Tag: Orgasm

How I like him to thrust during Sex

I would like to think that I have fairly open views concerning sexuality. Sex is a very important part of life, and a key ingredient in any healthy relationship. I think that sex is often given a bad rep in the media, and that people who step outside of what is considered ‘polite’ by hetero-normative standards are often punished for defying the status quo. I wish North Americans had more liberal views towards nudity and the human body; that we spent more time admiring its beauty rather than oscillating between the polar extremes of body/slut shaming and hyper sexualization.

It’s hard for me to pin down the kind of sex that I like, variety being the spice of life. I most enjoy when a partner is open, spontaneous and playful. It is great that so many men find arousing their partners incredibly sexy, so not much to complain about there!

How he should thrust during sex

It is always better (in my opinion) to build up the pace of thrusting during sex rather than come out of the gate swinging. If you start at your max pace, you have nowhere to go from there. The speed and style of your foreplay should give you an indication of how to begin. If the lead up was slow and sensual, you’ll want to start at a slower pace. If however, your foreplay was passionate and involved, then you can go for more gusto right from the get-go. Her behavior will also let you know how quickly and or deep she wants you to thrust. A woman who is pushing on your lower back, or has both of her hands on your hips is generally signaling that she either likes the pace, or is indicating for you to thrust harder. Of course, if she says something along the lines of ‘harder’ or ‘faster’, it’s a pretty safe bet that you can step things up. A hand on the chest is an obvious sign to slow down if she is bracing against you.

Once into the swing of things, I prefer a guy to pick up the pace, at which point thrusting deeper is usually appreciated. It helps to wait until a woman is really wet for this, so that the sex is comfortable and deeper thrusting doesn’t result is her being uncomfortable. Going deep but slowly is a great sensation, especially if you grind your pelvis into your ladies. The pressure of going deep coupled with clitoral stimulation is a great combination.

If she comes first (congratulate yourself, modern gentleman), slow the pace until she has caught her breath (literally and metaphorically). Many women, myself included, are very sensitive after an orgasm and intense pressure can feel awkward.

My favorite position

If you can line it up where the man is standing (usually in front of the bed) and the woman is lying down then that makes for a great position to go deep and fast. If you can grab under the woman’s pelvis and lift her up it allows you to go much deeper than if she simply laid back.

Sometimes, the roles are reversed

I am all about gender equality. I prefer to set the pace when I am on top, it’s one of the reasons I like the position so much. Plus, it is nice to be able to lay back sometimes and just enjoy the moment, and I really like to be able to give that pleasure to my partner.

Kate Anderson is available for Skype shows by request and you can contact her at kateandersonwa@gmail.com and follow her at her website kateanderson.modelcentro.com or on Twitter https://twitter.com/kateandersonwa

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August 21, 2015
Spice up your sex life!

I was an innocent one all through high school, but shortly after when I finally entered that moment into sexual activity I was rather confused at how short lived and lacking connection it had considering I had always gathered the perception it was something adventurous while also being diversely emotional. So after that initial experience I set out on a mission to understand this new world I had entered into. That one pivotal moment opened my mind and body to experiencing new sexual adventures in hopes to better understand my body and my desires. Exploring was the only way to make that happen and on that note there will be more to come on that topic.

Spice up your sex life with these tips

I applaud those who are intrigued to experience all sex has to offer. However, one of the best ways to truly open your mind to finding ways to add more “spice” is to realize the importance of intimacy, whether it be in a relationship or something casual. Either way your mind will dictate you body, therefore developing a strong internal connection between the two will open you mind to exploring.

Now, let’s add some spice! Porn! Whether you really enjoy watching it or it is something you could take or leave, porn is incredibly educational. Now keep it mind, porn is still a fantasy so take what you like from it and leave what you do not. Start watching porn, either solo or with company. It will give you a chance to discover what turns you on and what does not. Also, it gives you a visual to show your partner what you may be open to.

I want to address another topic. I will be brief for now as we can dive in deeper another day. Threesomes, swinging and more. This is a way to add spice. However, it is not for everyone and often should be left as a fantasy never meant to be lived out. If you do though consider this idea, communicate your thoughts and desire before anything happens. Whether you’re a couple or single, guidelines are essential and often a make or break with being able to enjoy it.

But what if my partner is not into it?

It is all about trust and security. Sex is a very vulnerable act. Each person needs to be comfortable in themselves, but they also need to feel comfortable with the other half involved. Start with communicating your thoughts. Trying something new sexually with a hesitant partner takes patience and proper communication. However, you never know what someone is open to unless you ask. I find often people are too afraid to ask for fear of being judged. Be open, be honest, and just ask.

Sometimes, accidents happen..

Oh my, yes of course. One time my boyfriend at the time and myself were playing around and I was giving him a massage. He was laying on my bed, back facing up. I was straddling him. He, hating anything to do with feet, would never want anyone to come even close to touching them. So to continue, I was telling him about a segment from a radio show that involved sexual acts and feet. For whatever reason, I turned towards his feet, not touching anything, but he reacted and kicked his heel into my face. Wow that hurt! Still to this day he likes to tell people that story. Fortunately he allows me to remain nameless.

To best describe myself beyond a single mother of two, I am a former small town girl who has always know life is a journey and to enjoy each little step along the way. In many ways I am like everyone else. I work, I raise my kids, I spend time with friends and overall I take on each challenge life throws my way the best way I know how at the time. On that note, I am also unique from the majority in that I believe in being open, honest, and direct with myself. That is most likely my strongest appeal. Everyone has a story and as I share mine to others, I enjoy even more hearing the story of others. Particularly I look forward to sharing my sexual journey as from the moment of inception it has been quite a ride (no pun intended). Read Lexi Ross‘ profile below and follow her links!

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August 12, 2015
Fingering techniques to give her an orgasm everytime

My name is Luna Lace and I sell my used panties, socks, bras, and things like that online. I am a 24 year old Latina. I would have to say that I am somewhat of a closet exhibitionist. If there is such a thing. It really turns me on to be a part of someones’ fantasies. I love to know that people are getting off to me doing dirty things. I keep my anonymity because that way it’s my naughty secret. No one knows that I’m a used panty seller and they would be so shocked to find out. The whole thing is such a turn on.

I love fingering! Both giving and receiving. I am a bisexual, and what they say is true, “a woman knows what a woman wants.” That’s not to put down any of the men that I’ve been with. I’ve had quite a few male lovers that have known their way around a clit. It’s just the way women are built. For a woman to get the maximum amount of pleasure, you’ve got to hit the button. Some of the best orgasms of my life have been by combining penetration with fingering. Fingering is also a very important part of foreplay. Sometimes I really need to be touched and teased in order to get my juices flowing. And it is definitely worth it if you do.

Kinky places to get fingered…

The answer to that is anywhere you can. It is such a thrill to do it in public places. The thrill of getting caught only adds to the excitement. It can make sex like a game or a race to see if my partner and I can climax before we get caught. I’ve never been caught. Thankfully. But I have had one or two close calls. For instance, once my boyfriend at the time could not wait to eat my pussy. It was one of the first times we had fooled around so I was extra excited. We pulled the car over into an empty parking lot and he went at it. Luckily, I was so turned on that I came pretty quickly. As soon as I had finished and we started to pull away, a cop drove past us in the parking lot.

One of the best fingering experiences of my life was was with a woman quite accidentally at the beach. We had been flirting all night long and decided to take a late night walk by the beach. That turned into a pretty hot and heavy make out session. She reached her hand up my skirt and massaged my clit until I came. Right there in front of everyone. It was such a turn on to do it so out in the open and that no one noticed.

Fingering techniques every men should know…

I think the most important thing with fingering is the build up. The clit is a very sensitive and mysterious organ. It’s not something that you can just dive right in. Start with a slow up and down motion or side to side. Barely touching. Always pay attention to the woman’s reaction. She’ll let you know if you are touching it right by moaning or arching her back. You’ll start to feel her pussy getting wetter. Once she gets good and wet, then you can start applying more pressure. Most importantly, if you find the speed and pressure she likes, don’t stop!! The worst thing you can do is find that special spot and lose it before she can climax.

I’m also a fan of a two hand technique. Sit in front of your woman with her spread eagle. That way you get to watch too. Open her pussy and pull back the hood of the clit with one hand and rub up and down with one of the fingers of your other hand. From this position you can also use one hand to massage her clit and stick one, two, or how fingers are needed from the other hand into her pussy.

Don’t rush it. Take your time and she will definitely appreciate it. She’ll spend more time and effort pleasuring you if she sees that you’ve made the effort to make her feel good.

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August 3, 2015
Is sex without a condom more enjoyable?

Hello readers, I’m Leanna Monroe, a transgender female that works in the adult porn industry. I’m 28 years old and from a small village called Woodsfield Ohio. I started working in the porn industry in June 2014. Since then I have finally loved my job!

My views on sex are probably a lot different than most of the “so called normal society”. I believe you can be in a committed relationship, and still have sex with others. When I am on set, sex is my job and has absolutely no feelings behind it. Whereas sex with my fiance is completely different, we actually make love. Having sex with others also allows you to explore your sexuality as well as things your life partner may not be into. Just cause someone has sex with someone else while in a relationship, doesn’t mean they don’t love that person, it just means they have sexual desires that needs fulfilled. Sex is art! All art is beautiful regardless who it is with!

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Safe sex is extremely important these days with all of the STD’s that are out there. But at the same time I must agree with the men on this! Sex is much more enjoyable without a condom! For myself, if I have sex outside of the porn industry I always use condoms! Condoms take the amazing feeling away! You don’t get the full sensation as you would without! Plus me, personally would rather have sex without a condom! Not only does it feel better but the actual penetration feel of a rock hard cock pounding me feels amazing!

I also freaking love cum! I love the feeling of a hot dude busting a load deep in me and feeling it drip out of my tight little ass, or blowing it all over my face! To say the least, I love cum!!! Which is why I completely enjoy working in the porn industry, cause everyone I work with has the lab work showing they’re clean! So I get good wild sex and lots of cum! So if you know you are and your sex parnter is 100% clean, enjoy some sex without the condoms, if not always practice SAFE sex!

When enjoying sex while your partner/partners uses a condom, first find the condoms that doesn’t kill most of the realistic feeling! If you have to, buy a few different kinds and see what you like best! You also know what you like and where the special spots are. I love toys! So regardless of the toy I use I know my spots! So if you have sex with a guy, take control get on top and ride that cock like it is yours and hit that G spot!

I know for myself that I can ride a cock and have multiple anal orgasms with or without a condom! Learn your body and figure out what you like! Never be scared to tell a man what to do! Most men actually get more turned on when you tell them how to fuck you! When they are hitting that spot let them know! If you are willing to get naked in front of the guy, then be willing to tell him what you do and don’t like! Trust me, sex with or without a condom can be extremely enjoyable! If you prefer not to use a condom, make your partner get tested. It’s not rude to be safe!

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July 23, 2015
Hot foreplay moves that Guys love and fantasize about

Honestly, it all depends on what you consider “foreplay.” I would consider it to be the various things people do to prepare each other for physical intimacy. Some women like to start with a strip-tease, some guys might like to ease into it by giving their partner a massage, and for some couples, it might involve something a little more elaborate.

However, I think my definition of foreplay isn’t all that popular. The word “foreplay” is commonly used as a catch-all for anything that happens before the moment when a penis enters a vagina, but I don’t think that’s really fair. It pre-supposes that the only “real sex” is sex that happens when a penis is inside a vagina, and everything else is “just foreplay.” “Sex” isn’t just one very specific activity—well, at least good sex isn’t. We all know it’s a lot more than that.

Good sex can include a multitude of various activities: cunnilingus, fellatio, fingering, mutual masturbation, anal play, kissing, massage, breast worship, etc. And those activities don’t always happen before intercourse. Haven’t you ever stopped to change positions from, say, doggystyle to missionary, and upon glimpsing a flash of pussy, decided that instead you’d like to go down for a bit? Let’s stop thinking of sex as something formulaic and instead appreciate the spontaneous nature of it.

That being said, there are reasons that people often do “other things” before the initial penetration. Intercourse just works better if a guy’s dick is rock hard and a girl’s pussy is nice and wet. Personally, I find subtle physical flirtation a huge turn-on. If the conversation’s going well and someone can find a little excuse to touch me—nothing major, just something small and subtle—I find that a huge turn-on, and if it’s done right by someone from whom I welcome the attention, I’ll feel myself getting wet even before I’ve dropped my panties. And what’s even better is that it makes it difficult for me to resist the urge to touch them back, and since I’m already turned on, I’ll be a bit more…assertive. For example, I find it super hot to move from subtle, flirtatious touching to some light, playful kisses, and then to a deep kiss with my body pressed up against his so that I can feel his bulge against me. I like to slip my hand down outside of his pants to feel if he’s hard, and if he’s not, I like to feel his dick begin to get hard as I stroke it through his pants. Just feeling his cock grow for me gets me going, and at that point, if the gentleman is holding back, I might just throw him down and jump on. HOT. And let me remind you that, at this point, we still have our clothes on.

After that, I really love undressing a guy. I find it really sensual to take a man’s clothes off. Maybe it’s a power thing: I love when a man relinquishes that power to me and lets me be the one to unwrap him. And don’t forget that we all love flattery. People are at their most vulnerable when they’re naked, and we all want our partners to appreciate and enjoy our bodies as the beautiful tools of pleasure that they are. So this is a great time to compliment the matching bra and panties I might be wearing! And ladies, the same goes for your guy. Guys love compliments just as much as we do.

Some people love the art of tease. I appreciate it myself, though sometimes I find it really, really hard to hold back. But if you can manage it, you’re likely to have a really mind-blowing orgasm once you finally let go. So, if that’s the route you want to go, try a little massage. And maybe not in the traditional sense—get creative. Climb on top of your guy and massage his shoulders and arms from the front, ever-so-slightly grinding against his cock, but don’t let him touch you. Watch his face. If he seems like he’s really, really enjoying it, like he’s dying to put his cock inside you, well, try backing off a bit—if you can bear it! Take one of his hands and glide his fingers between your thighs, letting him feel how hot and wet you are for him. If neither of you is quite “there” yet, well, everyone loves oral, and I’ve found that it’s a surefire way to get each other physically “ready” for penetration.

But don’t get stuck in a rut—do what feels right, of course, but remember that it’s OK to switch things up. Suck his cock for a bit and then put him inside you. If you can muster the self-discipline, go back to sucking it after a bit, or perhaps try 69 for a while. Or, if your guy’s into ass play, this might be a good opportunity to grab the lube and give him a prostate massage (but watch out—this tends to make men come really quickly!). When he’s coming close to orgasm, ask him to do something for you suck your nipples, perhaps, while you stroke his cock. At some point, neither of you will be able to hold on any longer—just remember, there’s no “right” order to enjoy the things you and your partner enjoy, and there isn’t one “right” way to have sex. With some creativity and communication with your partner, there are infinite roads to Orgasm Town. 😉

I’m Annie, and I’m an professional companion and escort in New Orleans. I’m also a writer, an artist, a Dr. Who fan, a seafood lover, and a friend to big, goofy dogs everywhere. I maintain a blog on my website, NOLAcourtesan.com. Check out my profile below and more of my links!

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July 11, 2015
Masturbation tips for Women

Aaliyah Suarez shares her views on masturbation, what makes her horny and in the mood, and masturbation techniques to reach that mind-blowing orgasm.

Can you tell us a bit about yourself and where you’re from?

I am Aaliyah, a 23 year old panty seller from the UK. Since the beginning of the year, I’ve been selling my worn panties, socks, thongs and custom nude pics online – something I have been wanting to do this for a long time and am so happy that I finally started. For me, it’s all about making the service as personal as possible, so I socialize with my customers a lot through email and twitter, and have made some great friends in the process. When I’m not selling panties I love to take photos, bake cakes and go out dancing! One day I would like to become a model and design my own range of lingerie.

What are your personal views towards masturbation?

I find it strange that in today’s society we openly talk and accept male masturbation as something of the norm, but female masturbation is rarely discussed and is still seen as taboo by many people. I think that masturbation in women is just as important as it is in men – it’s one of the best ways to find out what really turns you on and how to get to know your own body. There’s something so alluring about finding a way to unlock your most inner ecstasy, and we shouldn’t feel ashamed of wanting to find it. Over the past few years I have bought dozens of new sex toys and books so I can try out new things in bed but with someone I am truly comfortable with – myself!

I masturbate whenever I feel the need, I have a couple of weeks each month where my sex drive is incredibly high so it’ll be every day since no one can keep up with me! The rest of the time I do it less frequently, often in the morning to perk me up a little for the rest of the day and put a smile on my face.

What gets you in the mood?

Usually whenever I start to get bored!! When my mind wanders, it seems to get dirtier and dirtier the more I think, and trying to repress it can make it worse. Also, after a glass of wine when my partner is at work and I’m home alone and just can’t wait long enough for him to get back. When I’m doing nude/porn photos I like to be in this feisty, raw horny state of mind so that you can really see it in the images, I think that’s a turn on for others in itself. I prefer to read erotic fiction than watching porn, I have a great imagination and can picture myself in the story, or if I do look at porn I prefer photos to videos. The same again, with pics it’s your imagination that makes the fantasy, nothing has been decided for you, you can make it your own setting and own story.

Do you always reach an orgasm each time you masturbate?

No, not always, but that’s because sometimes I don’t want to! I love bringing myself ridiculously close to orgasm, but then stopping and going about my day as normal. All of that time I’ll feel a small flutter inside myself, knowing that the tiniest little thing could send me into overdrive but even better, I like to wait until I can have a private moment to myself later on. Feeling so sexually wired after the whole day of wanting, when I come I have to make sure I’ve got something to bite on to hide my screams! There’s just something about being teased that drives me insane with lust and passion.

Please share with us some masturbation techniques with our female readers?

I have a secret sexy box under my bed full of toys, if I can’t sleep or need some alone time then I’ll go through it when no one’s around; even the best vibrators can still be pretty noisy! I really love smooth, extra small vibrators with a range of intensity you can build up if you want. Starting off gently I stroke my outer lips and between my thighs to tease myself a little, then I like to put on a bit of pressure and make downward strokes over my pubis bone and clitoris, intensifying the pressure and the vibration every few strokes. Once that has worked me up a bit, I allow myself free reign to touch my clit at different angles, pulling back the hood and softly massaging it. This makes me go weak at the knees and become so moist; I really want deep pressure inside of me to fill me up so to speak. So when I feel on the very edge, I slowly slip a long smooth vibrator into my pussy for double stimulation.

Use a butt plug, preferably a vibrating one, after you insert the vibrator causes a feeling of fullness that I love and a feeling of being deeply stimulated on the inside as well as out. After inserting a butt plug, you still have both hands free to stimulate your pussy and clit, either one by one of at the same time to have triple stimulation.

Another thing you can do to make masturbation even more pleasurable, is to wear nothing but satin panties (or if you’re really in the mood, don’t wear anything!) and lie on smooth satin sheets for a silky sensation all over your body, stiffening you nipples and caressing all your curves whenever you move. It’s an amazing feeling when you’re turned on and so sensitive to touch, stimulated by the sensation against your skin, I’d highly recommend it.

I like masturbating in this way because it builds up sexual tension slowly, yet is still very intense at all stages. The feeling of wanting something inside of you and the teasing make orgasms explosive when you finally let them go, it’s about keeping it in as long as you can. It’s great because if you’re in a relationship, you can also do it while your partner is out and you’re waiting for them to come home. Pleasuring yourself to the brink of orgasm then leaving yourself begging for more – a real sexy surprise when they get back in! It’s awesome if you’re single too, a simple way to achieve earth shattering orgasms by yourself, feels almost empowering!

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July 4, 2015
Masturbation Tips from Apple Soey

People always ask about me so I’ll go ahead and say I’m Thai. I currently stay in the UK and my family is based here. I have a small little (fat) dog named Allie who I really need to put on a diet but probably never will. I like the color green, beaches and all that other stuff a lot of people like.

I have a lot of sex toys because of my website and the webcam stuff I do, I have to have choices so I don’t get bored with them. I’m not a big fan of the rubber kind of sex toys but I do like vibrators. I have a Hitachi vibrator that I REALLY like and I had a custom glass one made that hits all of the right spots, if you know what I mean. I love all my vibrators and if you ask me, I have a purple vibrator that I love too. In fact, I think the purple vibrator is the one I couldn’t live without, but it’s hard to decide 🙂

Today, I would like to share with you some of my masturbation tips. I have been asked by many on the best ways to pleasure oneself. And my answer is: Do what feels the best. Different times and things happening in your mind call for different kinds of ways to do it. All that matters is that it feels good.

I still remember that time when I got a new vibrator and I had it in my purse when I was at the mall. I couldn’t stop thinking about how bad I wanted to try it so I went into the bathroom and went for it. It was so hot, I could hear people walking around just on the other side of the door and it made me so horny to know that I was that close to so many people with this new toy vibrating on my pussy. The whole experience made me cum so hard it took all of my energy to not scream and I almost fainted. Afterwards I cleaned my toy, cleaned myself and went back into the mall like nothing happened.

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May 3, 2015
No.1 Mistake on Why Women don’t know their Genitals

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April 22, 2015
New App Makes Users Lick Their Screens To Learn How To Go down on Girls

In our digital age, there are also some novel approaches to the issue of the female orgasm.

‘Lick This’ is an app which claims to help improve your cunnilingus technique. Designed by Pablo Rochat and the suitably named Chris Allick, Lick This is an app that helps you to improve your technique by slobbering on your touchscreen.

Rochat and Allick want to make people laugh and get them talking about technology and the human body. Tongues are wagging! But is Lick This indeed likely to make you a better lover or will you simply have spent half an hour on your own in your bedroom licking your phone?

For those who prefer the natural way, Lick This might seem an uncomfortable technological development. After all, if kids are now learning about sex from porn and cunnilingus techniques from Siri, what happens to the reality of the body and the intimacy of sexual discovery?

Our iPhones guide us through urban jungles, they help us hunt and gather our food, they even choose mates for us, so the new thinking is that there’s no reason they shouldn’t train us as lovers too.

Lick This provides three exercises – flicking a light switch, boinging a beach ball, and rotating the handle of a pencil sharpener – to train your soft palate in the arts of licky love. Flicking the switch helps you build an up-and-down rhythm, boinging the ball teaches you to work with a wriggling target, and I don’t really know what rotating the handle of a pencil sharpener is supposed to do other than cover your phone in saliva.

Scientists build orgasm machine that delivers a climax at the push of a button

Anorgasmia is scarily common. It seems that 43 pecent of women and 31 percent of men are reported to experience an excessive amount of difficulty reaching orgasm. Ten to fifeen percent of women have never had an orgasm in their lives.

Now a machine has been built which claims to deliver orgasm at the push of a button. This is the work of a team led by North Carolina surgeon Stuart Meloy.

The machine is designed to be a medical implant which is a little smaller than a packet of cigarettes. It requires an operation and the patient needs to be awake during the surgery in order for the surgeons to find the best possible position for the electrodes.

Jim Pfaus , who studies the neurobiology of sexual behaviour at Concordia University told New Scientist that women will sign up regardless of how painful this procedure may be.

‘If young woman of 15 are having painful operations to enlarge their breasts….. are you kidding? Of course it will be used’ he said.

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April 20, 2015
The elusive orgasm

Women’s orgasm are very different to those of men, and have been a mystery to men and women alike.

Tantric massage is not supposed to concentrate on genital orgasm, but on experiencing the powerful feelings of energy and bliss which circulate in the body,accompanying sensual arousal, and which can lead to total body orgasm.

However, today in the age of communication, more and more books and articles are being written about various aspects of the female orgasm.

Below we describe 3 different ways of helping women to achieve orgasm – the traditional way – via a new app -and a new medical invention.

Does this sound familiar:
MAN: Finally gets to go downtown and fumbles to get his hand where it counts.
MAN: Starts random up-and-down or circular motion, hoping to God he can hit the spot and not be surprised.
WOMAN: Moans and man thinks he’s doing well. WOMAN: Stops moaning.
MAN: Shifts technique or goes into overdrive, and woman asks him to slow down.
MAN: Slows down. Five seconds of mild positive response later, nothing.
MAN: Feels like a dog trying to open a door with no thumbs.
WOMAN: Gently stops his increasingly erratic attack after 10 minutes.

Best case scenario, they move on to something the man can understand – penis in vagina.

Most men admit they’re not fans of asking for directions. But they’ll happily read a manual – especially one that tells them how to make you orgasm in a new way. US author Timothy Ferris has come up with a book called ‘The Four Hour Body’ where he explains his ‘One Taste Method’.

This technique requires 15 minutes of 100 per cent concentration on approximately three square millimetres of contact. Nothing more. Test this and practise it with your partner. Apparently,the pay-off will alter your sexual experience forever.

NO PRESSURE Remind each other that this is a goal-less practice. There is no objective, just a focus on a single point of contact. This should remove all expectations and pressure. He is going to touch you for 15 minutes. You don’t need to do anything. The only focus should be on the short stroke just as the emphasis would be on the breath in most forms of meditation. View it as an exercise in mindful awareness. And the more you focus, the greater your satisfaction.

ASSUME THE POSITION

Its time to get naked. Lie on your back and bend and move your legs apart.

1 – Separate the labia.
2 - Gently retract the clitoral hood upwards with the heel of his palm.
3 - Anchor the clitoris with his right thumb by holding the hood back.
4 - Get him to put his left hand under your bum, with two fingers under each cheek, and his thumb resting on, not in, the base of the entrance to the vagina. Doing this acts as an anchor and help you feel more relaxed.

Now comes the important part: finding the “upper quadrant” of your clitoris, which is a tiny area crammed with thousands of nerve endings. Tell your partner to imagine he’s looking directly at your clitoris from between your legs, with the top of the clitoris as 12 on a clock face. Get him to find one o’clock – ideally a small indentation or pocket between the hood and your clitoris – with his index finger and begin stroking using the lightest touch possible and only 1.5mm or so of movement. The tip of his finger is better than the pad. Have him stroke at a constant speed for periods of two to three minutes – it’s OK to change speed between periods.

5 - Once 15 minutes are up, end with “grounding”. easing you out of the experience, which conveniently avoids fixation on having a full-blown orgasm as closure. Get him to put pressure down on your pubic bone and up towards your head, using overlapping hands. You dictate the pressure. Most women find the strongest pressure the most pleasurable. You may find you want to have sex now.

http://www.womenshealthmag.co.uk/sex-love/sex-tips/227/your-15-minute-orgasm/

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April 13, 2015