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  • Why I Feel Proud To Be A Sex Worker

    Why I Feel Proud To Be A Sex Worker

    I just celebrated my first anniversary as a provider a few months ago, but it feels like I’ve been the industry for so much longer. I previously had a few years experience as a sugar baby, and while this was quite fulfilling as well, there is nothing quite as prideful and enriching as being an independent professional. Unlike sugaring, the provider’s boundaries, safety, and preferences are first and foremost, therefore making me proud to be a part of this community and profession. If I could scream “I’m proud to be a sex worker!” from Toronto’s rooftops all day everyday, I would!

    My First Impression Of Sex Work

    Before I dipped my toe into professional companionship, I was lucky enough to have several friends in the industry, so my impression of sex work was likely slightly more educated than the average person’s. Even still, I had no idea how much I’d intimately connect with my clients and how much I’d enjoy their company. Nor did I expect how supportive and uplifting the community would be. I’m happy to say that it’s been a dream to enter this world.

    Misconceptions That Still Exist Today

    Despite a thriving culture of companions that participate in consensual sex work, there are still so many misconceptions about the industry. It seems this wonderful world is hidden away to most, and so even the idea of sex work being consensual can be contentious. Some laymen believe we’re somehow coerced or that we’re shameful and unhappy in our choice to become a sex worker. I’m here to say that is utterly and unequivocally false. I believe that if more people spoke to professional companions, a lot of unfounded ideas and prolific stigma about the industry would easily fall away.

    What Makes Me Proud To Be A Sex Worker

    I get to fulfill wishes for a living. Not just sexually (although that is a very integral part!), but rather I create moments completely independent from the worries and complications of everyday life: a private oasis curator, if you will. I’m here to listen, excite, and steal you away from your life for awhile. For me, when I’m feeling stressed or overwhelmed, I go to a masseuse. For my clients, they come to me. That feeling of making someone’s day, week, month, or year is so enriching. My job is to spread love, what’s not to love about that?

    Why Am I An Ideal Companion?

    I’ve always been a people person. However I was never the girl with a sea of friends at the club. Instead, I’ve always been one to get cosy on the couch with a glass of wine to catch up with a friend and then realize eight hours had passed since we sat down together. I love losing track of time because we’re just so engrossed in each other. Whether we’re getting down and dirty for a few hours or delving head-first into one another for a weekend, I’ve found there’s always a connection to get lost in.

    Advice For Aspiring Sex Workers

    For prospective professional companions, I say do your research. While I was in the sugar industry, I spent an entire twelve month period researching my now-colleagues and contemporaries. I visited at websites, blogs, podcasts, provider’s social medias, and more. There are so many resources to attain knowledge of the sex work industry. Some great places to start, which helped me begin, are: The Escort Deconstructed podcast, SimplySxy.com articles (I swear I’m not pandering, these were very helpful to me!), the book ‘Thriving in Sex Work’, and the KLE Collective podcast.

    Eleanore Arden, who some describe as ‘Canada’s Blonde Bombshell,’ is a companion born and raised in downtown Toronto. She enjoys long walks on the beach, flirting over oysters, and a nice, well made pair of handcuffs. When not spending time with well selected company, she is pursuing her University degree, planning her next travel adventure, or playing with her spoiled-rotten cats.

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  • Disability & Sex Work

    Disability & Sex Work

    I love sex! LOL. The weirder the better, I love roleplays and kinks, and people being fully themselves during sex. But in general, I think sexuality is an opportunity for joy.

    My Companionship Style

    I don’t think I’m necessarily the ideal companion for everyone. I’m a fat and curvy redhead who is pushing 40, and I like seeing people who appreciate that about me and see all of those things as positives. I also love seeing people who are disabled and/or kinky and/or marginalized who are looking for an authentic connection based on mutual respect and fun!

    I see all respectful clients 21+ and love vanilla sessions too, but I particularly specialize in clients with disabilities, Milf/mommy, and catering to non-impact kinks and fantasies. I have my own disabilities which limit things like hiking or going to the beach so an ideal match are clients who are comfortable with spending more indoor time. (smiling devil emoji LOL).

    Misconceptions About The Sex Lives Of People With Disabilities

    How much time do you have? I think it’s generally that disabled people aren’t sexual and aren’t currently having a ton of great sex. A lot of sex workers and clients are disabled but we don’t really talk about it that much, which is a mistake. It can give us an opportunity to connect and help me really be able to meet clients’ intimacy needs which includes their access needs.

    Exploring One’s Sexual Needs With A Disability

    I think the thing that is important is to know it’s okay to be disabled during sex. It’s okay to not want to do certain positions or not be able to do certain things, in fact – it’s normal. Everyone has sexual things that we like and don’t like, and this may or may not be related to our disabilities.

    We should all be thinking about the way our minds affect our sexuality, and disability is just one aspect. I also really encourage people to reach out to disabled sex workers if they have the ability. The relationship between an escort and a client is unique and can be a great way to help you learn about what you like and don’t like with someone who has no other agenda than your (and mutual) pleasure and joy.

    Recommended Sexual Activities Together

    I recommend people work on seeing whatever makes them unique as a strength sexually, rather than a negative. While they also affect my ability to work as much as I’d like, my chronic and mental illnesses have helped me be able to connect to clients better, even non-disabled ones. I know so much more about bodies now than I did before I was disabled.

    Don”t Be Afraid To Explore Your Sexual Needs!

    I think a lot of times, stigma is the hardest part of all. I recommend that you talk openly about disabilities and the way they affect or don’t your sex life. Of course this is AFTER you are in a sexual relationship with a disabled person. It is rude to ask disabled people about their sexuality or what they are able to do unless you are in a sexual relationship with us.

    But just like most things, I recommend having as much fun as possible and exploring whatever sounds the most pleasurable!  Sometimes that may not be sex but may be a back rub or something else! There are a lot of ways that we can be intimate with each other and disabilities only increase those opportunities!

    Kitty Milford is a Syracuse, NY based sex worker with big tits, a big, ass, and a big personality. She’s a BBW Milf redhead specializing in Milf/Mommy, non-impact kink/roleplay, gfe, and clients with disabilities. She is also a writer and used to be a lawyer and loves books, seltzer, and lingerie. Since the pandemic she’s been focusing on virtual services. See more at kittymilford.com or email her at kittymilford@gmail.com. 

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  • How People With Disabilities Explore Their Sexual Needs With Sex Workers

    How People With Disabilities Explore Their Sexual Needs With Sex Workers

    I used to be very traditional when it came to sex, but over the years, Mr Jones and I have explored and grown together into a very sex positive couple who live a very open and sexually free lifestyle.

    Misconceptions About The Sex Lives Of People With Disabilities

    People often think those that are disabled can’t have sex or don’t want to. It’s important to not jump to these conclusions. Mr Jones often says we are still humans just like everyone else, and we deserve the chance to feel pleasure even if it may not be in the traditional way.

    Exploring Mr Jones’ Sexual Needs

    Mr Jones is 35 and born with Cerebral Palsy. He uses a manual wheelchair, but honestly lives a very normal life as a husband and a father. When exploring, it is important to have constant communication and not get too discouraged if something doesn’t work.

    If we have an epic fail, we usually just laugh it off and go back to the drawing board. If we are both satisfied by the end, who cares how we had to get there as long as we got there.

    Sexual Activities We Do Together

    We do anything and everything we want, it’s just that sometimes, we have to adapt positions to match Mr. Jones physical abilities. We find it very helpful to include sex toys and even sex furniture to help enhance the experience.

    Encouraging People With Disabilities To Explore Their Sexual Needs

    Most importantly, talk openly, don’t be shy or embarrassed and communicate what you both need from each other. Do research, talk to others in similar situations as yours. Use the internet to connect and network.

    We welcome anyone to reach out to us on our social media as we are always happy to connect and talk. We use a Reddit group called r/disablednudes to connect and explore with others, and highly recommend it.

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  • Importance Of STI Safety In Sex Work

    Importance Of STI Safety In Sex Work

    Sex is my love language. Ever since I was little, I’ve too much enjoyed touches, being exposed, and being voyeuristic. Once I lost my virginity. my entire world view changed. I went from devout evangelical to devout hedonist overnight, going to sex clubs, finding strangers on craigslist personals, and becoming a sex worker.

    I believe there are ways we can tap into a shared consciousness through our bodies, through art, music etc., and sex is my my gateway into that shared consciousness. It’s a meditation on what it is to be human, and alive, and inside a body. And it’s beautiful.

    Practicing Safe Sex For Myself

    I get tested frequently and set boundaries. I feel most safe with someone who can express authenticity and communicating openly. I try to foster an environment where others feel safe to communicate openly with me so that the scary and gross topics don’t have to be off the table.

    To that end, always use a condom in work encounters. I only offer bareback services under specific conditions after that client-provider trust has been built.

    Misconceptions About Sex Workers & STIs

    People are sometimes wary of sex workers because they think we have a higher rate of STI’s — which just isn’t true. While our volume of encounters vary from worker to worker, we are on average doing more to screen our suitors, to enact strict boundaries, to skill share and learn from one another. We are better at this than you, I promise!

    Are There Rules & Boundaries?

    Yes, absolutely. Rules and boundaries are how we keep ourselves and each other safe. Every person should have their own boundaries around work-life balance, regardless if they’re a sex worker or not.

    What Activities Are High Risk For Sex Workers?

    I think the term “high-risk” is made up; it’s a classist term that is used to shame people into thinking their behaviors are somehow immoral. We all take risks every day, and the sexual risks we take as sexual beings aren’t exacerbated by doing sex work.

    That being said, it’s always risky to sleep with someone new. To kiss someone new. To meet someone at a bar. To fall in love. To have a child. It’s especially risky when your own economic situation is such that you have to ignore your instincts in order to make money. It’s risky to walk the streets alone, but doing so with another worker can lead to a trafficking charge.

    It’s risky to fuck a stranger without a condom, but for many of us it’s one form of survival or another—”Either I take this risk, or I don’t eat, pay rent, or buy diapers until I do.” The best thing you can do to reduce “risk” is to educate yourself and use your autonomy wherever possible.

    What Happens If A Sex Worker Gets A STI?

    First of all — Most people have HSV (herpes, cold sores) or HPV (human papilloma virus). You should always assume any given partner has one or both of these and make your choices from a place of that reality.

    When a sex worker contracts something other than those very common viruses, we do the same thing everyone else does — we try to get better and (hopefully) alert recent partners.

    Mona Knotte – A GFE and fetish provider in Seattle, WA. She loves to drink coffee, watch stupid movies in her underwear, and cause a raucos on the internet. She is an avid harm reductionist, lover of 420, and long philosophical discussion. Her big tits match a big brain and acute-as-a-button smile. She would love to do more travelling and is passport ready!

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  • What People Don’t See About Sex Work

    What People Don’t See About Sex Work

    I love sex work. I have gone through a rollercoaster of feelings regarding the industry. There’s a lot of shame due to the stigma society has placed on it. In my first year in the industry, I was outed by a companion who did not even know me. She found out my personal information from a photographer. I am very active in non-profit volunteer work, and this woman contacted them. Shortly after that, I retired then eventually rebranded. Because of this, it made me not trust any other women in the industry until these two beautiful women, Ava and Miranda, took me under their wings and showed me how beautiful relationships in the industry could and should be.

    I have met the most amazing people in this line of work. These deep connections are something that I will always hold very close to my heart. A month ago, I released my face and showed all my tattoos, it was a scary decision, but I decided to do this because I love what I do, and I am tired of pretending that I don’t. I am even more tired of hiding.

    Misconceptions About Sex Workers

    A lot of people view sex workers as not being smart people. I am educated, and I am currently working on another degree. Most of the women that I work with are also educated. I know from when I have shared my secret with people in my “civvie” life that think it’s dirty or gross. I am a very clean person.

    When I hear sexual stories from my civvie friends, I am like, woah; I would never do that. I do a lot of research and background check the people I see. And the people I see I truly do connect with – If I sense that anything is off in the screening, I will not book. My safety is of the utmost importance to me.

    All sex workers are different. We are human, and just like in any industry, all the people involved are different. Yes, I like money. Most people from normal society view us as gold diggers or money-hungry. With the money I make in the industry, I have created impressive businesses, events, volunteer opportunities, and non-profits. 

    How Competitive Is The Sex Work Industry?

    I recently moved to Tampa from Michigan. And have spent a significant time in NYC. My favorite city hands down is NYC. I’m still new to Tampa, so I am still feeling out the industry. I think my price point for this area is much higher than the average rate.

    I haven’t met with a lot of people since my move here. I have heard from other ladies in the area that it’s not a super busy place, but I am close to the airport so it is working for me! 🙂 I have amazing people who book Fly Me To You’s, which is my preference anyway. 

    Challenges & Difficulties Facing Sex Workers

    How we connect to people is on a deep level. I can’t speak for all sex workers, but for myself, I’ve had challenges when I see the same person every week, then all of a sudden I don’t hear from them again. This is part of the work and part of the transaction piece, so I get it, but I am still human and have a very big heart.

    My main duo partner retired amidst a tour we were supposed to do together. She was one of my closest friends. When she retired, it felt like a breakup. I am still pretty sad about it all.

    But another huge challenge is keeping the lies straight if you’re hiding your secret life. Many people will ask me where I am and what I’m doing. I can’t tell them that I’m flying here or there because that will get more questions. People in my personal life who do not know all of me assume I sit at home with my cats all the time. 

    Will The Situation Change For Sex Workers In Future?

    To be successful in this career, you have to keep a strong balance. Open your heart enough to connect fully. Connection is the main piece of fully healing. But also, keep up a boundary so that you don’t become too attached and hurt. The tools that I use in sex work are the same tools I use with therapy clients.

    For me, a good self-care routine is essential: Meditation, yoga, rituals, journaling, reading, and being out in nature. It is also vital that you feel yourself coming out of balance to take a step back, deep breath, and process it all. To me, sex-work is healing work, and if you, the healer, aren’t healed, that energy will transfer over to your client. 

    Advice For Aspiring Sex Workers

    Sex work can be a very beautiful experience. If you are not mentally aligned though, it can chew you up and spit you out. Good friends in the industry help, having support, community, and advice has changed my life. Be careful who you allow yourself to connect with, though, not everyone is nice. 

    Brooklyn Monroe – Sacred Confidant, sexual healer, partner in crime.

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    2020 has been an incredible year. I sold my business in Michigan. I am currently working on a brand new holistic/witchy online store where I will be giving special discounts for sex workers. I am in a training program to facilitate plant medicines. And once planes start flying, I plan to open a center in Central America. I want to create large retreats for sex workers where they can process everything and heal. If the retreat is only for sex-workers, I feel like no one will have to hide, and that is where true healing will come. I am working on a degree in Behavioral Sciences that I will be finishing in August. My goal is to become a therapist for sex workers. Good Mental health is critical to me. When people know that I am a sex worker, they will feel comfortable talking to me about everything. Some ups and downs come with sex work, and I want to help when the downs are there. Additionally, I’m working on a clothing line where all profits will go to a non-profit in Detroit, Answer Detroit. 

    My home base is currently Tampa; I would love to meet more friends in the area.

    My upcoming tours are:

    12.11: My Birthday 🙂

    1.18-1.19 Detroit, Troy MI w/ Zara Brooks

    1.19-1.22: Michigan w/ Zara

    2.5.21-2.8.21: Tucson

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  • My Experiences In Sex Work

    My Experiences In Sex Work

    Since I have become a sex worker, I have come to understand sex as a genuine means of expression. A craft if you will, that improves and expands, and makes everybody unique. It can be used to express emotion: love, happiness… It can even serve as a refuge for sadness.

    My Understanding Of Sex Work Before Going Into It

    I have always been curious about it, because I was aware of the power of female sexuality.

    I was especially enticed after reading the book King Kong Theorie by Virginie Despentes, who used to be a sex worker herself, and who was at the time the partner of Queer philosopher Beatriz Preciado. Thanks to these authors, I began to see sex work as a means of female empowerment, as it was related to sex-positive feminism.

    Why I Love Sex Work

    I got initiated to sex work by sugaring. I like the thrill, the ability to meet people I would otherwise never meet, and of course the financial freedom it provides.

    Misconceptions About Sex Work

    I think a lot of people think sex workers are shallow and materialistic. There are shallow and materialistic people everywhere. But some of the escorts I know are amongst some of the most intelligent, cultivated and creative people I have met.

    What Is The Sex Work Industry Like?

    This is a really broad question. There are many branches of sex work: high end escorting, escorting, camming, sugaring, BDSM… Then inside those categories, there are the individuals that make each business (the business being: the person) unique in it’s own way. It’s an industry where you are allowed and encouraged to use your creativity.

    Advice To Aspiring Sex Workers

    I think it’s important to consume as much material as you can on the subjects. As an escort, I consume books, YouTube videos and podcasts about escorting. This is to know about the craft, but also in order to feel like I belong somewhere and what I do is legitimate work. It’s very easy to feel alone in this business or to feel that you are doing something “wrong”, if you don’t have the right support system.

    Lia Lazuli – An international high-class companion based in Brussels. Lia speaks 5 languages and loves reading, jogging and hiking. Her clients are mostly classy gentlemen, who are also up for a good laugh and of course, a nice conversation. 

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  • The Stigma Of Sex Work Part II – How It Compromises Sex Workers

    The Stigma Of Sex Work Part II – How It Compromises Sex Workers

    The vast number of people I see and speak to are very respectful and they appreciate the time I give them. There are people that feel they have a right to waste our time, maybe because they don’t feel sex workers should be respected; they will ask for you to send free pictures or videos, as if it is our job to encourage their business by giving them free services. I usually ask them, “would you go to work if your boss wasn’t going to pay you? So why should I?” There can also be complete disrespect for your work/life balance as they feel you must work 24/7.

    I have a very strict boundary around my work and my personal life and my work does not happen at my home. If I had £1 for every time someone asked if I could do a video call in the bathroom whilst I’m at home with my family, I’d be a millionaire!!

    There is also the nastier side to the stigma around sex workers, that make some people feel like they have paid for us so our body are theirs to use as they wish, regardless of our own personal boundaries and limits. I am very fortunate that I have never seen anyone like this and I truly feel that organisations like Client Eye and National Ugly Mugs help identify these individuals and ensure escorts have a better understanding of the people they will potentially meet, but I am aware that not all sex workers have been as lucky as me.

    It is not just clients we have to be cautious of. The police are also a cause for concern. These are the people who are supposed to protect every citizen, the people I pay my taxes to ensure they are defending our streets. There should not be bias or prejudice and yet some of them are.

    In 2013, 25 premises in Soho, London were raided by the Police. The police invited members of the media to take pictures and document the raids. It was stated that the raids were to look for stolen goods, drug dealing and to tackle trafficking but sex workers were removed from their flats, some dragged out half naked into the street and arrested. Their money and possessions were confiscated by the police. This was all done to ‘save’ the sex workers from this life but the way they were treated was disgusting. Any migrant sex worker was turned over to the UK Border Agency under the assumption that they were victims of trafficking.

    Many of the sex workers stated that they were not being forced to work, but were handed over regardless. The officers during this raid did not care about the safety of these women or the effect it would have on their personal lives. The media and the general public who posted pictures of these women online didn’t care for their safety or the effect it would have on their personal lives. Sex work is legal in the UK. There are elements that aren’t, such as no more than one sex worker in the same property. There was no evidence that any of the women from the raids were in that situation yet they were all treated as criminals.

    When the people that are in the position of holding up the law, treats sex workers like vermin and allow the press to be part of it, how can we possibly break down the walls of stigma and prejudice.

    Is This Situation Due To A Lack Of Education Or Ignorance?

    I think it’s both. Generations have looked down on sex workers. Families have educated and continued to embed these same false stereotypes to their children but thankfully, the current young generation are questioning all they are being taught and as a result have become more open, liberal and accepting, to the groups of people that for generations, have been tarnished with these stigmas and stereotypes. The young are starting to make change possible.

    Mainstream media does not help at all. Just a few months ago, there was a show broadcast in the UK that had me screaming at my TV because they portrayed the sex workers in the show in a very negative light. I believe they wanted the nation to think all sex workers are ‘broken’ but that isn’t the case. Sex work empowers both men and women to take control of their sexuality. This work has empowered me and so many others; so many sex workers choose this profession over regular jobs. I have never been as enthusiastic and passionate about any other job than I am about my work right now.

    How Can These Stigma Be Removed Or Reduced?

    Why do newspapers, TV, media feel that showing sex workers in a negative light is the right way to portray us? I am sure they think that they will encourage a whole generation to become sex workers but that would not be the case. The same way that I could not be a carer in a nursing home wiping faeces from pensioners arseholes, is the same way not every person could be a sex worker. It takes a special kind of person and it’s not for everyone.

    I know there are many men and women in the sex industry that have had horrific experiences and I don’t wish to disregard what has happened to them and I don’t wish the media to overlook them either but until the media starts showing sex workers from every angle, the good, the bad and including male sex workers, who never seem to get a mention, then people won’t be able to see the full spectrum of sex workers, from street sex workers to high class escorts and everything in between. Every one of us has stories to tell about our experiences, whether positive or negative but we need a non-judgmental, non-biased format to do it. Not a TV company knowing how they want the end production to look like, but an open-minded production that allows the stories of everyone to naturally progress rather than twisting them.

    We live in a world that makes it very difficult to change people’s opinions. Even though society has progressed massively with regards to sex, sexual orientation, gender identity, race and religion, those changes have not been quick and are still nowhere near eradicated. The stigma and stereotyping around sex workers will not disappear over night.

    In all of the cases, to quote the late Whitney Houston, “I believe the children are our future”. They are the ones who will question the bigots and the uneducated. They are the ones who will demolish those walls, but there are many things we can do in the meantime.

    We all need to do our bit to start removing the bricks from those walls. Portray the image that we want for sex workers, demanding the respect we deserve, call-out the media when they are negatively portraying us. We can make a difference, even if it’s only small because if we aren’t willing to fight for the equality we deserve, who else will.

    “Be the change that you wish to see in the world.” – Mahatma Gandhi

    Sadie – I am a sexy, sensual British SSBBW, UK size 32. I’m an escort, a Webcam model and a Content Creator. I am very down to earth and my clients say I’m very easy to talk to and to open up to. My main escort service is GFE (Girlfriend Experience) as I love kissing, touching and caressing and my clients really enjoy that with me. I am also part of the Rose Talks Sex debate team, which you can follow on Twitter @rosetalkssex .

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    With COVID, all escorting is on hold but I am working very hard to create more content for online and give my subscribers and buyers what they want. I’m looking into setting up my own website although that will take a while. I am also making contact with other sex workers so that we can collaborate on some work once it is safe to meet up after COVID. So watch this space!!

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  • The Stigma Of Sex Work Part I

    The Stigma Of Sex Work Part I

    I am an Escort, a Webcam model and a Content Creator and I love my job. I’ve been escorting for nine years now (on and off) and web-camming for almost two years but it’s the last year that I have really been expanding my business and my ‘brand’.

    I love meeting new people, whether that is in person or via webcam and helping them explore their fantasies. I love interacting with people on webcam and the phone. But more than anything, I love helping those people that need the special interaction that only sex and a sex worker can give them. For those people, it isn’t just about sex; it’s about being intimate and close to someone, which is something they don’t get in their personal lives.

    During the COVID pandemic and lockdown, I have not been able to meet clients, so I have turned my focus to online services; webcam sites and uploading videos and pictures onto selling and subscription sites. I have been very aware that so many people need someone to talk to, especially if they are isolating at home alone and I always greet people who come into my chatrooms on the webcam sites as I want everyone to feel welcome, whether they have money to spend or not; it’s a difficult time for everyone at the moment. So many people have thanked me for talking to them. Those who cannot afford to pay for private shows today, might be able to another day.

    With any job, there are parts of it you don’t enjoy; time wasters are a nuisance and some people feel you are there just to talk to them any time of the day or night without any mention of paying for services. I get phone calls from private numbers a lot which can get very annoying; it’s very disrespectful but over time, you develop ways to handle them.

    There’s more admin than most people realise. We don’t have a team of administrators (I wish I did) so every phone call, text message and email can only be replied to by me, and every promotional poster and social media post is created and uploaded by me. I also have my accounts to produce for my tax returns. I wouldn’t want to do any other job though.

    Stigma That Surrounds Sex Work Today

    There are many people that are completely fine with sex work and find it all really interesting. There are other people that are fine with the online work but isn’t comfortable about the escorting. Unfortunately, the vast majority of people see it as a negative. They think it’s dirty and seedy and can’t understand why someone would sell themselves. They also believe, all people that seek services from sex workers are grubby, middle-aged men that have no regard for you as a person. In my experience, this has not been the case and these assumptions and stereotypes are incorrect.

    Dehumanising sex workers happens too often. Sex workers are made to feel like they don’t matter or that their lives aren’t important due to narrow-mindedness and people’s morals. The media doesn’t help this by only reporting on the very tragic or the very glamourous sex workers. It feels very apparent that the media doesn’t want to normalise the sex industry.

    Simple things, like opening a business bank account has been very difficult for me. I am registered as self employed with HMRC (Her Majesty’s Revenue and Customs) as an Escort. Escorting in the UK is legal. I had four bank account applications turned down. My credit history is very good. I was not asking for an overdraft or a bank loan; just a bank account in my business name so my clients did not know my real name and keeps me and my family safe. Three bank accounts would not explain why my application was declined. The fourth one was honest enough to tell me that “we cannot support someone in your line of work”. In the end, I seeked advice to ensure I couldn’t get in trouble and applied for a bank account as a beautician. My application was accepted within a few days. Since then, I have moved bank accounts and it is stated on their terms and conditions that you cannot receive any money for sex related work. It is a worry but I need a business account.

    Adult content and web-camming sites have shocked me, as the vast majority of them are very anti-escorting. It is fine for you to sell pornographic material or sell private webcam shows but if they find out you are an escort they can delete your page without warning and in most cases, keep the money you have earned. I didn’t realise how split the adult industry was; some aspects of it is okay yet other aspects aren’t.

    Even in my personal life, stigma is everywhere. My parents don’t want anyone to know what I do because they are embarrassed. They support me the best they can but they would rather I had a “normal” job. My family lie to my grandparents, uncle’s and auntie’s, and in turn, so do I.

    It is the negative connotations and stigma surrounding the job I love, that stops me from shouting from the rooftops that “I’m a sex worker and proud of it”!! This is a career I have chosen but I know my children would have a difficult time through bullying or name calling if locals knew and I don’t want that for them.

    The media love to portray the extreme cases, either the tragedy or the glamorous but there are people like me that sit nicely in the middle that are just as important in this industry. It is only by showing the full spectrum, can people start to understand what our work is like, and hopefully walls can start to be broken down. I can’t help but feel like the media doesn’t want to ‘normalise’ sex work.

    Sadie – I am a sexy, sensual British SSBBW, UK size 32. I’m an escort, a Webcam model and a Content Creator. I am very down to earth and my clients say I’m very easy to talk to and to open up to. My main escort service is GFE (Girlfriend Experience) as I love kissing, touching and caressing and my clients really enjoy that with me. I am also part of the Rose Talks Sex debate team, which you can follow on Twitter @rosetalkssex .

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    With COVID, all escorting is on hold but I am working very hard to create more content for online and give my subscribers and buyers what they want. I’m looking into setting up my own website although that will take a while. I am also making contact with other sex workers so that we can collaborate on some work once it is safe to meet up after COVID. So watch this space!!

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  • Why You Should Enjoy Montreal With A Companion

    Why You Should Enjoy Montreal With A Companion

    I would like to mention that I have never worked for an agency so I can only speak of my experience as an independent companion, that being said, I think escorting is a largely misunderstood industry full of unwarranted, negative misconceptions. Escorting may not be for everyone, and I definitely suggest doing research before booking your first client, but for those who want to try it, I highly recommend it.

    I started my research simply by Googling how to be an escort and just went from there. Since becoming a companion, my quality of life has improved significantly in many ways, and my only regret is that I didn’t start sooner. I have gained so much confidence and self esteem. It is a huge rush of empowerment to be paid for my time. Yes there are risks, but since I have a screening process that all potential clients must complete before I meet them, I honestly don’t think escorting is any more or less dangerous than traditional dating.

    Strangers are strangers, no matter how or where you meet them. The incredible people I have met, the fantastic experiences I have had, and the spectacular opportunities that have presented themselves that I otherwise would have missed out on, are life changing rewards that far outweigh the risks.

    What Makes Me An Ideal Companion

    I am your typical fiery red head. Full of passion and lust for life and adventure. As independent and free spirited as I am, I’m also very intuitive and affectionate. I believe it’s this balance of affectionate independence that makes me an ideal companion. It means I am especially attentive to my date’s needs while also knowing when to back off and never seem needy. I have a more submissive personality in general but I love expanding my boundaries so I never pass up the chance to play a more dominant role when requested.

    I have a particularly unique blend of shy yet playful sensuality, mixed with confident desire that is very attractive to my dates. I also have a quick and witty sense of humour and I love to laugh. Having fun is always my goal no matter what I’m doing, however I do understand how to remain tasteful and appropriate to the specific situation. My sense of fun and adventure and positivity are all attitudes that my dates find very attractive.

    My easy going nature means I adapt seamlessly to any situation and feel comfortable just about anywhere, allowing my dates to be reassured I will always be enhancing their experience no matter where we go or what we do. I’m as comfortable at the ballet or theatre as I am in a strip club and I love balancing the formal fancy evenings with the more casual and kinky events. I love dressing up and being glamorous as much as I love getting dirty.

    How To Enjoy Montreal With Me!

    To have the best, most well rounded experience of both me and Montreal, I like to spend at least 2-3 days with my clients. I am happy to spend just an hour or two with my date, and can still create an intimate and passionate atmosphere, but having 2 to 3 days together allows for even more passion and intimacy to build and develop. The extra time provides a much more exciting and attractive experience. Plus, there is so much to do in a city like Montreal and something for every taste.

    I love to customize dates according to my clients interests. Just a few examples include spa themed weekends, sporting events, live music, theatre and ballet themed weekends, even kinky sex dungeon, and swingers club themed weekends. In a city like Montreal, the possibilities are truly endless. From the casino for fun and gambling, to old Montreal and the old port for some culture and history, to the downtown core for all the best shopping, to La Ronde, the amusement park with the evening fireworks display that is always exciting and romantic. Not to mention the wonderful museum exhibits to visit, gourmet restaurants to try and festivals to experience.

    If it’s not possible to spend 2 or 3 days with me, I can easily rearrange any portion of the themed dates to fit whatever time we do have together and still create a sensual world just for us. I have no doubt social distancing will continue to limit the events available throughout the next few months, but that doesn’t mean we can’t still have fun, we just have to be a bit more creative.

    What A Gentlemen Needs To Prepare Prior To Our Engagement

    The first thing the potential client should do is visit my web site to verify my rates and services to make sure I am offering what they are looking for at a budget they can afford. The next thing a potential client should do is plan which days and what times they would like to schedule with me. They should then contact me at least 24 hours before they would like to see me to make sure I am available. This gives me the time I need to check my schedule and get ready without having to rush. The last thing a potential client should prepare is the screening info I ask for, which is either a picture of their face, a copy of their ID or active social media info, or a reference of another provider they have seen in recent months.

    My preference is a picture of their face but depending on the situation, the other forms of screening info can also be accepted. It may shock some people to know I ask for pictures of clients faces, but a lot of clients actually take the initiative and send me selfies even before I ask for them. I understand if this can be uncomfortable for some clients which is why I offer other methods. If a client is uncomfortable with every method and does not want to give any screening info then I don’t schedule the date.

    Rules To Follow During Our Time Together

    Impeccable personal hygiene is a top priority. Showering everyday and certainly before we meet, making sure everything is fresh and clean is the most important. Also, proper manners are a must. Please and thank you are very sexy to me. I like doors being opened for me, and my chair being pulled out for me, and any chivalrous opportunity is well appreciated.

    Respecting boundaries, and asking permission before doing anything are also very good habits for a client to have. Usually, as long as a client is courteous and treats me with respect, most everything else tends to fall into place on it’s own.

    Krissy Phoenix – Fiery red head who is the perfect combination of sweet and sultry. Born in Canada from Scottish/Hungarian heritage. At 5’8″, 130lbs and size 8 feet, I have a slim build with long slender legs, perky, natural breasts, luscious ruby lips, sparkling green eyes, a gorgeous thick mane of curly red hair and smooth silky skin. Along with my physical attributes, my positivity, warm smile and playful giggle are just some of my most attractive features.

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  • What Does The Future Hold For The Sex Work Industry?

    What Does The Future Hold For The Sex Work Industry?

    Sex work is the oldest profession for a reason. Early on, we humans realized that in order for civilization to be civilized, it’s base compulsions and behaviors needed an ordered focus. Enter religion, arena sports and sex work. Brothels were some of the most successful businesses’ and prostitutes were property owners and political leaders in ancient Egypt, Greece and Rome.

    They (pun intended) had their finger in every aspect of the daily life of their community. I am proud to be a part of this industry! I believe the modern provider has the opportunity to be just as influential as their ancient counterparts.

    What The Industry Was Like Pre-Covid

    I started in the industry before the internet when advertising was done on the Sunday sports page, back pages of free weekly’s (yes that’s why and where Backpage started) and in the phone book. The internet changed everything. It expedited the process of finding and booking quality encounters. It also made it easier to communicate with other providers and patrons in real time. The information exchange was crucial to safety, discretion and independence.

    The biggest change began during FOSTA/SESTA and has been exacerbated by the pandemic scare. It’s widen the divide between everybody. Our industry feels sometimes like a deserted island. However, services like cashapp and venmo are game changers and have made it easier and safer between client and provider exchanges. Now, the independent provider has the opportunity to do what third party platforms like webcamming could only provide. It’s exciting because it broadens your reach and opportunities from small local and touring markets to world wide possibilities.

    How Covid Has Changed The Industry

    Initially it was scary because overnight, the world was shut down. I am also a bartender in the French Quarter and we had no notice or time to prepare. We were affected weeks before everybody else. If it were not for our resourcefulness that NOLA’s always been about when it comes to helping each other, I’ve no idea what I and my co-workers and other friends in the hospitality industry would have done.

    I started a Gofundme that first week because even my Mom thought I was overreacting. We had ZERO money coming in and most of us are hand to mouth and paid under the table. My patrons and fellow bartenders came through with online money immediately. The very first and now largest relief efforts outside of that help has been provided by the FQ hospitality industry. During the stay at home order, the worse thing really was the BOREDOM. Everybody felt that.

    Adapting To The New Norm

    I’ve started things like the Gofundme I mentioned earlier to honestly guilt some people into understanding service work of any sort cannot be addressed with a 9-5 mentality generally, but especially in a crisis. I’ve begun to use the online cash exchanges and concentrated on building my brand in a more online intensive direction.

    I just launched my ONLYFANS page and am amazed at the response. The change feels great! After all, the concern is for our health and wealth, and we are poised to turn the corner stronger as people and providers deciding what’s right for us.

    Shaping The Future Of Sex Work

    Online services and branding in social media expanding beyond where it is now. We had a fight with navigating the debacle that was FOSTA/SESTA especially and the government and law enforcement response. As a member of ESPU and SWOP, our challenge is to educate everyone on why working together is the only way to move forward. There simply is no other choice.

    There has been a disturbing misogynistic trend with a lot of the online sites and businesses’ that ‘cater to the provider. Everything changed instantly. None of the sites that protected us still exist. It’s trial and error. It can be disheartening and defeating. We are more exposed to abuse and violence than ever before with less recourse. That’s what’s exciting and a relief about online services. You’re more independent and are removed from the possibilities of the ‘worse case scenarios.’ It still doesn’t solve the issues we face and will continue to until the work is decriminalized. That has little chance of happening when we are up against a government that is out of touch.

    The National Council On Women’s Health which passes laws governing what we are allowed to do with our physical bodies as women has ZERO women sitting on it. Until that type of inequity changes, we are fucked as a country and a world. Pandemic or no.

    Advice For Future Sex Workers

    Be smart. Never rush into anything. Develop your persona and image. The consistency with how you look and book will affect your revenue. There is no magic solution but if you treat the business as such and realize how much fun you can have while making sometimes in an hour what most make in a week, it will be hard to have a civilian job ever again. However, NEVER lose sight that no matter what, your safety and peace of mind are more valuable than any amount of money. Scared money never wins.

    Jodi Jonez – I am a New Orleans premier mature companion. Southern born and bred showing you a good time’s in my DNA! LAISSEZ LES BON TEMPS ROULER!

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