Author: Mistress Sindy Skin

Mistress Sindy Skin’s Anal play tips

Ass play can be so awesome! Yay for butts! I’m very passionate about ass play so just a few thoughts.

I’d suggest… Try it when you’re in a nice relaxed head space, not a space of obligation. Enjoy lots of delicious foreplay, with all parts of your body. Lots of kissing, skin stroking, feeling safe and sexy etc.

Finding a position where you control how far and fast you are penetrated helps both mentally and physically.

Use lots of lube (and then use some more). Slippery sexy fingers are a nice way to get your ass gently stretched. Start slower than you think and maybe want. Small rubbery plugs can help but I find a partners fingers are best as they bend with your body and partner can feel how your ass is responding. A sudden clench down on their finger will usually make them go slower. Did I mention more lube?

If their finger/s is in you and it feels uncomfortable, stop and either dribble more lube over the area or slowly pull out. When you get to a point where it feels yummy (can take a few play sessions of just using one of two fingers – that can be really intimate and hot as well so enjoy that too), have him gently introduce more fingers, all at a beautiful slow tempo. If you notice you’re tensing up, take a moment to concentrate on relaxing all your body and breathing slower. Relaxed body means relaxed ass.

When the head of a cock, dildo etc goes past the entrance of your ass it can go a little fast as the head is usually widest so once the head is in, its good to take a moment to stay still with just the head in you and let your body get used to that feeling. Breathing, relaxing, kissing, playing with your clit, lots of lube…yumm.

I don’t use numbing cream because it can mask issues – if it hurts it means you could be tearing the anal lining and fissures are really horrible! Plus when it feels good we want to feel all the goodness!

And finally, I’m a highly experienced sex professional, but not a medical professional, so definitely consult a doctor and sexual health organisation for the most up-to-date information about safe and sexy anal play. And have fun!

I spend most of my time filming and performing in fetish videos and 5 minute clips, on a huge range of kinky topics. In some I am embracing my love for leather, like the one where I play with a butt plug I’ve been wearing under my leather pants. In others I dominate my slave and I make him pleasure me. Would you like to see me in a particular fetish film scene? Custom clip requests are very welcome. Read more of my profile below with my links or visit my website at http://www.sindyskin.com

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July 28, 2015
Precautions for safe Anal play

It’s important to ensure both/all people are wanting the same thing in anal play sessions, and open discussions before the play commences is vital.

If you are receiving anal play, think about your limits and desires. Are you wanting a finger to tickle the outside of your butt, and no penetration? You are allowed to say so. Are you wanting to work up to fisting and having an entire hand inside your butt? If it’s your first time being penetrated, this is extremely unlikely to happen, so know your limits and be realistic. Ten minute fising porn videos often have hours of preparation and the actor is likely to have years of butt play to have stretched their ass to accept anything bigger than a cock. Slow and steady is sexy!

Thin surgical style latex or nitrile gloves (for those with a latex allergy) are great to wear on your hands for a few reasons. It can keep things cleaner, but also helps prevent fingers and sharp fingernails from scratching and tearing the butt and anal lining. Add lube and the gloves can be super slippery making penetration even easier.

A thin sheet of latex known as a dental dam placed over the asshole when licking and rimming can help prevent disease transmission, and if you put a bit of lube between the dam and the anus it can feel lovely.

I use condoms on all my toys used during anal play, like dildos, butt plugs, and anal beads. This makes them easier to clean and if sharing toys during a play session, you can slip the condom off after one person has used it and put a new condom on for the next person.

Try to be aware of what you have put where – you definitely don’t want to put a toy that has been in someone’s ass into their pussy without changing condoms.

After using sex toys, make sure you clean them in disinfectant and other cleaning products made for toys. Then dry them ready to store in your favourite sexy drawer or toy box for your next anal play session.

Germ-killing mouthwash is good to have on hand after rimming someone to help kill off any bacteria.

A dental dam (thin sheet of latex made for sexual purposes) is available from pharmacies and sexual health services. This can help prevent the spread of Sexually Transmitted Infections and bacteria between the ass and mouth.

Cumming in someones ass is considered a risky activity, and condoms will assist in preventing passing diseases between play partners.

I spend most of my time filming and performing in fetish videos and 5 minute clips, on a huge range of kinky topics. In some I am embracing my love for leather, like the one where I play with a butt plug I’ve been wearing under my leather pants. In others I dominate my slave and I make him pleasure me. Would you like to see me in a particular fetish film scene? Custom clip requests are very welcome. Read more of my profile below with my links or visit my website at http://www.sindyskin.com

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July 21, 2015
How can anal play be incorporated into a D/S relationship?

Dominating someone, and being dominated anally can be a really intense and exciting experience. You can add an element of role-play, with one of you being the customs officer and the other the “smuggler” who needs to be internally searched etc… there is no end to scenarios like this so have some fun and change it up.

Some masochists (people who like receiving pain) enjoy rough and painful anal play, or the thought of it. Sometimes the threat of “I’m going to fuck you so hard!” and “I’m gonna stretch your asshole so wide” will be enough. Other times they may want a thumb roughly pushed into their butt with your other hand over their mouth etc. This kind of rough play should always have a discussion beforehand, so you both know what each other are wants and not wants, even in the middle of a role-play scenario.

It’s important to have a safe word so if one person is saying “ouch ouch!” you will know if this means stop or if it means they are enjoying the feelings. Common sense should also be used, so if your play partner suddenly tenses up or looks distressed you should check in with them.

The submissive can also beg for anal attention, saying “Please Mistress I want to feel your beautiful cock in my ass” or “Please Sir I will do anything to have you put your finger in my butt” etc etc.

I spend most of my time filming and performing in fetish videos and 5 minute clips, on a huge range of kinky topics. In some I am embracing my love for leather, like the one where I play with a butt plug I’ve been wearing under my leather pants. In others I dominate my slave and I make him pleasure me. Would you like to see me in a particular fetish film scene? Custom clip requests are very welcome. Read more of my profile below with my links or visit my website at http://www.sindyskin.com

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July 14, 2015
What toys should you use for orgasmic Anal play?

There are so many toys and insertibles used in anal play and it’s best to start small. You can get “anal training” sets of three butt plugs, where you start with the smallest one and when your ass feels stretched and not as tight, you can use the medium sized one and so-on. Sometimes it can take weeks to go up a size, and sometimes you will just find your own size, and don’t be in any hurry. The main aim is to enjoy anal play.

Anal beads and vibrating “bullets” with chords attached to separate battery compartments can also be fun to play with and are usually smaller than fingers. Sliding a condom over the bullet, adding lube to it and pushing it gently into the ass, you can then wait for a moment before turning on the vibrating mechanism, so all of a sudden it starts buzzing gently in their (or your) ass. This feels really delicious and when adding clit rubbing or cock stroking at the same time, be ready for your playfriend to reach orgasm quickly!

Wherever possible, aim to use toys that have a definite flange (the wider part at the bottom of a toy). Don’t panic if something you’ve inserted into your butt slips in. Just try to stay calm and relax. Then in a controlled way, slowly push out as if having a bowel movement.

Lubricant specifically created for anal play is available in sex shops, and sexual health services as well as all over the internet. Whenever buying new lubes, I love to read reviews and hear from others which ones they have enjoyed. I personally steer clear of any with flavours and scents, as it can irritate the delicate lining of your butt.

Food grade vegetable shortening (like Crisco) has been used for decades by some people as a lube. Just like any food, it does have an expiry date, and is best refrigerated. Half an hour or so before play I cover my hand in a clean disposable rubber glove or cling film and scoop a handful out of the tin. The tin goes back in the fridge and the scooped out shortening is put somewhere to reach room temperature.

I spend most of my time filming and performing in fetish videos and 5 minute clips, on a huge range of kinky topics. In some I am embracing my love for leather, like the one where I play with a butt plug I’ve been wearing under my leather pants. In others I dominate my slave and I make him pleasure me. Would you like to see me in a particular fetish film scene? Custom clip requests are very welcome. Read more of my profile below with my links or visit my website at http://www.sindyskin.com

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July 7, 2015
Mistress Sindy Skin is an expert on Anal Play

What is anal play?

Anal play is generally speaking a sexual activity which involves the anus (ass, bottom, rectum, butt etc). It can be anything from using a finger very lightly to circle the outside of your anus, through to fisting (inserting a whole fist into the ass). My definition would also include anal sex (penetrating the anus with either a cock or strap-on dildo etc.) and rimming where you use your tongue to lick the outside and poke it into the anus. There are many other activities but since this is an introduction to anal play, I’ll stick with the most common ones.

How popular are anal play sessions and how often do you get the requests?

I’m constantly approached to do all kinds of play involving anal fun. Perhaps this is due to the fact I am very, very happy to do it, so I mention it on my blog a lot.

Many of my clients fantasize about Me forcing them to “worship Me” which involves them “rimming” and licking my anus.

What is it about anal play that you enjoy most?

I adore the intimacy and level of arousal anal play brings with it. I get very turned on when penetrating my play partners and often love to watch their face as they respond to all the different sensations. As a Dominatrix, the power and control I have when dominating someone anally is invigorating. Having my ass licked and kisses sends tingles through my body. I think of the ass as yet another wonderful treasure trove of nerves and sensations.

Why is anal play viewed as a form of dominance/punishment?

Anal play can be one of the many tools used in Power Play, and BDSM. A big reason is because anything to do with the butt is considered in most cultures as being dirty, and anal play and ass licking is still considered to be taboo and quite “naughty”. When I command a submissive or slave to lick My ass I will often say things like “your disgusting mouth doesn’t deserve to be near My asshole but get down there and lick!” It’s a good psychological form of humiliation and way to degrade the slave, which many of my clients enjoy. If I start to grind my ass down on their face while they’re licking, it can turn from a scene where they are disgusting and humiliated, to one where I use their mouth for my pleasure, as I love being rimmed. If I say they’re not doing a good job I will often then threaten to fuck them with my strap-on cock, which turns them (and me) on even more.

Anal play is quite common in “vanilla” or non-BDSM sex too. The use of toys and even self-stimulation, like sticking a finger in your own butt is done more often than you’d think. Many heterosexual men I see in sessions who are interested in anal play have started out exploring their own ass with their finger. Perhaps when they’re pulling their cock the other hand has gone for a wander just to see what it would feel like.

I spend most of my time filming and performing in fetish videos and 5 minute clips, on a huge range of kinky topics. In some I am embracing my love for leather, like the one where I play with a butt plug I’ve been wearing under my leather pants. In others I dominate my slave and I make him pleasure me. Would you like to see me in a particular fetish film scene? Custom clip requests are very welcome. Read more of my profile below with my links or visit my website at http://www.sindyskin.com

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June 30, 2015