Tag: BDSM

  • Planning A BDSM Session

    Planning A BDSM Session

    I get asked a lot of questions about BDSM and how I plan a session so I think it’s time we ventured a little further in to the rabbit hole to see what it actually entails.

    I’ve already blogged about my own take on BDSM from a mental perspective ( here ) which is heavily rooted in trust, sensuality and connection but now I’d like to share with you one of my scripts I created for a client not too long ago. No two scripts are the same and I always create a new script bespoke to my clients taste.

    So this particular script was created for a client who was new to BDSM. I wanted to ease her in gently but still give her the thrill she was seeking. We spoke in detail about her fantasies and what really turned her on. I used that to form a picture of how our session would play out. 

    I’ll refer to her randomly as Mrs. x (Note the lowercase ‘x’ as she was the sub in this equation.) Mrs. x is in her late 30’s, size 10, tall, toned, short hair with a porcelain complexion. She also loves anal and loves giving blowjobs – and is very good at it. However, this session was more about exploring her erogenous zones through pleasure and pain.

    When creating a script I tend to follow the 80/20 rule; 80% scripted and 20% reactive. If she’s enjoying something I’ll dial it up or down depending on where I intend to take her. (I’m a wicked tease)

    So why do I script?

    That’s a very good question – The rush of spontaneity is definitely a turn on but in this instance I’d liken it to a 100-meter sprint. Fast, furious and explosive. My sessions tend to be more like a marathon that puts you though your paces and then some. I wanted to be able to create an experience that would take Mrs. x on a journey through many new and wonderful sensations that climax at various stages of our session.

    When I sit down to write I visualise the entire session piece by piece and yes, it’s very erotic. I massage and edit the various sections of the script based on how I want her to feel at any given time. I picture an ocean of orgasmic pleasure swaying back and forth, sometimes peaceful and other times unhinged. But it’s constant, sustained and it builds in intensity to the point of share fucking ecstasy.

    I spent probably 90 minutes or so creating her session. I titled it ‘Breath’ as Mrs. x is a Yoga enthusiast and was keen to explore that side of her sexuality whilst being dominated.

    This is how it went down…

    You can download the word doc here to use as a template but I definitely suggest you create your own tailored to the lucky recipient. This particular script is roughly 3 hours long excluding bath time so pace is important. For more information on how to play safe go here. Enjoy.


    Madison James is a degree educated 37 year old international male escort from London with a keen interest in BDSM, Tantra and massage. He has an aptitude for intellectual conversation, an inquisitive mind and a genuine desire to help women embrace their sexuality one orgasm at a time!

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  • Medical Play Sessions

    Medical Play Sessions

    Typically, during a Medical Play session, you have someone who falls into a level of interest/experience. There are beginners, intermediate players and advanced participants.

    The beginners/light players may have an interest in maybe some dressing up, possible exam roleplay and having their temperature taken rectally. They may also have an interest in trying some new items or trying a new type of activity. They are usually inexperienced and are just starting to explore. They are not looking to have marks or any signs of what they did when they leave.

    The intermediate players are the ones who are either into the fetish or they are looking to expand what they enjoy. This level usually includes needle play, sounding, enemas. Things that are a bit more advanced but nothing too extreme. These types of people are usually looking to experience other types of BDSM as well as incorporate some medical play into the overall BDSM experience.

    Then we have the advanced/experienced players. This is where I get to delve into the cuttings, brandings, suturing, catheters, extensive needle play and things that are very extreme. These are the types of people who know what they like and want to do a session that is usually only medical play.

    Every time I play/session it’s based on that specific person as well as their interests so each session goes differently but just a rough idea of what happens when each session is done.

    1. TRAINING/EDUCATION of whatever I am doing. This is first and foremost. Medical play can be very dangerous if you do not know what you are doing. Once you have learned and practiced then you can begin to explore and play.
    2. Sanitation/sterilization of equipment and play space.
    3. Setting up all equipment
    4. Cleaning the area on your victim….wait I mean your willing and able participant/bottom.
    5. Having fun and playing.
    6. Cleaning up your bottom with the right equipment/ medical supplies.
    7. Cleaning up and sterilizing your equipment/play space.
    8. Properly disposing of your bio-hazard.

    Precautions & Tips For Beginners

    The precautions in medical play can vary greatly depending on what type of play you are looking at doing. Some play is not invasive at all and is no more a risk than brushing your teeth. These things include using a stethoscope, thermometer, blood pressure cuff, and things that are non-invasive. Once you start delving into things that break the skin such as: needle play, branding, scalpel cuttings, suturing, among other things; you start increasing your risks. You now have to be concerned about proper skin care before, proper sanitary care during, and proper after care so that you try to minimize any infection and lasting scaring.

    When you get into doing anything that comes in contact with a mucus membrane you run the risk of tearing, ripping, micro damage that can breed bacteria and many other things. These include anything in the mouth, nose, and genitals. Mucus membranes are extremely sensitive but they also heal very quickly. So, when engaging in medical play you really need to be playing/sessioning with someone who has been properly trained as well as someone who knows what they are doing.

    Yes, if you are a beginner you can definitely explore experiencing medical play. Find someone who is qualified to explain what the process is for whatever you are interested in and then go ahead and try something new. If you are interested in learning how to do medical play, find an educator, someone in the medical field or a professional dominatrix who specializes in medical play who can teach you properly.


    Erin Marie – Miss Erin Marie grew up in a small town in Wisconsin. She moved to Las Vegas right after high school in 2007 and then moved to Southern California in 2011. She has been a Professional Dominatrix since fall of 2010 and has been involved with the leather and BDSM community since March of 2008. Miss Erin Marie is available for live sessions in Las Vegas and Southern California. She also does travel and you can check her schedule on her website.

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  • What Is Medical Play And Why Do People Have A Fetish And Love It?

    What Is Medical Play And Why Do People Have A Fetish And Love It?

    Let’s start with what medical play is. Medical play is creating an S&M experience including anything having to do with the medical field. In the BDSM world we use “play” or session as the time we are engaging in out BDSM activities. Because these fetishes are medical based, they can cover a lot of different types of activities. Some of the types of things included are: casting (wearing casts), needle play, cuttings (scarification), doctor/nurse/patient role play, enema play, gyno exams, urethral sounding, speculum play (anal or vaginal), saline infusions, scalpel cuttings and suturing, branding (including cell popping, strike brands, and micro-branding), exam fetishes, medical outfits and gloves, and the list goes on and on. Quite more extensive than you may have thought huh?

    I can only speak for myself and the people who I have seen for clients as well as the friends I have who enjoy medical play in discussing why I believe people have a medical fetish and why they love it.  Let’s start with my personal feelings on the subject. I, Miss Erin Marie, have a fetish for many things medically related. A little throwback info, I used to hate going to the doctor and I used to be terrified of needles and shots. To the point I was the special kid who had to go separately to get the vaccines in school because they didn’t want to me get sick or to pass out. Funny how the tables have completely turned.

    Medical play is some of the most extensive as well as invasive types of play that we can engage in in the BDSM community. This falls into what is considered edge play. I believe that from the time we are toddlers we can remember how professionals in the medical field are truly the epitome of who is in charge. In our western society, we have been taught that doctors know more than anyone, including our parents. Doctors have free reign of our entire bodies and are able to take control and do basically whatever they want with little or no resistance. We are intrinsically taught that they can be trusted as well as the comfort that they will always have our best interest at heart. That is a pretty powerful role to have in a person’s life.

    When it comes down to it, when doing any form of medical play, you get to tap into what that control and power is like when you can have that intrinsic trust that humans so naturally have based on decades of conditioning. Medical play also is something that someone experiencing it really has to give up control and really has to trust in whomever is in control and in charge of the play. Most of the people I see are looking to take a break from their everyday; whatever may be going on in their life they are able to get an opportunity to stop, step back, and to escape for a period of time where they literally can choose to not have any control over what is going to happen to them.

    Common Items In Medical Play

    The most common item used in medical play is probably gloves. I stick to Nitrile (non-allergen) but love latex gloves, and my favorite are sterile surgical latex gloves. They are awesome, but expensive.

    Some of the others include: hypodermic needles, syringes, scalpels, sutures, saline, sounds, stethoscopes, masks, gowns, lab coat, blood pressure cuffs, thermometers, speculums, enema kits, cautery pens. These are probably the most common. There are many more items but these are the ones that easily come to mind.

    Other than sterile surgical gloves, my favorite is needles. I can do so many things with them and create all sorts of designs that I can keep myself busy for hours.


    Erin Marie – Miss Erin Marie grew up in a small town in Wisconsin. She moved to Las Vegas right after high school in 2007 and then moved to Southern California in 2011. She has been a Professional Dominatrix since fall of 2010 and has been involved with the leather and BDSM community since March of 2008. Miss Erin Marie is available for live sessions in Las Vegas and Southern California. She also does travel and you can check her schedule on her website.

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  • Fetish Play Favorites & Tips

    Fetish Play Favorites & Tips

    Kink is a person’s true expression of lust, desire and pleasure. It’s not just whips and chains, feet or panties. It could be anything that is normally not viewed with a sexual intent but is used for a sensual release. No matter how “vanilla” someone claims to be, everyone is a little bit kinky.

    My Initial Interest In Fetish

    Well honestly, I think it started at an extremely young age. For as long as I can remember, I have always played with my belly button. Now as odd as that may sound it was always something that calmed me down and gave me an odd sense of satisfaction. As I got older and I was experimenting with a partner, he would always tease me that I am playing with my belly button. So one day he decided he was going to lick it. And I liked it. It got me so worked up,  so hot and heavy breathing that it gave him motivation that he really just got into it. Licking, sucking, then he bit the little knot in the back… it was just this release of pleasure I could not even explain. I never imagined that I could have a release so intense without even having anything stimulating my genitals.

    While exploring with partners, I found a few other things that had been deeply ingrained from a young age. From when I was born until (embarrassingly) I was ten, I was a thumb/pacifier sucker. This became an oral fixation. In school I was teased a lot for it so I tried switching from candies and gum, then as a teen smoking or pencil chewing. This evolved into a gag fetish. I love open bits and drooling or panties or even deep throating.

    I’ve been evolving with every partner being mindfully open to trying all sorts of new things in hopes that I’ll find another kink to add on.

    Personal Fetish Favorites

    So to give a little background, I was diagnosed with Persistent Sexual Arousal Syndrome (P.S.A.S.). The best description I can give with a short explanation of what it’s like to have P.S.A.S. is like this: Imagine you are always wet. No matter if you are aroused or not. You are easily turned on by things that are not normally turn ons (for example: I can’t use a mechanical tooth brush to brush my teeth because it can make me cum. I can’t have my phone vibrate when I touch keys on my cell phone it will get me fired up.) But at the same time if you don’t get yourself off in a timely manner from being aroused, it becomes painful. I imagine that for a male it would be like getting a boner from loading the washer at a laundromat, not being able to rub one out and getting blue balls. This also comes with a long list of side effects like “orgasm tolerances”. I can build up a tolerance by using a toy too much/frequently or having chore like sex (you know the “married couple routine” . That’s the same three positions every time). It also comes with restless legs syndrome and insomnia (bright side: more time to masturbate). But an awesome “super power” I get from this is I am extremely sensitive with any sense for stimulation. This has been a curse and a gift, but it’s helped me evolve.

    As I am evolving I am learning that there are a lot of reoccurring kinks that I  tend to steer towards. Besides the belly button fetish and oral fixation I also enjoy hardcore bondage/BDSM, role playing, sensory deprivation and food play. I have minor interests in foot fetish and dacryphellia.

    But as I open my mind I am learning that fetish is not only in the bedroom and meant for an orgasmic release, it is also mental stimulation for a sensual release. Whether that is confidence, self-esteem, happiness, passion, lust or sometimes even an emotional release like laughing or crying or even anger.

    I find that I am extremely attracted to teeth. This is where I go off the deep end and get freaky, I have gone as far as to ask other people for their teeth (my favorite are wisdom teeth with roots so I can make earnings to wear). This fetish makes me feel empowered and extremely sexually dominant.

    I also enjoy exhibition. I film porn as a hobby and strip because it makes me feel like I’m in a power play. It always gives me an adrenaline rush, it makes me shy, lust full and passionate.

    I also enjoy the taboos of some of these fetishes like incest role play. Again it’s a mental release.

    Fetish Play is in several forms. Closed minds only limit it to one.

    Challenging Fetishes

    I get trapped in subspace during BDSM play. This is where I have mentally escaped my environment and surroundings and all I am focused on is the physical endorphin release that is occurring. I’ve been told several times that during this state I am extremely adorable because I am just so cum drunk.

    Tips For Beginners

    I suggest sensory play to start with. Touching (tickling, scratching, pinching) blind folds, temperature changes, tastes (food), sounds (soft purrs in the ears or whispered dirty talk). This is when I started and kind of branched off as I experienced things that I liked.


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  • Spanking Play For An Awesome Experience

    Spanking Play For An Awesome Experience

    First things first, lets set the record straight. I may live in this world but I am not of this world. In other words, I do NOT Judge.

    I believe it is none of my business how someone chooses to live their life, unless of course it directly affects me. I believe that there is freedom to be had living in an alternative lifestyle. There’s acceptance, understanding, love, respect and so much more to be had in a power exchange relationship.

    I do not think it is fair or right to judge people that enjoy this freedom. I also believe that the people who are open about their kink are very brave to share that piece of themselves with the world.

    How I Got Interested In Spanking Play

    Well to be honest it started in high school. I had a group of friends that I used to hang out with. Whenever someone bent over in front of another, that person was then “obligated” to smack that ass, to show appreciation for what a fine ass it was. There were also consequences to pay if you did not smack that ass bent over so perfectly in front of you. If you didn’t, you would get 2 punches in the arm from everyone present for your fuck up. I think that’s the point in my life where spankings went from being a bad thing to being a good thing. Then later as I got into Daddy/Babygirl roleplays, the whole spanking thing seemed to go hand and hand with being a “Brat” to Daddy, LOL.

    Why Is Spanking A Turn On?

    As far as why it’s such a turn on for me personally, well I am a switch so I like giving and receiving spankings. So when I’m receiving them, they’re a turn on because I enjoy a little pain with my pleasure, I believe the pain heightens our pleasure receptors because of the contrast between both elements. As far as when I am giving spankings, it turns me on because there’s a lot of shit we have to deal with this in this world and it takes it’s toll. Spanking someone allows me to release some of that frustration and give me just that much more peace of mind. So on one hand, it’s a very sexual stimuli and on the other, it’s all a mental stimuli, for me at least. However I do believe that it is a different experience for each individual.

    Different Levels Of Spanking

    Of course there are! Just like everything in life there are always levels. Plus with spankings theres different levels for different tools as well. Someone could be spanked with their hand and have multiple levels of that, then upgrade to a paddle. There are so many different toys and objects you can spank with in addition to your hand which makes every single spanking experience unique. Honestly there are endless combinations and levels to a spanking sesh (session).

    Favorite Spanking Tools

    Top fave spanking tool will and always will be my hand. There is just something about feeling that skin heat up under my hand that just does it for me. I also make spanking toys, and some of my most loyal fans have earned paddles in their name. So, one of my fave spanking toys is one I made for a fan. It’s called my “Lotus” paddle. It’s similar to a riding crop, however it has an extended paddle part, and a thicker, longer sturdy handle. The handle is covered in a braided soft blue and white fabric, while the paddle fabric is blue with tiny little studs on it. It packs a whallop and leaves you spotted!

    The “Right” Way To Spank

    People get too caught up on the right and wrong way to do something. News flash, there is no right or wrong way. It differs from partner to partner and from play sesh to play sesh. What’s right for you and this partner today may not be what’s right for the partner you have tomorrow. To figure out what’s right, you have to start small and low level and work your way up till you find that persons’ stopping point. Then, you know the bottom and the top of that partners’ pain threshold scale. That gives you some sort of guide for that partner, however the real key to finding the right way is open and honest communication between you and your partner.

    Typical Spanking Sessions

    Well I guess that depends. If it’s a new partner and they do not have a lot of experience with spanking play. Then the sesh would begin with some talking about limits and protocols. Then maybe a warm up with my hand, followed by a spanking toy of low to medium strength based on the read I get from my partner. Then we would end the sesh with some aftercare and talking about the experience, which would then help me determine what to do next time.

    If it’s a partner that I have already played with, I would take my cue for this sesh, from our last sesh. I always start a sesh with talking and getting feedback from the time before, so if I need to adjust anything in my plans I can do so. I always like to warm that ass up with a good ole fashioned hand spanking. Then I would move onto a low-med toy based on their pain threshold and from there, one more toy that actually pushes their limits that I have already found in the first sesh.  Of course I end the sesh the same way, by making sure my partner is okay and asking them how they felt about what they just went through.


    Zora Stone – 36yr old MILF from Ohio uses BDSM knowledge and Lifestyle to conquer the world! Haha no, really maybe not the world, however I have used it to conquer some demons in my world! I am a nobody from nowheresville who somehow has pulled 3 Adult nominations out of the secret cavern in my ass! I am perfectly imperfect and teaching imperfection, one subby at a time! Step into one of my rooms and I’ll coat you in imperfection like peanut butter coats a spoon!

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  • What It’s Like Being A Submissive

    What It’s Like Being A Submissive

    My fascination with kink and alternative lifestyles started when I came out as queer as a teenager. Through connecting and engaging with the queer community, I gradually learnt more about alternative ways of viewing sex, gender, pleasure and pain. Entering the adult industry in my mid twenties was where I first became aware of transactional kink and BDSM play, and where I found a safe space to explore all types of taboo fantasies and role plays through the anonymity of the client/escort relationship.

    For me, kink practices serve as a way for humans to explore parts of their psyche that they ordinarily keep hidden away from society due to stigma, shame or even simply impracticality. Kink allows us to wear masks (sometimes literally) and find our authentic selves through performativity. Now, kink and roleplay are integral parts of my personal life, and one that I consider a great privilege to share with others.

    How My Interest In Submission Began

    Submission is something I came to gradually, dipping one to after another into the world of energy play and BDSM. I was in an open relationship with a retired pro-dom and through learning about his relationships with his submissives, I began to learn about the diverse types of kink play and gradually began educating myself through reading and attending kink events.

    Being a Sub has always been very natural to me. I love to please, to be taken care of, and I hate having to make decisions. Kink and BDSM are an exaggerated version of the more ‘vanilla’ aspects of my day to day relationships, and the ability to parody and subvert these social dynamics in a way that was intimate, pleasurable and safe is a huge part of my interest in Submission.

    Expectations Of A Submissive

    A Submissive is a vessel through which a Dominant channels their erotic energy, with both parties playing out a mutually satisfying fantasy of domination and control.

    There are many different types of Submissives, from brats, princesses, puppys, slaves and human toilets. All with their own unique desires and needs. However the main expectation from any Sub is that they will be eager to serve and please their dominant in whichever way is requested of them – within negotiated boundaries of course!  When I am in a Submissive space, I am 100% focused on pleasing my partner, finding out what they want, how to move, how to look, every aspect of my being is focused on giving pleasure and hanging out for that all important validation! I live for hearing the words ‘good girl!’

    Common Misconceptions About Subs

    A Submissive is not weak. We are not pushovers, easily manipulated, or passive victims with no will of our own. Submission is a conscious act – chosen through much deliberation and negotiation. When I am in subspace, I am completely in control – nothing happens without being expressly permitted by me ahead of time. Many people are under the misapprehension that Submissives are simply people who allow you to do anything you want to them – the reality being that we are incredibly choosey about who we allow to control and lead us.  I have even been told that being a Submissive means that my boundaries don’t need to be respected (or that I enjoy having them violated) and have routinely had my bodily autonomy encroached upon by strangers in kink spaces.

    Another misconception is that submission is all about pain – we aren’t all masochists! For me, my favorite type of play is sensual domination, pet play and Daddy/Littlegirl role play, where I feel cared for, nurtured and protected.  Sadism and masochism are only two of the many delights on offer in the kink/BDSM buffet!

    My Two Favorite Fetishes

    Pet Play

    In it’s most basic form, pet play is a form of role play where one or more people assume the role of a pet/animal. Most commonly this takes the form of puppy play, kitten play and pony play, with one person as a ‘pet’ and the other acting as a ‘handler’.  Most of the time, pet play is heavily based in traditional D/S power dynamics, with the handler playing the role of Master.

    I absolutely love being a kitten – sometimes I can be reticent or superior, spurning advances and refusing my Masters’ touch unless approached with the loving respect I deserve. Other times I am playful and seductive, inviting you to stroke me all over while I deliver teasing licks and nuzzles. I also love to indulge in puppy play, whether it be performing tricks, begging for treats, simply lying content at Masters feet while he relaxes.  Like any good Puppy – I require strict and loving discipline and love undertaking difficult tasks for my handlers enjoyment.

    Pet play is particularly rewarding for those who enjoy their kink to be more nurturing and caring. It is one of the purist forms of escapism, creating a fantasy world where both parties fully embody their new characters – and in doing so, discard the repressive or mundane aspects of themselves for a moment.

    Wet Play

    Wet play is my absolute favourite for of kink play! – I could never date someone who wasn’t prepared to indulge me in this incredibly intimate taboo.

    Wet play is better known as waterports or golden showers. For me, a typical scene could be anything from giving and/or receiving golden showers to filling a pool with urine and wrestling and fucking in the mess. To a lesser extent, spit fetishes also fall under the wet play umbrella. Think spitting, licking and sloppy kissing and wet sensual blow jobs to create a slippery, carnal and hedonistic environment.  Wet play is the ultimate rejection of puritanical values which dictate that bodily fluids and natural bodies are somehow unhygienic or unpalatable. To me, when you truly desire someone – you desire all of them!

    Wetplay is also hugely stigmatized with almost all porn distribution platforms refusing to show depictions of urine or golden showers, and many credit card companies will refuse to accept payment on any depiction of people urinating on each other. The only other categories of porn that are subject to the same stigma are pedophilia and rape. This means that many clients I see with wet play fetishes are extremely ashamed of their desires. Lucky for me I love to help people shake off societal shaming around fetishes and help them to embrace their depravity with abandon.


    Dion De Rossi – Dion De Rossi, is an Australian escort, prosubmissive and pornstar living and working in Berlin. She considers sex work to be a spiritually satisfying pursuit, creating fantasy worlds where people from all backgrounds can find a safe space to explore taboo and misunderstood fetishes without judgement. When she is not satisfying the sexual needs of friends and lovers, she is focused on her activism, rescuing and rehoming animals from the agricultural industry.

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  • Incorporating BDSM Into Masturbation

    Incorporating BDSM Into Masturbation

    BDSM is everything! Within BDSM you can find love, support, play, drama, every imaginable human emotion, and exploration. When I’m in a scene I almost feel like I’m in a theatrical play that explores every aspect of human experience. From pleasure and joy, to despair and fear, you can really absorb the full vibrancy of life while under bondage or a firm command. When I give my control to someone, or to myself, I feel free.

    What I Love About Masturbation

    Masturbation is a loving act of intimacy with myself, that allows me to explore, nurture, and connect with myself. It’s also a ridiculous amount of fun! I’m a big psychology nerd, and could point you to tons of research on the positive effects of masturbating, and my personal life has certainly seen these benefits! I see masturbation as a time to relax, be creative, and take care of myself. When I’m all alone, touching and pleasuring myself, there’s a different, almost spiritual bond with myself that I really value.

    Incorporating BDSM Into Masturbation

    You need a lot of creativity and openness to have a successful BDSM masturbation experience because you are playing both roles, dominating yourself while being dominated by yourself. Whether or not you have a fantasy projection of who’s doing what to you or who you get to punish, you are ultimately embodying both the submissive and dominant side of BDSM.

    In most sexual and romantic interactions, I take on the submissive role but I can occasionally switch. Although I’m a submissive, I’m at my most dominant and sadistic when masturbating by myself. The things I subject myself to aren’t just about me getting to experience pain and pleasure; being able to cause and inflict control and pain are equally appealing. If I have a dialogue going, I am fully experiencing both parts. I am both the slut and the slut tamer.

    Make Masturbation Kinkier & Hotter

    Most toys I’ve found can be used all by myself, and can be just as fun as when a partner is using them on me. Nipple and clit pumps, clamps, crops, anal plugs, and of course vibrators are awesome with or without a partner. For safety’s sake, I actually recommend trying out most toys you get on your own before incorporating them into a scene with a partner. I also have to give a shout out to Hitachi style vibrators, they’re a must for anyone with a clitoris, BDSM or no. There are a lot of self-bondage tutorials online, and I love breast binding and crotch ropes by myself.

    Aside from actual sex toys, there are a lot of things you can do by yourself that don’t require an extensive kink budget. In your kitchen, wooden spoons are especially nice for self-imposed pussy spankings, ice is an all-around good time, and ginger root shaved into a butt plug can really spice things up (look up figging). Your bathroom has the tub’s faucet or shower jet, toothbrushes for a torturous genital brushing, and hairbrushes also make great impact toys. Don’t forget your mirror, to fully appreciate all that you are doing for, and to, yourself.

    Potential Downsides To Masturbating With BDSM

    BDSM needs a lot of education to be practiced safely, and being on your own is no different. In fact, there’s no one around to help if something goes wrong, so it’s important to read up on every act or toy you’d want to use, and use common sense when playing. Always make sure you have an out, so you don’t wind up tying yourself up and unable to get out of a bad situation with no one able to save you.


    Lila – My name is Lila, your sex-positive kinky sweetheart. I’m a 25-year-old Persian-American who gets off on being teased, punished, and pleasured. I make my own videos, sell my used panties, and do private kik and skype shows. I love making kinky custom films, and enjoy projects that requires creativity, roleplay, or experimentation. I love my sexy projects because I feel like they are a great avenue for self-exploration, and I love feeling connected to strangers who get to take me home in the form of a video clip or a pair of panties.

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  • What It Means To Be A Switch In BDSM

    What It Means To Be A Switch In BDSM

    As I’m living an alternative lifestyle, being a porn star and a legal courtesan, I think it is safe to say that I fully embrace it. As long as the Kink and lifestyle is consensual and all parties derive pleasure from the experience – I am all for it.

    What It’s Like Being A Switch

    Over time I have learned that, while I am a natural submissive, I also thoroughly enjoy being a Domme. Since I enjoy, and seek out both roles, I am a “Switch”. I found I can cum, just from being spanked. I found that I really get off on tying someone up and pushing their boundaries. I enjoy having my own boundaries pushed and pushing those of my partner. I would hate to be locked into one role. Switching from my natural sub role, to one of Domme gave me a new respect for that role; I never realized how much work and responsibility went into being a good Domme. When you are the sub, doing tasks at your Domme’s direction, you tend to feel that you are the one doing all the work – I learned that pushing another’s boundaries takes a lot of care and insight. Coming up with tasks, punishments, and rewards requires thought and effort.

    Preference For Being A Dominant Or Submissive?

    That is a hard call. If you would have asked me a few years ago I would have answered without hesitation “submissive” … but now that I’ve discovered what a turn on it is being Domme, it is harder to decide. I can cum from being spanked or flogged however, so I think I would have to say my preference is still sub.

    Common Desires As A Domme

    It varies depending on the sub I’m with, what I like doing is finding and pushing the edges of their boundaries. It is exciting being a part of expanding their horizons.

    Characteristics Of A Good Sub

    First and foremost, they have to be aware of their own limits, that have to be able to communicate, even more they have to be comfortable communicating, they have to feel free letting the Domme know when a limit has been reached, their musts have and not be afraid to use safe words. They have to know that using a safe word will not itself lead to a punishment. I guess I can sum up the answer with a single word: Communication.

    Is Being A Switch Easy?

    I wouldn’t say it is easy, but it is very rewarding.


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  • Escort Diaries: Her First BDSM Session

    Escort Diaries: Her First BDSM Session

    Ms. D initially contacted me because of her curiosity about the world of kink and BDSM. Like many women the world over, her understanding of BDSM was largely shaped by the hugely popular and now infamous ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’.

    Ms. D had hired me on two previous occasions but was now looking to take things further. With trust being a key element in BDSM, I’m always reluctant to engage in anything too intense with a client until we have spent some time getting to know each other.

    Ms. D is a professional woman in her late 40’s with no children. She comes from a tough corporate background surrounded by men in grey suits. She deals with the usual testosterone fueled egocentric characters that often exist in this environment. Ms. D had a tough exterior that soon melted away once our mental chess began and she realised I was wired a little differently to most.

    Ms. D was accustomed to getting what she wanted, especially from people who were paid to be ‘nice’ to her. ‘Nice’ is when someone invites you out for a drink, or offers you their seat on a train, or pays you a kind compliment – she can get ‘nice’ for free. But that’s not why she pays me; she pays me to make her feel amazingly special, which requires a lot more than kind gestures and compliments. It’s about leaning how to push her buttons in a way that excites her and allows her to let go whilst she’s with me.

    Putting a BDSM script together for a client is always a turn. No two people are the same so everything has to be tailored to that specific client and focused on what they want to gain from our time together. During our last encounter as we lay in bed, we spoke in detail about what she liked and how she wanted to feel. We spoke about the toys that really turned her on and how she wanted to be handled. We also spoke about her boundaries, safe words and any concerns that she may have had. All the while I’m building up a mental picture of how our session would play out.

    Sitting at my desk in the early hours of the morning I was able to create an experience for Ms. D that I knew she would love. BDSM aside and the fact that I’m a paid escort, I think this is something that we should all do at some stage. It’s a beautiful thing to be able to create an experience of pure pleasure for someone based on what you know will drive them crazy. With the script pretty much complete I could hear the birds chirping so I decided to shoot off to my 24 hour gym for a sneaky workout while I was still wide awake.

    Fast-forward to the day when Ms. D and I were due to meet up, everything was prepared. A fresh black suit, immaculate black shirt with starched creases in all the right places and a lovely pair of black John Lobb Oxford shoes. I also packed my bag of toys complete with oils, cuffs, dildos, a handmade leather flogger and some other goodies. Lastly I selected just the right fragrance for the occasion ‘Black Orchid by Tom Ford’ as it oozed dark mischievous sexuality.

    All set, I hopped in my car and made my way to Ms. D’s home which was located in a lovely remote part of Cheshire. When I arrived the large antique wooden door was already unlocked and she had told me to come in and make myself comfortable.

    As I gently pushed the door open I could hear her voice travelling from one room to the next which meant that she was on the phone probably dealing with some work related issue. As I sat down and waited for her in the reception I saw an envelope with my name on it on the side table. I flicked it open, fingered the cash and slipped it in my pocket.

    She was soon off the phone with her arms wrapped around me and playfully smothering me with warm kisses. It’s very sexy how she could switch between work mode and personal time so effortlessly. She was clearly looking forward to our play session. After her delightful barrage of kisses I pulled back slightly, looking her directly in the eyes and told her to behave herself, which only provoked her more. Ms. D was use to getting what she wanted but she knew that I loved to tease so she turned on her heels in quiet protest and invited me to join her in the kitchen.

    Ms. D was tall, about 5’9 and I’m guessing a size 12 although I never asked. She had very good posture, with long shiny brown hair that was always tied back in a high ponytail. She had light brown eyes, sharp features and pale skin.

    As this was her first BDSM experience there were still some rules that needed to be clarified. There was ‘no alcohol’ permitted before or during our session as we both needed to be fully aware. We also covered a few important topics again like her boundaries, safe words and any general concerns.

    Putting all the excitement aside, making Ms. D feel safe and comfortable was my main priority because without her mind being in the right place, it wouldn’t matter what I had planned as she wouldn’t be able to enjoy. Sex is mental so that’s where I started and with that, Ms. D and I were ready to begin our first session together.

    Ms. D’s room was perfectly suited; I don’t mean it looked like a dungeon with red and black leather lining the walls. I mean it was spacious but imitate with lovely dark fur rugs, thick blankets, oversized cushions and a large bed in the center of the room. There was original artwork on the walls and long hanging curtains that threw the room in to pitch darkness. Ms. D turned on a large lamp in the corner that created a warm glow and then hopped in the shower whilst I prepared her evening’s events. When she was finished in the shower she agreed to come out and present herself to me awaiting further instructions.

    I laid out my toys, handcuffs, restraints, bondage ropes, a blindfold, my flogger, a paddle and some strawberry scented oil. As this was our first session together I wanted to ease Ms. D in at her own pace so she always felt a degree of control. She came out of the shower in an oversized bathrobe, seeming nervous and somewhat out of her comfort zone. I’d never seen Ms. D like this before. I walked over and slid my arms around her waist inside her robe and pulled her close. I asked if she still wanted to go ahead to which she responded with a cheeky smile and a nod, I removed her robe and we began.

    I presented Ms. D with a thick leather collar that I placed in her hand as she stood in front of me naked. In BDSM the collar is much more than a kinky accessory, it signifies submission on her part, and me taking responsibility for her whilst she allows me to Dominate. This collar represented a mutual agreement between the two of us based upon a set of defined rules as laid out below:

    During session you are to address me as ‘Sir’.

    You will do as you are told as all times.

    If at any stage you disobey me you will be punished.

    If you orgasm without my permission you will be punished.

    If you need to use the ladies you will ask for permission.

    If you need time out, or some water or anything else, you will ask me.

    Your safe words are ‘YELLOW’ if you want me to slow down and ‘RED’ if you want to stop. You can use them anytime you feel the need and I will stop immediately.

    I will only push you as far as you’ll allow me based on what we have discussed previously.

    Once I put this collar on you, your body and mind will belong to me for the duration of our session. Do you understand? I asked her. ‘Yes’ she replied.

    I stepped in to her space with my arms folded behind my back and in a firm voice I repeated the question, only this time she replied with ‘Yes SIR’. ‘Good girl’ I told her and with that I placed my hands on her hips and turned her around slowly to fasten the collar around her neck. The last thing I did before we began was whisper in her ear that I was there to please her. Ms. D stood there in submission with her naked figure fully exposed with the innocence of a woman far removed from her everyday life. And with that I grabbed her around the throat and pushed her up against the wall. She inhaled deeply in shock as I stepped back admiring her body. I picked up my flogger and swung it over my shoulder as I moved towards her with my hand running down her side. I moved up and down her body inhaling and exhaling as goose bumps started to appear on her skin. I ask her how she was feeling to which she responded ‘I’m fine Sir’. I stroked her face and told her to turn around and face the wall.

    Ms. D had always wanted to be tied up and dominated; this was one of her fantasies. I took my bondage rope and tied her hands firmly behind her back. I grabbed her long hair and gave it a good tug, she moaned as her head snapped back. I bit the side of her neck and pulled her over to the beautiful leather upholstered bench at the foot of her bed. I forced her on to her knees and pushed her face in to the leather. I could feel her trying to resist in an act of defiance which given her character was no surprise. I explained to Ms. D in no uncertain terms that her behavior was unacceptable and with that I pulled my flogger from over my shoulder and started spanking her bottom. Ms. D gritted her teeth and invited me to flog her harder. She was definitely no shrinking violet. I knew she wouldn’t just roll over and comply. In order for me to be allowed do dominate her, I would need to prove that I was deserving of her submission – women submit to men, not boys.

    Ms. D raised her head and stared at me with squinted eyes and perched lips, which was her way of testing me. I placed my hand on her head open palm and pushed it back down and flogged her harder. We repeated this process enough times for Ms. D’s arse to turn red and she was now winching from the sting of the flogger. I stopped and asked her if she wanted to continue resisting to which she replied “No Sir”. This signaled that she was now ready and willing to submit as I had proven to her that I would administer punishment consistently if required.

    With the script memorised in my head and broken down in to three main scenes I proceeded to take her on a journey with me. I cuffed Ms. D’s ankle to each corner of the large leather bench, which spread her legs apart exposing her vagina. I stood up pacing the room slowly behind her with my flogger gently stroking the skin occasionally whipping it against hand so she could hear the sting. The flogger is more than just an instrument of pain and discipline. It can also be used for gentle and sensual pleasure. Ms. D indicated her preference at any one time by her compliance or lack there of. This particular flogger is unique because it was handmade by myself using the best soft Italian leather and was balanced perfectly to administer pleasure or pain depending on the situation.

    I started to massage her back with deep sensual strokes helping to circulate the blood around her body. I explored her with my hands paying close attention to her every response. I slid my finger down the crease of her backside and over her wet vagina to which she responded with an inhalation of pleasure. She sounded beautiful, but tasted better as I licked her juices off my finger and then inserted it in to her mouth, which she licked fiendishly. I stopped for a moment to appreciate her in this state. My job as an escort was to make her feel special and she was obviously enjoying it but I always found it flattering that a woman would literally gift her body and mind over to me to play with like a beautiful instrument. With that in mind I suddenly bent down behind Ms. D and pushed my tongue deep in to her vagina, rubbing past her clit. She moaned and rolled her head back as I pulled out. ‘There’s a good girl’ I whispered as I gently ran my fingers through her hair. I intended to push every one of her buttons and leave her senses tingling.

    I teased Ms. D with my tongue for long enough to bring her to a state of hot steaming orgasm. Just as she was about to release I stopped, grab her face and reminded her that she was not allowed cum until I permitted it. This drove Ms. D crazy to the point of frustration. She let out a stream of expletives expressing exactly how she felt towards me at that time. Given her strong character I knew that most of her partners in the past would have given in at this stage but it didn’t work like that with me as we were in session and these were the rules.

    For her sins I pulled out my flogger and began to spank her as I politely requested an apology for her rudeness. Ms. D was reluctant but the sting of the flogger soon loosened her tongue.

    It was now time for a new act and with that I released her arms and legs, attached a lead to her collar and slowly walked her over to the bed. I grabbed her hair and threw her down as the bed recoiled from the force. With Ms. D on her back I secured her arms and legs to the bedposts with her vagina in full view, waiting for my attention. Before I went any further I leaned in between her legs and gave her a soft sensual kiss. I felt to enter her right there and then but resisted as I had other plans.

    I pulled out a magic wand vibrator, which is probably one of the best devices I’ve ever come across. With Ms. D tied up and lying on her back I rubbed the large vibrating head slowly up and down her thighs and across her vagina. Ms. D tensed up and rolled her hips in response. She was breathing short and fast so I instructed her to slow down and inhale deeply whilst focusing on my touch. I alternated between the sensation of the vibrator and the feeling of my tongue as I gently licked her outer labia. This drove her crazy as she wriggled and fought against the straps that were restraining her. After some time of dialing up the tension I placed the head of the vibrator directly on her clit and watched her body contort as if possessed. With deep inhalations and moans of ecstasy I knew it wouldn’t be long before she was close to orgasm again.

    This for me is the moment where communication and connection is so important. I removed the vibrator momentarily to get her to focus on my voice. I instructed her to let me know on a scale of 1 to 5 how close she was to orgasm. Still not fully coherent she agreed by nodding her head frantically. Her pussy was swollen and red from the pressure of the vibrator so I slowly licked her clit and massaged the sides of her vagina to prepare her for what was yet to come.

    As she was now focused again I began building her orgasm slowly by bringing her back and forth, trying to keep her in a state of intense arousal. There came a point when Ms. D was clearly overwhelmed by what was going on. She begged me to let her cum – I told her ‘don’t you fucking dare’. I kept on pushing her and eventually she gave in to the sensation and released her orgasm. It sounded was like music to my ears – she let out a deep sensual moan of pleasure as she kicked and fought against the restraint straps still holding her firmly in place. The bed was shaking, she was covered in sweat and I could sense the energy coursing through her body as she reveled in the moment.

    By this time Ms. D was due a well-deserved break so I untied her, placed a cover over her legs to keep her warm and poured her a glass of water. Ms. D was silent and she wasn’t moving much at all. I knew exactly what was going on, she was tuning in to her body and enjoying a different kind of sensations that she wasn’t used to. We lay in bed next to each other while I stroked her hair. I nestled my head in her neck and nibbled her ear repeatedly teasing her back to reality. She giggled and curled up to get away as I ticked her. As she sat up and sipped her water she turned to me and said, “You’re very bad you are – very,” like a well spoken head mistress telling off a naughty schoolboy. I winked and smiled at her with a troublesome smirk as I thought about the events I still had in store for her.

    Now for scene two I had included a little role-play. I told her to stand in the middle of the room naked and wait for further instructions. I made her put on a pair of black high heel stilettos and wait for me while I took my time admiring her as she fidgeted in anticipation. Ms. D, already being 5’9 struck an awesome figure in heels and we were now eye to eye. “Get on your knees now” I commanded and she obeyed without hesitation. I stroked the side of her face, grabbed her by the throat and bent down to kiss her. I told her to take out my penis and lick the head. She done as she was told and looked up at me for approval as she licked and slurped with her hands firmly gripping the shaft.

    I was so turned on I could have let her take me all the way but I had other plans. Snapping back in to character, I slapped her in the face and told her to slow down. I pulled out and teased her with the tip by placing it on her tongue and rubbing it over her lips. She leaned forward trying to get her mouth around it but I pulled away again. “No Ms. D, you’re a very naughty women aren’t you, I’m going to punish you”, she replied with “Yes Sir, I’m sorry”. I picked her up with force, bent her over and placed her hands on the bench with her legs spread far apart. I picked up a paddle and began to spank her bottom. She moaned and gyrated from the repeated blows of the paddle. ‘Harder” she said so I stepped it up a little more. Her arse was turning red and she started to winch but she was enjoying the stinging sensation. I teased by reminding her about the safe words and asked if she wanted to use them. “Fuck you Sir’ she said as she giggled and turned away knowing that swift punishment would be meted out.

    I smiled and I told her to keep facing the front while I rummaged through my bag of toys and produced a black 9-inch rubber dildo complete with bulging veins and a circumcised head. With Ms. D still lent over, I knelt down, licked her juices and inserted 3 fingers in to her vagina. She inhaled as she leaned back causing all 4 of my fingers to slide in. I finger fucked her briefly to moisten her up and without warning I inserted the black 9-inch dildo half way in to her pussy. She yelped and took a deep breath as she tried to compose herself. I guided the dildo in and out going slightly deeper with each thrust. Ms. D let out an exasperated quiver as she slapped her hand on the leather bench in an attempt to control the overwhelming sensation. “Fuck who” I asked her. “You Sir, fuck you” she replied with another moan. I like her spirit;) so naturally I inserted the dildo even further until she had taken the whole 9-inches. By now she was making enough noise to wake anyone within a 5-mile radius, but the sexual deviant in me encouraged her to let go and so she did.

    I grabbed my flogger and started spanking her arse with the dildo still buried deep inside her. I asked her to repeat what she’d told me previously, “Fuck you Sir” she blurted out again. Clearly she wanted more so I gave it to her. After full lashes from the flogger she soon screamed ‘Yellow Sir, yellow’. This time I threw the flogger on the bed and grabbed the magic wand again. With the 9-inch dildo thrusting back and forth I placed the magic wand directly on her clit. What a fucking response – she was totally in the moment with her legs shaking and her head snapping back and forth like Beyoncé on stage.

    I massaged her clit with the wand and before I could even gauge how close she was to orgasm she began to cum. I wanted to prolong the experience as much as possible so I adjusted the intensity and got her to focus on channeling the sensation to different parts of her body. This very loud and uncontrolled orgasm lasted well over a minute and by the time she had climaxed the carpet was wet and sweat was running down her thighs. With her body shaking, she gently collapsed to her knees with her arms spread wide, face down on the bench. She was thrilled and exhausted in equal measure and very much in need of another break.

    Ms. D had a number of emotions flowing through her body at that stage. She was realising that there was so much more to her sexuality than she had previously experienced. Putting BDSM aside, what we we’re doing was exploring her sexuality and allowing her to express it in what ever way she felt comfortable. Throwing BDSM in to the mix allowed her to play out her fantasies with a shift of power and control like ‘orgasm denial’ and ‘reward and punishment’. Ms. D quickly learnt how to manipulate the situation in order to get what she wanted from me.

    I helped her to her feet; she was so exhausted all she could do was wrap her arms around my waist as I carried her over to the bed. I lay her down on her stomach and poured some of the scented oil in to my hands. I then straddled her body and started massaging her back from the neck down. She seemed to melt as she exhaled the sexual tension that had been building up inside her. I wanted her to relax and let her mind drift.

    After some time she floated back to me and we spoke for a while about how she was feeling and the sensations running through her mind. I didn’t say much as I was trying to take it all in. This level of openness is rare because it’s not often nurtured so I always enjoy moments like this.

    Now it was time for the final part of our play session and I wanted take Ms. D to a more sensual place. As I lay between her legs with my head rested on her thigh I gently teased her clit by swirling my tongue around as she began to moisten up. I grabbed her hand and placed it on the back of my head gesturing for her to guide my tongue where she wanted it.

    Soon Ms. D wanted to fuck, she wanted me deep inside her and she wanted it now. She grabbed my head, clamped her legs around me and maneuvered in to position. As I sunk in to her warm, pulsating pussy I watched for her every response as I tuned in. I slowly explored her world feeling for her most sensitive areas and teasing them with a variation of strokes. After some time I broke free of her legs still wrapped around me and rested them on either side of my shoulders. Now I was really in a position for deep penetration as I massage the walls of her vagina. With my hands holding her firmly around the waist and my knees tucked slightly under her backside, I angled for her g-spot and sunk deep enough to feel her cervix. She yelped and pulled me in deeper, she wanted more so I gave it to her again – and again and again.

    I continued exploring her with deep controlled thrusts and then shallow, slow circular motions and then long pauses when I hit a sweet spot, teasing her until she started to thrust back at me. I peeled her legs back and fucked her deep and hard as she screamed. I could feel her pussy tense up so I asked how close she was, “3” she replied as she grabbed the pillow to muffle her screams. By the time she reached 4 my own orgasm was imminent. Flooded with Oxytocin and all the other chemicals running through our brains we fucked like bunnies with Ms. D giving as good as she got through gritted teeth and expletives.

    As soon as I heard her cum I let go and released what was now a seriously fucking intense orgasm. I snarled like an animal with my hand wrapped around her neck. After the climax we just stared at each other, sweating and panting; no words needed.

    I lay her legs down slowly and gently massaged her hips and thighs, running my hands down her legs to channel the energy to the tips of her feet. For a moment she lay completely still with her eyes closed. After a short while she looked at me, giggled and pulled me up along side her. She exhaled a long “Arhhhhhhhhhhh” like she was releasing years of frustration and at the same time playfully cursing me for being such a tease. After having shared such an intense experience together it was nice to be able to drift off and talk freely about sexuality, life and anything else we fancied.

    That night I left Ms. D sleeping comfortably curled up in bed under her warm duvet. I gave her a kiss on the cheek and closed her bedroom door quietly behind me. I arrived home just after 3 in the morning; way too tired to hop in the shower I collapsed on my bed and slept until 11:30am. When I awoke a quick glance at my phone displayed a message from Ms. D that read, “Thank you Sir, I look forward to being punished again. Ps. Fuck you.” (Wink emoji and a bunch of kisses.)

    I smiled as I imagined her back in the office among the grey suits, occasionally floating between work mode and the warm memories that lingered in her thoughts from the night before.


    Madison James is a degree educated 37 year old international male escort from London with a keen interest in BDSM, Tantra and massage. He has an aptitude for intellectual conversation, an inquisitive mind and a genuine desire to help women embrace their sexuality one orgasm at a time!

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  • Exploring Impact Play

    Exploring Impact Play

    My interest in kink started when my interest in sex started in general. I’ve never really been into “vanilla” sex, I’ve always been on the more extreme side of things; especially when it comes to sado-masochism.

    What Is Impact Play?

    Impact play is when one person (typically the Dom/me) hits another person (typically the Sub) repeatedly for sexual gratification. This can be with a hand, paddle, flogger, cane, crop, or other instrument.

    In a typical scene (though I don’t think any scene is “typical”) the Dominant will bind the Submissive to something and hit them (spank, flog, cane, whatever) repeatedly and with increasing force for the sexual gratification of both partners. Some Submissives (meeee) can even achieve orgasm from impact play alone, even if the genitals aren’t stimulated at all! Impact play can be VERY powerful, and is a great way to get into “sub-space”.

    Popularity Of Impact Play

    I can’t vouch for how “popular” impact play is as a fetish, but I will say I know a lot of people who are very into it. I personally participate in impact sessions at least once every week or two. It’s a great form of stress relief (just like any sexual activity) and is honestly the best form of foreplay for me personally.

    Preparation For Impact Play

    To start you’ll want either your bare hands, or some type of tool as I mentioned above: a paddle, a flogger, a cane, a crop, or something similar. I’d also recommend something for bondage, like cuffs or rope, but that’s not absolutely necessary.

    Typically the process of impact play begins with the Dominant “warming up” the submissive, by hitting them lightly with what they’re using for play. For example, my preferred method of impact play is flogging (giving or receiving). So, for instance, with a flogger the Dominant would lightly flick the flogger against the Submissive’s skin to draw the blood to the surface. You want to use an area on your submissive that has a lot of meat or fat (i.e. back, butt, thighs). You warm them up so that you can hit them harder later without seriously injuring them.

    Some Submissives enjoy bruising or marking (*cough* me *cough, cough*) some do not. This is why communication is VITAL. For any type of BDSM experience, but especially those involving pain play. The Dominant is responsible for making sure the submissive is having a comfortable experience. You can go to town on your submissive for a bit, but it’s important to come in close, touch them, whisper to them, remind them that you’re there and that you care. Be sure to ask them if they like what you’re doing regularly, and especially after harder strikes.

    It’s always important to have a safe word as well, so that if it becomes too much the submissive can say their safe word (which should be a word that would never be used during play! “No” and “stop” should not be safe words. For instance, mine is “mango”) and end the scene.

    How Impact Play Is Used As Punishment

    I suppose impact play could certainly be used as a punishment in the context of BDSM, but I personally use it as a pleasurable thing. I beg my Dominant to flog me.

    That being said, it would be extremely simple to incorporate as punishment. Is your submissive behaving poorly? Bind them up to a Saint Andrew’s Cross (or anything of course), tell them why they’re receiving punishment, and begin. As always, a safe word is vital, but more often than not Submissives enjoy their punishments. Even if they don’t enjoy the feeling, they enjoy being trained right from wrong by their Dominant.

    Precautions For Safe Impact Play

    All you really need for safe impact play is to PAY ATTENTION. Constantly communicate with your Submissive. “Is that okay?”, “Do you like that?”,“Is that too hard?”. And Submissives: be TRUTHFUL with your Dominant! Don’t endure something you really really don’t enjoy just to please your Dominant. It’s important to voice when something is TRULY unpleasant. You may enjoy going out of your comfort zone, or intense pain, TO AN EXTENT, but always keep your own well being in mind.

    Does your submissive want to stay mark free? Be sure not to hit them too hard. There are still ways to increase or decrease the intensity of your strike without hitting them hard enough to mark them.

    Does your submissive want to be left with marks, or maybe even bruises? Give them that! But after an intense strike, always ask them how they felt about it. I cannot stress enough that communication is key in ANY BDSM scene.


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