I don’t know where to start about dating but firstly I would divided it into two: my personal life dating and companionship dating. In a way, both are different but the thing that applies to both is “quality over quantity”. For this reason, I’m a very low volume provider and I click better with gentlemen who think the same. Dating for me is about a personal connection that extends beyond physical chemistry. It’s about enjoying each other’s company at all times, be it indoors or outdoors, sharing experiences, laughs, stories, being each other’s best friend and sharing advice with each other in our fields of knowledge.
How Has Your Dating Experience Been So Far?
I can’t complain. I enjoyed more than 95% of my dates but I did have a funny one when I started out in the world of companionship. At that time, I didn’t require much in terms of screening due to lack of experience. A 65 year old man sent me somebody else’s linked profile (of an investment banker), and told me to meet outside his residence. On arrival, he was there and nicely dressed, smiling with yellow teeth and a missing tooth, and as I got out of the taxi and approached him (only to realise he wasn’t the man from the linked profile), he started masturbating and saying, “hi baby, nice to meet you let’s go to my home”.
There were two other middle aged men seating in a car staring at us and using their phones. Don’t know if there was a connection between these men but I felt scared and wanted to run, which I couldn’t do because I had heels on. I took off my heels, walked into the nearest restaurant and called an Uber. Ever since, I have increased my screening method to avoid anyone stealing other’s people linked profiles, and I try to avoid wearing high heels in case I have to run. I also no longer accept to meet at people’s residences.
Requirements Of My Date
The only requirement I have is to respect my boundaries and to understand that “any money paid is for companionship only and whatever happens is a choice between two consenting adults”. You are probably going to see this phrase in every companion’s website and the same applies in my case. I encourage potential clients to read the etiquette information on my website which I kept short and to the point but yeah, good manners, being courteous goes a long way.
Date Killers That Turn Me Off Immediately
I’m glad you asked this. Public displays of affection. Don’t get me wrong: I don’t mind the occasional affection here and there but gentlemen can get excited sometimes. Excessive displays of affection in public aren’t only annoying but may also undermine privacy. I’m always very mindful of my privacy and that of my man.
From my experience, I’m certain that many of my men value privacy as much as I do. Some are married or have a long term partner but like to have excitement from time to time. I never know if someone who knows him is going to spot us hugging in a public place and tell his partner. Or if he has a jealous spouse who hired a private detective to know her husband’s whereabouts.
This may be very extreme but I could be on a date with a VIP kind of figure and how do I know there isn’t a paparazzi following us and taking photos? I surely wouldn’t want those photos to appear online the next morning, neither would my man. If he wants to show affection in public I would keep it discreet and hand holding at the most.
In addition, the choice of blurring my face in my “Elvira” photos is a conscious one. I do it to protect my privacy and that of my man. I have a completely different life outside of “Elvira”, and I’m sure he does too when he’s not with me.
How Can A Gentlemen Secure A Follow Up Date?
As a low volume provider, repeat dates are encouraged and prioritised over new clients. I’m a very easygoing person. If the gentleman was polite during our first meeting, there was no pushing of boundaries or any other negative behaviour, in other words, if we got along well, then that’s all that’s needed for a second date with me.
I hope I’m not asking for too much. And I touch wood, I still haven’t met many men that I wouldn’t see again. I would like second dates to be longer though (for example a weekend or a week), since we have already built the necessary trust on the first meeting.
Elvira – Elegantly sophisticated, soft and delicate. I’m originally from southern European origin, having lived in the US for the past 10 years, I now split my time between US, Asia and Europe due to my private life career that takes me travelling. I do however enjoy meeting gentlemen in my free time. I lead a very exciting life and enjoy fine dinning and landing in a new city or country (I’m always passport ready). When in the US, I’m usually based in NYC but I love FMTY bookings.
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