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  • What It Takes To Be A Pay Pig

    What It Takes To Be A Pay Pig

    The world of kink is a necessary response to the restrictive societal norms in which we all operate on a daily basis. Everyone is into something a little alternative, be it their music taste or strange late night snack preference. Kink is like deep space; a way to safely (when done properly) explore otherwise “unacceptable” interests. It’s funny that attitudes toward kink can still be so cynical, but thankfully the internet makes it possible to educate and connect individuals in a way like never before.

    It doesn’t have to be a clandestine practice, it can be a fun and satisfying way to creatively realize your desires. Variety is the spice of life.
 Kink is additionally such a fascinating inquisition into the realm of psychology. I’ve learned so much about myself and about others through my practice as a Domme.
The kink community is also one of the most open and accepting I’ve ever experienced, rife with characters both interesting and brilliant. As long as all parties involved are honoring safety protocols like SSC and RACK, it can be an incredible opportunity for self-exploration.

    Getting Into Findom

    One day a girlfriend of mine told me someone approached her on Facebook asking to be her homework slave. When we looked into it, she was a little weirded out, but I was intrigued. I went home and started researching and fell down a fetish rabbit hole. Enthralled, I created a Twitter account and embarked on building my own little empire of devoted submissives.

    What Does It Mean To Be A Pay Pig?

    A pay pig is a submissive, usually male but can be anyone, who derives pleasure and satisfaction from relinquishing money to a Financial Dom/me, the latter of which tend to be beautiful and highly intelligent women. It’s a form of masochism, in that money represents power, the transfer of which is symbolic and is often artfully composed of a multitude of factors, including surrender and an intimate connection between sub and Domme.
 Findom in its purest form involves a submissive who yields funds to a Financial Dominatrix as the ultimate acknowledgement of her dominion over his mind, finances, and libido.

    Misconceptions About Pay Pigs & Findom

    Pay pigs aren’t actually just people born with a compulsory need to send money to demanding women. It’s more complicated than that. Subs aren’t stupid, they’re not inherently losers, and not all of them like to be humiliated. I think a lot of girls try to get into findom because it sounds like easy money, which has saturated the community with these Instadommes, much to the chagrin of serious Dommes. But there’s no formula to it. It is a real relationship.

    My relationship with each of my subs is wildly unique. 
I’d venture to say another pay pig misconception is that it’s a transaction. Selling custom clips and conducting Skype calls are transactions, not findom. And it’s true that that’s simply the nature of findom today — many Dommes are jacks of all trades, myself included. But true findom is a remote Goddess, perched on Her throne up in the clouds, and along comes the unworthy sub who bows at Her celestial feet and offers himself wholly in recognition of Her supremacy, which includes sending, serving and spoiling for the sheer joy of pleasing Her Eminence. Never is even Her attention promised, let alone a picture of Her divine feet or an OnlyFans subscription. But, I digress.

    Finally, findom is not easy. Building a presence entails quite a bit of effort — you’re an embodiment of the Divine Feminine, not a normal girl with her own life and other goals outside of the kink world. Maintaining relationships with subs is akin to maintaining vanilla relationships with your friends and family. Staying sharp and educated on kinks takes endless research and practice. Though it is fun and satisfying, it is essentially running a business.

    If you’re just a pretty girl, you will be eaten alive. Which is why so many girls quit after a few weeks, and why many true pay pigs become frustrated with an inbox full of “Send me money now, loser!”

    Characteristics Of Pay Pigs I Look For

    Reverence and devotion. A sub should be submissive! Chivalry and findom go hand in hand. I give so much more attention to those who approach correctly: head down, on their knees, begging for the privilege of serving me and all the wonder such an honor entails. We Goddesses have to deal with subs who pop up asking “how much for a session?” on the daily, as if we’re vending machines for pleasure.

    That’s not female dominance. That’s pay for play, which is fine, but should come later, ideally. 
I like subs who have a personality, too. Someone who can just be their kinky self — that’s what allows for an organic bond and a deeper, more satisfying fantasy.

    What To Know Before Becoming A Pay Pig

    You don’t have to be rich to be a pay pig. Sacrifice is sacrifice. The stories where men take out loans of thousands of dollars for the intense release it is to send to the object of their affection are exciting and sexy, but they’re not the rule. You pay monthly for Netflix, you go out to dinner and drinks, and you surprise your Goddess with little gifts here and there. If you want to be a pay pig, findom already exists in your psyche. You just need to find the Goddess with whom you can explore your desires.

    I’d say patience is key. Don’t fall for Instadommes. Think of it this way — how dominant is it really for a self-proclaimed “Domme” to reach out to you with solicitations for money that are thinly disguised as a bratty command? Block, ignore, and keep it moving.
 Fortune favors the bold. If you have your eye on a Domme you like, take the plunge and approach. The worst that can happen is she ignores you.

    My advice? Lead with devotion and submission. Stand out by telling her why you so ardently adore her. And send that initial tribute first, or within the first five messages. She’s a Financial Dominatrix, and you’re a pay pig. You know good and well how to please her. “Sent, Goddess” are the magic words in findom.

    Goddess Katie – A luxury Dominatrix of the financial persuasion — intellectual, untouchable, and highly addictive. Though She specializes in findom, She caters to a variety of other kinks and believes in establishing close relationships with her devotees. All the better to infiltrate your mind and make it Her permanent residence…

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    Inquiries: katiiegoddess@gmail.com

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  • What It’s Like To Be A Findomme

    What It’s Like To Be A Findomme

    Being a Findomme can be very rewarding but the thing is, you must put in the work . My day consists of calls from my various phone lines and FaceTime/Cam sessions which goes on throughout the evening. I am truly dominated and have a lot of fun and enjoy when I run across a submissive, I can assign him tasks.

    I have always been a person that has understood different people’s fetishes and kinks. I have never been judgemental on those that live the alternative lifestyle. Some fetishes are very innocent to me and some I have a understanding and have guided the individual better on exploring their kink. Cross-dressers and sissy’s are one of my favorite to assist with, for instance. In a way, my online work has assisted and helped many individuals live out their fantasy and that makes me very happy.

    How I Started As A Financial Dominatrix

    Well first, I was a stripper for many years. I was always bossy and dominant in the club and attracted to submissive men. Before, it was a thing to be an online Domme and I had subs already catering to my every need. In 2012, I made a Niteflirt profile as I was looking to stop dancing and my love for being in control turned online. I made a Twitter account that did go to 20 k followers. However, I did take it down in 2015 due to a personal issues and a stalker.

    Do You Need Any Equipment?

    For online, I didn’t need as much equipment and props. However, I’ve always enjoyed them when I’ve been gifted items. Now, since making videos on my clip store, I have had to expand my collection of floggers and apparel.

    How Important Is Understanding Kinks & Fetishes

    Yes, it’s very important. It’s not all about giving me money as there’s a lot psychology involved as well. Each sub is very different and they are all not alike. I am always trying to educated myself more and more on different fetishes.

    Characteristics Of A Good Findomme

    Of course, be dominated and in control.

    Be creative and just have fun. I really do enjoy the work that I do.

    I enjoy the calls by the subs and the web cam sessions where I am in control.

    Types Of Subs I Look For

    Loyal subs are my favorite, I have subs that have being calling my lines for over five years now. I also enjoy my sissy’s and cross-dressing subs. I do enjoy the subs that send me gift cards as tributes and clean out my Amazon wish list and I can’t forget that.

    Things A Findomme Never Does

    Be submissive. In my personal opinion, a woman should always be in control and have everything they’ve always wanted.

    Mistress Melena – A Latina Dominatrix!

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  • What To Know About Findom

    What To Know About Findom

    I am myself a kinkster, and love exploring different fetishes and kinks. Leading a dual life is fun. Usually vanilla life is mundane and not so spicy, but when it comes to the kinky alternative lifestyle, where one doesn’t need to restrict his or her desires, is simply stupendous.

    I really love leading a dominant lifestyle, 24*7 but apart from that when I have a little me-time, I don’t mind exploring different fetishes myself and exploring my sexuality and being really adventurous!

    Why I Enjoy Financial Domination

    Financial domination for me is the real exchange of power. In today’s materialistic world, where everything is ascertained in terms of worth or monetary value, when a submissive surrender his finances to me, that’s the ultimate submission! No D/s relationship or bonding would be complete, unless it has the element of financial domination in it.

    Simply put, financial domination or findom is a fetish where a submissive will give away his money to financial dominant, in the form of gifts, tributes or just cash. Findom is just money fetish, wherein one can find the exchange of money and power, which immensely turns a submissive on. We call the submissives in a findom relationship paypig, cashcow, human atm, finsub to name a few. The submissive gives away his money and power, without getting anything in return.

    I certainly love and cherish the power exchange, the submissive giving in and letting me control such an important aspect of his life – finances! That’s really something which I love about the entire financial domination concept.

    Why Findom Is Popular Today

    With time, submissive men are really understanding the concept of domme-sub relationship. It is no longer confined to punishment tasks and dungeons and infliction of pain. A dungeon is not the only place or set up where men would like to lose control, underneath a latex clad domme’s high heels! A man would also like to lose control of himself to the hot brat next door, in casual outfits or something skimpy like bikini, who will just take all of his money, drain him dry, and not even touch his body once.

    The fact that a findom relationship can be tried just virtually/online without the need to meet the domme, unless it’s a cash meet which is done physically, is a great way to just test out the water before venturing further. Many paypigs are actually powerful and respected people outside this findom world, so some might even be wary of meeting on the first go, so findom is the perfect choice overall.

    Misconceptions About Findom

    There are many many misconceptions about financial domination. I am going to put down a few which i think are absolutely myths, with no truths in them whatsoever.

    It’s so easy for a young lady to pose as a findomme and earn money, since many men are so weak to give her money – It’s not at all so. Even today, though financial domination is gaining popularity, men like to masturbate to the fact that a powerful woman is taking away his money, leaving him powerless, but would not really go ahead and give it a shot in real life by exchanging money in reality. I still get many ‘roleplay’ requests to play findomme-paypig, without them really doing anything which would fall under the category of true financial domination.

    Manipulating a person’s mind and really making him a paypig is nothing but hard work and requires skill.

    Findomme training courses – That’s utter rubbish! There is no one way of becoming a findomme. There is not even one method of gaining or acquiring paypigs. Different submissives will have different preferences, so if one tries to copy another famous and successful findomme thinking they will succeed, it would not be long, that he or she would fail! Originality is the key.

    Fan following matters – Not always. Some of the best paypigs I had previously, were when I really had very less fan following on the social media. A submissive will not notice how popular you are or how many people liked your pictures or posts, if your approach of domination seems right to him, no matter how less of fans you have, he will give in his wallet. But definitely when a lot of people are following a domme, the chances of having more paypigs in the list of fan following are high.

    You can lead a lavish lifestyle based on just financial domination – Not always true! People who are real paypigs, are less, very less in number. So unless you really have some other avenue to earn from, you can’t really lead even a decent life just by financially dominating men. Yes, there might be a few findommes who claim to lead their lavish lifestyle on findomme alone, but still there would be some sort of side business like providing sessions in real time or skype, or even content creating.

    Overnight rags to riches findomme stories – That’s what we call findomme bragging. Not true! Success does not come so easy, and never over night. Years of hard work has to be put in, to really be successful as a financial dominant. The overnight success stories, will have some other big story behind the black screen, so never go by what you see online!

    The younger you are, more successful you are – Not always. There are many findommes who are matured and not in their early twenties, but yet laughing their way to bank. Age is just a number, what matters is her presence. Also the unique way of communicating with her fans and submissives and getting them under her control – that’s usually a skill and requires bit of time to develop.

    Findom is no work – Financial domination is actually a lot of work. May not be when you actually get a paypig to rinse, but you have to put in your time, effort and be consistent in order to get paypigs to actually contact you. Supply exceeds by million times, when it comes to demand of findoms, so there is a lot of competition definitely. If one is not working at all, and thinks findom is all play and no work, is definitely relying only on luck and that may not eventually turn out to be good luck until some one puts in all the effort.

    Incorporating Findom Into My Lifestyle

    I am a dominant woman always. So be it my vanilla life, or alternative lifestyle, I like to manipulate men to give in to me and submit themselves totally which would also include their finances. Personally, I can’t think of any relationship with a man which would not be based on money. I love the way I take money away from a paypig and giving him nothing in return. Sometimes. I also love controlling orgasms of a man, based on his spending towards me.

    Favorite Findom Ideas

    We, financial dominants have different ways of dominating and controlling wallets. All are unique and I think all the ideas that I previously had, changed over time. I really believe in working hard and putting in effort on all the avenues of earning, rather than relying on paypigs. Usually paypigs have the tendency to cut contact after a period of time and they might even relapse, but the focus should not be on the paypigs or submissives, but on myself, always. That’s what I do, and keeps me going.

    Princess Pramila – I am a financial dominatrix from Kolkata, India. I am also a fetish and femdom clip and content maker, and provide femdom sessions and prodomme services. Being naturally dominant and very kinky really helps me to lead a dominant lifestyle 24*7 even outside of sessions. I love taking money from men, and teasing them, leaving them with nothing. My biggest fantasy is to ruin a man so well that he would have no point of return. I love watching big grown up men cry. Besides findom, I also enjoy humiliating, degrading men. I also like to play blackmail games with some of my submissives, and i believe in total power exchange and complete enslavement of men.

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  • What One Should Know About Femdom

    What One Should Know About Femdom

    My thoughts on kink are that alternative lifestyles can be therapeutic and/or life changing. There is a place for anyone and everyone in the community, young or old no matter what size, shape, or color they may be. When someone explores their sexuality, they improve their quality of life.

    How My Interest In Femdom Started

    I’ve always been a dominant woman, but when I was 22, I’ll officially say it started. Life really wasn’t treating me the best. I had been nude modeling with local photographers for pay and it just was not enough. I just couldn’t live in poverty anymore, I have two mouths to feed. So I was looking for any option to get myself out of where I was. I tried being a sugar baby, but all the dates I went on were so strange. I would go out on a dinner date, which I required them to pay for, then 99% I never saw again. Most wanted to give me an “allowance”, then control my day to day schedule, or they thought I was gonna be like a prostitute (power to those who are, you ROCK). I was not comfortable with any of that.

    So one day, I was talking to this girl about it and she told me about “findom” and that she abused guys for money. A light bulb went off in my head and I google searched all the terms I heard her talk about. Surprisingly to me, this was all nothing new to me. I have been doing this to people for YEARS with a smile on my face. I thought I was just a shitty person, turned out there’s a whole community for queens like myself and we get paid to do it. So I made a Fetlife profile, then a twitter stage page and it went from there.

    Misconceptions About Femdom

    A misconception about femdom is that we wear leather and latex with six inch boots all the time. I will happily bust your balls in sweat pants, a sweat shirt, with no make up on. Costumes have nothing to do with a dominant mind.

    Another misconception is that femdom is easy money and it is just handed to you. I spend hours answering pointless messages, dealing with the emotions of my clients, and editing my videos and stage pages. Any message I miss is potential money missed.

    Favorite Domination Activities

    My favorite things are findom, ball busting, and foot worship. Findom is money domination and I love taking what’s yours. That honestly fuels me. Ball busting is loads of fun! I make a guy give me some sort of tribute, then I kick and abuse his balls until I’m happy (:

    Foot worship is self explanatory. Having someone on the floor worshipping my feet and the ground they walk on makes me feel like real royalty and I love that.

    Characteristics Of A Good Sub

    The characteristics of a good sub are:

    Having A stable job 40k a year or more type of thing

    How they approach, is it an inquiry or just a hey sexy

    Proper Grammar

    Tribute without asking

    Not needy

    Well dressed

    Well mannered

    No wife no kids

    The rules for me is I do not tolerate broke, hesitation, needy, or creepy. You must have a stable job. Everything is my way or the highway. If you can’t show me your ID and aren’t okay with my security clearances, I have no use for you. You must give me 24 hours notice for any plans with me. And I won’t consider giving you the time of day until you’ve benefited me in some way first.

    Why Do Subs Enjoy Humiliation?

    Everyone is hardwired differently. Say how a man is sexually attracted to a woman’s body parts, some men are sexually attracted to being humiliated. The part I enjoy is that I get to be as mean and nasty as I am and make them do these things to make me laugh and then get thanked and paid for it.

    Princess Lextacy – Professional princess from Cleveland, OH . It’s my way or the highway and you’ll do what I say with a smile on your face.

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  • What One Should Know About Financial Domination

    What One Should Know About Financial Domination

    Alternative lifestyles sound exhilarating and exciting to me. My personal experience of kink lifestyles is classy and romantic. I have the fantasies of dominance and submission. This desire is a source of joy and strength to me. Many vanilla people seek out an alternative lifestyle because their partner does not share their sexual preference. Many people want to find ways of making their sex life more colourful and hot.

    I help my slaves and submissives to explore the meaning of sexual fantasies in their life. I was quite dominating from the childhood and my fetish lifestyle started at 13 years old. I don’t like routine and vanilla lifestyle, it is not suitable for me. I have a degree of marketing and finance. I was working in the financial industry (stock brokerage firm) before my career as a financial dominatrix.

    I found being a professional findomme is much more interesting than my previous job. It gives me the satisfaction and lifestyle I’m looking for a long time in my deep heart. As a classy lifestyle findomme,  I offer opportunities for slaves to get a sexual release from giving me money and getting humiliated by me.

    Why Do You Enjoy Financial Domination?

    Financial domination is like any other fetish and it is giving money and tributes to the Dominatrix. It comes from a desire for loss of control and surrender of power. It is so hot and sexy when I take control of a my slaves’ finances and lives.

    Paypigs lavish the beautiful Dominatrix with expensive gifts and money for almost nothing in return. They give women money and tributes because they know Goddesses deserve it. Paypigs feel the need to spoil a beautiful Dominant woman like me and send them money. A lot of paypigs are wealthy professionals earning good money but who feel enslaved by their job. Domination helps slaves to release themselves from the pressures of daily life. I command my slaves to treat me, spoil me, and send me money and tributes. It’s a submissive dominate relationship.

    A findomme seldom takes off her clothes or engages in sex. This fetish doesn’t involve sex because a Domme would not dream of having sex with an unworthy slave. I take training sessions with my slaves via email, text, Skype or phone. I also do live sessions in London and international worship sessions all over the world. I get turned on and wet when paypigs send me money. I enjoy being spoiled and worshipped. I love financial domination and issuing order to pathetic paypigs. I am so happy and satisfied when I get great reviews from my audiences about my Findom clips.

    Why Is Financial Domination Popular?

    Financial Domination is getting very popular and common in Britain and all over the world because many people are just looking to escape their boring vanilla lives. A lot of slaves are high powered executives who don’t have time to spend their hard-earned money and they want to see a beautiful Goddess enjoy it. Paypigs like to be degraded and humiliated through their fat wallet.

    Slaves get turned on by being taken advantage of by a strong beautiful woman. It’s a total difference from their vanilla lives. Paypigs like to impress and serve their Goddess with money and tributes. They like beautiful women who make them feel weak and pathetic. Slaves get turned on when they pay for humiliation like verbal degradation, small penis humiliation, virgin humiliation, chastity and key holding, ball busting, cuckold slave, sissy humiliation, and dog training.

    Misconceptions About Financial Domination

    Findom are hot topics in social media, some girls have misconceptions that you just order a man to fuck off and get paid from them. Financial Domination is a lot more than just demanding men give out money.  It doesn’t mean you will get paid by yelling insults at a man. It is about natural dominance and manipulation skills of a Financial Dominatrix. There is beautiful chemistry between dommes and subs. It is a psychological addiction which combines pleasure and pain. It is an extension of BDSM, I think it is a romantic and sexy art.

    Incorporating Financial Domination Into Fetish Clips

    As a MV top 50 Findom earners on manyvids, I love to produce sexy Findom and Femdom clips combining the art of domination and the power of finance. I like to put financial elements in my fetish clips eg: insider information of my perfect pussy, cum at the money, financial domination for jerkahoic.

    I love to instruct beta boys jerking off to my big natural tits. I will instruct slaves when to stroke, how to stroke, when to stop and when to speed it up under my domination. They need a perfect orgasm under my command and pay the cum tax for me. I love to made them watch me and cum for me every night before they go to bed.

    Favorite Findom Ideas

    My favorite Findom ideas are my slaves begging me to accept their money. Slaves beg me logging onto their online banking account, I will be able to transfer as much money as I want. They transfer money when I text to demand it at anytime. Handing over their hard earned money weekly or regularly in a financial slave contract.

    I will control 100% of the finances and slaves will have no say about it. They become a live-in financial slave of mine. They are owned by me and are my property. They need to pay me for  anorgasm. Slaves impress me with expensive gifts like properties and diamonds.

    Goddess Findora – I am a strict, classy and divine Asian Goddess and findomme. Goddess Findora is good at training and controlling men. Slaves always please me with their fat wallet. I am good at using my beauty and power to command my submissive slaves.

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    Website: goddessfindora.com  (will launch at Feb 2019)

    Email: goddessfindora@gmail.com

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  • How To Serve A Financial Dominatrix

    How To Serve A Financial Dominatrix

    It’s definitely not an easy money type of thing that most people will think is. It takes a lot of patience. I love money so financial domination is something that I am glad exists. I definitely do think that this is not something you should be doing if you NEED money. It’s very inconsistent at times.

    Appeal Of Financial Domination To Subs

    These subs specifically like paying young, hot, dominant girls. Something about being dominating and paying literally turns them on.

    Do You Have Any Criteria For Choosing Subs?

    No. Never.

    Do’s & Don’ts A Sub Must Follow

    It varies. Whatever rule I decide is what happens. I ask what they’re into/what their limit is and I go from there. I make sure they’re in a safe place with me, so it really varies.

    Punishments For Subs

    ALWAYS pay for your punishment. I’ll add a little task, BUT they will need to pay for misbehaving.

    Emiii – I started findom August 2018, but in reality.. I’ve been financially dominating men since I was younger. *gold digger* my Twitter is @prettyinmoney

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  • What You Should Know About Femdom

    What You Should Know About Femdom

    I love kink, I love that there are a lot of different fetishes, and everyone has his own fetish. I heard them all from ear fetishes to ignore fetishes. It lets me be creative with sessions and that’s what I like.

    How My Interest In Femdom Began

    It all started with the question of a man, if I could dominate him…I thought okay, I can try it out with a girlfriend sometime. So we did. He gave us a nice amount of money and we tried our first Femdom session in real life, and we giggled a lot, and had fun. After the session I was looking on the internet to find more about domination and fetish and I saw it was a real big world…and that’s where it all started.

    Favorite Domination Activities

    I love to do CBT and Ballbusting, I’m a little sadist and I enjoy when other people are hurting. I put my boots on and just kick them in the balls very hard. But also online, I love it when a sub is open to do a lot for the cam.

    Characteristics Of A Good Submissive

    Don’t email me non stop, if your clip is ready, or with tons of questions. Make sure he reads my whole website, watches some clips so he knows who I am before he books a session. And on Skype, don’t let me walk to the pc for nothing… Never ask to see me naked, there are enough other girls who offer that so don’t ask me….

    Why Subs Love Being Humiliated

    It’s a certain feeling they get from it, and the feeling turns them on in some way. I love to humiliate them, I love it when they have a small dick I can laugh at. Most of them already look like losers, so it’s not very hard to have a good laugh!

    Elite Rose – A Goddess who is into a lot of fetishes, Femdom and Findom. Love to do custom clips, Skype sessions, Kik sessions, real life sessions and sell my worn items. Drop on your knees and start worshiping.

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    Twitter: @eliteladyroses

    Instagram: @elite_ladyrose 

    Tours: Next year I’ll be in Rome and Bali.

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  • How To Have A Successful Domme/Sub Relationship

    How To Have A Successful Domme/Sub Relationship

    Obviously I am very open minded. Working as a Findomme/FemDome, how could I not be. Even though Findom stands for financial domination, it still involves plenty of other kinks and fetishes than only money transfer.

    Honestly, when I started my work as a Domme, I got so many requests to cater to all kinds of kinks that I got very overwhelmed and needed to take a little time to do some soul searching in myself.

    What kind of Domme am I?

    What do I enjoy most about my work?

    I needed to find clear boundaries for myself. What am I comfortable doing and what fights with my personal morals/thoughts. I don’t believe in home wrecking. Blackmail is a fetish of many but it is such a grey area (legally) so I decided not to put myself in that position.

    Obviously all is a fantasy, but a girls’ got to be smart and true to herself. I don’t cater to scat fetish neither.

    These are just my limits.

    Remember this whole interview is my personal thoughts and experiences as a Domme, model and a business woman in the fetish scene.

    Sensual & Hypno Domination

    I will tackle this interview in the perspective of my style of Domination. As we are talking about the powerful relationship between a Domme/sub, I want to first explain a bit about the different types of slaves and relationships there are.

    Each sub is different and so is each relationship with each slave. I categorize my slaves into two categories.

    Long term slaves and session slaves.

    There is a huge difference on how those relationships work. Obviously the bond between a Domme and slave increases the more we interact. Personally I enjoy most dominating my long term slaves, and we usually have a TPE (Total power exchange) contract. Meaning that the submissive chooses to give me as much control and power over their entire life.

    Body, mind, soul, finances etc the list goes on. These relationships are very important to me, since I interact with them daily. I have deep penetrated their mind helping them to  intense feelings of pleasure and total loss of control.

    Introducing them to mental kinks that they maybe never could have even thought of. This is a deep mental fetish even though money is a huge part of it. To a sub, the feeling of total loss of control is a thrill and they also consider it a huge privilege.

    So I think being someones’ Domme is somewhat similar to being a life coach. Both help people discover their true passions, blocks and help them through a mental journey…in this case a very kinky journey.

    I feel like I am the disease and the cure to a sub. I believe 100% that it is possible to live a fulfilling and happy ‘vanilla’ life whilst serving a Domme and being able to express their kinks and fetishes in a safe setting. I won’t go to full details regarding sensual and hypno Domination.

    From that you can read more about later.

    What A Domme/Sub Relationship Involves

    Trust.

    Detication.

    Obidyence.

    Admiration.

    Commitment.

    Full fetish fun!

    Rules To Have A Balanced Life

    Like I already said; each relationship is unique but there is a similar pattern that I go through with every single sub I associate with once we are getting started.

    This is a routine that I recommend Dommes to use to avoid getting your time wasted but to also dominating safely so that both you and your subs get to live a balanced life.

    We also want to avoid misunderstanding our subs and the nature of our relationship with them. We need to take care of all the moving parts to have a awesome successful relationship with all our slaves.

    First Step A Sub Must Do

    The first step is always (without any exception) a ‘Tribute’.

    Tribute is money that the submissive sends to the Domme when contacting her. It is not a payment for any service.

    It basically just lets the Domme know that you are serious with starting a D/s relationship with this Dominatrix.

    Especially in the online Findom/Femdom community there are plenty of scammers, hence why us Dommes require a initial tribute as a proof that they are not being scammed or getting their precious time wasted.

    Designing The Contract/Session

    Now after the initial tribute has been sent, this is the next step.

    I have a ready made template of important questions regarding kinks/limits/budget etc that I ask all of my slaves to fill out.

    This way I can actually start doing my job.

    This also helps me to categorise the sub into one of my two categories.

    1. Long Term slaves
    2. Session slaves

    Why Do Submissives Seek Out A Relationship With A Domme?

    Let’s imagine that a sub is in a happy and successful relationship or a marriage with a ‘vanilla’ spouse whom they love but maybe are not into the fetish lifestyle or Domination.

    They most likely do not feel comfortable experimenting in that area. I don’t believe that anyone should be forced to do anything sexual that they do not feel comfortable doing. So there are few options from where couples can take it from here.

    Either the submissive one who would love to be dominated has to suffocate his urges to explore with his kinks and fetishes in order to stay with their loved one; resulting in an unbalanced/unhappy life.

    That can in worst cases result to mental health issues, cheating on your partner, cheating yourself or even a divorce.

    Or the couple can make an arrangement that the submissive can fulfil his kinky fantasies with a professional Domme in a safe setting, possibly via the internet.

    This is the ideal situation, obviously assuming that the ‘vanilla’ partner gives an okay to this action.

    Many subs live in a long happy relationship while being in a D/s relationship.

    Perfect balance. What the difference is that the Fetish is a fantasy.

    Your love is real.

    Not to belittle the beauty and power of a D/s relationship at all! But we must all understand that it is a fantasy! There are also subs who practise their kink is silence and they keep it a secret from their spouse. There are as many scenarios as there are people.

    This can be a tricky situation for a Domme. Personally I deal with this problem together with my limits; what I’m willing to do and what not. I do not believe in home-wrecking or blackmail. I’m all about female empowerment so I have very strict morals in my dominant work.

    At the best you are able to get the best of both lives,  doesn’t everyone love a little fetish with their vanilla?

    Von Nette –

    When I started my career as Von Nette just the beginning of 2018, things escalated big, real quick. I’m definitely a perfectionist and put my whole heart and soul to everything I do. I have a hunger and a passion for what I do and I know my craft.

    I would definitely describe myself as professional Fetishist, Model, FinDomme, FemDomme, seductress and your favourite addiction. I’m a sensual , deep woman full of mystery and surprises.

    I used to work as a professional hair- and makeup stylist. I have been working in the beauty industry in photoshoots , video sets and all places, always secretly hoping to be the one in front of the camera one day.

    As a very creative person by nature I have done visual art and even had few art exhibitions in my vanilla life. I have also been writing from ever since I can remember. As a teenager I started a vanilla lifestyle blog that did well but naturally took a turn towards love, relationships, sex, fetishes and kinks.

    So I decided to make my dreams come true. Now I am Von Nette! I get frequently asked that is Von Nette Me or a Alter Ego. Both. Its a side of me that I must express. Its a side who wants to brake all taboos and get to the bottom of things. The side who has always loved to make a lasting impression to people threw my own art…now I’ve gotten to the conclusion that I am The art. I am what makes the lasting impression on people. I can not suffocate this side of me any longer. I was put on this earth to create. I must fulfill that passion!

    I am proud of what I do and gladly hard work paid off since I won EroAward 2018 category ‘Supreme Goddess’ with only 6 months into my work. I know this is just a start of a long inspiring career.  Financial Domination in itself is a form of art that only the rare master, I love what I do and have fun with it. I hope you enjoy me, my work and outlook on different taboo subjects as much as I truly enjoy creating content.

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  • What I Learnt About Being A Findomme

    What I Learnt About Being A Findomme

    I think exploring kinks and alternative lifestyles is a great way to not only learn more about yourself and what you like, but it also serves as an escape. You’re free to be as adventurous as you’d like and dive into things you may have not even known existed. You can even create an entire different life and identity which makes it even more thrilling for most.

    How I Got Started Into Financial Domination

    I actually didn’t even mean to get into Findom. I had a pretty good following on one of my personal accounts and pay pigs started messaging me asking if they could send me money. It was actually so insane to me at first because I didn’t even know a financial domination fetish existed.

    Long story short, for about six months, I did a TON of research about all the different aspects of Findom and learned as much as I could by silently following the scene on Twitter and Tumblr. I wouldn’t dare step into the community if I was clueless. I never planned to dive in like I did but I just fell in love with the fetish and it all comes so naturally to me. It’s truly addicting.

    Misconceptions About Findommes

    One of the most common misconceptions I hear about Findommes is that they’re all cruel. Each Domme has her own style. There are Dommes who still dominate but aren’t into the humiliation kink.

    Another misconception that is addressed all the time is that being a Findomme is easy money. I cannot stress enough how FALSE this is. It is not “free money” or quick cash. If that’s what you’re looking for, look into being a sugar baby. Sugar babies and Findommes are TWO completely different things. I always run as far away as I can when I come across someone who thinks they are the same.

    Characteristics Of A Findomme

    As a Findomme, you are a brand. It is definitely a job and there are so many different aspects to it. Consistency is probably the hardest part about it and why so many girls jump on the scene and give up after two weeks. You have to constantly be creative to develop content to put out. I usually post 3-4 times a day but that’s just what I’m comfortable with. I have found out with Findom, just like almost everything in life, you get what you put in so having a self-starter attitude is vital if you want to be successful. You work for yourself so nobody’s going to be there to remind you to be active and post or respond to messages.

    This next one might be a no brainer but I will say it anyway… You must be dominant. There are definitely things you can learn if you’re a Findomme but if you have absolutely no dominant traits in your personality, it’s going to be extremely difficult to be successful. Being a Domme isn’t just being bratty or being mean. It’s truly an art that takes time to perfect. When you do perfect it, it’s tasteful and drives subs crazy. They always are left desperate for more.

    It’s also important to be genuine. Lots of subs have been in the scene for years. They can recognize immediately when you aren’t being real or are a phony in any way. Both Dommes and subs are so cautious because of how many catfishes and “fake Dommes” there are online. Don’t steal or copy content. Findom is a pretty close knit community so once you establish a bad reputation, everyone will know very quickly.

    How Can One Stand Out As A Findomme?

    There are so many different platforms for Findom. I mostly use Twitter because that’s just where it all started for me. However, there is a ton of competition on this specific channel. My advice to stand out is to showcase your personality. Your profile is basically how subs and other Dommes get a feel for you and who you are.

    Post high quality content and put thought into your posts. It’s not enough to post a Snapchat selfie with a caption that says “Fuck you, pay me”. Think about what your competitive edge is and own it. What kinks do you specialize in? What makes you not just A Domme, but what makes you THE Domme?

    9 Tips To Get Started As A Findomme

    • Research, research, research. Stepping on the scene knowing as much as I possibly could really allowed me to move up very quickly.
    • Realize that this community is not always as friendly as it might seem. There are tons of trolls and timewasters. Don’t allow them to drain you of your time or energy. Also, stay away from drama.
    • Optimize your profile: tribute methods in bio, verification, links to any other websites.
    • Understand that, like any other business, Findom has high’s and low’s whether it’s financially or emotionally. There are weeks where you’ll make thousands and there are weeks where it’ll slow down. I’ve noticed towards the end of the month things slow down because everyone’s bills are due.
    • Network! Networking with fellow Dommes will teach you so much and also help you grow faster. It’s also so much fun to get to do double Domme sessions too!
    • Make use of relevant hash-tags (if you’re on Twitter or Tumblr).
    • Don’t try to be anyone else. Do what is true to you. Feel free to explore but also set your own limits.
    • Be smart and safe. Not to sound like your mom, but everything you post online is permanent. Don’t do anything that will ruin your future in any way.
    • Don’t use Paypal as your preferred tribute method.

    Goddess L – A 21 year old US based FinDomme who specializes in cuckolding, total power exchange, and humiliation (just to name a few). She is an entrepreneur and complete boss in all aspects of her life. Treat yourself, give in, and indulge in Goddess L;  your dark desire.

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  • What Exactly Is Findom?

    What Exactly Is Findom?

    For many, kink can be a form of therapy and catharsis; a much needed escape from reality. Everyone has a different take on kink and a different experience, meaning the possibility for something new and interesting to be discovered is limitless. Whether it’s a 24/7 lifestyle or just for play, sensual or sadistic, kink provides us with a safe community where for some, they can finally let go and be themselves.

    What Is Financial Domination?

    A branch of BDSM Femdom, financial domination involves a (usually) male submissive submitting to a dominant, known as a Domme, Goddess, Mistress, (or male Cashmaster) financially. This submission can take many forms, from buying gifts, to money transfers known as ‘tribute’, and in some cases, giving the dominant full control over bank accounts and credit cards.

    The submissive, known as a ‘finsub’ (short for ‘financial submissive’), pay pig, or money slave, finds a sense of arousal in handing over financial control to the dominant. As with traditional Femdom, financial domination is routed in an exchange of power and is often coupled with humiliation kink, obedience, chastity and orgasm denial.

    Sounds scary? It is! Financial Domination is one of the few branches of BDSM with real world consequences, blurring the lines between role-play and real-life, making it one of the more intense and addictive forms of submission.

    Why I Enjoy Findom

    I’m very much a controlling person in my personal life and in my private relationships with men, and online financial domination has been a fun extension of that.  I definitely enjoy the power and adoration that comes with being a Domme, and I’ve been able to meet and be served by wonderful people that I ordinarily wouldn’t have met otherwise.

    Characteristics Of A Good Finsub

    Dedication, devotion, obedience, and a willingness to learn and make sacrifices are all qualities of a good finsub. Gratification should come from amusing and improving the life of the Dominant, the finsubs personal wants are secondary.

    Tips For Potential Finsubs

    No two Dommes are alike, so take your time finding someone who’s style and personality meshes with yours. Compatibility is key to a lasting and fulfilling relationship, both inside and outside the world of BDSM. Prior experience isn’t necessary, but it’s important to be clear about your limits and needs outright. Your Domme will guide you, challenge you, and shape you.  Together you’ll explore parts of yourself you may not have otherwise known existed.

    Luss the Queen: Australian Financial Dominatrix with a penchant for humiliating, controlling, and teasing men. Lover of key-holding and total power exchange; shaping men into whatever she desirers at any given time.

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