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  • Exploring My Fetish Side With My Favorite Fetishes

    Exploring My Fetish Side With My Favorite Fetishes

    My name is Alexa L. Taylor, I am a typical 29 year old woman with a wonderful career, however I also am a sex worker. I enjoy sex work, and more importantly, the benefits that come from it.  I have been in the adult industry since I was barely legal.  I’ll never forget the day my college roommate found my first dildo which I was using on cam with a man 10 years my senior that my boyfriend got me. And since then, sex work and I have never parted.

    A lot has changed in the past 11 years, however, I am excited about this opportunity to share my story and viewpoints with SimplySxy readers..

    When I turned 18 I had this bright idea that I could be a porn star, however I couldn’t balance school and porn, and school won.  I graduated from college and went on to graduate school and beyond.  It wasn’t until my mid 20s when I started taking my adult life style seriously.  I joined a webcam modeling studio without realizing what that meant and foolishly signed the right away to my name.

    I have re-birthed myself many times over and about 2 years ago, I finally began to really understand who I am as a sex worker and am excited for where I am headed.  I am an adult webcam model who sells content in the form of videos, and private Skype sessions. I started out as a webcam model for free, and I had no idea you could grow up in a very much Christian household, however, I realized at a young age and embraced my sexuality and was curious about my body in addition to the adult sex worker lifestyle.

    I think alternative lifestyles help bring out who you are without judgement.  The only opinion you should be worried about is yourself.  If you don’t like something, then you shouldn’t do it.  And if you really enjoy something, then go ahead and enjoy yourself.  Chances are you will find others who enjoy the same lifestyle.

    At first it can be isolating. However, I have found that if you want to build a community, you’re going to have to be social. Find others who share your interest, be friendly, don’t divulge in drama and you will be happy.

    Exploring My Fetish Side

    I am a huge exhibitionist.  I get off on other people watching me and as soon as I learned I could get paid to do what I love, I never looked back.  I started off camming for free which turned into camming on adult cam sites which eventually grew to creating content and selling it online.

    I started exploring Femdom and Findom about 4 months ago.  I came across Iwantclips.com through a very popular cam model on Twitter.  I was up at 5am getting ready for work, checked my Twitter and saw I could upload clips to a site and sell them to eager fans.  I had to make 5 clips at once in order to open my store, therefore I created a sexy work video, a cumming video, a strip tease video, and a yoga video. After exploring the sites’ Twitter page, I came upon Femdom and Findom.  And I was mesmerized by the idea of selling my powerful and dominating nature.

    I am extremely competitive and I always want to be #1, and anything I put effort into usually turns into gold.  I value work and  striving for success no matter what.  And my plan is to really grow into Femdom and Findom. I hope to make a name for myself.  I have been eye candy for men since it was illegal for anyone to look at me…why not benefit off my beauty and make men kneel before me and worship me in all my glory.

    Personal Fetish Favorites

    Femdomme is a huge fetish that I didn’t know existed until January of this year.

    I like it because it flips the tables on the male dominating world we live in.  It forces men to put their egos and cocks aside and think of women as their goddesses.  The pendulum has finally swung into our courts and the men who divulge into Femdomme tend to be thee most generous men I have ever met.  That is after you have found the needle n the haystack  or “white whale” amongst all the time wasters, losers, crumbsnatchers, and free loaders.

    Women are responsible for much of the good in this world and often times women are mistreated, disrespected, or completely robbed of their dignity that we deserve.  The men who realize that there needs to be a shift in power are the men I am eager to meet.

    Fetishes I Like To Tty

    I personally would love to try bondage ,I think it’s super enticing.  I’d love to tie someone up with rope and tease them and allow them to experience an uninhibited orgasm all under my control!!!

    Also forced intoxication…men are always buying drinks for girls so that we will get drunk and lose our inhibitions so that they can fuck us. Well why not turn the tables…let me fuck your wallet while I make you drunk on your own dime…lol sickening and I love it..

    How Fetishes Complements My Sex Life

    Interestingly after I started divulging into Femdom and Findom…I have started to become a lot more bossy when it comes to dating and my sex life.  I find this to be extremely empowering.  I no longer care about making sure my male partners are completely satisfied.  I actually demand my own satisfaction before ever making sure he’s okay.  In terms of being a pleaser, I pretty much had stopped all of it…I no longer care if men cum or don’t….I know how to make you cum…the question now is…do you know how to make me cum…and just how many times do you plan on doing that…..

    Miss Alexa L. Taylor is a 29 y.o. woman Living in Southern California. She was born and raised in Miami Florida and moved to California a year ago to continue her career.  She enjoys all things women empowerment including findom, femdom, humiliation etc.  She strives to make  a name for hers elf in the sex worker industry and hopes other women will find her inspiring and a pleasure to be around.  As for men your only purpose in her life is to bow down and serve any means necessary.  To sacrifice your needs for hers is the only way to gain her attention.

    Follow her on:

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/Alexa_L_Taylor
    Instagram: @Sweetlexyt

    Camsoda: https://www.camsoda.com/alexaltaylor16
    Snapchat: Alexaltaylor

    IWantClips: https://iwantclips.com/store/69410/AlexaLTaylor16

    Nite Flirt: AlexaLTaylor

    Skype and Kik are available for purchase on Iwantclips.

    I will be moving back to the east coast for exactly 18mos therefore  for all the fans that have missed me on easter standard time zone and wanted to meet me I wil be back in July! Cheers

    Images courtesy of Alexa Taylor

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  • What Does It Take To Be A Good Pay Pig?

    What Does It Take To Be A Good Pay Pig?

    Put simply, I view kink and Findom as a method to feel – illusions or delusions; whatever you’re searching for. I look for a gloried connection with a slave. Modern day relationships bore me, I’m not into the cookie cutter, sweet tooth, hold hands in public bullshit. I like to draw a thick line between the superior and the inferior. Findom is a give and take relationship: pig gives and I take. I like being the queen and taking control.

    My Interest in Findom

    I have always had a dominate personality. When I was younger, I had a short fling with a rather handsome older man who bathed me in cash. He liked foot worship, humiliation and, verbal abuse. I was new to that kind of sexual degradation of men, but soon found my place as a rightful dominatrix. From there I found the Findom community online and have thrived.

    My Specialties As A Findom

    There are so many unique Findommes in our community, each as ravishing as the next.

    I stand out because of my bizarre tasks I assign.

    When a paypig tributes and devotes himself to his queen, I ask numerous questions to see what they’re into, their limits, experience, income, home life, etc. I assign tasks accordingly. I’m more of a lifestyle Findom.

    One rough example: A man with a wife is into sissifaction – He wears his wife’s lingerie then cums into a glass of water, making them into ice cubes. Putting them into his and his wife’s drink. Proof of pictures are required.

    What Are Pay Pigs Like

    Paypigs / human ATMs /cash cows are men who surrender their entire life over to a Domme. Once a pig has tributes and signed our contract, we rule their finances. I personally go a little further then most.

    I have found that most of my pigs have higher food chain roles at their workplace (mangers, CEOs, etc). I think they seek out ladies such as myself to get away from that pressure. We’re a relief. We provide what their wives cannot, and what is outside of their norm.

    They’re just normal people. You couldn’t pick them out of a group. One of my pigs is actually a competitive body builder. Biggest man I’ve ever seen, it’s amusing how much of a pansy I turn him into.

    I refer to them as: slaves, subs, losers, piggie, and any other belittling words I can think of. They’re nice guys, thankful for being able to view your photos, give you money, and your attention.

    My Pay Pig Requirements

    When a potential pay pig messages me, I first demand a tribute. I get up to 10 time wasters a day so it’s hard to decipher true pigs without tributes.

    I calculate their finances. I see Findom as giving to your superior a little more than is comfortable. I don’t want to dedicate my attention to a pig who can only tribute a maximum of $90 a week. I put a lot of time and effort into thinking of tasks, shows, and videos designed for that pig.

    And lastly, their attitude. They need to worship me. Be thankful of everything I give them. I am sugar coated, on the back seat full of vanity, gloriously sweet, born to be the other woman, yet I demand to be treated as number one.

    Do’s And Don’ts For Every Pay Pig

    Do’s:

    – Tribute all you can spare. Give us your cash. Send us presents. Spoil your queen. And then tribute that cash you can’t. Send in your savings. You can live off toast for the next week, your cash looks better on my feet anyway.

    – Thank your queen for everything.

    – Agree to everything she says. Does she want you to go gay tonight? Real slutty, faggoty, spit roasted gay? You do as she says.

    Don’ts:

    – Tell her you can’t afford her. This is FINDOM. If you can’t tribute then you have no reason to be in our messages. No one will take your broke ass.

    – Tell her irrelevant shit. Oh you’re taking your wife to dinner tonight? Shouldn’t you be spending that money on a new designer dress for me? Oh you’re going to the game? Perhaps I want you to stay home and amuse me, yes. In fact, you’re not going anymore.

    I am Queen Valarie! I am a Femdom cam girl. I dabble in all fetishes and primary thrive through Findom. My selfish attitude is intoxicating and addictive. I can make you feel things, darling.

    Follow Queen Valarie on Twitter @QueenValariee and on MyFreeCams at Queen Valarie

    Images courtesy of Queen Valarie
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  • Are You A Pay Pig Looking For A Findom Mistress?

    Are You A Pay Pig Looking For A Findom Mistress?

    Many Findommes are cut and dry “Fuck you pay me” type Dommes, and there is nothing wrong with that since many paypigs get off on the degradation and humiliation. I’m more of a “chameleon” Domme, if you will. I change my style based on my sub or paypig. When I first come in contact with a potential pig, I get to know them a bit before putting on my Domme hat; ask them about their likes/dislikes as a sub, any hard limits they may have, etc, because every sub is different so I don’t feel like I can be an effective Domme if I treat them all the same.

    That being said, I always let my dominant core shine through and demand respect even in my first conversation with someone looking to serve me. Regardless of the individual, I always demand some sort of tribute after our second conversation – the first talk allows me to feel the person out and judge if I want to continue with them further or if they are just wasting my time. I also inform them that if I am to be their Mistress, I require regular payments or tributes in the form of gifts or giftcards.

    How My Findom Journey Began

    I was actually introduced to the Findom world after a self proclaimed paypig contacted me after he saw old videos of me back from when I used to be a sub, and he asked if I was a switch.  (Since those videos were made, I have stopped being a sub due to the fact that I was a Domme at heart, but the experience allowed me to gain the insight of what subs like and need from their Domme/Dom. ) I told him I was in fact a Domme and he expressed a desire to be my paypig. I did a lot of research on Findom and decided that it sounded like something I would be very interested in, so I agreed to be his mistress. Our relationship was cut short due to his behavior, but it gave me enough of a taste to realize that I wanted more!

    Why I Enjoy Being A Findom

    I have had subs in the past that gave me their bodies to use how I pleased, but for someone to submit not only their body, but their mind, and wallet, to me was such an intoxicating thrill. They gave me the power to make or break them. With the click of a mouse or a single phone call, I could ruin their life, career, everything. The feeling of having that ultimate power and control arouses and excites me. In addition to the worship I receive from my pigs that makes me feel like a goddess.

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    Am I Qualified To Be Your Paypig?

    I don’t have a specific type of guy that I look for to be my paypig. As long as they make their regular tributes, and listen to my every order, they’re my type of pig! Some Dommes only look for richer paypigs, but for me it’s not the amount of money they tribute, but the consistency of it. I had one pig that was a college student and only made $100 a week, so I made him pay at least $20 a week, leaving him with sufficient funds for food and his other expenses. I told a new pig of mine that “No tribute is to big or small, your new Mistress loves them all” haha.

    Tasks Paypigs Perform

    This is where getting to know my pigs comes in handy because I play off their own fetishes. One pig, I made him wear ladies underwear for me while he keeps his penis in a cock cage until I told him he to take it out. He gets off on being treated like a sissy, and pays tribute by getting me toys. Another pig I made him do lines and stress positions. He’s currently working on writing 1000 lines of “I happily write ____ lines for my lovely Mistress Phoenix” and in return he tributes me by sending me money. Past pigs I would demand to do something like send tributes or take embarrassing pics or I’d expose them to their wife/work/school, because they loved the aspect of blackmail.

    Why Do Paypigs Love It?

    I think that each pig likes Findom for their own reasons, but it all boils down to a few things.

    1.) They feel that women are far superior and should be spoiled and worshiped, and they feel it is their duty to do so.

    2.) They love the power switch. Many paypigs are dominant in their everyday lives whether that be in their workplace or home, so having a woman order him around and walk all over them is a major turn on.

    3.) They just get a thrill out of a beautiful woman having the power to ruin them.

    Spoil Me Now!

    My paypigs spoil me by sending me tributes in the form of cash, or Amazon and Victoria’s Secret Giftcards, or by buying things off of my wish list, or any other specific items I ask for (for example, if I say I need new boots, I’ll have them buy them). I have a wish list on delivery code that I tell pigs to shop from, and I add things regularly to it. https://www.deliverycode.com/wishlist/4187

    I don’t use Amazon because there is a chance a paypig could find out what my address is if they purchase something for me from an Amazon wish list, which is why I switched to Amazon Giftcards.

     

    If you would like to play with me, you must know that I am a strict Mistress. I will control your mind, body, and wallet. Enter the world of findom with me as your Mistress. Follow Mistress Phoenix on Twitter @phoenixroseshow

     

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  • 5 Things you should know about Financial Domination

    5 Things you should know about Financial Domination

    What does financial domination entail?

    From my experience, Findom is an act of devotion and submission to the Domme (or Dom) through money. I’ve primarily dominated men by having them send me money. I’ve had one man buy me a $600 laptop and give me $1,500 to fund my breast augmentation surgery fund. His reasoning was because he liked to see me happy and wanted to spoil me.

    How much are slaves required to contribute to their mistresses in a Findom relationship?

    I don’t have a set income for slaves to meet to be able to serve me. If someone would like to send me gifts/money, I won’t say no.

    What do you call these slaves and why do you think they enjoy giving their money to their mistresses?

    Paypigs, Moneypigs, Wallet Slaves, etc. I think the joy men get from it is to feel powerless, blackmailed, or just in need of having someone else control their life.

    What are some items which Dominatrixes will spend on from the money they get?

    I don’t know what other Dommes would buy, but if I were to buy anything with a large sum of cash from a slave, I’d buy clothes, make up, get my nails done, go to a salon, get a massage, buy myself nice gadgets, buy a new car, live in a bigger apartment, etc. I’d basically splurge and be selfish. I’m a pretty bratty Domme. I have not yet micromanaged a slave’s financial situation, but I would like to someday soon.

    What is the main appeal of financial domination to the Dominatrix?

    For me, it’s the money and the power I can have over someone else with their money. At that point, their money becomes my money.

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