I think most of us crave partners who make us feel fulfilled. Sex is a crucial aspect of intimate relationships, and not being honest about your needs eventually makes those relationships (and consequently oneself) miserable!
Giving my personal desires and fantasies room to develop in my personal relationships was the first step I ever took in the direction of improving my overall mental health.
After just a little bit of research into BDSM I suddenly found a whole new world of possibilities open to me. I discovered that my deepest urges and desires that I had been subconsciously (and sometimes consciously) repressing had names and definitions. It was so gratifying and affirming. Most importantly I developed this knowledge within the BDSM community – by going to events and immersing myself in the culture of consent and sex advocacy and education. That community offered a level of safety and accountability that I simply wouldn’t have had access to without meeting other people and attending local events.
As long as it’s safe, sane, consensual and risk-aware, I believe that kinks and/or fetishes are way more common than people might think, and a totally normal aspect of human sexuality!
What Is Rope Bondage
Rope bondage – the art of binding (usually a person) with rope – can be anything you want it to be. From soft and sensual to practical to sadomasochistic. It can be purely performative or an intensely emotional experience. It all depends on the type of rope used and the method that’s employed. It has its roots in ancient Japan where it was used as a method of torture and incarceration. Some of the same ties are used today in rope bondage to inflict both pleasure and pain.
Misconceptions About Rope Bondage
There seems to be confusion about whether it’s sexual or not and if it isn’t – what’s the appeal? To answer that, it can be sexual, but it doesn’t have to be. Again that’s all depending on what kind of rope bondage people are doing. If they’re doing practical / bedroom bondage the feeling of being restrained while receiving pleasure (or pain if that’s your thing) can really heighten the intensity. Add to that the fact that unlike cuffs and tape, rope itself can be formed around the body in such a way so as to increase pressure on certain areas of the body which can also be pleasurable. I personally haven’t heard of anyone reaching an orgasm simply by being tied up without any other external stimulation. But I suppose that’s possible too.
It also doesn’t have to involve sex, and can live in a sort of grey area where enduring such high physical intensity causes your brain to release endorphins which gives you a feeling of euphoria – like a runners high. There’s also oxytocin (the “love hormone”) that gets released during particularly connective scenes between the bottom and Top – that is also a pleasurable sensation. 99% of my experience in rope has been non-sexual.
Common Types Of Rope Used
Most riggers will be using jute or hemp because of the tensile strength, smoother handling and durability. Cotton and bamboo are good for people who are just starting out, and silk is nice and soft for people who want a more sensual experience. It’s up to the individual to decide what they want to use, but just please don’t use strings or chemically treated hardware store rope!
Popular Rope Bondage Techniques
There are common ties and styles that rope artists learn, but people essentially develop their own individual technique based on what they’ve learned through skillshares and intensives with more established teachers like Naka Akira, Osada Steve, Gorgonne, etc. It’s a highly individualistic discipline in that respect – though there will be hardcore enthusiasts who only follow one particular school’s method.
As a rope Top, I prefer predicament bondage combined with “Chaos Bondage” which essentially is using your understanding of how rope bondage works (maintaining tension, reversing tension, different kinds of knots) and combining that with (often asymmetrical) spontaneity. I will use the bottom’s natural posture to put them in an ever so slightly uncomfortable position which will amplify whenever they attempt to get comfortable. I am kind of a sadist. I also don’t mind making pretty ties (obviously). As a bottom I prefer to be tied in challenging suspensions.
Tips For Beginners To Get Started
Get on Fetlife and find local events and skillshares you can attend to learn rope bondage in person with established teachers! This is crucial, it’s a hands on skill that requires so much more than just following a diagram or a tutorial.
Get involved in your general local BDSM community as well, you can learn a lot of necessary tools for negotiation, consent and general scene safety.
Research the safety risks. This is a great video on the Anatomy of Nerves for Rope Bondage (https://youtu.be/u9-VzX9_pzg).
Keep your safety shears nearby at all times.
Don’t just tie with anyone. . . Find people whose desires for the scene are relatively compatible with yours, rather than someone who may hate what you love!
Use safe words!
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