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  • Dating 101

    Dating 101

    So dating in the real world….honestly I find the act of dating to be one of those odd societal practices that we are just expected to adhere to.  The idea that you would go out on a date looking for a potential soulmate or life partner is just crazy to me, like why?? It takes all the fun out of it because instead of truly getting to know that person and enjoy their company, you’re just rummaging through a list of checkpoints in your head making sure they hit all the right ones.  If they do, yay they are amazing.  If not, they are horrible.  So why even go, because I guarantee 90% of the people you meet aren’t going to check those boxes.

    This is why I decided to stop dating seriously.  Years ago, I was doing what everyone does, playing by the rules, looking for the “right” guy.  Then I realized I hated the rules because not only was I putting too much pressure on the men to be perfect, I was putting too much pressure on myself.  I couldn’t even meet my own expectations, how is anyone else going to meet them?  So I just stopped.  I decided I would just go out, get to know the other person a little better, have fun, and whatever happened, happened.  It worked quite well actually.  I started having a good time and guys were constantly trying to see me.  In fact, I  haven’t had a bad date in probably 5 years, which is partially why I decided to become an escort.

    I was so good at dating that I decided to make career out of it.  I was open and I allowed people to be themselves around me without putting under a microscope and requiring them to meet a certain set of standards.  I felt that this was a unique characteristic that I had to offer to people, who are constantly trying to adhere to some specification in their lives.  At least around me, they have a chance to be free.

    That being said, I don’t think there is particular action you should or shouldn’t do on a first date.  I think you should just be yourself and be open to the endless possibilities that can happen in an evening.  Of course if you absolutely, can’t stand the other person then you can leave and you don’t have to see them again but it’s not a failure, just an experience.  Dating should be fun!!  I mean isn’t there enough pressure in life with jobs and careers without needing to go on endless interviews trying to find the perfect mate?

    On the other hand, when it comes to meeting a potential partner, for me it’s always a random event that comes out of nowhere….like I am just walking down the street and someone plummets right into me.  And I am like wtf, who are you and how can I know you better??!!   It’s kind of an intense overwhelming experience, nothing like being on a date and thinking “yay, we both like the color blue”…or something.

    When I meet someone I really like, it is kind of magical and I definitely make it known that I want to see them again.  Usually I will try to sleep with them, if they haven’t already made a move to try to sleep with me, which I think might be the opposite of what most women do.  But I like sex and I see it as the first step to a successful relationship.  Also, it’s not something I can just withhold.  Like if I am out to dinner with someone I really like, I usually can’t make it through the whole dinner without wanting to leave to go have sex with them.  So in this case, I usually prefer going out for drinks, or doing something more chill initially, so we can spend more time having sex.

    It’s natural for me to first want to experience someone sexually.  After that I will usually care about getting to know them mentally and emotionally.  But these are all steps, which I don’t necessarily think will happen just because I meet someone I like.  Sometimes the attraction is just physical, so I enjoy that part.  Sometimes it’s more and when it is, I enjoy that too.  But it is always one step at a time.  I don’t plan out our lives together just because I like them.  If it works, great.  It if doesn’t then it was just another experience.  To me that’s real, that’s life.

    When I am getting to know someone, I don’t just want to know all the characteristics that make them awesome, I want to know their failures, and weaknesses too, their pain, their anger, their heartbreak….the nitty gritty parts that people hide in their relationships for months, years, and sometimes entirely.  I want to see it all!!  If I can see all of it and love all of it, then ya that person is probably the one for me.  But until then, I am just going to have fun 🙂

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  • Internet Dating – 100% Safe Approach

    Internet Dating – 100% Safe Approach

    Online dating is a speedy and increasingly efficient way of making contacts and communicating. Although new types of fraud have appeared due to the development of Internet technology, it is still possible to meet your love online.

    Communication implies the observance of certain safety rules, regardless of whether it is conducted in real life or on the Internet. Yes, there are scammers on the World Wide Web, but you shouldn’t panic or stop using a computer. In this post, we will provide you with some recommendations that will protect you during https://lookadate.com/ adult dating and avoid tricky situations while searching for relationships online.

    #1 – Do Not Forget about Personal Safety

    When registering an acc on a dating site, check if your personal data is protected. It is better to create a new email address that does not contain your first and last name in it. Communicating with a new internet friend, do not rush to tell your last name, address, mob number, or any other sensitive info.

    #2 – Select a Reliable Dating Website

    If you want to be sure of the complete data security, then it is a way better to register on professional dating sites. As a rule, such companies are careful to protect the personal data of their users.

    #3 – Set a Secure Password

    Online stores, social networks, email, special online platforms – all these require having a secure password that no one can hack. It is not the best idea to use the identical password for all the platforms. Password security can be improved by using a mix of special symbols.

    #4 – Be Vigilant

    Before you message a lady, carefully study her profile. If you come across conflicting or unreasonable information while viewing a profile, it is better to avoid contacting this person. In case you have doubts about the seriousness and honesty of the girl or you have received a spam message from her, be sure to inform the site’s support service about the accident.

    #5 – Secure Communication

    If you have no experience, it is better to use not personal email but an internal communication system on the site. In case you want to stop the conversation, you can simply delete the user, and she will no longer be able to contact you.

    #6 – Do Not Trust Links

    While chatting online, you are expected to learn just everything about the one you chat with: what her hobbies are, what books she likes to read, what kind of music she listens to. It may happen that you receive some URLs during the correspondence. Do not rush to open all the links – they may contain viruses that are dangerous for your computer.

    We hope that the above rules will be of great value to you and hope you to meet cool persons and enjoy online dating!

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  • The Pros & Cons Of A Casual Relationship

    The Pros & Cons Of A Casual Relationship

    Casual relationships have become a normal thing in the modern dating culture. Still, just because a lot of people engage in casual relationships doesn’t mean that this kind of relationship is right for everyone. There are many things you should consider before engaging in a casual relationship. It is recommended that you weigh all the pros and cons to see whether casual relationship is the right thing for you.

    Pros

    Following are some pros of a no strings attached casual relationship:

    1. No Complications

    There is no need for complications in a casual relationship. Since there are no emotions and attachments involved, everything is much simpler. Both people in a casual relationship can relax. In fact, this is the whole point of a casual relationship. There is no strings attached so both party can enjoy the NSA fun.

    1. No Expectations

    Just as there are no complications in a casual relationship, you won’t have any expectations from your partner as well. This is one of the perks of this type of relationship because it removes the pressure of having to deliver every time. Since both partners don’t expect anything from each other except sex, people are relaxed in a casual relationship.

    1. Experimenting

    As the society has become more open towards casual hookups and relationships, more and more people want to experiment their sexuality. This includes trying out the new “moves” in bed as well as experimenting with your sexual orientation. People generally have more sex in casual relationships so they are more open to trying out new things.

    1. It Gives You Confidence

    Sex gives us the confidence we need in our lives as it is a powerful motivator. And when you feel better physically, it automatically reflects on your mental state. As a result, your confidence is boosted as you feel more comfortable with yourself.

    Cons

    Following are some cons of a casual relationship:

    1. Sometimes You Can Get Emotionally Involved

    It’s not uncommon for people to get emotionally involved when they engage in a casual relationship. When that happens, things get messy and complicated. Relationships that start this way can be potentially disastrous. That’s why setting some ground rules is essential in a casual relationship. And to avoid this from happening in the beginning, you may go to some hookup sites to meet link-minded people to go out with.

    1. It Can Be Potentially Dangerous

    You are generally more open in a casual relationship and sometimes this can be a dangerous thing. When you have just met someone, you might not know their intentions. There are dangerous people out there so you have to be extra careful. Furthermore, your partner might do you harm unintentionally by infecting you with an STD. Jealous exes or boyfriends/girlfriends are some other unpleasant situations that can arise when you engage in a casual relationship.

    1. It Might Be More Difficult to Get into a Traditional Relationship

    When you constantly maintain a casual relationship, it will become difficult for you to meet traditional and monogamous people who are looking for a meaningful relationship. You will face many difficulties when you try to settle down.

    1. No Other Benefits Apart from Sex

    The main focus of a casual relationship is just sex. In such a relationship, you won’t have anyone to bring to your friend’s wedding, share your troubles with, or dream about the future. If you want these things in your life, then know that you won’t be able to get them from your casual sex partner. And turning a casual relationship into a meaningful one rarely works out well.

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  • How Sex Toys Foster Healthier Relationships

    How Sex Toys Foster Healthier Relationships

    The use of sex toys has been on the increase for the past decade. Taboo surrounding the use of adult toys, by individuals or couples, is quickly diminishing and intimate technology is becoming widely accepted. According to studies, sexual enjoyment is enhanced when physical pleasure is stimulated.

    So, do sex toys increase satisfaction? How do they impact overall relationship for couples? New research suggests that pleasures in bed and relationships differ from one relationship to the next, and the effects largely depend on gender.

    We decided to ask some of the beautiful female Crush escorts at Eros to tell us how using sex toys helped them improve healthier relationships at home and with clientele also.

    Here are some of the positive findings.

    More and better communication: Couples with communication problems get the opportunity to talk more because they have to be open with each other regarding the type of sex toy they would prefer to use and why. Even shy couples can muster the courage to talk about their desires when, for example, they’re staring at a dildo or bed restraints. You’ll need to establish boundaries by being clear on what is acceptable and what is not; talking about everything will open up the lines of communication.

    Take the pressure off: Let’s face it; heterosexual men are under constant pressure to make their partners experience orgasms. This pressure can prevent some men from delivering expected results during sex. Also, anxiety leads to erection problems or the inability to climax. When sex toys are introduced, the pressure is relieved because both of you will be more confident in the bedroom. Women who find it hard to orgasm during intercourse will also enjoy.

    They strengthen intimacy: Sex life stagnates with the same routine, but sex toys are the gateway for further exploration into the relationship. Exploration is exciting because it provides knowledge about sexual desires and preferences. Learning more about your partner increases intimacy in the bedroom, an essential component for a happier relationship.

    They open the doors to better things: Sex toys are a gateway to an active sex life. When you and your partner decide to use sex toys to fulfill fantasies, your relationship will be revived if it was stagnating or dying. The very idea of accepting to use a sex toy indicates open-mindedness, a trait that leads to better things in relationships. Sexual evolution leads to a positive view of the relationship and a new approach to it.

    Better sex with toys: Toys always make sex better, both physically and emotionally. There is a wide variety of toys so whether you prefer to involve your partner or have them watch as you play with yourself, your sex life will be awesome. Studies concur that couples who enjoy spicier sex lives are happier in their relationships.

    Unlike the past, society is now receptive to sex and pleasure toys because the industry is now fully understood thus eliminating the shady aura that surrounded it. Walk into a sex store and get amazed by how mainstream the industry has become, it has been sprinkled with glitz. Interestingly, some toys resemble famous or original art. Open up to your partner about the idea of using sex toys to push your sex life and relationship into the next level.

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  • 5 Signs The Guy You’re Chatting With Online Wants A Real Relationship

    5 Signs The Guy You’re Chatting With Online Wants A Real Relationship

    It’s often difficult to judge someone’s motivations when your only clues are the smile in their profile picture and the stuff they’ve mentioned in their description. A cynical person might even question how recent that image is, and to what extent aspects of their background might have been exaggerated.

    Actually, telling the difference between a player and someone interested in connecting is quite straightforward. So if you are out to meet local singles using an online matching site, here are five signs the guy you’re messaging is seeking a real relationship as opposed to another in a series of casual pickups.

    Energy

    One giveaway is the level of enthusiasm he displays when communicating with you. If he is only really interested in getting to know you better because he has an ulterior motive – another one night stand before swiftly moving onto his next conquest – then he will be less likely to engage. However, if he is genuinely interested in wanting to have a relationship he will show interest in everything you have to say. He will be eager to get to know you better and uncover different aspects of your personality, quizzing you about your interests and hobbies. What if he can display knowledge in your subjects? This may well take you by surprise, but what it also indicates is he has taken the trouble to do some research after looking up the passions and leisure pursuits you have listed in your profile description.

    If he is the one who is always initiating online chats or suggesting possible dates then he is obviously interested in something a bit more than casual romance.

    Moving away from the site

    If your only conversations with this guy are in chat rooms and any hint you drop about taking things offline is rebuffed, then you have every right to question his motives. But what about when you’ve developed enough chemistry in your chats for you to get the notion you’d like to take things to the next level? If he wants a real relationship he will be likely to suggest moving things on to WhatsApp or Facebook messages, or even suggest you exchange phone numbers. Wanting to actually connect with you at this intimate level is a surefire indicator he is serious.

    Honesty

    Guys who are only after one thing are hardly likely to announce it. Neither will they feel much like lying about the hidden depths they are sorely lacking. But if he is continually going out of his way to explain his feelings to you, then there is every possibility he is being honest.

    Aspirations

    Does he ever talk about longer-term ambitions or plans? Does he subtly drop hints about what it would be like to have someone to share accommodation with? How about conversations about moving in together, or even the possibility of starting a family? If he has the courage to come out with these at the risk of appearing overly keen, he is clearly passionate about you.

    Taking it slow

    If this guy shows no immediate signs of wanting to hook up but seems content to chat with you, finding out more about you over a period of time, this is another clear example he is looking for a partnership.

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  • Top 5 Rules Of Online Dating

    Top 5 Rules Of Online Dating

    So you’ve heard all about Internet matchmaking and online hookup sites from some of your friends, it’s something you’ve long been curious in, and now you’ve selected what would be the best dating site in terms of the type of single you could be put in touch with? Before you launch into joining the millions of users who have already signed up to one of these platforms, it would be worth ensuring you are familiar with the basic rules. Your experience of online dating will be vastly improved if you follow these; and here are the top five.

    Honesty is the best policy

    While it’s one thing to make a good first impression, it’s something entirely different to make a false one. It might be tempting to fabricate a few background issues to make your profile sound more interesting, but always bear in mind the ultimate aim of online dating is for you to actually meet face-to-face. So in order to eradicate the possibility of disappointment, make sure you always tell the truth during your online exchanges. There is no point in lying as this will only lead to mistrust when the truth is finally uncovered.

    Don’t be obvious; try thinking outside the box

    When it comes to describing yourself to potential partners, there is a whole raft of subjects you could dwell on. Try not to state the obvious ones, such as how much you love music, or spending time with your friends, or traveling to exotic holiday locations. These are cliches that will have been parroted in any number of profiles. Remember, random site visitors have a low attention threshold, so it’s important to make an instant impression. Your description should focus on exciting and unusual hobbies.

    Keep those skeletons under lock and key

    Everyone has baggage; this is an aspect of human nature. But there is no point in jumping straight into the deep-end and admitting you have only just come out of rehab for an alcohol addiction, or have been through court proceedings over child custody, or have even suffered from a nervous breakdown in the recent past. Obviously, none of these issues should be hidden away indefinitely as they form an integral part of your overall personality. But initial introductions are all about getting to know each other and building a sense of chemistry over time. As you really get to know someone well, any of these stories will emerge in due course, strengthening your bond.

    Always engage with your suitors

    There is no point in treating the online environment as you would a similar situation in the off-line world. It is quite common to feel the urge to be stand-offish or to ‘play it cool’ when it comes to getting to know someone. Perhaps you might be tempted to delay that follow-on phone call after a first date, just to make sure your prospective partner gets the message they can’t take you for granted. But forget all that when it comes to online dating. This is all about immediate engagement, where you don’t have the luxury of mind games. If you play hard to get on a dating site, potential suitors will simply move on to the next profile.

    Find the balance between modesty and showing off

    The early stages of getting to know someone online can be quite a tentative experience. Ideally, you should aim to achieve a balance between modesty and blowing your own trumpet! By all means, try and demonstrate you have a spark about you, but not at the extent of coming across as someone who simply brags about themselves.

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  • 5 Things You Didn’t Know About Dating for Seniors

    5 Things You Didn’t Know About Dating for Seniors

    There are so many clichéd sayings aimed at seniors. Some are positive: ‘I bet you feel young at heart’, or ‘your age is just a number.’  But far more are dismissive. Older people are considered ‘over the hill.’ Seniors in film and television are particularly prone to the fallout of a culture focused on youth.

    But this is all rather ridiculous because one of life’s certainties is we all grow old. Another fact is seniors are looking after their health these days, living longer. They are also dating, in many cases enjoying love lives younger people would be jealous of! So here are five aspects of senior dating you might not have been aware of.

    Personality is way more important than looks

    If there’s one aspect of adult dating that illustrates the different perceptions between old and young it’s physical appearance. Youngsters will tend to rate someone’s appearance as being a priority. But do drop-dead gorgeous looks really out-rank a dull personality; or even worse, a self-obsessed one? Having more experience in life, seniors have cottoned on to the fact that beauty is only skin deep. Compatibility and shared interests and passions are what count.

    The ultimate goal isn’t a trip down the aisle

    A lot of younger people use dating apps or websites try and hook-up with someone who might become a partner. Before even embarking on this quest they might secretly be hoping to get introduced to ‘the one’; the person who will eventually accompany them down the aisle. Seniors may well be keen on getting hitched again, but if they are divorcees, or widows/widowers, with extended families, they’ll be quite happy keeping thing casual. Senior dating is far more focused on companionship than longer-term aspirations – although romance is still all-important.

    Nights out are to be savored

    Seniors might have spent their earlier days doing the same things the current younger generation love doing – partying, drinking in bars, socializing in lively nightspots. Age brings a sense of discernment. Okay, let’s call that fussiness, and why not! Some get to an age where they’d rather appreciate the finer things, like dining in sumptuous restaurants (especially if their retirement lump sum ensures they can do this as often as they want.) With so much emphasis on eating well these days, not to mention wall-to-wall TV cookery shows, senior dating often involves sharing a romantic home-cooked meal.

    It’s not necessarily monogamous

    Monogamy plays in important part in dating when you are younger and seeking a companion you can fall for, with trust a major issue when it comes to online matchmaking. This is less so for seniors. This doesn’t mean older people like playing the field, as if maturity is somehow making their hormones run wild! It’s merely an indication that older people are looking for different things in a relationship (or relationships.) Perhaps they have one companion they take out for a drink on a certain day. Another who shares their passion for ballroom dancing, and so on. When it comes to a physical relationship they will still tend to prefer monogamy. But senior dating is very much about individual needs rather than what society expects.

    The offline world is best

    For all that a lot of older people are far savvier with IT these days, there is still an element of wanting to leave noisy, 24/7 social media to the youth. Seniors may well flirt online with as much verve as someone younger, but they’ll be more likely to prefer old-fashioned face-to-face encounters. Senior dates aren’t conducted via a computer screen, they involve meeting in the real world.

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  • How Do You Get Better Sexual & Relationship Satisfaction?

    How Do You Get Better Sexual & Relationship Satisfaction?

    One night stands are wonderful, casual sex is wonderful, sex within the confines of a monogamous relationship is also wonderful. I’ll admit that my views and boundaries have become more opened as I’ve matured.

    Relationship & Sexual Dynamics

    I can only speak for myself. When it comes to a personal relationship, I prefer clear and defined roles.  I’m actually quite traditional in this aspect of my  life. I love it when a man leads and allows me to be a woman.

    Does better communication lead to better sex?

    I find sex to be most enjoyable when there is familiarity and you are comfortable enough to say what feels good (preferable not during the act) or ways to make certain things feel better. Also, when you know someone well, you often times can read the nonverbal cues.

    Other Factors Leading To Greater Sexual Satisfaction

    Other than communication and attraction?  Chemistry, confidence is very important. Being open minded is also wonderful.

    Does greater sexual satisfaction lead to more satisfied relationships?

    Absolutely.  I feel as much as we hate to admit, couples enter into relationships because of some benefit.  Usually good sexual chemistry, financial gains and shared interests. If  the sex is amazing , and there are shortcomings in other vital areas in the relationship, often times they are overlooked or seem unimportant.

    This question reminds me of my makeup artist that I’ve grown close with.  She is in a five year relationship with a man who is financially unstable and keeps their apartment very untidy.

    She complains to me about him whenever I see her.  One day I asked her why she chooses to stay with him, her response, “Can’t nobody hit it the way he does“.

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  • Role Playing: Spice Up Your Relationship With These 9 Naughty Ideas

    Role Playing: Spice Up Your Relationship With These 9 Naughty Ideas

    Every now and then things can get quite boring in a relationship. You know the feeling when you already know what will happen because it happened so many times before? Well, that’s exactly the point where relationships start to suffocate.

    If two love birds don’t recognize it and act accordingly, it may be the very end for them; let’s face it, no one likes boring stuff. This applies especially to one part of a relationship ‑ sex. Therefore, according to performance insiders, most men try and seek for a solution; like Kegel exercises for men, for an example; and they do all of that they can in order to be better in bed.

    Although it isn’t and shouldn’t be the center of a relationship, sexual intercourse is very important as it has the power to bring two people closer together, or separate them far away. Kegel exercises may help a man last longer, but even so, your sex might still be boring and feel the same; it will only last longer.

    Complications in a relationship may even lead to ED (short for erectile dysfunction). To make things worse, according to Consumer Health Digest, this may trigger all of the erectile dysfunction types. And you know what? ED is a man’s worst enemy; his scarecrow. If you want to know why all that you need to do is check this medical research (one of many) and realize how frequent and devastating ED really is.

    So, what can you do to avoid getting dumped, refresh your relationship and avoid ED (at least avoid this possibility)? Luckily for you, this article will give you some ideas; 9 of them, to be precise.

    9 Naughty Ideas that Will Boost Your Relationship

    If your sex life became dull, maybe all that you need to do is change one aspect of it ‑ foreplay. If didn’t practice foreplay before, you absolutely must include it to your “game”. As we can see from this research, both men and women love and need foreplay in order to get them into the right mood for sexual intercourse.

    So, here are top 9 things you have to try in order to step up your foreplay game! Let’s check them out.

    1. New Sex Positions

    Okay, seriously now, if you haven’t experimented with your partner (of course, this applies to those of you who are with your partners for a long period of time), what are you waiting for?!

    You can’t possibly expect your partner to feel satisfied only with one or two poses each and every time you have sex. On top of that, YOU will feel better if you try something new out as well.

    What you can do is tease the pose before sex. Try something similar in a “dry hump” way. So yes, the key here is ‑ be open-minded and experiment.

    1. Dress up

    Another way to bring some heat to your sex life is the popular “cosplay”. You can visit a Sex Shop near you or simply be creative and try something on. You can also get into roles of your characters.

    For an example, she can be a teacher and you can be a student; or vise versa. As you can see, you have to be creative for this one as well.

    It wouldn’t be a bad idea to talk to your loved one about what or who she/him wants to see you dress up as.

    1. Talk During Sex

    Forget about feeling embarrassed! This one needs you to let yourself go and feel for once, not think!

    What is very important in sex is the talk; not just the touch. It is a known fact that men love when women talk to them during sex (about how good it is or something similar; definitely not the negative talk, of course). So, it would be good to “sweet talk” yourselves during your foreplay.

    Of course, you can and should do it while you are having sex as well.

    1. Massage Each Other

    Massages are excellent ways of relaxing the mind and the body. That’s what sex stands for as well, right?

    So, why not mix the two. As we can learn from this medical research, massages have their own way of dealing with our psyche and relaxing us (something that feels like meditation).

    A fine way of spicing things up between you two is the Nuru massage. The Nuru massage is different from the rest, as you two will be massaging one another at the same time. Did I mention that you would be doing that completely naked on a mattress, and covered in special oils? Oh well…

    1. Buy Beverages

    One of the best ways to get your blood pumping is to buy some alcohol and food before you have sex. Make a nice atmosphere, drink a few glasses of vine, for an example, and then proceed to the sack.

    1. Send Sexy Messages 

    Before you actually meet up and jump “to it”, try sending some sexy messages or sexy calls. This will heat the moment up even more and make both of you excited for the real deal.

    1. Decorate your “place of wonder”

    This one goes extremely well with number 6 from the list. To be honest, everything goes with everything, but make sure not to mix it up too much!

    Think about what your partner would like (or what both of you would like), where your partner wants to go and try and mimic that place by decorating your room.

    1. Watch sex before actual sex and buy some props before sex

    You can watch a movie that has sexual scenes in it, or simply watch porn together. This way both of you will be heated up and ready for the main dish.

    I know that visiting a sex shop may be difficult and embarrassing in most cases, but this is serious; you want to save your relationship and bring something fresh to it. It would be good to talk to your partner about what he/she wants and isn’t afraid to use.

    1. Play with your partner’s body

    Think of this as of art. Don’t just meet up to have sex. Try and appreciate your partner and please his/her body. If you focus on the “sweet” spots and take some time for that before sex, the main event will look way better.

    The Final Verdict

    This would be it for this article. Now that you have a general idea about what to do, well, go for it!

    Like I have said, you can mix things up (not more than three)! The whole “science” behind this lays in your imagination. Figure out what your partner likes and lusts for and try to give that to him or her.

    Some points from this list require mutual trust and communication, so don’t rush into all of them without talking about them with your partner. Good luck!

    References:

    https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1071543/

    Kegel Exercises For Men: How Kegel Exercises Will Transform Your Sex Life?

    Married Sex: 38 Sex Ideas & Naughty Tips to Spice It Up & Stay Passionate

    https://www.consumerhealthdigest.com/male-sexual-health/erectile-dysfunction-types.html

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  • 5 Online Dating Tips You Need To Know For Your Profile Page

    5 Online Dating Tips You Need To Know For Your Profile Page

    1. Have a profile taken outdoors

    Inner beauty counts. But, in the sphere of online dating, your profile picture is your hook. It is the first thing a person notices when he/she is at your profile page. That is why you should make sure your profile picture has a positive image.

    Studies from Zoosk found that women responded 19% more to men with profile pictures taken outdoors. The effect of natural sunlight is that it makes people look both uplifted and happier. This gives people the first impression that you are adventurous with the increased happiness experienced by outdoorsy people.

    Play up your adventurous and positive side by taking pictures outdoors and at foreign places such as during holidays, to show how worldly you really are.

    2. Take full body shots, not selfies

    Hoping to vie for attention through your profile picture? Just because celebrities are jumping shamelessly on the “Selfie” bandwagon, should you?

    Selfie is an online dating no-no. According to Zoosk, Selfies have reportedly decreased messages received by 8%. Instead, a full body picture would increase messages received by a tremendous 203%!

    Selfies would cause potential matches to be suspicious of what you are trying to hide since selfies don’t show your whole body and you might have only posted images of your “best-looking” picture of your face. It may also give the impression that you are narcissistic or have no friends.

    Selfies may be a turn off where it gets people wondering how long one would spent in their room taking shots that didn’t make the cut.

    So don’t be shy, ask a friend to take for you. If you worry that your friend isn’t that great of a photographer, just take a full body shot and do a bit of cropping later.

    Be candid, open and confident!

    Ditch the selfie, post a real photo to show the real you!

    3. Take solo pictures, not with friends (or your pet)

    Males who take photos with only them in it received 42% more messages than those who post with friends, and, astonishingly, 53% more than those who post with pets!

    If you post a profile picture with several people, it may be difficult to tell which one is you and make the other party feel that you’re trying to hide what you really look like. This makes you seem less open, truthful and authentic. And, that is not what you want to make the other party that you may potentially meet to feel about you.

    Moreover, if you post a picture with your pet, you may think that it gives a cute and caring image to yourself. However, others would think that you might seem a little obsessed. After all, you are promoting yourself and that people want to get to know you, and not your pet. So, it should not be the very first thing someone knows about you. (Unless you are looking for a pet-sitter.)

    Visit places, do activities, and start taking pictures!

    4. Smile and look casual

    Smiling makes you instantly more attractive. A poll in my work generated that at least 40% of the participants think that the most attractive factor of a person is a great smile.

    Smiles give others the impression that you’re a happy, casual, relaxed and positive person. And that, are qualities that people want in their partners.

    Rather than showing your serious face, which may make you seem mundane and too serious in life, relax and, showcase your most genuine smile to the world.

    Adding to the point of being casual, you should also dress casually.

    No, you don’t wear that costume or lustrous tuxedo on a daily basis. When you’re clearly dressed up, you aren’t showing the real you. That is not what your potential date wants to see when he/she is earnestly considering you. He/she is looking for an everyday partner, and hence, wants to see what you are like everyday. (Of course, that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t look nice.)

    You need him/her to trust you and feel your authenticity.

    Go on, and show the real you.

    5. Descriptors are important

    Don’t describe yourself the same way as the majority in the online dating community. The most used and abused descriptor in online dating profiles for 2014 was “laid-back”. Common words like that tend to lose its punch because everyone’s using it. It won’t make you stand out. If you’re using the word “laid-back”, make sure it is an honest descriptor and it shouldn’t be the only word that describes you.

    Your choice of words is crucial. You have to show value and balance between your strength and being nice, because being too nice may let others take granted of you.

    Come up with something unique to describe yourself, by talking about your interest or things that make you different from everyone else. It is okay to narrow into specifics, because it’s better when the other party likes the things about you that you like about yourself.

    So, choose your descriptors wisely, and differently.

    If you need someone to help you audit or increase value of your profile page, feel free to write in to me- I’d be glad to help!

    Cindy Leong – A dating and relationship coach who has helped many youths and professionals in their journey through relationship searching and building. Cindy is a direct and energetic individual, who aims to bring out the best in everyone she meets. Her extensive coaching and dating experience has helped her coach men to find their social standing in the society. Get in touch with Cindy via email at coffee@relationshipstudio.sg

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