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  • Meet The Male Escort Women Pay To Sensually Dominate Them

    Meet The Male Escort Women Pay To Sensually Dominate Them

    My personal views about sex work is that all humans crave and deserve to feel connected, satiated and whole with another. Sex itself is more powerful, vast and deeper than most realize. Different cultures have developed sciences (systems) of cultivating sexual energy. On one end of the spectrum sex may be employed to feel the warmth of a lover. On the opposite end of the spectrum it may be used to become clairvoyant or communicate with other beings, spirits, etc, by delaying orgasm long enough to send a partner(s) into an ecstatic trance. Of course, a sexual embrace can be used for anything along the spectrum.

    Providing companionship to women is a compassionate, honorable and a very much needed profession. Many women go unfulfilled inside and outside of the bedroom. When a woman pushes past society’s biases and misconception about engaging me, she usually says that she wished she had engaged me much sooner.

    Are More Women Engaging Male Escorts Today?

    Certainly. In certain socioeconomic circles, straight male escorts for women are widely known, utilized and encouraged by women; sometimes even by their husbands or boyfriends. Many women prefer engaging a male escort to dating. They feel that most men lack even the basic dating, sensual or social skills. And that most, at least in the USA, are overly obsessed with their own sexual gratification, sports, violence and protecting their fragile egos.

    For the longest time it was a luxury available to only the super rich. But that’s not so now since many women are climbing the economic ladder. 

    Reasons Women Engage Male Escorts

    Women engage male escorts for many different reasons, more than I can enumerate but here are the top six reasons they engage me:

    • A partner for sensual adventures
    • A partner to dance or engage in a hobby or activity with her
    • Feel attended to and have her needs, wants and desires cared for
    • A couple engages me for a threesome or foursome
    • Accompaniment to an event
    • To know what it feels like to be with a black man

    What To Know Before Engaging A Male Escort

    First a word of caution: Most guys who are in this business shouldn’t be anywhere near this business. They don’t know the first thing about being a companion to women. Also, they either do not invest any or enough money and time to learn how to become a male escort, study the business of providing companionship to women or even develop themselves as human beings. Some may become dangerous, and violent. Others may be predators posing as escorts. Thus, a woman should exercise due diligence for her comfort and safety.

    Here are a few tips:

    • Educate yourself about engaging straight male companions for women. I recommend looking at http://www.conciergedumonde.com. It’s older and doesn’t have much activity. But it does contain good information for ladies who engage male companions or are considering doing so. The forum and its content was created by ladies who are/were clients of straight male escorts. A newer and upcoming forum is http://womenscompanionforum.eu/. Although it doesn’t contain as much information as the older one it’s nevertheless a valuable resource. It was jointly created by a client of male companion and a male companion.
    • Thoroughly investigate your potential companion’s website, social media presence, references, referrals, etc., in order to get a feel for him and what he provides.
    • Adhere to your companion’s contact, booking and etiquette instructions.
    • Study some form of combative martial arts. I highly recommend Krav Maga.

    Top 3 Misconceptions People Have About Providing Companionship To Women

    1. That a woman hires a male escort only for sex. It isn’t always about sex and it is not only about sex. It’s more about a woman who wants to connect with a man who fulfills her on multiple levels.
    2. Women who engage male escorts are desperate, unattractive, can’t get a man, etc. – First, standards of beauty are culturally defined, secondly, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Finally, many knock out gorgeous women engage me.
    3. That anyone with a penis can do this work. – Many guys try to become a straight male escort for women but they don’t have what it takes. It’s really a discipline that requires certain skills and characteristics. In North America there’s only three guys who I respect as quality companions. It takes much more than a cell phone, website and a penis to do this.

    Types Of Women Who Engage Me

    In addition to what was mentioned above about feeling connected, satiated and whole, my clients want to feel their own feminine energy and power through my masculine energy and power.

    They span the gamut of nationalities, cultures, races and religions. Some are heterosexual woman, while some are bisexual. Many have bachelors degrees and most have Masters and PHDs. In terms of professions, some are doctors, lawyers, CPA’s, college professors, business executives, entrepreneurs, athletes, artists, teachers, entertainers and even sex workers. Some are single, married, divorced, etc.

    The Stigma Associated With Sex Work

    I think that it’s hypocritical puritanical bullsh*t. Everyone craves to feel a connection, whole and satiated with another human being. Why should anyone else have a say in or even care about what consenting adults do in private to receive what we all deeply desire.

    Why Is Sensual Domination Popular Among Women?

    It’s been my experience that when a woman is very attracted to man, she really wants him to dominate and devastate her in the bedroom. Sensual domination involves taking control and leading her into an amazing sensual experience(s).

    A Typical Sensual Domination Session

    The ambiance of the room is set with candlelight, aromatherapy and music. Concerned with your pleasure and safety, I inquire about your comfort level with sensuality, and kink.

    Lightly restrained, feathery light strokes tease, sliding over the bottom of the feet to the calves, thighs, buttocks, back up to the neck. Hands follow tenderly caressing the soft tissues of the body; kneading the harder ones.

    Perfectly relaxed with my touch, you melt with eager anticipation of what’s to come next. A variety of tools and techniques are employed.

    Firm caresses slowly increase the intensity of your pleasure. You begin to tense up as the touch becomes more intimate. I take you right up to the edge of an ecstatic release. With an ever engulfing desire to be satiated, your breathing becomes shallow. The back arches, spontaneously moaning with passion.

    Sensing that the tension in your body has become both titillating and unbearable, you receive permission to release. The sexual energy pulsating throughout the entire body you burst with excitement, quivering. You bask in the afterglow, exhilarated with both the journey and finish line.

    Deep feelings of joy and connection are engendered as you lay gasping, exhilarated and breathtakingly pleased with my touch and the sensual healing secrets that you tasted. Wrapped in a blanket, I’m there with you as you calm down. You beam in the afterglow savoring the adventure that we shared together.

    Anthony Asanti – Straight Male Escort providing warm, sensual and professional companionship to women only. A Sensual Warrior who’s the world’s first and only Straight Male Escort catering exclusively to women certified in Bondassage and providing it exclusively to women. He is a formally trained CHEF in the U.S. Military who delights in preparing a succulent tasting vegan-vegetarian dining experience for the special friend. He’s appeared in many print and online media outlets, podcast articles in addition to his own articles on providing High-end Male Companionship to women which have been re-blogged and re-distributed worldwide. He has a fervent love for the arts, studying ancient and indigenous civilizations, human rights & justice, and martial arts.

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    My in-person sessions, tours, and travels were halted during this Covid-19 pandemic but have since resumed. I was scheduled to be in Huston, TX July 10th – Jul 13th. But since NY recently imposed a mandatory quarantine from those traveling from TX and a few other states more, the trip was postponed. Subscribe to my newsletter via the footer of my website for my upcoming news, tours, and travels.

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  • Consent and Autonomy As A Sex Worker

    Consent and Autonomy As A Sex Worker

    I believe sex work is a valid form of physical and emotional labour, and is inherently feminist. People from every walk of life are drawn to sex work for all different reasons. Some do it out of the luxury of privilege, some because it’s the form of labour that best suits them at this point in their life and some strictly out of survival because it is all they can do. However, it is important to remember that under the current system, all work is survivalist work as we all must trade our time and labour for currency.

    Constant Challenges To Sex Workers

    Physical safety in regards to client interaction is obviously an issue as well as obtaining safe working conditions at spas, dungeons or escort agencies since we lack unions and the ability to organize for a safe and sanitary working environment. In countries where full criminalization is in place, it is impossible to seek help from law enforcement if you’re assaulted as you are subjected to arrest for your occupation.

    Is Consent Still An Issue?

    Absolutely and I’m afraid it will until people understand that consent is not a matter of gaining all access clearance from one word or action but an ongoing subject between two people that requires constant checking in. Just because you pay someone for sex does not give you the right to do whatever you want to a person. Consent can be revoked at any time, and as one of my favourite saying goes, “a hoe CAN say no.”

    How Sex Workers Set Their Boundaries & Rules

    There exists, a wide variety of ways to go about establishing boundaries with clients, no way is right or wrong, some just work better for that particular provider, or with different clients. Some assert them verbally with clients before the session; others choose to navigate them more fluidly during the session.

    Some providers prefer to take a very black and white approach and have their boundaries and restrictions in their advertisement or websites which is why laws such as SESTA/FOSTA which prohibit online soliciting, only serve to put sex workers in further danger by prohibiting us from freely expressing what services we do and do not offer.

    Misconceptions About Autonomy 

    We’re heavily stigmatized individuals who are often devalued in worth as partners, parents, friends, and in other professions, simply due to choosing to participate in the sex trade industry. It is a common misconception that we are uneducated, party heavily, have no money management skills and can’t have a spouse because of our work. This is just simply untrue.

    We’re juggling other jobs, navigating going to university, raising families, we’re everywhere, at your gym, in line behind you at grocery stores, next to you on public transit. We are normal people just like you trying to live happily and survive.

    What Can Be Done To Remove Such Misconceptions?

    While not an option for everyone, being out as a sex worker helps to normalize our work and allows people to see us for the multifaceted human beings that we are. It is one thing to regard sex work as a legitimate form of work, it is an entirely different thing to be able to see the whole person behind the sex worker and not objectify them.

    Recently, I facilitated a workshop on deconstructing whorephobia and understanding autonomy and consent in the personal lives of sex workers outside of their work. I believe it’s everyone’s job to educate themselves on how to properly interact with sex workers in everyday life and the burden of labour should never be on the marginalized community.

    Bree Daniels – Toronto based companion, Dominatrix and content creator. They are a profound lover of cats, nature, punk and metal, martial arts and do not have time for your shit.

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  • Why It’s Okay For Men To See Sex Workers

    Why It’s Okay For Men To See Sex Workers

    With or without sex work as a job choice, I would say sex is an avenue of self discovery. I learned how to be more assertive, how to appreciate differences and how vulnerable yet liberating it could be to open yourself up to another person. I’m not a touchy feely kind of person – deep emotional interaction is my idea of hell. I’m not good with emotions, I don’t enjoy sharing mine and I don’t seek out ways to connect with others on that level. So, through sex, I’ve learned how to express feelings physically and it is a very healthy outlet for me. 

    Sex can be whatever you make it to be and I don’t know that enough people make use of that. It doesn’t have to be an act of self destruction, or dirtiness or simply for pleasure. If you have a sexual partner who is willing to experiment and teach and learn with you then sex can actually be a very, very powerful and very personal development tool.

    Reasons Men Visit Sex Workers

    I hear all sorts; wife is pregnant/menopausal/absent right through to breakups and exploring fantasies. Some wives and partners know about their male counter parts seeing escorts (some even book in for them) which I’ve always thought was quite nifty. When girls train with me, I like to remind them that they should never judge their clients based on their marital status. We don’t know whats going on in their lives and its not for us to pry.

    As a sensual masseuse, I’ve found that most of my clients with partners use massage as a way to have intimacy again in their lives, to feel validated and wanted or simply just to have a human moment of total self indulgence where the entire world is just focused on them and their needs. 

    Common Misconceptions About Sex Workers

    1. We are going to steal your man.

    I’ve been in this position a few times where friends have suddenly become concerned that I might seduce their partners. Bluntly put, sex workers are not usually after your men. We get paid to have men in our lives, a freebie for the sake of it is not high on our list of priorities. 

    2. Sex workers are riddled with STD’s.

    In New Zealand, sex workers legally have to provide services safely. This means condoms, gloves, dental dams and so on. We are aware of what could go wrong and what having and STD could mean for us, our partners/family and work.
    Compare this to a person in a club, drunk, sleeping around, forgetting condoms thinking the morning after pill will sort out any accidents, sharing drinks, kissing everyone they deem attractive… 

    Why It’s Okay For Men To Visit Sex Workers

    As long as they are not getting emotionally attached I think it’s a very safe and therapeutic indulgence. It’s a period where you are told you can not answer your phone, you aren’t being harassed by kids/family/partners/colleagues, and you can just pretend that the world spins for you and you alone. You can safely explore new fetishes or fantasies without worrying you will harm a relationship or opinion of you because sex workers are completely removed from your ‘real’ life. It’s an avenue for stress relief. It’s a moment of non-threatening human contact. 

    I do have clients who feel guilty for seeing us and I try to get them to understand that it’s ok to look after yourself in whatever way works best for you. I truly understand monogamy and that not all partners are open to it but at the end of the day, if a visit to a sex worker is what is going to keep your mental and emotional health in check then not a single person has any right to tell you it’s wrong. We all have our ways of coping with life and that is something to be respectful of, not something to be controlled. Happiness is not an illicit substance.

    What Men Should Know Before Seeing One

    1. Do your research. Check out forums with reviews, ask other punters for opinions, call said sex worker or her agency to make sure you know what is on offer and the limitations. If you are in anyway uncertain of someone, book elsewhere. 

    2. Please for love all things be hygienic. This is a very up close and personal experience. Brush your teeth (or go to the dentist – we all need our check ups) and gargle with mouth wash. Wash under your foreskin and your bottom. Then wash it again. Aim not to have body stubble – It really hurts. I’m a fan of manscaping. You would be surprised how many men have pubes longer than their penises. Long pubes get in the way of everything.

    3. Come prepared and communicate. Sex workers are awesome and some of us are pretty intuitive, but we aren’t mind readers. If you are fast to the finish line, occasionally cant even make it to the finish line, are in a weird headspace or want something in particular, tell us. It’s better when we are both on the same page. Bring some extra cash to tip or use for additional services if you think its something you want to explore.

    4. Respect our boundaries. Just because you have opted to tell us your life story, it does not mean we are obligated to tell you ours. If a woman says no, she means no. Irrespective of location, level of undress or profession – consent is sexy! Don’t be that guy who thinks that a grope is acceptable because she’s a sex worker. Unwanted physical contact is still sexual assault. 

    5. Go in with an open mind. Don’t over think it. It may be very different to what you expected and 9 time out of 10 thats a really, really good thing.

    Lacey – A multi-award winning sensual masseuse residing in Auckland, New Zealand. Care-taker/operator of Debonairs.

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