How do I get my partner to watch porn with me?

Do you watch porn alone and without your partner’s knowledge? Ever wished that you could watch it together with your partner? You’re not alone. In fact, many individuals do wish that they could get their partners to watch and enjoy porn together with them. Not only can watching porn together improve your sex lives, it can also bring the two of you closer and learn about each other’s secret fantasies.

So how do you bring up the topic of watching porn together? Sinn Sage, a top adult actress in Lesbian porn and two time AVN award winner, shares some suggestions to make the situation less awkward and intimidating when you decide to ask the question.

A growing number of women are watching porn

ABSOLUTELY. Women are increasing consumers of porn, and being that over 75% of the fan mail I receive are from women, I think it’s very clear that the days of porn being made for men only are long over. For many of us in the industry, the ancient notion that women are being “degraded” is thankfully being phased out, and people are beginning to realize that we are adults and humans and have every right to perform and enjoy sex as much as men. That old way of thinking of us as “victims” is beginning to come across as very sexist. I’ve always felt this way. Why is it okay for men to perform, why are they seen as autonomous, but the women are seen as damaged or somehow “victims” for claiming the right to our sexuality? How is that not incredibly sexist? Thankfully, those views are on their way out. And thankfully also, women are realizing that it is perfectly okay for them to enjoy porn as well!

Different tastes between men and women towards porn

Well, I must say that I loathe to point out the differences between men and women, because ultimately, we are all human and we all enjoy things differently, regardless of sex or gender. Anything I would say in response to that question would be a sweeping generalization. There are simply many types of porn that people enjoy seeing. I would say that the more gonzo style of porn that lacks connection, passion, or creativity would be something more enjoyed by a younger male viewer, who is maybe less sexually mature. I think that in general, most women and people who enjoy lesbian porn like to see that connection, that passion, and they enjoy seeing a focus on the woman receiving pleasure as well as giving it. I guess this is a problem with a lot of mainstream gonzo style porn, it’s all about the man getting off. I think a lot of couples and women, again, generally, enjoy seeing a passionate couple, regardless of gender, enjoying themselves and each other in a genuine way. Cosmo Online wrote a fantastic article about this, and it mentions me in the beginning:

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/news/a34283/straight-women-who-prefer-lesbian-porn/

How can I introduce porn to my partner so that we can watch together?

This is a tough one. Obviously, I understand that we are all sexual creatures and we can’t always be there to fuck our partner. Or perhaps we’re tired, or not in the mood, or whatever the case may be. For me it’s been easy to understand that my partner will and does watch porn. I think the problem comes in with insecurity and jealousness. People who get that way don’t understand the difference between reality and fantasy. My fiancee had an ex that made him throw out anything porn related and if she ever caught him watching something, considered it cheating on her. WHAT?! How anyone could feel that way blows my mind. It’s extremely unfair.

I guess to answer the question, I would just say that an open, calm, and honest discussion needs to take place, and realization that it can be a way to AMPLIFY your own sex life to enjoy porn together. Compromise is also important; you need to be watching something that both people enjoy. As far as bringing it up, just don’t be shy!!! Be confident, be open, and say it’s something that you want to try. If you are close with your partner, it should not be a problem. And if you’re not, why are you together?!

Recommendations

I would definitely say pretty much any porn with Sinn Sage would be where to start. I’ve noticed that male viewers really enjoy watching my strap on work, so a lot of the videos I’ve done for belladonna entertainment (Strapped Dykes 1 & 2) or any that I’m in of Strap On Specialist for Sweetheart video would be a great place to start for a couple. My award winning scene with Dani Daniels in the movie Dare by Elegant Angel would be a terrific one to watch as well, that scene is SMOKING hot, and anyone would enjoy watching it. It’s very intense!

Any scene I’ve done with Celeste Star would also be good. As for watching boy/girl stuff, I would probably go with any scene Belladonna was in. I haven’t watched a lot of boy/girl porn, but she was always very genuine and passionate and fucking horny and she will always be my all time favorite porn star.

There is a danger of watching too much porn…

Of course! Just like someone can eat too much ice cream, drink too much alcohol, and do too many drugs, someone can watch too much porn. Doing too much of anything that is fun leads to serious problems. I have a friend who is now unable to achieve an erection because he became addicted to porn. Our brains have all kinds of chemicals running through them that do various things, and what we input into our brain affects our neural pathways and creates physiological differences in us. It’s best to do everything in moderation!

Sinn Sage is available for custom videos or private skype shows at sinnsagemodel.com.

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