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  • A Naughty Christmas Sign Off

    A Naughty Christmas Sign Off

    20207-fashion-gift-packaging-materialI guess you all have been good girls the whole year long and you can expect a lot of nice gifts from your sweetheart. And as a reward, you can demand to be UNWRAPPED first (not that he will mind it at all) 🙂
    For those who have been very naughty this year, your Santa Claus has been very upset and you should have gotten the punishment you deserve, you bad, bad girl !! Your darling has already bought you a suitable flogger to teach you some manners!
    Whatever you are expecting from under the Christmas tree, have a joyful sensual night and enjoy the snugly and relaxing days off! Make good use the time and get inspired with those additional Christmas candles gifts. For those, who have received boxes of lovely chocolates, it is now the perfect time to have them melted and smeared all over your bodies for a post-Christmas feast and perhaps, bake X-mas cookies together naked with the yummy leftover chocolate bits …
    Happy holidays !

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  • So … have you been Naughty or Nice this year?

    So … have you been Naughty or Nice this year?

    So this time of year everyone is talking about Santa and his all knowing list with promises of bringing toys to the good little girls and boys. Now how about the adults? Does he have a separate list with different criteria for them? I don’t know about you but I sure do hope so. I have actually been counting on it. In my world, naughty is usually rewarded, not punished with coal in your stocking. Unless you are into getting “punished” that is.

    Christmas is also the time for get togethers, Christmas parties at work, with friends, with family, in the neighbourhood. Well Swinger’s clubs are no different in that they also have Christmas themed parties, the only thing is that you are encouraged to dress a lot differently for these parties. It is customary to see some of the ladies dressed as a naughty Mrs. Claus, Sexy Santas, I have even seen a few evil elves. (You can find some new outfits at great prices by going to http://www.simplydeliciouslingerie.com.) The sexier the better. One cool thing that you may not realize is that a lot of the swing clubs also do some good deeds of their own, especially this time of year, many collect donations for the food bank at their Christmas dance.

    Gift giving among swingers is also a bit different than you may be used to. Toys for the kids become sex toys (like vibrators) for the adults. Pajamas turn into sexy lingerie as a good choice for the lady (or ladies) in your life. Hopefully she will model it and maybe let you take it off of her later.

    Even sending Christmas cards gets “sexier” among swingers. I can’t count how many cards I have received over the years that I was just not able to display in the living room with the regular ones and I have reserved these special cards for the bedroom. Cards with naughty pictures, sexy sayings, New year promises of sex the next time we saw that couple again. I’m sure you get the picture.

    There is pretty much nothing that does not get swingerized this time of year. And that is definitely NOT a complaint.

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  • Who says you cannot be naughty + nice?

    Who says you cannot be naughty + nice?

    Christmas has descended upon us once again! Amidst the merry making, gift-wrapping and festive cheers, there is still that important question that begs to be answered: Naughty, or nice?

    To be frank, what’s the point of segregating the naughty from the nice? Who says you cannot be naughty while, at the same time, be nice? Or vice versa? I am pretty sure that Santa has gotten on with the times and disregarded making those lists and checking them twice.

    Let’s start with the simple stuff: how to be nice. There are plenty of examples that you can execute, which automatically fall under the nice list:

    1. Surprise that special someone with a home-cooked meal! If you can’t cook, get their favourite take-outs and fashion it into a presentable meal at home. Alternatively, if you are not into that much work, just reserve a table for two in a place that you can (obviously) afford or go Dutch with.
    2. Get him or her that gift that they have always coveted. But of course, do bear in mind your budget for this season. Don’t skimp on other gifts just to get that something special. Or worse, get yourself into serious debt. Tis the season to be jolly, not to be devoid of money.
    3. If you are up for something altruistic, how about setting aside some time to do voluntary work? Find a cause that resonates strongly with you and give back to society. Spread some Christmas cheer to those less fortunate than us.

    Once you are done with the niceties, it’s finally time to put on your sexy Santa outfit – or elf, if you are into that sort of thing – get out there and get some! Depending on what flavour you like, add some spice and mint this festive season:

    1. Inject spicy moves into your bedroom activities. Greet your partner at the door with barely minimal or even nothing on. Blindfold them. Tie their hands and feet together with something silky. Introduce feathers into the foreplay. Get the temperatures rising by alternating with something hot and cold. Some biting action here and there, so long as they are in discrete spots. For the home run, do it anywhere and everywhere apart from the bed.
    2. Suggest going for a long drive across the country. Ride shotgun and give him glimpses of what he will be receiving once you have reached your secluded destination. If you’re the driver, that’s even better! Of course, be mindful of the traffic laws. As what they say in the army: you can do anything, so long as you don’t get caught.
    3. If you are feeling extremely naughty, how about a threesome? That will be the ultimate surprise. It can also be a good gift, if you can’t afford to buy anything this year. If a threesome proves to be a tad too much, get someone to be a voyeur instead – it is not too extreme, yet at the same time still injecting that naughty vibe. However, if you want something even more extreme, then go ahead and find a sex party. Now kids, remember that it is always better to be safe than sorry, so ensure that the gloves are on before the lovin’ can commence.

    Mixing up the naughty and the nice this festive season is not a difficult task to execute and achieve. With some sleigh bells jingle-ing and ring ting tingle-ing, now is the time for some (sleigh) ride with your Santa baby, who will be hurrying down that chimney tonight.

    Let’s get your Feliz Navidad on!

  • Toeing the Line: Naughty or Nice Rape Fantasies and Role Plays

    Toeing the Line: Naughty or Nice Rape Fantasies and Role Plays

    I am not saying anything thought-provoking or insightful when I say that rape is not an uncomplicated subject … duh. Since rape is such a contentious issue, especially recently with universities being criticized for not being proactive about sexual assaults on their campuses, when people start talking about rape fantasies and role plays, they tend to get even more fired up. This was seen particularly after the release of the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy and is often brought up in conversations about consensual non-consent in pornography (aka rape porn). Rape fantasies and role plays of course complicate conversations about sexual assault; this article hopes to shed some light on both how to explore those fantasies with your partner and/or how to keep an open mind toward individuals (perhaps yourself included) that may have those fantasies.

    If you do a little searching on the internet, you would likely find countless interpretations and definitions of rape fantasy, which may differ from the one I will provide here in my own words. Rape fantasies are when an individual has the desire to be coerced into sex, either through physical force or through verbal coercion and will fantasize and imagine scenarios with a partner where they give up or have no consent. Rape role plays are typically when the acts of sexual coercion are physically acted out with a partner CONSENSUALLY, whereby one partner gives up the option of being in charge and allows the other partner to completely dominate them. The most important piece to remember, in case you missed it in the last sentence, is these acted out sexual fantasies of rape are consensual.

    Often people ask how can rape be consensual when the whole premise of rape is that it is a forced sexual act. The short answer to that question is lots and lots of communication, negotiating and planning beforehand. As with any role play, even ones as simple as dressing up as a school teacher and student, there typically is  some sort of discussion before the playing about who will do what, who will say what, who will wear which costume, who will play which role? With rape role plays, there should be even more contracting and communicating and very clear boundaries set before any sexual contact even happens. Rape role plays are not to be taken lightly and if you feel that your partner, whether they are the one that would do the dominating or the one giving up their consent, does not want to participate respect their wishes, do not pressure them.

    Rape is often seen as a woman’s issue, which makes sense given that the vast majority of people who report assaults are women; therefore it is not hard to believe that most individuals who disclose about having rape fantasies where they are the ones giving up their consent are women. Of course, these accounts are not totally accurate given that it is common for individuals to not accurately or honestly report what their fantasies or sexual experiences actually are (all the shame!). In addition, it seems that not very many people outside of the kink community have much tolerance for or understanding about rape fantasies and role plays. Often times, rape fantasies, or rather the individuals that have them, are pathologized by the outside community that sees rape fantasies as “sick” or “unhealthy” expressions of sexuality. I will not get on my soapbox about how no one should ever police our sexuality and determine for us what is healthy or unhealthy about our sexuality except ourselves, but just know that if you are comfortable with your sexual fantasies and want to act some of them out with a consenting partner, you totally should!

    Some individuals believe that carrying out rape fantasies with a partner in a role play is a manifestation of not being able to ask for something we (i.e. women) want in our “normal” sexual lives. Or we want something society has taught us as women, not to want, like sexual pleasure; therefore we create these rape fantasies in our minds to fill a sexual need we may not know how to ask for. Sexual suppression and shame is a chronic problem for women and men too; female sexuality and sexual pleasure is not something that is valued in Western society, so often expressing our sexuality and sexual pleasure is seen as taboo. Rape fantasies are sometimes seen as an alternative expression to ask for what we want sexually. Female sexuality is too often stifled in Western society and that is not a pathology of the individual, but rather pathology of the culture at large.

    At the end of the day, regardless of which genders fantasizes about giving up their consent to a partner (or a stranger), all sexual fantasies not just rape ones, are just another way to explore with our sexual selves and our partners. If rape fantasies and role plays are something you are interested in exploring, consenting to give up consent and keeping lines of communication open are key, and if rape fantasies or sexy teacher fantasies are not your style, that’s okay too. Just as a public service announcement: be kind to each other. People who have rape fantasies are not necessarily “sick” or “unhealthy” people, they just have a different fantasy than you do, and likely their fantasy is not intended to personally attack you or your sexuality.

    *This article was not meant to belittle or minimize some of the strongly held beliefs about rape and sexual assault, especially for those who are survivors of sexual violence. Nor was this article meant to frame rape fantasies and role plays into a dichotomous “naughty or nice” argument. Rather, this article simply meant to inform readers about how rape fantasies can be safely explored while also trying to encourage readers to not so quickly shame individuals who may be curious about this kind of sexual fantasy.

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  • Has Emma Watson been Naughty or Nice for Christmas?

    Has Emma Watson been Naughty or Nice for Christmas?

    On September 20, Emma Watson, best known as Hermione Granger to all Harry Potter fans, delivered a powerful speech on feminism and how to make men active participants in stopping violence against women at the United Nations. While the speech is aimed to raise awareness of gender equality, it does send some useful messages that can be applied to other contexts, including the LGBT rights movement and sexual equality.

     

    According to Watson, in order to effectively stop all kinds of violence against women, men need to start becoming active participants in the process of solving gender inequality. Additionally, in the past, feminism is often considered as men-hating, and solutions to violence against women have long been victim-oriented. The advices are mostly asking women to be aware of their own dress-code, behavior, and personal safety. Rarely do we see men being mentioned as part of the solution, and this creates a very unbalanced situation where women, often the victims, are required to solve their own problems, while men, often the perpetrators, can sit by the side, waiting for the situation to improve.

     

    For LGBT rights activists, Watson’s advice sheds new light on how to engage the general public in a more effective and meaningful way. Throughout its history, LGBT rights movement has mostly been an one-way traffic, where activists championed pro-LGBT slogans to attract the general public’s attention. This strategy has been working fine until now, but if we place it next to the feminist movement, it is not hard to see the similar patterns between the two, a victim-oriented perspective. While LGBT rights movement may not seem to be straight-hating, some extreme slogans might sound a bit aggressive at making the heterosexual camp recognize us and our rights. That may explain why some hardcore anti-LGBT individuals insist on upholding their principles even until now. Instead of continuing to push them to accept sexual equality, trying to make them part of the efforts to end sexual inequality may work better. In other words, strengthening interaction and mutual understanding can clear the barriers between both camps. It no longer feels like forcing things onto an unwilling customer, rather, we will be offering them insights into our lifestyle and culture, and let them take time to compromise the difference between these new understanding and their old beliefs.

     

    That being said, there is still much work to do in terms of establishing a systematic approach to bridge the gap between both camps. Clearing sexual stereotypes should be one important step to take because it has been one of the fundamental principles that divide all of us into different groups. Sexual stereotypes enforce rigid image and definition to different groups, and members of those groups oftentimes will think and behave along the same sexual ideology. The clash between different sexual ideologies is inevitable and that often leads to the misunderstanding between each other. To get rid of sexual stereotypes is to free all groups from the rigid rules imposed on them and reconstruct the meaning of sexuality. The rigid image and definition matching with different groups should come to an end, because after all, sexuality should be fluid but not rigid. Freeing different groups from having to follow certain ideologies is to help encourage mutual understanding among different groups.

     

    Watson’s speech may be paving the way for the breakthrough of LGBT rights movement, with us inviting the rest of society to join the force to end sexual inequality and discrimination. Although the idea of heterosexual and LGBT communities coexist harmoniously in the world may seem too ideal for now, the idea of shifting the responsibility of ensuring sexual equality to the long-time foes of that idea is one groundbreaking but adoptable solution. While the process may still take decades to reach that harmonious state, it will be a good direction for the LGBT rights movement to go forward.

  • The naughty christmas gift

    The naughty christmas gift

    So, the holiday season is upon us … and, yes, choices have to be made, important choices, choices about what to get your partner for Christmas, or Festivus, or whatever great excuse you favor towards the end of the year for a massive nosh-up and gratuitous gift-swapping. Like, do you get your significant other the kind of gift that should, all being well, lead to you both getting sweet and sweaty in the sack?

    If you do decide to get that kind of gift, just how far along the fruity scale do you push it; soft or romantic; hard or dirty; nice or naughty? It is, if you like, the old holiday yin or yang question … or, to put it in more seasonally, the old ding or dong question. And of course, if you are getting something sexy, make sure that it’s going to be as much fun for her ding as it’s going to be for your dong. Remember, whatever you choose to buy, it is still, ostensibly, meant to be a gift for them, so don’t just buy your girlfriend a cock-ring.

    If you make sure the intimate gift you choose is for both of you to enjoy, then it probably won’t matter how naughty the item is in itself, because putting it to use will be so nice.

    Now, helpful preamble done, let’s get down to what I’ll be getting my wife this year … Be warned, obvious inherent sexiness aside, some of you may find the schmaltzy sentimentality of what I’m about to tell you somewhat akin to a natural emetic (look it up!), but hey, that’s your problem … I know what my wife likes. This year, I’m making her —that’s right, I said ‘making’—with paper and pens and sticking stuff and whatever other crafty material I can lay my hands on, a booklet of coupons!

    That’s right, on the morning of December 25, 2014, I will be presenting my Boo with a lovingly handcrafted booklet of coupons, each of which she may redeem at any time in exchange for the activity scribed thereupon. And in tribute to that same spirit of moral simplicity that marks the rest of the holiday season, the activities I have chosen are, quite literally, a healthy mix of the naughty and the nice, the racy and the romantic.

    Here’s the rundown (you can work out all the ‘this coupon entitles the holder to …’ shtick yourselves):

    • Dinner for two in your favorite restaurant
    • A sensual massage
    • Queen for a day
    • Oral sex—anytime, anywhere
    • Breakfast in bed
    • Role-play fantasy fuck
    • Romantic movie night
    • Sexy underwear day
    • A night on the town
    • Striptease

    There, just as I said, a sweet and spicy potpourri of everything, from the heart-meltingly romantic to the downright nipple-tingling horny. You’ll notice that even the sweet stuff has the potential to end in a happy state of undress. Speaking of which, you may be asking yourself, what the hell is sexy underwear day? To be honest, it seems pretty self-explanatory to me, but what the hell … This is something that my wife and I fell upon by accident when she bought a corset a few years ago and we decided to do something called ‘Corset Day’, whereby for the whole of that day we did not leave the house and she wore nothing but a sexy, silky purple corset with stockings and suspenders (no panties!) while I wore nothing—nothing—but an open kimono-style robe. The joy of that day is seeing how long you can hold off from actually reaching orgasm—I mean, obviously, you’ll have a few, but a day is a long time and you’ll not want to spend it all too early—but, man, when you’re both looking so damn hot, it … is … hard! I’d recommend it to anyone. It’s a fucking great way to spend the day. Anyway, ‘sexy underwear day’ is a variation on that, except the underwear is new and a surprise to each other on unveiling. Since my wife reads my work, I can’t say what I’ve already picked out for when that awesome day arrives … seriously, it’s better than Christmas!

    Everything on that list pretty much speaks for itself. Do make sure, however, that with something like ‘Queen for a Day’ your partner understands her absolute, imperial rule covers all things sexual and not just polishing her knick-knacks, unless, of course, that’s a thing too.

    So, a relatively simple thing, a booklet of coupons, with the right choice of items can be an amazingly saucy, sensual gift. And let’s not forget that simply having so thoughtfully gone to the trouble of manufacturing something with your bare hands (sure, I know, it’s not like I chopped down a tree and carved a table, but we all live in cities, damn it!) will, in itself, no doubt earn more than a few all too appreciable brownie points … which you’ll probably be able to exchange for a blowie.

    Naughty, yes, but very, very nice.
    Happy Holidays!

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  • Naughty or Nice: Begging to Cum

    Naughty or Nice: Begging to Cum

    Men tied up and begging to cum. That is the catch phase of fetish porn site Men on Edge. The site caters to those that have a BDSM fetish that skews towards Edging. Edging is orgasm control. It is a sexual technique where you reach a sexual high while consciously prolonging your climax. In one of the scenes that I watched, a guy was blowing another guy that was tied up. The blow job was aggressive making the submissive hard and high quickly. Before the submissive could climax, the dominant stops the simulation to prevent the submissive from ejaculating. It does sound like torture but there are some people that enjoy it; having erotic sexual denial sessions that could last hours.

    Edging is not only a form of sexual pleasure but there are those that use the technique to help to cure premature ejaculation naturally. When performing Edging on your own, you would masturbate to learn your own point of no return. That is the point when you know you will ejaculate. Once you learn how the sensation feels like, you will have to learn to resist the urge to ejaculate both physically and mentally. This is a tall order that requires patience. Some recommend that an Edging session last between 20 to 30 minutes. And adds that you might only see improvements after a few weeks of training.

    Sexual pleasure and curing premature ejaculation are only some of the benefits of Edging. Another interesting benefit is multiple orgasm. Guys having multiple orgasm is a topic that is rarely talked about. However by practicing Edging, it is something achievable for men. When you are fully well aware of your own point of no return, you are able to stop stimulate during sexual intercourse before you cum. Hence, your body will feel the full pleasure of climax without ejaculation. This is also known as a dry orgasm. Once the wave passes, you should be able to carry on for the next round. Making sexual intercourse last as long as both you and your partner what to.

    It is important to know how long a session should last. During one of my sexual escapades, I ejaculated however the guy that I was with did not. I remember the guy told me I almost made him cum twice but he held back. It made me wonder if it would have been different if he did not hold back. I had to endure getting lock jaw, prolonged anal pains and general fatigue. It is not easy for someone in the bottom position. It also made me wonder the effects of Edging causes desensitization of the penis. I have slept with guys where they remain flaccid for long period, take a lot of stimulation to get hard and it feels like they take forever to cum. It is not the most enjoyable of all sexual encounters. However, these negative experiences are just speculation on my part that might be cause by Edging.

    At the end of the day, Edging is pleasurable and useful sexual technique. It may bring an interesting dynamic to current your sexual lifestyle. So this Christmas if you are planning to have some fun, then trying some Edging fun and leave someone begging to cum.

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  • Do Nice Girls Finish Last?

    Do Nice Girls Finish Last?

    When I was just a little girl, I asked my mother, what should I be. And she told me I should be a nice girl. I should be polite, well-mannered, respectful and listen to others. Only then would I be able to find love. My mother’s advice came from the best intentions, but stemmed from an era where the end-goal of any woman was to get married and start a family, end of story. (And even then, it doesn’t always hold true. I am nice and as single as the day I was born, and there are some really nasty chicks out there who have managed to get hitched.)

    These days, being nice might actually hinder one in the eternal quest towards self-actualization. When it comes to fulfillment in the messy world of contemporary dating, in the realm of sexual satisfaction, in the search for a partner worthy of whatever duration of time one prefers to partner up for, sometimes, being naughty is the key.

    Be Demanding … of Respect

    Being Aggressive, assertive, or “strong” in any sense is often seen as the antithesis of “niceness”. But there’s a reason why being called a Bad Bitch is powerful, and being the Baddest Bitch is an accolade—it takes an insult and turns it into a term that denotes Respect. Be someone who demands this from yourself and from those around you when you’re dating. You’ll start to see how easily some people who throw around “baby” clearly do not see you as worthwhile as you are.

    Challenge Your Partner, Say what you Want

    Ever worry about how voicing what you feel or really think would make someone else feel bad? Or that by voicing what you’d like to do or have done to you would seem pushy and selfish? That’s okay. As human beings, we all have wants. As someone with intelligence and taste, you should have opinions, and you should always feel comfortable and free to voice them around someone who might be a potential partner, especially if you disagree.  If you can’t say what you think without fear of being shut down, or to someone who won’t listen, this probably isn’t the best relationship/hookup/person for you to be around. There’s no fun in banter without a little provocation!

    Proposition

    Remember Eartha Kitt’s Santa Baby? Girl sure is asking for a lot of things, but she feels entitled to them!  There’s never any harm in asking for what you want. Can’t get someone to text back? Unwanted behavior rearing its head? Suggest something new.
    Set boundaries on what is acceptable and unacceptable behavior (going AWOL for a week before replying, changing plans last minute) and instead of waiting patiently for this person to pick up on hints, speak plainly and directly. Come up with new proposals on how to move forward so you can get the kind of attention you want. Don’t know when someone will show up? Ask if they can make it to where you are, by a set time. If they can’t, let them know you value your time and if they can’t suit your schedule, there are a million better things (or people) to do.

    Put Yourself First

    Nice Girls spend a lot of time putting the needs and wants of others ahead of themselves, so it can feel heavenly when your number one priority is you, for a change. Figuring out exactly what you want can help you eliminate a lot of the uncertainty in between bad dates and good ones, and once you know what pleases you and what doesn’t, the rest will fall into place.

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  • The Naughty Christmas Girl

    The Naughty Christmas Girl

    Christmas season is around the corner and it’s time to hang up the lights, find the gnomes and get the fake sled out of the basement. It’s a time to be happy and share good times with family and friends. Gorge on unhealthy food and drink too much egg toddy.

    It is also a time to be naughty J

    When I was in my early and mid-twenties, I would enjoy being the naughty girl at the company Christmas party. Usually I was just a regular young woman doing my job, but once a year I shed the innocent girl look and put on my little short red dress, and fuck me heels. I would move around flirting with my co-workers, my bosses and any other poor man I got close to, even Santa Claus was not safe. I would jump up on his lap and purr in his ear, telling him I had been a good girl all year and I was worth a nice big gift.

    Why do I tell you this?

    Well, in all Christmas parties there is a girl like this. If it’s a family reunion it might be the long lost cousin, or the sister who lives out of town. At a company event, it could be the silent secretary with the horn rimmed glasses who comes at you in a miniskirt and a deep cleavage.

    There are men who do the same thing. Let them have some toddy and Mr. Casanova shines through the innocent front of the office clerk. He will seduce you with snowball fights and building snowmen, then when you least expect it, he will fall with you to the ground where you roll around laughing and giggling until he places a soft kiss on your cold lips.

    Some would say the alcohol consumed during Christmas parties is the reason for this behavior, but I say it is only a small part. I think the biggest reason is that, at least for families, it is a time to see people you haven’t met in a long time, and sometimes, your sister’s good looking hubby is just too good, not to flirt with.

    Nothing innocent with a little flirt is there? You bet there is, it could ruin the entire evening for everyone.

    What about the flirty secretary at the company get together? Same thing there, an innocent flirt with the boss could lead to a quick round of wild sex on the copy machine and that in turn could lead to a very embarrassing meeting the following work day.

    So readers, enjoy the holiday season, have a lot of sex, but think twice before you become the flirt at the party.

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  • Choosing Mr. Naughty VS Mr. Nice

    Choosing Mr. Naughty VS Mr. Nice

    The divorce has passed and she has let go … she has a new attitude and outlook on life.

    There is no reason to be in a hurry to meet The One. Now, is an exciting time for a woman to experience her sexuality in this new frontier, “The Dating World“.

    It is much different for her now, the goal of dating after divorce is not primarily to find a husband or a man to father her children but to experience something new. Moving on with her life does not mean forgetting about what she has had, it is about having those memories and moving forward, knowing more about life and relationships and who she is.

    Now she can have fun and experiences the joy of being with someone with no pressure. No pressure to perform, no pressure to please, no pressure to have children …No pressure to satisfy what society or her mother would deem as ’normal’. Now it’s her time.

    As a clinical sexologist, and relationship coach, I counsel many divorced women. These women that have gotten through the divorce are now experiencing a new confidence and excitement about dating again with a new sense of freedom. It is no longer just about finding Mr. Right. It is about the freedom to choose…and choosing Mr. Naughty is not a bad choice!

    Mr. Naughty is all about fun, romance and passion. Mr. Naughty wants to enjoy all that she and life has to offer with no strings attached to him. Mr. Naughty is free, fun and fabulous. Great conversation, great company and great sex. He is an amazing boost and will truly appreciate all of the beauty she possesses while he possesses her. He will take her dining, dancing, show her off and be at her beck and call for all of her womanly needs. He is strong, good looking, polished and always knows what to say, what to do and, oh yes, how to do it! He is so bad that he is good, and so good to be with. He wants no ties or commitments. He is certainly not the type to ’settle down’. Keeping that in mind, she can truly have fun with her naughty friend, just beware of falling for Mr. Naughty, this can be disastrous.

    Don’t forget that this relationship started off being just for the fun, the freedom and the equal understanding of the fun and the freedom. It was never meant to be permanent! Falling for Mr. Naughty while thinking he is Mr. Right can only lead her to frustration and confusion. Have fun with Mr. Naughty but not a commitment that is saved for Mr. Right. Even if it takes her a few Mr. Naughty’s before she is ready for Mr. Right again, she will experience the freedom of her 40s!

     This article has been republished with permission from Dr. Dawn Michael.

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