Category: Sex Ed

  • What Its Like To Be A Male Performer & Producer

    What Its Like To Be A Male Performer & Producer

    Sex is something to be cherished and enjoyed. I have had a very high sex drive ever since I discovered my love of women and the first time I came across porn, I was like wow, this is what I want to do – bone beautiful horny women in front of the camera for living!

    My motto in life is, you only live once, so go out and live life to the fullest, doing what you enjoy, otherwise, what is the point! I’m not one of them nine to five guys and never could be. Lots people like to follow the path of Uni, career job, marriage, kids, work to you’re 65, retire and then die. I couldn’t do that – life is for living is my view and do what makes you happy!

    I’m a very sexual liberal person and do wish sometimes our country was more open as the British on the whole are still very Victorian and shy when it comes to expressing their sexuality – almost sometimes as it’s frowned upon! Even so, lots of people in the UK watch porn and have sex even if they don’t admit it! LOL.

    What It’s Like Having Sex In Front Of The Camera

    Yes shooting porn and having sex on camera is completely different to having sex in your personal life. You’re doing everything for the camera, getting into unnatural positions so the camera can get the shot – it’s not about the male performers’ enjoyment. It’s about getting a hot scene which of course, having chemistry with female performer and both being into makes for a lot better scene as it shows on camera – but at the same time, we’re also doing everything for the camera so it looks great on film. And so it captures all the crystal clear shots off the action it needs, having twisted and opened up my body in unnatural positions so the camera can get the shots needed.

    Normally, the way most top producers direct their movies and how I shoot my content is we discuss the scene and what is wanted as the end product. Doing the stills first in the order we want the video roll, so both the actor myself and actress know what is wanted from the video so that the video flows rather than having stop starting every 5 minutes and having be told to switch positions if the producer isn’t getting what he wants from the scene.

    Also, doing it this way means less editing for the editor as the video flows rather than having put a load cut footage together. It is also important to have a great TOG who knows how to capture the angles and footage, along with great lighting.

    Toughest Things Being A Male Performer

    A lot of it is in the head and mental strength – you need be mentally strong, comfortable in your own body and on set. Also, you have to expect prejudice in life which male performers get as well as female performers, as sadly in this day and age, a lot of people still have Victorian attitudes towards sex and porn – even so I imagine half the people saying and making these judgements probably watch and get off to porn in their own home!

    It does change your life as people judge, but fuck them, I’m just living the life. A lot of them probably wished they were – they just haven’t got the balls to do it! And thankfully, there are people out there who are open minded and sexually liberated too like myself, just a lot doldrums around too! LOL.

    Favorite Scenes To Shoot

    Well, that’s a hard question as there are many! I do enjoy acting and comedy you have in some scenes as you get to play different characters every week – one day you could be playing the role of a plumber (I’ll leave that to your imagination but think of a horny plumber coming round to fix a hot MILFs’ boiler but ends up plumbing her holes instead! Haha). And the next minute, you’re in a Kill Bill Porno spoof LOL. I’ve also had a couple foursomes on camera, me with three girls, which is a lot of fun!

    Common Misconceptions About Adult Performers

    People just think we’re sex objects and don’t realize that we are real people like everyone else, doing normal things. For example, I play 5-a-side twice a week with my friends outside of the industry – it’s nice to have bit normality as one can easily get sucked into the porn world, and hear what my friends are up to –all of whom have many different careers.

    Also, what annoys me is that some people outside the industry think we’re riddled when we’re actually the safest, more health conscious people to have sex with as we all take our sexual health very seriously in the industry, being tested once a month and won’t shoot without certs – I find it ironic that some people who think this regularly go out on weekends having bareback one night stands as they are the ones likely to end up with STDs and an unplanned pregnancy!


    Big Johnny – An experienced well-endowed 34 year old British Male Pornstar. He has shot with some of the top UK & European female talent as well as producers, including Private, Playboy, Televison X, Killergram, Virtual Real among many others. He has also appeared on mainstream Channel 5 in Sex after Marriage with Paradise Summers in the UK.  He was nominated for best male performer in 2015 & 2018 at UKAP porn awards, as well as having his new website www.bigjohnnyxxx.com nominated for best website of the year! You can become a member for as little as $5 for a 7 day trial!

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  • How To Have Fun During Sex

    How To Have Fun During Sex

    My views on sex aren’t very complex. When I am trying to achieve orgasm aka the journey; it’s the only time I am not thinking about  any other aspect of life. Thus, I am a lover of sex and a bigger lover of the journey.  I actually can’t imagine my life without it.

    My Definition Of A Good Sexual Experience

    A good or better yet great sexual experience to me is so many things. I guess the most important thing is chemistry. When our chemistry is in sync, the sex has that flow. There is nothing awkward or robotic. That first kiss is a tell all of what’s to come. I can immediately tell if I am going to enjoy the rest of our time.

    If that kiss makes me want to cum. I get wet and want more. I love lots of sensual foreplay. Kissing my lips, neck, boobs, belly and then taking your time to kick my clit just the way I like it….albeit temporary, I will fall in love. I will absolutely give you the most earth shattering head. Add a good fuck and a smidge of kink and I am a happy gal.

    Being Open To Trying New Things

    If the trust and chemistry is present; I am willing to try just about anything.  I am not willing to try anything that involves pain, scat, vomit or children.

    Misconceptions Men Make During Sex

    The most common misconception is that women are all the same. That you can do whatever you feel is good for you. So not true! If one gal likes it rough and you try that with me, I will immediately terminate our time together.

    I had a recent long date. The gent was way too aggressive. I had to tell him to never contact me again. That’s how OFF our chemistry was. Never assume our likes mirror one another. Communicate with me prior to our date. If for nothing else, to avoid a sextastrophe.

    Do Sex Toys Spice Things Up?

    I can actually take or leave toys. Everything that I need to cum is attached to my partners’ body. I am not opposed to introducing toys to change things up a bit though. I have the Womanizer at home which I LOVE. But, that just simulates cunnilingus. If you and I are together, I want you to do the work. I have plenty of vibes, plugs and dildos as well.

    Other Ways To Kink Sex Up

    I have been known to put a twist on the norm with my regular friends.  I have restraints, gags, toys for boys and various other items. I have also introduced inanimate household objects. Ice, food, water sports and a cornucopia of other dirty little secrets.


    Penley Duke – Good morning, my name is Penley. I am a mature, intelligent, witty and overall fun lady. My background is in both the culinary world and comedy. I have toured most of our country as an Independent provider. have also toured a couple European countries. I very much enjoy meeting new people. I am grateful for all the friends that I have made over the years. While our world is constantly changing. I pride myself on being the same lady you’ve come to know and enjoy. If we have not had the pleasure of indulging in each other; I hope that we can in the future.

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  • Why Watching Others Relationships Is Good For Your Own

    Why Watching Others Relationships Is Good For Your Own

    There is a number of reality shows that were an absolute success in the world. From Keeping up with Kardashians to Love Island, real stories do impress people more. Therefore, many of us subconsciously enjoy observing others and thus learning from one’s actions and mistakes. For relationships, however, one may find another tool particularly useful, namely live streaming of one’s daily couple routines and activities.

    To satisfy people’s interest in what actually happens in other lives, a special service has been developed. On a specially designed voyeur cam online platform, you as a regular viewer can observe what real people do in real life. It may sound a bit creepy however people who participate in these kinds of projects do it voluntarily. So no worries if it feels like spying on someone as this is actually the purpose of the whole service.

    Learning From Others: Why Observations Teach Us So Much

    If you are intrinsically curious personality and love to observe others, then live cam service is definitely for you. Sometimes, people get too self-focused and do not understand how their behaviors may be perceived by others. To get an impression of how we may sometimes look ourselves, it is advisable to look at others in the same situations, and these situations usually do not happen in public.

    For those eager to improve personal relationships through experiences of others, voyeur platforms can be the perfect education platform. Here is why it is definitely worth trying the described platform for more insights into the way things actually happen in life:

    • no scenario, only real-life situations: any reality show is in this or that way directed by somebody. Therefore, it is not really a role model for people to look up to. For those interested more in real experiences and problems, it is definitely not reality shows adding the most value but the life under cam streams;
    • self-reflection opportunity: sometimes others may behave just as we are used to and this can be a good opportunity to self-reflect on personal actions. If your partner thinks that you are sometimes too hot-headed and hysterical but you simply do not agree with it, maybe try to watch other people’s’ fights to see how you may actually behave in the emotional moment;
    • fun pastime: apart from incredible learning opportunities, these videos can also be simply funny and entertaining. Given that their participants are voluntarily unveiling their life stories, watching those may be 100 times more exciting than the new season of the Bachelor. Definitely worth trying!

    Yes, reality shows are engaging and exciting but not that much as real situations. Therefore, for especially eager observers and curious individuals, watching streams from one’s personal setting and life situation is a greater pastime.


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  • What Is The Girlfriend Experience Like

    What Is The Girlfriend Experience Like

    To me, the girlfriend experience is the connection and rapport you have with someone. To have fun, talk and connect sexually and physically. It’s a great experience for me because it adds another level to our time together.

    GFE Misconceptions

    I think the biggest misconception about the GFE is it stands for kissing and OWO. It’s a much bigger experience than just that.

    Appeal Of The GFE

    My clients choose a GFE because they want total relaxation and enjoyment. Our time together should flow naturally and enjoyably, without the feeling you’re paying a lady to be with you.

    What Is Important For A Successful GFE

    For a lady to make the GFE successful, you are naturally warm, attentive and personable. To take real enjoyment out of what you’re doing and experiencing.


    Lauren Banks – Experienced high end Escort Companion. I am naturally a very warm and attentive person, my touch is soft and gentle; making the most of every moment and taking exquisite care in giving and receiving pleasures!

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  • What To Know About Foot Fetishes

    What To Know About Foot Fetishes

    The love for the feet, although it seems strange, is one of the most common and intense fetishes that can exist. The love for the feet is one of those passions that although they are not over exploited and overvalued, by the market, they are present in all the currents and slopes of art: literature, cinema, music, painting and sculpture.

    I remember that assassin for hire of Tarantino, in the saga of Kill Bill played masterfully by the sensual Uma Thurman, who invokes the force of the cosmos to move the toes of his feet, after a paralysis.

    (El amor por los pies, aunque pareciera extraño es de los fetiches más comunes e intensos que puedan existir. El  amor por los pies es una de esas pasiones que aunque no están sobre explotadas y  sobre valoradas, por el mercado, están presentes  en todas las corrientes y vertientes del arte: la literatura, el cine, la música, la pintura y la escultura.

    Recuerdo esa asesina a sueldo de Tarantino, en la saga  de Kill Bill interpretada magistralmente por la sensual Uma Thurman, quien invoca la fuerza del cosmos para mover los dedos de sus pies, después de una parálisis.)

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    I understand that it is delicious and supremely common, it consists of kissing, caressing, touching, licking, smelling and masturbating. I have also discovered that its possibilities are as limitless as the imagination of those who enjoy it.

    (Entiendo que es delicioso y supremamente común, consiste en besar, acariciar, tocar, lamer, oler y masturbar. también he descubierto que sus posibilidades son tan ilimitadas como la imaginación de quien lo disfruta.)

    What I Love About Alternative Lifestyles

    My appreciations are diverse, as a human being in constant construction my sexual tastes vary, they are modified, they intensify and they evolve, as they also weaken at times. I definitely love to explore the foot fetish and all its exquisite possibilities. Sex and everything that surrounds it in the midst of complicity and without affecting the other, I consider that more than valid is strictly necessary. Just as we work the body in a gym, the mind in a University, we must work our sexuality in intimacy. A free and honest sexuality is the principle of true self-recognition and the starting point towards a full life.

    (Mis apreciaciones son diversas, como ser humano en constante  construcción mis gustos sexuales varían, se modifican, se intensifican y evolucionan, como también se debilitan en ocasiones. Definitivamente me encanta explorar el fetiche de pies y todas sus exquisitas posibilidades. El sexo y todo aquello que lo rodea en medio de la complicidad y sin afectar al otro, considero que mas que válido es estrictamente necesario. Así como trabajamos el cuerpo en un gimnasio, la mente en una universidad, debemos trabajar nuestra sexualidad en la intimidad. Una sexualidad libre y honesta es el principio de un verdadero reconocimiento propio y el punto de partida hacia una vida plena.)

    What Does It Mean To Have A Foot Fetish

    The foot is the phallus of the woman” defends, kicks, outrages, seduces, penetrates, dominates, and submits. I enjoy when my feet are the protagonists of male and female orgasms. I enjoy having a man at my feet and also “being at the feet of a man”. It excites me when I go out into the street and I feel that the eyes follow my footsteps fixing on mobile points seated on my feet.

    (“El pie es el falo de la mujer”  defiende , patea , ultraja, seduce , penetra, domina, se somete. Disfruto cuando mis pies son los protagonistas de orgasmos masculinos y femeninos. Disfruto tener a un hombre a mis pies y también “estar a los pies de un hombre”. Me excita cuando salgo a la calle y siento que las miradas siguen mis pasos fijándose en puntos móviles asentados en mis pies.)

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    Why Are Foot Fetishes Very Popular?

    Since time immemorial, kissing the feet was a gesture of humiliation and submission, footwear and ornaments that have covered the feet are a symbol of power and adoration, always being the first to show and exhibit in dark and obtuse times, which led to all the desire and all the repression of then would find as Eden and oasis for the sexual impulse, the simple insinuation of a foot.

    In addition I must confess that very skilled feet can even overcome the skills of some hands, providing a forbidden and strange element, capable of maximizing desire and satisfaction.

    (Desde tiempos inmemorables, besar los pies era un gesto de humillación y sumisión, el calzado y los adornos que han cubiertos los pies son símbolo de poder y adoración, siendo siempre estos los primeros en mostrarse y exhibirse en tiempos obtusos y oscuros lo que llevó a  que todo el deseo y toda la represión de entonces encontrara como edén y oasis para el impulso sexual la simple insinuación de un pie.

    Por demás debo confesar que unos pies bien habilidosos pueden incluso, superar las habilidades de unas manos, aportando un elemento prohibido y extraño, capaz de elevar al máximo el deseo y la satisfacción.)

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    Misconceptions About Foot Fetishes

    • The foot fetish is more common than most “ordinary” mortals imagine.
    • Pretty women have ugly feet.
    • It is not an exclusive fetish of men, many women love their feet, whether they are male or female.
    • Many underestimate this fetish, a foot fetishist is not a psychopath.
    • Homosexuality

    El fetiche de pies es mas común de lo que la mayoría de los     “comunes”       mortales imaginan.

    las mujeres bonitas tienen pies feos.

    No es un fetiche exclusivo de los hombres, a muchas mujeres nos encanta los pies, indistinto que sean de hombre o mujer

    Muchos subvaloran este fetiche

    un fetichista de pies no es un psicópata

    homosexualidad

    Incoporating Foot Fetishes Into One’s Sex Life

    I think the most accurate way to answer this question is to briefly tell an anecdote about my life as a couple. I want to tell you that my partner, even though he was older, had never determined his feet, and those of his partners in sex, which seemed absurd and not very exciting, and then I asked him to be patient.

    What did they believe? What would I tell you all about? I only tell you that now he is an absolute worshipper of feet.

    I would like to give all of you a piece of advice that not only has it got to do with our fetish, but also with all others, not because they are fetishes. These tastes must be destined for the shadows, so it is essential that there is sincerity, honesty and above all, complicity. To hide your fetishes from your partner is to deceive them and deceive yourself. A good relationship is given in the number of fetishes that you can share.

    (Creo que la manera mas precisa de responder esta pregunta es relatando brevemente una anécdota de mi vida en pareja. Quiero contarles que mi pareja aun siendo mayor jamás había determinado sus pies, y los de sus compañeras en el sexo, pareciéndole algo absurdo y poco excitante , después le pedí que tuviera paciencia.

    Que creyeron? Que les iba a contar todo? solo les digo que ahora es un adorador absoluto de pies.

    A todos les quiero dar un consejo que no solo tiene que ver con nuestro fetiche , sino también con todos los demás, no por ser fetiches estos gustos deben estar destinados a las sombras, por ello es fundamental que haya sinceridad, honestidad y ante todo complicidad , ocultar tus fetiches a tu pareja es engañarla y engañarte a ti mismo. Una buen relación se da en el numero de fetiches que puedas compartir.)

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    Favorite Foot Play Ideas

    • Paint, write and masturbate.
    • Licking your feet with something sweet is supremely fun.
    • Feeling the hot air of the dryer on my feet.
    • Massaging with hot oils for more excitement.
    • Feeling a stone in the shoe while I run.
    • Smoking with the feet.
    • Undressing with the feet.
    • Using my feet as if they were hands.
    • Smelling sweaty and salty feet.

    – pintar ,escribir  y masturbar.

    – lamer los pies con algo dulce es supremamente divertido.

    – sentir el aire caliente del secador en mis pies.

    – masaje con aceites calientes para mas excitación.

    – sentir una piedra en el zapato mientras corro,

    – fumar con los pies

    – desnudar con los pies.

    – usar mis pies como si fueran manos

    – oler los pies sudorosos y salados


    Scarlet Bunny – Accounting assistant, financial administration student, adult content producer, videographer, photographer and artistic explorer.

    I make myself known as ScarletBunny: modeo petiff, I am white skinned, thin, of Colombian nationality with European characteristics, without leaving aside the Latin flavor that runs through my blood, I am dominant and submissive, I love dirty words, feet and the role plays. I can also be the character of your best fantasy. I produce, star and edit my own videos, taking care of every detail from beginning to end.

    (Auxiliar de contabilidad, cursante de Administración financiera, Productora de contenidos para adultos, videografa, fotógrafa y exploradora artística.

    Me hago conocer como ScarletBunny: modeo petiff, soy de tez blanca, delgada , de nacionalidad colombiana con características europeas, sin dejar a u lado el sabor latino que corre por mi sangre, soy dominante y sumisa, me encantan las palabras sucias, los pies y los juegos de roles. También puedo ser el personaje de tu mejor fantasía. Produzco , protagonizo y edito mis propios videos ,cuidando cada detalle de principio a fin.)

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  • How Men Should Eat A Lady Out

    How Men Should Eat A Lady Out

    Hi I’m Ray and I think pussies are hot, wet, little puzzles and I love giving and receiving oral sex.  Every single person’s pussy, vulva, kitty cat or cooch is totally different, and it’s invigorating to explore, tease, and learn just what gets a babe going.  And let me tell you, when a curious cat has their tongue on my pussy, I will purr, and loudly.

    Do Men Know How To Give Oral Sex?

    In my experience, people of all genders feel like they need to know how to do a sexual act, as if there is only one way to do it.  Our culture has so many hang ups around sexuality that we feel insecure or embarrassed if we don’t automatically know how to pleasure each other.

    Here’s the reality though… there is no one way, and the secret code to breaking the “how to eat a pussy puzzle” is good communication.  Ask that sexy babe what they like. Play a game about exploring those succulent lips and finding that sweet spot.  Get your hottie to play with the parts they like sucked on while you watch and then have them touch the bits they want licked. This is fun as heck and not only means you are practicing good consent, it also is a path to becoming an epic oral magician.

    Common Mistakes Men Make When Going Down

    Let’s be clear, people of all genders like to eat some kitty cat and people of all genders have kitty cats craving a little oral attention.  We all make mistakes. There is nothing wrong with not psychically knowing what an individual is going to want done to their puss.

    So THE mistake we make as linguists is not having a sense of playfulness and curiosity. Sex is messy, hot, raunchy, silly, and fucking fierce.  Don’t be afraid to ask questions and don’t be afraid to enjoy giving as much as you enjoy receiving a good oral experience.

    Tips To Follow When Going Down On Her

    Well darlings, I cannot tell you how to go down on every hot thing with a vulva and a vagina out there.  What I can tell you is what I like when a babe is getting down on me.  I want a goddamn symphony!

    When you play music, there are rests, quiet sections, crescendos, changes in tempo, and multiple scales of tone you can work in.  And, I love to be teased.  You can drive me wild with that mouth close to my sweet little clit and you don’t even need to touch it.  Before you know it, I’m gonna be squirming for your tongue.

    Start out slow, use the tip of your tongue, explore my labia, maybe suck a little, find my clit, circle it, and then change it up… unless of course I give you the glorious “don’t stop.”  Then, whatever you do, keep doing exactly what you are doing even if you think your jaw may suffer irreparable damage, because I am going to cum.  That said, I don’t orgasm from oral very often and I am not interested in that being a goal.  I’m in it for the journey, honey.

    Signs I’m Enjoying Myself

    My favourite part of giving the gift of oral sex to both humans with vulvas and the ones with penises is the feedback.  When I get you to moan, or catch your breath, or breathe heavy and beg for more, or move against my face while curling your perfect little toes, it is so hot I could die happy.  Every person orgasms differently and the lead up is just as unique.  The key is to be in tune to your partner’s body; notice the changes when you try something different, ask questions about how a thing feels, and take direction.

    The human body is a magical and strange miracle and not a machine with a set of instructions.  That’s what makes sex the extraordinary, weird, and wonderful experience it is!


    Ray Harridan – Ray Harridan is an Independent Escort, Community Organizer and soon to be Amateur Porn Performer. She is based out of Victoria BC on the south western coast of Canada. Keep an eye out for this sweet bad girl’s campy video escapades coming soon!

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  • A Brief Guide On Vagina Tightening: What You Really Need to Know

    A Brief Guide On Vagina Tightening: What You Really Need to Know

    Vagina tightening is something on the rise. Thanks to porn stars and celebrities’ pressure have been building for a woman to have tighter “designer” vaginas and some woman will go to great lengths to get the results they desire. Some woman even turns to surgery to get their vagina looking and feeling the way they want, but – like most things like this – surgery is a risky, expensive option so many other women use different methods like creams, pills or certain exercises to tighten their vaginas or pelvic floor. Whether you’re curious or thinking about having your vagina tightened. Here’s the ultimate guide to vagina tightening that you need to know.

    •       Surgery

    Vaginoplasties have been growing in popularity in recent years. The surgery exists to reshape the vagina in order to make them “tighter.” Celebrities and magazine articles have boosted the chat about vaginoplasties, often talking about how great they are but, surgery for woman’s genitals isn’t condemned by professional gynaecologist unless it’s required after childbirth.

    Not only that but if you choose to go down the surgery route it’s a very expensive option costing several thousand, depending on where you go. The risk factor can also be high. As with any plastic surgery, the chances of botched surgeries occurring are more likely and if you choose to have a child and you’ve had vaginal surgery the chances of being a complication increases.

    •       Pills and Creams

    Pills and creams are also something that’s available for a woman to use that’s a great deal cheaper than surgery, but the truth is these are mostly bogus. It doesn’t take a genius to figure out that taking pill isn’t going to do anything to your vagina and a lot of the creams that are on the market contain an ingredient called glycerine which you should stay away from as it’s been proven to cause vaginal or yeast infections. Honestly, it’s probably just better to save your money with this one.

    •       Pelvic Floor Exercise

    Pelvic floor exercises are also something that a lot of celebrities and media outlets have been talking about and this method is worth the chat. Pelvic floor exercises can be done at home with the use of a trainer (a tool that you can buy in certain shops or online) – which can be pricey we’ll admit – or without one. Doing these pelvic floor exercise can help support your pelvic floor organs, like your bladder or your uterus etc, and tighten the muscles around the vagina. After doing pelvic floor exercises for some time most women agree that sex has improved for them which just adds to the list of benefits. However, it’s worth noting that pelvic floor exercises only strength your vagina and doesn’t change its appearance so if you were hoping for a “designer vagina” this method won’t work for you.

    So there you have it. A brief guide on the methods of vaginal tightening. While surgery isn’t recommended whatever option you make, that’s up to you and no one else. Like with all these things, it’s important to do your own research.


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  • Tips For Aspiring Sex Workers

    Tips For Aspiring Sex Workers

    It should go without saying that I’m a huge supporter of a woman’s right to do whatever she’d like with her body, including participating in sex work. I’ve been in the industry on and off for about five years now and it was originally a means of survival for me. My mental health was at an all-time low after I graduated University. Depression and anxiety were taking over my life and I couldn’t hold down a “regular” 9-5 job because getting out of bed or taking care of myself was simply impossible some days. Sex work saved my life during this period. I was working with an agency and it was great being able to support myself during such an emotionally and financially difficult point in my life.

    I took a break for a few years but now I’m back in the industry from a healthier place. I have a “regular” job now but I enjoy sex work too much to give it up. The main difference is I work independently now and I’ve never felt more empowered. I love being in charge of who I see, when I see them, what we do and how much I take home at the end of the day. I have made so many genuine friends and connections through sex work and met so many amazing men and women who I’d otherwise have never had to chance to get to know.

    I’m tired of society painting us with a wide paintbrush and saying we’re all victims or that sex work shouldn’t be decriminalized. Who exactly are we hurting by doing the work that we do? Contrary to what society would have you believe, the industry is NOT just junkies and trafficking victims. Countless women choose sex work as a career and actually enjoy it, from the extra money to the extra free time and flexibility it affords, to the connections that are formed.

    Sex work is like any other form of labor to me and deserves to be seen as such. To those who see it as demeaning: I personally don’t see anything especially empowering about working minimum wage retail or food service and struggling to get by, but it’s up to each person to choose their own path. Sex work is not for everyone, but it certainly deserves the respect of everyone.

    Things I Wished I Knew Before Starting Out

    I wish I’d transitioned into working independently sooner. I was intimidated by the idea of it when I first began, but now I can’t imagine ever working for an agency again. It’s just not for me. There are certainly positives to working for an agency: it was nice having incall locations available last minute, as well as having a driver and free photoshoots and advertising, but having the agency take almost half of my earnings got really old really fast. I wish I’d done my research and had the confidence to be my own boss sooner.

    I also wish someone had told me it was okay to say no. I started out with the mindset that since the gentlemen were paying for my time, that I had to do whatever they wanted during our time together to keep them happy and wanting to come back again. I endured way too many clients who were either under the influence of drugs or alcohol, which made me uncomfortable, or those who had bad hygiene, or those who’d pressure me for my real name and personal details I was not comfortable sharing. At the agency I worked for, we’d never discussed how to turn down a client which made me feel like it wasn’t okay to turn down a client.

    How It Felt Like Initially

    I was so nervous on my very first day! It was Halloween night and I had no idea what to expect. I was with an agency, so the driver picked me up at home and dropped me off at the incall location, which was a condo building in downtown Toronto. Luckily my first client was very nice. I shared with him that it was my first time and he thankfully took charge of the situation — I love when dates do this in my personal life as well. He did not become a regular of mine, but we had a lovely time together.

    How To Stand Out & Be Unique

    All you can really do is be yourself. Ultimately, if you try too hard or come up with a gimmick to stand out, it’s going to get you noticed but for all the wrong reasons. Personality wins every time. Just be yourself on your social media and website, and when interacting via email. Don’t feel like you have to curate yourself, because when you meet that client in the real world, they’re going to see who you really are anyway.

    Don’t let them fall for an illusion or some photoshopped pictures. It’s okay to listen to Taylor Swift instead of classical. It’s okay to like beer instead of whiskey. It’s okay to not be the “cool girl”. These gentlemen are paying for time with YOU, not with a false and idealized version of you.

    How I See The Escorting Industry Evolving

    I hope the industry continues to evolve and I hope the stigma surrounding sex work and sex workers begins to fade. It’s an honest job and should be seen as such. We are not just selling sex. We are selling our time, our energy, our companionship, a tender touch, a devilish glance, an escape from your real life and a vacation into the dreamworld we’ve created for you. We’re selling a collection of uncrushed moments you can replay in your mind for a lifetime after our time together is actually over.

    I’d also like to change the way certain sex workers see their peers who are perhaps not doing as well as they are. It’s great if you’re a high-end companion and going on extravagant trips and receiving luxury gifts, but please, don’t look down on those who are working the street, working out of their cars, or offering quickie sessions or lower rates. At the end of the day, we are all sex workers and we have to stand by each other if we’re ever going to survive as an industry. Society is already trying to dismantle us — let’s not help them by creating divides between us.

    7 Tips For Aspiring Sex Workers

    Don’t get into this industry expecting it to be easy money. It’s a lot of work behind the scenes, especially if you’re working independently without the assistance of an agency. You need to build a website, you need quality photos and constantly updated photos — I’d say hire a professional photographer who is sex-worker-friendly for your initial photos, but also invest in a selfie stick and tripod. They’re cheap and they’re a great way to update your site or your socials with new pictures, without spending an arm and a leg.

    Figure out what your rates will be! Have a look at what other providers in your area are charging. Remember: it’s always easier to raise your rates than to lower them. And work that new-girl energy!

    Be active on social media. Don’t just post ads — actually engage in conversations and let your personality shine through. A lot of clients will lurk your social media for awhile to get a feel for who you are, and they can’t do that if all you’re posting is ads. I personally prefer switter.at and twitter.com

    Decide whether you’ll be offering both incall and outcall service, and, if you’re offering incall, will you host in your own space or will you go the route of Airbnb and hotels? If you are in a larger city like New York or San Francisco, find apps that will offer you cheap day rates or pay-per-minute. They’re out there and they exist.

    Will you be touring? This is a great way to expand your network of clients, and also a nice way to see more of the world if you’re so inclined. Sign up for an air miles card and / or a hotel loyalty card that offers rewards when you use them. Research online beforehand to see which hotels are more provider-friendly. For discretion, I tend to choose large hotels where everyone just blends in.

    Screening! Figure out how you’re going to make sure your potential new client is a safe client. I like to get at least two references from past providers. Get familiar with the blacklist sites for your area as well. Will you be seeing newbies who do not have past provider references? That’s fine, just make sure you have other ways to thoroughly screen, such as: getting their full legal name, government ID, real-world employment information, and go from there.

    Don’t forget to also take care of yourself. It’s easy to get burnt out when your job revolves around taking care of others, but it’s like the airplane adage that everyone repeats these days: you need to put your own mask on before helping others. Take a day off, or take a week off. Check in with yourself regularly and don’t be afraid to turn down a date if you need that extra you-time.


    Hadley Darling – Hadley Darling is a companion based in Toronto, Canada, but also tours regularly to visit her friends worldwide. She graduated from university with a major in Communications, minor in English, but now chooses sex work instead, because of the companionship, income, and free time it affords her to do other good things, like volunteering with animals and the less fortunate. When she’s not on dates with refined gentlemen, she can usually be found experimenting with new recipes in the kitchen, tending to her garden, binge watching Law and Order SVU, or fawning over her kitty.

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  • Why Women Watch Porn, When Their Partner is Not Home?

    Why Women Watch Porn, When Their Partner is Not Home?

    In several articles, you will get to read what women and men are looking for in erotic videos. Many researchers have shown a significant difference in what women and men search for. Women tend to like more likelihood and prefer identifying with their characters. They like it to be narrative and avoid something that is strictly genital.

    It shouldn’t come as a surprise that women are less visual than men. What is more surprising is that for women, the presence of their partner during these times might be an obstacle, rather than adding pleasure.

    Porn for women can be selfish as there is no need to be reciprocal when it comes to oral sex or tell their partner where exactly the exciting point is. It is relief for them that they do not have to unite the rhythm and take longer to cum while worrying about the desires and needs of their partner. When women explore their sexuality alone they can be selfish. What’s paradoxical is that when a man is educated with the help of average porn, there is a chance that he is going to have a difficult time to understand what the women really want. This is mainly because they have spent their childhood on this fifteen minutes video. Thus, it becomes problematic to assume what actual sex is like for couples.

    What Do Scholars Have To Say?

    Women watching porn shouldn’t be a concern as long as you have satisfactory sex as couples. However, if you do not then the porn might serve as a patch rather than being a problem. Watching porn will help a couple to experience better sex in bed even if only one of them is indulging in porn watching. Research has shown that erotic stimulation can help with different aspects of sexual life. Also, it might make women more comfortable to perform some act.

    However, researchers also have to say that it can have a negative impact, too. This is because it creates an expectation that the partner might not be able to satisfy it. Also, it might develop insecurity in men if women prefer porn to his company. This can create a problem among couples.

    What Other People Have To Say?

    Some people have to say that watching porn movies is a really stressful task and it requires a lot of intimacy. Close up shots of the genitals might ruin their libido. Women tend to like erotic stores as there is a lot that goes on with it. Women say that the efficiency, the time that they spent, and the satisfaction that they get is really profitable. They do not even have to prepare and groom themselves in order to have sex. They can just take their own time and satisfy themselves.

    Many women have to say that they watch other kinds of audio video for an erotic purpose. This is a phenomenon which is seen less in men. In short, it can be said, women watch porn when their partner isn’t around because they are purely looking to satisfy themselves.


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  • Dating 101

    Dating 101

    So dating in the real world….honestly I find the act of dating to be one of those odd societal practices that we are just expected to adhere to.  The idea that you would go out on a date looking for a potential soulmate or life partner is just crazy to me, like why?? It takes all the fun out of it because instead of truly getting to know that person and enjoy their company, you’re just rummaging through a list of checkpoints in your head making sure they hit all the right ones.  If they do, yay they are amazing.  If not, they are horrible.  So why even go, because I guarantee 90% of the people you meet aren’t going to check those boxes.

    This is why I decided to stop dating seriously.  Years ago, I was doing what everyone does, playing by the rules, looking for the “right” guy.  Then I realized I hated the rules because not only was I putting too much pressure on the men to be perfect, I was putting too much pressure on myself.  I couldn’t even meet my own expectations, how is anyone else going to meet them?  So I just stopped.  I decided I would just go out, get to know the other person a little better, have fun, and whatever happened, happened.  It worked quite well actually.  I started having a good time and guys were constantly trying to see me.  In fact, I  haven’t had a bad date in probably 5 years, which is partially why I decided to become an escort.

    I was so good at dating that I decided to make career out of it.  I was open and I allowed people to be themselves around me without putting under a microscope and requiring them to meet a certain set of standards.  I felt that this was a unique characteristic that I had to offer to people, who are constantly trying to adhere to some specification in their lives.  At least around me, they have a chance to be free.

    That being said, I don’t think there is particular action you should or shouldn’t do on a first date.  I think you should just be yourself and be open to the endless possibilities that can happen in an evening.  Of course if you absolutely, can’t stand the other person then you can leave and you don’t have to see them again but it’s not a failure, just an experience.  Dating should be fun!!  I mean isn’t there enough pressure in life with jobs and careers without needing to go on endless interviews trying to find the perfect mate?

    On the other hand, when it comes to meeting a potential partner, for me it’s always a random event that comes out of nowhere….like I am just walking down the street and someone plummets right into me.  And I am like wtf, who are you and how can I know you better??!!   It’s kind of an intense overwhelming experience, nothing like being on a date and thinking “yay, we both like the color blue”…or something.

    When I meet someone I really like, it is kind of magical and I definitely make it known that I want to see them again.  Usually I will try to sleep with them, if they haven’t already made a move to try to sleep with me, which I think might be the opposite of what most women do.  But I like sex and I see it as the first step to a successful relationship.  Also, it’s not something I can just withhold.  Like if I am out to dinner with someone I really like, I usually can’t make it through the whole dinner without wanting to leave to go have sex with them.  So in this case, I usually prefer going out for drinks, or doing something more chill initially, so we can spend more time having sex.

    It’s natural for me to first want to experience someone sexually.  After that I will usually care about getting to know them mentally and emotionally.  But these are all steps, which I don’t necessarily think will happen just because I meet someone I like.  Sometimes the attraction is just physical, so I enjoy that part.  Sometimes it’s more and when it is, I enjoy that too.  But it is always one step at a time.  I don’t plan out our lives together just because I like them.  If it works, great.  It if doesn’t then it was just another experience.  To me that’s real, that’s life.

    When I am getting to know someone, I don’t just want to know all the characteristics that make them awesome, I want to know their failures, and weaknesses too, their pain, their anger, their heartbreak….the nitty gritty parts that people hide in their relationships for months, years, and sometimes entirely.  I want to see it all!!  If I can see all of it and love all of it, then ya that person is probably the one for me.  But until then, I am just going to have fun 🙂


    Bella Alyssa – I am Bella Alyssa, a VIP model and companion for upscale gentlemen. I create a world of beauty and bliss, which you will experience in my presence. I am friendly, outgoing, and very personable. I enjoy meeting people of all varieties and experiencing as much of life as I can. For more information, check out my website.

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