What Exactly Is Findom?

For many, kink can be a form of therapy and catharsis; a much needed escape from reality. Everyone has a different take on kink and a different experience, meaning the possibility for something new and interesting to be discovered is limitless. Whether it’s a 24/7 lifestyle or just for play, sensual or sadistic, kink provides us with a safe community where for some, they can finally let go and be themselves.

What Is Financial Domination?

A branch of BDSM Femdom, financial domination involves a (usually) male submissive submitting to a dominant, known as a Domme, Goddess, Mistress, (or male Cashmaster) financially. This submission can take many forms, from buying gifts, to money transfers known as ‘tribute’, and in some cases, giving the dominant full control over bank accounts and credit cards.

The submissive, known as a ‘finsub’ (short for ‘financial submissive’), pay pig, or money slave, finds a sense of arousal in handing over financial control to the dominant. As with traditional Femdom, financial domination is routed in an exchange of power and is often coupled with humiliation kink, obedience, chastity and orgasm denial.

Sounds scary? It is! Financial Domination is one of the few branches of BDSM with real world consequences, blurring the lines between role-play and real-life, making it one of the more intense and addictive forms of submission.

Why I Enjoy Findom

I’m very much a controlling person in my personal life and in my private relationships with men, and online financial domination has been a fun extension of that.  I definitely enjoy the power and adoration that comes with being a Domme, and I’ve been able to meet and be served by wonderful people that I ordinarily wouldn’t have met otherwise.

Characteristics Of A Good Finsub

Dedication, devotion, obedience, and a willingness to learn and make sacrifices are all qualities of a good finsub. Gratification should come from amusing and improving the life of the Dominant, the finsubs personal wants are secondary.

Tips For Potential Finsubs

No two Dommes are alike, so take your time finding someone who’s style and personality meshes with yours. Compatibility is key to a lasting and fulfilling relationship, both inside and outside the world of BDSM. Prior experience isn’t necessary, but it’s important to be clear about your limits and needs outright. Your Domme will guide you, challenge you, and shape you.  Together you’ll explore parts of yourself you may not have otherwise known existed.

Luss the Queen: Australian Financial Dominatrix with a penchant for humiliating, controlling, and teasing men. Lover of key-holding and total power exchange; shaping men into whatever she desirers at any given time.

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