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Spanking Fetish As A Favorite Impact Play
Have you ever thought why men just love slapping a woman’s ass so much? It is the most human-like way to express our animalistic nature! There are people, tho, who have accepted this nature, and they are quite happy! Being able to spank your partner without worrying about how they are going to accept this action is one of the best things in our lives. But it turns out to be a fetish? Do you have it, too? Check out now for some spanking porn at PornOne !

Can Spanking Be A Fetish

The answer is a bit ambiguous, depending on how you see stuff. For some people, it may be totally inappropriate to spank your partner from time to time. For others, it can be absolutely fine and even recommended for the well-being of a relationship. Let’s be honest! There is nothing wrong with giving your partner a couple of spanking punishments when they have been a bit naughty! I mean… It happens for a reason! Why not give them a reason to do the naughty thing again!

Can it be a fetish really? Spanking feels so good on both sides of the play. It is a very nice feeling that you have all of the control or to lose all of the control. It can really relieve you from some of the stress that you have!

This feeling of mental relief and sometimes even physical is the action of the hormone of happiness getting emitted. In this sense, this sexual practice really changes the biochemistry of your body. Thus, now you see that when I say that spanking is addictive, I am not lying. It is literally addictive! So, yeah, this naughty impact play can really turn into an actual fetish!

Are People Crazy To Enjoy This Pain

The answer is a crazy NO. Suppose you are living a very hasty life, with too many responsibilities, with too much pressure, with specific strong behavior. In that case, it is only natural that you would want to do something naughty from time to time! However, these naughty actions deserve punishment, and this punishment brings some pain. On the other hand, the part of the brain which is in charge of the pain is in charge of the physical pleasure. And mistakes happen. But this is one of those mistakes with a ‘Sorry Not Sorry’ attitude!

Why People Love Spanking So Much

The answer would be different for everybody, but generally, this is an Impact play with not that big of an impact. This is the best of it all! You can enjoy it today with your partner, and tomorrow nobody will know! Nobody can tell that you cummed yesterday while laying on the knees of somebody who slapped the shit out of you! So convenient, right?

Do People Need Something

Another cool thing about the slap fetish is that it is disengaging. Besides the mutual consent for this to happen, you do not need any accessories to execute this activity. You just need one stable hand to raise!

Of course, if you are really into this and do it quite often, it is absolutely okay to get bored with that hand sometimes. To keep it fun forever, people have invented different tools to use for spanking. Here are the best options if you are a newbie with a newly discovered fetish!
1. A Plank
  Planks are great for people who have just started exploring this fetish! They are glide and provide a bigger impact on your skin. The fact that they are usually bigger than your dom’s hand makes it show more impact not only to the skin but to the muscles, too. It is not impossible to get a bruise or two when using a plank for the good slap. A big inconvenience, tho, is that planks are a much louder source of pleasure! Beware of that!
2. A Riding Crop
  A riding crop is a great option for people how are into spanking from afar. Yes, you had it right! There are people who like their sub lying on the bed while they are standing from above. It is a very appealing view! This is why people have invented a little plank at the end of a long a little flexible stick!
  It is very convenient, and it gives an additional feeling of control standing from above or an additional feeling of humiliation…Depending on which is your side of the play! But humans in our nature need a little from both!
3. A Flogger
  This is a tool that is very suitable for someone who needs a bigger and more intense impact on their body. It is a very loud tool as well, but what really matters is that it will give you the pain to die for! Depending on your choice of a flogger, bruises might be different, but they are all coming in the area of play!
When it comes to floggers, you have to pick up the material wisely. For a regular intensity of the impact play, most people prefer the rubber. It gives enough pain, but it does not leave as deep marks as the leather one. However, if you want to see the over the left of your naughty behavior and its punishment, then leather should work perfectly fine for you!

After all, spanking is one of the most popular fetishes for a reason! You have tried it for sure, but do not let this burning desire for it to die unsatisfied! It is just natural to be naughty and to get what you deserve! Do not miss a good spank today if you want to get slapped tomorrow!

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February 10, 2022
What To Know About Spanking (aka Domestic Discipline) & Corporal Punishment

Although I was a late bloomer to kink (began kink at 34), I’ve been a fully submerged lifestyler since finding the scene in 2006. I loved it so much, I began doing this professionally soon after. Although I’m a Professional Top, I am a lifestyle switch, a heavy masochistic bottom hides underneath the strict Lady Dom persona. I love everything about the kink lifestyle, the protocols, the structure, the sensations and most of all, the connection with others of like mind.

What Is Corporal Punishment?

Corporal punishment refers to the more traditional ways of punishing a human being. Spanking, paddling, strapping, caning and in some cases, whipping to inflict pain after a misdeed or misbehavior is committed.

In some advanced cases, corporal punishment can refer to psychological punishment as well, or The Mindfuck. I like to explore both with advanced players.

Why I Love Corporal Punishment

I’ve been fascinated by punishment, torture and rites of passage since I was a kid. Ordeals and trials, ways to earn maturity and respect from others, pushing our bodies to the absolute brink of what we can take in order to meet a goal, achieve a higher calling or elevate ones lot in life was huge for me, and I’ve been pushing myself in ways since childhood. CP illustrates just how resilient the human body is, and how we can always learn if presented with motivation strong enough.

How Spanking Fits Into Corporal Punishment

Spanking, otherwise known as Domestic Discipline, is the more family and academic oriented types of punishment. OTK (over the knee) is called the Mother’s Position in French, and it belies a nurturing type of, “I don’t want to do this but it’s for your own good” type of authority figure.

Corporal punishment on the other hand, is decidedly more adult and refers to a cold judicial type of attitude on the part of the punisher. CP is more popular with criminal and interrogation types of emotionless scenes.

Correct Techniques To Spank

There are many techniques people use to spank, and there is really no right way or wrong way for people to spank with their hands as long as it works for them. What makes a spanking “wrong” is hitting the wrong area or target. You don’t wish to “wrap” around with hand or implement, and you don’t want to spank too high above the butt crack, or too low on the thighs. Keeping things to the apples of the cheeks, or the sit spot (the crease where butt meets thigh) is always good form.

I love to give a good hand spanking, but my favorite tools are longer ones, like canes and straps. I prefer the challenge it takes to wield a whip over shorter range toys like hairbrushes or wooden spoons.

What You Should Know Before Being Spanked

Your top should discuss with you what you’re looking for, because there are so many different ways to spank, you might not be referring to the same thing when you say “I want to be spanked”. Most spankings hurt at some level, and most people expect them to hurt, although there are non-traditional types of spankings that don’t involve pain.

Start out slowly, with a hand spanking over your underwear. Get comfortable with your top and the sensation before trying implements or positions. Focus on what it feels like at first, don’t rush into an elaborate role play and get overwhelmed. Respond naturally, don’t try and hold things back, your voice and body language is being read by your top to assess where you are at.

Have fun, above all else. 😀

Miss Chris – An independent Professional Disciplinarian based out of Phoenix, AZ. She specializes in spanking, domestic discipline, corporal punishment and role play scenarios. She is also a Certified Life Coach (“Kink eCoach”), BnB Hostess, Spank University Party Group Founder and Spankademy Headmistress.

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June 21, 2021
What I Love About Spanking

I think kink and kinky people are great! Kink helps people express themselves and it’s what makes us all unique.

What I Love About Spanking

I have been obsessed with spanking since I was five years old. I am a spanking fetishist, as pure as they come. I had been thinking about spanking for a long time, so when I began indulging in my spanking fantasies when I was 19 years old, everything came quite naturally for me. I had a few different play partners that I switched with, and many of my partners gifted me with implements, and that’s how my implement collection quickly began to grow. I attended my first spanking party (Shadow Lane in Las Vegas) in 2017 and began my professional spanking and modeling career then. I’ve been doing this for over three years now.

I love that spanking is so pure and domestic. I especially love the headspace, pain and passion that goes into each scene. You really don’t need any fancy whips or paddles or implements to do it. All you really need is a willing bottom and a good hand and you’re good to go. But you can also grab a hairbrush off of your nightstand, or whip off your belt. That works too. 😉

Why Is Spanking Popular?

I think spanking is so popular because you can make it any way you want it to be. It can be soft and sensual like a relaxing massage, or disciplinary and harsh, or a blend of both. The butt is so round, so soft, and simply the safest and sexiest place to hit!

Favorite Props For Spanking

It all depends on the situation and if I am topping or bottoming. I personally love anything leather, because the impact feels so divine. When I am delivering a good, hard strapping, it gets me into a wonderful buzzing headspace.

I recently had purchased a new leather belt. I was shopping with my play partner, Miss Rachel, and had her bend over so I could give her a few swats with the belt. She approved and returned the favor, it was a done deal.

I also really love the hairbrush. It is so classic and feminine. You can also carry it around discreetly in your purse, a secret little thrill!

Is There A Correct Way To Spank?

Absolutely. It is important for anyone to know that you must avoid hitting any bones or vital organs. That means don’t be hitting too high (too close to the tailbone) or too low (thighs are okay to hit, but not every bottom enjoys being smacked there, so discuss with your partner). Your main focus is on the fattiest, juiciest area on the behind; just below the equator. Avoid wrapping too far around the side of the butt/hip and striking one cheek more than the other. Keep in mind symmetry and keeping things even. Both sides need love.

Checking in with your partner is key! That goes to say, everyone has their own style. I spank both right and left handed, which helps even things out a lot. As a switch, I think all tops should get a feel for the implement they will be using so you can gauge what the implement feels like and what works and doesn’t.

Recommended Spanking Aftercare

After a good spanking session, I rub lotion on the spankee’s bottom and give them a nice butt massage. I recommend Cetaphil’s body moisturizing cream for very dry, sensitive skin.

Post-spanking, the bottom tends to dry up, so moisturizing really helps restore and repair the skin.

Cassidy Lau – I am a Professional Spanko-Switch and Entertainer and based in Austin, TX. I provide in-person spanking sessions as a top, bottom or switch. You can also interact with me and my real-life Top and spanking partner, Miss Rachel, on our OnlyFans page. We livestream weekly real-life spankings and discuss our home life and domestic dynamics.

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Upcoming Tours:

Pre-COVID, I had traveled a lot. Assuming things clear up in 2021 with COVID, my travel schedule will be as as followed:
Atlanta, GA: January 15-16
Las Vegas, NV (Shadow Lodge Spanking Party): February 25-28
Dallas, TX (Texas All State Spanking Party): June 24-28
Houston, TX (Lone Star Spanking Party): November 11-14

I am based in Austin, TX but I travel back home to Seattle once a month.

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February 17, 2021
How To Explore Spanking & Discipline (Part 2)

We continue our Mistress Iceni feature on exploring spanking and discipline here!

What Goes On In A Session & Favorite Props To Use

First of all we decide pre-session if we will start on arrival or sit and have a chat first for you to settle in. Some role plays will begin at the front door, which can be thrilling – you have arrived home at your Aunt’s house to find her very annoyed about something/you are visiting your bossy new neighbour who suspects you have been peeping on her and have stolen her underwear from the washing line/you are reporting to the headmistress’ study after school for detention and so on.

In these cases, you will be led through to the study and usually given a thorough scolding and interrogation about your behaviour. I like to start my sessions with an over the knee hand spanking to warm up the bottom. This is a good way to forge a connection across my knee before we proceed, and to reduce any resistance: once the pants come down, so does the attitude, I find. Then we would move on to a variety of positions – over the school desk, lying face down on the red leather sofa, touching your toes, strapped to the Eton Flogging Block and so on, and I would use several of my implements.

My spanking sessions can be relentless, but I will also give you regular breaks maybe in corner time, holding a stress position, hands on your head and pants round your knees. If it is a scholastic/Governess/home tutor session I would incorporate tasks like writing lines/essays/prepare a presentation/memory tasks/tests. I absolutely love scolding so often I will scold you throughout and verbally tease you. I like some interaction and cheekiness, but some people are quiet and compliant all the way through which is also fine.

I like to end my session with an OTK spanking as well, to complete the circle, and depending on the visitor/scenario, will encourage the spankee to relax across my knee for a little while specially if it has been an intense session. Then I would offer a cup of tea or coffee and sit and chat for a while, making sure they do not leave until they are fully recovered!

With regards to props, the devil is in the detail. I ask a lot of questions before the booking and mull over the scene in advance so I can get creative. For example, I had a session booking where he wanted to be spanked for stealing sweets from the corner shop when he was a lad, something he got away with at the time. So I bought some old-fashioned-looking sweets and put them on the chair in the study. When I opened the door and took him through as his Aunt, claiming I had searched his bag after a phone call from the newsagents and discovered his stolen stash, he saw the sweets, gasped and turned pale and started trembling!

It was wonderful and a very powerful indication that just one or two appropriate props can really help with authenticity. He hadn’t expected to see that, and afterwards he said they looked just like the sweets he had stolen, and seeing them jolted him right back to being that young boy feeling the guilt of having done it. A perfect way to get into the right headspace!

Other props I love are my retro 70s phone with round dial and curly wiring, so I can call parents/authorities/the school. My custom-made Eton Flogging Block is a formidable piece of furniture that’s been nick-named ‘the Beast’ and is very intimidating. I am very fetishistic about items and implements so I could tell you about many more props, but there wouldn’t be time to cover them all!

What Should One Knew To Spanking & Discipline Prepare For Prior To Their First Session?

Firstly, do your research regarding who you visit. If you wish to experience purely a discipline/spanking session, I’d advise visiting a disciplinarian rather than a mistress (who would probably be good at it, but also does many other things, and does not specialise in this area). A disciplinarian/spanker solely focuses on this area and will have more experience and nuance.

Also research where they work from – do you want a domestic environment or a dungeon? Look at their online presence – things like Twitter, webpage, reviews, clips (so you can see how they work). Depending on location, people charge different rates so maybe you can find cut-price sessions that undercut some of the others, but you get what you pay for in life.

Approach with a polite and informative email, and communicate as much as possible before the session (not mailing 10 times a day! But it’s best to be clear before you start about details/background etc).

Consider whether you need a safe word or not. Remember ‘I can take a hard spanking’ is very subjective. You may imagine you have a huge tolerance for pain but not be able to handle what you thought you might. Or you may be too cautious and find once you get going, you love it and could take harder. So bear in mind if you think it might get too much, you can request a safe word before the session.

A great spanking session is about connection. The most important thing is to feel the right connection with this person in your initial contacts. It is about trust and instinct.

Don’t be late! If you’re running late, inform her/him. Follow reconfirmation instructions to the letter. This shows attention the detail and a level of respect.

Arrive clean and tidy, above all clean. We are dealing with your bottom – need I say more? Nice underwear is also much appreciated. Often you may bring a gift if you like but it’s not compulsory. If you do choose to turn up with flowers/chocolates/a bottle of wine etc you will probably be remembered as very thoughtful and considerate.

Be prepared if it’s your first time – the effect of discipline may not be what you expect. Some people can experience strong emotions during a spanking as it can bring up unexpected repressed emotions. It might make you feel rampantly horny!

Equally, it may send you into sub-space where you feel floaty, serene and peaceful. You can become quite discombobulated – forget your wallet or pick up the wrong pair of glasses, or try to leave via the boiler cupboard (all of these have happened after my sessions!) so make sure you have gathered yourself and your faculties before leaving.

Mostly know this – it might be an intense experience, and some of it may be painful, but if you have been thinking about getting a thrashing for some time, and are not sure whether to try it, I’d say if it’s often on your mind then it is for you, and it will be a liberating experience and the start of a whole new chapter to your life.

You are never too old to go across my knee either – I have one lovely visitor who is 85 and took his first spanking at 75. It’s never too late to start this journey. But be warned – once you pop, you can’t stop!

Mistress Iceni – London-based disciplinarian specialising in spanking and role plays with a distinctly vintage style. I may remind you of your old school-teacher, Mum’s friend, strict neighbour or Governess, but whichever female authority figure I represent for you, a visit to my study will usually result in a sore bottom and a marked improvement in your behaviour. I am a firm believer in old-fashioned discipline and you will find it may hurt at the time, but it is ultimately for your own good.

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Upcoming projects to promote:

I am currently working on several projects to collaborate more with women as I have enjoyed filming so much with Anty (@Anty851 on Twitter, follow her, she’s wonderful) and Ana, and before that, the wonderful films for Miss Elsa Svenson (wellsmackedseat.com) as Miss Ashbrook. I am planning to film some clips and content with a lovely young lady Dilan (@OhdearDilan on Twitter- you really should follow her too) Also I have Emily Jane now available to join me in sessions and film with me as a spankee. I’m currently in discussions with another lovely young lady to offer exclusive custom clips as mother and daughter. So watch this space and follow me on social media if you want to see me spanking some pretty bottoms!

My other project which I worked on extensively during lockdown is my retro spanking novel: Set in 1979 in provincial England, it’s the story of Andrew, a permanently horny 17 year old who is sent to live with his strict Aunt while his parents divorce. She takes him on a roller-coaster journey of discovery with help from her equally assertive lady friends. It is a coming-of-age story that examines self-acceptance, kink-shaming, gender identity, spanking, age play, petticoat punishment and the psychological and emotional pull of corporal punishment. I have pitched it somewhere between ‘Harriet Marwood, Governess’ (which was a huge inspiration, and this is a kind of updated homage) and the saucy ‘Carry On’ Films of the 1970s. The working title is ‘Aunty knows best’ and I have just finished the first draft, so while it is not available just yet, I will promote it as soon as I have it ready for my eager readers! The plan is to publish as a paperback, e-book and possible audio version, narrated by myself.

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October 8, 2020
How To Explore Spanking & Discipline (Part 1)

To me it is perfectly normal to be kinky. One of my greatest joys in this work is to encourage and allow people to deal with their deep-seated shame around their kinks, and to allow them to express themselves fully with someone who makes them feel safe and accepted.

I believe kinks to be a very healthy expression of our shadow selves – the darker, quirkier recesses of our souls. If you deny something, it is like pushing a beach-ball under the surface of the water. It will pop up again somewhere else, you can’t keep it under. As long as it is safe, sane and consensual I do not judge anybody.

Exploring a kink with someone on the same wavelength has something innocent about it. Together you can regress to that space you naturally inhabited when playing with your friends as a child: lost in your boundless imagination, totally immersed in the fantasy world you have created, going on a magical mystery tour. I find people who are kinky to be the most grounded, self-accepting, and self-aware people.

What Does Discipline Constitute?

Most people think ‘discipline’ means punishment, and it often is, but its original meaning is ‘to learn or teach’ from the Latin ‘disciplina’ (as in ‘disciple’). I love it because it is ultimately good for people and it has so many facets: role-play, endorphin-release, trust, power exchange, regression and so on. You might think it would get boring or repetitive, but for me it never does. I find it endlessly fascinating.

Is Spanking Part Of Discipline or A Totally Independent Kink?

I’ve never been asked that before! I think they are linked because you usually spank someone in the context of a disciplinary scenario. I can give you an example of how they are independent: I can carry out, for example, a long discipline session which involves very little actual impact play – say an intricate school scene with lots of role play and activities like corner time, writing lines, stress positions, scolding and so on, and only deliver 12 cane strokes near the end.

Sometimes people ask for this type of more cerebral and psychological session. But I would rarely spank someone outside the context of them being disciplined in some way. Sometimes I spank my ‘nephew’ Andrew purely for the fun of it and because his pert little bottom is irresistible but usually it involves a play-acting theme where he has done something wrong or ‘needs’ it.

Reasons Subs Are Into Spanking & Discipline

First of all, I don’t really like the generic label ‘sub’. I think mostly for real spankophiles, it’s understood that many people are not even natural submissives. I prefer to call them ‘bottoms’, ‘spankees’, ‘nephews’ ‘naughty girls’ etc.

I hear many reasons: being spanked as a child or witnessing spankings at school or in a domestic environment, therefore being ‘hot-wired’ to like it. The release of endorphins afterwards and the floating sense of calm. Being embarrassed or humiliated, or being objectified sexually by having to strip in front of me and/or my lady friends (from men, not women). A need to regress to a younger age/return to a child-like state. Being put in their place to balance ego in a dominant, high-status line of work. Giving someone else power over them and being able to let someone else make decisions for them.

The complete focus it takes to experience the physical sensations of impact play – it brings you into the present moment and away from the stress outside in the rest of your life because you cannot have your mind filled with anything else during the experience. It turns them on: for some people, it’s just their kink. The comfort of being across someone’s lap and being held in an OTK position. I’d say it’s 50/50 with people who are into spanking because they were spanked as a child, and those who weren’t.

Mistress Iceni – London-based disciplinarian specialising in spanking and role plays with a distinctly vintage style. I may remind you of your old school-teacher, Mum’s friend, strict neighbour or Governess, but whichever female authority figure I represent for you, a visit to my study will usually result in a sore bottom and a marked improvement in your behaviour. I am a firm believer in old-fashioned discipline and you will find it may hurt at the time, but it is ultimately for your own good.

Follow Mistress Iceni on

Website: www.missiceni.com

Twitter: @Mistress_Iceni

Clips4Sale Clips store ‘At Home with Miss Iceni: https://www.clips4sale.com/studio/138363/at-home-with-miss-iceni

Upcoming projects to promote:

I am currently working on several projects to collaborate more with women as I have enjoyed filming so much with Anty (@Anty851 on Twitter, follow her, she’s wonderful) and Ana, and before that, the wonderful films for Miss Elsa Svenson (wellsmackedseat.com) as Miss Ashbrook. I am planning to film some clips and content with a lovely young lady Dilan (@OhdearDilan on Twitter- you really should follow her too) Also I have Emily Jane now available to join me in sessions and film with me as a spankee. I’m currently in discussions with another lovely young lady to offer exclusive custom clips as mother and daughter. So watch this space and follow me on social media if you want to see me spanking some pretty bottoms!

My other project which I worked on extensively during lockdown is my retro spanking novel: Set in 1979 in provincial England, it’s the story of Andrew, a permanently horny 17 year old who is sent to live with his strict Aunt while his parents divorce. She takes him on a roller-coaster journey of discovery with help from her equally assertive lady friends. It is a coming-of-age story that examines self-acceptance, kink-shaming, gender identity, spanking, age play, petticoat punishment and the psychological and emotional pull of corporal punishment. I have pitched it somewhere between ‘Harriet Marwood, Governess’ (which was a huge inspiration, and this is a kind of updated homage) and the saucy ‘Carry On’ Films of the 1970s. The working title is ‘Aunty knows best’ and I have just finished the first draft, so while it is not available just yet, I will promote it as soon as I have it ready for my eager readers! The plan is to publish as a paperback, e-book and possible audio version, narrated by myself.

Images courtesy of Mistress Iceni

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October 6, 2020
What To Know About Domestic Discipline & Spanking

I believe that kink is part of the human condition, maybe even integral to life itself. All the way back to bacteria in the primordial soup. Kink is an expression of life’s longing for variation. Everything being relative, all lifestyles are an alternative to something. Even that nuclear family aesthetic they pushed in the 50’s wasn’t ever “normal” and now I know several couples who live out those so-called traditional gender roles as part of their kinky alternative lifestyle.

What Does Domestic Discipline Involve?

Domestic discipline actually ties in very nicely with the 50’s aesthetic; the bread-winner husband comes home to find the home-maker wife burnt dinner and puts her over his knee for a sound spanking, that’s hot!

Equally as hot would be hubby coming home and admitting that he didn’t get that raise he promised and ending over his wife’s knee. Although I’ve seen role plays of being punished by mom or dad under the heading of domestic discipline, I feel that it is mostly a dynamic of two people who share a domicile where one is the disciplinarian over the other.

Why Subs Enjoy Being Disciplined

This is such a complicated question, specifically when it comes to spanking, because it definitely occupies the same part of the brain as sex, but isn’t necessarily sexual for every sub. Some people who are “into” spanking were never spanked as a child and attribute the desire to experiencing something they missed out on, while others were spanked regularly and attribute it to that.

Also, the word “enjoy” is not exactly right, because I’ve known subs to say that while they are being spanked they aren’t enjoying it but, at the same time, they don’t want it to stop because it’s what they need or deserve. “Why do subs desire being disciplined?” Or, even better, feel a “need” to be disciplined, is the question. As with many activities that fall under the BDSM heading, spanking has an element of power exchange.

Giving your will over to someone in authority, who has your best interest at heart and is just giving you the direction you need via a good long spanking, is comforting in a way.

Favorite Forms Of Punishment

I really like to have a sub over my knees. I like to feel the tension in their body rise and fall as the spanking progresses. I like to feel their bodies shake with the strain of holding themselves in position while enduring their punishment, and then, finally, to feel them relax as they give in, that’s the best.

Why Is Spanking Appealing To Both Parties?

The first thing that comes to mind for me is “control”, giving it over and/or having control over someone. I think when being spanked myself, I ultimately want the person spanking me to be in charge. Of course, whenever you’re playing with anyone, consent is king and checking in is very important. But for me, I wouldn’t be over your knee if I didn’t trust you and wasn’t ready to get the spanking I deserve.

Favorite Spanking Items!

I always like to start with my hand. I give a very hard hand spanking. I’ve been told that my hand feels like a paddle. Although I have many implements that are designed specifically for spanking, I like to use things that can be found around the house like hair brushes, bath brushes, wooden spoons and belts. As far as being spanked, it’s pretty much the same.

Ways To Kink Up Spanking Play

Oh sure! You can add rope play, blind folds, tickling… Enemas are popular in some circles, especially making a sub hold it in during a spanking. Forced orgasm while being spanked is a fun variation.

Just use your imagination and happy spanking!

Heidee Nytes – An award winning fetish film maker and professional dominatrix, specializing in domestic discipline.

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April 17, 2019
Spanking Play For An Awesome Experience

First things first, lets set the record straight. I may live in this world but I am not of this world. In other words, I do NOT Judge.

I believe it is none of my business how someone chooses to live their life, unless of course it directly affects me. I believe that there is freedom to be had living in an alternative lifestyle. There’s acceptance, understanding, love, respect and so much more to be had in a power exchange relationship.

I do not think it is fair or right to judge people that enjoy this freedom. I also believe that the people who are open about their kink are very brave to share that piece of themselves with the world.

How I Got Interested In Spanking Play

Well to be honest it started in high school. I had a group of friends that I used to hang out with. Whenever someone bent over in front of another, that person was then “obligated” to smack that ass, to show appreciation for what a fine ass it was. There were also consequences to pay if you did not smack that ass bent over so perfectly in front of you. If you didn’t, you would get 2 punches in the arm from everyone present for your fuck up. I think that’s the point in my life where spankings went from being a bad thing to being a good thing. Then later as I got into Daddy/Babygirl roleplays, the whole spanking thing seemed to go hand and hand with being a “Brat” to Daddy, LOL.

Why Is Spanking A Turn On?

As far as why it’s such a turn on for me personally, well I am a switch so I like giving and receiving spankings. So when I’m receiving them, they’re a turn on because I enjoy a little pain with my pleasure, I believe the pain heightens our pleasure receptors because of the contrast between both elements. As far as when I am giving spankings, it turns me on because there’s a lot of shit we have to deal with this in this world and it takes it’s toll. Spanking someone allows me to release some of that frustration and give me just that much more peace of mind. So on one hand, it’s a very sexual stimuli and on the other, it’s all a mental stimuli, for me at least. However I do believe that it is a different experience for each individual.

Different Levels Of Spanking

Of course there are! Just like everything in life there are always levels. Plus with spankings theres different levels for different tools as well. Someone could be spanked with their hand and have multiple levels of that, then upgrade to a paddle. There are so many different toys and objects you can spank with in addition to your hand which makes every single spanking experience unique. Honestly there are endless combinations and levels to a spanking sesh (session).

Favorite Spanking Tools

Top fave spanking tool will and always will be my hand. There is just something about feeling that skin heat up under my hand that just does it for me. I also make spanking toys, and some of my most loyal fans have earned paddles in their name. So, one of my fave spanking toys is one I made for a fan. It’s called my “Lotus” paddle. It’s similar to a riding crop, however it has an extended paddle part, and a thicker, longer sturdy handle. The handle is covered in a braided soft blue and white fabric, while the paddle fabric is blue with tiny little studs on it. It packs a whallop and leaves you spotted!

The “Right” Way To Spank

People get too caught up on the right and wrong way to do something. News flash, there is no right or wrong way. It differs from partner to partner and from play sesh to play sesh. What’s right for you and this partner today may not be what’s right for the partner you have tomorrow. To figure out what’s right, you have to start small and low level and work your way up till you find that persons’ stopping point. Then, you know the bottom and the top of that partners’ pain threshold scale. That gives you some sort of guide for that partner, however the real key to finding the right way is open and honest communication between you and your partner.

Typical Spanking Sessions

Well I guess that depends. If it’s a new partner and they do not have a lot of experience with spanking play. Then the sesh would begin with some talking about limits and protocols. Then maybe a warm up with my hand, followed by a spanking toy of low to medium strength based on the read I get from my partner. Then we would end the sesh with some aftercare and talking about the experience, which would then help me determine what to do next time.

If it’s a partner that I have already played with, I would take my cue for this sesh, from our last sesh. I always start a sesh with talking and getting feedback from the time before, so if I need to adjust anything in my plans I can do so. I always like to warm that ass up with a good ole fashioned hand spanking. Then I would move onto a low-med toy based on their pain threshold and from there, one more toy that actually pushes their limits that I have already found in the first sesh. Of course I end the sesh the same way, by making sure my partner is okay and asking them how they felt about what they just went through.

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August 11, 2017
Exploring Impact Play in BDSM

Impact play in my experience, is an activity where an implement is used to strike with force on a part of the body. I keep away from high risk areas such as joints, kidneys and any areas that are not protected by fat or muscle and mostly target the upper back and buttocks. An object used for this type of play could be a paddle, strap, flogger, cane, baton, whip or even a fist or foot. An implement can be made of a variety of materials including wood, rubber, leather, plastic, carbon, rattan, etc.

Impact play is definitely one of my favourite activities and popular amongst my regular clientele. For most of those who visit me requesting heavy impact play, it is more a need than a fetish. One of my goals is to fill that need, and for my clients to leave feeling better than they did when they entered the dungeon, regardless of how much pain I have inflicted during their stay!

A typical Impact Play process

I aim to customize each session to suit what the client has asked for. There is no point whatsoever in having a set style for every impact play request, unless it’s a first timer. If I am seeing a client who has never experienced impact play, I will start with a warm up and increase the intensity throughout the session. I will stop on occasions to check in with the client. The first time with a client is never typical so I am careful and take things slowly.

When a session involves impact play I will get information from the client about their past experience, reasons why they wish to receive, if they have any injuries, medical conditions, any medications , and if they wish for marks to be left on their body etc. A safe-word is put in place so that a client can halt a session if he needs to.

There are many BDSM scenarios where impact play may be applied. Just to name a few: Head Mistress and student role play, Sadist and masochist session, slave training, general discipline to keep a wandering mind in line, and many more!

In my opinion, the mind is the most important part of the play!

Safety is the priority if you are trying it at home

There are so many books and educational sites on the internet. On some of those sites there is access to skill shares and workshops run by BDSM practitioners. If you want to try Impact Play, attend workshops or skill shares, go to events and munches. There are always kinksters about who are happy to share skills or watch over you on your first time trying something new. Read from reliable sources and communicate well with your partner before play begins. Be sure that you understand what limits are, and just as importantly, what yours and your partners’ are. Communication is of great importance. With time comes experience so don’t rush things!

I specialize in Corporal punishment, Latex and Medical play. I also indulge in many other activities so let me know your fantasies! Keep an eye on my site for my regular travel dates to Adelaide and Sydney. Read my profile below and visit my links!

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August 17, 2015
The Art of Hand Sensual Spanking

What I am about to lay out for you here is the most amazing piece of information you are ever going to read, It is guaranteed to cure cancer, world hunger – just by practicing the art of sensual hand spanking.

The most intimate act I know of in spanking is sensual. Seductive and connective hand spanking. If it leads to a climatic orgasm by my partner there is no better compliment for me.

Having someone over my knee for the sole purpose of taking both of our breath away in the same flush of energy as making love is amazingly powerful and lush.

Hand meeting the cool flesh of another and moving through gradual warmth to the full radiant heat of repeated rhythmic administrations from a simple flick of the wrist or the flattened thudy palm strike brings a rush our labored breathing.

Don’t underestimate the power of the whole hand

When I’m spanking I like to use every part of my hand. Fingers for stingy flicks of the wrist, particularly at the base of the bottom and the inner thighs. Firm full palm strikes that can change to light, fast, rhythmic cupped strikes right at the sweet spot of her vagina. By the way, this pushes stimulating vibrations right into her body. I also use the edge of my palm and what I like to call the spank and grab, which allows me to deliver both the sting of my fingers and the thud of heel of my palm. I have found, even just two fingers on the inner thighs can produce gasps and gentle moans.

The duality of senses

Since I am notorious for my long sessions, I try to create sensations that forces the mind to think of where it wants to go. If I am spanking with my right hand, my left is softly exploring other parts of her body. Massaging the neck, her head, dragging my fingernails down her spine or even wrapping gently around her neck. If I am pulling her hair to whisper in her ear, my cadence with my spanking hand changes.

Pushing down on the small of her back to accentuate her cheeks for sharp slaps is exquisite.

The arc of a spanking

For me, a spanking as I mentioned earlier, is similar to making love. There is the warm up, meant to engage the mind and body for what is to come. Easy soft to medium explorations of the entirety of her body. As it builds on, the intensity and the heat of my palm and her bottom begin to match up. I can sense the energy exchange through her body movements pushing us both to the brink where everything becomes a blur of movement, breath and rhythms until we are both spent.

All of this is a short burst, which is what makes hand spanking so sensually enjoyable for me. And by the way, this stuff works every time…except…when it doesn’t.

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March 26, 2015
Why spank your wife?

Hi, DH here! This is post is a long-overdue follow-up to my how to spank your wife post.

I think the hardest part of our dynamic for me has been really understanding that Julia isn’t just acting submissive, she is submissive. She really does need my loving guidance and leadership in our marriage. And that is really the key: it’s within the context of our marriage. She could handle her life just fine without me.

And yet, she submits to me as her HoH. I have the final say on all family decisions. Although she handles paying the bills, major financial decisions are mine. I set the rules for her, and I expect them to be followed. It’s that we agree on this arrangement that makes this thing we do work for us.

I’ve become fascinated by ttwd, and the effect it’s had on my marriage with Julia, and also the effect it has had on me as a person. Looking back, it seems clear to me that my new confidence in my own abilities and strength have allowed me to make the best decisions I could have made in a very tough year. The validation? I just got a raise! (And a week later “let go”.)

Spanking your wife affirms your strength and dominance and gives you confidence that helps you in every area of your life.

I know Julia has benefited as well. She started running in the last year, and has kept her commitment through rain, shine, backaches, and family visits. Today, I agreed to implement a new rule: if she misses a day of running, regardless of the reason, I’ll give her 7 swats with her least favorite implement, the wooden paddle. On the surface of it, that sounds pretty caveman-ey on my part. But the truth is that Julia wants it that way, so that having the threat of swats hanging over her head will “help get back into running again” after a break.

Spanking your wife helps her build confidence and character, and motivation to complete tasks.

Sometimes, our dynamic requires that I discipline Julia for breaking one of our rules. Our rules represent the contract on which we’ve developed and based our trust. Violations of that trust cause hurt feelings through unmet expectations. To clear the air, I spank Julia to discipline her. I lecture her during the spanking about how important the rule is, and how I need to be able to trust her to follow the rule. I ask her if she agrees, and we talk if necessary. But by the end of the spanking, the issue is resolved and doesn’t bother us anymore.

Is it somewhat hypocritical for the man to spank the wife for an infraction, and get to skate by blamelessly when he screws the pooch? Yep. You don’t want to be that guy, trust me. Nothing feels worse than the reproach I’ve seen in Julia’s eyes, when I’ve let her down. But I’m the man. There’s nothing I can do except admit when I’m wrong, apologize when it’s necessary, and return to running my household.

Spanking your wife provides her discipline when she breaks the rules and enforces your authority as head of the household.

I’m also fascinated by the evolution of human behavior. Julia and I are currently watching the series Mad Men on Netflix. The first season is set in 1960, and every episode crackles with the tension between men and women. The men are men, and their attitudes are reflected in the jokes they tell: “I got a phone call at the bar saying my wife gave birth, and now I gotta pay for college!” Men pride themselves on being strong, and weaker men are preyed on, even as they fantasize out loud about being more manly themselves.

Fifty years later, it feels like evolution. In many ways, we just don’t think the way we did. Roles between men and women have changed as a result of the feminism movement, which has established the basic truth that women deserve equal rights. ‘Cause they’re, you know, people. Like men. The article that Julia posted sounds funny today, but the guy that said that men would be sorry when they stopped spanking their wives was right: men voluntarily gave up the right to lead their households. My generation wasn’t taught how to have a relationship with a woman, because of the rapid social changes that were going on in the 1970’s. I think men conceded their authority in relationships, and the result has been broken families.

Don’t get me wrong: I don’t think a ttwd/spanking relationship is right for everyone. It requires consent, consistency, trust, and mutual agreement between both parties. But I believe that the taken in hand movement is almost an unconscious human expression of an evolutionary trait that we’re not ready to leave behind.

Spanking your wife could be a human trait that shouldn’t be left behind, at least for people who need and thrive on it.

What do you think about why you should spank your wife? Or as a wife, why you should be spanked? 😉

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March 19, 2015