Tag: Pornography Feature 2014

Interview with Jessica Grabbit, the adult film starlette

SimplySxy interviews Jessica Grabbit, as she shares her favourite sexual fantasy and a tip for ladies to enjoy giving oral sex.

SimplySxy: What is your personal view on pornography?

Jessica Grabbit: I think pornography is very creative. It combines acting and true to life raw human sexual emotions, making it sinfully delightful to watch and make . I love it. It is a definite necessary evil so to speak.

SimplySxy: With the pornography very easily accessible on the internet, do you think anything should be done to control youths and children from having access to it?

Jessica: Yes I do. Stricter laws for people who distribute, advertise, or stream it. We are a need to know society but some things need to be known at certain ages and not before then. Did any of you walk in on your parents while they were humping…case in point 🙂

SimplySxy: How do you think pornography can be useful and healthy in a relationship?

Jessica: It can keep it very spicy. I have fans who love to tell me how they f**k, and they f**k often, and porn is usually the common denominator whether they were just chillng out watching and got frisky…or they wanted to act out the scenes… Porn is good for any relationship as long as it established where porn belongs in that relationship.

SimplySxy: Please share with us one tip for ladies to enjoy giving oral sex?

Jessica: Relax. Breath and drink water before you do it.

SimplySxy: Where is the craziest place you have ever had sex that was nothing to do with filming?

Jessica: A parking garage. We were super horny for each other. So he found a parking garage and f**ked me every which way but loose. To this day I can’t drive in a parking garage without my pussy getting wet wet wet!!!

SimplySxy: Which do you think is the sexiest part of your body?

Jessica: The brain. I think the sexiest thing someone can do for a person is to inspire them to think a thought they never thought was possible.

SimplySxy: What is your favourite sex position in bed?

Jessica: I like to ride the dick. I’m a definite cowgirl and reverse cowgirl kinda chick .

SimplySxy: Share with us one secret to spice it up in bed with a lover?

Jessica: Never forget why you mad him/her your lover in the first place. Make it more than just a sexual connection. Make it an emotional one as well. Give and receive equally. It’s the little things really that keep sex spicy.

SimplySxy: What defines a sexy woman according to you?

Jessica: A confident, motivated, and smart woman.

SimplySxy: What is your favourite sexual fantasy?

Jessica: Hands down two guys, one black, one white threesome. Double penetration. ..ass spanking. ..hard f**king mmmmmmm.. can’t wait to turn that one into a reality.

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May 12, 2014
Hey Honey, Let’s Talk About Porn.

As has been discussed before on this site, a lot of people watch porn. Specifically, a lot of people watch porn by themselves. Porn consumption is generally a private practice, one that is not usually discussed with other people—even (or maybe especially not with) our significant others.

Searching online, you will find a lot of commentary from relationship experts arguing about whether the use of pornography is good or bad for a relationship. Some argue that it can create distrust and insecurity in a relationship while others suggest that it can help build intimacy and “spice up” a couple’s sex life. I would argue that whatever your personal porn habits are, it is worthwhile to have an open, honest conversation about it with your partner (or partners) as a way to communicate your fantasies and curiosities as well as your concerns and insecurities.

One commonly held belief that often causes discord in couples concerning porn is that “what my partner watches in porn is what they want in real life.” This is absolutely not the case. Sure, a person may see something in porn that they want to try or they may search for something that they fantasize about doing in real life, but just because they are sexually aroused by an image or scene does not mean they desire to act it out. For example, some straight women like to watch lesbian porn but have little or no desire to be with a woman in real life. Similarly, straight men may watch gay male fellatio porn but have no desire to re-enact that situation. This is difficult for people (especially partners of the person watching the porn) to accept or understand. But sexual arousal is complex and what we fantasize about, what we masturbate to, and what we desire in real life with a partner are often different.

Many people who have had only limited exposure to porn tend to think that all of it features unrealistic acts or exaggerated bodies with silicone and fake tans galore. And while there is a ton of that out there, a lot of porn produced today features different body types, ethnicities, ages, genders, and pairings of sexual partners. There has also been a huge rise in “amateur porn”, or porn that is uploaded to the Internet by “regular people” who look like you and me. In fact, Cindy Gallop, an entrepreneur, consultant and speaker, created a website called MakeLoveNotPorn.com that hosts amateur porn video submissions. This is a great resource for individuals and couples who may find the aforementioned “traditional porn” intimidating or unappealing. Additionally, this new era of porn does not only feature man/woman, woman/woman, and man/man run-of-the-mill sex. Fetish sites and speciality porn are also accessible by searching for literally any type of porn you can think of in Google search. The Center for Sexual Health and Pleasure’s website where Clinical Sexologist and AASECT certified Sexuality Educator Megan Andelloux answers the question, “Where Do I Find Ethical Porn?” is another avenue for finding particular sites and to learn about how to search for “ethically-made porn,” or porn that is made, produced, and marketed with transparency of who benefits from any revenue that results in its distribution and which employs willing, informed performers who are treated ethically (definitions of “ethical porn” vary, but this is my understanding of what it should entail).

All of that said, pornography use does not interest everyone. Some people are adamantly against it; whether because of the traditionally misogynistic practices and content of some parts of the industry or their own moral beliefs regarding sex and masturbation, and some people prefer other methods of sexual stimulation. In the context of a relationship, it is important to respect your partner’s preference and maintain an open dialogue with compromise and negotiation when needed. The necessary step is to have the conversation.

Some people would like to watch porn with their partner, but are nervous to bring it up. Some prefer to keep their porn-watching a solo activity, but might be curious about what their partner is watching. Either way, having an open, honest conversation about porn is not easy for many people. It requires being vulnerable and open to judgement by discussing and admitting to certain sexual turn-ons and practices that may have not come up before in the relationship. For example, in a male-female relationship, the female might assume her male partner has watched or currently watches porn because it is generally accepted that men watch porn, but may be nervous to talk about her own porn habits for fear of how she might be viewed. The male partner might be interested in watching porn with his female partner, but doesn’t want her to think he prefers porn to having sex with her and so avoids the conversation all together. There is a common belief that women do not like or watch porn and men who watch porn are sexually unsatisfied or have some kind of addiction. This is why it is important to initiate a conversation with honesty, but to also remain curious and non-judgemental so each partner can feel more comfortable disclosing the truth about their porn habits. While the first couple of conversations might feel awkward, embracing the topic can lead to better understanding and increased intimacy. Once these conversations become more comfortable, a couple may decide they want to watch porn together, which, for some couples, can open up a new and exciting avenue for intimacy and sexual exploration.

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May 12, 2014
OC MILF – Joclyn Stone

As part of the Pornography special feature, SimplySxy takes this opportunity for an interview with Joclyn Stone, the OC MILF from California. Inside Joclyn shares a tip to hook up with MILFs and explains the meaning of “dick drunk“.

SimplySxy: What are your favourite scenes to shoot?

Joclyn Stone: All of them, I love every scene. I do each scene like I will never have sex again, they are all special and I adore each person, each set, the energy the crew brings to the scene….each experience as an individual is awesome! So…… I hope that explains my strange way of thinking 😉

SimplySxy: In some quarters, pornography has been blamed for the lack of sex in relationships. Do you agree on this?

Joclyn: I am answering in two parts, hang in there…..

Yes I do believe that porn can be a true cock block. Since I do so much fetish filming, I see that men and women alike will hide their true desires in fear that they will be judged. So they get comfortable with hiding what they truly like and alienate their significant others.

When it comes to a speedy way of a “quick cum or jerkoff session” you tend to lose the foreplay concept, the closeness, the fact that cumming is only the “grand finale“. Don’t lose touch by the close up of the pussy on the computer or iPad, you may rewrite your brain by accident and it is hard to cum back from.

SimplySxy: Can you share with us one funny/awkward/embarrassing moment that have happened on set?

Joclyn: I get “dick drunk“, when I get into the scene, what happens is my brain shuts down and I am only into that person, all communication goes out the door and I am as dumb as a rock and just a f**k monster. I have fallen off a bed trying to talk to a director and my favourite word when they make me stop f**king is, “why” and when they tell the guy it is time for the pop shot, I usually say “already“. Dick drunk is very embarrassing ;-/

SimplySxy: Is there any particular preparation required for a gangbang scene as compared to say a mother-daughter scene?

Joclyn: I prep my body the same for every scene. But with a gang bang (it) is fun because they are all manhandling me, it is less work if you think about it… Lol yes, cheating, I know.

SimplySxy: In your opinion, what is the most important trait one must have to succeed in the porn industry?

Joclyn: It is a f**king business not a dating service. Ooh, and if you aren’t getting paid keep your pants on. Drugs and alcohol are not something you should need to do your job. If you need them, you are in the wrong business.

SimplySxy: For all MILF fans out there. Let us in on some secrets to hook up with one.

Joclyn: Manners and communication.

“Aaa ah, mami” and I’d hit that, are not a pick up lines they are requests to be humiliated in public. Do not tell a mature woman you know how to get her off, or what she needs, she will destroy you while she bakes cookies. You mind your manners and she will let you in her panties. A humble man is sexy. Use your brain and you will get what you are wishing for.

SimplySxy: Which do you prefer? Anal, vaginal or oral?

Joclyn: Vaginal, I don’t do anal, and I don’t deep throat (all though I love sucking cock) so since I have control over my pussy muscles it is my most favourite toy ever 😉

SimplySxy: Have you ever had sex outdoors? Were you caught in the act?

Joclyn: At this point I think I have has sex everywhere. No, I do not ever have sex where I can get caught because doing porn, well indecent exposure would not be a conversation I would like to have in a court of law … Lol

SimplySxy: What do you think men should do more to ensure their loves are satisfied in bed?

Joclyn: Ask, and if she cannot communicate clearly, watch a little porn with her and see what she likes and try it. Have her look stuff up and choose what she wants to try. I cannot say communication more. It is key to all.

SimplySxy: Allow our imagination to run wild. Do you have any sexual fantasy that has not yet been fulfilled?

Joclyn: No I don’t think so, I do want to have a private party dungeon in Vegas, that would be a huge fantasy of mine 😉

A message from you to all your fans and the SimplySxy readers:

Thank you fans, fans that have become friends by coming to live events, and newbies who will be googling my 42″ ass when they are done reading this. I am nothing without you and I will never forget that. Thank you!!!

Joclynstone.com

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May 11, 2014
Une Femme POV on Pornography

Watching Pornography from a Personal as well as a Woman’s Point of View

“Wow, you seem really cranky,” my friend Kristina told me.

We were in the middle of the workday, working as full-time tellers at a bank that has now been taken over by a larger bank.

Kristina handed me a slip of paper. www.redtube.com was written on it.

“When you get home, go to this website. Make sure you’re alone.”

The other tellers burst into laughter and chimed in with their agreement that after visiting this website, I wouldn’t feel so cranky.

They wouldn’t tell me what was so funny.

I didn’t get the chance to check the site for a few days. It was summer then, and I was crashing on my mom’s couch while I was home from college, so I didn’t exactly have regular moments alone.

Meanwhile Kristina asked me about the site every day—while always cautioning me to make sure to check it while I was alone.

Finally, my mom and her boyfriend were out, and my brother, his girlfriend, and their son were out. It was just me, so I booted up my laptop and typed in the site.

Porn.

I laughed. “This will put you in a better mood,” she had told me.

Of course it was porn.

This was about five years ago.

I saved that site, clicking through it periodically when I needed a visual to accompany my vibrator. I know they say men are the visual creatures, but I always came much harder and faster when watching porn.

Although red tube wasn’t necessarily to my specific taste—I tend to prefer the soft-core, HBO and Cinemax late-night style of soft-lighting, moaning, and mild nudity — it got the job done, and it gave me an outlet to explore other aspects of my sexuality.

Now I live in Korea, where porn is generally blocked, and a lesbian friend of mine here told me that I am one of the straightest women she knows. I have had my experiences of kissing women, but she’s right in that I’ve never had sex with a woman or taken any of the kissing past the make-out stage.

I do, however, think the female body is attractive as hell and when I watch porn, I get to explore that attraction in a way that I feel is safe and comfortable for me.

I’ve been watching porn on-and-off since my brother and I first found a pornographic video that our parents accidentally left in the VCR. We popped it in, turned it on, and surprise surprise: it was a woman getting f**ked from behind while sucking her own nipple.

For years after this tape had been re-hidden, then taken away altogether, I measured my breast growth not by cup-size—but by whether they were big enough to reach my own mouth. I rejoiced when they finally were.

After that video disappeared, I began to watch late night soft-core porn like Real Sex. As an adolescent with no experience, I found these shows to be intensely erotic, stimulating a sexual desire in me that was almost painful.

Although I was young when watching these videos, I was not so impressionable that they made me want to actually go through with having sex. Instead, they answered questions for me that I couldn’t ask my parents—or articulate at all. They helped me to understand the roots of where my more strange feelings were coming from and they taught me how to masturbate better.

I’m not going to say that if I had a young adolescent daughter I’d be pleased with her watching porn, but I definitely think moderate porn-watching is a healthy, normal thing.

That is, until I see a close-up of an actress’s vagina and she doesn’t look wet — and then I feel like I’m actively participating in the subjugation of some poor woman who is maybe unwillingly acting as a sex worker.

My feelings toward porn are somewhat conflicted.

When I used to go to church, the pastor would regularly name “watching pornography” in his list of modern-day sins a man (nearly always a man) could find himself caught up in.

I never understood this. I’ve never thought there was any harm in watching a little porn—rather, I’ve always viewed it as a healthy and private way to explore one’s sexuality, fantasies, and boundaries—knowledge of which is necessary in order to have truly satisfying sex.

Oh the other hand, though, when watching some of the cheaper, pirated porn sites, I begin to wonder how many of the women in these flicks are victims of sex trafficking, especially when they look too young or don’t seem to be enjoying the sex.

Then I turn it off and am turned off as I ponder whether I have a moral responsibility beyond simply not consuming these questionable products.

That’s why I’m happy now to hear about more instances of independent porn made by women for women. I am excited to support pornography that focuses on showing the actresses experiencing intense pleasure and climaxing, and takes sexuality outside of the realm of male-dominated fantasy. For a woman like me, this is probably the healthiest and most satisfying pornography of all.

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May 11, 2014
Kelli Lox, 2014 AVN & XBIZ Award nominee, speaks on SimplySxy

Kelli Lox is a transsexual stripper, actress, model, and musician living in San Francisco, California. During her first year in the adult industry, Kelli has amassed more than 16 thousand followers on Twitter, was nominated for both AVN and XBIZ TS Performer of the Year, and has starred in several award-winning DVD’s including Rogue Adventures 38 and America’s Next Top Tranny 17. She loves travelling, hanging out with friends, and drinking tea. You can find her website at kellilox.com (nsfw).

SimplySxy: Has the internet made the adult industry more difficult and competitive?

Kelli Lox: I have only been in the adult industry recently, so I’m not sure what it was like before the internet came along and made it so easy for people to share content for free. But based on what I hear from others, it made a huge impact. Sometimes I hear some photographers lament the “old days, when they had budgets.” So I guess it made lots of studios rethink the way they invested in production and distribution. Today, you can make cheap porn cheaply if you have quality equipment and editing skills, but it would be difficult to sell it on your own. These big studios and their online affiliates are able to profit more than once from the same content using site membership strategies, conversion through various formats, and access to different or foreign markets. They have invested in the ability to sell the same content multiple times. An interesting side question is the reverse: “How has the adult industry shaped today’s internet?”

SimplySxy: What are some of the challenges you faced when you started out in the industry?

Kelli: When you’re just starting out, there’s a lot of pressure because it’s the only time you’ll ever be NEW. For example, I wanted my own membership site, yet I was not willing to commit the time and energy required to make that work successfully. I didn’t want to be constantly obligated to produce new content for members. This has always been just a hobby for me, and I was worried that taking it seriously could be dangerous. I realized that, at that time, I just wanted to be talent. So I turned down the offer to get my own membership site. Instead, to this day, I have a blog that simply contains links for fans to join all of the sites I’m on. If someone joins using one of my links, that site and I will then share that profit. I also make money by starring in shoots and from dancing at Divas, the transsexual strip club here in San Francisco. So it feels like I determined the entire course of my porn career with a few fast decisions in those first few months back when I was a fresh face.

SimplySxy: Can you share with us one funny/awkward/embarrassing moment that have happened on set?

Kelli: I guess the funniest thing for me was when I was f**king genetic girls for Kink’s TS Pussyhunters. When I’d get on top, like missionary, and was pumping and pounding really hard, getting ready to come, I would start to sweat and drops of sweat would start to drip from my face. The girls are used to avoiding come getting in their eyes – but avoiding falling drops of sweat is a different art. Hahaha they sting when they get in your eyes so these girls are still acting, making sexy faces and noises, etc, but very intently avoiding the sweat droplets. I laugh about it just remembering it.

SimplySxy: Which is your favourite porn scene to shoot?

Kelli: I have done solo scenes, scenes with guys, and scenes with girls. I enjoy all of them. I have found that the chemistry between cameraman, director, talent, etc is the most important thing. It doesn’t really matter which type of shoot it is. Sometimes things click and other times everything seems a bit forced. My favourite scenes are the ones where there is an interesting twist or there are actual lines and acting involved.

SimplySxy: Were you nervous before your first ever shoot?

Kelli: Before my first porn shoot I was extremely nervous! Like, trembling! The nervousness lasted until I had done maybe three shoots, and then it wasn’t so nerve-wracking anymore. After that, the thrill isn’t “omg i’m in a porn shoot!!” – it evolves to “wow I have fans and great working relationships with these studios and other talent!”

SimplySxy: Share with us your favourite sexual fantasy

Kelli: I like sex in groups, I like sex in front of people, I like sex with strangers, I like sex with friends. I like urgent sex, I like to be tied up, I like sex that pushes someone’s boundaries. My fantasy continues to be ways in which all of these things happen in different combinations or at the same time.

SimplySxy: Do you have a sex toy you can’t do without?

Kelli: Not really. I used to get attached to various dildos, but now I’m like meh, I can get another one. I really like lingerie, though. In some cases, lingerie or certain clothing items are just as good as sex toys.

SimplySxy: Is there anything you will do in bed but not on a film set?

Kelli: I don’t like topping guys, and have told studios that I don’t do that. This “one thing I won’t do” has caused me to lose some work, but that’s the game we are all playing in life, right? Where do you draw the lines and when it is worth it vs not worth it to cross them?

SimplySxy: What is your all time favourite sex position?

Kelli: Doggy style, hands down. I should say palms down so that you don’t think I’m using a figure of speech here. Hahaha I like all positions and would like to try more.

SimplySxy: Share with our readers and your fans something they do not know about you?

Kelli: I’m multidimensional and kaleidoscopic.

A message from you to all your fans and the SimplySxy readers:

Thank you to all my current and future fans! My first year in the porn industry was a wild ride and you made it special. Make sure you’re following me on twitter ( www.twitter.com/kellilox ) and i hope this year brings us even more awesomeness. To all the SimplySxy readers out there: well, simply put, stay sexy. kisses!!! xoxo ~kelli

Images courtesy of Kelli Lox

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May 10, 2014
Un Homme POV on Pornography

Last month I was visiting a friend in California and found his coffee table littered with real estate magazines and property brochures. I thought this was odd as he’d just bought his house a year ago and seemed pretty happy with it. “Oh, I’m not actually looking to buy anything right now,” he said. “But I developed a passion for this stuff when I was house hunting. I’m still curious, and I find it entertaining. I also wish I could own some of these houses someday, and when I look at them, part of me feels that I do.”

Curiosity. Entertainment. Wish fulfilment. My mind went straight to why myself and millions of men watch porn. And the more I thought about it, the more I realised that porn is much more than a man and a woman going skin-on-skin. No pun intended, it goes much deeper.

Now don’t get me wrong: I’m not saying that property and porn are the same thing. They’re not —but when money’s not involved, the motivations behind following real estate, cars, or porn are the same. And they’re human, healthy, and masculine.

The element of curiosity takes me back to the age of 12 when I was about to watch my first porn film, and inserting a tape into the VCR while hoping not to get caught. I remember the sense of mystery as I was about to see people having sex, for the first time in my life. I also remember the first scene, involving two bob haircut Japanese lesbians— twins, if I recall correctly—launching immediately into a 69. This was certainly an interesting first lesson!

If it sounds entertaining, that’s because it is, especially as the “dialogue” commenced with, “How about some pussy, bitch?” But porn is of course much more than comedy, otherwise we’d simply watch The Naked Gun or The Hangover. On top of the fact that I barely knew what a lesbian was at that time and getting both an education and a hard-on, I was being entertained; and in a way other types of movies couldn’t do. For, pornography speaks to the condition of being a man in ways that other genres of film simply cannot. It captures a fundamental aspect of manhood and of thinking like a man. And it reminds us that there’s nothing wrong with thinking about sex, or with wanting to have it. The desires involved are fully and completely human, as with my friend from Cali and his property mags.

As I watched more porn over the years, I also came to see that these movies supplied me with the fulfilment of fantasies and also of human drives. Whether we are single or attached, monogamous or promiscuous, men need to feel, even only virtually, the spice of different sexual partners in their lives. Call it anthropological, biological, or what you will: men are programmed to crave sexual variety, and porn offers us a safe, consequence-free way of doing so. The wish fulfilment merges with entertainment and curiosity. Will the girl have big tits or just perky ones? Will her pussy be totally shaved, in a landing strip, or au naturel? (I prefer the first). Will she have a sexy accent? Will her hair be long or in a bob, like the Japanese lesbians who popped my porn cherry? We can explore these varieties as much as we want, and be entertained and fulfilled, while satisfying our curiosity over and over.

So the next time someone gives you grief for watching porn, remind them that their interest in property, cars, or sports isn’t really any different. Porn is just another way of celebrating being human—and of simply being a man.

Andrew Slade is a thirty-something expat who divides his time between China and SouthEast Asia and the West. He’s a man’s man who generally knows what he wants, though he doesn’t mind being surprised. When not working, he enjoys a good glass of whisky and the company of a lady of interest.

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May 10, 2014
Pornstar from Philippines, May Ling Su!

May Ling Su is a performer/producer of erotica and pornography. She polarized audiences with her performance with the notorious Max Hardcore, followed by a gallery exhibit of menstrual blood art. Her portraits by celebrity photographer Timothy Greenfield-Sanders are in the book, “XXX: 30 Porn Star Portraits” and exhibited in fine galleries worldwide. She also appeared on “Thinking XXX,” an HBO documentary on the making of the book. She was nominated for the Feminist Porn Award. A short documentary film about her work was aired on the award-winning Dutch show Metropolis TV. Anointed as a Pornsaint in Italy, artists painted her portraits and exhibited in Amsterdam and Zurich. New York pop artist Sucklord created a Scratch ‘n Sniff Pussy May Ling Su trading card in his Suckpax 3 collection. This year she began producing sexy audio books available on iTunes and Amazon. She blogs at MayLingSu.com and tweets @maylingsu.

SimplySxy: What is your personal view on pornography?

May Ling Su: Pornography can be a great way to discover one’s sexuality. Sex ed is important, but it can be a very dry way of presenting something that is beyond physiological. Porn can show us what excites us, peak our curiosity, let us know we’re not alone if our interests are beyond what’s typical, present ideas for adding spice to a relationship. On the flip side it can also show us what repels us, which is just as important to know as what attracts us.

SimplySxy: What were some of the challenges which you faced when you started out in the industry?

May: I am an independent pornographer. The challenge of creating a viable business while being true to myself was there when I started out in the industry, and remains throughout all the time I’ve spent in it. My husband and I started making porn when we were young newlyweds, now we’re juggling parenthood with the need to maintain the spark that is vital to keeping a relationship together. Our needs have changed. But the challenge is the same: how to be true to ourselves and still provide our audience with porn that they love.

SimplySxy: What are your views regarding pornography addiction?

May: Pornography addiction is no different from any addiction. If your real life is suffering from your use of it, you’ve got a problem. If you use it to make your life better, perhaps as a way to communicate with your partner, then you are mastering a powerful tool.

SimplySxy: Please share with us one tip for ladies to enjoy anal sex?

May: Just one? I’ve got a few: First, prepare for it. If you’re clean down there, you’ll feel more confident sharing it with your partner. Second, lube well. I personally prefer natural over synthetic bottled lube. Saliva is awesome, but if you must, try organic extra virgin coconut oil. You can get that at your local health food store. It melts to the touch and smells fantastic. Third, relax. I realize it’s easier said than done, but it’s really important not to tense up down there. Fourth, take care of yourself after. Take a warm bath. Pamper yourself. Drink lots of water.

SimplySxy: What is the ultimate role play for you?

May: I like playing the bad girl. I’m such a good girl in real life. I’m really responsible and mindful. Always have been. So in sex play I like going against my usual type. I love being the naughtiest and dirtiest, whether it’s the naughty schoolgirl who’s being punished or the nasty siren leading a good man astray.

SimplySxy: Which do you think is the sexiest part of a men’s body?

May: The sexiest part of a man’s body is his brain. I love smart men. I love geeky men. I love men who have a wicked sense of humor.

SimplySxy: What is your favourite sex toy?

May: I used to have a little clown vibe, and it came with a red fabric hat. Had it forever, took it with me everywhere. It died just recently. I’ve been trying different toys, but I haven’t found anything as good. I miss that little clown.

SimplySxy: Share with us one secret to spice it up in bed with a lover?

May: No matter what your preferences are, whether you’re vanilla or kinky, one thing you can do to heat things up really quickly is talk dirty. You could be in the dark, naked under the sheets but some dirty talk can elevate the moment into a fantasy. Accents are fun, and if you speak a different language, that can be very sexy as well.

SimplySxy: What defines a sexy man according to you?

May: A sexy man is one who uses everything in his power to seduce. He takes care of his body, and makes the most of what he’s got. He uses the power of words to captivate, whether it’s spoken, or sent by email, text, handwritten notes. And presents! Everyone likes presents! A sexy man is devoted to sharing pleasure and mischief with his partner.

SimplySxy: In your opinion, what can a guy do to give a girl a mind-blowing orgasm?

May: I think there is too much pressure on the orgasm. So many rules, tips and how-to’s. 10 Ways to Give a Girl a Mind-Blowing Orgasm, as if just going through the checklist would guarantee one. We’ve forgotten that sex play is PLAY. My advice is just play! Discover each other, see what makes the other feel good, get out your toys, laugh at mistakes, push the envelope, surprise each other, be bad. At the end of it the question shouldn’t be, did you come? It should be, did you have fun?

A message from you to all your fans and the SimplySxy readers:

Thank you for having me on SimplySxy. If I’ve inspired some kind of naughty fun in you, I’d love to read about it. Comment below. If it’s too naughty, comment at my blog MayLingSu.com (NSFW). You can also connect with me @maylingsu on twitter and instagram; or look up May Ling Su on Facebook and G+. See you soon!

Love, Lust and Liberty,
May Ling Su
http://www.maylingsu.com

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May 9, 2014
Erika Icon of The Rub PR

Short Bio description of yourself and The Rub PR:

Born in NYC and with an East Coast attitude to match, Erika Icon is one of the feistiest women in the Adult Industry. With almost nine years in the industry under her belt working in many facets of the industry including retail buyer, writer, sex advice columnist, DVD, website and toy reviewer, and publicist, Icon has forged many relationships with performers, studio owners, sales personnel, distributors and magazines that have helped her promote her clients and their brands effectively and bring them into the mainstream market. In 2008, Icon started her own PR firm, The Rub, THE full-service adult PR agency that works with the top studios and performers. Since then, she has worked with new and established talent, along with some of the best adult studios and companies in the industry. In 2011, she was XBIZ’s WIA (Woman in Adult) for the month of November and has garnered three nominations from the Fame Registry for Publicist of the Year, along with a 2014 XBIZ Awards nomination for Marketing Campaign of the Year for her work on Sparks Entertainment’s “The Vampire Mistress”.

SimplySxy: As the porn industry is very competitive, what are some traits or personality types that suit and are able to survive in it?

Erika Icon: Every week hundreds of girls enter the porn industry. Even though the average life span of a porn starlet is six months, girls can persevere with drive, talent and the right agents and publicists behind them. Being hot isn’t enough, you also need to be professional, meaning arriving on time and treating everyone on set with respect.

SimplySxy: For an aspiring or current porn star, what is the attraction of The Rub PR which will get them to hire your company?

Erika: Many companies make promises they can’t and/or don’t intend to keep. We don’t overpromise, but we definitely over deliver. We offer the usual interviews and press releases, but we also offer our clients way more services that other PR firms at a very affordable price, whether they’re a performer or company. For example, for the girls, we find them a place to sign at tradeshows, book feature dancing, and get them mainstream work. Most of our clients are attained from referrals from current and past clients.

Also, I’m a Nichiren Buddhist and I try to live my life treating others well. I care about all my clients and do my best to help them succeed and be happy.

SimplySxy: There are many adult agencies and production companies, using the promise of good money as a way to entice people into the industry. How is one able to tell the difference between a legitimate and a scam?

Erika: When you say adult agencies, I think you mean talent agents. Yes, some are better than others. Production companies, studios and directors who aren’t legitimate can definitely scam the performers. I’ve known many girls who book their own work only to be scammed by a creep with a camera who’s looking to get laid and capture the event on film. This is where a good agent comes in. An agent knows the legitimate businesses, and makes sure you’re safe and paid. Agents make my life easier because the girls have money coming in and more things to promote.

SimplySxy: The Rub PR has gotten some of their clients into mainstream projects such as a reality show. How is the approach different as compared to adult entertainment?

Erika: At some point, the girls are done with being in front of the camera. If a girl has a good look and can act, mainstream is definitely a possibility. Those who don’t want to direct adult films or work for studios need other options.

Many of my clients want to do mainstream. I got one of my clients on a reality show premiering on a major network and a few of my girls in horror movies. I’m currently working with a mainstream writer/director on a major mainstream movie that will be made next year and stars four of my current clients.

The main difference between working in adult and mainstream seems to be how the directors and other people on set treat the porn girls. They don’t always know how to treat them, so it’s our job to educate them.

SimplySxy: You have lectured at the AEVC 2014 earlier this year. Is there a growing demand for virtual entertainment and do you see technology possibly entering television and homes in future?

Erika: The AEVC was for industry professionals, not so much the public. As for how entertainment is delivered, it seems people like streaming and downloading porn because they like the immediacy and also the anonymity of not getting porn or their doorstep or going to a store where people can see them.

SimplySxy: The use of condoms, or lack of, in pornography is being heavily scrutinized. What are your thoughts on it and the possible bearing on the industry if the law is passed on mandatory use?

Erika: The law has been passed in the city and county of Los Angeles, but not statewide…yet. We’re a private industry and I think government needs to stay out of our business on all levels. The AHF (AIDS Healthcare Foundation) started this whole witch-hunt of our industry, even though they should be focused on people with HIV or AIDS. The porn industry has always governed ourselves just fine, as far as testing and protocols go.

With fines for not having permits and/or using condoms, our industry has been hit pretty hard, and some studios have even shut down or moved out of state. The bottom line is fans don’t want to see condoms in movies and they’re uncomfortable for performers to wear them having such hardcore sex. We’re going to be feeling the impact on many levels for some time and if this passes statewide, it will get worse. Porn will have to go underground like it did in the 70s.

SimplySxy: With your experience in the industry, porn caters to every person and imaginable fetish available. What are the most popular genres currently?

Erika: Interracial seems to be one of the most popular. I do see the BBW and tranny genres gaining a lot of traction.

SimplySxy: Piracy has hit the porn industry hard, even more so with the internet as compared to pre 90s. How do you see the industry adapting and even surviving this?

Erika: The ironic thing is it’s just like Napster, and we all thought Napster was a great thing, but in reality it wasn’t. When people download free porn, they are not only stealing content, but they’re halting new production. Less movies are being made because of this, and that means less content and the performers are working less.

A movie can go up on tube sites before it even hits the Internet or store shelves. The studios send cease and desist letters, but the content just pops up on another site. Many of these tube sites are off shore so it’s hard to prosecute them. I’m not sure how we can really go after this problem, but there are companies like Takedown Piracy going after people. It seems that webcamming and novelties are the only ones not dealing with this problem and they’re the big moneymakers right now.

SimplySxy: There is a certain stigma that comes along with Pornography. Please help us clear up one misconception people might have about it.

Erika: Oh there are so many. I guess if I were only discuss one it would be people’s perceptions of people who work in porn. We call these outsiders “civilians”. Civilians have an idea about how porn people are—they usually think the women are slutty, stupid and/or crazy, and even worse things about the men. Are some of the women like this? Sure. It’s like any industry. But, in my nine years working in adult, I’ve met some of the most amazing people. Those who are on the outside looking in can unfairly judge the industry, which is not just wrong but also sad.

SimplySxy: Here at SimplySxy, we are all about promoting “sex positivity”. Can you give your take on sex positivity?

Erika: To me, sex positivity is accepting people as they are no matter what they are (trans men, t-girls, or bio men and women) or whom they choose have sex with. My dad always says that Baskin Robbins has 31 flavors for a reason, and he’s right—everybody’s got something they like and that makes them tick.

A message from you to all your fans and the SimplySxy readers:

I’m not sure if I have that many fans, although I have a few on Twitter. So, I’ll address this to your readers. If you watch porn, please pay for it. My job and many other people’s livelihoods depend on it. It wouldn’t be cool if you went to work and didn’t get paid—piracy is the same thing. Be nice to each other and don’t judge people on the sex they have or who they’re with.

If you want to know more about me and/or learn about the industry, I have blogs on my site http://therubpr.com/, and http://www.xcritic.com/ and http://rockconfidential.com/. My Twitter is @therubpr and my Facebook Company Page is https://www.facebook.com/TheRubPRBizPage.

Images courtesy of Erika Icon

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May 8, 2014
Lesbian Porn vs. Gay Porn

Lesbian porn and gay porn: At first glance, seemed to look like different sides of the same coin. However, it is very difficult to place them into the proverbial box.

Firstly, lesbian porn is not designed for lesbians. It is designed in the imagery of the heterosexual male’s fantasy. Most sexual positions that are seen in these movies are targeted to arouse men. Take for example the scissors position; it is a very awkward position for women to have their legs and groin in such a pose. It is a pose that takes a lot of effort but with very little returns. However, there is no doubt that the pose is visually stunning on camera.

Heterosexual men do not have a clear understand on how orgasm in women occurs. Many still have the perception that orgasm only occurs when penetration happens. This is not true. Dr. William Masters, a pioneer in the nature of human sexual response published a paper on this topic in 1966. Dr. Masters found that a clitoral orgasm shows the same sexual response as a vaginal orgasm. If such information has been around for decades, why then is our society still clueless when it comes to matters in bed?

On the other side of the coin, anal sex or any form of male submission in gay porn is a turn off for heterosexual men. Most straight people have the notion that anal sex is the main sexual satisfaction that gay men are looking for. However, not all gay men want anal sex. There are many gay men that choose to abstain from anal sex but yet have very healthy sexual relationships with their partners. Penetration is not the only way to receive emotional and sexual satisfaction. Like any relationship, one must take the time to find out what sexually stimulates your partner.

Gay porn is very much interwoven in a gay man’s life; much like heterosexual porn to straight men. Most porn stars have become a household name. If you mention names like Peter Fever and Johnny Rapid, you will definitely strike a chord with a gay man. Last year, there was a great loss in the gay porn industry as well as in the gay community. Koh Masaki, a famous gay porn star died at the age of 29. His death was sudden and tragic. Koh Masaki has starred in over a hundred gay porn films and is known for his good looks, masculinity and passion on scene. He brought joy and comfort to many gay men. Upon his death, millions all of around the world went into mourning together with his partner and his family.

Porn has many sides and many faces. It has different meanings to different people. Porn is also a heightened version of society’s sexual needs. However, the lack of dialog for such taboo conversations prevents us from having a deeper understanding of the complexity of the human sexual experience. If such open dialog takes place, it can help many understand that homosexual porn is far too dynamic to be stereotyped as different sides of the same coin.

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May 8, 2014
Meet Alana Evans, MILF & Gamer Pornstar

How do you describe awesomeness? Two words. Alana Evans! That’s me! I’m a MILF, a gamer girl, and your favourite pornstar. I’ve been making dirty movies since I was 21 years old, starting in 1998. I’ve appeared in more than a thousand scenes, which means I’ve been a busy girl. I first started making porn so I could become a feature dancer, but I had so much fun making movies, I never really left to hit the road and dance.

I’ve been honored a few times by AVN with numerous nominations for Best Supporting Actress, Best Sex Scenes, and more. I won my first AVN Award in 2007 for Best Solo Sex Scene in Corruption. I won Unsung Siren from the X-Rated Critics Organization, and well as a KSEX Radio award. This year, 2013, I am nominated for MILF of the Year for Xbiz, Hottest MILF for AVN Awards, as well as Best Non Sex Performance for my role in a Wicked Pictures movie. In July, I won the Orgasm Girl of the Month contest.

One of my most incredible films was Not The Brady’s XXX, in which I play Mrs. Brady. This was the first parody that started the porn parody craze. With its release in 2008, we won several awards, and I was nominated for Best Supporting Actress again. X-play has since released 4 movies in the series, all winning numerous awards, with the latest being nominated for Best Parody Comedy with XBIZ.

Over the years, I’ve made my fair share of hot features, but I am mostly known for my dirty gonzo styles scenes. I have always been that happy, bubbly girl who loves to get fucked. I have so much fun being an exhibitionist. I’ve always enjoyed pleasing my audience, whether it’s on camera or real life.

These days, I’m loving my work because I’m a real MILF. I get paired up with cute innocent young guys, and it’s awesome. But in my personal life, I love every kind of man. I think older men are quite sexy. They definitely know how to please me. But don’t get me wrong, I love teaching young guys the ways around a MILF. Lucky for me, my job gives me access to all kinds of tasty treats.

SimplySxy: Congratulations Alana for your longevity in the industry. What do you do to stay competitive and relevant with the ever changing scene and influx of new porn stars in the last 10 years?

Alana Evans: Our business has changed so much over the last 17 years, I have definitely had to adapt. When I started in 1998, I was the small breasted, sweet and innocent girl next door. Over the years, as I’ve matured physically and sexually, I’ve always done my best to stay true to myself. I went from being the naughty little submissive, to the dirty MILF in charge. I am lucky that my fans have been loyal over the years, and they are always waiting for something new. That has really helped me roll with the constant competition.

SimplySxy: You have been nominated for numerous awards and won your first AVN award in 2007. It must have been a great personal achievement and recognition after the years of work?

Alana: I won my first award in 2001 from XRCO. It was for Unsung Siren. Those words basically summarize the majority of my career. I was always the hard working bad girl and I did by best not to get caught up in the hype of the awards shows. It’s tough as a young girl to be nominated for so many awards, yet lose to the “popular crowd.” I eventually realized that more performer value isn’t represented by a trophy, but by the years of dedication I’ve put in. winning my only AVN Award in 2007 was a huge shock, and one of the most exciting moments of my career. It was for Corruption from Sexy Pictures. During that movie, my friendship with Will Ryder began, and he changed my life. After playing Mrs. B in Not The Bradys XXX, I started to receive the attention I deserved and I was very pleased. I couldn’t be more thankful to Will and Scott from X Play. I have since received numerous MILF of the Year nominations, and I hope to snag that trophy one day.

SimplySxy: You have starred in over 400 films and thousands of scenes. Which is one of your most memorable?

Alana: Out of all of my movies and scenes, Not the Bradys XXX is by far my favourite. Making Mrs. B sexy was a great task, and an incredible role. We have made 5 films so far, with more to come. This movie started the parody craze and I couldn’t be more proud to be a part of it. As for my raunchy gonzo days, my scene with Tiffany Mynx and Mike Adriano is my favourite. I’ve always loved Tiffany, and working with her was a dream come true. To share Mike’s giant cock was a dirty blessing!

SimplySxy: What is your favorite sex position?

Alana: My favorite position is doggy style! I love being banged from behind while having my hair pulled and my neck nibbled. Get’s me so hot!

SimplySxy: You are a MILF of every young guy’s dreams. Share with us, what can a guy do to catch your eye?

Alana: I love guys that have a quirky personality and can make me laugh. If we can play video games together, I’m in heaven!

SimplySxy: You had an opportunity to direct a film before. Is that experience a lot tougher than acting on screen?

Alana: I owned my own production company, Royalty X Films. We shot several projects and I enjoyed every minute of it. I really love writing scripts, dressing pretty girls, and making movie magic. The production end was always easy for me. I’m very organized so we always had fun stress free shoots.

SimplySxy: Has there been an embarrassing or awkward sex situation you can remember (on-set or off-set)?

Alana: There are always a few awkward moments. In my younger days, I was filming for Bruce Seven for one of his ButtSlammers Titles. A stoll was created that had a dildo in place so we could bounce on it. As I was using it, the dildo broke and I actually fell off the chair. The fact we were covered in olive oil probably didn’t help. We all laughed. The editors actually left it in the movie!

SimplySxy: As an avid gamer, is there any particular genre of game you like?

Alana: When I say I play everything, I mean it. I love role playing games, first person shooters, adventure games, puzzle games, and fighting games! I remember my first time playing Gears of War with the rumble pack attached to my controller. Every time I was killed, it would go off. It scared the crap out of me and I would often throw it! Now, I just laughed and slaughter grubs.

SimplySxy: There are many games with sex scenes such as Grand Theft Auto, God of War III etc. Do you think it will be fun to have a game that is just purely on sex?

Alana: I once bought a game for my 3DO. This is was one of the first ever disk playing consoles. The game was called Night Trap. You were basically spying on girls at a sorority house via cameras. I loved this game. I felt like such a pervert. I was before I really started playing with girls, so this was a great turn on for me. I know that sex based games are the future. Pink Visuals has a great game called the Sex Simulator. You can create your own characters and make your own animated sex scenes! It was free to download and play, but extra options were available for a small fee. You could dress them in different kinds of lingerie, buy different sex toys, and completely control the thrusting movements of your characters.

SimplySxy: Choice between completing Walking Dead Season Two, Episode Two or having amazing sex on the couch?

Alana: If the option to play a video game or have sex comes up… these days… I usually play the game first, and have sex after! I know… terrible. lol

A message from you to all your fans and the SimplySxy readers:

Thank you for having me! I love playing with my fans so you can add my gamertag superpinkninja on either Xbox or Playstation. Im AlanaEvans on Steam! Be sure to check out my awesome video game website PwnedByGIrls.com and read my column, “The Stoned Gamer” on Hightimes.com

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Images courtesy of Alana Evans

May 7, 2014