Category: Sex Ed

Handicapable People Have Sex Too!

This is a ridiculous statement to make. I am embarrassed to make it but I have to, why? Because the mainstream believes that ‘disabled’ people are either asexual or invisible and invisible people don’t have sex. They can’t you see—they’re invisible.

Before we launch together into discussing this and putting some myths at bay, please let me tell you that I do not like the word ‘Disabled’ which is why I invert it and which is why I will, after one more mention, refer to you as Handicapable. As a wordsmith and former psychotherapist, I believe that words have power. I also believe that this power goes far deeper than we could ever imagine and as such I believe that this power can able us … or, yes you’ve guessed it ‘Dis-able’ us. Can you see where I’m coming from?

It is not my intention to offend you or disrespect your right to be visible. I know, as someone of an alternative sexuality and as someone who works in a profession marginalised by society that having a label can indeed help in this process of becoming noticed. However, I am a wordsmith and I must stay faithful to my belief. I do hope you understand.

Switch on your TV, flick through the pages of any magazine, look at billboards in Times Square/Covent Garden and you will see exactly the same thing: white, able bodied, heterosexual, young, beautiful toned models selling anything from Vodka to Tampons.

It’s all a crock of #enteryourcursehere#.

It’s time we wise up and open up to the reality of life. It is the moment we have all been waiting for, that time in our lives, that point in evolution when the ‘last monkey’ wakes up and smells the revolution.

If you have no idea what I am talking about—brilliant. This will motivate your curiosity to do some research and pop some search terms into an internet search engine. If you do know what I am talking about you might be as weary as me. What happens to you when you become weary? How do you feel right now? Do you feel included? Or excluded? Is there anything we can do together to make things just a little better for each other?

Engage with me. I’m sure that we can come up with something: together.

My Mum was a wheelchair user and I remember being just ten years old pushing her around town, going to the shops etc. I lost count of the number of times the stupid sales assistants would ask me: ‘What does she want?’ ‘Would she like the crumbed or honey roast ham?’ etc. My response would always be: ‘Well why don’t you ask her!?’ Infuriating.

Now, something you don’t really wanna know about your parents and certainly something I didn’t want to know about mine but we are on SimplySxy so I do have to sex this up: my Mum loved sex. She had a wide selection of dildos, strap-ons and vibrators stuffed in her wardrobe (and they all fell out one day, onto my poor sixteen year old head, I was scarlet with embarrassment). When Mum met her third husband, the poor man was almost worn out with her insatiable sexual appetite. She, quite inappropriately one day, blurted out to me: ‘I’ve given him thrush! It’s them antibiotics I took! His knob is red raw!’ Now let me just tell you something in case you are worrying about this slightly unhealthy disclosure (although fucking hilarious) my dear Mum now departed was a drinker, she very much enjoyed a drink of whisky and so sometimes she was somewhat shall we say, non-conventional in her parenting. However, she was fucking brilliant and I wouldn’t change a thing. The point I am making is this: Mum was human. Human beings have sex, get over it.

Are you Handicapable? What are you capable of in the bedroom and is there anything I can do to help you?

Let’s all get together—Handicapable, wheelchair users, non wheelchair users, straight, bi, gay, trans—whatever. I’m tired of all this segregation crap.

Let’s all make love. Together. Now.

Big HUG!
Matt xXx

PS: Stay tuned over the coming weeks, stick to me like glue: I’ve got something to tell you.

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October 27, 2014
Sex Positions ♥ Bootyview

Trixie Han Solo, a new Fetish Model living in Tampa, Florida, shares her views on the Sex Position – Bootyview.

Description: Have your man sit up on the bed so that his legs are extended horizontally toward the foot of the bed. Turn around and straddle him — with your back toward him — and then lower yourself onto his erect penis. Extend your legs back so they are almost behind him, relaxing your torso onto the bed between his feet. Slide up and down and use his feet for leverage.

What Excites Trixie: I have given this position a lot of thought, followed by trying it out! Let me begin by saying that it is not a position that you easily transition into. It took a bit of maneuvering to get it right. That being said, it did excite me a bit. I enjoy an ass spanking while I have sex and this position lends itself well to that particular pleasure. I moved back and forth on his erect member while he was readily able to give my hind quarters the smacking they needed. If you have a foot fetish ladies, then this position also lets you indulge, as your man’s feet are right there.

What Doesn’t Excite: Although this position obviously has its upsides, it has downsides as well. The man is in a seated position which limits the, erm…depth of his penetration. It has the tease of good doggystyle pounding but then delivers a bit shy of that goal. The angle also tended to be problematic as his penis flipped out if I did not move just right. He certainly enjoyed the improved view of my ass in his lap but the controlled motion limited his overall enjoyment. He also pointed out that the seated position was not the most comfortable for any sort of extended play.

Best locations to do it: I found that the best location to do this position is in bed using the headboard to support his seated position. Clearly, any place that he can comfortably be seated is fine.

Ways to Spice it Up: I, however, would suggest the basic modification of lifting your torso up and propping up with your arms. That way you get better control of your ride and he still gets to watch your ass as he smacks it. You could also just have him lie in a more reclined position for comfort.

Trixie’s Verdict: Overall, it is a good position but there are others that are just as effective and have better transition to not disrupt the sexual act. So reverse your cowgirls or bend them over tables and have a great time, or if you are feeling adventuous go for the “Bootyview”.

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October 26, 2014
4 Masturbation Tips To Try Tonight

Most experts will tell you that masturbation is an essential part of a healthy sex life. In my opinion, getting yourself off can be just as hot as sex with a partner. I like to think of masturbation as sex with myself. After all, who knows my body better than me? I know just the way I like to be touched and it’s an enthralling experience to focus on nothing but my own pleasure.

Not only does masturbating feel very good, but it also supplies a sexual release and I believe it has other benefits as well. First off, I think it can make you a better lover. When you masturbate you get to know your body better, which improves your sexual experiences in so many ways. Regular self-relief also allows the male to last longer, which allows more time for his partner to achieve climax. Studies show that regular masturbation offers health benefits as well. It’s a great stress reliever, boosts mood by releasing neurochemicals, and strengthens your pelvic wall, which helps prevent incontinence and erectile dysfunction.

Now that we’ve reviewed all the reasons you should be masturbating, let’s go over some ways to improve on your overall masturbation experience:

1. Set The Mood
Before I even pull down my panties, I like to get my mind in it. I turn down the lights and get nice and comfy. I often like to start out by reliving in my head, hot sexual experiences I’ve had or imagine sexual fantasies I’d like to explore in order to get myself going. This is a great opportunity to really let your imagination go wild. Another great option is watching some good old-fashioned porno to get those juices flowing. This is an especially good alternative for men who tend to be more visual than women.

2. Tease Yourself
My best orgasms come from an unhurried build. I like to start out nice and slow. I don’t go straight for the vajayjay. I like to massage my breasts, knead my thighs, and softly touch my arms and neck. When I finally do reach my clit, I tease myself and build up the intensity and then pull back. I build it up and pull back over and over until I erupt. It’s a busy world we live in so this approach is not always possible, but if you have the time the slow build is worth the wait!

3. Sex Toys
I strongly suggest experimenting with different sex toys. My personal favorite is the magic wand or back massager. I wear myself out on a regular basis having orgasm after mind-blowing orgasm with mine. I also suggest the rabbit. It’s a dildo that can rotate and has an attached clitoris massager. You control the intensity and rotation to suit your needs. Another great choice is a Sybian. I did a few videos with one of these and they are amazing! It’s like a little platform that you mount and it vibrates for great clitoral stimulation. You control the intensity and it comes with various attachments, so you can change up the penetration.

Toys aren’t just for the ladies either. I know many men who enjoy a little anal stimulation with a butt plug or like having their balls massaged by a vibrator. Lots of men have also experienced great pleasure with devices like Fleshlight. There are endless options when it comes to sex toys and everyone’s body is different, so you are really the best judge of what sex toys will be enjoyable to you, and which ones wont. Don’t be afraid to experiment and try new things.

4. Get Professional Help
Often times, masturbating alone just wont cut it! If you’re really looking to intensify your self-sex experience I highly recommend exploring the world of web camming. Man or woman, gay or straight there are a variety of performers of various ages, races, body types and genders who can act out your specific fantasy and help get you off.

Another good option is phone sex if you enjoy talking dirty or being talked dirty to.

Use one of my tips or pick your own. Be creative and explore what makes you feel sexy and ultimately pleasured.

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October 24, 2014
Sex Positions ♥ Reverse Cowgirl

Mia Li, the new adorkable asian pornstar, shares her views on the Sex Position – Reverse Cowgirl.

Description: He lies on his back; you straddle him, facing his feet.

What Excites Mia Li: This position turns me on because I know that he’s staring at my ass while I’m fucking him.

What Doesn’t Excite: Some cock shapes may be annoying in this position. Also, I always prefer to watch a man’s face when I ride him.

Best locations to do it: You can totally do this in a car…not that I would advise that while driving. I like to do this on a solid surface so I can bounce myself better.

Ways to Spice it Up: Have him grab your ass or hips to help bounce you or even buck himself up.

Mia’s Verdict: This is a fun transitional position from doggie, but I’d prefer to be facing my man.

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October 19, 2014
How to have a Threesome
So you have decided to fulfil that fantasy and have your first threesome but where do you start? Well, finding a possible playmate to join you in the bedroom is the next step, but as a couple you have to decide on the method that suits the both of you in order to achieve it. Whether you hire a professional like myself who specialises in couples, join an online adult site, attend a swingers event, or even a meet and greet; just keep in mind that some methods of meeting someone can be long and drawn out, therefore can be frustrating before you eventually cross a threesome off your list.

If your fantasy is to have a guy join you and you partner, this may be easier to achieve than finding a single female to join in the fun. Single females in the swinging scene are a commodity and the rarity of these women means they can be picky about who they spend their playtime with. In any case, if it’s a guy or a girl you want to invite into your bedroom, then it’s very important to find someone that you click with, who you can feel comfortable with and also are sexually attracted too. Organising a private play date will be harder to arrange as you will need to meet lots of possible play friends before you find the possible candidate. Attending a swingers club, depending on the day, would be the quickest way to have a threesome, but it also depends on whether you are comfortable in the exhibitionist & voyeur environment of the swinging scene. There could be many possible playmates in the one place and this could be a much simpler option, but most of the time you will probably not develop any friendships outside the evening and the lack of possible future play dates will mean you have to start at square one for your second experience.
1. Discuss the expectations each of you have about the night. While I always suggest going in with no expectations and going with the flow, there is always at least one person who gets disappointed because things “didn’t turn out”, which suggests they had a way they expected or hoped for it to go and they obviously didn’t communicate them. Communication and understanding what each other wants for this experience will ensure everyone is happy at the end. So get all potential expectations and hopes out on the table before the big event so you know what you are both expecting from each other as well as the third person, that way you can both lead the night in the same direction.
2. Decide how the third person fits in, also known as the play rules or boundaries. Is the third person purely for one of you or do you want their attention to be on both? And if you want it on both, is it ok for their attention to be on just one for a little while? As that sometimes happens. Also, are there any actions you aren’t comfortable with the third taking or being involved in? If it’s your first threesome experience, you might prefer it to be play only and no actual sex, or perhaps it just for a bisexual exploration so the sex with the third is only with the same sex partner. Once you work out how you want your third to participate, let them know your play rules or boundaries otherwise they will just go with the flow and may inadvertently try something one of you isn’t comfortable with.
3. Have a safe word which everyone knows when you need a few moments or to discuss something before going further, you know, a “time out”. With it being your first threesome experience there is one thing you can’t really plan for and that’s how you will actually cope emotionally when it’s all happening. To create an extra sense of security (which is the best feeling to go into this with), agree to have this, so emotions don’t impact their enjoyment of the night.
4. Decide how you are going to end the night. If you are at a club, well that’s easy. It simply ends when the event ends but for a private event that you may host at your place or hotel, you will need to decide how the event will wrap up. Are they sleeping over or would you prefer that they hit the road? Have you got a separate bed for them or are they sleeping with you guys? Let them know the options so they can decide what they are comfortable with. Also, for the sleeping over option, would be good if too much alcohol is consumed. Though I don’t recommend drinking too much before a threesome, as it effects judgement.
5. Remember this is your first time and just like when you had sex for the first time or had your first serious relationship, you didn’t get those 100% right either. To minimise potential issues, stick to what you both agreed to for the night in terms of your boundaries but know that you can’t plan for every scenario so if you haven’t discussed something, assume it’s a “not ok” and discuss it in the debrief. After the event, discuss how it made you feel, what you liked, what you didn’t, etc. And to be honest, the basis of a solid relationship and especially with couples that swing is honest communication.
6. Clear communication is the key to success in this and you can’t do enough of it; between yourselves and with your playmate/s so you are all on the same page. I hope this gives you an outline to start planning and making it awesome. If you would like me to help make your fantasy a reality, then contact me. I have lots of information on my couples page and I would love to meet you both. If you are single and want to experience your first threesome, I can arrange this for you too as I have lots of sexy girlfriends available for invite and play; do check out the information on my playmates page. If you would like to attend a swingers event with me, check out the information on my swingers page.
7. Good luck and above all have fun, remember SEX is to be enjoined and in the moment.
Kellie xx

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October 15, 2014
Sex is Supposed to be Fun; Isn’t It?

I am stating the obvious when I say that sex is all about having a giggle and enjoying each other. Aint’t I? Apparently not.

I was chatting to a guy on GROWLr (GRINDr for Bears—a sub-culture within gay culture— or what I prefer to call ‘GRINDr for nice people’. I find GRINDr and most of the other gay sites/apps cruel and excluding but that is a whole other article … ) and we got onto the subject of sex, of course and I flew into a friendly rant on sexual energy and what exactly happens to that heat you feel in the base of your spine and perineum (between your genitals and ass/arse) when you have sex. The guy who I was chatting to told me that he often gets the giggles ‘post-orgasm’ and I explained that this was the sexual energy shooting up from the root chakra (that heat spot I mentioned. Can you feel it now? I thought you might) and out through his heart in the middle of his chest—the heart chakra—and this quite simply makes us giggle and/or cry. It is more common for women to burst into tears during or post-climax for this reason and yes, not that I wish to stereotype but it is often the case that women are more in touch with their emotions and thus cry more easily and that sexual energy (which is associated with our emotions) has more of a free rein causing all sorts of pleasant and sometimes unpleasant responses and reactions.

So… the guy who I was chatting to then told me that he felt ‘less silly’ because I had explained it and also confessed to thinking that sex should be ‘a giggle’ and ‘about having fun’. Don’t we all think this? Don’t you realise that you really aren’t supposed to be taking this too seriously and did you know that even if you and/or your Mrs/Mr burst into tears during sex you can still enjoy it?

Allow me to give you an example … you knew this was cumming, didn’t you? And you also knew that I was going to deliberately misspell coming because, well, I just cannot resist the naughtiness …

Once upon a kink session with an ex boyfriend of mine, I was kneeling upon the four poster bed in a classy Gay Bed and Breakfast in Blackpool. My hands were tied behind my back and I was pleasuring my beloved by tonguing his balls and doing whatever he demanded of me (within the boundaries we had previously negotiated—this is how to do kink safely and with complete trust. We also used the ‘Traffic Light’ code but we’ll go into that another time…) when I suddenly became very still because ‘something’ happened. I cannot describe fully the ‘something’ other than invert the words because it was, well, almost mystical. I went from ‘Yes Sir, thank you Sir’ mode to being completely silent and from licking his manhood to absolute stillness.

He sensed something.
We both felt ‘something’.
Everything stopped.

I’ll call my ex Richard, Richard ceased his orders of ‘Do you know how honoured you are to worship me boy?’ and other such ‘insults’ to being as silent as me. He gently untied my hands and just lay there and I maintained my position, on my knees, curled up with my face in his crotch just allowing this ‘something’ to do its thing.

Then I burst into tears.
I sobbed from an old place and felt like a child again.
It was delightful.

I clambered from my place between his legs and rested upon his chest. He held me, stroked me and kissed my forehead.

“Feel better?” Richard asked, as my tears fell away and I became giggly.

“Much. Thank you. You’re amazing” I beamed with love into his moist eyes, we de-kinked (removed my leather straps, collar, jock and boots) and spooned for the remainder of the evening.

We did not discuss the tears. We didn’t need to. We giggled, tickled, nestled and warmed ourselves in the knowledge that the sex session had been fun, emotional and what it needed to be.

Here’s to your intimate adventures … you never know what might happen.

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October 13, 2014
Sex Positions ♥ Doorway to Heaven

Sam Aotaki, an Actress and Alternative Model living in Los Angeles, shares her views on the Sex Position – Doorway to Heaven.

Description: Open her doorway to orgasm and send her to Heaven. This oral sex position allows her to view his cunnilingus skills in progress, while also keeping her comfortably in tune with her clitoris. The female should lay on her side, raising one leg over the male. He then comes in from behind and places one arm under her leg and the other on her body. Use an upward licking motion.

What Excites Sam Aotaki: For me it’s the fact the the position is very easy for you to control them, since they are comfortable and their head can move around a lot it’s easy to grab their hair or maybe make them look at you while he’s doing it, he has a lot of room and leverage there so he can do as he pleases as well as use his fingers easily.

What Doesn’t Excite Sam Aotaki: Personally I will admit I’m a little bit lazy in bed, I know I know but hey it’s usually at night or in the morning for me and my boo, so I get tired sometimes! The fact that you aren’t totally laying down, you kinda have to prop yourself up or just make sure your leg doesn’t come crashing down on him. It can be a little tiring but other than that I never complain if my man wants to give me a little something.

Best locations to do it: For couples who want to spice it up and love crazy things, try it in front of a mirror or even have the woman lay on the bathroom counter so she can watch herself get turned on by you. For our more homey folks, that like it a little quieter, it’s pretty chill to just do it on the couch where u can get comfortable; maybe put on some music or even the tv, whatever!

Ways to Spice it Up: I’m a huge bondage fan and since you are the one being pleasured; guess who gets to be the dominatrix! If he lets you, try putting a leash/dog collar on him and control him like that, even scratching his back or pulling his hair. If you feel like submissing, you can put a blindfold on yourself, or maybe a gag or even tie your feet together. You can also make it fun by using flavoured body massage oil or body butter too. I’m not a fan of that just because you do get a little sticky but it tastes great.

Sam’s Verdict: A+! Great position for the woman and a comfortable way to pleasure your woman as a partner 🙂

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October 12, 2014
3 Fantasies Men Secretly Crave

Let me start off by saying. To each his own. Most of us wake up in the morning to brush our teeth, grab an apple on our way out our condo, only to sit in traffic listening to dry humor on the radio as the rain pours over our newly washed car. The car has a rather annoying ticking noise that you can no longer notice. You think of what you laid out for dinner, your mortgage, your insurance. Or do you? Walking up three flights of stairs in your soggy, wet loafers you close your eyes. You feel her pull your wet pants off. you drop your laptop and open your eyes. There she is again. This figment of your imagination. or is she real? She always makes you feel wanted, she pleases you constantly, she never lets you down. You would leave your entire life just to be with her. You would do anything. So why don’t you?

She is just a fantasy. You would never actually leave your job, your home, your wife. Or would you? After a few years of role playing for people (men and woman alike) on camera, I realized I was continuously hired to play three specific roles for them.

One being the sexually charged home wrecker. Your wife’s hot friend, or the ex you wished you never left. The ultimate sexpot you would never leave your husband in a room alone with. I’m not sure why I am so good at it. It is highly entertaining and makes for a fun and harmless time. She prances around talking about how handsome you are, how she has thoughts of you. until you explode. You can’t take it anymore, all your morals go out the window. You want her bad. So you do it. Although every time you tell yourself it’s the last time, it never is.

Two, being a brat. That’s right, a brat. The one girl in your life you would do anything for. She never does anything for you except being ann arm candy. But for some reason, you just cant get enough of her teasing your belly fat. She is highly submissive but her bratty streak has you aching for her tease and denial. After all, you’re much older than her and it would be too long before you find another sexy, young girlfriend. It’s kind of a more innocent approach to being a dominatrix. A much more playful, less intimidating role perhaps. A cute little brat pushes all the right buttons. Especially the ones at your ATM machine visits.

Last, but not least the findom. She doesn’t need your money whatsoever, but you find yourself eating top ramen just to feed her shopping addiction. To see her face light up at the sight of your cash is what you live for. You literally have maxed out every credit card and are applying for even more. You love to pamper this gluttonous greedy goddess. Lavish gifts, vacations, and chocolates. Pampering pedicures. You even bought her a house. The more money you send her, the more she ignores you.

Everyone has their own fetish and desires. I think they not only need to be fed, but also embraced. I make videos for men and women of all ages and never scoff at an idea or request for a custom video. I know the world has so many doors yet to be open. I treat every person like they are my own fiery star; full of ideas and passion. I think I was born to be a people pleaser and that’s just exactly why I am here.

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October 11, 2014
What’s The Big Deal About Women Earning More Than Men?

About ten years ago, Laurie Toby Edison published Familiar Men, a book of non-erotic nudes of men. It’s an amazing book, and I was proud to contribute The Day I Found My Ass for it. Edison captured some deeply moving images of men of many different ages, races, and backgrounds to show how our perception of nudity and sexualization differ when men are the focus, rather than women.

I remember going to one of her signings and hearing her talk about the response her photos received. Edison said that one of the most common questions she heard was, “What do these men do?” It took her by surprise, until she realized that most people are used to looking at how men are dressed and how we act in order to figure out what we do for a living. So many of the definitions of masculinity are tied up in being a provider, being a worker, being a breadwinner, that when the visual cues are taken away, a lot of people are confused. Of course, that’s really only the case in non-sexual photos like those in Familiar Men, and there aren’t too many of those. How many nude images of men can you think of that weren’t intended to be sexual?

I’ve been thinking about this in light of the recently-released study showing that 4 out of 10 US households with children have mothers who are the primary or sole earner for her family and the predictable right-wing freakout about that. I think it’s important to unpack what it means when someone like conservative radio host Brian Fischer means when he says, “I don’t think it’s a healthy dynamic to have a wife outearn her husband, because so much of his sense of worth as a male is tied up with what he does vocationally.” Why is so much of men’s self-worth tied to how we labor? Why is what we do for a living one of the first things people ask about?

“What do you do?” is one of the most common party conversation openers. Of course, that’s an easy topic to talk about, though I wonder if social conventions will change in response to our disastrous economy and the desire to avoid unpleasant topics at a dinner party. But why do so many men base their sense of personal value on what their income is? And why do so many women in these situations do more childcare and household labor to bolster their partners’ egos?

This seems like an especially important question to consider in a world in which global wealth inequality is growing faster than ever.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=QPKKQnijnsM

If these right wing pundits really want to make it possible for male-female couples to raise children on one income, they might consider pushing for the economic structures that would make that possible. But leaving aside their logical inconsistencies and how they deal with cognitive dissonance by insisting that men are designed (despite the actual science) to be the breadwinners, it seems to me that masculinity is at a turning point.

For a long time, we’ve defined masculinity in terms of “performance.” Using things like job performance, sexual performance, or athletic performance as our measuring tools creates men who look strong, but are hollow on the inside. When jobs are lost or bodies change, when the performance shifts, many men struggle with their self-worth. It’s in these situations that men’s egos get coddled, because that seems easier than reinventing what it means to be a man.

I think it’s time for us to stop defining our value by looking at how we perform. I think it’s time for us to ask ourselves what value be bring to our relationships, to our communities, and to the world. I want to see masculinity defined as something more than how well we score.

That’s not an easy path because it means that we need to look at how fear and shame have been used to control us. We need to explore the messages we’ve been forced to accept about ourselves. We need to create our self-worth, instead of getting it from performing to some external standard. And we need to learn new tools for dealing with the parts of ourselves that we’ve been avoiding. In my work as a coach, I’ve spoken with a lot of men and their partners about these kinds of things and I’m always amazed at the courage it takes to step out of the Act Like a Man Box.

And that’s the turning point we’re at. It’s time for us to be brave enough to decide that being a man isn’t about performance or scoring. It’s time to make it about something that really matters.

This article has been republished with permission from Charlie Glickman. Please visit Charlie Glickman’s website to view original post and more of Charlie’s works.

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October 9, 2014
Why 1 In 3 Men Cannot Control Ejaculation

A man may lose control over his own normal ejaculation for various reasons. Therefore, when this control is lost, the only way to get it back is with patience and certain ways to treat in a very positive way.

Are Ejaculation Issues Mind Over Matter In Reality?

The mind can indeed become a big problem where ejaculation issues are concerned. This is because it does have a tendency to create them very effectively. However, just as effectively as it can create them, the mind can destroy them. So, with this said, in essence mind over matter does matter where ejaculation issues are the focus. However, if a man has an ejaculation issue, it won’t really matter much when he does climax. Therefore, he should stimulate his partner to the very brink of orgasm at the very same time he feels he is ready to climax himself. Then it is matter over mind.

What Are Some Common Psychological Causes For ED?

Some of the most apparent of all common psychological causes for erectile dysfunction (ED) are as follows. These psychological causes can range from the lack of overall attractiveness to a partner to certain religious beliefs that having sex is very sinful to traumatic events. These traumatic events can include having a partner cheat on them to having illicit sex to discovering that they have been masturbating in secret and it is brought to attention by someone. There are also some factors where anger towards a partner can be involved and this brings it on.

What Are Some Common Ejaculation Problems?

Some very common ejaculation problems do include premature ejaculation, retrograde ejaculation, and delayed ejaculation. Each one of these ejaculation issues is not identical in nature. They all have their own individual symptoms and so forth. Therefore, with this said, just like there are numerous causes for these issues, there are also numerous forms of these problems at the end of the day.

What Causes Delayed Ejaculation?

There are lots of varying reasons why a man gets delayed ejaculation. Some of these reasons can be due to taking anti-depressants for depression to you name it. Another reason is a man’s advancing age. A good deal of time, the nerve endings on the penis do become less sensitive with physical age. A man’s erection ability is another thing that can go down physically with age too.

Does Masturbation With Ejaculation Issues?

A man can have a strong hand in his own delayed ejaculation problem. How can he do this? He just needs to do some very good masturbation with his hand on his penis. A masturbation technique that has lots of very real pressure, friction, and intense speed can do wonders for a stimulation like no other. Men can physically train themselves to pleasure themselves to such a level of top stimulation that even what a partner can provide them with falls on the average. Therefore, masturbation is indeed a good thing, and it can help a man’s ejaculation in a major physical way that is also therapeutic in delivery. Masturbation is something that can also teach a man to control his own level of arousal. This is a working essential if a man is trying to delay orgasms for himself.

What Are Some Other Ways To Treat Premature Ejaculation?

A technique that is very time honored and popular is no other than the distract yourself technique. You should distract yourself from having an orgasm by focusing on something that is either very boring or disgusting to you in description. This will help to halt your want to have an orgasm in a very big way. This is something that may prove to work for some men. However, for others it can distract them away from their partner, and also, from the sexual experience that is trying to take place.

Just because a man has issues with control over his own ejaculation, it doesn’t mean it is the end of the world for him sexually overall. If anything, it is quite the reverse, there is hope to regain control of male ejaculation with just the right form of treatment. However, he himself needs to determine what that specific treatment is and apply it to the root cause.

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October 6, 2014