There seems to be many “nice” guys who are willing to spend a lot on the girl they love. However, you also want to be sure that she is not just a money-sucker. Even though primitively, women are looking for men who can provide for their necessities, many have evolved to become materialistic. It’s a thin line drawn here. But here are some signs you can use as a guide to “gauge” if ALL she wants is YOU.
1. She is not fussy about who pays for dates
While many guys don’t mind paying for meals and dates, this can be a good way to test if she really is a calculative one. Never do this on the first few dates as this may portray you as someone very stingy and lacking generosity. Leave your wallet at home on purpose for once, after the relationship is stable, and see how she reacts to this. Don’t bother with this girl if she calls off the outing just because of that. She cares more about money than spending time with you. She is a keeper if she reacts positively. Even if she doesn’t have much to offer, drinking coffee in the hawker can be a sweet date as well, because all that matters to her is your company and time.
2. She is not using material gains as a measure of your love for her
“Buy XXX handbag for me if you love me”, “Buy me something that is a good measure of your love for me”. Sounds typical? She may not say this out right but implications of such is already a good-enough sign. “Nice” guys are made to believe that giving expensive gifts to their partner is a display of love and sacrifice, and this makes her happy. Yes, that is true but this encourages her to love you because of what you can give and not for who you are. I am not saying that we should not spend on branded goods. Again, it’s a thin line drawn. It is OK to spurge once in a while for special occasions but using this as a way to blackmail or measure the amount of love you have for her is simply too superficial. She is here to stay if she can occasionally accept, or even be contented with, “affordable” yet meaningful gifts such as a little card, a small cake, a drawing, a handmade rose..
3. She reciprocates in every way
Many “nice” guys end up in a one-sided love relationship for a very long time, not even realizing that this has been getting very foolish and this girl is totally not worth their time. They give almost everything they have – time, effort and finances – and the girl just takes it for granted. You wait for hours under her house just to wait for her to doll up. She thinks this is “reasonable and acceptable” and gives you this treatment as a “matter of fact” with zero respect. You help run errands for her at the expense of your precious OFF day rest, and all you get is just a cold “Thank you” at the end of the day. If you are in such a situation, it is time to keep a look out for signs of reciprocity. Does she do-likewise for you in a similar circumstance? Does she also get you an expensive gift on a special day? Does she also give you a small massage when you are tired? Does she also hear you out, like the way you do, when you have a bad day at work? In short, if you see that she is also putting in 100% of her effort, just like the way you do, you should really keep and treasure her.