Sex is many things to me. I consider it to be a basic human need, like the need to breathe or consume food. Just as I prefer to eat delicious food and breathe crisp clean air, so too do I prefer sex to be more than just meeting a need (mine/my partners). Sex is the most intimate way to share yourself with another, and should always be enjoyed by both parties.
I have always loved exploring the bodies and minds of others-and let’s face it, in the most mind blowing sex the two are closely intertwined. In a sense, sex is everything boiled down to the basics: flesh, guttural sounds, and unbridled passion. At the same time, what brings you to that point of surrender is part physical, part mental; the mind is the greatest erogenous zone. It is a delicate game that, when played correctly, everyone wins.
Physical attraction is a funny thing, particularly to a sex worker. We are bound to come across people who may not initially spark a physical desire within us, and yet we aim to provide a genuine service. Let’s not underestimate the seductive power of willingness to exchange money for time; before any date starts, I am already slightly aroused by the fact that the client is paying for my time and fantasizing about what our time will be like. In my experience, there is always something that ‘attracts’ me initially, be it a smile, a shy blush, or (my weakness), broad shoulders.
Exceptional hygiene goes a long way as well. Booking a long enough date to allow for some banter and possibly a glass of wine is essential too as this builds upon the initial attraction. After some subtle flirting and a few shared laughs, I am usually noticeably flushed and aroused even before hitting the sheets, and things flow easily beyond that point. I would say I am quite easily aroused!
Turn Her On With Foreplay
Foreplay begins before we meet. The anticipation, the pampering before our date, the long bath, and selection of lingerie and what to wear are where it all begins for me. Once we’ve gotten to know each other a little bit, I can’t say it enough: gentle, sensual foreplay is where it’s at for me. Every lady is different, but I am very sensitive everywhere. Passionate kisses that build slowly in intensity, gentle kisses and nibbles on my neck, back and everywhere else, soft stroking and teasing will have me begging for more!
Who Takes Charge During Sex?
This depends on the situation, the person, and the mood…I am quite comfortable taking the lead (and can find it very arousing), but I can also be sensually submissive and enjoy letting my partner take the lead to start in general. This way I can get a sense of his (or her!) pace, and what they enjoy. Often I find the take-charge role is one that is given and taken throughout a session, which I find extremely hot!
Signs She’s Enjoying It
For me, there are many indicators of enjoyment; for one, I get VERY wet when I am really turned on, and my face and neck get flushed. During sex, I tend to moan and whisper things to arouse myself and my partner, and when I climax it is quite obvious!
I also tend to get a bit grabby (in a good way) when I am into it, and will find myself burying my hands in a gent’s hair or latching on to his back while I arch into him.
Don’t Ever Do This Guys
The number one mistake men make is sticking with something that is not working, usually because it worked for someone else. If you pay attention to body language you will have lots of indication as to enjoyment. For example, if I am not enjoying something you are doing I might pull away instead of pushing into you, or I may suggest we do something else or switch positions. If this is lost on you then I will have to ask you to stop outright, which may be a mood-killer for some. Every woman is different and what works for one may not work for another, so don’t be afraid to ask and to listen if you want the experience to be mutually enjoyable!
Simone Loren is an independent Toronto escort who caters to men, women & couples. University educated, world travelled, and with a classic beauty reminiscent of past-era movie starlets, she boasts a uniquely well-rounded sensuality.
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