How Does Open Communication Lead To Better Sex?
Well apart from loving it, I think sex is a really powerful way to explore different aspects of our identity. I think sex is as varied as music is and it can mean something different every time we choose to participate. Sometimes it is fun and silly, sometimes it is intense and passionate, sometimes it is hot, dark, pounding and sweaty and sometimes, it’s deeply intimate or romantic.
I wish that sex and sexuality wasn’t as stigmatized and that more people felt comfortable to express and explore their sexuality, fantasies and desires without being burdened by feelings of shame.
The Importance Of Communication
Communication is soooo important and hugely underrated! Working towards feeling comfortable enough to express what you want in the bedroom is a huge step to opening up your sexual encounters and experiences. The most important part of communication is learning how to listen and respond! After all is there anything hotter than when you really start listening to the breathing and moans of someone else in bed and responding accordingly?
As someone who has lots of sex with different people, it has taught me how different everyone’s bodies are! Without open communication, how can we expect our bedfellows to know exactly what feels good! So, create a space where honest dialogue is encouraged but also listen out for those non-verbal cues that come with slowing things down, speeding them up to try to lock into you playmates reactions. I think we can all learn more from the BDSM community and the conversations they engage in before any type of play. To see where each other’s head is at that day and what sorts of things they would like to explore!
If you are wanting things to get a little bit kinky in your sex life, there are a few things you can do to help move things along. 1) Be brave – If you are brave enough to share your desires with a lover/play pal, it will give them permission to do the same. 2) Timing – Bring things up at a time which is relaxed and intimate but not sexual – this will give them time to think about things and not feel pressured or tricked into something. 3) Be ready to take no for an answer. Sex is only fun when both parties are actively enthusiastically consenting. It is also ok to try things and decide they are not for us! That doesn’t mean we are boring or vanilla.
Why I’m An Ideal Companion To Be With
I think it is my natural curiosity about people and my love for learning from varied perspectives of the world. I am a really empathetic and optimistic person so it is really easy for me to find qualities I find attractive in people and am able to form connections quickly. There is something I can find to admire in almost anyone so my warmth and interest is always genuine. I think *hope* my dates can sense that.
I am also intelligent and articulate and can seamlessly fit into most environments. Intimacy, friendship, desire and human touch are a hugely important part of the human experience and I feel really thankful that I get to engage in such an important and intimate time with so many people. I spend a lot of time listening and learning about people’s lives. I also think I know how to keep things light hearted and fun.
Reasons For Seeking Companionship
Firstly, I want to clarify that it is not JUST men who seek companionship. But it does form a large majority. As humans, I think at our core we all really just want connection both emotionally and physically. Physical touch can make us feel so alive and cared for. There are so many different reasons someone would seek a companion to spend time with.
Lot’s of people are too busy to maintain a relationship, are working through different elements of their sexuality, want to lose their virginity in a safe space or haven’t had the opportunity to engage with someone physically in a while. Also, I think there is something really great about how defined the time spent with a companion is.
There are clear boundaries I expect to be respected from my dates around emotions, time and physical elements. This brings a real sense of clarity to the time we spend together and creates an environment which I think tends to bring out the best version of most people. They also know that I am not going to judge them for their bodies or desires so it can be a space that is free of any insecurities around their bodies or sexuality that they may be holding.
Ways To Engage Someone Who Is Shy
Finding joy in all aspects of my life is something I really strive for. I try to make my interactions playful and no pressure. Although I am long-legged with a cute butt, I am also really clumsy and an enormous dork. I honestly really just believe that bodies are bodies. Sometimes in sex, things make funny noises, or I fall over when I take off my underwear, or one of us burps. I like to meet my dates as a human first and a fantasy second.
Which is a relief because it takes the pressure off both of us that we have to “perform” and we can just enjoy each others’ company. Although having said, that I think I give a pretty mean blowjob as well which can’t hurt someone’s nerves.
I also really try to gauge both in the lead up to meeting and the first part of our date what sort of experience they are after and then focus on that.
My Ideal Date & Expectations
My ideal dates are always longer bookings so we really have time to get to know each other. I would love to meet first over a bottle of wine and some delicious food. Somewhere cosy and atmospheric. Increasingly stealing excuses to brush each other’s bodies throughout the meal in a slow lead up to spending some alone time together. I have never been on a holiday for a booking and I hope that someone decides to whisk me away to a tropical island or cosy cabin at some point!
I would expect my dates to be polite and respectful from the very first message or email interaction until the end of our time together. Because I have a full time civilian job, I only see a handful of people and am very selective about who I will meet. I don’t think people realise how many messages companions can receive and how quickly we will make our judgements around if we want to spend time with someone.
Also, hygiene. We make the effort to look our best for you and it is always appreciated when people do the same. Also, again, for the people up the back. Hygiene.
Charlie Grace – My name is Charlie Grace and I am an Australian touring companion. I offer an amazing Girl Friend Experience and pride myself on always being articulate, intelligent with a down-to-earth warmth during my encounters. I’m always excited to hear from prospective dates around Australia and only engage with people who are polite, respectful and treat me like a human from the first time they message me. When I’m not working my civilian job or having exciting encounters I’m either out in nature or at an art gallery.
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