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Cindy Starfall, the Asian Sensation, shares her love

Cindy Starfall was raised in a strict Vietnamese household that did not allow her to express herself sexually. A year ago, the Asian sensation decided to make a career out of her sexual liberation by joining the adult industry. Cindy is a regular at upscale swinger events and parties and loves celebrating her sexuality with fun, open-minded couples. Since her debut the gorgeous exotic star has worked with XXX production companies such as Hustler, Wicked, Penthouse, Evil Angel, Digital Playground, Adam & Eve and many more. Cindy is also a celebrated feature entertainer and currently tours the most popular gentlemen’s clubs with Hustler’s Asian Invasion Tour. Cindy has already launched an online store where fans can buy DVDs, request autographed pictures and other Cindy Starfall memorabilia directly from the star. The business-savvy beauty launched the first design in her men’s t-shirt line at the 2014 AE Expo. Though the petite starlet has only been performing in the adult industry for a year, her work has already been celebrated with a Best New Starlet nomination for the 2014 AVN Awards and XRCO Awards. Cindy was also nominated for Best Scene in a Non-Feature Release in the 2014 XBiz Awards.

SimplySxy: Has the internet made the adult industry more difficult and competitive?

Cindy Starfall: In my opinion, the internet did make the industry more competitive but I believe there is still a DVD market out there who is willingly to spend money to watch new movies instead of waiting for free clips online.

SimplySxy: What are some of the misconceptions people have about the adult industry?

Cindy: The two main misconceptions about the adult industry that I often encounter are that we are diseased people and we are uneducated people.

First of all, these misconceptions can be found in any industry, even mainstream entertainment, so just because we have sex on camera does not mean that we are all dirty people. We are tested every 14 days. Because sex is my job, I’m more conscious of my body and take better care of it.
Another misconception that the reason we do porn (is) because we are uneducated and can’t do anything else, so we have to “sell” ourselves. I want to state that the reason we do porn is because we genuinely love sex. As for me, I love the audience and the fantasy of having someone or a camera watching me is a turn on. I graduated with a BA in Business Marketing and know many porn stars with college educations!

Of course, there are some pornstars out there that fit the typical stereotype, but please be open minded and don’t generalize us all to be in one category!

SimplySxy: Can you share with us one funny/awkward/embarassing moment that have happened on set?

Cindy: An awkward moment would be when I first started, I did a hardcore throat f**king scene and he shot a huge load all over my face. Accidentally, few drops got into my eyes and it started to get red. I was new so I didn’t bring any eye drops for my eyes. So I went to a drug store and the lady was very helpful, but she couldn’t stop asking why I’m getting pink eyes. What should I say? Oh somebody just shot a huge load in my eyes? LOL

SimplySxy: Does all the sex during filming make it easier or harder when you have sex off camera?

Cindy: Sex on camera is different that sex off camera. I still have sex a lot off camera because I don’t have to worry much about giving a performance, lighting, timing, etc and I can just enjoy the moment.

SimplySxy: Solo, DP, Gangbang, which scene do you like best?

Cindy: I love when a guy is f**king me and slides his finger into my asshole so we can kinda call it a DP. Since I’m still an anal virgin, one day I will definitely try it. I also love gangbangs because (I’m) surrounded by many horny men and they can take advantage of me.

SimplySxy: Do you love using sex toys in the bedroom? And name a favourite sex toy you can’t do without?

Cindy: I love using my sex toys in the bedroom as part of my everyday routine. We can find all of my favourite sex toys in “Brookstone” in the mall LOL. They call it a “personal massager”. Everytime I walk in the store, I fantasize about giving people a visual demonstration. Some of my favourites also include the Hitachi and Lelo vibrator,…

SimplySxy: Please share with us one of your sexual fantasies?

Cindy: One of my sexual fantasies is being man-handled by two brothers or two best friends, because not everyone is comfortable in having sex with someone close to them or the social rule is that you don’t f**k your guy’s brother or best friend. The idea is twisted and it makes it more exciting.

SimplySxy: Which body part of a guy do you like most?

Cindy: Besides his big cock and his smile, I love a man with a brain. If I can’t have a conversation with someone, no matter how attractive he is, I eventually get bored and the sex can be boring.

SimplySxy: What is the most orgasmic thing a guy can do to you?

Cindy: Clit, clit ,clit! Licking my clit is the magic word. My eyes would start rolling back and the only thing I want to do is jump on him and f**k the heck out of that cock.

SimplySxy: In your opinion, what defines sex positivity?

Cindy: Chemistry. It’s about pleasing each other, finding each other orgasmic spot and getting to know each other body.

A message from you to all your fans and the SimplySxy readers:

Thank you to everyone for all your support throughout my career. Remember to check out www.cindystarfall.net for autographed movies, webcam show, or lingerie. Follow me on social media, twitter and facebook.

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Images courtesy of Cindy Starfall

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May 3, 2014
Porn Valley’s Goldstar Lesbian Lily Cade Speaks Out

Lily Cade, porn valley’s goldstar lesbian and AVN Best All-Girl Performer nominee 2014, shares with SimplySxy her views on pornography, porn addiction and her favourite sex toy she can’t do without.

SimplySxy: What is your personal view on pornography?

Lily Cade: I love making porn. I’m a performer and a director and I find this job fulfilling on so many levels. I love the athletic, high energy sex. I love being able to inhabit a character that isn’t myself and embody her through a sex scene. I love knowing that everyone is on the same page – that we are all on set to make a product and to make it good. For me this is an expression of my creativity and an expression of my authenticity as a sexual being.

There’s a dark side to the porn industry, and it’s that a lot of people get into it not because this work really speaks to them but because they mistakenly think it’s a super lucrative profession or just kind of don’t know what they are getting themselves into. There are doors closed with all of our life choices, but porn closes some pretty big ones (teaching being a prime example – we see a lot of “ex-porn star teacher fired” type stories). If you do this job because you like it and you’re proud of it, someone bringing it up can’t hurt you…but if porn is the record of you making life decisions you regret, it can be used as a weapon against you. Girls ask me all the time about getting into porn, and I tell them what is good and what is bad about it and a lot of times they change their minds about doing it. This job really isn’t for everyone.

SimplySxy: What were some of the challenges which you faced when you started out in the industry?

Lily: I’m a bit of an unconventional porn star. I have short hair, I’m sort of butch (I call myself “Hollywood Butch” as in “I’m not one, but I play one on TV”), I do girl/girl porn exclusively because I’m gay and not as a stepping stone to boy/girl and larger stardom. I just f**k girls like I mean it.

When I first got into porn, I had a lot of producers and agents tell me that I wasn’t going to be successful, particularly if I wasn’t willing to f**k men on camera. I just decided to represent myself, and I feel that I’ve accomplished a lot. I have my own website LilyCade.com, I’ve directed movies that have been nominated for AVN awards, I’ve won two Feminist Porn Awards, and I was up for Best All Girl Performer at the AVN Awards last year. I’ve shot hundreds of scenes and I’m still going strong.

I did make some changes to my look for porn. I was really rough around the edges when I got in, but I like being able to be more versatile. I’ll always have shorter hair, but I can rock an evening gown or a masculine suit depending on what the role calls for. I learned everything I know about doing makeup after I got into porn – before porn I’d basically only worn it for Halloween. I’ve grown a lot as a performer and as an actress.

SimplySxy: What are your views regarding pornography addiction?

Lily: Pornography isn’t technically addictive, although certainly there are people who become obsessed with it. I think any activity that you’re doing in lieu of human interaction can be a problem, whether that’s looking at porn or playing World of WarCraft or just watching television all day. For some people, porn can be a really positive thing, as a masturbation aid or as an educational tool or as something to spice up partnered sex. It’s about balance. If your entire life is watching porn, that’s not great, but we’re talking about adults here. I don’t feel that as a media creator I’m responsible for policing people’s media consumption or judging their lives.

SimplySxy: Please share with us one tip for ladies to enjoy anal sex?

Lily: If your definition of “anal sex” is someone’s dick in your ass, then you probably need to work up to it. Rimming feels good to a lot of girls (although I’ve met chicks who hate it – humans have varied sexual tastes), so do toys like buttplugs. If you approach anal like it’s a thing you’re trying to accomplish instead of approaching your ass as yet another conduit to pleasure, you’re doing it wrong. Your ass has nerves in it. Explore them and figure out what feels good to you.

Anal hygiene is important too. It’s way easier to relax around anal sex if you’re not worried about “santorum”. Us porn girls are well acquainted with enemas.

SimplySxy: What is the ultimate role play for you?

Lily: I like cops, prison guards, anyone in a uniform. I like playing with this particular sort of power and the abuse thereof. These sorts of authority figures are part of a system that’s f**ked. Our prison system is just massively inequitable, but the uniforms are hot, and that power to f**k up your life is hot, and there’s something taboo about being drawn to something dangerous.

I’ve done a lot of scenes where I’ve played a dirty cop and drawn attention to things that are unfair about the system while still doing really hot sex scenes so you get a touch of this “wrong but hot.”

SimplySxy: Which do you think is the sexiest part of a men’s body?

Lily: Oh honey. I’m the wrong gal to ask. His money, I suppose, since I’m just not at all interested in men sexually. I’ve never even kissed a boy .

SimplySxy: What is your favourite sex toy?

Lily: My strap-on. I’m good with it, and I know how to give angles and do all the porno positions – picking girls up, pile-drivers, you catch my drift. I like being able to f**k girls really hard, which I can also do with my hands, and I like the athleticism of it. I think a lot of dildo use in porn scenes can be kind of disconnected – less using something to f**k each other and more using it to avoid having to have sex with one’s scene partner – but when I have my strap-on buried in some girl and I’m kissing her at the same time she’s definitely there with me.

Also, a lot of the girls I f**k are kind of straight. My energy is kind of masculine. I’m a creature of the borderlands and a lot of girls who aren’t into girly girls are into me. So the strap-on thing works for me.

SimplySxy: Share with us one secret to spice it up in bed with a lover?

Lily: Let go of your hangups. You have one life, and it’s dumb to be afraid of being honest about what you like and who you are. Just be honest about your desires, both to yourself and to your partners.

Also monogamy is insane. There is so much that you can learn from other people that limiting yourself to one person sexually is just a very silly choice, on the level of deciding to have only one friend. Jealousy is a stupid emotion. It’s so, so stupid. I feel it too, but objectively it’s never brought anything of value, and I know better than to let it rule my life.

SimplySxy: What defines a sexy man according to you?

Lily: I’m going to refer to question 6, and then answer this for woman.

I’ve always said that my type is an energy thing. I f**k a lot of really attractive women (porn star perks, guys, porn star perks…seriously this job is a f**king thrill ride) with a variety of looks. I am not attracted to overweight women – I’ve always had to work hard to keep my own weight down, and it’s something I don’t like about myself, and it’s something that I just can’t cannot connect with erotically – but short of that I’m pretty open-minded.

I’ve had mind-blowing sex with women that I wouldn’t look at a picture of and be aroused by but whose energy turned me on in person. When a girl is into me, and I can feel her desire for me, that’s hot. Or if she’s nervous but ready, that’s hot too. I love butches and femmes and black women and white women – as long as she’s down, and game, and likes herself and likes sex.

SimplySxy: In your opinion, what can a guy do to give a girl a mind-blowing orgasm?

Lily: What sex means to me is rocking my partner’s world. I’m a service top – I’ll run the show, but you’re the star. I’ve never actually had an orgasm from masturbation, but I have had them from being so turned on by my partner’s pleasure or carried away by being connected with her. My sexuality is just profoundly other-focused.

I don’t think that most people operate this way, but if you can channel that it goes a long way. Learn her body. Pay attention to her. The same moves do not work on every girl, although there is sort of a basic set of stuff to choose from. I would say that the key to being a really good f**k is communication, both verbally and intuitively.

I have a leg up on dudes, because I know what the stuff I’m doing to her feels like. I can put my fingers in a girl and have this sense memory of what that feels like to me. I know her spots because I have them too. Yet, everyone is different, and plenty of women like things I don’t like..so you can learn to understand women too. You just need to listen to them with all five of your senses .

SimplySxy: A last message from you to all your fans and the SimplySxy readers?

Lily: I love my fans. I’m not a typical porn star, and I don’t want to be. I’m assertive and opinionated and I don’t do bullshit and I love that my fans support me in expressing my real self. I’m an entertainer, and an entertainer needs an audience. When people tell me that my work has affected them it means a lot to me.

If you like the things I’ve said, and you’d like to see me in action, check out my website LilyCade.com or follow me on twitter at @lily_cade

Images courtesy of Lily Cade

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May 1, 2014
Meet Meiko Askara, the new Porn Princess

SimplySxy presents its Pornography Special Feature 2014. We are delighted to present Meiko Askara, dubbed the new Porn Princess, as the first interview in this series. Meiko shares with us a secret to spice it up in bed and we get her opinion on the age old question, does size really matter?

Meiko Askara: First off Thank you for this wonderful opportunity and interview. My name is Meiko and I’m a 18yr. old mixed raced Japanese/Taiwanese budding starlet who entered into the Adult industry pretty much out of High School since turning 18 back in October 2013. I am currently a college student and grew up in Northern California living a very normal family and social life. I’ve always wanted to be a performer in Adult film as I am a very sexual person but wasn’t sure how to go about it. I made contact with someone who was familiar with the Adult Film industry who was able to steer me in the right direction with their Adult industry connections. I’m normally a very quiet person in everyday life who likes to garden and paint on my free time but a little wild in the bedroom. My First scene was with Kink.com a famous BDSM fetish site. It was a Hardcore Four guy Gang-Bang with double penetration and anal. I shot with some of the Pro’s in the biz. I shot that scene in I think in December 2013.

SimplySxy: Where do you feel the current direction of the adult industry is heading towards?

Meiko: The Adult industry has for the most part, for years been based on the business model for adult entertainment performers where Agents are contacted by producers of various sites and niches and our business arrangements are handled by our agents. We could elect not to do the scene but do not have much control of the content that is being shot or the pricing structure for the various scenes in which we are being asked to perform in. A current trend is one where the Adult Performer is in charge of his or her own destiny. Where we determine our own pricing structure and have more control of the content of our scene based on the consumers fantasies and using our Fan’s script as the base to develop the scene to be shot. The business is about being personal, not necessarily producing pre-scripted scenes from big production companies. Social media such as twitter helps facilitate dialogue between performers and fans, and helps us promote our own ventures where the Fan is the director. Such sites such as Clips For Sale and Customs4U are good examples of this business model. Many of us are now doing webcam appearances and creating our own content and custom videos from the comfort of our own homes where there is a close symbiotic relationship between the Adult Performer and the fan directly. Scripted content from big production companies will not be going anywhere anytime soon but there is definitely a new trend occurring in the industry for a more personalized experience for the consumer of Porn.

SimplySxy: What are some of the misconceptions people have about the adult industry?

Meiko: I guess one of the biggest misconceptions is how long a porn shoot actually takes even for a 5-10 minute scene. Between make-up, wardrobe and the crew setting up equipment it can be an all day affair. It’s a lot of work. Another misconception is that just because a male or female talent does Porn, it is assumed we also do escorting on the side. While some girls in the industry do escort on the side, most of us strictly keep our sexual encounters private or perform in a very regulated professional environment. I might add that the industry is very regulated with mandatory 14 day STD/HIV testing and production companies will not shoot us and performers will not perform with someone who does not have a current test. The industry as a whole is actually in some aspects safer than the one night stand that some members of the general public engages in. The industry takes a bad rap every time an HIV scare occurs. It becomes a media circus and all the anti-porn crusaders point to the industry as a cause of sexually transmitted diseases when the opposite is actually the case when the hard numbers and facts are actually analyzed, it will show that HIV outbreaks are actually quite rare when compared to the number of outbreaks in the general public.

SimplySxy: Can you share with us one funny/awkward/embarrassing moment that have happened on set?

Meiko: To be quite frank, anal scenes where the performer has not taken the proper preparatory measures can lead to an embarrassing moment where shooting needs to stop and the talent needs to “Clean Up “. The embarrassment is minimal as everyone in the industry is very professional and when an accident does occur, it’s a brief interruption and then the scene continues.

SimplySxy: Were you nervous when you made your debut porno?

Meiko: Actually ……NO. It came too natural for me. Not sure if that’s a good trait. Haha

SimplySxy: Where is your favourite filming location/scene?

Meiko: I really enjoyed my first scene with kink.com. It was a four guy hardcore gangbang. It allowed me to test my limits in a sexual manner while being in an environment that was completely safe. I got to shoot in a beautiful mansion in the Hills down in Southern California with some very good looking male talent. I had a blast.

May 1, 2014
INFOGRAPHIC: Most Luxurious Lingerie In The World

Infographic courtesy of Sheer Luxury Lingerie. Check out their range here at http://www.sheerluxurylingerie.com/

April 22, 2014
fishbelly Lingerie

fishbelly, the brainchild of Jutta Teschner, is an award-winning designer lingerie brand originally from the über trendy German hotspot Berlin. Designing beautiful lingerie for the past 15 years, gaining a huge popularity all over the world, fishbelly has won design awards and has been mentioned in countless press releases and lingerie books. Apart from their innovative designs, fishbelly uses only the best materials like high-quality laces and embroideries from Europe for our nearly handmade pieces, which is another factor for their success.

As a result, fishbelly’s trendsetting collections have been sold to the most famous department stores in the world like Henry Bendel, Victoria´s Secret and Frederick´s of Hollywood in the US, Galleries Lafayette in Paris, KadeWe in Berlin, Oberpollinger in Munich, Topshop and Fenwick in London, Mon Amour in Moscow and Globus in Switzerland.

On 8th March 2014, fishbelly announced the opening of their Soho flagship store in the stunning cosmopolitan city of Hong Kong. SimplySxy is delighted to have our writer Kathy W interview Jutta Teschner, owner and designer, to share her insights behind fishbelly.

Kathy W: To start things off, could you tell us more about your inspiration behind fishbelly and how has your background in design and previous experience in fashion retail translated to the lingerie industry?

Jutta Teschner: My graduation collection was about Latex! “Latex- a material between fashion and fetish“. I created a very fashionable women´s wear collection combining latex with fluffy wool for an interesting contrast. After graduation I opened my store called “fishbelly” and starting from there I developed my first lingerie collections, firstly selling in my shop only and then via attending trade shows in Paris worldwide.

Kathy W: fishbelly has won numerous award for the elegant and sassy line of lingerie. What is the secret to fishbelly’s success?

Jutta: I think because the designs look effortless, never masqueraded or make you feel like looking like someone else. It just gives you the right frame to bring out your natural sexiness.

Kathy W: We are curious about the Berlin influence. How is this different from other contemporary lingerie?

Jutta: Berlin is edgy and has a unique style influenced by its awesome nightlife and art scene. To transfer this mood to lingerie was easy. Berlin was always very open minded and tolerant. So I could find the right inspiration to design for example crotchless panties without the usual tacky appearance. And it made me very proud that especially women loved to buy them!

Kathy: Could you share on some interesting insights or challenges collaborating with international brands such as Victoria’s Secrets, Topshop, and Dolce & Gabbana? In addition, are there any upcoming projects and collaborations in the pipeline?

Jutta: I sold my regular branded merchandise to Victoria´s Secret and Topshop. (Never sold to Dolce & Gabbana. But opposite, I sold their underwear in my shop) Upcoming projects and collaborations have to be worked out yet according to my new Asian location. I am open to any suggestions!

Kathy W: fishbelly has an eclectic mix of intimate wear that is perfect for both daily wear and those very special occasions. Which are the most popular styles among buyers and what are your personal top favourites?

Jutta: That have always been all my “naughty” collections: Crotchless briefs and peephole bras…Me personally, I am also addicted to delicate black laces…

Kathy W: SimplySxy’s mission is to promote a healthy sexual lifestyle. What are the three top lingerie that you would recommend to our fellow SimplySxy readers?

Jutta: A nice elegant see-through lace slip dress, a naughty crotchless panty to start playing around and for sure, try out the effect of the unbeatable combination of suspender belt & silk stockings & high-heels….!

fishbelly is located at 45, Hollywood Road 1/F, Soho/Central, Hong Kong. For more enquiries, contact fishbelly at Tel. (+852) 5111 9877, mail@fishbelly-lingerie.com or visit their website at http://www.fishbelly-lingerie.com/ All photos in this article are courtesy of fishbelly.

April 2, 2014
INFOG: Sex by the Numbers

Who’s doing what, when and how? This INFOG clearly explores the mathematical side of things. Give your comments on the numbers!

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February 20, 2014
Interview with Mistress Anna

The recent HongKong Kink Con was held from 14-16 February and SimplySxy had the opportunity to ask one of the presenters, Mistress Anna, a few questions on her involvement in HKKC as well as her interests.

SimplySxy: How did you get involved in HKKC?

Mistress Anna: I was very lucky to be put forward by Decima of whom I had became acquainted with at Sydney Rope Dojo several years ago. I had also invited Decima along to my Sydney Dommes & subs Munch on several occasions and she made quite a lasting impact with the group. Such an experienced international Domina!

SimplySxy: What can people look forward to in your Humiliation and CBT workshops and why are they so popular?

Mistress Anna: I hope I can bring my own style and flavour to the table- I tend to be sadistic… in the nicest or NOT SO nicest possible way {evil grin}. I’m sure there are some of the old favourites and I hope to show {and hopefully learn} a new trick or two.

I think these classes are so popular because they can bring out the most down right evil and sadistic play. Humiliation play can delve deep into the psyche and can touch our most inner emotions.

SimplySxy: At HKKC you’re conducting two Boot Camp Mistress sessions. How do they differ from more conventional Bootcamps offered in various cities around the world?

Mistress Anna: Getting fit and BDSM is the best possible kind of match! Who doesn’t want to be “FORCED to get fit”?

SimplySxy: How important is it to attend workshops as a presenter or an attendee?

Mistress Anna: People should never stop learning, expanding and experiencing. There are always new techniques, revision, networking, community good will and more to be shared from a presenter or attendees point.

SimplySxy: Brian Robertson mentioned in his interview that he chose you because you are so integrated into your own community as an organiser. How do you contribute to your community in Sydney?

Mistress Anna: My contributions in the Kink Community are integrated into all aspects of my Lifestyle. I run The Sydney Dommes and subs group, we meet monthly for a Munch and I usually have a topic or theme.

During the Munches we have raised money for ACON (as part of The Boot Camp CITY2SURF group), against Human Trafficking in Thailand, WIRES for the Wildlife from the Australian bushfire disasters, and in February we are supporting one of our Domina who is doing FEBFAST (raising money for alcohol and drug rehabilitation).
Last year we had a Domme and sub “Morning Tea” when VIP guest Milla Reika was here for Sydney Rope Festival and in March we support one of our Ladies who is “Ms Sydney Leather 2013” to fly to the U.S to vie for the International role.

I have extended invitations to other groups such as Sydney Leather Pride, Ms Dee from UBER, SWOP and HELLFIRE to our Munches to widen the knowledge in our community and in kind I have been asked to present workshops during Sydney Leather Pride week and at UBER. My Boot Camp sessions have branched off into 1 to 1 Boot Camp sessions and I often “manscape” subs with hair removal by wax. My dear friend Ms Silk takes Kinky Yoga at my premises together we motivate kinksters through better health and flexibility to achieve their own personal kinky goals. A health and nutrition catering company called “Love Kitchen” operates out of my premises from my commercial kitchen~kinksters can order daily and weekly bespoke meals.

My vision is for healthy mind, body and spirit for our Kink Community under one roof~a holistic integrated centre. Next to join me will be a Life Coach, a Nutritionist, a Chiropractor, Naturopath and Massuse. The plan seems to be coming together!!

For more information on Mistress Anna, visit her website here. HongKong Kink Con might be over for this year, but do follow them at their website here to keep yourself updated for any new information or events that might be coming up!

February 19, 2014
Fan Submissions – Coitus Lover

Been a while since I really had mind blowing intimate coitus with my girlfriend. I could tell she was getting bored too. Not that we do not have great sex , but after the oral and different positions (well how many position can you go, it’s not like both of us are porn stars), we decided to go to the next level. We are not that bold to start swinging, because we respect each other and we believe in monogamous living and making love is both an emotional and satisfying process.

Imagine if we just had sex without the pre-coitus foreplay of flirtation, which led me to decide on getting some nice exquisite lingerie and toys. I have a few ideas in mind and lingerie is my priority. Ah, the decision making process during my purchase was a wild ride, like a mad hatter having a conversation at the tea party. It boiled down to a comfortable lacy type with an easy access to the forbidden fruit.

Now comes the presentation. Me being the hopeless romantic, wrapped up the lingerie gently surrounded with lovely chocolates in an eye catching box, which even seduced me, and I was ready for the next level. A strange thought came to my mind. Aren’t your lover’s bedroom apparel seductive enough? I mean, did the cotton panties and brightly coloured bras make you horny even before hitting the sheets? Will she be offended? Being in an Asian society, was love making just involving both to open up, get it done with and close it shut? Hey who cares! It’s me that’s transmitting my alpha male testosterone and on the receiving end is a woman who enjoys the way I give it to her (Chest Thumping Action).

The end result was a notch up experience for us, she was over the moon about the whole process from presentation to the final act, and I was richly rewarded with being chosen as the mating partner. Hmmmmm, shall I edge up a little more with my next adventure of using a sex toy or should I still rely on my little Miguel who deserves a mention. Ah… Coitus the whole package is part of life, enjoy it albeit safely though.

Coitus lover

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February 18, 2014
HongKong Kink Con 2014 – Presenter Bios

With just slightly under 2 weeks to go before HK Kink Con 2014, SimplySxy is delighted to share with you all the 11 bios of the presenters who will be there from 14-16 February. Read on to find out more about them!

Morpheus – lordmorpheus.com

Morpheous (Hons B.A., B.Ed) is a sex educator/author and magazine/kinkyTV/radio consultant based in Toronto, Canada. His Education Series presents a variety of lectures to both graduate and undergraduate studies including: The U of T Sexual Diversity Studies inaugural lecture series in 2008, York University Alternative Sexuality Student Union, Washington University, Missouri, Wayne State and the University of Western Ontario and many others. He travels and presents across the Americas, Europe, and Asia, doing outreach to both academic and positive safer sex organizations. This is his second year presenting at HKKC.

He is the author of two books “How to be Kinky: A Beginner’s Guide to BDSM” (August 2008 Green Candy Press, San Francisco) and the followup, “How to be Kinkier: Your Guide to Safer BDSM“ (Green Candy Press, San Francisco – release date: spring 2012.) His work is archived at the Sexual Representation Collection at the Bonham Centre for Sexual Diversity Studies at the University of Toronto, the Leather Archives of Chicago and the National Archives of Canada.

Every year he hosts the world’s largest single night public erotic Japanese rope bondage event during Nuit Blanche in Toronto, Canada since 2006.

Mistress Anna – mistressanna.info

Mistress Anna has been a part of the Adult Industry for approximately 10 years and the last 3.5 years has seen her evolve in to Domination. She is self employed as a Pro Domme as well as being a qualified Personal Trainer and Beauty Therapist, which she has incorporated nicely into the mix via her Bootcamp Mistress/Forced Fitness and Body Maintenance for slaves courses.

She enjoys role playing an Angry Wife, Sadistic Nurse or Head Mistress mixed in with Corporal Punishment, especially O.T.K Spankings, Ball Busting, Cross Dressing, Water Sports, Anal play, Urethral Sounds, Rope and Temporary Piercing.

In the community, she leads the Sydney Dommes and subs Munch, and has presented at UBER and Sydney Leather Pride. She is “Rope Mistress” to CJ Blue and is being Served by Chastised Loser.

Decima

Decima trained and practiced as a teacher of Drama and Theatre Arts and has been involved in theatre and music most of her life. On retirement from teaching she opened HK’s first BDSM commercial dungeon which served as a meeting point for the community in Hong Kong for many years. Fetish Fashion welcomed many people from around the world who were on their own journey of discovery and provided a safe place to learn and share.

Decima worked closely with Cross Dressers and provided counselling for many people in the community who wanted better understanding of their sexuality. Her arrest and subsequent trial served only to make her more determined to educate those who wished to understand the BDSM lifestyle.

As a presenter her experience includes the World Sexology Conference in Singapore and in Hong Kong, and HKKC 1, where her workshop was rated the top workshop of the conference by conference goers. She also lectured for some years in Sexual and Gender Diversity at the University of Hong Kong. She is active in the BDSM community in Hong Kong, and Sydney, Australia on her frequent visits there.

At the moment Decima is completing her formal training in counselling and psychotherapy and looks forward to using her decades of experience in the BDSM community to help those of minority sexuality who look for reassurance and understanding.

Elle – MBE2013.com

Elle has been involved in the BDSM community for about 14 years. In that time, she’s enjoyed bringing her expertise in human anatomy and physiology and her experience in rope, service and D/S to the community through teaching workshops and consulting for various print publications. For the past 3 years she has had the honour of lecturing on the subject of BDSM at the University level alongside her long-time friend and mentor, Morpheous. Elle has a personal passion for M/s, service, objectification, rope, power exchange, ceremony, protocol, ritual and boot worship. She is also the Producer and Director of the world’s largest single night Rope Bondage Exhibition, known as “MBE” which invites hundreds of rope enthusiasts from all over the world to perform in front of thousands of viewers in person and online each year.

Allura

Allura has been talking about sex since she learned to speak. After attending Carleton University for gender and sexuality studies, she went on the explore the sex industry firsthand for 3 years. She has worked in harm reduction and outreach for sex workers as well as other high risk groups. She is currently teaching and travelling the world.

Brian

Brian has been in the lifestyle for 17 years, and active in the community for 6 years. As one of the community leaders in HK, Brian is the founder and director of HKKC, and helps run the Sunday Munch. He is married to his sub, EmJ, and they have been in a 24/7 relationship for 4 years. He has a fetish for sensory deprivation, as well as the psychology behind D/s. In his professional life, he is an educator, event planner, and founder of HKKC.

Brian made his debut as a presenter at HKKC 1 with 3 workshops, and he has assisted in 4 lectures at HKU in 2013.

Milla Reika – milla-reika.tumblr.com

Milla Reika first began her career as a Mistress/Kinbaku Rope Artist in 2010 in Osaka, Japan. From 2011, Milla moved her career to the stage where she now performs regularly at Kinbaku/SM Events throughout Osaka and Tokyo.

In 2012, following the retirement of her Master, Takamine Ren, Milla took on management of Matrix SM bar on her own, as well as starting up [Nymphetamine] SM and Fetish Events.

In addition to Kinbaku based performances, Milla also extends her arena into Body Suspension, Body Modification/Piercing and SM shows involving torture and interrogation.

Nuit de Tokyo

NdT as he is commonly known as, is returning for his second HKKC. HK’s resident rope expert started reading Sade at 13, borrowing from the paternal library, and never really got out of SM since, courtesy of a very submissive first girl friend. In 2003, he moved to Japan and formally studied Japanese rope in situ with Osada Steve (2005-2011), Yukimura Haruki (2008-…) and Nawashi Kanna (2010-…).
He is a full member and licensed instructor of the Yukimura Haruki Ryuu under the name Haru Kakeru and was assistant to Yukimura Haruki during two workshops in Copenhagen and Los Angeles in 2012.

In March 2013, he performed recently in Tokyo for the 10th anniversary of The Gate, a large fetish party, and at the Deluxe Kabukicho Theater in Shinjuku as part of the Oo Nawa Asobi series of shows in April 2013.

Domaignes

Domaignes is a life long kinkster with much knowledge and experience of BDSM. He lives his lifestyle 24/7 usually with a slave, and always with a dungeon. He is fascinated by the mental and aesthetic appeal of BDSM and has a large collection of toys, implements, furniture, art, sculpture, books, clothing, whips and machines much of which is purpose made.

Domaignes is one of the community leaders in HK, and is teaching for his second time at HKKC.

Transhuman

Transhuman stepped into his first play party 10 years ago and has been dabbling in all things kinky since. Previously active in the NZ scene but now based in HK, he has been a local community leader for the last few years.

At HKKC 1 Transhuman presented the Skin Deep Play Piercing workshop and has guest lectured at HKU on BDSM and sexuality. Besides SM, Transhuman also has long term ambitions in improving sex education in Hong Kong.

EmJ – EmJ Photography

EmJ has been involved in the Canadian and Hong Kong scenes for 12 years. In 2008, she co-created FetLife, the world’s largest adult social networking site. Geared towards the fetish and kink communities, the site is getting ready to celebrate it’s 3 millionth member. In her professional life, Emily is an educator and a professional photographer. She has worked for high-end studios doing portrait work, but her true love is erotic photography.

EmJ is looking at pursuing a career is sexual heath and therapy, and in doing so she has Guest Lectured at HKU 3 times in 2013, and assisted with a 4th presentation, all of which were in bdsm.

February 2, 2014
SlutWalk Singapore
SimplySxy is delighted to have the opportunity to collaborate with SlutWalk Singapore (SWSG). This collaboration is in-line with SimplySxy’s mission to create awareness and provide accurate sexuality education for all our readers. SWSG has been active since 2011, conducting workshops, talks and events on a regular basis. For starters, here’s a little you should know about SlutWalk:

History of SlutWalk

SlutWalk started in Toronto in Feb of 2011 as a response to Constable Michael Sanguinetti’s statement at a York University safety forum that “women should avoid dressing like sluts in order to not be victimized.” This sparked a backlash which has resulted in SlutWalk groups forming all over the world — from Seoul to New York City to Helsinki to Delhi to Johannesburg — to protest a culture that blames victims for rape, and to challenge the attitudes that come with that, which usually leave sexual crimes under-reported as a result. We recognize that we need to end not only the acts of sexual violence, but the excuses that allow that violence to continue.

A Manifesto

We are tired of being oppressed by slut-shaming; of being judged by our sexuality and feeling unsafe as a result. We recognize that we need to end not only the acts of sexual violence, but the excuses that allow that violence to continue. This is not just a women’s issue or a men’s issue; it is everyone’s issue — regardless of gender identification, class, religion, race, or any other identity markers.

We seek to:
Join us in our mission to spread the word that those who experience sexual assault are not the ones at fault, without exception. Sexual assault is never justifiable, regardless of age, gender, class, profession, or race.

SlutWalk SG is currently carrying out a survey on Rape Culture and your participation is greatly appreciated. It will only take a minute of your time and the link to the survey can be found here. Watch this space as we bring you updates on SWSG 2014. For more information, please visit http://slutwalksg.com/
February 1, 2014