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  • Masturbation Month… For Couples Part 2 – Pussy Play

    Masturbation Month… For Couples Part 2 – Pussy Play

    So we’re well into Masturbation Month… Anyone learnt anything new? As I mentioned in there a bunch of pieces focused on solo play and the health benefits of masturbation, and people much more qualified than myself to discuss it therapeutically. What I’d like to do is make sure couples don’t feel excluded from all the awesome, so here’s some tips and toys for inspiring and incorporating masturbation into a shared experience – there’s probably no better way to learn more about your partner’s body. For women, masturbation can be an external or internal experience, and there’s thought to be at least four different orgasms women are able to achieve: clitoral, vaginal, multiple, and ‘all of the above’. This makes Pussy Play all kinds of fun – and a wonderfully exciting challenge… How many ways can you or your partner cum this month? And how can you help?

    First off, keep things comfortable, yet interesting; getting yourself off should never feel like a job. And remember that our bodies are changing and evolving all the time – depth of sensitivity and locations of ‘hot spots’ can change. Regular masturbation can help you keep track of these changes and give you a working knowledge of what’s ‘right’ for you. This is where toys can be invaluable. Finger toys are a wonderful way to explore the external regions. You can purchase these as simple, textured silicone sheaths that slide over the finger, like these Exotic Finger Teasers. Using your sheathed finger start massaging the labia – outer and inner – taking care to avoid the clitoris for the first few minutes. Make a mental note of any particular sweet spots, but don’t spend too long on them. Try giving yourself (and your voyeuristic) partner a pleasurable tease.

    For those who struggle a bit with the clit orgasm, you could try this Finger Vibe from Lelo. It’s a beautiful, velvet-finish silicone vibe that slides on your finger like a ring, and for a toy that runs on one AAA it’s a pretty powerful buzz. There are several speeds and intensity settings, and I’m assuming a pretty top-notch motor, due to Lelo’s great reputation for making safe, great quality toys. The great thing about finger toys is their unobtrusive nature, and the instinctual ease of their use – your fingers know what they’re doing; now just to enhance them a little…

    Internally, it can be a whole different thing. There’s no ‘magic button’ in there to make us cum. What used to be thought of as the G-Spot is actually a larger erogenous zone that encompasses several different organs. Called the ‘clitourethrovaginal complex’ (CUV) it includes the front of the vaginal wall (the side toward the belly), the urethra, the paraurethral glands (aka Skene’s Glands or female Prostrate) and the underlying nerve ‘roots’ of the clitoris. Aiming toys and pressure at this region can really help in bringing on some quite intense vaginal orgasms. Some of the best toys to do this are the adjustable G-Vibes like this Je Joue G-Kii. G-spot vibrators feature a curved tip, which provides focused pressure on the front wall. Whether you’re determined to find your G-spot, or know exactly where it is and want to hit it with ease, G-spot vibes get straight to the point. For your first time, try using the head at its natural angle. Then, as you become more familiar with it, experiment with different curves to discover your perfect position. Not only can this toy be shaped to work with anyone, the flexible shaft can even be hooked around for simultaneous internal and external stimulation.

    Stay tuned… Next time we look at remote control and wireless control toys for couples… Can’t wait!

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  • Masturbation Tips from Apple Soey

    Masturbation Tips from Apple Soey

    People always ask about me so I’ll go ahead and say I’m Thai. I currently stay in the UK and my family is based here. I have a small little (fat) dog named Allie who I really need to put on a diet but probably never will. I like the color green, beaches and all that other stuff a lot of people like.

    I have a lot of sex toys because of my website and the webcam stuff I do, I have to have choices so I don’t get bored with them. I’m not a big fan of the rubber kind of sex toys but I do like vibrators. I have a Hitachi vibrator that I REALLY like and I had a custom glass one made that hits all of the right spots, if you know what I mean. I love all my vibrators and  if you ask me, I have a purple vibrator that I love too.  In fact, I think the purple vibrator is the one I couldn’t live without, but it’s hard to decide 🙂 3a

    Today, I would like to share with you some of my masturbation tips. I have been asked by many on the best ways to pleasure oneself. And my answer is: Do what feels the best. Different times and things happening in your mind call for different kinds of ways to do it. All that matters is that it feels good.

    2a

    I still remember that time when I got a new vibrator and I had it in my purse when I was at the mall. I couldn’t stop thinking about how bad I wanted to try it so I went into the bathroom and went for it. It was so hot, I could hear people walking around just on the other side of the door and it made me so horny to know that I was that close to so many people with this new toy vibrating on my pussy. The whole experience made me cum so hard it took all of my energy to not scream and I almost fainted. Afterwards I cleaned my toy, cleaned myself and went back into the mall like nothing happened.

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  • Masturbation Month – Happy Handjobs for Couples!

    Masturbation Month – Happy Handjobs for Couples!

    Yes, May is International Masturbation Month. Get your hands out of your laps and cheer!

    Now, I’m not going to bash you over the head with a dildo promoting the benefits of masturbation – there are people much more qualified than myself to discuss it therapeutically – let’s just take it as a given that pleasuring oneself is beneficial. Seeing as though masturbation is generally seen as a solo venture, what I’d like to do is make sure couples don’t feel excluded from all the awesome. So here’s some tips and toys that couples can use to incorporate masturbation into their shared experience – there’s probably no better way to learn more about your partner’s body. Over the last few weeks, my extremely tolerant Test Subject (TS) has let me apply all sorts of things to his penis. And first and foremost, he must be thanked for that – not all of it was entirely pleasant.

    Thanks to the awesome crew at Sex Toys 24/7 (https://www.sextoys247.net.au/), we’ve been experimenting with products from Doc Johnson’s Optimale range, which I primarily found appealing for it’s focus on sexual health. The packing is simple and free of overt sexual images, which is a great idea in terms of attracting more female customers to engage with their partners in selecting male toys. The Optimale UR-3 Reversible Two-Way Stroker is a great example of this; rather than comparing pornstar pussies to get an idea of internal texture, the stroker has simple designs, seen easily through the frosted UR3 gel. With just a small amount of water-based lube, the smooth and textured sides of the stroker slid on comfortably. This is a fantastic toy for a lot of reasons – reversible, good value for money, easy to use and clean, and the storage box is a real bonus. It’s a good practical toy, that can lead to some seriously sensuous fun. The packaging boldly claims the stroker has an ‘Incredible life-like feel’. It’s certainly not life-like in terms of handling the cock itself – the girth added by the glove is substantial. I asked TS how accurate their claim was. ‘It’s actually very good… “lifelike”? I’m not sure… maybe with a warming lube?’ We never got a chance to experiment any further with the sheath as we discovered some splits in the gel. We plan on getting a replacement, so I’ll be sure to let you all know how the next one goes. What would have been an 8/10 dropped to around a 4.

    On the plus side, the death of the stroker meant we could move on to other things…

    We decided to check out some cock rings. Typically they’re used to keep erections stronger for longer, but we’ve found they can create a whole new sensual experience and really enhance the whole aesthetic of masturbation. Rings are relatively inexpensive toys, making their play value even higher. They can be worn around the shaft and/or scrotum, and you can even get double rings that will do both. You can find them in a range of materials – leather, jelly, stainless steel, rubber – but for couples play we enjoy using silicone – it’s safe, and easy to clean.

    The C-Ring Silicone 45mm Thick is a pretty impressive sample. For a basic cockring, these are aesthetically and sensually very pleasing. We got the matte gun metal grey/slate which was a surprisingly nice break from the familiar shiny-black. The silicone has quite a lot of stretch, and even pulling as hard as I could, showed no sign of weakness. There’s enough give to go around the shaft and testicles comfortably, and package them up nicely. If you enjoy cockrings and find them comfortable, contemplate presenting your ringed cock to your partner one night – they really can enhance the man-junk. I was super appreciative of the extra thick construction and the velvety finish of the silicone which seems to give more grip – there’s no chance my partner will fall victim to another of my clumsy slips resulting in a rubbery snap against his shaft. Once it’s on, take some time to explore the new dimensions and look of the penis by watching how he handles it – the rhythm he chooses, the point where he focuses, how he wraps his hand. Don’t get too carried away – cockrings should be removed within 20 minutes of application.

    If you want to upgrade to something a bit more exciting, you could give the The Optimale Vibrating Double C-ring a go. This toy is designed much more with couples in mind, and comes as a single or double bullet unit. We went with the double, which was lucky, because one of them went on the blink after the first use. I must admit, I’m not much for bells and whistles on my sex toys – there is such a thing as over-stimulation. (I plan on discussing this in an article soon.) When I unpacked the Vibrating Double I was really impressed with the guide supplied with the toy – it clearly explained exactly where everything went (with two rings in action, be sure not to confuse the shaft ring with the testes ring). For partnered masturbation play, the bullets are a fantastic addition. Hands can be used on the cock and balls to direct pressure to the bullet zones. Partners can share in the action, by pressing or teasing their own body parts against the buzz… This is a pretty cool toy, but it is one-size, so be sure you’re within range. You can check out the Optimale range here (https://www.sextoys247.net.au/catalogsearch/result/?q=optimale).

    Happy Handjobbing!

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  • Hot fingering techniques to give her an orgasm

    Hot fingering techniques to give her an orgasm

    I personally masturbate every day. Masturbation, to me, is very healthy and as a cam girl it is a big part of my job. I also deal with anxiety, and some days I will come home from a stressful day at my other job and literally masturbate the stress away.

    My preferred location to masturbate.

    I will admit I have masturbated in a lot of random places but my preferred place would have to be in my bed.

    I have a lot of dildos and vibrators, some I haven’t even used but my favorite is my Hitachi. I usually turn up really loud music and masturbate till I can’t cum anymore.

    Hot fingering techniques to give a girl an orgasm.

    Well, I mean every girl is different. But I will say that I have had a few guys that have gone full jack hammer on my vagina. Please guys, don’t do that.

    Just start out slow and work on your “come hither” finger action. Also, communication is a huge part. I run a sex blog and whenever I get questions from guys asking how to make their girl cum, I always tell them that communication is key.

    Ask her how she likes it, if she likes it and what she likes. It’s pretty easy to tell if she is enjoying it when she’s gripping at the sheets and moaning your name.

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  • Does Circumcision Cut Penis Sensitivity?

    Does Circumcision Cut Penis Sensitivity?

    Circumcision — it’s one of the most hotly debated sexual health issues in the medical community. In part that’s because in this country, and other developed countries, there isn’t any clear benefit to circumcise or not to circumcise, says Karen Boyle, M.D., director of male reproductive medicine and surgery at Chesapeake Urology Associates in Baltimore.

    Intact men enjoy four times more penile sensitivity than circumcised men, according to the “Fine-touch Pressure Thresholds in the Adult Penis” article published today in the British Journal of Urology International. The study was conducted to map fine-touch pressure thresholds of the adult penis in circumcised and uncircumcised males to compare the two populations.

    Researchers measured fine-touch sensitivity of the penis at 17 specific sites on the intact (non-circumcised) penis and the remaining 9 sites plus two scar sites on the circumcised penis. The results surprised the research team, according to Morris Sorrells, MD, lead researcher, who said, “The most sensitive part of the penis is the preputial opening. The results confirmed that the frenulum and ridged band of the inner foreskin are highly erogenous structures that are routinely removed by circumcision, leaving the penis with one-fourth the fine-touch sensitivity it originally possessed.” Five sites on the penis-all regularly removed by circumcision-are more sensitive than the most sensitive site remaining on the circumcised penis. Researcher pediatrician and statistician Robert Van Howe said, “Oddly, the most sensitive site on the circumcised penis is the circumcision scar itself.”

    This was in fact reported by a Michigan State University study, that found that the most sensitive part of a circumcised guy’s penis is his circumcision scar. A possible explanation: After circumcision, “the penis has to protect itself—like growing a callus on your foot, but to a lesser extent,” says Darius Paduch, M.D., Ph.D., a urologist and male sexual medicine specialist at New York-Presbyterian/Weill Cornell Medical Center. This means nerve endings are further from the surface—and therefore, may be less responsive.

    Circumcised men prefer it rough – The study has received international attention. Politicians from California, for example, have been in contact with the researchers because they want to ban circumcision in their federal state.

    There appears to be a very simple reason why circumcised men and their partners are having problems with their sex lives. The circumcised man develops a thin layer of hard skin on his penis head, which decreases the sensitivity. This means that in order to reach an orgasm, he needs to work harder at it, and that can lead to a painful experience for their partner.

    Previous studies documented that circumcised penises are shorter; now researchers have compared and found them lacking in sensitivity, too. From their findings, researchers of this study conclude that circumcision ablates the most sensitive parts of the penis. These findings come several decades after Masters & Johnson said there is no sensitivity difference in a circumcised and a non-circumcised penis. Now their questionable findings have been disproved and the results of this study provide additional evidence about the importance of preserving the protective, sensitive foreskin.

    It’s worth mentioning that women with circumcised partners are three times more likely to experience sexual pain than ladies with uncircumcised spouses, the study from Denmark found. “The uncircumcised penis is much glossier, a more velvety feel,” says Paduch. “So for women who aren’t lubricating well, they experience much less discomfort having sex with a guy who is uncircumcised.” He adds that guys who have their foreskin intact require lubricant far less frequently during sex and masturbation, since the skin of their penis in naturally slicker.

    This article has been republished with permission from Deepak.

    Please visit Deepak’s website  to view the original post and more of Deepak’s works.

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  • Girls everywhere masturbate. So why can’t we talk about it?

    Girls everywhere masturbate. So why can’t we talk about it?

    This was the title of an article in the Telegraph which I found recently while browsing the internet.

    The author, Rebecca Holman, doesn’t say anything about tantric sex or tantric orgasm, but just plain old masturbation. And it struck me that what she was saying was true.

    Little by little, over the years, we have become more and more open about what we talk about and what words are allowed on television – and, as the author says, talk about vibrators is fine. We can go and buy them together, and it seems nowadays only a prude would admit to not owning a vibrator.

    ‘But we never discuss female masturbation on its own, without a purple, glittery, revolving phallus, without a man present, just for the sake of it.’

    But men talk about wanking all the time – so why the double standard?  It seems that it is the way we talk about it. It’s fine to discuss in sex education classes and in relation to products (toys) and messages regarding spicing up your sex life. But we don’t talk about how to masturbate. We are the generation that talks about ABSOLUTELY ANYTHING, but not this.

    The author adds that masturbation is fine when it’s for the purpose of male titillation. But does female desire on its own, without a purpose apart from pure pleasure, make us uncomfortable ?

    Intrigued by this, I found another article which this time, looks at male misconceptions about female masturbation.

    Most men think we masturbate according to the way they have seen it done in porn films. If only they knew that we dont need to wear sexy lingerie to please ourselves. It is often done with bad breath, messy hair and wearing old sweat pants.

    And we dont look at photos of male penises – we prefer to think of the person himself… masturbation for women often starts with an erotic thought, not a picture of a penis.

    We dont masturbate in groups with our girlfriends, even though men may fantasise about this, and we dont do it standing in front of a mirror.

    What we have found in our tantric tuition sessions, here at tantric massage in Kensington, is that very few men, when they first come for a tantric tuition session, really know how to pleasure a woman. Maybe this is a problem of communication. And if women dont talk to their girlfriends about masturbation, it is even less likely that they talk to their male partner about it. Maybe many women just dont know how to pleasure themselves. Or if they do, they do not dare tell their partner that he is doing it wrong. It really is time for all this to come out in the open.

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  • The girl behind the glory hole—Part II

    The girl behind the glory hole—Part II

    Read Part I of The Girl Behind the Gloryhole here

    Mike had said “no talking,” and at first I thought that meant we had to remain completely silent. No, it just means no long conversations. Three cocks into my first day, and a tap on the door from Deirdre would let me know I’d already had my first complaint. I didn’t tell the last guy what a massive, handsome prick he had, and the best-tasting helmet I had ever had in my mouth. “They like that kind of thing,” she laughed. “And they leave bigger tips as well.”

    So after that, every cock that I sucked was … well, you can imagine. And if two came in together (and I got my first of those that lunchtime), then both of them were so hot and hard that “I wish I had two mouths so I could taste you both at once.”

    I learned to make sounds in the back of my throat, moans of pleasure, of hunger, of greed. Well, I didn’t exactly learn; I already knew how to do that. I’d just never thought about it in the past, because they always came out naturally. Now, I conjured them out of nowhere, and they all added to my customer’s delight.

    There are the guys who tell you precisely where they want to cum, and it’s your job to make them believe they have done so. “So sweet on my tongue … so thick on my face … it’s dripping from my nipple s…” —and more than once I’ve laid it on so thick (figuratively speaking—unlike Cass, I always fill the waste bin) that a sucked soft cock is suddenly coming back to life, and the first time that happened, I was jerking him in one hand while hanging out the cubicle door, asking one of the other girls what do I do?

    Give him a freebie? Ask for straight CASH? Neither. Press the other buzzer, and someone would come and explain the situation to him nicely. You’ve already had what you paid for. If you want it again, you pay up again. And, like I said, they explain it nicely. This one paid again, and yeah, he left a great tip as well.

    The MONEY

    Compared to some of the places I’ve heard about, Mike is a saint. Thirty percent of what the customers pay goes to the house. But the other seventy goes to the girl. There’s more than one joint in this same town that flips those percentages completely, but Mike has so many other sidelines running here as well, from the coffee shop out front (the original cafe), to the liquor in the back room, the peep show and dirty films, and probably a few lines I don’t want to know about, that he can afford to be a generous employer. As for tips, we throw into a communal bowl and divide them up at the end of each shift. On a good week, I can earn my next month’s rent; in a good month, I can pay off half a term’s tuition.

    Hygiene

    We get plenty of mouthwash with a brandy infusion. For obvious reasons, condoms and dental dams are forbidden, unless the customer specifically asks for them—and one or two do. But baby wipes are not out of place and we all get checkups on a regular basis, for our sake and for the customers’. I’ve only ever had one case where a dick looked like it might not be as healthy as it ought to be (no, you don’t want the details) so I pressed the buzzer, the other buzzer, and whatever transpired on the other side of the wall was said softly and persuasively enough that I never heard another word about it.

    Problems

    Well, there are the ones that Deidre warned me about, the ones who don’t feel they got their MONEY’s worth, or demand their money back altogether. Mike handles them. The ones we’re on our own with are, to put it gently, the gents who are either so excited, or so nervous (and occasionally, so out of shape or otherwise ailing) that they can’t get an erection to begin with.

    Those are the ones we talk to sweetly, softly, try and coax them into some kind of life with loving words, and it’s surprising how often that works. Or you suckle on their softness for a while and … I didn’t even know this was possible, but it’s a lot more common than you might think; you bring them to orgasm without them even attaining a decent erection.

    Or there are the poor souls who really are a lost cause and you send them away disappointed because there is nothing else you can do. But you know what’s strange? They are often the best tippers of all. They may not have got what most guys come for, but maybe they got what they needed the most, which is a few words of sympathy, a few words of affection, something that helped them see that their dysfunction is not the end of the world.

    And if they should return a few days or weeks later, and mention that their last visit prompted them to go see their doctor, and he was able to fix their little problem, then that’s just terrific. I’ll be honest, I’m not a fan of little blue pills and things; I’d rather see someone get help for the problem, and not get fobbed off with some chemical that will mask what’s really happening. If I can point someone in one direction rather than the other … well, let’s just say, those are often the occasions when I enjoy my job most of all.

    And enjoyment is important. I said before, I view my work as a series of transactions; the customer’s need being fulfilled by a capable professional. But I’d be lying if I didn’t admit that at least a couple of times every shift, which means four or five times in each working day, I am confronted by a cock that I could happily take home and make a fuss over all night.

    I like the middle-aged ones the best. It surprised me just how quickly I learned to tell them apart. Some of the girls say a cock is a cock, but they are either lying or they are jaded. For me, every penis is different and while I’ve definitely trained myself to see the good points about each, there are those where my training just goes out of the window and I feel like a first-timer all over again. Sucking not because it’s my job and I want a good tip, but because I want to make its owner feel good, because doing so will make me feel good too.

    The first time I ever orgasmed purely from the excitement of giving head, I was with a college boyfriend in his car on a road trip some place, and I put it down to the thrill (not to mention the insane illegality) of sucking cock in a moving vehicle. Now I know different. It doesn’t need to be the right circumstances. It needs to be the right cock.

    So even on those days when, to put it bluntly, blowing strangers really is the last thing I want to be doing with my time, at the back of my mind there is always the caveat—until the right stranger comes along. Because then, it’ll be the only thing I want to do, and my only regret is the time-wasting rule. Mike wants them in and out in ten minutes. Sometimes, it’s been fifteen and I’m still only just getting started.

    But never, ever mix business with pleasure. Nobody knows that I work here; none of my friends even knows this place exists. I would never date a customer, or even give him a clue as to who I am … their fantasy, whether they know it or not, is the disembodied mouth and voice on the other side of the glory hole, who will give them what they need without question or qualm. And mine … well, my fantasies are that I’ll keep on loving my job for as long as I need the money, and if I’m lucky maybe for a while after that.

    We all need to work, to eat and pay rent, and most of the jobs in the real world today seem determined to keep you on your knees till the day you retire. And given the option of sucking figurative ass or literal cock … well, I made that decision eight months ago.

    This article has been republished with permission from Chrissie Bentley

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  • The girl behind the glory hole—Part I

    The girl behind the glory hole—Part I

    The Cafe Aphrodite is not one of the city’s best known attractions, even among the red light crowd. For a start, we’re well off the beaten track, a couple of bus rides from where the rest of the action is, and even the taxis don’t like heading this far out. Our neighbors are no more glamorous than the newsstands, groceries, and broken down repair stores that the fringe of every city is overrun with. Our clientele are more likely to be bored laborers, passing shoppers and curious college kids than high rolling city slickers and businessmen.

    This probably explains how the place has been here so long. Across the rest of the city, across the rest of the country, the police have been closing the clip joints and strip bars faster than the girls can open their legs. But Mike’s been running this place for nine years and never been busted once.

    Which is great, because this is the best job I’ve ever had.

    I was expecting at least the rudiments of an interview, the day I finally plucked up the nerve to answer the vaguely worded advertisement at the back of the local free paper; decode the shadowed suggestions and hints that the dark voice who answered the phone let slip; and then show up at the cafe one wet afternoon. Yes, I was expecting an interview. Instead, I got a lecture. A very, very short lecture, because he’s not a man to use three words when a simple grunt will suffice. But, a lecture nonetheless.

    “Three rules. No talking, no time wasting, and no mess on the floor. Spit, swallow, smear it on your skin, I don’t care what you do. But I don’t want to see any cum on the carpets, none on the walls, and none on your clothes. Any questions?”

    I shook my head. He’d already shown me to my “office,” as he called it, a three foot square cubicle with pale lilac walls and, at varying heights on three of them, a series of holes. Through which the johns would poke their peckers, in expectation of the time of their lives. There was a pair of identical cubicles on either side, each one servicing three more walls worth of guests apiece. On a busy night, I imagined this as one of the happiest houses in town!

    “First few times, you’ll probably only be able to handle one at a time,” Deidre (a pseudonym), a forty-something bleached blonde, told me as I sat sipping coffee before my first shift began. “Give it a couple of days, though, and you’ll have three on the go at a time, one on each wall, and all three of them will believe that they’re the only man in the world. Assuming,” she added, “you’re any good.”

    She paused. “So are you?”
    “What?”
    “Any good?”

    I think I must have flushed a little, because her eyes softened and she smiled a little. “I think so…” I began, and she interrupted with a laugh. “You’ve never had any complaints yet, right?”

    “Right,” I smiled back.

    “You won’t get any here either. Or, at least, not many. There’s always the odd guy who will kick up a fuss, saying he didn’t cum hard enough, or you brought him off too quickly. But Mike deals with them, and they don’t complain for long. Most of our customers, they’re so happy to get a pair of lips around their cock, they wouldn’t know a ‘good’ blow if you spent all night giving tongue baths.

    “No, what I mean by good is—you’ve got to be quick. And you’ve got to be able to move around quickly. One night I had five cocks at once, all sticking through those holes like it was the most urgent thing in the world, and it was my job to agree with them.”

    “Five?” But there are only three walls, I was going to say, but Deirdre beat me to it. “They double up. Two guys staggering home from the bar, drunk and horny … they just bundle into a cubicle together and don’t think anything of it.”

    I tried to picture the scene from my angle, one dick at mouth height, the other in my hair … my god, you could get whiplash trying to please them both. But Deirdre just laughed, a warm sort-of-cackle, and started laying out a side of the job I had never even thought of.

    Mike did not offer any health benefits. But it had some, regardless. “It’ll save you a fortune in skin care products. If you grind your teeth or have TMJ, sucking cock is the greatest exercise in the world. I know, because it worked for me. And if you ever want to give up smoking …” she nodded at the Newport I’d lit up … “Well … it’ll help you out there as well. Every time you feel like a cigarette, just suck some cock instead.”

    I stubbed out my cigarette.

    “You’re up.” The door to the cubicle in front of me opened, and an absolutely stunning woman stepped out, looking like she’d just spent the day relaxing at the spa. In fact, she’d just spent three hours on her knees, but her skin glowed, her hair shone, her eyes danced and her smile flashed.

    Deirdre introduced me, and the girl, Cass, inclined her head, and then stood aside as I rose and walked into the cubicle. I looked around. Just as Mike said, the room was spotless; not even a balled-up tissue or two in the wastepaper basket, and the little hand basin was sparkling too. I adjusted a few of the cushions that were scattered on the floor, then took a deep breath and pressed the little buzzer that let the front desk know I was ready to begin.

    Okay. You’re probably wondering what sort of girl would willingly sign up to spend six hours day (in two shifts of three), five days a week, on her knees in a box sucking stranger’s cocks? Well, I’ll tell you.

    I’m twenty-eight, and I’m putting myself through college. So I need the money, and this pays well. Better than waitressing, better than dancing, better than stripping and, from what I’ve heard, better than whoring. I enjoy sex, of course I do. But I also see sex for what it is, as opposed to what we all dream it is. A physical transaction between two people, one who wants to get his rocks off, and one who is willing to help him.

    I love giving blowjobs, that‘s true. But sucking off strangers is very, very different to sucking off my boyfriend, or someone I’m involved with. Or even know. It’s not a love thing, it’s not a lust thing, and it’s not even a desire thing. It’s just … a thing. With someone you have feelings for, it can be the most intimate act imaginable. With someone you don’t know from Adam, it’s no different to giving them a massage. In fact, it is a massage, in a way. A part of your body is in contact with a part of theirs and if you can overlook the fact that it’s your mouth and their penis, as opposed your hands and their shoulders (and you can overlook it, a lot faster than you’d expect), it really isn’t that big a deal any longer. And if that makes you look at me with different eyes or not want to hear any more of my story, then that’s up to you.

    I suck cock for a living and I love my job. But that doesn’t mean I have to love every cock that I suck. I don’t love every drop of semen that they pump onto my hand, face, or onto my tits or anywhere else. I just need to pretend that I do.

    Part 2 of Chrissie’s glory hole experience continues here 

    This article has been republished with permission from Chrissie Bentley

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  • Fetish for semen stained underwear and used condoms

    Fetish for semen stained underwear and used condoms

    For many years now I have had a perculiar habit; I have been in the habit of sniffing dirty knickers as I masturbate. How I started this habit is another story that I shall leave for another time. For a long time I believed I was alone in my perculiar habit; it is not something you can discuss with your mates. It was through the internet that I became aware that I was not alone. The internet also opened up a means of obtaining dirty knickers on-line, though this costs money to buy the soiled items, it does mean that one can obtain them legitimately and not have to steal them from a friend’s laundry basket when visiting them. Something I have done for many years in constant fear of being caught. Not only do I sniff the knickers of the wives and daughters of friends I have visited, being bisexual, I have also sniff my friend’s underpants.

    Buying dirty knickers and underpants on-line can be an expensive business, which is why I decided a few months ago to sell my own dirty underwear. You would be surprised at the number of women and men who sell their dirty underwear. More surprisingly are the number of people who buy such items and the prices they are prepared to pay for underwear in a well worn and soiled condition.

    When it comes to sniffing knickers, I particulary enjoy the genital odour of the person they belong too combined with a whiff of stale urine. It is the genital odour and stale urine that attracts me to men’s underpants as well, but the presense of semen on a men’s underwear is the real attraction for me. With knickers I love to sniff them as I masturbate then ejaculate into them. I do this also with men’s underpants, but afterwards I like to wear them with my dry semen in them along with the original owner’s semen. I am kept in a state of arousal all the time I wear them and obtain even greater pleasure masturbating in them once again.

    When buying men’s dirty underpants on-line I always request that the seller masturbates and ejaculates into them. This is a popular request I find when selling my undies, but I have had other requests such as wetting myself whilst wearing them and had one request to shit myself in them and send them off with the shit. I personally am not into shit play, but shitting my underpants for that guy really turned me on so much that I masturbated again and had another orgasm more intense than the first. I believe it is the intensity of a masturbatory orgasm that attracts people like myself to this perculiar habit of sniffing underwear.

    While seeking dirty underwear on-line I came across a guy selling used condoms. I so was intriged and curious about this that I bought a used condom. I recieved it complete with a ‘load’ of semen. What other guys do with a ‘loaded’ used condom I do not know, but I poured it on a pair of briefs and sniffed at the aroma it gave off as I masturbated. I then ejaculated my semen onto the other guys and wore the briefs soaked in mine and the other guy’s semen. Ecstacy indeed!

    Along with my dirty underwear I now sell condoms I have worn while masturbating and deposit a ‘load’ in them for other guys to enjoy. As of yet I have had no strange requests regading used condoms.

    The underwear I have for sale along with my used condoms can be found at http://tonysthings.myadpost.com. Take a look and don’t be shy about your requests as I will honour your every wish.

    Antony Gee

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  • Masturbation: A Series on How to Get You Off (Part III)

    Masturbation: A Series on How to Get You Off (Part III)

    Part 3 – Making Connections

    You cannot truly connect with another human being until you have really connected with yourself. Yeah yeah you’ve heard it all before and yeah yeah it is a little corny to say but this does not make it any less… true!

    When I am having sex I really like to let myself go and to enjoy the experience as much as is humanely possible, paid or unpaid (and just before you all go hitting the phones asking for a freebie: the only guy I shag for free is my bf … giggle…). I don’t always get it right, I’m human, but I do my best and when I do notice that something either isn’t quite right or is going horribly wrong (again, either with a client or my boyfriend) I will try to correct it. This might mean adjusting position, taking time out, having a chat, trying something completely new or even stopping altogether and going for a walk. It is vitally important to really, really listen to your own bodies (yours and your shag’s/partner’s) So, how do you do that? How do you get out of your left brain (the over-thinking, methodical, clinical ‘head sex’ aspect of our brain) and into your body? How do you truly connect with your humanness? Have you noticed that I’m asking lots of questions? Can you see that I have mentioned the terms ‘human’ and humanness’ a lot? Why?

    ‘Enough with the questions will you! Just teach me how to wank!’ I hear you holler. Oh don’t mind me, I’m just having a little chat with your subconscious.

    Now, the real stuff can start … unzip and drop ‘em. Please read Parts 1 and 2 if you haven’t already and do note that this article and indeed series, is aimed at both men and women, transgendered and all those in between. If I get something wrong or you feel excluded, do get in touch and I will put it right.

    I do love a nice wank, don’t you? I just adore to slowly remove my clothes, revealing my body bit by bit, as if seducing myself. Some would call this narcissistic, I call it building self-esteem. Contrary to popular belief (including my own when I’m feeling too full of myself) I actually have to work hard on my self-esteem. My childhood was hard, damned hard and such wounds can take a lifetime to heal. I am telling you this for a reason dear friend reading this now—your body stores memories.

    Now you weren’t expecting that were you?

    Masturbation releases old patterns, memories and yes trauma. So it is not surprising that sometimes we avoid masturbating because we don’t particularly want to bring all that stuff up and/or we just make do with a quick fumble and think ‘job done’. The job is not done until you feel completely satisfied both emotionally and sexually. It is exactly the same as when you have sex and/or make love—the job is not done until you are both (or more if you are polyamorous) completely satisfied both emotionally and sexually. Stick with me, we are going to get off together.

    With everything I have said in mind, I want you to do something for me in a moment. If you are able, in just a second, I want you to unbutton your jeans or drop your skirt. I invite you, regardless of your gender or sexual persuasion, to help you to turn yourself on in a very new and different way. You will never be the same again.

    NB: Before we do that; yes I am teasing, it goes with the job, but there is just one important point I need to make before we masturbate together—just wait a moment and have a think. You may already know if you have been abused (either sexually or physically) or you might have a sense that it could have happened. If this is the case or if you suddenly are filled with fright at delving into the enchanted forest with me; do, do, do seek some professional help before you go any further (even if you have already had therapy, do get some extra support before going further). This article isn’t going anywhere and neither am I. We will be here when you get back.

    Now, we shall begin.

    So you have unbuttoned your jeans, dropped your skirt and unless you go commando, you have your underwear on. Great. Keep it that way for now and take your mind down to your genitals or wherever down there you feel the most sensitive. If you are handicapable you might of course, need your PA, carer or professional sex worker to do some or all of this for you. Cool. Ask them to take their time with your body as you would yourself if you were able. You are the one in control here. This is how masturbation should be. You are the one controlling the pleasure. Your body will follow your mental and physical stimulus and then, and only then can you surrender into what follows. It’s the way things really work. Feel the tingles? Good. There’s more to cum. Sorry, couldn’t resist.

    If you can lie down, lie down. If you are sitting upright, exhale deeply and relax your jaw. Soften your hips, knees and ankles if you have them. Slowly make a ‘mental sweep’ of your body and mindfully relax each group of muscles from your head downwards and as you do this, gently rub your perineum (Men: the soft bit between your arse and balls and feels like the muscle you clench when stopping yourself pissing or Ladies: the soft fleshy bit just below the bottom of the vulva/opening of the vagina: slightly up and into your body and feels like the muscle you clench when doing pelvic floor exercises). Play with this for a while and notice where the tingles go. Do they stay down there? Or do they travel?

    They travel.

    This is the beginning of teaching yourself how to have a body orgasm and is particularly helpful for people with physical disabilities simply because it shows you that it really, really, isn’t all about the genitals or even how you stimulate them. We really can make magic happen with the right stimulus, the correct attitude and an open mind.

    Let’s go deeper, right now…

    You are lying down or upright in your chair and you have your pants/skirt round your ankles, you dirty thing you! It feels GREAT to be dirty sometimes. It feels amazing to really let go and let that mischief out. Now let your hands wander wherever they want to. If you are handicapable: instruct your carer etc to stroke you gently and sexually wherever you feel comfortable for them to caress you. Use your mouth to hold a sex-aid or adaptation if you want to do the caressing yourself. Now everyone, go to town: touch your nipples, your ears, inside your elbow, armpit, back of the knees, groin, base of penis, glans, clitoris and of course your penis or vagina (don’t forget your vulva!) but go slow. I want to take my time with you. Let’s take our time. Let’s slow things down. Let us both see what makes us tick by touching ourselves. Slowly.

    Really, really, slowly.

    By now you will be wet or have pre-cum celebrating your connection with yourself. How does this feel? How does it feel that you did this? You stimulated your own body and sparked up a two way conversation. All the best relationships have this.

    Now you can pay a little more attention to your genitals or the part of your body that most pleases you—the soft part of your most erogenous zone that does not limit itself to a localised sensation. That part of your body (and it might or might not be your cock or vagina or clit) that when touched sends pleasure shooting in all directions: shudders through your body and into your mind. When you touch yourself here and when you have this place nourished and caressed, it makes you feel whole. This is true masturbation. This is self love and this is what we really need to be doing to get off.

    Let’s get off.

    Together.

    Now let’s bring that solo experience and make something special happen by meeting our experiences and minds right now—you and me.

    We are going to make love.
    Let’s make love right now.
    I love you.
    You love me.
    We are just human beings and we deserve to be cherished in this way.
    Hot.
    Hotter.
    Feel the heat going into you wherever into you is.
    Feel the Light sending shivers up
    Feel the Dark bringing tingles down.
    We need both to survive and we need both to breathe.
    Now—breathe.
    Just breathe.
    Breathe in deeply
    And exhale.
    How was it for you?

    BIG Hug!

    Matt xXx

    NB Please seek medical advice before attempting the exercises mentioned in this article should you require this. Matt cannot be held responsible for any adverse effects experienced as a result of not taking this advice and this article is not to be used in replacement of medical, psychological or emotional support. Please take a look at his forthcoming article ‘A Little Goes A Long Way’ that explains in more detail the more practical, energetic and physical aspects of this way of exploring yourself sexually.

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