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  • What Is The Science Behind Human Attraction?

    What Is The Science Behind Human Attraction?

    Human attraction has long been a topic of fascination for scientists and non-scientists alike. It is a complex and multifaceted phenomenon that involves a wide range of factors, including biology, psychology, culture, and personal preference. In this article, we will delve into the science behind human attraction and explore some of the attractive male traits and female traits that contribute to the chemistry between individuals.

    The Role of Biology

    One of the most significant contributors to human attraction is biology. Our bodies are designed to respond to certain physical and chemical cues that signal potential mates. For example, our sense of smell plays a crucial role in our attraction to others. Research has shown that people are more attracted to the natural scent of individuals who have different immune system genes than their own, as this indicates a greater likelihood of producing offspring with a wider range of immune system defenses.

    In addition to scent, physical appearance also plays a significant role in attraction. Studies have shown that men are more attracted to women with an hourglass figure, as this shape is thought to signal good health and fertility. Meanwhile, women tend to be more attracted to men with broad shoulders and a V-shaped torso, as this shape is associated with strength and protection.

    Another key biological factor that contributes to attraction is the release of certain hormones in the body. For example, the hormone oxytocin, often referred to as the “love hormone,” is released during physical contact, such as hugging, kissing, or sexual activity. Oxytocin is thought to promote bonding and attachment between individuals, which can contribute to feelings of attraction and love.

    The Role of Psychology

    While biology plays a significant role in attraction, psychology is also a crucial factor. Our psychological makeup, including our personality traits, values, and beliefs, can significantly impact who we are attracted to and why. For example, research has shown that people tend to be attracted to others who share similar values and beliefs, as this indicates a greater likelihood of long-term compatibility.

    Another psychological factor that contributes to attraction is the concept of familiarity. We tend to be more attracted to people and things that are familiar to us, as this provides a sense of comfort and security. This is known as the mere-exposure effect, and it can play a significant role in the early stages of attraction.

    Another important psychological factor that contributes to attraction is the concept of reciprocity. We tend to be more attracted to people who are attracted to us, as this provides a sense of validation and acceptance. This is known as the reciprocity principle, and it can be a powerful force in the early stages of attraction.

    The Role of Culture

    Culture also plays a significant role in human attraction. Our cultural upbringing can shape our preferences and ideals when it comes to romantic partners. For example, some cultures place a greater emphasis on physical appearance, while others place a greater emphasis on shared values and beliefs.

    In addition to cultural norms and values, media representation also plays a significant role in shaping our ideals of attractiveness. The media often portrays a narrow and unrealistic standard of beauty, which can lead to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem. This can be particularly damaging for individuals who do not fit this idealized standard of beauty.

    The Role of Personal Preference

    Finally, personal preference is also a crucial factor in human attraction. While biology, psychology, and culture can all contribute to attraction, ultimately, it is up to the individual to decide who they are attracted to and why. This can be influenced by a wide range of factors, including personal experiences, life goals, and individual interests.

    One key factor that can shape personal preference is the concept of attachment styles. Attachment styles are the patterns of behavior and beliefs that individuals develop in childhood in response to their caregivers’ behaviors. These attachment styles can significantly impact an individual’s attachment style in adult relationships. For example, individuals with a secure attachment style tend to be more comfortable with intimacy and are better at communicating their needs and emotions to their partners. In contrast, individuals with an insecure attachment style may struggle with intimacy and may have difficulty trusting their partner.

    Another factor that can shape personal preference is individual goals and interests. For example, someone who values adventure and spontaneity may be more attracted to a partner who shares these values, while someone who values stability and routine may be more attracted to a partner who shares these values.

    The Importance of Communication

    While there are many factors that contribute to human attraction, communication is perhaps the most crucial. Clear and open communication is essential in building and maintaining healthy relationships. Effective communication can help individuals navigate the complex dynamics of attraction and can help ensure that both partners’ needs are being met.

    Communication is particularly important in the early stages of attraction, as this is when individuals are still getting to know each other and establishing a foundation for the relationship. Clear communication can help avoid misunderstandings and can help both partners understand each other’s expectations and desires.

    Conclusion

    Human attraction is a complex and multifaceted phenomenon that involves a wide range of factors, including biology, psychology, culture, and personal preference. While biology plays a significant role in attraction, psychology and culture also play important roles in shaping our ideals of attractiveness. Ultimately, personal preference is the most crucial factor in determining who we are attracted to and why. Clear and open communication is essential in building and maintaining healthy relationships, and effective communication can help individuals navigate the complex dynamics of attraction.

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  • How A Guy Should Impress During A Date

    How A Guy Should Impress During A Date

    A good date for me personally requires that magnetic pull and drive towards one another. The wanting of more… Mentally, or physically but having to I guess “restrict” yourself. It’s that magic spark as corny as it sounds where you have this excited feeling in your gut before, during, and after the date.

    I also like for the date to be planned and organized by the person asking me out… I hate the “Well what do YOU wanna do?” type of person. I gravitate towards the ,”Hey, get ready in an hour – wear something fancy/not fancy I’ll call you when I’m outside.” THAT is so attractive to me.

    That, and punctuality. Punctuality is actually a turn on for me, I swear it!

    The Importance Of First Impressions

    Through school I learned that within the first 3-5 seconds of meeting a person, you will know if you like them or not. Although I do somewhat agree with this statement, I try very hard to push myself away from it. Simply because there have been many occasions where my first impression was not great.

    For example, I dated someone for five years actually who thought I hated him. And I used to go home and cry wondering why he isn’t asking me out (really – I cried, LOL). Come to find out it was because when I first met him, he offered me a coffee and I said no, thank you. He took that as a “rejection” when in fact I was just super shy to even look him in the eye, let alone allow him to purchase a cup of coffee for me.

    So in short…  I think you should explore a person before judging them. First impressions can be awkward, but doesn’t mean you won’t end up dating for five years!

    Expectations For A Guy On Dates

    Well I’m a bit old fashioned in the sense that I appreciate a true gentleman. I like him opening the door, calling to make sure I got in safely, being courteous to the waiter. I don’t ‘expect” anything per se as expectations lead to broken hearts but I do like certain things in a certain way which include the gentleman type…opening car doors, restaurant doors, offering to pay, pulling out my chair.

    I’m old fashioned in that way and I’m very observant and I like the little things. I went on a date once and when the guy picked me up as we were driving, someone turned right in front of us and cut us off and he had to press the brake really hard and fast and his first reaction was to pull his arm out in front of me to make sure I don’t fly forward and that my seatbelt holds me back. I really really liked that.

    Common Mistakes Men Make On Dates

    Oh I have stories for days! I’m going to write a book one day. My life is like a soap opera. In terms of common mistakes I would say for myself, personally. Because of my outer appearance, usually men think I don’t have much of a brain. When in fact I’m very well educated (studying for my masters), and I’m pretty street smart as well since I raised myself from a fairly young age. That’s one of my biggest pet peeves. The assumption that because I take care of myself physically, that that is all I have to offer.

    Or the idea that I’m “just a girl” who does “girly things” and doesn’t know about “boy stuff”. So I have a huge obsession with cars, motorcycles and speed in general. My first car was an M3 and I had it so tinted that I would get pulled over left and right. I can’t tell you the amount of times some guy tried to race me and I kicked his ass or threw him in a ditch, rolled down my window and blew him a kiss and the complete utter shock of me being a female behind the wheel almost blew their mind LOL. Not just a female as I was told.. but, “Are you serious?! A god damn Barbie look alike just took you out bro!”

    Can There Be Too Much Flirting On A Date?

    I don’t think there can be too much! I’m a huge flirt I’m told.  There’s no harm in flirting if you’re not bothering the person! I consider “too much” when it’s just blatantly obvious non-stop compliments… Or planning way into the future while “flirting” on a first date… That stuff can be a bit excessive and can turn me off.

    Should There Be Sex On The First Date?

    Depends on the date! I’m not against it. I’m not 100% for it. I do believe that there is some sexiness when you delay the intercourse…the mystery of the first encounter…day dreaming about it or “sexting” about all the stuff you’re going to do to them when you see them…That in itself can be extremely fun.

    You can be in class and soaking wet from daydreaming about an encounter that hasn’t even happened yet. But then again, if the chemistry is there, and you both want it, why not?? If you’re both adults, and both choosing to consensually engage in intercourse then I mean…why not? Just because it’s the “first date”?!

    Have fun, stay safe and go with your gut! (Sometimes your gut is in your heart)

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  • My Dating Expectations & Experiences

    My Dating Expectations & Experiences

    I absolutely love dating, which is probably why my job as a companion has come so naturally to me. I love the flirting, the laughter, the intimacy and as a result, have made long lasting connections with my amazing suitors. I’m an extrovert at heart, so I also find it really exciting to meet new people.

    Have you ever been on a date with someone for the first time, and within the first hour felt like you’ve known them forever? I have, and it’s an incredible experience to connect with someone like that. However, I have noticed that this kind of chemistry is less common (really rare, actually!) in traditional dating, than it is in the world of professional companionship. After some reflection as to “why” that is, I realized that in traditional dating, there are so many outside factors that affect the way we date. Are we compatible? Will they like my friends? Is this someone I see a future with?

    These are questions that don’t need to be considered when you’re on a date with a companion. It takes so much of the pressure off and allows us to be much more comfortable with one another. It’s crazy to see how much more enjoyable a date can be when we let go of these expectations and just simply live in the moment.

    How Women & Men Differ In Dating

    We’ve always been told that men are very sex-focused and women are more emotional when it comes to dating, but I really don’t think that is always the case. People date for a wide variety of reasons. Some just want company, some are looking for someone long-term, some want something fun, and of course some people are simply looking for a sexual experience.

    In the real dating world, this can cause a lot of confusion. More often than not, people aren’t on the same page and it can often lead to hurt feelings and awkward conversations. This is where professional companionship becomes a great option; there’s no need to explain yourself or to feel confused about where you stand with your date. If you’re looking to connect and build a relationship with a provider, you can do that.

    Most of us love having regulars, and we genuinely care about them. But on the other hand, if you’re just looking for a fun one night fling, there’s absolutely no hard feelings if you never reach out again. Whatever it is you’re seeking, it can surely be found in the world of courtesans.

    Unrealistic Dating Expectations I Have Encountered

    I’ve definitely gotten some unrealistic date requests from clients. Things like overly specific outfit requests, play-by-plays of how they’d like the entire date to go, long lists of services they’d like me to offer…basically a lot of entitlement and a need for control.

    Early on in my career I would try and accommodate these requests, as I felt that it was my job to help create the fantasy my client had in mind. But, I quickly realized that those dates were never as enjoyable for me as the ones that unfolded naturally. I consider myself to be a really genuine person, so it’s hard for me to feel like I’m acting out a script.

    Companions can definitely cater to a general fantasy or theme, but we’re not circus performers that are going to jump through hoops for you. Besides, one of the funnest parts about going on date is the uncertainty of how it will all unfold. I think a little bit of mystery is sexy.

    Do I Have Expectations Of My Date?

    Absolutely. There’s the basics: be clean, be respectful, and be on time. Always put the donation out where I can see it at the beginning of the date. If I’m coming to see you, be a good host. Dim the lights a bit, put some music on, and be sure to offer me at least a glass of water.

    Don’t expect to pounce on me as soon as I walk through the door, a little bit of flirtation or witty banter is a necessary part of foreplay. Although it is certainly not required, a small gift like a bottle of wine or chocolate is a very sweet gesture. I really do appreciate the little things.

    Does Physical Attraction Matter?

    A gentleman’s physical appearance does not matter to me at all. I often get emails from clients apologizing for their looks as they’re concerned it will be a deal breaker for me, and it breaks my heart. Aside from very basic hygiene expectations, your appearance is not important.

    It’s unfortunate that we live in a society that’s made so many people feel like their ability to be liked is solely dependent on their looks, when in reality we are all so much more than that. I’ve actually noticed a trend that clients who email me boasting about how good looking they are usually end up being the worst dates. Arrogance is such an ugly trait.

    Personally, I love a man who is attentive, respectful, kind, and who understands healthy boundaries. When I know a man really cares about me and respects my body and my time, that’s when I feel like I can really let loose with him.

    What Turns Me Off On A Date

    A few of my date turn offs are: bad hygiene, gossiping, having a negative attitude, and not behaving discreetly when we’re in public together. I’m very privileged to be in a position where I can be selective about who I spend time with, so thankfully these aren’t things I encounter very often.

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  • How To Enjoy A Great Date Night

    How To Enjoy A Great Date Night

    Working hard through my scientific career means I love relaxing and having fun! I definitely go more for personality, so a date that shows that is perfect. I love food, but would rather go somewhere chilled for food than a fancy restaurant – I’m not really into being ‘wined and dined’. I also don’t actually drink, so a date that’s geared towards getting wasted is not going to be ideal for me. I think fun activities can be great to break the ice, and help us get to know each other better – even if I’m terrible at them!

    How I Prepare For A Date Night Out

    As long I have enough warning, I like to exfoliate and moisturize my whole body the day before. Then on the day of, I’ll shower, shave my whole body, wash my hair – make sure I’m silky smooth and clean. I will do this even if I’m not expecting the date to go anywhere that night. It gives me a boost of confidence knowing I’m looking my best, and feeling prepared for anything. Then I’ll slip into some sexy panties, and a cute outfit. You’ll most likely find me braless! By then, I’m probably already running out of time, so I’ll throw some make up on (I like a natural look anyway), and rush out the door.

    Do First Impressions Matter?

    I would say first impressions matter, but honestly I can’t tell if I’m attracted to someone until I’ve got to know them a little. A guy can honestly turn everything around for the positive, or cause the date to crash and fail, regardless of how it starts.

    Turn Offs Men Make On Dates

    Talking too much about their ex(es) – especially saying they were ‘crazy’ or ‘psycho’! It’s a big red flag.

    Another turn off is when they don’t give an indication that they’re attracted to me. I love some flirty banter! If it’s missing, I know it’s not a good fit.

    Also too much work chat. I’m there for a good time, not more work. I can share my work woes once I’ve got them hooked in haha!

    Signals I Give If I’m Having Fun

    Eye contact, leaning in, probably subconsciously playing with my hair – all the stereotypical girly signals. I also have a few funny stories that I’ll use to gauge their sexual interest. For example, I know of a girl whose boyfriend folds up her clothes and underwear as he removes them – if they think that’s okay, we’re definitely not a match! Passion is a must.

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  • How To Meet And Mingle With Link-Minded Couples

    How To Meet And Mingle With Link-Minded Couples

    There is no getting around the fact that the relationship game has completely changed from what it once was. Heck, if you are like most individuals, you can probably remember when it was only socially acceptable for men and women to marry. This is certainly no longer the case at all. While there are still plenty of people out there that do not approve of these actions, there are a number of states where same-sex couples can legally get married. That being said, no relationship is easy, especially not one that some people are not going to approve of.

    If you want to get the most out of the relationship while ensuring that it stands the test of time, you are going to need to have fun along the way. Any boring relationship is doomed to fail right from the beginning. You can ensure this doesn’t happen to you by getting acquainted with like-minded couples that you can spend time with.

    Consider Wine Tasting

    Who doesn’t love a good glass of red or white in the late afternoon? Heck, it doesn’t have to be the afternoon to enjoy a good glass of wine. Any time day or night is a good time for a glass. Well, you are not the only individual that feels this way, and this is why wine tastings make the best meeting location for couples with the same interests. You can tour these wineries, learn about the history, and enjoy some good drinks along the way. With all the wine drinking going on, you will probably have a little buzz going so the edge will be taken off and it will make it even easier to mingle.

    Host, Host, And Host

    Just because you have lived in an area for 5 to 10 years it doesn’t necessarily mean that you know your neighbors. In fact, do your neighbors know that you are part of the LGBTQ community? If not, you have nothing to be ashamed of and they need to know. They might be part of the community as well. Whatever the situation is, you simply won’t know until you find out. And, there is no better way to find out than by throwing an open house. Get some good treats, some wine, contact the neighbors, and you will likely create life long friends.

    Use The Apps

    As you should know, there are apps designed specifically for members of the LGBTQ community. With that being said, you should not hesitate to take advantage of these apps. When you do, you can guarantee that you’ll be able to connect with like-minded people. Simultaneously, you might be able to find someone interested in developing a relationship with you. There are numerous apps out there for those in this group. If you’re interested in developing a connection with someone, you should not hesitate to take advantage of LGBTQ apps.

    Use Social Media

    While you’re at it, you should think about using social media. This is one of the best ways to find people who are a part of this community. When you use social media along with quality sites like hardcore sex, you’ll be able to spot members quickly and easily by looking at the images they post. If they post images that support the LGBTQ movement, you can guarantee that they’re a part of it. This allows you to interact with these individuals without taking a risk.

    If you want to take the relationship to a new level, you can meet with these individuals in person.

    Attend Local Events

    Another thing to note is that you can attend local LGBTQ events. This will allow you to connect with members in your community and that can make a huge difference. By attending these events, you’ll be able to support the cause, have a great time, and develop relationships with others. This is one of the best ways to connect with these individuals. Finding these events can be difficult but utilizing the Internet will make things much easier.

    It is a good idea to attend these events in groups. This will ensure that you’re able to remain safe and comfortable from start to finish. This is vital if you live in an area that is less tolerant of the LGBTQ community.

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  • Things That Shouldn’t Be Done On A First Date

    Things That Shouldn’t Be Done On A First Date

    Humans are social animals. We need meaningful connections with other humans on a regular basis in order to be healthy, happy, and productive. It’s an unfortunate truth that life can get in the way of staying close with friends from adolescence and it can be really tough, especially for men, to make deep friendships as adults. The result? Loneliness is becoming a real public health problem.

    Dating can help combat that. On a date, you can enjoy great conversation and laughter with someone you wouldn’t have met otherwise. There’s no anxiety over whether the person wants to be there with you, or if they’re judging you. You can see a show, share a meal at a nice restaurant, and just open up to someone who’s happy to listen.

    Physical affection is also necessary for optimal health and happiness, whether that’s a warm hug, movie cuddles, or something steamier.  Dating is a great way to find a consenting, enthusiastic partner, so everyone can win and we can all feel great.

    For partnered people in relationships with a libido imbalance, it can be a good way to take the pressure off of the lower libido partner and help keep both partners happy and satisfied in their stable relationship. I like nutrition – healthy eating is important, but nutritional supplements can help make up any gaps. Extramarital dating can do the same for long term relationships, so that an otherwise great couple doesn’t have to breakup just because of differences in sexual appetite.

    Aside from all the health and happiness benefits, dating is also just a great way to destress, meet cool people you wouldn’t have otherwise, and have a good time!

    How Do Women & Men View First Dates?

    I’ve heard a lot of guy friends say that first dates can feel like interviews. From the moment the date starts, they’re just trying to ‘win her over’ and make a good impression, so that they can secure a second date and, from there, the relationship or intimacy that they desire.

    Girlfriends confirm that – they often say that they’re not really there to have fun on a first date, they’re there to assess the guy. Is he interesting, intelligent, funny, successful, well put together, generous, attractive, in line with their vision for what their boyfriend should be? Does he seem like he’s looking for something serious or just playing the field?

    Instead of playing together as teammates, with the same goal of enjoying each other’s company in mind, men and women are often positioning themselves as opponents – awful as it sounds, sometimes it really seems like they’re painting it as a game of predator-and-prey, rather than a meeting of equals.

    I think that’s such an unfortunate take! It makes the whole thing more stressful than it needs to be, instead of just fun. I love dating as a companion because it gets rid of all of those unnecessary strings, expectations, and barriers that stand in the way of two people just really connecting and having a great time together.

    Have You Been On A Bad Date?

    I’ve been lucky not to have had any bad dates, but I’ve heard other women say that they’ve encountered rudeness and men who were after only one thing, and as much of it as they could possibly pack into their shared time. Everything has its place and I think that, especially on first dates, people should always expect to spend a little time getting to know their date through conversation before beginning a nonverbal conversation.

    Expectations I Have Of My Date

    I expect my date to be freshly showered, always respectful, mindful of good sense safety practices, communicative of both their desires and anything that makes them uncomfortable, and more focused on the comprehensive experience than accomplishing a checklist of tasks. This is true whether my date is a man, a woman, nonbinary, or a couple.

    In return, I am fully present and engaged, enthusiastic, focused on my date, and genuinely committed for the duration of our time together to providing the experience for them that they’re seeking.

    First Date Turn Offs Men Should Never Make

    Hygiene is so important, please always show up freshly showered and with fresh breath. If your date is at 3pm in the afternoon, having brushed your teeth that morning isn’t enough!

    It’s also always really important to be respectful and not pushy. When you’re respectful, kind, and generous, you make your date want to show you a great time. That’s so much better than demanding it, for everyone involved.

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  • How To Impress A Lady On A Date

    How To Impress A Lady On A Date

    I think of sex, intimacy and a good date experience kind of like a dance! The gentlemen always ask your permission, they likely introduce themselves and dance at your level. Then of course you get the men who are total show offs and really don’t care about your dance level at all, they grind up against you when it’s not wanted and get too close than what your comfort level is.

    There’s dancers that you have a great chemistry with and you get completely swept away. There’s those whom you can dance well with but lack that fire however, you enjoy it just the same because you both share a love for the music and the dance itself. There’s dancers that you feel a constant friction to pull away from or not able to dance as fully, freely or openly as you wish to. There’s some dancers you have that you just can’t wait to be over and then of course there’s some dancers that you just walk away from! There’s dancers you have observed, their mannerisms from afar and politely decline their offer to dance.

    So to bring it back to a good date experience I think it all comes down to respect, consent and connection. And just like in a dance, you both have somewhat of a foundation at the least, a connection can be built with almost anyone! As well as being curious and perhaps even playful! A good date experience will feel almost effortless and mutually enjoyable. You lose track of time for a brief moment, your body feels alive, your mind feels engaged and hopefully you share a few laughs! A good date experience always has me smiling at the end of the date and wishing that I see him again soon!

    First Date Experience

    Gosh I have so much to say about a first date experience…it definitely starts from the beginning upon first correspondence. I love when proper booking protocols are followed and when they read my website/ads/reviews/Twitter feed to get a sense of who Karina Espinosa is. I love when clients engage conversationally, I love when the intimacy flows naturally and when it feels mutual. Never expected, but always appreciated when a client goes out of their way to bring a small gift or drink/food to share or brings you on a social date. It’s so thoughtful and tends to the mood of the date.

    And of course some of my best and most memorable dates are the ones with one, two or even a few orgasms! I’ve had orgasms in ways that I never did in my civvie life before being a part of this industry. The fun part of this job is also exploring my own sexuality, so when connection and comfort levels are built over time, I can sometimes be open to what’s outside my norm, of course ymmv. I consider myself fairly ‘vanilla’ when it comes to sex but with time, builds trust and with the right man, I’ve been known to be open to exploring something more than what I consider ‘vanilla’. And of course I have my hard restrictions that will never change. Good date experiences often turn into several amazing date experiences!

    How Much Do First Impressions Matter?

    First impressions matter the most to me when I feel boundaries are being pushed. When red flags go up for various reasons, if a client did something disrespectful or perhaps we’re just not hitting it off then I will end the date or not see them again. Perhaps I haven’t even met them yet, it’s just through initial contact that I choose not to see them.

    Other than those reasons, I don’t put a huge emphasis on first impressions…when you meet someone in this capacity there can be a lot of nervous feelings, so I don’t tend to judge a first impression unless it’s in the latter. Connections build over time and I absolutely love that! As long as my date is respectful, then I’m happy!

    Expectations For Guys On Dates

    • Be respectful
    • Be on time and don’t go overtime
    • Give the donation at the beginning of the date
    • Be clean and hygienic
    • Be willing to engage in a conversation and mutual sensual play

    Common Mistakes Men Make On Dates

    It’s easier to answer this question as a list because yes there are several common mistakes men can make on a date:

    • Do your research and follow proper booking protocols, don’t just say ‘Hi’ etc.
    • Have the donation ready, don’t make the lady ask for it. To be fair, I think sometimes men are just nervous or mind-blown by the beautiful women they have the privilege of seeing, so a little reminder is needed sometimes, but it’s never preferred.
    • Hygiene, of course! Shower…and actually shower please! Common mistake is to fake shower or not use soap? I’m always freshly groomed and showered before a date and I expect the same.
    • I always tell my dates my restrictions before meeting them, so much appreciated when those limits aren’t pushed or asked for again during the session because no means no!
    • I’m not a clockwatcher but I try to give a time reminder. Being mindful of the time is so important! Also…don’t be late!
    • Fetishes: I get asked all the time if I’m fetish-friendly. Please share what your fetish is because oftentimes what some consider a fetish I just consider being completely affectionate and intimate. If it’s a fetish I don’t cater to, I will let you know.
    • Accept a compliment! On occasion I will compliment my date and sometimes I’m received by comments like ‘yeah right’ etc. It can be hard accepting a compliment, but if I give you one, believe me it’s genuine!

    I’ll leave it there, I think a whole article could be written on this question alone!

    Can There Be Too Much Flirting On A Date?

    I love flirting! I would say I flirt more so with my body by being affectionate, touching and kissing, I absolutely love kissing! I love aspects of both shorter and longer dates. I would say that more flirting happens on longer dates. During a longer date, as we are getting to know each other more I’m usually straddling my date on the couch, playing with their hair, lightly massaging/caressing them, slowing undoing their shirt buttons, maybe moving my hips around on them all the while having a light conversation getting to know one another! It’s like a flirting foreplay and I love that part of the date!

    I also love social dates, whether it be an activity or a meal there’s just so much buildup, sharing food, sipping wine, getting to know more about each other and also thinking about ripping each others clothes off later and exploring each other more intimately! No, I wouldn’t say there could be ‘too much’ flirting, I see it as a type of passionate foreplay that’s happening as soon as the date starts to when it ends.

    Experiencing Awkward & Bad Dates

    Yes, I’ve had many awkward and bad date experiences. I’ve asked dates to leave for various reasons as well as blacklisted others from ever seeing me again. I’ve thankfully never been in any dangerous situations or been harmed in any way physically. I’ve had dates eventually become obsessive to the point where its alarming and they are obviously blacklisted. I also had one crazy stalker, thankfully not a problem anymore. In these situations, I’m so thankful to have a police force that is supportive of sex workers here in Vancouver, at least that’s been my experience so far! Minor awkward and bad date experiences I won’t share as they may come across this article!

    Impress a lady by being one of those exceptional gentlemen kind of dancers and experience the unique and special kind of intimacy that only this industry can bring.  Thank you so much to SimplySxy for asking me to feature on this topic, what a privilege! And thank you to the readers for seeing what I have to say! I quite enjoyed crafting my thoughts for this article!

    Karina Espinosa -Vancouver’s Latina Sweetheart. She is an independent & well-reviewed Companion based in Vancouver, BC.

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  • Ways To Enjoy A Date

    Ways To Enjoy A Date

    A good date starts from the moment an admirer sends me an email. That initial correspondence sets the tone for the rest of our interactions. If he starts it off by simply saying when am I free or how soon can we meet, with no thought put into the email, then I know he just found the first person who caught his eye and reached out to them.

    However, if a gent sends me a thoughtful note sprinkled with flattering compliments, has taken the time to read my website, browse my Twitter and on top of that, wants to plan a date that we both will enjoy, then I know he will be someone I will want to see again. I would be lying if I told you I didn’t like gifts or going to Michelin star restaurants, but that isn’t what makes a good date per say.

    It’s the thought. Did he take the time to ask me what type of food I like or what are some restaurants I’ve been dying to go to. I had a gent take me rock climbing recently based off a previous date where we talked about some of our hobbies. Now, that was what I would consider a fabulous date. It’s really the thought that counts!

    Expectations I Have Of My Date

    Yes, first impressions are everything. I have expectations of my admirers. They are pretty simple and easy, but you’d be surprised how difficult some people make it for me and for themselves. Screening and not wasting my time are some of the biggest issues I initially face with gents. If you can’t properly fill out my contact form, then we can’t meet. Simple as that.

    Common Mistakes Men Make During A Date

    Disrespecting me. Some men either take advantage of how nice I can be and try to push the limits of what they can or can’t do. Whether that’s intimately or in not being considerate of my time.

    Or when a guy tries to prod too much into my personal life. I love conversation and connecting with people, but there are certain topics that are just off limits. My love life for example, is one of them. Asking if I’m seeing anyone is a huge turn off. Mainly because it makes me uncomfortable when I’m spending time with a guy and he’s more interested in who I’m dating than us having a good time. LOL.

    Enjoying My Date

    I always make sure to express my gratitude and thanks when I’m having a good time during a date. And I always thank them when I’m getting ready to leave. If you see me smiling, it’s probably a pretty good indication that the date is going well.

    Tips For Dates Who Might Be Nervous

    Be yourself! I never want anyone to feel uncomfortable around me, I try to make you feel as at ease and relaxed as possible. I want this to be an enjoyable time for us both. I know it can be somewhat nerve wracking for people sometimes and so I always like to start off with some small talk to lighten the mood up a bit, maybe even throw in a little humor.

    Laughter always makes people feel more at ease or sharing my experience as well. Truth be told, I get nervous sometimes too! It’s a totally naturally thing and nothing to feel bad about. Music is also a great way to set the mood too. I always love asking people what their favorite type of music is. Great conversation starter too!

    Emma Andrews – SF based hedonist and coquette. Ardent fashionista and world traveler.

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  • Finding Genuine Enjoyment: 6 Ways to Explore Your Sexuality

    Finding Genuine Enjoyment: 6 Ways to Explore Your Sexuality

    Most people don’t really find their way sexually speaking until they reach their 30s or 40s. Sex in our 20s is often unfulfilling, both physically and emotionally. It takes time for us to feel comfortable with our bodies and meet partners who are not selfish or inexperienced. The older we get, the better we know our bodies and what we like. With age comes self-confidence. If your sex life isn’t ticking as many boxes as you’d like, here are some ideas to help you explore your sexuality.

    Get to Know Your Body

    Around 10-15% of women don’t experience orgasm during sex. Of those that do, 75% don’t achieve orgasm through penetrative sex. 90% of men, on the other hand, reach orgasm when they have sex.

    Biological differences make it harder for women to have an orgasm. Most men discover their penis at a young age and soon learn that it is an endless source of pleasure, whereas women are less likely to masturbate and learn what stimulates them and gives them pleasure.

    It’s very hard to have positive sexual experiences if you have no idea what you like or how your body responds to sexual stimulation. Get to know your body intimately. Explore every bit of your body when you are feeling relaxed, such as in the bath or under the duvet late at night. If you have no idea what an orgasm feels like, start with a vibrator. Once you can orgasm with a vibrator, you can try manual stimulation.

    It is now really easy to buy sex toys like vibrators or g-spot stimulators online. Nobody needs to know what you’re buying; parcels are usually delivered in plain packaging, so no embarrassment!

    Be Open to New Experiences

    Don’t let the fear of being judged by others dissuade you from trying new sexual experiences. If you have a secret fantasy about kissing a woman, hook up with your best friend. You never know, your friendship might reach a whole new level of enjoyment. And if it ends there, at least you can both giggle about it later.

    Date Someone Much Older

    Everyone should have at least one experience of dating an older man or woman. Older partners have life experience and the self-confidence to take charge in bed. It’s a great way to learn a few new tricks, which you can use to wow future partners.

    Date Someone Much Younger

    By the same token, nothing beats taking a toy boy or sugar baby lover – at least for a while. You can be the lucky recipient of envious looks and have fun exploring a taut, sexy body in bed. What’s not to like about that? Younger lovers also have a lot more stamina, which has its perks!

    Try Out Your Wildest Fantasies at Least Once

    We all have a bucket list of secret sexual fantasies, from threesomes with George Clooney and Matt Damon to attending a sex party dressed in a rubber catsuit. OK, so perhaps some of your fantasies are best kept to yourself, but if you have a fantasy that’s legal and doable, why not make it happen?

    Whatever crazy fantasy you decide to tick off your bucket list, always do it with someone who respects you and your boundaries.

    Know that it’s OK to Have Sex Without Love

    Don’t get too hung up on the notion that sex must be a part of love. It doesn’t have to be. Once you get your head around the idea that you can have great sex without falling in love, it frees you up to experiment guilt-free.

    Sex gets better the more we do it. As long as you practice safe sex and don’t take stupid risks, you have nothing to be afraid of!

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  • How Men Screw Up Dates

    How Men Screw Up Dates

    Oh my goodness, I’m definitely a yes person, so there’s almost nothing that I won’t do on a date. I think a good date really depends on the chemistry you have with a person, which can change. Some people I would love to catch a movie with, while some I’m dying to take to dinner.

    I think if I really had to pick though, a good date experience would incorporate unique experiences with quality time and getting to know each other. A lovely idea would be seeing a play neither of us have seen, and then talking about it over dinner or drinks. A hike and a picnic would do the same. One of my favorite dates ever was actually a pottery painting class; we got to talk while also laughing at each other’s messy mugs!

    How Important Are First Impressions?

    First impressions are vital. We make our judgments about a person’s likability within seconds of meeting them, so it’s important to make sure that you’re at your best. Sometimes a date is after a long day of work, or on a busy weekend so you don’t always have hours to prepare for it, but it doesn’t take any time to put a warm smile on your face. Being friendly and approachable goes a long way to making the best impression on my heart and in my memory.

    Be Yourself 

    I think we all try a little bit too hard sometimes. I used to never wear anything but a push up bra on dates, but then I felt like I wasn’t being authentic to myself (small boobs and all). In addition, when you’re not being yourself it makes you uncomfortable and that can negatively affect the time you have with your date.

    So if you’re a guy who doesn’t normally like clubs, maybe meeting her for a night of dancing is not the best idea. Personally, I’m really down to earth and I prefer genuine connection over flashy experiences, so while a guy thinks he’s impressing me by taking me to a fancy restaurant or showing up in a fancy car, it actually is a huge turn off.

    Bad Date Experiences

    Almost too many to remember! But now they are just things I can laugh about and learn from. A particularly bad date I went on was with a guy who shared way too much personal information about his medical history. While he didn’t tell me he had STDs, he did reveal that one of his testicles was fake, and asked me if I wanted to feel and see which one it was! I definitely didn’t go out with him again.

    Another guy was super sweet and I ended up taking him home with me on our second date, but then he snored so loudly that I didn’t get a wink of sleep. I don’t mind snoring, but at least let a girl know so she can get some earplugs ready!

    Advice For Men On Dates

    Be yourself. Authenticity is sexier than anything else. I personally love a guy who can laugh at himself and is down to earth versus a man with a six-pack. Of course, try your best to put your best foot forward; no one likes dressing up only to see that your date is in a wrinkled t-shirt and shorts. A little bit of self-grooming goes a long way, a man with well-trimmed facial hair, clean fingernails, and clean teeth is my favorite, but more than anything, just relax and try to have a good time.

    At the end of the day, we are all just people trying to find that special spark, that reason to connect to another person, and if you leave yourself open and vulnerable to that sort of intimacy, only good things can happen. Oh and before I forget, it’s important to be respectful. It’s 2019! Crudeness and boyish behavior can be left at the door.

    Olivia Lark – I’m a California-based elite companion who is a nerd at heart. I love lively conversation, travel, art, and new adventures. I’ve lived in Singapore, London, Milan, and New York in the past, and nothing excites me more than trying out new things. A former model and professional dancer, at 5’10 I turn heads when I walk into a room, and when I laugh, I melt hearts.

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