Rough Sex Tips By Samantha Hayes

Honestly, I’ve always had a turn on for being rough before I really understood what it was I liked about it.  I always wanted boyfriends to pull my hair, smack my ass, and hold me down giving head.  When I would get intimate with guys, they seemed surprised by how into it I was.

What Turns Me On

Hands down, the power play.  I always used to be a control freak and it leads to so much extra stress.  By being able to relax, let go, and let my dominant partner take control, I found I was able to get a release by no longer having to have power and control over everything.

I am a pain slut – being hit, slapped, or bitten can lead to an intense orgasm for me, even without any genital stimulation whatsoever.  I also like bondage and psychological play, as well as orgasm control and denial.

Have A Safe Word

Always make sure you go over what you want to try and what your limits are with your partner beforehand, and that you only practice with someone you trust.  It’s important to pace yourself rather than jump in both feet first.  Discussing a safe word or safe action (if you have a ball gag on, you can’t say it) so that your partner knows when you need to stop.  A safe word can be anything, a safe action can be a repetitive head shaking to show that it’s time to stop.

The safe word or safe action means that all activity needs to stop, immediately, no questions asked.  Exploring with rough sex can bring up a lot of emotions, even if you don’t expect it.  Aftercare is extremely important, if not as important as the exploration itself so make sure that you feel comfortable telling your partner to hold you after or discuss things if you need it.

Always Be Comfortable Before Trying

You should never do something you aren’t comfortable with, however, taboo around certain subjects can lead to a lot of discomfort.  Educate yourself on different rough sex acts from legitimate fetish sources (NOT Fifty Shades of Grey) and do some research. Knowledge is power, and by simply educating yourself on the logistics of rough sex, you may feel comfortable enough to explore it.

As I said, having a trusting partner to explore with is also extremely important.  It isn’t something to try out with a stranger or someone you aren’t comfortable with because it requires open communication and trust.

Samantha Hayes is a 20 year sexually free young woman from the Midwest.  When she isn’t doing yoga or reading a book with her cat, she’s webcamming and shooting all kinds of filthy amazing pornography in California.

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