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Incorporating BDSM Into Masturbation

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Incorporating BDSM Into Masturbation

BDSM is everything! Within BDSM you can find love, support, play, drama, every imaginable human emotion, and exploration. When I’m in a scene I almost feel like I’m in a theatrical play that explores every aspect of human experience. From pleasure and joy, to despair and fear, you can really absorb the full vibrancy of life while under bondage or a firm command. When I give my control to someone, or to myself, I feel free.

What I Love About Masturbation

Masturbation is a loving act of intimacy with myself, that allows me to explore, nurture, and connect with myself. It’s also a ridiculous amount of fun! I’m a big psychology nerd, and could point you to tons of research on the positive effects of masturbating, and my personal life has certainly seen these benefits! I see masturbation as a time to relax, be creative, and take care of myself. When I’m all alone, touching and pleasuring myself, there’s a different, almost spiritual bond with myself that I really value.

Incorporating BDSM Into Masturbation

You need a lot of creativity and openness to have a successful BDSM masturbation experience because you are playing both roles, dominating yourself while being dominated by yourself. Whether or not you have a fantasy projection of who’s doing what to you or who you get to punish, you are ultimately embodying both the submissive and dominant side of BDSM.

In most sexual and romantic interactions, I take on the submissive role but I can occasionally switch. Although I’m a submissive, I’m at my most dominant and sadistic when masturbating by myself. The things I subject myself to aren’t just about me getting to experience pain and pleasure; being able to cause and inflict control and pain are equally appealing. If I have a dialogue going, I am fully experiencing both parts. I am both the slut and the slut tamer.

Make Masturbation Kinkier & Hotter

Most toys I’ve found can be used all by myself, and can be just as fun as when a partner is using them on me. Nipple and clit pumps, clamps, crops, anal plugs, and of course vibrators are awesome with or without a partner. For safety’s sake, I actually recommend trying out most toys you get on your own before incorporating them into a scene with a partner. I also have to give a shout out to Hitachi style vibrators, they’re a must for anyone with a clitoris, BDSM or no. There are a lot of self-bondage tutorials online, and I love breast binding and crotch ropes by myself.

Aside from actual sex toys, there are a lot of things you can do by yourself that don’t require an extensive kink budget. In your kitchen, wooden spoons are especially nice for self-imposed pussy spankings, ice is an all-around good time, and ginger root shaved into a butt plug can really spice things up (look up figging). Your bathroom has the tub’s faucet or shower jet, toothbrushes for a torturous genital brushing, and hairbrushes also make great impact toys. Don’t forget your mirror, to fully appreciate all that you are doing for, and to, yourself.

Potential Downsides To Masturbating With BDSM

BDSM needs a lot of education to be practiced safely, and being on your own is no different. In fact, there’s no one around to help if something goes wrong, so it’s important to read up on every act or toy you’d want to use, and use common sense when playing. Always make sure you have an out, so you don’t wind up tying yourself up and unable to get out of a bad situation with no one able to save you.


Lila – My name is Lila, your sex-positive kinky sweetheart. I’m a 25-year-old Persian-American who gets off on being teased, punished, and pleasured. I make my own videos, sell my used panties, and do private kik and skype shows. I love making kinky custom films, and enjoy projects that requires creativity, roleplay, or experimentation. I love my sexy projects because I feel like they are a great avenue for self-exploration, and I love feeling connected to strangers who get to take me home in the form of a video clip or a pair of panties.

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Lila

My name is Lila, your sex-positive kinky sweetheart. I’m a 25-year-old Persian-American who gets off on being teased, punished, and pleasured. I make my own videos, sell my used panties, and do private kik and skype shows. I love making kinky custom films, and enjoy projects that requires creativity, roleplay, or experimentation. I love my sexy projects because I feel like they are a great avenue for self-exploration, and I love feeling connected to strangers who get to take me home in the form of a video clip or a pair of panties.

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