Well, at first sex was curiosity when I was just a fresh face young teen trying to fit in with my schoolmates. Apparently the earliest you lose your virginity and with whom, which location, was how you get popular. The staircases at carparks was a popular choice of location. I know how unlikely this seems coming as I grew up in Asia where topics regarding sex are taboo but it was always a topic of fascination and interests of everyone I’ve met. I guess I/you could say I was surrounded by ‘sex’ growing up.
I remembered that when I was eight, my older male cousin flashed me his pubescent penis asking me to touch it and finding my father’s porn magazines, sharing them with my friends and laughing at the hairy penises. As I grew older, I started to realize it was all based on pleasures and emotions. Though I still do strongly feel that it is still based on ‘pleasure’ alone, maybe it’s just me cause I think that sex and making love are two different things.
Why I Love Casual Sex
Obviously it’s the no strings attach relationship. If I’m horny, I’ll hit a dude that I find attractive enough to bed and know for a night. After the whole ‘wham bam thank you mam’, we don’t have to see each other again. Unless he’s got skills then maybe I’ll consider having like friends with benefits kind of deal.
Though I do prefer just fucking them once and moving onto the next guy, it’s much more exciting and fun. I can find people with kinks similar to mine, bondage, roleplay or just anything fun.
Common Misconceptions About Casual Sex
I have people telling me, “What if you fall in love with him?“. “The risks of meeting a stranger, what if he’s dangerous“. “I’ll get some sex diseases etc etc“.
Well look here today, I’m still healthy and not missing any of my limbs, STD free. Haha. Yet I still made the mistake of actually falling for this guy despite both of us agreeing at first this will only be a casual fling. I think I was in it for like…two to three years? Until I told myself, no, this gotta stop, it’s just infatuation and it’s getting too serious.
Like the dude has a wife and two kids, no matter how much I try, I can never beat that. Do I regret hooking up? No, but I regret my mistake of letting my infatuation and feelings get the best of me.
Tips For Casual Sex
I don’t know if these could be consider tips cause I don’t know how it’ll fare out for others. I always discuss beforehand with the other party that it’s only a one time thing unless otherwise. Always have protection on. I mean, guys do come up with a lot of bullshit, “Oh, it don’t feel that good with a rubber on.” Bla bla bla. Bitch, I don’t think I or my vagina will feel good if I catch any nasty shit. Then again, it’s your choice to make.
Take the pill if you don’t want to use the rubber for unwanted pregnancies and do get yourself checked regularly. I rarely hook up with guys I meet at bars or clubs but if I do, I would always inform a trusted friend, who I’m going with and where/what I’ll be doing. Safety is no joke, ladies. It isn’t shameful that you wanna have fun and taste the sweet release of lust. Always, always tell the person you’re hooking up with what are your yes and no. You don’t wanna get any unwanted surprises up your backdoor if you ain’t into that. It’ll ruin the whole moment and if the other party tries to persuade you in doing things that you don’t wanna do? Get the fuck out of there.
Sex is about give and take. You respect the rules you both set up beforehand and if the other party can’t and won’t, are they even worth fucking? It’s not about their enjoyment only. Regarding videos and pictures, I’ll be brutally honest, it’s fucking exciting and fun to think about but we have to think twice. Some or maybe most people are rather shitty assholes who will keep and use the videos/pictures to their own advantages. They’ll share it around and it will spread. Friends, family and maybe people from your workplace will recognize you and I’m sure you don’t want that to happen. So if you do take pictures or videos, try to keep your face hidden or any tattoos and marks that people can identify you with.
Unspoken Casual Sex Rules
We should all be realistic and know what we want. If it’s a ONS, then don’t try and contact each other afterwards unless of course, you both have discussed and agreed on seeing each other again and perhaps try to make it work out into a relationship.
Sometimes a dude might have a huge penis doesn’t mean he knows how to work it. If he ain’t hitting that G-spot, you should totally take charge and get into whatever position that gets you off too. Be honest with each other, don’t try and pretend to be someone you’re not. You ain’t gonna have fun and the other party might have this expectations from you that you can never fulfill.
Reine Yaya – Just your normal average female who is usually nice and brutally honest with a potty mouth. I’m currently a financial dominatrix but I also do real sessions as a plain normal Asian domme. Can be lazy sometimes, spend lots of time playing video games and highly attracted to nerds and geeks only.
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Upcoming Works: I’m thinking of setting up a site or a blog where I can just be myself, unfiltered of course, where I write about my sexperiences and sexcapades. I don’t know about that yet, I might get lazy and not do anything at all.
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