The party continues…..
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Gay Circuit Party Day 2: NEON
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Gay Circuit Party Day 1: WICKED
The Biggest Gay Circuit Party, SongKran9, in Asia has begun. There are some of the highlights of yesterday’s WICKED party.
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GoGo Bo(y)nanza
GoGo boys are mythical creatures in the Queer Kingdom. You will find they that exist in different forms in different regions. In the West, GoGo boys are dancers who are employed to entertain crowds especially in clubs. This began in the 60s and was made popular by musical variety series like Hullabaloo by NBC and Shindig by ABC. However, in Asia the term GoGo boys is synonymous with the sex trade. This was an unfortunate byproduct of the Vietnam War. This week we will have many top Asian GoGo dancers that will be performing for Songkran9 and hopefully, this will help to restore the GoGo boys name to its original glory.
Leading the charge is SongKran9 brand ambassador Peter Le. Peter used to go to the clubs in San Francisco and LA with his friends and they would always pull him up on stage to dance with them. He started to fall in love with being up on the stage. Before he knew it, he was performing as a dancer too. Peter feels that GoGo dancing requires a lot of stamina and confidence. You will have to put a lot of effort to be able to keep your energy level pumping all night long. With many eyes on you, one better be confident about showing off his body for the crowd.
Next, we have Titan who had his first performance during the Heaven party, Shanghai. Initially, he was working as public relation practitioner and stage designer. However, the party planner found that he had the potential to be a GoGo Dancer. Hence, he was invited to join the show even though he was inexperience at that point in time. Titan feels that in order to maintain a good body, one must have the knowledge of physiology and nutrition. These are important for setting up a proper training program and diet program. An experienced fitness instructor can also help you to reach good results with half the effort but Titan feels that passion and constancy are the crucial points at the end of the day.
Finally, we have Sky. Sky was invited by a party organizer in Japan as a GoGo dancer about 6 years ago after his photoshoot for the cover of Badi Magazine. Many of the challenges Sky face in this line of work are related to prejudice against GoGo boys. This is due to cultural differences and the lack of understanding of the nature of their job. Even though being a GoGo dancer is Sky’s sideline work, he has encountered a lot of unreasonable criticism on the internet. Fortunately, the erotic stereotype of GoGo boys is changing through the years because more people now have opportunities to know them through international parties such as SongKran9.
However, there is still more work to be done as many still face harsh criticisms and harassment. More than just a pretty face, the GoGo boy is key to making a party go wild. GoGo boys believe that the eyes are the windows of the soul that will draw one into the crowd and make one immerse in the sensation of the party. With a touch and a kiss, the party heats up as the music unite the crowd and performers together in a night of ecstasy.
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10 Things to do to get ready for SongKran9 Pool Party
SongKran9 Pool Party is one of the craziest party in town. It is one of first circuit parties to sell out, so if you do not have a ticket by now, try your luck next year. For those lucky few, the excitement is just around the corner and it is time to pack. To make sure that you are ready for the pool party, we have come up with a list to help you get ready for the event.
1. Sunblock
One of the hottest pool party in town is happening during one of the hottest time of the year, so sunblock is essential. Banana boat and Nieve sunblocks are very common and can be found in the many Watson and Boots located in every corner of Bangkok. For those that do not have check- in luggage when traveling to the city, you can easily get one for as cheap as 500thb. Remember: we want to get wet, not burnt.
2. What to Wear
Packing is really troublesome when you do not know what to wear. This is especially true when it is your first trip to Bangkok. My suggestion is to pack light. Bring tank tops and shorts as it is very hot in Thailand during this time of the year. You don’t need to bring too much as I’m sure you will do a lot of shopping there. As for footwear, I usually just wear slippers/flip flops in the day. However, when I go to the clubs at night, I prefer to wear shoes. Bring shoes you do not mind getting dirty as clubbing in Bangkok can be pretty wild. Also remember that it is Song Kran the water festival and you will definitely get wet just walking down the streets. So just mentality prepare yourself.
3. Swimwear
Well, it is a pool party so swimwear should have its own point. Finding the right swimwear in terms of the perfect fit or design can be a hassle. Personally, I feel that most swimwear in the market can be pretty conservative in terms of design and colour. Recently, a friend introduce me to the brand CA-RIO-CA. I feel that their designs are pretty slick and the cutting accentuate one’s assets. They have a range of cuts from traditional to bikini and a range of colours and patterns; both exciting and conservative. If nothing else suits your taste, just check out their site for hot Latino men in their sexy trunks.
4. To wax or not to wax
This is a very good question and I guess this is a matter of preference. I usually prefer guys who are natural. However, trimming is important as usually long hair tends to be unkempt. I’m not into shaving as it makes the skin prickle and itchy. As for waxing, I will give the same advice my beautician gives me: do it a week or two before your trip so that your skin is not so raw and make sure you exfoliate to prevent ingrown hairs.
5. The Music
What really gets me pumped up for a trip is listening to music leading up to the event. Be it Kylie Minogue or Lady Gaga, a good club mix really is essential. Thanks to soundcloud, we get to sample the music dished out by the four DJs prior to the pool party (do check out the below links)For the Big Wash party, the line-up is have DJ Spectrum K who is from Thailand but regularly tours Asia (from Beijing to Tokyo to Kuala Lumpur) and DJ Javy who is the resident DJ of Icon Angel Shanghai. For the Wash party, the line-up is DJ Jay Santos who is from Manila and current based in San Francisco and also Thai DJ Preeda Tony who spins in both Bangkok and Singapore. The line-up is a great blend of seasoned Asian DJs.
6. Getting around
Since the pool party is sold out, you will expect a huge turnout. It is important to be early for the party and getting around in Bangkok can be a problem due to heavy traffic. So my preferred mode of transport is always the BTS or the MRT. If you are heading out to the Big Wash party at Radisson Blu Plaza Bangkok Hotel, you can take the BTS to Asoke station or the MRT to Sukhumvit, followed by a 5 mins walk over to the hotel. It’s along the BTS tracks heading towards Phrom Phong BTS. For those who are more familiar with landmarks, it’s just off Terminal 21 Shopping Mall. As for the Wash party at Sofitel So Bangkok, it’s just off Si Lom which is where a lot of PLUs usually stay during trips to Bangkok. So it should be walking distance for most. If you are not staying in the area, then the nearest train station is Lumphini MRT.
7. Security
You can never be too safe when traveling overseas. This is especially at a party when we simply want to let our hair down and not worry about losing your things. We want to mingle and meet new people, have a splash of a time and not worry about your belongings. Luckily, SongKran9 pool parties have a coat check where you can leave your bags. Personally I would carry light, bring just the important stuff wallet, handphone and a light change of clothes. I would also share a common bag with my friends for our belonging and place it with the coat check.
8. Eating
Both the restaurants and street food in Thailand are awesome. Chances are that when you get there, you will not be able to stop eating, but pace yourself. However, do keep in mind that just like going for a swim, make sure you do not eat too heavy before going to the party. In addition, do not go with an empty stomach if you intend to have alcohol at the party. Since the party begins at 1pm, I would have a brunch at about 11am. I feel that this is enough to sustain myself until the end.
9. Firming up
Time to firm up. Well this is slightly different then toning up. Being tone is about hitting the gym to do weights to get the muscles nice and lean. Who does not like a muscular body? However, from my experience, just because your body bigger does not mean it’s less attractive. As a men would like to touch anything firm. Anything firm … From a strong grip to a beer belly, anything can just be as sexy if it’s firm to the touch—makes you feel safe and feel protected. And who doesn’t like a strong man?
10. Let’s get topless
The previous point is does sound a bit controversial. However, I hope I can drive home the point with this stand. Let’s put an end to body shaming and a pool party is a perfect place to begin. For those who are still body conscious, start by walking around at home topless. And for those who are still in winter, make a trip to an onsen. The point is to get yourself mentality prepared to go topless for the Songkran9’s pool party. I still remember the first time I went topless in a club in Bangkok: My friends and I were so reluctant to take out tops off. However, everyone in the club was topless and having fun, so we threw inhibitions aside and finally did it. It was liberating.
Check out the DJ’s who will be at Songkran9 this year: http://simplysxy.com/articles/
2015/03/21/the-gay-asian-djs/ https://soundcloud.com/dj-spectrum-k
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The Gay Asian DJs
When you are dancing your heart out in the club, how aware are you of the DJ up there? I find myself saying “Oh, I like this DJ” or “I don’t like this DJ”. Who are these people behind the music? Does local DJs have what it takes to hold a global audience when masked behind a westernized beat? In the upcoming SongKran9 circuit party, we have three DJs who are all more than well qualified to be opening DJs: DJ Louis T from Malaysia for Wicked party, DJ Head from Hong Kong for Neon party and DJ Spectrum K from Thailand for Pharaoh party. SimplySxy takes the time out to get to know them better.
SimplySxy: When did you start DJing—and what or who were your early passions and influences?
DJ Louis T: I think probably 10 years ago and during that time, my influences were Danny Tenaglia, Peter Rauhofer, Victor Calderone and DJ Paulo too. I was in love with progressive house and tribal music. The tribal sound back in those days was different than current one.
DJ Head: I started DJing 6 years ago, and I attribute my early motivation to a dear friend and mentor, Mr. Tony Moran.
DJ Spectrum K: I love music at a very young age and have collected a lot of CDs. From CDs and music, I learn to speak English.SimplySxy: What do you personally consider to be the incisive moments in your artistic career?
DJ Louis T: There are a few moments. The first of cause is the moment when I saw how my music brought joy to people, that always makes me smile. I will start to take pictures and videos to capture those moments. Secondly, whenever I am hired for a big party or gigs like Mardigras 2012 in Sydney Australia and even my first SongKran party in Bangkok. During these parties when I see people enjoying themselves, it makes me jump up and down with them as well.
DJ Head: The publication of my first compilation by NERVOUS RECORDS.
DJ Spectrum K: In every (artistic) process there is an incisive moment. When you get the feeling that everything seems to make sense that is an incisive moment. Like when I look forward to go to work, feeling happy about my work and seeing a happy audience. It reminds me that my career in the music business is the right one.SimplySxy: What are the main challenges as a DJ and producing your own music?
DJ Louis T: My main challenge is to manage my time between DJing, making music and my day job. I often exhausted flying around, come back and start work the next day. But when I am on my deck doing my stuff, everything else stop. I am totally focused and push all other worries aside. The music energizes me and I am not tired. I just want to play good music to the crowd. Plus the crowds keep me going the whole night.
DJ Head: My main challenge is to maintain a good balance of giving the crowd what they want and what I would like them to hear. Producing music is like cooking a meal, no matter how good your food is, your ultimate satisfaction comes from sharing.
DJ Spectrum K: My main challenges as a DJ is to know how to please my audience without changing my style. I would like to produce my own music if I find the time and the right moment. At this point, I am just happy to see my happy audience dancing with me rather than lock myself alone and do music.SimplySxy: Do you believe in the possibility of “reading an audience”—and how do you put it into practice? Is the relationship with the GoGo dancers a collaborative one or a battle?
DJ Louis T: It is important to read the audience and play what makes them happy but it is also important to make sure you stay within your style and to play a set that you yourself enjoy. I always believe if I myself do not enjoy the music, then the set sucks. With the GoGo dancers, we need to have connection and communication. It is important too to play the right sexy beat so they can do their best to make the night great. It is never a battle, it is a collaboration. Usually we talked about this before the night, and I am a friend to most of them. I love them.
DJ Head: Reading the audience is necessary, which is why you want a live set. As for GoGo dancers, it really depends on the production. I work with organizers to make sure that the performances would enhance the set but if say, the timing, frequency or lighting etc. is off then it could be distracting to say the least.
DJ Spectrum K: All this should come naturally when you are in the club, you can see people how they react. The main focus is the body language whether people are happy, dancing and enjoying. All this will show on their face. As for GoGo boys, it is mostly collaborative but sometimes, a GoGo show changes its mood when they want to perform other types of music or the show is running too long. That makes the audience lose their rhythm and the DJ has to restart the uplifting mood again, unless the GoGo dancers are the professional ones who are able to dance hand in hand with the DJ music style.SimplySxy: How much, do you feel, is the club experience shaped by cultural differences? Do you, when travelling, take these cultural differences into consideration when DJing?
DJ Louis T: There will be cultural differences in different countries of course. I often find the Asians love their vocals and tribal, not much After Hour. In the West, lesser vocals, more After Hour, stronger tribal and they love to be teased (in music form). Traveling helps me to experiment new styles that fit these cultures but I often try to stick back to my style as much as possible.
DJ Head: Cultural differences are not as big as one may think in this subject, although I do get inspired by different cultures in different cities and also at different times.
DJ Spectrum K: When I get asked by friends “Where are you travelling next?” and I may say Seoul, or Guangzhou “China” (to name a couple). Their replies are always “Wow, do they have a scene?” or “Do they have clubs?” or “How do they know about dance music?”, or the best one is “Do they dance differently?” It’s funny because people learn and change. At first, Guangzhou’s side seems quiet and people don’t know how to dance but eventually, they learn and start to appreciate the music. With the social media, no city is left far behind for long. You can always find people who know how to party and appreciate good music in each city. So yeah, culturally speaking, festivals and clubs worldwide are slightly different. Some are more vocal than the others (yelling, screaming, enthusiasm) or they might allow smoking or not, or drinking or not, or age limits on entry. But this is everywhere, and I don’t see it so much as a cultural thing. Living and working in Bangkok allows me to try different things and being able to stay in touch with social media lets me get the latest music information. Due to the social media, almost everywhere is the same. Everyone knows each other so there is no great difference where you spin or work with different crowds.SimplySxy: How or what do you feel is the difference between DJs from Europe and USA as compared to Asian DJs or yourself. What edge do you feel that Asian DJs might have?
DJ Louis T: In my opinion, Asian DJs are very adaptable to different genres of music. Europe and USA DJs are very loyal to their roots and style. Asian DJs are also experimental.
DJ Head: The circuit scene is dominated by music from USA and Europe so an Asian DJ does not really have so much an edge other than his fan base.
DJ Spectrum K: Most Europe and USA DJs are well appreciated and respected compared to Asian DJ or maybe Thai DJ. I guess it’s the branding and how they market themselves. Most people will think that since the DJ is from overseas, he/she has got to be famous or popular. It is sad that Asian people don’t really support their own local DJs. Although I might not as popular as other European, American DJs, I do have fans who do appreciate me and I do consider myself blessed.SimplySxy: Since this article is for Simplysxy, what is your definition of Sexy?
DJ Louis T: On people? Charisma, communication and talent. On music? A Sexy bass line.
DJ Head: Profundity is sexy as I believe the art of seduction lies in enticing the object to further exploration.
DJ Spectrum K: Everyone has a different definition of sexy but my sexy is all about good attitude and letting yourself go and have fun, stop being uptight, let your hair down, be humble and be nice. Leave the attitude behind when you are in the dance floor and that is what I called “sexy”.Check out our next Songkran9 article on the 10 Things you need to get ready for the Songkran9 Pool Party!
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A Sexual Home Appliance: Unboxing the VORZE A10 Cyclone SA
The A10 Cyclone SA by VORZE is a sexual home appliance. When I received it for the review, I did not know anything about it other than seeing pictures of it on the web. So I was surprised by how big the package was. I was expecting it to be about the same size as the flash jack that I have, however it was much longer and heavier. This made me wonder how you can masturbate with something that is of that size. It also came with a silicon plug which was packaged separately. I was pretty excited to unbox it as the pictures I have seen online showed the device to be slick and high tech. So you can say the excitement was from my virgin experience to having such a state of the art sexual tool. In short, I was geeking out.
When I unboxed the A10 Cyclone SA, I found that it came with the power adaptor with a type A plug head. This was a surprise to me as I was expecting a type G which is what my country uses—the main countries that use type A are USA, Canada and Japan. Based on this, my guess is that this is a Japanese type A10 Cyclone. I mean who else would create such a high tech sex toy? And I was right when I looked at the instruction manual; it was fully in Japanese. However, the A10 Cyclone was simple enough to use even without English instructions. This find made me even more excited because I know this A10 Cyclone will be of excellent quality. The other stuff that came with the A10 Cyclone were a DVD and a Bluetooth. Why would a sex toy need a DVD and a Bluetooth?
Putting my curiosity of the DVD and Bluetooth aside, I began to play around with the masturbator. The A10 Cyclone was indeed long and heavy; it is about fifty centimeter in length and about five hundred grams in weight. It has six buttons but no menu screen on the navigation panel. The six buttons are the power button, left and right buttons which I suspect are for changing the modes, up and down buttons which I suppose are to adjust the level intensity and lastly, a center button which I cannot figure out what it does. Before I could begin trying out the functions, I had to attach the silicon plug on. If you look at its base, there is an empty hole which is where the silicon plug should be attached. I was wondering how to remove the base to put the attachment. Strangely, the base had the illusion that it was being firmly screwed on but it wasn’t. This means that I could not twist it loose. Fighting my fear not to break it, I decided to pull the base off and surprisingly it came off easily. The base was attached with very strong magnets. Similarly, the holder for the silicon plug was also firmly attached to the motor by a strong magnet. I feel that the use of magnets was very ingenious as it really makes it easy a lot for the user to disassemble and assemble the A10 Cyclone, especially when you can want to clean up afterwards.
After I placed the silicon plug in the A10 Cyclone, I left it to charge so that I would have enough power to play with. While waiting, I went to my computer to take a look at DVD and to figure out the use of the Bluetooth. To my surprise, the DVD contain porn. Straight Japanese porn to be exact. There were three scenes inside: the first scene was a hand job, the next scene was a blowjob and the last scene a full-on vaginal penetration. On top of this, the Bluetooth allows you to synchronize the video with the A10 Cyclone. Hence, combining both visual and sensual experience to one holistic experience.
When it came for the time to lube up, I used the bottle of lubrication that came with the A10 Cyclone. The lube was a decent. However, I feel that you can use any type that you prefer as there was nothing special about the lubrication. I turned the masturbator on and boy, was I glad to see my assumptions about the navigation panel correct. I also found out that the center button was a pause button as well as a mode LED indicator. The A10 Cyclone had six different modes which are indicated by the different LED colours. They are aqua, pink, green, yellow, blue and red. These modes were patterns that were a combination of speeds and multiple-rotation. I personally enjoyed the red mode.
After I had pleasured myself, I felt that the A10 Cyclone might not be for you if you have a small penis as the silicon plug caters to those with medium to large penises. I wonder if VORZE sell silicon plugs that were tighter to cater to this market. With that being said, I still feel that the VORZE A10 Cyclone SA is a great product and a wonder gift for either a friend or for your personal pleasure.
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It’s all about the Bass
It’s all about the bass when it comes to a party. The right mix of booty shaking Go-Go boys and rad beat from the DJ. Music can make or break a party. You know a club is bad when no amount of alcohol can drown the beat away. A DJ should be able to hold his own—having his own style, passion and even cult following. In the upcoming SongKran9 circuit party, four major international DJs will grace the stage to bring the house down.
Opening the night at SongKran9’s Wicked party is DJ Alain Jackinsky. He is known for his love of House music. He started DJing when he was a teenager for dance parties in high school mainly for his own personal pleasure. As a teenager, he would listen to mainstream dance music as he was lived far from a big city. However, when he turned sixteen, he discovered house music through New York City and very quickly fell in love with this style of music. Alain loves playing a club remix version of a song he personally enjoys listening to in his everyday life like those by Coldplay or London Grammar. He feels that the big challenge for a DJ is to find “the right mix” to play. This is also coupled with the stress of performance, long hours of traveling and instability of living out of a suitcase. DJing is not a constant vacation as some may seem. It is countless hours of work and the brain never really shuts off. Music becomes your life because even at the end, the music never leaves you. It will always stay with you. In a way, that is how Alain find some kind of stability in his life.
For the main party, Neon, DJ Bent Collective will be DJing. The collective comprises DJ Steven Redant and DJ Danny Verde. Many years ago even before Danny became a DJ, Steven heard a track Danny made and loved it. It had something fresh, something poppy, and something like he has never heard before. Steven got in touch Danny and they started talking about music and their backgrounds and passion. Danny was very interested in DJing and Steven was extremely keen on producing. They have always stayed in touch but it was only when they found themselves in the same management company that they decided to create something together like the famous Avicii vs Nicky Romero remix entitled I Could be the One; a remix that will eventually launch Bent Collective into stellar heights. For Bent Collective, it is not just about DJing but also playing live music at the same time. One can expect to see live keyboards, samplers and drums and other instruments. Playing live gives Steven and Danny more liberty to goof around … and you can sure count on Brent Collective to be goofing around.
Closing the three day event is DJ Alex Acosta at Pharaoh. Alex stumbled upon DJing around the beginning of 1995 in a club with over two thousand people. He was a cook at the club and the resident DJ did not show up that night. His friends had told the manager that Alex was a DJ, which was far from the truth. While Alex loved music and had his own rock band, he was not a DJ. The management asked him to bring his CDs and he ended up playing from 10pm to 3am. The night went so well that the management offered Alex a residency at the club. Alex attributes his influences to his dad who was a musician. At home, they would always listen to good music, from rock to Cuban music such as Bola de Nieve and Celia Cruz. Alex feels that while every place is unique and different , all of us basically listen to almost the same music in the likes of Beyoncé, Madonna, and Kylie—just to name a few—at the end of the day. However, what makes the difference in a DJ’s music is its production.
Being able to create a great mix and reading the crowd is an essential skill that a DJ must have and all of these four DJs have mastered that skill. Going a bit harder, or darker, or lighter and adding vocals to give a mix the edge. It’s all about incorporating their own true style without forgetting the crowd. It’s all about the bass and perhaps that little bit of treble.
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SongKran9: A gay love story
Come April, Thailand will be the host to Asia’s largest gay circuit party. Songkran9 is a three day circuit party event organized by gCircuit. This year, Songkran9 will span from 10 to12 April. This massive event will include three night parties and two pool parties with established DJs from around the world. One can expect to hear great music, see hot go-go dancers and meet wonderful people while parting the night away. gCircuit has created a solid brand that is known to all those who love to party.
The gCircuit brand is also synonymous with their founders, Tom and Oui. Tom and Oui are a loving gay couple that has been together for over 15 years. They met during Tom’s first trip to Bangkok. On his last night before flying home to Singapore, they crossed paths on the dance floor of a gay club and both knew it was love at first sight. However, the deck was stacked against them. On top of coming from a conservative family, Tom was only back in the region because it was his NYU summer vacation, hence adding more miles between them. In an effort to be together, Oui decided to fly to New York to study English. Upon Tom’s graduation two years later, Tom decided to settle down in Oui’s native country, Thailand. The couple has built their life in Bangkok ever since.
During the mid-2000s when Nation Party, a gay circuit party that was held in Singapore, was discontinued indefinitely, Oui suggested that they start their own circuit party. Base on their love for the dance floor and coupled with their entrepreneurial background, they decided to take on the journey and were determined to succeed. Tom felt that if they want to do a circuit party, then they had to do it right. The party should have the best DJs with the best go-go boys and be held at the best locations. There were many gay parties at that time that were held in rundown straight clubs and these were struggling to stay alive. Being mediocre was not an option for the couple. Tom and Oui wanted to have a party that was unique to Thailand, just like how the Nation parties was unique to Singapore. Hence, they choose the Songkran festival—a well known wet and wild water festival in Thailand that welcomes the Thai New Year.
This year, gCircuit celebrates its ninth circuit party and its success can be attributed to Tom and Oui’s passion and persistence. The couple has a lot of love for the LGBTQ community. They believe in listening to people and giving back. When they started, they only had a two night party. It subsequently expanded into three, when the demand grew. When the Bear community wanted a space where they would not feel judged, they decided to have an exclusive Bear pool party. The outreach and contribution of gCircuit goes beyond just a three day party. In 2013, gCircuit helped Standard Chartered bank roll out a suite of products called We+. This range of products allows unmarried couples, regardless of sexual orientation and gender identity, in committed relationship get loans and mortgages. This year, they are focus is on addressing the increase in number of HIV cases reported by UNAIDS. They want to help to create an innovative way to bring the awareness for the need for safe sex to the new generation. gCircuit is definitely headed towards bigger and bolder things.
The LGBTQ calendar is shaping up to be an exciting one with SongKran9 opening the year. So come April if you are looking for a place to power up your soul, remember there is a massive circuit party with a rich history down in the City of Angels.
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Naughty or Nice: Begging to Cum
Men tied up and begging to cum. That is the catch phase of fetish porn site Men on Edge. The site caters to those that have a BDSM fetish that skews towards Edging. Edging is orgasm control. It is a sexual technique where you reach a sexual high while consciously prolonging your climax. In one of the scenes that I watched, a guy was blowing another guy that was tied up. The blow job was aggressive making the submissive hard and high quickly. Before the submissive could climax, the dominant stops the simulation to prevent the submissive from ejaculating. It does sound like torture but there are some people that enjoy it; having erotic sexual denial sessions that could last hours.
Edging is not only a form of sexual pleasure but there are those that use the technique to help to cure premature ejaculation naturally. When performing Edging on your own, you would masturbate to learn your own point of no return. That is the point when you know you will ejaculate. Once you learn how the sensation feels like, you will have to learn to resist the urge to ejaculate both physically and mentally. This is a tall order that requires patience. Some recommend that an Edging session last between 20 to 30 minutes. And adds that you might only see improvements after a few weeks of training.
Sexual pleasure and curing premature ejaculation are only some of the benefits of Edging. Another interesting benefit is multiple orgasm. Guys having multiple orgasm is a topic that is rarely talked about. However by practicing Edging, it is something achievable for men. When you are fully well aware of your own point of no return, you are able to stop stimulate during sexual intercourse before you cum. Hence, your body will feel the full pleasure of climax without ejaculation. This is also known as a dry orgasm. Once the wave passes, you should be able to carry on for the next round. Making sexual intercourse last as long as both you and your partner what to.
It is important to know how long a session should last. During one of my sexual escapades, I ejaculated however the guy that I was with did not. I remember the guy told me I almost made him cum twice but he held back. It made me wonder if it would have been different if he did not hold back. I had to endure getting lock jaw, prolonged anal pains and general fatigue. It is not easy for someone in the bottom position. It also made me wonder the effects of Edging causes desensitization of the penis. I have slept with guys where they remain flaccid for long period, take a lot of stimulation to get hard and it feels like they take forever to cum. It is not the most enjoyable of all sexual encounters. However, these negative experiences are just speculation on my part that might be cause by Edging.
At the end of the day, Edging is pleasurable and useful sexual technique. It may bring an interesting dynamic to current your sexual lifestyle. So this Christmas if you are planning to have some fun, then trying some Edging fun and leave someone begging to cum.
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The Prospect of Beauty
The Prospect of Beauty was the theme for Singapore Writers Festival 2014. The ten day event was filled with a showcase of amazing international and local writers. Hidden among the varied panel events were gems of stories of established writers dealing with sex and sexuality in their works. One such gem was conversions that revolved around India’s social construct.
In the panel on Writing for the Global Audience, Ira Trivedi talked about her new book India in Love. The book tackles issues on marriage and sexuality in India. During the panel, she read a passage on sexuality. The reading recounts a sting operation on sex workers. In India, prostitution is legal. However those in the trade still fear of being caught as brothels and pimping are illegal. This fear coupled with the stigma of being a women, Ira describes how asking for sex service raises many red flags. She was turned down harshly by many “massage services”. Finally after several unsuccessful attempts, she was able to engage with one. Ira had to bring her husband along during the operation so as to disperse further suspicion.
Stories about the sex trade always draws attention. Many want a glimpse of this underground universe. However, there is a lack of open dialog for such taboo topics. In India, even a basic conversion of the birds and the bees is shunned upon. Ira mentions how her previous novel, What would you do to Save the World?, a story about beauty pageants had more male readership then female as the male audience genuinely wanted to know what women are thinking.
This issue on the lack of conversion was reinforced by Adeline Foo’s experience with expending into the India market. The writer of the popular children’s book The Diary of Amos Lee recounts that during her expansion process, the publisher requested that she remove all content that deal with sex and sexuality. This is because any open conversion will not be well received by the conservative country. They did not want a book that could resonate with many to start off on the wrong foot.
Another interesting disagreement which Adeline had with the topic on sex and sexuality was that when she received complaints that her character Amos Lee wrote about spiders mating ritual in his diary. These complaints were from concerned Singaporean parents. Coincidentally, Adeline’s motivation came about after a friend’s 14 year old son was caught watching porn. Adeline wanted to create a platform to introduction the topic of sex to her own children. During her research, she found that spiders’ mating rituals are very similar to humans. Unfortunately, due to the lack of wisdom from some parents to leverage on such a controlled environment, the passage has been taken out from future reprints of the book. Where is the middle ground for open dialog and education on sex and sexuality?
In a panel on Asian Feminism, Leena Manimekalai a filmmaker, poet and actor mentioned that there is a paradox in India’s social construct. India may be the few countries which have had a female prime minister but position does not mean power. Its patriarchal society renders any opportunity for women to be only skin deep. Burdened by the shame of its caste system, India has a long way to go towards gender equality. Leena’s graphic description on the state in India still disturbs me. It is still ringing in my ear.
When there is religious unrest, women are raped. When there is political unrest, women are raped. When there is any form of conflict, women are raped. Women are told to come home before dark so that they can be safe in their homes. But in their homes, their fathers and uncles will crawl into their beds and violate them.
We have not passed the point of victim blaming. Hence, there is a great void for the discussion for sex and sexuality, a need to promote healthy sexual relationship and the need to promote healthy gender and sexual identity. Only then can we see the true prospect of beauty.
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