Tag: SimplySxy

  • The Secret Life Of A Hotwife (Chapter 10) – Sexual Dysfunction Discoveries

    The Secret Life Of A Hotwife (Chapter 10) – Sexual Dysfunction Discoveries

    Ever wondered what really happens on a hot girls’ night out? Meet Juliet Adelaide and her friends in The Secret Life of a Hotwife as they drive into the sassy world in this no-holds barred account of a hotwife’s lifestyle, and uncover all you’ve ever wanted to know, from the sensual and provocative to the risque and unspeakable.

    Based on the steamy real-life experience of Juliet Adelaide, author of The Mrs Sexy Chronicles, this exclusive first-hand account of her exploration of sexual freedom and insight into the life of a hotwife will leave you begging for more.

    Chapter 10 Teaser – Sexual Dysfunction Discoveries

    I start by telling them all of the other interesting things I am learning about men. You see all of these commercials on television about drugs that help erectile dysfunction, but you never really think about it. Occasional impotence is one thing, but I really wasn’t aware of the varieties of male sexual dysfunction. Scott had always been reliable for me sexually and I can scarcely remember a time when he was unable to perform. He was in his early forties, so I could hardly imagine guys in their twenties and thirties having so many issues. I don’t think it’s anything to be ashamed of, it’s just never really talked about.

    Julie tells us all that an ex-boyfriend of hers started taking some prescription medication. It had an adverse reaction that caused him to be impotent for weeks. The guy was really upset that he couldn’t get an erection and it made them fight more. She says that it eventually was fine but they broke up for other reasons. She could definitely see how sexual dysfunction would be a big problem in any relationship. Impotence is probably the most talked about problem due to the pharmaceutical industry and it’s wave of commercials. They always gear them towards older people. I had no idea it was so normal

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    Juliet Adelaide has a Bachelor’s degree in Humanities and Culture from Arizona State University. She started dating her husband at the age of 17 and they were monogamous for 25 years. They are a devoted couple who only recently opened their marriage to new sexual experiences allowing Juliet to become a hotwife.

    “mrs Sexy” is the witty, erotic and true story of her experiences with this new polyamorous lifestyle. Juliet, (aka Mrs Sexy), takes you through the most personal moments of her romantic and sexual adventures.

    Follow Juliet on

    Website: https://mrssexybook.com/

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/mrssexybook

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Mrs-Sexy-469306166570252/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrssexybook2

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_p2kOC111O_3CEtat-7lCg


    Images courtesy of Juliet Adelaide

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  • What Is Cosplay Erotica?

    What Is Cosplay Erotica?

    The prevalence of 3D porn videos nowadays, of virtually any video game or anime characters has increased both supply and demand for cosplay erotica. Nothing truly beats real human interactions, and access to purchase costumes is as easy as ever on the internet. 

    My Favorite Cosplay Erotica Scenes

    Being the creative director and community manager for ErinyesAngels.com gives me a lot of access to sexy cosplay porn, so I am a bit spoiled. Finding new models and sharing in our love of cosplay and adult performance is quite a joy in itself. I also particularly enjoy doing custom videos and live shows dressed as specific comic book or video game characters for specific clients, it’s a lot of fun to bring their fantasy to life! 

    Merging sexuality and my D&D characters for TableTopless has also been a really unique sexual and performance challenge, but very rewarding. The community we have grown in such a short time, and having an excuse to play sexy TTRPG once a week has been really exciting. The show episodes run for four hours, and half of the fun of it sometimes is the balance between getting to explore more of our unique storyline or indulging in the party – and viewer’s – favorite sex parties and orgies. 

    Misconceptions About Cosplay Erotica

    Not keen on paying much attention to drama or detractors, so I am not entirely sure. I suppose some might say critical words when models don’t seem to know or be into whatever the are cosplaying? At the end of the day, true nerds being in costume while doing adult performance is ideal – and it happens often!

    Personally, I have met many genuine card-carrying nerds among the LA / San Francisco adult industry than out in the wild among the general populace. Half of the cam girls that I have known have also gone to Star Trek cons or Magic conventions, this is pretty common occurrence among adult stars, in my experience.

    Must Knows Before Trying Cosplay Sex

    Communication with your partner, to get the vibe and roleplay basics right. Coordinate your needs and figure out what kink might be associated with each costume choice for each other.

    Cosplay is just like any other roleplay, so make sure you know what you want and if you can deliver the same, going into it. 

    New Project TableTopless

    Follow us on tabletopless.org (twitter @TableToplessORG) for exciting updates, on the way


    Anna Cherry, has been in the adult business with partner Richard Rall for over ten years. Heading their own cosplay erotica studio, as well as a STEM podcast, it was easy for the two nerds to branch out into sexual gameplay and stream it as entertainment for thousands of people. When not building a fantasy D&D world together, they show the real side on nightly “reality porn” Streamate cam shows. Catch them gaming and discussing everything from esotericists to health & fitness on their brand ambassador Plexstorm streams, and who knows what cosplay they are building next.

    Follow Anna Cherry at the following links:

    linktr.ee/annacherryontop

    annacherry.com

    erinyesangels.com

    allmylinks.com/tabletoplessorg

    tabletopless.org

    Catch her on Wednesdays, 2pm Pacific livestreaming TableTopless 


    Article images courtesy of Anna Cherry

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  • How To Anal Stretch & Enjoy Anal Sex

    How To Anal Stretch & Enjoy Anal Sex

    I love anal sex. I love its intensity, its taboo nature, its intimacy. I believe that receiving anal sex is the most humbling yet liberating sex act you can do.

    How Into Anal Are You?

    I’m not an anal queen on the level of Siswet or Proxy Paige. But I’m eagerly on the intermediate scale. I can self fist. I can also rosebud a bit.

    Getting Started Into Anal Stretching

    Smart small, very small. If you’re a newbie, get the smallest buttplug you can get and climb up from there. The idea that anal sex should hurt is as archaic a notion as women not voting and gay people not being allowed to marry.

    Does Anal Stretching Make Anal Sex More Fun?

    The more you stretch your ass, the better anal sex feels. As I said before, start with tiny buttplugs if you’re a newbie. Use tons and tons and tons of lube.

    I know they use spit as lube in porn, but believe me, real lube is what you use in the real world. Use a douche or enema to get as clean as possible. Accidents are not sexy.

    My Favorite Anal Sex Positions

    Doggy style.

    Being able to reverse cowgirl is on my bucket list. I think that missionary anal sex is so romantic and intimate.

    Ways To Make Anal Even Hotter

    Watch anal sex porn without a shred of guilt or shame. Discuss anal sex with your partner before you have sex. Realize that the hottest anal sex should be pleasurable and intimate for all parties involved.


    Madeleine Rose is an adult model, content creator, and escort based in New York City. Formerly a freelance journalist, she’s be in “the life” since 2015. Some of the talent she’s worked with include Dapper Dan, Roc Bundy, Jack Woods, Silver Stallion, and Aja Wilde. Her email is madeleinerose3x@yahoo.com. She’s always free to talk.

    Follow Madeleine Rose on

    Instagram: @madeleinerose3x

    Twitter: @madeleinerose3x

    I’m accepting bookings in New York City from August 25th to September 10th. I will be in Las Vegas from October 3rd to October 10th. Will be at Exxxotica NJ in late October or early November 2020.


    Article images courtesy of Madeleine Rose; featured image from Shutterstock

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  • How I Got Started Into Camming

    How I Got Started Into Camming

    Sex is really important to me, these days. In my previous relationship, there would be months and even years without sex.  Now that I am single,  and as I get older, I’m finally confident enough to express what I want and like to my partners. My pleasure is finally a priority, and I’m trying to get as much as I can.

    What Made Me Decide To Cam

    For the past 10 years, I was in a very emotionally abusive relationship.  I came across a camsite, and thought camming would be a great “escape plan”.

    I day dreamed about packing my bags, buying a used laptop and camming to make enough money to support myself. It was the only job I could think of that would allow me the kind of money I would need to escape.

    What I Had To Prepare

    I researched camming for about two years. I checked out all the cam sites. Made note of what I liked, and didn’t like. Saw what worked, and what didn’t. I researched which sites seemed to be the best. I watched YouTube videos, listened to podcasts, read articles, and looked up what items I would need to get started.

    I read and watched anything and everything to do with camming. Tech needs, expected pay, tax info, lighting, names, potential scams, do’s and don’ts, everything! And I thought long and hard about what my name and persona would be.

    One Challenge I Faced

    I’ve never been very tech savvy, so getting a nice looking bio up was a challenge for me. 

    My Specialty & Favorite Content

    I would say my “specialty” is my personality to be honest. My fans always say that I’m very friendly, genuine, and with a great smile.  And also that I have amazing tits, and a juicy bum haha!

    Since I starting camming, it became a goal to be able to squirt, and squirt big! With some great tips, and lots of practice, I’ve become a pretty great squirter.

    Upcoming Content Fans Can Look Forward To

    More content on my PornHub! I met a really great guy that was keen to make content. He’s very business minded, kind and respectful. We’ve been meeting once a week to film for about three months now.  It’s great to see our channel grow, and gain more views and followers.


    Greta Grindhouse – A sensuous sex kitten, with deadly bazooms. A classic beauty with never ending creamy curves, a gorgeous smile and fiery red hair.

    Follow Greta Grindhouse on

    Chaturbate: https://chaturbate.com/p/gretagrindhouse/

    Xcams: https://www.xcams.com/chatfs/GretaGrinds/

    Twitter: @GretaGrindhouse https://twitter.com/GretaGrindhouse

    PornHub: https://www.pornhub.com/model/gretagrindshard

    SnapChat: @gretagrindhouse

    OnlyFans: https://onlyfans.com/gretagrindshard


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  • DJ Mao Hamasaki / 新時代のDJ

    DJ Mao Hamasaki / 新時代のDJ

    皆さんこんにちは!浜崎真緒です!今年27歳になります!仕事はセクシー女優、DJです!日本から来ました!

    Hello everyone! This is Mao Hamasaki! I’m 27 years old this year! My job is being an adult actress and DJ! I come from Japan!

    What inspires your fashion style? あなたのファッションスタイルを刺激するものは何ですか?

    自分の好きな色、形のものを身につけるのが好きです!これからも色んな色を使ったファッションしていきたいです!

    I like to wear my favorite color and shape! I want to continue to explore fashion with various colors!

    Which 3 beauty products are a must have in your collection? コレクションに欠かせない美容製品はどれですか。

    最近はビタミンCやサプリメントを積極的にとっています!あと、ハーブティーとか!内側から整えていきたいですね

    Recently, I’ve been taking vitamin C and supplements actively! Also, herbal tea!

    Do you follow a strict beauty and/or exercise regime? あなたは厳格な美容および/または運動体制に従っていますか?

    あんまり決めていません!

    しっかりきっちり決めちゃうと逆にストレスなってしまうので

    思い出した時にストレッチしたり、フラフープしたりですかね

    お仕事でも結構運動してるので笑

    I don’t do much! On the contrary, if you try to make a good decision, it will be stressful. So do you stretches or hula hoops when you remember. I work out quite a lot at work, so LOL.

    What hobbies and interests do you have? どんな趣味や興味がありますか?

    音楽はやっぱり好きです!色んな音楽きいてます!

    あとは休日お酒のんだり映画とかもよくみています!最近見た映画だと ジョーカーがとっても感動しました!

    I like music and I listen to various music! After that, I often watch spend my holiday with drinks and movies! The movie I saw recently that I was very impressed with was Joker!

    How do you like to spend your free time? 自由時間をどのように過ごしたいですか?

    最近は自粛などもあったので

    あんまりお出かけは出来ないのですが 海外とかのんびりお出かけするのが好きです!山や、海とかも好きです!

    Recently, there were things in place like self-restraint so I can’t go out much, but I like going abroad! I also like mountains and the sea!

    If you could improve one thing about the world, what will it be? あなたが世界について一つ改善できるとしたら、それは何でしょうか?

    早く今回の疫病が終わりますように。みんなが健康でありますように。

    I hope this plague will end soon. May everyone be healthy.

    What is a funny attempt a guy has tried to know you? 男があなたを知ろうとした面白い試みとは何ですか?

    わたしを好きになれば色んなジャンルで楽しめると思います!

    セクシービデオを見た後にわたしのDJをみてもいいですし、日本だとよくイベントやっているので日本旅行がてらイベントにも遊びに来て欲しいですね

    まずは是非わたしのTwitter、Instagramのフォロー宜しくお願いします!

    If you like me, you can enjoy me in various genres! You can watch my DJ after watching the sexy video, and I often have events in Japan so if you are traveling in Japan, I would like you to come play at my events. First of all, please follow me on Twitter and Instagram!

    Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Mao. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”?  毛沢東さんの質問にお答えいただきありがとうございます。 終了する前の1つの質問、「セクシー」をどのように定義しますか?

    セクシーとは

    その人の内面の味。

    おんなじ人でも年代によってセクシーさ色気の種類が違うと思います。

    なので人としての内面の成長によって人それぞれのセクシーさが出るんですね

    What is sexy is the inner taste of the person. Even for the same person, the type of sex appeal is different depending on the age group. That’s why each person’s intimacy grows due to their inner growth.


    Mao Hamasaki – Japanese DJ Artist.

    Mao built her global reputation from her works across films and tv dramas around Asia region since 2012, and was inspired to take a step forward with her DJing in the year of 2018. In the same year, Mao’s DJ career lift off by getting invited to perform around Asia, including Hong Kong, Macao, Singapore, Malaysia, Philippines, Cambodia and many more. Mao is always exploring for new ways to interact with her crowd, and gives out her most to keep the vibe on the roof.

    Specialized Genres: EDM, Trap, Hard-style, Pop, Top 40.

    新時代のDJ – DJ Mao 

    •日本で人気のDJ Maoの仕事は日本のみならず、韓国で映画等に出演していたりとアジア各地でもその人気ぶりはお墨付き。

    •DJ業では香港、マカオ、シンガポール、マレーシアにカンボジアと沢山の国々に受け入れられ、文化や言葉の違いを超え来場者と楽しい時間を常に共有してきた。

    •新時代DJであるDJ Maoの空間演出は、この先数多くの施設に良いアトモスフィアを与える事になるだろう。

    •音楽ジャンル: EDM,Trap,Hardstyle, Pop and Top40.

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  • What Is A Session Like With A Professional Disciplinarian?

    What Is A Session Like With A Professional Disciplinarian?

    My personal views towards kink and alternative lifestyles are very open minded. If someone engages in their kink consensually with other adults, I do not believe that I have any right to judge nor do I want to. My kink may not be your kink but yours is just as important to you as mine is to me.  I understand that an alternative lifestyle is not for everyone and I actually believe that those of us that acknowledge and practice our kinks in a prudent, well planned manner are more evolved (and dare I say more intelligent) than our peers that do not explore their desires. I firmly believe that everyone has something that they either want to explore or have explored because it consumes them if they don’t. What your “vanilla” neighbor does behind closed doors may surprise you. 

    I was brought up in a very religious household and made to feel guilty about things that were deemed “sinful” because it was not mainstream or in line with what God would want me to do.  I personally don’t feel that religion or one’s interpretation of the Bible can stop kinky urges and may even propel someone to try their kink in an unsafe way. That is part of why organized religion can really screw up someone who was born with the need to express themselves through their kink. It can be a difficult mental burden to bear when one is told that what drives them sexually is sinful, how horrible for someone to grow up with that burden.  It is part of the reason that I didn’t start exploring my kinky side until I was forty.

    I also think that someone’s kink or fetish can be just as important to someone as who they are attracted to sexually.  It can also be that they identify their kink AS their sexuality. The two are often too difficult to separate and are intertwined with one’s sexual identity, and there is nothing wrong with that.  It is difficult to explain but easy to understand if you are kinky.  Now I do want to be clear that I do have an issue if someone wants to bring animals or children into their kink or fetish because children and animals do not understand and cannot consent.

    What Inspired Me To Be A Professional Disciplinarian

    Becoming a professional disciplinarian was actually the culmination of the perfect storm of circumstances for me. I had recently finished my Master’s degree and was looking for a career change, I had moved to Austin and left my old job in the criminal justice field behind.  I was in a really satisfying spanking relationship with a partner who believed in me and said I had a gift when it came to spanking and should pursue being a pro.

    My husband also lost his job around the same time and it was the final straw and I decided it was time for me to strike out on my own. My first client reached out to me on Fetlife and asked if I spanked people professionally, I told him no but had thought about it and it snowballed from there. It moved rather quickly with me, I had my website up in a few days and started seeing people within a week.

    Reasons Client Seek A Session With Me

    Clients reach out to me for a variety of reasons. Some have always wanted to explore spanking as long as they could remember and don’t want to jump into an alternative relationship straight away. Some have been with other disciplinarians and like my approach or will be in Austin or one of the travel locations on my website. 

    Some people want to find motivation for personal goals, some people want to role play favorite scenarios that have dreamed of for years, some people just want to be spanked by someone who loves doing it, doesn’t judge them, and encourages them to explore their kink.

    What Goes On In A Typical Disciplinarian Session

    A typical session with me usually takes one of three paths: motivational/goal setting. Role play, or “funishment”.  All of my sessions start out by me collecting information and dispersing information with an introductory email.  I go over what I will and won’t do, how much I will be compensated, and the type of impact, tolerance and preferred implements that I will use.

    When I arrive to a session, I always start with discussing what they are looking to address for motivational sessions or how they want a role play session to progress. I pull appropriate implements and make sure that they are all okay for use during the session.  I know a lot of people don’t want to feel “in charge” of what is used or how intense I go but for my safety it is important to make sure that I am not using something or saying something that would trigger an unwanted emotion or feeling. That is something I don’t want to do and try my best to avoid.

    A lot of the time I am meeting with someone I haven’t met before and do not want to put myself in unnecessary danger. After the initial discussion, I generally like to start with an over the knee spanking warm up, unless cold caning is desired or the role play does not call for it. I then will use several implements and either discuss goals or continue with a role play.  For funishment sessions it is generally chit chatting and getting to know a person better and discussing spanking and how it can be beneficial to us. 

    I often encourage newcomers to reach out to others in the community or perhaps think about attending a spanking party. The worst part of having a kink is feeling alone. I try to let my clients know they are not alone, many others have these urges and it is perfectly normal.

    What Should One Know Prior To A First Session With You?

    First and foremost, my sessions are non-sexual in nature. Yes, I touch bare bottoms but I don’t touch genitals and will not allow any sort of supervised release or grinding on my lap. I only have punishment or discipline focused sessions only.  I am not a mind reader, if you want something to happen during a session you need to tell me, communication is key. I do not guarantee that I won’t bruise or leave marks, everyone is different. I believe that the use of safe words is necessary whether the client chooses to use them or not. They are there for all of our safety.

    Often, I have noticed that people’s mind can handle more punishment than their bodies can. I know that I have had to stop when the client may feel they can take more but I am not looking to permanently scar or be involved in a blood bath.  I think that those that have not had sessions before should not forget fundamental hygiene and remember their manners. I am not a robot or an actress and I have all of my olfactory senses still working quite well. 

    I also understand it can be a nerve wracking and sometimes scary situation to let someone else have control but that is the real reason that people book with me, they trust my expertise as a disciplinarian and they trust me as a compassionate person to let me know what is best for them.


    Hi I am Miss Rachel, a Professional Disciplinarian in Austin, TX.  I specialize in motivational (goal setting), role play, and funishment sessions.  A session with me provides you with a safe place to explore spanking and gives you the opportunity to be accountable to yourself while letting go of your vanilla responsibilities.

    Follow Miss Rachel on:

    Website: www.positivelyspanking.com

    Twitter: @MissRachel_PS

    FetLife: MissRachel_PS

    SpankingTube: Fair_Enough

    OnlyFans: @TheLadiesRoom (coming soon)

    AVN Stars: @TheLadiesRoom (coming soon)

    Upcoming Sessions:

    2020

    Seattle, WA

    September 14-16

    2021

    Las Vegas, NV  Shadow Lodge Party

    February 25-28

    Houston, TX   Lonestar Spanking Party (LSSP)

    May 17-21

    Dallas, TX  Texas All State Spanking Party (TASSP)

    June 24-28


    Article images courtesy of Miss Rachel

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  • New York Model & Creator Lindy

    New York Model & Creator Lindy

    I’m a model and creator from NYC. I’m definitely ambitious, spontaneous, and creative so I like to be surrounded by high energy people. I’m always on the go and looking for new adventures! 

    What hobbies or interests do you have?

    I love fashion. I’m always looking at the newest trends and studying designers and their creative styles. I’ve been modeling since I was a kid so I naturally grew up being really passionate about fashion. I’m actually working on my own clothing line!  

    Do you have any favorite brands or places you like to shop at?

    This is such a hard question – it’s always changing because I’m constantly on the search for new brands! My favorite right now is probably Matte Brand. I love their style. So chic and unique. 

    On a scale of 1-10, how much of a party animal are you?

    I’m either 0 or 100 – I love my alone time, but I also love going out and having fun with my girls. It really just depends on my vibe for the day! 

    If you could change one thing about the world, what will it be?

    I wish more people in the world were less out of touch with reality and more aware of things happening in society so that they could find a way to help out. I’m huge on philanthropy.

    What is a typical day like for yourself?

    I always wake up naturally around 8am (yes I know it’s crazy) and then I sleep again until 10am, so that’s when my day actually starts. I’ll start with something super yummy and light for breakfast- a strawberry banana smoothie with two scoops of collagen and soy milk is my go to! And then I’ll go for a walk or do a light workout.

    I work from home so I’ll get lunch and work until about 5/6 pm, then after I’ll either hit up one of my friends for dinner/drinks or I’ll just binge watch scary movies and make food at home! I’m obsessed with anything scary. 

    Do you believe in any superstition?

    I wouldn’t say I’m superstitious about anything, but I’m spiritual so I definitely believe in karma!

    What is a funny attempt a guy has tried to know you?

    I’ve had guys try to impress me by flexing the nice things they have or by showing off well-known people they know. It’s literally the worst. I’m independent and I have my successes – impress me by being yourself! 

    Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Lindy. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”? 

    Sexy is a state of mind. It’s all about inner AND outer confidence! Being sexy means you truly love yourself and you’re not afraid to embrace your sensuality. When you think you’re sexy, everyone else sees it too! Embrace your inner goddess. 


    Follow the beautiful Lindy on:

    Instagram: 

    https://www.instagram.com/lindyyyn/

    https://www.instagram.com/felinevlabel/


    Images by Lindy

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  • How To Explore My Interest In Kink With A Dominant

    How To Explore My Interest In Kink With A Dominant

    I’ve been kinky for seven years now, professionally and lifestyle.  Kink is highly misunderstood and extremely underrated as a therapeutic and growing mechanism to the general public.  This is why I began doing visual Femdom Art through self-portrait photographs and directing My own short films in order to showcase a side to BDSM without words, just pure aesthetics — no acting, simply a fluid demonstration of how powerful I am in real life and in-person sessions. 

    Alternative lifestyles are so broad and that is exactly what I love about this world:  There is no wrong or right way to do things; there is a matter of safety and consent of course, but after you enter the play arena, it’s pretty much based on the rules and negotiations of the participating parties.  No one else needs to follow their rules unless they are a part of their lives in an engaging way.  To each their own.  It’s wonderful, it’s infinite, and worth every single moment of exploration.  

    Misconceptions About Dominants

    Professionals who are also Lifestyle Dominants add such a huge value to those who are both new as well as seasoned players.  Why?  We play with so many different types of people in such a short span of time compared to those who are just Lifestyle.  We grow at an exponential rate and adjust to every person we interact with by adapting to their fetishes and preferences.  Money is great, but at the end of the day, it needs to be sustainable to become a full-time occupation. 

    I love playing.  I delight in figuring out each person, solving which type of dynamic works best, making up protocol for those I am responsible for should they earn a place in My life.  Dominants may be perceived as bitchy or that They get to relax and “just get served all day,” but NO.  It’s hard work.  Even more so for professionals:  In the lifestyle, Dominants have to take care of the people they play and establish dynamics with; they are responsible for protecting their mental health, their physical bodies and awareness of medical conditions, improving their spiritual selves, and overall, making sure they have fun.  It’s a literal relationship – it doesn’t have to be romantic, but it takes just as much effort in order to build something together that meaningful.  Sure, it can be light and have no strings attached, but that doesn’t mean focus is not held for the duration of the entire playtime. 

    Professionals have to do all of this as well as become a business person such as recording their finances and redistributing those earnings to life necessities, marketing, possibly touring different cities, equipment for creating new content, and countless others.  We have to remember each sub or fetishist and evolve together with their progress.  It’s so much more than just being called “Mistress” or “Goddess” or “Domina” and having Our boots cleaned and giving punishments through impact.  

    Why A Beginner Should Engage Me As A Dominant

    As a Professional Domme, I am able to hold a safe space without judgement while using an extensive rolodex of experience in multiple areas and scenarios.  Being Lifestyle is a great way to exchange intimacy with someone’s skills no matter the difficulty.  The latter is much more intense with higher work expectations, but more rewarding than the prior. 

    Being an artist makes Me even more versatile as I’m able to come up with creative solutions to situations that any kinkster may present Me.  It keeps Me sharp and expands My own way of playing as I tend to make every scene unique even with regular players.  

    How Does A Beginner Choose Between Being A Dom Or Sub?

    Some people have a disposition where they think they may stand either wanting to control a situation or wanting to be controlled in a situation.  This can start as one thing and change to another.  For example, for those in positions of power in everyday life – the entrepreneurs, corporate partners, and political leaders are in control most of the time – and that may not be what they want in private.  They might crave the opposite and want to relinquish all responsibility to someone else they trust. 

    I’ve known Tops who have had many people go up to them wanting them to Dominate, but over time, they get tired and want someone else to take over for their own personal experience.  For those who are just starting out, My advice is to go out and try both and see where you fall.  I’ve seen subs become Switches, voyeurs become fetishists, and those in D/s dynamics give that up completely to just enjoy eroticism.

    The Competitiveness Of Being A Dom In The Kink Community

    In the last 5-10 years, kink has become much more popular in media through fan fiction that lead to Hollywood films, multiple televised documentary series that portray daily life with specific types of dynamics, and even fetish fashion penetrating celebrities’ wardrobes to red carpet events or their thousands of dollars worth of music videos.  Social profiles are not just accessible to those who are tuned in the lifestyle, but EVERYONE.  Sexuality has been so constricted by society, one is driven to break out of the conditioning we were taught since young.  Curiosity drives people to try new things.   It’s easier to do that when you see a famous person dipping their toes into alternative culture alongside local people to your city advertising kinky services.  

    I think having a brand of what type of Dom/me you are, not for the sake of show, but truly being niche in something no one else is doing or no one else can do but you helps you shine.  What makes you different from the Dom/me next door?  The public is quick to categorize people into race or by specialty.  I’ve managed to step over those labels because instead of being the mixed Asian or Chinese-Filipina-Spanish Domme, I am actually known for being a nurturing Sadistic Sensualist specializing in hypnotic healing and impactful discipline through eroticism.  Plus, I also create My own art Myself.  Therefore, I am more.

    Characteristics I Look For In A Sub

    What I seek for potential subs is quite simple:  Common sense, a sense of respect and reverence, and a willingness to be trained [by ME] – no matter how experienced they are.  Good hygiene is also important – many come to Me freshened up or showered with even their best underwear on.  Approach Me like you are applying for a job interview, but make it personal.  I want to know why you want to serve Me. 

    Give Me a glimpse at your previous experiences.  What are your interests?  What are you curious about?  What are considered your hard limits?  Do you know Mine?  They should after reading My website – all of My information is on there.  If they read it, I will know by what they reference or what questions they ask.  In My eyes, subs should be open to being molded into the most useful entity to their Dominant.  Forget everything you learned previously if it no longer applies, or, use what you have learned previously and thoroughly research on how you can serve Me better.  Offer yourself not just in play, but outside play to My needs. 

    Know My desires because you genuinely want to fulfill them and not your own fetishes.  I mentioned skills previously:  For subs who are seeking either professional or personal counsel, this means anything I can use that you are proficient at.  This can include driving, bartending, website development, cinematography, video editing, etc.  I will never let you forget you are here to serve Me, and the longer you stick with Me, the more you will be rewarded with becoming integrated into My Life.

    I want to thank SimplySxy for having Me today and for asking these thought provoking questions.  Questions about how I began My journey and what I specialize in can be found on My Publications page via My website at DOMINAMARA.ORG.  My Youtube.com/c/DominaMara channel is an informative resource with many videos from when I first became independent and what I’ve learned:  How to approach a Mistress, why I don’t Switch or sub, what My thoughts are on fetish wear, and much more.  I still offer photo prints for any of My images found on My website, and any supportive donation is always appreciated as every creative output is funded out of pocket.  If you cannot gift due to difficult times, sharing My content through forwarding, reposting, retweeting, collaborating, and featuring Me works just as well.  


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    Domina Mara – I hail from the heart of California with an exotic mix of Chinese, Filipino, and Spanish blood.  My career began in 2013 as a professional BDSM player at a local dungeon in Los Angeles, and created a solid foundation for My knowledge of Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, and Sado-Masochism.  As a Dominant Mistress, My greatest joy is watching you transform into the most humble and genuine submissive with PURPOSE.

    Follow Domina Mara on

    Website: https://DominaMara.org/

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DominaMara

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/MaraDomina

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/MaraDomina

    OnlyFans: https://onlyfans.com/DominaMara

    Other Websites:
    https://stars.avn.com/DominaMara
    https://IwantMara.com/
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    Amazon: https://amzn.to/1V4zKPS

    I am currently accepting select in-person sessions in Los Angeles as well as remote online text, phone, and cam sessions to play with My regulars and kinky newbies around the world.  While I’m not playing, I am renovating My Home like many others during this lockdown time, and will be releasing the makeovers on my YouTube Channel [Youtube.com/c/DominaMara].  

    Due to the pandemic, My travels to the UK, Philippines, and Middle East were cancelled this 2020 and postponed until further notice.  Sign up for My Newsletter via DOMINAMARA.COM to receive monthly updates on travel, Youtube videos, new photo sets, interviews, product releases, and other collaborations in the works. 


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  • Interview With Domina Mara

    Interview With Domina Mara

    SimplySxy has the pleasure of featuring Domina Mara (Miss Mara) on the topic of “How To Explore My Interest In Kink With A Dominant“.

    Here, Domina Mara shares her insights on misconceptions about Dominants, how to stand out in the kink community as one and why she is the ideal Dominant for you to explore your interest in kink!


    Catch our Domina Mara feature on “How To Explore My Interest In Kink With A Dominant” that will be out soon!

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  • Travel Enthusiast Meika From Hong Kong

    Travel Enthusiast Meika From Hong Kong

    I am born and raised in Hong Kong. I am a part time accountant as well as a freelance dance tutor, especially for children. I am a travel enthusiast so I started an Instagram travel account last year and have been a travel blogger for these two years.

    What hobbies and interests do you have?

    I love traveling, dancing, hiking and singing. I am a budget traveler and I really enjoy hiking, and taking dance classes in different countries. I always prefer nature and mountains! I love learning new things so I have started learning the ukulele last month during the third wave of COVID 19 in Hong Kong.

    How is a typical day like for yourself?

    Before the coronavirus, I used to have a busy schedule.  I work as an accountant in the morning and as a dance tutor in the afternoon and evening. Besides, I go for dance classes regularly. I use my freelancing to fund my travelling. My dream is to be a traveling freelancer!

    On a scale of 1-10, how much of a foodie are you?

    1. I am not a foodie. I sometimes eat one meal per day when traveling alone in order to save money. XD

    What are 3 fun things you like to do in the city you live in?

    1. Dancing for sure! 

    2. Hiking. There are many amazing hiking trails in Hong Kong.

    3. Exploring hidden gems in Hong Kong.

    Do you have any quotes or mottos you like to use regularly?

    As a Christian, I love to use bible verses. Below are my favorite quotes:

    1. So be as wise as snakes and as innocent as doves.  (Matthew 10:16)

    2. Life is simple when you live simply

    3. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart (1 Samuel 16:7)

    4.  Humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less. Humility is thinking more of others. -Rick Warren

    5. Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people. – Eleanor Roosevelt

    Which flavor best describes you?

    I love chocolate! I am lively, creative, dramatic, and enthusiastic. I will easily become bored with the usual routine.

    What is a funny pickup line or attempt someone has tried on you?

    I don’t remember. XD

    Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Meika. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”? 

    It’s all about inner beauty. Everyone is unique. Be confident in who you are and you will be attractive and sexy. It’s a feeling and feeling comfortable with yourself.


    Follow the amazing Meika on:

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meikatravel

    Blog: https://meikatravel.pixnet.net/blog & https://blog.ulifestyle.com.hk/meikatravel


    Images by Meika

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