All sexuality is unique to the individual, and mine is no different. I use the term “omnisexual” because it’s related – but distinct from – “bisexual.” I find “bisexual” to be too general, since it implies that there are only two modes of desire: one for male, one for female. But gender isn’t nearly that simple. And the term “bisexual” doesn’t say anything about energy, either: It doesn’t say if you’re active, or passive, dominant, submissive, etc. So I settled on “omnisexual” because it means I’m not restricted by gender in choosing what turns me on sexually.
I am turned on by beauty, and I don’t really care what gender beauty finds itself in. Having said that, “omnisexual” hearkens back to “omnivore,” which means it’s an active sexuality – I am always hunting and fucking, like a dinosaur that eats both plants and animals. I fuck people I find beautiful: It’s that simple.
And I think it’s uniquely and classically masculine: In Ancient Greece and Rome, men found pleasure in fucking men and women interchangeably, always as “top.” That basically summarizes how I view omnisexuality, and it describes how my erotic mind works.
How I Got Inspired Into Porn
I’ve always been a huge exhibitionist. I’d always wanted to be in porn, but earlier in life, I was on a much different path. To make a long story short, all that changed in 2007 when my partner (with whom I’ve lived for 20 years) was catastrophically injured in a freak accident. That forced me to abandon my career path to care for him.
Yet in doing so, I suddenly found myself without an income and without a regular sexual outlet (we were never monogamous – it’s one of the things that kept us together). So in 2009-2010 I got into sex work, which in turn convinced me that it was time to finally jump into porn, as I had always intended. So I started out making my own solo videos on Xtube. Those generated millions of views.
Encouraged, I started working with willing amateurs in New York and I developed quite a cult following. Finally, by 2012, I attracted enough notice to get some pro shoots under my belt with kink.com. After that, things got progressively more involved with me in porn.
Challenges As An Omnisexual Adult Star
It has not been easy to express my omnisexuality in porn. I am caught between partisans on both sides of the sexual spectrum: Gay fans don’t think I’m gay enough, and people on the straight side think I’m a homo. In my early days, I did almost all gay porn. My core viewers were gay men, especially for my solo videos. My first pro shoots were gay.
After all, as a self-starter, I had to work with the audience that wanted me most. Yet I always wanted to do scenes with women, too. Kink.com shot me in some femdom scenes in 2014-15. I attracted a lot of ire from my gay fans for doing this, but I loved it and felt it expressed my sexuality better. I took more and more steps to incorporate girls – and trans girls – into my scenes, but found it hard to get any sort of mainstream recognition or representation because I was “crossover,” ie, I had done gay porn, and therefore was permanently tainted.
This was hugely discouraging to me, not just because it frustrated my ambitions, but also because it bespoke a brutal, seething prejudice in the industry. It made me feel stigmatized and powerless. It felt unjust, too, because I knew I had what it takes. I could not for the life of me get pro straight shoots, no matter how much I tried. This was difficult for me to accept, because I felt I had so much to offer and because I already had proven my worth as a reliable performer.
Overcoming These Challenges
I’m not the kind of guy to let obstacles get in the way of my goals. So I overcame them by creating my own path to achieve them. In 2015, I opened up my first clip store. I reasoned that, if no one wanted to hire me, then I’d be my own boss. I had confidence in my ability, and I had a dedicated fan base. I knew I had value. It was just a question of getting myself out there. So I decided I’d find like-minded people of all genders who also made their own content.
This led to me rebranding myself as an independent content creator. I began regularly commuting to Vegas to work with lots of independent trans and cis girls. This was a huge step. I made important connections. My social media game got stronger and stronger. More and more people began to see my work. True, I had to do all the logistics and promotion myself (with the help of my co-stars, of course), but I made steady progress. Word spread. More and more girls worked with me and saw that I had the character and ability to make great content. It didn’t matter if I was “crossover;” the independent girls didn’t give a damn.
All that mattered is that we made great porn for our respective audiences. That has been my business model ever since. I have been lucky and fortunate to work with wonderful people along the way, and to have carved myself a unique, omnisexual niche. It just keeps getting better the longer I stay in the business.
What Can The Porn Industry Improve On?
My main criticism of the industry is that it still harbors a lot of prejudice. I feel ostracized because of my crossover status and I think it’s regressive and foolish. The assumption is that I’m tainted and “dirty.” But I get the same blood tests as everyone else, just as often. My microbiology reports are just as valid as anyone else’s: In fact, I hold myself to an even higher standard to make the point that I take scrupulous care of myself, despite being “crossover.”
I think the industry can improve by taking a good, hard look at its policies towards crossover, and evaluate people on their merits, not on the gender of scene partners they’ve had in their lives.
Advice For Omnisexuals Looking To Go Into Porn
My advice to people who identify as omisexual (or some variation of bisexual) is to believe in themselves. Granted, I’m speaking to cis males mostly, since women who identify as bisexual don’t face any trouble in the industry – it’s actually considered a plus for girls. But for men, bisexuality is a serious hindrance. Yes, it’s a double standard, and a stupid one.
Still, I have shown that, with hard work, perseverance, conscientiousness, compassion, and a positive attitude you can overcome hurdles and make your own way. Make your own content, even if it’s just solo at first. Put yourself out there. Be a gentleman. Be respectful. Don’t get discouraged by short-term swings. Rely on yourself and your ability. In time, you’ll forge important friendships and good things will start happening. It’s not easy, but when it works, it’s super satisfying.
That’s the beauty of being independent: You make your own way, and when you succeed, you can thank yourself for it.
Rob Yaeger is an omnisexual, veteran porn performer based in New York and Las Vegas. He’s done hundreds of scenes since 2010 with men, women and trans women. He’s married and cares full-time for his disabled partner, Steve, with whom he’s lived since 2000. You can follow his work and life at twitter.com/yaegerman, and watch his independent porn at thefuckchronicles.com or robyaeger.manyvids.com. He’s also been fortunate enough to work with kink.com, Icon Male, TransAngels and Grooby.com. And his scenes are all over the internet, credited and uncredited.
Article images courtesy of Rob Yaeger
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