them to be more patient. Take your time and learn what your partner likes, listen to her breath, feel her body, get to know her inside and out. There’s no rush, in fact a lot of the time being slow and teasing her is going to be much better than rushing in, not to say that you can’t be passionate and animalistic, but you need to find the right approach for the women you’re with.
Favorite Sex Positions
My number one is position for getting her off is cowgirl. But I don’t let her control the rhythm or make her bounce up and down, instead I grab her by the hips and grind her back and forth on my cock horizontally. This allows me to hit her G-spot again and again, whilst also grinding her clit on me. It doesn’t take very long for her to cum like this.
My other favourite is missionary, but I fold a pillow in half and slide it under her hips to tilt her up slightly so that when I penetrate her I’m hitting her G-spot at the right angle. I also like to bring her knees towards her chest and put a lot of my weight on her during this, now you have to be careful here because some women can get sore in this position if they aren’t too flexible, but if you get it right you’ll be hitting her G-spot with a good amount of pressure which will have her cumming in no time.
One Thing To Never Do During Sex
Call her parents and put it on speaker phone.
Stirling Cooper– An Australian Porn Star with a passion for learning, a deep love for travel and a rich tapestry of life experiences. Starting his adult career in Australia after a successful background in health, travel, food & business he now has plans to work internationally.
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