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An interview with Dr Francois Fong, Hong Kong’s Sexual Health Practitioner

In the heart of Central, Hong Kong, hidden within its bustling financial district and high-end malls lies Hong Kong’s first specialised Sexual Health Centre, Neo-Health. Founded in 2007 by Dr. Francois Fong, Neo-Health today not only helps its patients deal with sexual health issues, it also provides executive health screening services with the opening of their Neo Health Screening and Specialist Centre in 2014. Housing an in-house laboratory service, they have not only been able to reduce testing times for their patients, but also provide increased privacy and confidentiality.

We’ve had the privilege to interview Neo-Health’s founder and Hong Kong’s first private sexual health practitioner, Dr. Francois Fong.

SimplySxy: Hi Dr Fong, thank you for taking the time to speak with us. It’s truly a privilege for us to hear about sexual health from someone like yourself. Please tell our readers more about yourself.

Dr Fong: My family moved to Melbourne when I was in high school and I completed my undergraduate training in both medicine and medical science at Monash University in Melbourne Australia. I was initially trained as a surgeon but I preferred more personal contact with patients, so I move changed my path in Family Medicine and sub-specialized in sexual medicine

SimplySxy: Tell us why did you decide to set up Neo Health and how did you find yourself becoming a sexual health practitioner and advocate?

Dr Fong: After training in family medicine which emphasizes on an whole person approach in caring for people physically, mentally and socially, I felt that sexual well being of patients is often neglected by medical profession and in particularly in Asia. In many cities in Australia, it is common to see sexual health clinics, such as Melbourne Sexual Health Centre and Sydney Sexual Health Centre. So I thought, Hong Kong being an international City should have a Hong Kong Sexual Health Centre.

However, I believe having a signage with “Sexual Health Centre” would still have stigma for people to feel comfortable to walk in the door. At the time, we did not know how well the service will be perceived and accepted. Neo-Health was set up as we had other services such as health screening, vaccination and family medicine, so people would not feel embarrassed when they enter our center.

SimplySxy: How has your patient demographic changed over time? What do you attribute this to?

Dr Fong: Initially, our patients were 90% expatriates and now roughly 50-50. We initially targeted the expat market as Western patients already have the concept of regular sexual health check-ups and have more positive attitudes in maintaining their sexual well being. Over time, the local patients are becoming more aware of sexual well being and finding us a comfortable place to have sexual health checkups without being worried about being stigmatized. Our emphasis on confidentiality and having our own laboratory played a very important part.

SimplySxy: You’ve lived in Melbourne for some time, what’s the difference culturally in terms of how your patients view sexual health?

Dr Fong: Western culture is more open in discussing sexual health issues and patients are more willing to talk about sexual problem with their doctors. In Hong Kong and many parts of Asia, patients are more reluctant. Sex educations also is conducted far better in Australia than in Hong Kong, such as how to practice safe sex. Today, I was talking with a patient from Australia who has just commented that in Hong Kong, he had come across people who believe that using Vaseline, message oil or even Olive oil as lubricant is ok.

SimplySxy: As you’ve mentioned before, sexual issues don’t just focus on the physical aspect, how is Neo- Health’s approach different?

Dr Fong: Many people believe being sexually healthy means they do not have sexually transmitted infection (STI) or HIV. However, we believe that sexual well being extends to their perception of sex, their own sexual identity as well as their interaction with their sexual partner. For example, many people we see with STI may be so because they have poor relationship (sexual or non-sexual) with their partners. So they may visit sex workers or engage in extra-marital relationship. Not until their relationship issue is addressed, the same behavioral pattern will repeat. When they have bad relationship with their partners, they feel guilty and miserable also. At Neo-Health, we have a team of international trained sex therapists, relationship counselors and psychologists to work on different aspects whether it is personal or couple issues.

SimplySxy: What are some of the most common sexual issues which you’ve encountered?

Dr Fong: We provides regular sexual health screening to patients, as well as managing common STIs such as chlamydia, herpes, genital warts. We also manage patients with HIV. We also manage other sexual issues such as erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, low sexual desire, sex addiction, etc.

SimplySxy: You’ve built Neo-Health into a World Class facility in a short span of time. What are some of the more advanced treatments that you provide?

Dr Fong: The key in providing patient care is to understand patient’s need. I think we have transformed patient care in some aspects. For example, many patients when they want to have a HIV test, they may already in a panic mode. Having to wait for 3 months to be able to have a HIV test is just ridiculous. We popularized the 4^thgeneration HIV test which has a window period of only 2 weeks. But when we send out samples to an outside laboratory, it may take 2 days for the report to come back and much of the time were lost in logistic time while the test only takes an hour to perform. So we decided to set up our own laboratory service with my background in medical science. Even a few years back, it took 2-3 weeks for patients to get confirmation for their HIV status. Now we can provide HIV viral load and CD4 result within hours. We were also one of the few places in Hong Kong that provide Post Exposure Prophylaxis (PEP) and Pre-exposure Prophylaxis (PrEP) in Hong Kong for HIV prevention.

SimplySxy: What are your future plans for Neo-Health?

Dr Fong: We hope to continue to work with our partners such as NGOs or other organizations in promotion of sexual health as well as sex education. I have been conducting many lectures to doctors, pharmacists and nurses. It would be my vision to develop a medical specialty in sexual medicine in Hong Kong. For Neo-Health, it would be to expand on my vision that every city should have a sexual health centre like what we have now.

SimplySxy: As a sexual health practitioner, what are your biggest challenges?

Dr Fong: The most difficult part is to find partners with similar vision and personal characters. Sexual health practitioners have to be passionate, empathetic, non-judgmental and with very good communication skills. Skills can be trained but bed-side manner takes much longer to cultivate.

We’d ideally like to have some personal questions which Dr Fong can choose not to answer but we think that other than the professional side, it’s good to showcase a personal aspect to it as well.

SimplySxy: Have you had patients ask you to share your own experiences outside of the medical domain during treatment?

Dr Fong: I think during consultations, I do focus mainly on the patient’s problem. However, some gay patients did asked me whether I am a member because I seem to understand them so well.

SimplySxy: How does being a sexual health practitioner impact your own sex life?

Dr Fong: When we see patients, sometimes we do reflect on our own personal life and seeing others problems will help us to avoid pitfalls in our own life. I think it is good to understand these and to avoid one stumbling the same way and helping other to avoid troubles.

SimplySxy: Thank you very much Dr Fong for your time! Before we go, tell us, what’s sexy to you?

Dr Fong: Wet healthy looking figures.

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Email: sexhealth@neohealth.com.hk
Contact: (852)3162 0001

Website: http://www.neohealth.com.hk/

Address: 21/F Li Dong Building, 9 Li Yuen Street East, Central, Hong Kong

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June 30, 2015
Interview with the authors of Taken By The Sheikh

SimplySxy: Hi Christina, thank you for taking your time out and for sharing your exciting upcoming project with us. Could you tell us more about Secret Confessions and the inspiration behind this story?

Christina: Thank you for having us! My brief for my Secret Confessions heroine was New Age/old money. Willow came to me soon after Escape invited me to join the continuity. She’s been in love with her best friend Seb since she was 17, nine years ago. I had a lot of fun with rose petals in this story (and so did Willow and Seb!)
Cathleen: Our publisher Escape Publishing gave us the general storyline. I had to write a domme which I found terribly difficult as it is opposite to my nature. Mind you, I could learn from Nella and I think I’ve grown tougher since I wrote her. The dog obeys me sometimes now. Still working on my husband.
Mel: My storyline is a Cinderella type of story. The wealthy, handsome man who sweeps the penniless waitress and uni student off her feet. She’s the much younger wife in this series who adores her husband as much as he adores her. It’s a sweet romance with hot sex scenes. I loved writing this.

SimplySxy: Congratulations on Taken by the Sheikh for topping the best seller lists on Amazon UK. We would like to know about the collaboration efforts behind this series. How did the idea of having three novels with different writers come about?

Christina: I’d wanted to be involved in a boxed set for a while but had no idea how to go about doing it. Then Cathleen contacted me to ask if I’d be interested in a collaboration with her and Mel. The three of us have been good friends for several years and I love their work, so this was a very easy decision to make!
Cathleen: I really like Mel Tescho’s and Christina Phillips’ work so I asked them to collaborate in a boxed set. Mel was already writing a sheikh story so I said lets run with that. We have come up with other ideas too. Taken by the Biker, Taken by the Highlander, Taken by the Yeti.
Mel: What Cathleen said! But umm, Taken by the Yeti?? Lol—maybe we’ll do a purple prose book with lots of silly OTT characters!

SimplySxy: One of the challenges we can think of with having different writers is to keep the story and tone going on. How did Cathleen, Mel and yourself work to put everything together?
Christina: We worked out the overall story arc and figured out which bits of information needed to be shown in each book, and once we knew where we were going with that it wasn’t so hard to write our own stories. As for the cover, I wanted Henry Cavill 🙂
Cathleen: For some reason this didn’t seem so hard. We workshoped ideas. Christina is the most romantic of us all so we stuck her in the middle. I have the toughest hero so I rounded the books off, but for the next boxed set we will change places. I think the concept of having three brothers in terrible trouble worked well. Getting the right hero for the cover was the hardest because Mel fancies anemic looking heroes. Fortunately we all had one vote on the cover choice and Christina went my way, which was lucky because Mel’s choice of cover male really needed a good steak.
Mel: We did work really well together, and our critiques for one another were brilliant in different ways as we all have our strengths and weaknesses. If anything came up we weren’t sure on, or we had a brainwave, we’d email and then agree/disagree pretty quickly. We had to make certain we were all willing to give and take. And I still like my Johnny Depp lookalike cover model …

SimplySxy: The three of you are also doing Secret Confessions: Sydney Housewives. Please share with our readers some insights into each of your individual novels?

Christina: Willow is the daughter of a beautiful socialite who always manages to make Willow feel inadequate, and an A list Hollywood action movie star. Although Willow’s been in love with Seb for years, there’s a huge obstacle preventing them from getting together. But Seb is nothing if not resourceful!
Cathleen: My readers have said Nella is the most shocking of the housewives to read. It made me proud and glad I write under an assumed name. I really had to dig deep as a writer to come up with some of the things Nella did to her husband. I think I scorched my eyeballs.
Mel: Camilla is the young, innocent, gorgeous redhead who is a little too trusting. Her husband, Drake, only wants to protect his wife. The trouble is most of the women in her husband’s circle aren’t so enamored by her.

SimplySxy: What’s your favourite genre within erotica and why?

Christina: I’m currently into bad boy heroes. It’s part of the fantasy of taming the beast; that love brings even the baddest boy to his knees.
Cathleen: I’m really enjoying heroine abduction stories and zombies so long as the zombies are the external conflict and not the hero.
Mel: I love alpha heroes, particularly a hero with some kind of superpower—I’ve been reading a lot of dragon/phoenix/vampire (paranormal) stories and hope they make a big resurgence soon! I’m working on a paranormal story with a mutant hero.

SimplySxy: If you could bring one of your characters to life, which one would it be?
Christina: I still have a real soft spot for the hero of my second historical romance set in Roman Britain. Bren has been through hell and is so tortured I just want to wrap my arms around him and make everything better. I’ve recently had the rights returned to me on this book by Penguin and will be self publishing it (along with the other three books in this series) later this year.
Cathleen: I want to meet my captain of BASE, a novel I’ve just turned in to Escape publishing. I lived on a navy base for some time next door to a navy mine clearance diver. He had the best body I’ve ever seen and personality to match. Actually the truth is I can’t remember his personality.
Mel: Definitely my mutant hero—talk about tortured! Also, not many men could carry me in a hurry, but he’d do it with ease …

SimplySxy: Do you have any unusual writing rituals and how do you get yourself in the mood to write?
Christina: I don’t think my rituals are unusual, as I need to check my emails before I start writing. Then I need to check Facebook and maybe Twitter. Then I put some lip balm on (this helps me think …) As for getting in the mood, when you have deadlines poking you in the eye you just have to get on with it no matter how much you’d rather be doing something else!
Cathleen: I have to tire my dog out by taking him to the park, otherwise he slams down my computer lid with his paws, which is really annoying. I also have to go, Where’s the possum,” so he runs around looking for it, which buys me more two-handed writing time.
Mel: I like to write freehand where there are no distractions. I find at least half of my book is written that way. Also looming deadlines really tend to get you in the mood LOL.

SimplySxy: There are a lot of aspiring erotica/erotic romance writers who aim to be successful, which usually translates to having a best seller or being nominated/winning an award. What is your advice to them?
Christina: Read across the genre and also outside it so you’re aware of what’s out there. I belong to RWAus and highly recommend joining a writing organization for the support, encouragement and advice. Consider teaming up with critique partners or entering contests for honest feedback on your work. This not only helps strengthen your writing, it helps toughen your skin which is vital since when you’re published not everyone is going to love your work. And they will let you know…
Cathleen: Be prolific, work at your craft all the time. If you self publish make sure, you use a good book designer and editor. Be professional at all times. Practise, practise, practise.
Mel: Don’t just jump in and expect to write a best seller first go around (though this has been known to happen). Most authors spend years honing their craft, entering competitions and joining writing groups like RWA. It’s a HUGE learning curve.

SimplySxy: A well written and descriptive sex scene is always loved by most readers as it allows the mind to imagine things to the last detail. But erotic novels are surely more than just steamy sex scenes?
Christina: I’ve always enjoyed writing steamy romance and while I also write erotic romance the key word for me here is “romance”. I find reading a sex scene without any emotional connection between the characters very meh. That doesn’t mean the characters need to be in love with each other. My characters often don’t love each other until towards the end of the book, but there’s always that emotional connection as well as the blazing hot lust. For me, the sex scenes are pivotal to the characters’ growth, and afterwards dynamics between them have changed in some way or another.
Cathleen: I tend to write romance and erotic romance rather than erotica these days. You still have to have well-rounded believable characters, a goal they are trying to reach, a well thought out internal and external conflict that makes your reader want to read on and a good story. As a writer you are still using all the writing techniques you would for any genre, the difference is when I write a sex/love scene I slow the camera down and put in more detail. Sex itself is not enough. As an author, you have to hook your reader with a compelling story. If it is erotic romance, then the hook needs to have a sexual premise and the sex can happen sooner than in a traditional romance. The couples often have sex then find love.
Mel: A sex scene without showing the characters emotions is like watching something mechanical unfolding. I’m presently writing a story (Ours to Share) where two women and a man have amazing chemistry at first sight, but translating the sex scene into something emotive when they don’t know one another isn’t easy.

SimplySxy: A creative mind and vivid imagination can definitely bring a story to life, but there is definitely a ceiling to it. Surely experience between the sheets and in the bedroom is going to help in coming out with these stories?
Christina: Authors are always going to bring some of their own experience into their books, whether directly or indirectly. And when you need more, there’s the fun of research. For example, I’ve never been in a d/s relationship but that’s something I can research so my characters are authentic. Love and sex are two very primal human needs which make them fascinating to explore and read about, but the imagination is a wonderful thing and doesn’t always have a ceiling.
Cathleen: My husband is very embarrassing, telling anyone who will listen that he is my muse and while there are certainly some elements of truth in that statement, there is only so much the body can do. You still have to have a compelling story. The lovemaking has to be a plot point, moving the romance forward in some way. You can’t as an erotic romance author write a book full of vanilla sex. You do have to be more creative. Sometimes I do test out the husband guinea pig but not all the time. When writing my Secret Housewife, I wrote scenes I personally don’t find remotely erotic nor did I try out the things Nella did to her husband, so imagination can play a large role. It had to in this case because Nella was plain scary to me.
Mel: My husband wishes he was my guinea pig LOL. If only he could do half the stuff my paranormal heroes do (gusty sigh)—still, there’s bound to be a grain of experience in every sex scene.

SimplySxy: Thank you very much for your time and taking the effort to answer these questions.

Taken by the Sheikh Boxed Set by Mel Teshco, Christina Phillips, Cathleen Ross
Three desert Sheikhs. Three captive brides…
Bound by duty to honor their father’s dying wish, three royal brothers must marry their destined brides … by whatever means necessary…

Book 1: Hostage to the Sheikh ~ Mel Teshco
Book 2: The Sheikh’s Mistaken Bride ~ Christina Phillips
Book 3: Sold to the Sheikh ~ Cathleen Ross

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Secret Confessions: Sydney Housewives

From the hottest writers in Australia comes a scintillating new series. Enter the world of Sydney’s elite, and find out what goes on behind the doors of the most exclusive addresses in the country…

Meet the Housewives of Sydney. They are wealthy, elegant, poised, and constantly in the public eye. But what goes on behind closed doors, in the private homes and parties where the cameras and paparazzi aren’t welcome? Delve into the most personal details of their relationships, their friendships and their lives. The only question is: can you handle the heat?

Nella by Cathleen Ross

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Willow by Christina Phillips

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Camilla by Mel Teshco

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February 23, 2015
Interview with xSync

Hi Alan, you’ve got an interesting product here. Tell us more about it.

Hi there SimplySxy, I’m enthused to tell you more! And thank you so much for having us! xSync is a wireless technology that hyper-synchronizes your favorite vibrator to precise sensory cues in adult videos and all other media. When one watches porn by themselves, the typical “self pleasure” routine can get a bit, well…mechanical, and rehearsed over time. What I mean by this is, it can gradually lapse into a mundane routine lacking in true sexual fulfillment.

But xSync changes the game. Instead of you fiddling with buttons, xSync lets you enjoy the experience while allowing you to deeply immerse yourself directly in the peaks and valleys of the hottest scenes. It really is about as close as you can get to experiencing your favorite porn scene fall right into your lap, all without having to leave your own room. (Or office. Or car. Etc.)

So how does that immersion feel?

According to our beta testers—little short of mind-blowing! In fact, let me share a little anecdote about one of our first test users, we’ll call her ‘Sarah’.

Sarah was nestled cozily in her room while checking out our first demo flick, accompanied by her favorite vibrator. Scene 1: a blow job. Now, I’ve been told by numerous times that women often “skip” or fast forward blowjob scenes so they can get to the “good parts”, so to speak. Keep in mind, it’s not that they don’t like giving blowjobs, it’s just that watching them on video simply fails to turn them on like real life sex.

But here’s the plot twist for Sarah when the blow job scene started…

Her jaw literally dropped to the floor. The sensations hit her—in real time, and she found herself planted in the exact moment, enjoying every single detail of every single second. The afternoon she relayed this to me, I knew in that single moment that we’d built something that was not only sensational and realistic, but could change the way porn was viewed and experienced for everyone.

And one more interesting detail about xSync. It can control multiple vibrators at the same time, as long as they are near the wireless signal. That’s it! So now you and a friend, or even a group, can put on a sexy adult flick and simultaneously enjoy the delicious details. Talk about a party! Or you can go on a solo adventure and play with multiple toys at once. Either way it’s a brand new experience that’s never been available before.

Needless to say, the range of experiences one can have with xSync are vast and varied. And we know that when our customers get to experience what it can do for them sexually, they aren’t going to go back to the old traditional way of watching porn with their vibrators buzzing monotonously ever again.

Does it work with all porn?

Yes, it sure can! But one thing I’d like to point out is that we don’t host any of our own videos. Instead, xSync actually powers the syncing technology behind existing websites. Many sites are already fully compatible with xSync, so it’s a piece of cake for us to add new and exciting websites as our service continues to grow.

A very common misconception is that we sync merely the sound in the videos. Sure, this may work well in some situations, but when it comes to syncing with adult videos and porn, it’s limiting and frankly—not a complete picture of the scene.

Instead, we have an awesomely elite team of engineers who run our proprietary software to analyze specific on-screen actions and sync them to the precise intensities and patterns of the vibrator. Then it’s in our library. Users can enjoy it all immediately.

We’re also thrilled when we receive requests from our users. In fact, our entire library is built around our users’ favorite adult videos. If any user wants to try xSync with their favorite adult video, we welcome them to hit up www.xsync.com and we’ll get them set up on our pilot program. That’s it!

By the way, it’s crucial that I point out that ALL of the videos we support are sex positive. I think that’s pretty self-explanatory. My fiancé, team, and I, are outspoken advocates of the sex positive movement, and it doesn’t matter if you’re gay, straight, lesbian, BDSM, hardcore, or a little in between. We plan on having you covered on all levels and tastes!

Now tell us, what inspired you to create xSync?

For a long time in the making, I wanted to be able to re-create the natural spontaneity of sexual stimulation in an intimate encounter. A few years back I started to closely examine all the sex toys available in the market and, honestly, there wasn’t much that really filled that “missing gap” that I was looking for. I finally began my research, and several months later I finished the now patent-pending design. And the results couldn’t have been any better!

Shortly thereafter, I met my fiancée, Kathleen, and since then, she and I have been jointly helming xSync. While I handle the technical aspects, Kathleen has this uncanny, intuitive ability to connect with people. She’s had that gift all her life, and it’s like nothing I’ve seen before. She lovingly gave xSync a character and identity that resonates with people. It truly has been an intellectual labor of love and fun for us…and I’d like to quip that we’ve experienced first-hand just how easy it can add to a couple’s intimate life.

Our #1 inspiration for xSync has been to help women, couples, and our friends in the LGBT community to explore their own sexuality by completely immersing themselves into the erotic fantasies from their favorite videos. These videos can range from your run-of-the-mill sex flick, to the mainstream 50 Shades of Grey. We truly feel we’re only getting started, and that the future applications for xSync to help and entertain people will only continue to grow.

We’re seeing a ton of new and innovative toys come out on the market, from the We-Vibe Couples Vibrator, the Revel Body Sonic Vibrator and now the xSync. It’s like Sex is going high tech. As a toy designer, do you think that it’s just human nature to find new ways to get off?

Yes. Absolutely. I do think that it’s human nature to always be seeking something new and exciting. People love to be entertained. People love to feel good. People love to explore, to be sexual, to push the boundaries and have mind-numbing orgasms. Why wouldn’t they? It’s exciting, it’s liberating…and it’s great for the mind and body!

As for the sex toy market, sure, there are always new sex tech products coming out and we’re thrilled to see this. We aren’t actually toy designers, we’re instead filling in the gap between technology and toys. To do this we’ve created xO—our wireless remote for LELO vibrators. It’s a cool little piece of technology that jumpstarts your existing sex toys.

In short, we are a sex-positive technology team vividly syncing up your favorite videos.

Thanks Alan, before we close off, tell us, how do you define “sexy”?

Oh, that’s a fantastic question! A part of me wonders if the word “sexy” could even be defined. Or should it? “Sexy” is such a subjective word, and over analysis potentially subtracts from that “je ne sais quoi” that keeps it secretive and alluring.

But if you ask me personally what you think my definition of sexy is, I think it comes down to being truly authentic, being confident in yourself (and even your body and sexuality), and your own unique, magnetic spark. We can’t fake being sexy. It doesn’t work that way. It has to be truly felt. When you feel it at the core of your being, it radiates around you, and other people sense it.

When you take the time to explore your sexuality, you unlock what it means for you to be sexy.
It’s been a pleasure. Thank you for having us, SimplySxy.

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January 31, 2015
Interview with Dr Shannon Chavez

Hi Dr Chavez, thanks for taking the time for us to get to know you better. So tell us, what made you decide that you wanted to be a sex therapist?

I believe sex is one of the most fascinating and diverse topics that exists and affects every single human being. I also learned from very early on that sex caused the most pain and pleasure in one’s life. There are so many mixed messages about how much one should know about sex, how to behave sexually, and when and how it’s acceptable to be sexual. Sex is how we all got here and becoming empowered and informed around sexuality can change someone’s life forever. I knew I wanted to be a part of this change and to help bring awareness to the importance of sexual health to overall health and well-being. My mission as a sex therapist is to break down the barriers that hold individuals and couples back from experiencing their full sexual potential, help resolve sexual concerns that cause distress and pain, and encourage sexual self-exploration and discovery at any age.

So what exactly is the mind-body approach which your work focuses upon and how does it translate to the variety of programmes that you offer?

The mind-body approach that I use incorporates the connection between our thoughts, values, and beliefs around sexuality to our sexual functioning in the body. This approach looks at the brain as our biggest sex organ and how understanding our sexuality helps to alleviate problems we may experience in sexual expression. I use techniques of mindfulness, somatic experiencing, cognitive-behavioral therapy, and sex therapy to create an integrated treatment modality for different sexual concerns. My goal in using a mind-body approach is to give each client a sense of control over how their body functions and to reduce stress, anxiety, and trauma that gets locked up in the body and becomes a barrier to sexual satisfaction. At the end of my work with clients, it is my hope that they feel more sexually empowered, reconnected, and informed.

Is the Big ‘O’ something that’s crucial for sexual success?

Every person’s experience to orgasm varies and it is not a crucial factor in experiencing sexual pleasure. My goal for every client is to learn to give and receive pleasure. I want my clients to experience sex as a whole-bodied experience and to not get lost in the focus on performance or the outcome. Orgasm is a reflex and learned response that can be incorporated into treatment for specific sexual concerns, if indicated.

What’s the most important sex tip you can share with our readers?

The first relationship you should work on is the one with yourself. Get to know your body, how it works, and what your needs are. This is crucial before you can share and communicate sexual desires with a partner.

Self-stimulation is also important for sexual health. Break down your taboos about “masturbation” and know that self-stimulation has mental and physical benefits and can improve sexual self-esteem and confidence. Give yourself the pleasure you deserve!

In your opinion, what’s the most game changing sex toy on the market today?

I am a big fan of the We Vibe 4. It works great for direct clitoral stimulation, has a new design that can stimulate the internal clitoral shaft, or G-spot, and can be a couple’s device that allows for penetration—with a remote. It has a comfortable fit and is made from 100% medical-grade silicone. Great form, design, and fun for individual or couples play.

One last question before we close off, how do you define sexy?

Sexy is all about attitude. I like to think about the word as “sex-e” or “sex educated”. The more we know about sex, the better we feel about our sexuality and sexual expression. Becoming sexually educated and informed creates sex-positive attitudes that can improve confidence, appeal, and awareness.

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January 21, 2015
Interview with Lady Classy Eve

SimplySxy: A very good day to you Classy Eve. Could you give our readers at SimplySxy an introduction of yourself?

Classy Eve: Thank you, the same for you! Well, I’m 49 years old and I’m from Canada. My first photo shoot was in 2007. My hubby asked me to do this for a while, always showing me some amateur website telling me that I was “hot enough” to send some pics of myself. That wasn’t easy at first even if we were looking through porn mag and videos. I had to work hard to find a look that I was happy with, the pose, etc. I’m not a natural, you know. By the way, I admire those women who do this professionally. Boy! They’re really good. After a couple of trials and errors, I sent my first set, corset, boots and a glass of red wine. Something between sweet romance and a naughty bad girl. A concept that we had in mind and still using today.

Maybe I was lucky enough I don’t know but with this first photo session, we did the cover of an amateur’s website. Got a lot of nice and really hot comments from the readers. So I finally conclude that “maybe I was cute enough to do some more”. And we did!

Seven years later, I have my own website trying to find new ideas and keep posing for you, which I love to do. But because of my professional life, working in the financial domain, I’d wish I could do it on a regular base but I can’t. Maybe one day!

SimplySxy: How did the name Classy Eve come about?

Classy Eve: I’ve been always attracted by the 50’s fashion, the movies, the music. I found, one day, in my father’s drawers a really beautiful picture of Bettie Page. Thanks Dad for this! I think I have it somewhere in my things at home again because I stole it from him. Don’t tell him, please, lol! I was 10 or 11 years old and it changed my life! I knew that one day, I‘ll be wearing those tight skirts, dresses and really high heels shoes.

When I started modeling, it was so clear and evident in my mind that that was the look I was searching for, a classy one mixed with this little edgy side, you know! The “I’m a good housewife but I’m also a…” look!

SimplySxy: Did you always have a high sex drive from a young age or did it come as you got older?

Classy Eve: Boy, no! As a teenager, I wasn’t the hot ticket at school. I have big tits and especially my nipples, were always hard! A fact that I admitted later was an advantage as a woman. They’re long and pointed. At that time, I was shy to have those long nipples. I was always trying to hide them, using big sweaters, etc. even if Bettie Page was my number 1 hero.

I had a moderate sex life, a couple of boyfriends, casual sex, BJs. No anal even if they asked me for it. No lesbian sex though. Strangely, I wasn’t into lesbian sex at first. A strange story happened one day to my hubby that got me into lesbian sex. He’s really into older woman and I caught him with his boss’s widow. That’s turned me on so much that I couldn’t resist to play with this beautiful lady instead of my husband. Now I considered myself a total bi-woman and I’ve some really memorable sex sessions that way. One day, if you want, I will tell you the whole story. Pretty amazing!

I met my hubby at university and got married, nothing special, even if we were experimenting in new areas, such as using toys, anal sex and flashing. It was like “OK let’s do it to see if it turns both on”. If you’re into porn videos, there were a lot more hard things than we were experimenting in those movies at that time.

And one day, we found it by accident. It started at home as some kind of a joke, my husband began to talk dirty to me, told me I was his fucking bitch and would used me as his whore in the streets. And that was it, we found a way that stimulated our sex life so much. At home, I was his personal whore and he was my pimp! We were hooked to that lifestyle. Serious by day but dirty and naughty at home. 24/7.

SimplySxy: Please share with us your journey from being a classy lady to a slutty MILF today

Classy Eve: I’m with my husband for more than 20 years and am 49 now. At the beginning, I wasn’t, as I said, into sex that much. We had some good hot fucking sessions as you know. Remembered this one time in our car while I was driving and jerking him off at the same time. I would pretty much do everything with him but the sparks wasn’t really there. You know, THE thing.

I knew that my husband liked to watch porn movies and read magazines, like every guy on earth. 12 years ago, he showed me an amateur porn site and I was blown away. I don’t know if I can tell you the name of the site here but let me tell you that the woman I saw was the hottest woman on earth. She’s from Hawaii. You probably know her very well. And she’s now, I guess, 60 or something years old. Her style was so awesome. She influenced us to find our look and style. I’d do everything to meet her. Anyway…

At the beginning, my hubby bought a lot of kinky outfits like boots to enhance our sex life and he began to call me a slut, bitch and whore when we were doing our role plays. That was strange but after a while, I discovered that when he wasn’t there I was thinking about those fuck sessions.

So, I asked myself why guys were looking at porn so much. And I understood that they’re always looking for new excitement, probably because they think that they’ve missed something because they’re engaged, married and whatever …

So I said: “Let’s do it this way!” And I remembered how awesome was Bettie Page the first time I saw her. So I transposed it in a real life situation easily. A new slutty attitude. From the bedroom to the boardroom. Lol!

One day, I went to see my hubby at his office dressed like a real lady, more like a whore actually. Nylons, 5 inches heels, tight skirt, etc. Even the secretary didn’t recognize me at first. I entered the office and he was finishing a short meeting with his younger employees. I played the game, sliding smoothly my heels on the floor to get a glass of water, the way which I sat down, and I played the total slutty MILF. And when I began to play with my heels, dangling them, the guys stopped talking and began to take a glimpse at me. That was it!

After that, it was a part of our sex life, teasing, flashing, etc. My hubby pushed me more and more in this direction. Only grab opportunities was our motto!

We’re not into the swinger’s scene but if we had a chance to have some fun, why not? Guys wanted to flirt with me in bars? I could play with their cocks while my hubby was sitting beside me drinking; go to the restroom flashing off my tits and letting them play with it. We haven’t had a properly threesome, we were only aware of those moments to tease people and see how they would react. And we talked a lot to put things really down and clear. That’s really important. Bottom line, it definitely glued our relationship together really.

Read Part II and find out what is Lady Classy Eve’s most memorable slutty sex experience here http://simplysxy.com/articles/2015/01/11/milfs/

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January 11, 2015
An Interview with Lee Rene by Kristin Aragon

I recently connected with writer Lee Rene. Lee Rene is the nom de plume of a Los Angeles-based author of erotic romances and New Adult novels. Although Lee has attempted writing romances in the past, she finally found her voice in the world of erotic literature. Lee has authored the new erotic romance – The New Orleans Hothouse, and was quite enthused to talk about her maiden voyage into erotic romance, a journey that took years.

Kristin: Hi Lee, it’s great of you to find a moment to chat about your upcoming novel, The New Orleans Hothouse. Tell us a bit about yourself?

Lee: I’ve been writing since I was a kid. I had a poem published in an anthology at fourteen, but though I had the knack, I didn’t have the discipline or the will it takes to become an author. Not only must a writer learn the rules of his or her craft, but writers also have to be selfish with their time. I just couldn’t do it. The muse tapped me on my shoulder in New Orleans, and I began writing in earnest, first working for a lifestyle magazine, then writing movie reviews. Fiction remained difficult and although I always wanted to write romances, they eluded me until I entered the world of erotic romance, then everything came together.

Kristin: Romance versus erotic romance? Would you mind explaining a little about the differences?

Lee: Erotic romance versus standard romances allows a writer to explore all elements of a romance including the carnal. I could let me hair down without censoring myself, use stories my friends had told me about their relationships and their erotic lives. Since my protagonist, Danny Rothstein, was a young guy, it allowed me to examine how men view sex as opposed to women.

Kristin: As a person who has gotten to know you over time, I’ve learned you love to stage your novels in the 1950s. Is there a particular reasoning behind the period?

Lee: The fifties was a turbulent time regarding sex. Feminism had emerged, women were working outside of the home, and sexual attitudes were changing. Still, the concept of sexual harassment was an alien one and girls who loved sex were still considered whores. I love New Orleans and had read a great deal about New Orleans in the 1950s when the New Orleans went through a growth spurt, and exotic dancers were the queens of the city. I threw in a bit of Mad Men and The New Orleans Hothouse was born. I have another manuscript set in the 50s New Orleans that involves gangsters and police corruption; afterward, I want to switch focus to contemporary romance.

Kristin: You made your protagonist a young man and rather sexist from contemporary views. Tell me a little about that?

Lee: I loved writing in the male voice. I found it freeing. Not only did it allow for variety, but I could also make the language a bit cruder than it would be from a young woman of the same period. I found it liberating to get into a man’s head, be as raunchy as I liked yet show the humanity underneath. Danny is at heart a terrific guy, but he’s been spoiled by women and never heard the word “no.” He meets a girl who uses him for her own pleasure in the same way the way men often use women and it shocks him. Danny isn’t ready for a truly liberated woman, it is the 1950s after all, and immediately labels her a slut. Later he realizes what a fabulous girl she is and his arc as a human begins.

Writing as a male allowed me to explore the double standard that was so prevalent during that period. I didn’t make Danny wrong for some of his views, i.e., nice girls don’t do “that”, just misguided. It was also important for me not to “slut shame” Yvette, my female character, or any of the other female characters either. I wanted them to embrace their sexuality and not be totally dependent on a man for their sexual pleasure. It’s a theme I hope to explore more fully in the future.

Kristin: How would you compare this with other popular erotic romances?

Lee: I really got into “pillow talk” and tried to make it as explicit as possible. Perhaps it’s been my own experience that dirty talk turns people on when they are making love. I remember a friend saying she had to have a man who “talked that talk.” Look at the success of that song, Talk Dirty to Me. People, male and female, love it.

Kristin: I, personally, cannot think of a better place for an erotic romp, but why did you choose New Orleans?

Lee: New Orleans is so sexy— the music, the mystery, the history. I remember staying in the Quarter one year and not being able to sleep from all the sexual activity around me. It truly is Erotic City, a dark, dangerous, and romantic place.

Thank you, Lee, for answering some of our questions. You have given us some insight into your experience writing your novel, which is much appreciated. Good luck with sales, and I hope to hear more from you soon. The New Orleans Hothouse goes on sale December 30, 2014. ONLINE ONLY! Get your copy HERE.

Stay tuned for an exclusive excerpt from The New Orleans Hothouse tomorrow!

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December 31, 2014
Interview with Vanessa Ho’s Project X: Advocacy group for sex workers’ rights

Project X is an advocacy group for sex workers’ rights in Singapore. We believe that sex work is work and that sex workers should be treated with dignity and respect. We seek to end stigma, discrimination, and all verbal, physical, emotional, and financial violence against sex workers.

SimplySxy: You’ve been running Project X for a while now. Do you think the challenges have changed since you first took over?

No, I don’t think the challenges have changed. But I would like to highlight one of the constant challenges we face that is quite telling about society’s attitudes towards sex.

In people’s minds, a sex worker is always gendered female and that there are only two types of sex workers—the nymphomaniacal slut and the unwilling sex slave. The reactions people have towards issues that sex workers face are either “she deserved it” or “oh you poor thing let me save you”. Both of these conceptions reveal how society views sex workers—less than human. To reduce a sex worker’s experience and livelihood to just their sex drive is to avoid seeing that the worker is a human being who has made informed choices about what they wish to do. To view a sex worker as someone pitiful and in need of rescue is to rob that person of their agency and to be blind to the intersectional nature of oppression.

These polar opposites mindsets also uncover another misconception that most people seem to have—that consent (the nymphomaniacal slut) and coercion (the unwilling sex slave) are binary opposites instead of being on a dynamic spectrum.

SimplySxy: We’re curious, what drives you to do what you do?

A strong dislike for mornings (I work when the sun goes down), and a strong desire to see an end to human rights violations.

SimplySxy: You were in America earlier this year to meet your counterparts from around the world. How was that experience?

It was life-changing. The Third Sector in the United States is very mature as compared to the one in Singapore. The level of professionalism was particularly eye-opening and inspiring. I left the US with a much better understanding of how to run an organization, how to better further the cause, and of course, with a great network of really amazing people–people I wish to grow up to become.

SimplySxy: Today’s generation grew up with the Internet and access to all the information in the world. How do you think we should approach sex education for youths today?

I am a strong believer in talking to youths about sex in an open, non-judgmental, and honest ways. If I were to come up with a sex education curriculum (for teachers and parents), I would firstly do away with all euphemisms—no “birds and bees”, no “flowers” or “seeds”. I find it troubling that we were taught to avoid having honest discussions about sex. Words like “vagina”, “penis”, and “sexual intercourse” should be used regardless of what age the person is. I believe that doing so will enable the person to take sex education seriously—to see that it is no giggling matter as youths so often do.

Secondly, I would be careful not to conflate sex with love. There are asexual relationships, purely physical sex, and everything else in between. To conflate sex with love implicitly promotes some kind of “ideal” relationship and pressures people into conforming to it. This inevitably results in the policing of sex and relationships that we see and hear of so often.

Thirdly, I would remove all fear-mongering material. No sole focus on gory pictures of infected genitals, no videos about abortion, no horror stories about teenage pregnancy. Inculcating an association of sex with fear serves no educational purposes; fear-mongering is a tactic in indoctrination.

My sex education curriculum will also have a heavy focus on understanding consent. At the end of the day, to have sex or not should be an informed choice. And to be able to exercise that agency requires the ability to say yes, no, or maybe depending on the circumstances. Hence, consent is of utmost importance in my opinion.

Education should be about providing students with knowledge so that one can form one’s own opinions, and tools so that they are able assert them.

SimplySxy: Thanks for your time Vanessa. Before we go, tell us, how do you define sexy?

I think someone who is sexy is someone who is in touch with their sexual and/or asexual side. It is someone who has had honest conversations with themselves about sex, gender, and sexuality, and is able to have those conversations with their intimate partners. It is someone who knows their boundaries and is able to assert them. And it is also someone who is willing to try new things. 🙂

Vanessa Ho

Project Coordinator

http://theprojectx.org/ | http://twitter.com/ProjectX_SG

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December 1, 2014
Interview with Dave Nunez

After interviewing some of the biggest names in porn, SimplySxy turns the table on Dave Nunez, host of Just Guy Talk and Radio After Dark in the US to find out more about his radio shows, his view on sex and the biggest sex tip he’s picked up to date.

SimplySxy: Thanks for taking the time chat Dave. This has been long overdue. How has it been with Just Guy Talk and Radio After Dark?
Dave: Everything is going great. We’ve been adding followers/listeners. Both shows are syndicated on a larger network, planetplatypus.com and consistently rank in the top 7 shows.

SimplySxy: What has been the main driving force behind your shows?
Dave: I think part of it has been the need for attention and recognition. Everyone loves instant gratification. We don’t always get that in our daily jobs. Also the desire to succeed in an area where I have no formal training.

SimplySxy: How do you think we can get over this whole hurdle of promoting sex positivity?

Dave: That’s a tough one. Society needs to be more open-minded and accepting about sex. And it starts with education, for adults and children alike. Adults shy away from questions because they don’t know the answers themselves. They need to seek out the material. Sites like SimplySxy.com provide the content to the public with the articles, blog and sexperts. If they get educated it makes the communication process to their kids easier. Schools should be allowed to teach real sex education. TV, movies and music all reflect sex in some form or fashion. Our kids are influenced by these outlets daily. It will be a long process.

SimplySxy: You’ve been interviewing some of the biggest stars in the porn. What’s the most important sex tip that you’ve picked up?

Dave: Don’t try to fuck like a porn star! Actually the best advice came from Holli & Michael the “swinger couple” from Playboy Radio’s “Swing Podcast”. They believe in T.T.L.C., trust, talk, listen and communicate. If you follow these four points with your partner then your sex life should be enjoyable and healthy.

SimplySxy: So we hear that you started a new site, Blue Streak Radio. Tell us more about that.

Dave: Blue Streak Radio is a collection of podcasts I’m putting together. My plan is to eventually create a live streaming network from the website that covers adult, sports, comedy, entertainment and women’s topics. So far we have five shows total. I hope to be up and running by Q3 of 2015.

SimplySxy: One last question before we end off. How do you define sexy?

Dave: I believe its a confidence within yourself to meet people, socialize and be positive. Also you have to comfortable with your body. We may not all have the physique of those in Hollywood so be happy with physical attributes you do have. If you carry yourself with confidence and poise people will notice. Thanks.

SimplySxy: Thank you for your time Dave. It’s been great having you to share your thoughts with our readers. Please catch Dave live on Blue Streak Radio.

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November 19, 2014
Sheri Winston shares her Succulent Sexcraft

As one of the top United States’ leading sexuality educators, Sheri Winston has been helping men and women everywhere to have great sex and erotic connections. Sheri offers sexuality and intimate arts classes (in-person and online), facilitates workshops and retreats and gives professional trainings to a wide range of students. She’s the award-winning author of Women’s Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure (AASECT 2010 Book of the Year). Her fifteen years as a wholistic sexuality teacher developed out of her previous career of twenty-five years as a certified nurse-midwife, gynecology nurse-practitioner, educator and massage therapist. With her new book Succulent Sexcraft launching in a week, SimplySxy takes the opportunity to interview Sheri and get her thoughts.

SimplySxy: Hi Sheri! Congratulations on the upcoming release of your new book Succulent Sexcraft: Your Hands-On Guide to Erotic Play and Practice coming out this 14th September. There must be a lot of excitement and anticipation building as the follow up to the award winning Women’s Anatomy of Arousal. Where did the inspiration for Succulent Sexcraft come from?

Sheri Winston: Succulent Sexcraft is based on the core of the Wholistic Sexuality™ curriculum I’ve been creating for the last 15 years—all the ways we can each develop mastery of our own sexuality. Having fabulous sex is a lot like learning to play an instrument—we each have natural abilities and capacities that we can combine with learnable skills to become ever-more adept. Everyone has these inner tools that we can use to do things like access ecstasy, expand arousal, increase pleasure, hone erotic awareness. Ultimately, everyone can become an erotic virtuoso. You can learn to play amazing erotic solos with yourselves and fabulous duets with others.

We’re so excited about Succulent SexCraft that we’re a celebrating the launch with a major marketing program. People who buy the book between September 14-16 (and possibly beyond) also get access to over $1,000 in wonderful free gifts from some of our favorite sex, relationship and empowerment teachers. It’s a great opportunity for anyone who wants to make the most out of their intimate life.

SimplySxy: Is there a sense of expectation or pressure with Succulent Sexcraft following the success of Women’s Anatomy of Arousal?

Sheri Winston: Not for me. It’s just the next step in my mission to support sexual empowerment and integration.

SimplySxy: There are still a lot of people who prefer avoiding discussions about sex openly. What do you think is the main reason and what can be done to make them feel more comfortable to talk about it?

Sheri Winston: Well, it’s sex! And sex, is never just about sex. Our sexuality is connected to everything. We have a lot of shame and excitement around sex. There’s desire, lust, love, expectation, taboos and judgements. We have complex inner stories and ambiguous cultural narratives around all things sexual. Sex is complicated territory.

It’s hard to talk about things we really don’t understand. Erotic energy is a powerful and compelling force. Most of us haven’t learned how to navigate its vigorous currents or understand our own sexual dynamics well.

We don’t see good modelling of how to have healthy, clear conversations with partners or potential partners about sex, boundaries, desires, fantasies, activities and issues. We don’t get good role models of healthy relationships and skilled sexual communication in our communities or institutions, either. That makes it hard to learn how to talk about it.

Add to that the fact that we lack yummy, comfortable, accessible language for sexual body parts and erotic activities, and it’s not surprising that anything sexual can be hard to talk about.

SimplySxy: Sex education (or the lack of) has been making a lot of news for some time. At what age do you think sex education should begin and is it up to the state or schools to do more about it?

Sheri Winston: Sex education is something that happens throughout our lives. It begins when you’re a baby. It includes so many unconscious things like how our parents and care-givers act when they changed our diapers and washed our crotch. It was absorbed as we watched and felt how our families were with their own sexuality, with their own bodies. It’s happening throughout our lives as we absorb message both subtle and overt about our bodies, our genitals, pleasure, gender roles and so on. In my ideal world, we’re all educators of how to be in healthy happy relationship with sexuality.

I also believe that our schools should be teaching about sexuality and related issues throughout all grades. Teaching about boundaries, respect, responsibility, and communication should go along with information about our bodies and our sexuality in a comprehensive curriculum of how to be a healthy happy human. Truly comprehensive sexuality education would include developing emotional, physical and sexual intelligence, communication skills, how to have exquisite boundaries and how to enhance pleasure.

SimplySxy: You run an extensive number of classes and workshops based on the Wholistic Sexuality™ framework. Which are the most popular classes that people sign up for?

Sheri Winston: It varies widely because I teach to so many different audiences from a wide range of the lay public to highly trained medical professionals and sexuality educators. Some of my most popular classes include: Secrets of Sexual Pleasure; Women’s Anatomy of Arousal (Men’s, too.); Orgasmic Abundance for Everyone; Succulent SexCraft; and The Art of Female Ejaculation.

SimplySxy: Do you feel that there are global differences when it comes to Sex in general? In terms of different cultures across the world that certain techniques or curriculums might have to be tweaked slightly?

Sheri Winston: While there are enormous cultural differences in our wide world, sexuality is a human thing. The basics of my philosophy and my teaching—that everyone is capable of having extraordinary sex, that fabulous sex is learnable, that our sexuality begins with ourselves, and that we all have the ability to connect to our ecstatic potential—applies equally to all people.

SimplySxy: Thank you very much Sheri for your time. It has certainly been a pleasure to feature you on SimplySxy and we wish you all the best for Succulent Sexcraft!

To learn more, visit the Website of Sheri Winston’s Center for the Intimate Arts at: http://intimateartscenter.com/

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September 13, 2014
Mandy Baby Shares Camming Tips

SimplySxy: What are your personal tips for those new to camming?

Mandy Baby: To become at all successful in the world of camgirls and boys, you need to interact with your audience. Porn is already widely available for free on the internet. Camming is 10% performance and 90% interaction. Your followers/fans want to establish a relationship with you and you should want the same from them. I’ve become friends with my audience and co-performers. I miss them when they’re away and enjoy talking to them as much as I can. It helps to find things you have in common. Some of my most faithful followers share their daily lives with me and I with them. It’s not so much a “job” as it is a lifestyle. Quality is another key factor. You’ll want a decent camera and some good lighting. Make sure you’re groomed and clean! Most importantly—Be yourself. People can spot a fake a mile away. If you’re having to keep up with a made up persona, it’s just going to add more difficulty in becoming successful.

1. Establish real relationships with your fans. They’ll love it as much as you will.
2. Get a decent webcam and maybe a light or two. It’s 2014 and people expect good quality streaming.
3. Take a shower. Nobody wants to see someone who doesn’t practice basic hygiene.
4. Be yourself. If you can’t be yourself on cam then it’s probably not the thing for you.

SimplySxy: How does camming work when you’re in a relationship/married?

MandyBaby: It was difficult at first. Emotions definitely come into play when you are sharing yourself in an intimate way with the world. Communication is key. Sometimes people just aren’t comfortable with the idea of their loved one sharing themselves with others and that’s okay. If you’re partner isn’t comfortable at first perhaps explain to them the incentives that come along with camming. There are sexual incentives. My husband and I cam together almost on a daily basis and it has added an extra element of fun to our bed routine. We’ve explored each other more. We’ve tried out new things that others have suggested. We’ve had a lot of excitement brought to our bed through camming. There’s also the financial incentives that don’t hurt a bit 😉 Even though my husband was hesitant to the idea at first, it has definitely helped us in the long run. If you try it and one of you doesn’t like it, you can always stop! It’s a no obligation, no pressure deal!

1. Be open and communicate with your partner.
2. Explain the emotional, sexual, and financial incentives.
3. Give it a shot. You can work together or solo and if you find that it’s not for you then just stop! Simple as that.

Mandy Baby connects with her fans through twitter @mandybabycams. She also performs at chaturbate.com/mandybabyxxx and together with her best friend Tawney and other girls at chaturbate.com/tawney.

On her profile on Chaturbate she is featured performing solo, with her husband, and with her best friend, Tawney.

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September 10, 2014