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  • How To Have A Great Date Night

    How To Have A Great Date Night

    A great date to me is one that is full of smiles, laughter and good chemistry. A little creativity can also go a long way when it comes to planning a memorable date. Some of my best dates were when the guy went the extra mile to plan an outing based on our shared interests.

    Preparation For A Date Night

    To prepare for a date night out, I like to take my time to primp and prime to make sure I look and feel my absolute best. A long shower followed by oils and perfume, hair and makeup and picking out the perfect outfit to accentuate my curves.

    How Important Are First Impressions?

    First impressions do matter! You only get one chance to make a great one.  My only expectation is that my date is a gentleman. I’m a little traditional in the sense that I believe a man should always open the door, pull out chairs, etc. It’s romantic and makes me feel taken care of 🙂

    Biggest Turn Offs

    One of my biggest turnoffs on a date is when someone doesn’t talk much. It’s hard to get to know someone who doesn’t tell you much about themselves.  I’m naturally extroverted and can talk to anyone about anything so it’s no reason to be shy with me. I’m an open book who will encourage you to open yours as well.

    Signs I’m Having A Good Time

    To show that I’m having a good time, I smile a lot and will initiate some physical contact by touching my date’s arm or knee. Physical contact says that I’m comfortable being in your personal space.

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  • The Importance of Attraction In Dating

    The Importance of Attraction In Dating

    To me dating and a full blown relationship is a bit separate. Dating is the idea that you want to get a feel for someone before you fully commit and it is so important to really pay attention here. To build a proper relationship (in my opinion at least) I need to find someone who has similar life goals. I’m definitely not looking for someone who I think will be temporary, some things I think are very important is taste in food, what kind of movies they like to watch, what they want to do with their life. For example, I want to have a farm and run my own homestead, so someone who liked living in the city wouldn’t be a match for me. I’m a hard worker and a minimalist so a lot of clunky possessions or a messy person doesn’t work well for me either.

    Another big part is political standings, while it isn’t the utmost important part, I would like to have the same values as the person I am with so I used dating to filter through people who I think would actually be happy with me or that I would be happy with. Life is complicated and hard, so the last thing humans need to do is be with someone who doesn’t want the same things right? Being in a relationship with someone who is basically my best friend is the most important thing.

    How Men & Women View Dates Differently

    Through my experience, a lot of men are definitely looking to sleep with me whether or not they are really into my personality. But honestly, a lot of the times we would just talk about deep, scientific or natural things from physics to traumatic things that had happened in our lives. A lot of dudes really don’t have many people to open up to and women have that sensitive side where they can help them open up and feel better about themselves, not be ashamed to admit they’re going through a hard time.

    Women I have known haven’t really wanted to settle and definitely like to have fun in their 20’s, I personally tried this for a bit but found it wasn’t for me so I am in a long term relationship with someone I can call my best friend. I am very lucky. I don’t know women as well as men. Men have always been my best friends and people I can relate with the most, but I think deep down people just want to connect and be open with someone. We are always more open and honest when we are naked, nothing to hide, everything to share. It’s a magical feeling really.

    Expectations On A Date

    Be polite! Not even just to me but to everyone, the server, the people you accidentally bump into when we’re walking around, to nature etc… NO LITTERING OH GOSH! I was on a date once and the guy littered right in front of me. I told him to pick it up and needless to say we did not see each other again.

    No texting either, it makes me feel like I am either boring or you are telling your friends what’s happening as it’s happening… Just wait till it’s done then you can tell your friends whatever. I always hope that when I am on a date with someone, that we can talk about more than small talk. I like to be able to talk about pretty expansive things, I’m obsessed with science, animals, plants, video games, movies, welding, computers, food and much much more, I can typically talk about anything but I love hearing what he is into. It’s always refreshing to find out something new from someone. Everyone can teach you something so it’s really cool to sit and listen to the things he is interested in. Don’t be afraid to talk about what you love. Passion ignites so much in people and a smile is contagious, be proud and happy for what you love and it will help you a million times over.

    Does Physical Attraction Matter?

    Physical attractiveness isn’t the most important, I actually like chubby, hairy bearded men which is often seen as unattractive. I guess to me, that is a handsome man though! But realistically it’s what’s in their head that matters to me. I really love assertiveness, confidence, intelligence and a sense of humor. Probably some of the most common traits people say they are attracted to but it’s true. A confident person is an attractive person, they’re sure of themselves. I would hate to be with someone I felt I had to babysit and hold their hand through life. If they can’t take charge of their life, it is pretty unattractive to me. I am an adult and I want to be with an adult, not someone who’s barely moved out of their parents home and doesn’t know how to do anything for himself.

    What Turns Me Off On Dates

    Oh gosh well as I previously said, littering! It’s weird that I have to say this I feel but so many people I have known litter and it’s instant dry up when that happens.

    Being too pushy, trying to force things where I’m not feeling it, being overconfident and lying etc… Confidence is nice yes but only when it comes naturally to you. If you’re lying and trying to one up yourself, then it will just come off as embarrassing so just keep cool. I am also very up front and clear about the kinds of things I like to do, I don’t like heavily crowded places so trying to convince me to go to a club wouldn’t go over so well.

    I would of course politely reject it but some people are super persistent and it’s just not for me. I’m not the party animal I once was haha. I am a home body. Movies, food, walk in the woods. Those are ideal adventures for me!

    Signs A Date Is Going Well

    Laughing, smiling a lot, listening. If I seem genuinely interested and invested you know that it’s going well. I very rarely had issues with this though but maybe it’s because I was picky with the guys I even chose to go out on a date with. Mostly University students etc…

    Honestly though, the biggest key to knowing your date is enjoying themselves is to just feel their energy, look at their body language. Are they relaxed and leaning towards you? Are they posing a bit to try and appear like they’re sexy? Tugging their low cut shirt down a bit to expose themselves a bit more? All sorts of signs will let you know your date is into you. But again the biggest hint is the smile and laughter, you want to have a good time right? You’ll feel it when it’s there.

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  • The 10 Critical Things You Want Your Online Dating Photos To Convey To An Older Woman

    The 10 Critical Things You Want Your Online Dating Photos To Convey To An Older Woman

    If your photos are subpar, then it’ll crush your chances of landing a hot date this weekend. It doesn’t matter if you’re on the best cougar dating sites around, bad photos will ensure you don’t get any messages.

    So, it’s time to get your brain in gear and get her mind reeling to meet you with the best online pictures she could ever imagine.

    Your Online Dating Photos Are The First Thing A Woman Sees In Cyber Playland — Make Them Count

    There are several essential elements you want to stand out so you can meet more women. I know you’re on the edge of your seat waiting to hear them.

    You don’t have to look like Hugh Jackman, but apparently, it doesn’t hurt, because he landed a hot cougar.

    So if you don’t look like Hugh, what’s a regular guy to do to get more action in his inbox and the bedroom? Get out the Polaroid and start clicking, but there is more to it than that.

    1) Look Away From The Camera For Your Online Dating Photos

    Having a profile page that attracts a lot of attention is critical. By looking straight into the camera with dead eyes, you’ll never get any positive experiences online. Perhaps you remind women of the creepy wallflower at the 8th-grade dance. He wouldn’t stop staring, and apparently, neither will you.

    Women like a little mystery and the occasional shot of you looking elsewhere adds some complexity to you. Don’t have every shot like this but a few make it look like you’re doing something interesting.

    2) Take Your Shirt Off In Your Online Dating Photos

    The myth of leaving your shirt on is for the older, less-ripped crowd.

    Let your torso show — if and only if you have a hot ripped body. If you’ve got a dad bod and are shirtless, being Leonardo DiCaprio is the only exception to us seeing your chest hair and belly button.

    According to OKCupid, the guys with super hot bodies, of course, get plenty of messages. So, if you’re going to the gym on the reg, take your top off. You won’t get any Mardi-Gras beads in return, but you might just land a date. And the older you get, the shirtless pics response decrease with age. So if you’re a ripped young guy, in some of the best places to meet older women, don’t believe the hype. Don’t be afraid to show some skin.

    3) Ladies Love A Sharp-Dressed Man

    If you have an average body, leave your shirt on, but don’t try too hard and put on your navy blue suit from Sears you wore to your High School Graduation. Let the moths in your mother’s closet eat holes in that bad boy.

    I love a sharp dressed man, but the stats show more than a collared shirt is a bit much.

    But I disagree with the stats because I for one — being an older woman myself — LOVE a man sharp dressed man. That is, as long as he is wearing high-quality material and you know how to dress well.

    An older woman can spot a cheap suit from across a stadium or through her computer with her x-ray eyes. So unless you’re dropping some bills on an Armani, stick to your regular clothes.

    If you have a pic with a button up shirt, there is no need to bust out the bow tie and suspenders, unless that’s how you usually dress.

    4) In Your Online Dating Photos — Don’t Be A Bore!

    Photos of you doing something interesting will give you the best chance that a message to a gal will start a real conversation.

    Women get fewer messages the older they get, so this is a fantastic advantage for you to meet hot women looking to meet younger men. The odds are in your favor.

    You can ping her online and make her heart race at the thought of another fantastic guy messaging her.

    What are some things that you can do in your photos that seem interesting?

    Do you really think a bathroom selfie will reel in the ladies? Toilet paper and romance do not go hand-in-hand. So get your butt off the throne and get some photos of you doing something cool and fun.

    Upload a shot of yourself:

    1. Playing table tennis
    2. Grab your guitar and have a photo shoot
    3. Running a 5K
    4. You scuba diving
    5. Playing football
    6. Chopping wood
    7. Building something
    8. Fixing a car
    9. Washing dishes — just kidding (sort of)

    5) Release Your Ex In Your Online Dating Photos

    Anytime there’s a cropped image — this is a red flag for any woman. Who’s well-manicured hand is that around your shoulder? Your overbearing mother or your crazy ex-girlfriend?

    These kinds of thoughts arise in the heads of single women all over the world when they’re looking for love or a hookup. Even if it’s your best friend’s sister or your cousin in the picture, don’t crop out a person, especially a woman.

    If you crop out women, other women will assume it’ probably your ex, you’re on a rebound and she should just keep on swiping left.

    If you want more right swipes, have full-sized pictures with no cropping. And definitely not crayoned-over faces, especially if they have long feminine hair.

    6) Wear Black Or Dark Blue Clothing In Your Online Dating Photos

    There was a study from Université de Bretagne-Sudthe  that recorded data from more than 24 women from the ages of 20-30.

    While these women got more response when they wore red online, professional photographers suggest that men wear black or dark blue. I haven’t seen stats on this anywhere, but solid colors look good.

    I’m also giving you some advice from television professionals from all over the world. If you want to dress for success in online dating, experts suggest that natural tones are also good. So, please leave your Hawaiian shirt in the closet until you meet your hot date at a beach party or a tiki bar. Prints are bad. Solids are good.

    Whatever you’re doing in your action photos, make sure you dress appropriately. Who skateboards in hiking boots? Nobody.

    7) Get Your Ass Off The Couch In Your Online Dating Photos

    We know you want to eat pizza and drink beer while you Netflix and chill with a woman. But please don’t post a picture of your lazy-self lying on the couch doing nothing.

    Let’s say you have two photos to choose from today.

    The first: an action shot of you doing a cannonball into the pool. The second is you napping on the couch with your chubby cat sitting on your face.

    If you want her sitting on your face or even near your couch, you better guess the correct answer to this question:

    Which photo is the most interesting? Me on the couch, or me having fun at the pool on a hot summer day.

    You guessed it— She wants to see the action shot fellas, not the lazy shot. Don’t let her imagine you as the simpleton who doesn’t do anything with her except try to kiss her with lousy pizza breath under the flickering overhead light on your worn out couch.

    You are more fun than that! And after you attract her with your sexy and fun profile photos, then you can chill on the couch with her. And she won’t even know the sofa was given to you by your old Aunt Bertha who smelled like moth balls.

    You want to create attraction and intrigue in her mind with your photos, not boredom.

    8) If You Like To Ride Motorcycles, Show It The Right Way In Your Online Dating Photos

    Let’s say you love motocross and you’ve been riding bikes since you were seven years old. If you want to express your love for the race, then have a photo of you riding on the track.

    Don’t pose in front of your bike like you’re a model in a bikini, sitting on a dirt-bike. You’re no woman, so don’t act like one. Look like a man. Ride it — don’t pose in front of it.

    The same thing goes for your fancy Mustang. I know you love your car. You’ve been saving up for it since you were in High School.

    But a woman knows you’re trying too hard to impress her if you are posing in front of your 8-cylinder monster with your leather jacket slung over your shoulder and your left leg positioned over your right leg, just so.

    That is one of the classic poses terrible High School photos are made of . . . in 1980. Don’t keep that trend going to torture women for any longer. Women have seen more than enough bad photos in their lives. Please save their eyes!

    9) Don’t Use Racy Photos In Your Online Dating Photos

    Online dating nudity is a massive turnoff for (most) women and can also get you blocked from your favorite online site for eternity! Men are visual and so are women, but women’s biggest turn-ons are inside of her head. Think about what she wants for a minute.

    Just because you want to see her naked now, doesn’t mean she wants to look at your closeup photos of places where the sun doesn’t shine.

    So intrigue her with your creativity in your photos, not your private member. Women like to create a fantasy in their minds and you don’t need to ruin it with a tasteless photo of you junk before you even have a conversation.

    10) Clean Up After Yourself

    You need to have at least one photo of your body and or face, but no need to have more than 12. And if you take a selfie in your bedroom, please take note of what is behind you.

    A pile of dirty socks won’t help you spark attraction, but your abs in front of your well-made bed might. A women is going to notice if your bed isn’t made, you have used tissues everywhere and you have dirty clothes strewn about the place. Same with the old pizza boxes on the table and the bong on the counter.

    You want to give off the vibe of having your stuff together. Nothing goes against that quite like the background being a disaster area.

    Assuming you know if online dating is right for you, keep your online dating photos classy, adventurous, authentic and fun, and let the women imagine what it’ll be like when they meet you. Give them a reason to want to connect with you— because you know what women want.

    Your effort will increase your chances of meeting the woman you want to chat with, then get down and dirty . . . And I don’t mean on the dirt-bike.

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  • Attraction & Intimacy: Signs She Is Interested In You

    Attraction & Intimacy: Signs She Is Interested In You

    “Our souls crave intimacy”- unknown author (slipped my mind).  A quote I once heard that struck a chord in me at a young age. I have always been fascinated with emotional and spiritual intimacy and what it means. Connecting with the opposite sex and developing our emotional intimacy that develops into sexual energy. Being intimate with someone is a beautiful thing that I take great pride in. Becoming one while being intimate with the opposite sex is something I love to do. I am extremely comfortable with intimacy and find myself able to easily open up to the opposite sex.

    First Impressions

    First impressions are everything to me. You get to see someones’ character and true colors. Always listen to the way others present themselves to you; they are telling you who they are.

    How To Impress You On A Date

    I love a stimulating conversation where we find commonalities on a first date. Everyone gets nervous or the jitters when meeting someone for the first time. So it’s nice to find common ground with your date to alleviate the nervousness.

    Common Mistakes Guys Make On Dates

    I have never had a bad date! I don’t believe in “bad dates”. Maybe not so great experiences but “bad” is a negative state of mind. I try to always shift the energy of a date if I feel it’s moving towards a negative direction. I don’t expect guys to be perfect and to always please me. For the most part I have had nothing but wonderful dates and experiences. Everyone I have came in contact with has been wonderful and fulfilling. The few negative dates I have had; I just kind of write it off and assume they were having a “bad day”. We can’t always be perfect; after all we are human 🙂

    Signs I Am Interested

    I am pretty expressive! You would be able to tell if I was uninterested. I don’t believe in being “bored”. Boredom is a state of mind and if your “bored”, that’s something you should change! It’s no ones fault but your own if you’re “bored”.  For the most part I do a pretty good job of stimulating myself and my dates to keep from being uninterested.

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  • Dating And Attraction Tips

    Dating And Attraction Tips

    I view sex as a way to release emotions, pent up frustration or excitement. It’s a way to connect with others but it’s also a way for us to connect to ourselves as humans. Sex is an exploration of our feelings and our bodies. I believe we must have sex, we must release to stay healthy. Sex is very healthy.

    As a trained Cranial Sacral Therapist, I have seen the damage that can be done if we don’t let go sexually. We get pent up and it all gets stored in our lower sacrum. People can suffer from back pain that can be tied to not having enough healthy sex.

    Biggest Turn Ons and Turn Offs

    My biggest turn on is when I’m teased with light domination. I enjoy playful sex. I want to giggle, it can’t be too serious, it has to feel free, and I have to feel heard.

    My biggest turn off is when I’m not being asked if I’m enjoying what going on. It’s a real turn off when men assume I’m really enjoying what they’re doing without asking me. Especially if it’s our first time together. I can guarantee you don’t know what I like cause we haven’t even met before. Don’t be shy or ego driven, ask me how I like it.

    Signs If You’re Interested In Him

    A guy can tell if I’m a little distant. I tend to hide and observe someone if I find I like them. I may be shy, a little cocky but very present.

    Sex On The First Date

    I don’t have sex on the first date. If I like you, I’ll want you to like me back so by putting out so early you’ll lose respect for me and therefore not like.

    And if I don’t like you, you’ll know it and there won’t even be a kiss.

    Mistakes Men Make On First Dates

    A big mistake men make is assuming they’re going to get laid. Hahaha this always makes me laugh. You can tell when a guy thinks he’s gonna get some. When I see this in a guy, it’s such a turn off, I’ve been known to play along, really make them think they’re getting it, and then just totally leave lol. I think after assuming I would put out, you deserve it!

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  • How Do You Attract And Keep Her Interested?

    How Do You Attract And Keep Her Interested?

    Intimacy for me is not limited to just the opposite sex.  A lot of people equate intimacy to sex but for me, it goes a lot deeper than that.  It can be a smile, a light touch or even just a quick look full of complicity between two persons.  Society is evolving and as such, I think our views should evolve too on what is “intimate” and consider that one person, all sexuality aside, can be intimate with the same genre.  Intimacy in my line of companionship is about being as open as I can with my companions which tends to grow deeper by the amount of times I can meet a person.  I like to think of myself as empathetic and one of the reasons that I am good at what I do is my ability to connect on some level with my companions.  When I do duos with my very good friend Hanna, we are intimate together as well as having fun and great sex with the man of moment.

    Intimacy 1

    Guys, First Impressions Count!

    First impressions are so important to me but not in the usual sense.  For me, it’s more about the emotions, the feelings than the purely physical.  A dumb but good looking guy will never hold my attention past the first few sentences….

    Usually it starts off by an email.  The tone, respect and courtesy that goes into the words one uses are what initially gives me an initial sense or feeling (the butterflies in your stomach one could say) and sometimes makes the difference between wanting to see someone, seeing someone or unfortunately for some transferring his/her email to the junk folder… A well written introduction and nice words are really attractive to me.

    When I meet someone or person, it all depends on how the initial contact was made, if I feel comfortable from the get go or if I am as nervous as him or her (I know I am always nervous before meeting someone for the first time…).  The way he approaches me, his clothes and certainly his shoes are the best features a gentleman can put forth to insure that both of us have a good time.  Inquiring and following through with my likes and dislikes (Wine, chocolate, food, etc…) are also big indicators of how the gentleman will behave himself during our encounter.

    Impressing On The First Date

    Charisma and intelligence are two of the many qualities I seek in a gentleman.  It’s bizarre but these two are seldom found in the same person…  Ideally, on a first date, the gentleman would have inquired directly or read my website and I think I give a good idea of what I look for.  A nice restaurant (researched and nice does not necessarily equal expensive!!), great conversation about things and life in general are a good way to get to know each other.  Great table manners and a nice approach with the waiting staff are essentials for me…  After that, we get to know each other and this is where we start being intimate, where our minds connect and my heart opens up… or not…

    Intimacy 2

    Keep Her Interested

    By being passionate!!  It does not need to be about subjects that I find interesting but for me, passion about things is contagious.  Now, if he talks about his car or his golfing trip for the best part of the evening, I am certainly not going to appreciate it as much as his buddies could but I think a good balancing act between talking about the things that he likes and asking questions about my life and interests go a long way to create this intimacy.  I long to understand more about the world, its people and everything that is and they have to offer that I keep an open mind towards new things and my date needs to have this attitude as well.

    Signs She Is Bored

    This is a tough question as it’s rare that I film my dates and see how I act if I get disinterested during the evening!!  I would assume that I am pretty normal in the sense that if I start using shorter sentences or just answer ”yes” or “no”, that is a sure telltale sign that I am getting bored.  If I am reaching for my cell phone without a very good excuse (or if I start making these up), I think that I have pretty much established that I am bored…  When I am interested in the person, the conversation or the setting, usually, I’ll have a tough time shutting up… yes…it is both a quality and a weakness.

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    A Note From Florence…

    As a courtesan, for me, intimacy does grow over time with someone.  Past the fact that there is money exchanged for my time, I do care about the people that I meet and, like everyone, long to establish a connection with the person I am with.  For most gentlemen, this could equal to sexual intimacy but for me, it goes on a deeper level.  As stated in my introduction, if he or she is generous (respectful and kind), he or she will receive it back tenfold from me.  This statement I think is what represents me the most and words I try living by everyday…  There are plenty of other courtesans out there that focus on sex, positions and services. I am not one of them and if you ask me about the services that I provide in your first introduction, there is a good chance I will wish you luck in finding your soulmate…

    I am Florence, a young and sexy lady aged 25, hedonist, stimulated by new and enriching encounters, thirsty to experience what the world has to offer with a definite focus on health, fitness and trying to maintain a great balance between learning, living and keeping a good karma!  People usually say that I am more sensual than sexual and they are absolutely right…For complete disclosure, I will have to confess my addiction to lingerie and great food and wine!!

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  • Pickup Artist VS Dating Coach

    Pickup Artist VS Dating Coach

    What’s the difference between a pickup artist & a dating coach? Don’t you both teach how to get laid?

    Technically, a pickup artist teaches the art of the cold approach. Simply put, how to approach, attract, connect and seduce a total stranger. A dating coach teaches men the art of dating. In other words, they teach conversational skills, stimulation skills, good manners to have on dates, how to handle logistics etc … Things pertaining to dating.

    Practically speaking, it really is mostly semantics.

    Firstly, a lot of the skills are involved in picking up a total stranger, crossover with skills are required to do well in the dating scene (interacting romantically with people you already know). Things like conversational skills for example.

    Secondly, whilst a pickup artist is supposed to teach how to pick up strangers, a dating coach teaches you how to conduct yourself in dating scenarios, both pretty much do not adhere to these constraints at all. A pickup artist ends up teaching you how to do well within your social circle, they occasionally teach holistic self-development, and they almost always teach some sort of relationship maintenance.

    When it comes to dating coaches (for men), it is even worse. Dating coaches almost totally makes the term irrelevant, because so many dating coaches are essentially pickup artists in disguise. They generally also teach pickup, self-development, and conversational skills etc … There is essentially little difference between both.

    Now to answer the second question, do we both teach people how to get laid? Essentially, we could do. Mostly, the question isn’t of much importance. The reason is because we both teach skills. We teach skills that help you get better with women romantically and that often also entails being able to “get laid”. So we teach you the skills and at the end of the day, what you choose to do with those skills isn’t our business. However, we screen our clients and students for potential criminal behaviour as much as we can and we always advocate good morals in our lessons, slides, books and blog posts. Having said that, if you are single and absolutely unattached, and you are totally upfront about what you want from a woman, be it a romantic, platonic, or even sexual relationship, then in my opinion no wrong is done, and no morals are crossed. In my opinion, deceit is the real evil, not being sexually free.

    In terms of my company, Navigating Social Relationships, I don’t actually know if we are dating coaches, or pick-up artists or whatever. In fact we’re probably none and it doesn’t matter anyway. All I know is that what we teach is this: How to initiate romantic relationships, and how to maintain them.

    We teach this through mental development, body manipulation, skill-sets development, and also through the art of the cold approach. We do it all in a holistic attempt to get you better with women. To get you better at improving your romantic life. In fact, one of the reasons we teach the cold-approach, is because it is a means to an end. And that end isn’t to get the number, or even to get laid. That end is about self-development, to a level where women will love you, to a level where your boss will love you, to a level where everyone will respect you because you are a solid and well-developed man.

    Pickup teaches you to handle rejection; it teaches you build your self-confidence and self-esteem such that it is made of bricks, and not a house of cards. It forces you to learn conversational skills, and repeatedly gives you an avenue to practise those skills. If you want to use picking up as a means to get laid, you could do that. If you wanted to use it to self-develop, you could do that, if you wanted to use it to find a romantic partner, you could do that too. Overall, we recommend that you use it for self-development and allow that to find you a romantic partner, or whatever pleases you within the moral boundaries.

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  • How Fitness Helps Prolong Being Physical

    How Fitness Helps Prolong Being Physical

    It is no secret what is important to men and women, and when it comes to love and sex.  Each partner will tell you, regardless of their gender, “I want more, and I want it to last.”  Now, I am not trying to bring up any insecurity on anyone’s part.  I am simply trying to shed some light on a very simple situation to help both men and women make the most of their time together.  I am not going to speak for every woman, but for the women I know and for myself, “WE LOVE SEX”.  When we can get it, we want it to last, and as women we are willing to do our part, and we want our men to do their part as well.  I think most men do try, they just need information on how to beat the clock, so to speak.

    It is like when you go to the gym for a work out, or you go to work and you see the guy who is catching all the attention.  It happens for women too.  It is always the same ones.  The woman with the legs that go all the way up to her, oh yea, you know her.  Then there is the guy who has the “chick getters.”  The biceps that are so prominent underneath the sleeves of his polo shirt, you almost think that the shirt is tailored to fit that well.  It is those little things that catch the eye of the opposite sex.  Inevitably, we find ourselves staring at the ‘leggy’ girl to see what is on her lunch plate, or the guy with the ‘arms’ to see if that is a protein shake he is drinking?  We want to know their secrets!

    It is all physical and it makes us drive a little slower when we see the gym on the corner.  As the day comes to an end, you start thinking of how you could get a run in, or add a workout into your day.  The sex appeal is there and that insecurity comes sneaking up on you.  When you get home, and your partner is in the mood, you tend to think about how you will look in six months and it gets you through the time together.  It seems rushed though, and the old familiar argument comes back up, “You just aren’t into me, what’s wrong, don’t you find me attractive?”  “Is it someone else?”  How do you say, “Yes, it is someone else.”  “It’s me, wishing I were him, giving you what you want and need.”  Think about it.  Here she is thinking, “If I looked like her, he wouldn’t be able to keep his hands off me.”  Instead of sliding into home plate, he would still be caressing second base.  Maybe if we took things a bit slower, and realized first, be with who you are with.  Leave that guy at the office, and the girl with the sexy legs at the water cooler.  If you want sexy legs or flashy biceps, then get them.  However, those are just part of what brings us together.  It is part of the workout, part of the gym world and what happens to the body when you invest in fitness.

    Fitness is sexy.  Let’s not deceive ourselves.  However, let us start talking about the benefits of fitness, how it is related to sex, and how we can make the most of the time we spend together.  That is really what happens when we come together as intimate partners, or sexual partners.  We take our time with each other.  Instead of rushing off to the gym and walking in with our own agenda, which leads to us walking out disappointed, we make it about making improvements within.  Once you feel as if you are accomplishing something, that is what makes you come back for more.  If you can see or feel changes, especially if it is sexually, then chances are you have found motivation.  Men and women alike have what is known as Pubococcygeus muscles, or (PC) muscles.  Yes, who are we kidding, no one uses this term over dinner conversation, so this is something you may not have heard of before.  You may know the term pelvic muscles.  Those muscles for women that help you during childbirth.  For men, what about prostate health, or those muscles that make your penis move up and down?  These muscles are controlled with exercise, just like any other exercise.  There are exercises called Kegel exercises.

    These exercises provide strength, intensity and control.  Men and women can learn to strengthen these muscles.  Kegel fitness will stimulate the orgasmic response for both parties allowing resistance during intercourse.  This will make the time you have together last longer, right from the start.  The strength and resistance of the muscles of both man and woman, will intensify the orgasmic response.  During intercourse, it is natural for a man to thrust as the vagina tightens; however, if both parties practice Kegel exercises, when the man feels the tightening of the vagina, instead of thrusting, he can use those muscles to squeeze against the tightness.  This provides a different form of stimulation.  This is where the ability to control those muscles comes in.  A woman controlling her pelvic muscles, controls her orgasms.  Yes, orgasms.  A woman can have multiple orgasms; therefore, men have always felt at a disadvantage somewhat because of this.  Why should they?  A man controlling his pelvic muscles, controls his orgasms.  He experiences “dry” orgasms by controlling his ejaculation.  Whenever he feels orgasmic sensations, he can squeeze his pelvic muscles, thereby preventing the semen from being released, but still feeling the orgasm.

    As you can see, fitness isn’t just about toning and firming those muscles for the world to see.  It is about those muscles we don’t see.  Those muscles used for purposes other than to impress onlookers and passers-by.  Fitness isn’t just about living longer, it’s about loving each other longer, for longer periods of time, and being happy about it too.