I think sex is one of the most beautiful thing in the world! Really, I love sex. I love solo sex, I love sex with partner, I love to explore, to talk about it. It is really a big part of my life. I discovered my sexuality when I was really young. I enjoyed myself because I wanted to make me loved, I wanted to make me feel good. I wanted to know my body and my pleasure by heart before I had to share it with someone. I am a free soul, I belong to no one except me. I am free about my sexuality, my desires and my fantasies. For me, sex is one of the most natural things that we all share together. I hate taboos about sexuality; we need to be able to talk about it, it is an integral part of life. Sex is incredible when it is done well, solo or with partners! I feel free about myself, I am not and never will be ashamed from my sexual drive!
Can There Be Too Much Foreplay?
Foreplay is really important! Sex is not only about penetration!! It’s kind of a game you want to play together!
When I am having sex, I want to do everything, I want to share, I want to be pleasured, I want to pleasure. Foreplay is not just about something you do in the beginning, it’s addition to intimacy! I don’t think there can ever be too much (when it’s well done of course)! When the pleasure is shared, it is never too much. Foreplay is part of a sexual healthy life. It’s a good way to listen to your partner to learn to know each other. Women’s orgasm could be more difficult to reach; foreplay often helps women to have more ease to enjoy themselves! Don’t be shy and play!
Possible Reasons Women Don’t Get Orgasms From Sex
I think some women do not take the time to explore their bodies. The female orgasms could be really difficult to achieve and we are all different. You must know yourself by heart if you want to share you intimacy with someone else. Masturbation is taboo when we are young. But I think it’s the first step for a healthy sexuality.
Also, sex is about two people, not only yourself. You have to be attentive to the other one. SEX IS NOT LIKE PORN! Girls, listen to yourself, tell what you want, what makes you feel good and enjoy yourself!
Deal-breakers Guys Make During Sex
I hate when a partner is selfish. Someone who thinks only of his pleasure. Everybody is different so we have to be attentive to each other! Listen to your partner, talk with him. It’s important to share more than sex with him! No consent, I mean, sex is about two (or more lol) people.
Ways To Kink Things Up
That is exactly why sexuality is so wonderful! There are so many ways to do it. I love to use toys, I have a lot of vibrators and I love to share the experience with a partner. You have to find what you like and spice up your sexual life a little bit. It’s fun to change the routine!
Tips For Masturbation Play
Just do it! The best person to make you loved is yourself! I love to use vibrators, I have several different toys. Sex shops are a really wonderful place, the workers over there will listen to you and you’ll never feel judged.
Take a moment for yourself, relax and please yourself! Listen to your desires, it’s really important to focus on yourself, your body, your pleasure. Just take time to enjoy yourself. It could be in your bed, in the shower, in a warm bath. Find what will make you feel beautiful and confident! Listen to you and make you loved!
I am Romy Rose, an artist and alternative independent companion from Montreal. Proud member of Indy companion.
I am a free soul young lady who loves to enjoy life. I am a unique, sensual and creative young inked woman. I love to share magical moments with people. My sex drive has no limit!
I like anal sex, definitely. But only when it’s done the right way. Therefore I would advice everyone who is curious about it: Practice before you do it, otherwise it could be a turn-off.
Anal sex is not something that especially fascinated me when I first started to watch porn at age 13. It slowly grew on me, and then I started experimenting with a boyfriend.
How I Prepare For Anal
Since I only enjoy anal sex when I’m really clean, I absolutely need some preparation. An anal shower is a must for me. When I prepare for an anal shoot, I use a buttplug and lube. I put it in about 2 hours before arriving on the set. In private you don’t want to wait for 2 hours so it’s more playing around with a toy, a finger, a tongue… You name it. But straight to it… never.
Anal vs Vaginal Sex
In my opinion, anal sex comes with a level of intimacy that cannot be compared with vaginal sex. Privately, I can only do it with someone I really trust and feel comfortable with. During a film shoot it’s different of course. But in both cases, one thing remains the same: I do not cum solely doing anal sex.
Tips To Enjoy Anal
Try to vary with positions, prepare with a buttplug or use other toys that arouse you, and use lube. Personally, I don’t prefer the silicon-based lube but the water-based. Add some vaginal stimulation and of course, be clean…
My favorite position for anal sex is the reverse cowgirl. It gives me some freedom to move around, set the tempo and find the perfect fit to get filled.
Ways To Make Anal Hotter
On the set I would say: add another person for a threesome, a DP. Or use a toy for the vaginal stimulation.
What I really like is getting a shoulder and back massage while doing anal sex. And use lots of massage oil, I like it oily and greasy!!
Esperanza del Horno, the girl that loves making porno, is a half Dutch/half Spanish 20 year old natural beauty from Amsterdam, the Netherlands. After doing erotic photoshoots for about a year, she decided to get into porn early 2017. She went international in May 2017. Meanwhile, she has already performed for some of the biggest production companies like Brazzers, Reality Kings and Perfectgonzo and can be considered one of the most promising talents that arrived on the scene in 2017.
Upcoming: Looking forward to the release of some movies I recently shot for PornPros, Reality Kings, Cumlouder and EvilAngel. And I hope the movie I did with Rocco Siffredi as producer will be out soon. Can’t wait!
And within a few weeks I will definitely start doing webcam shows. When exactly I will announce on Twitter.
If your sex life has become pretty routine, it is high time you tried something new. Grapefruiting is actually a new sex technique and one that has managed to drive men crazy, so you should definitely add it to the list of possibilities. Yes, it has something to do with a grapefruit, as its name clearly suggests it.
Grapefruit, a sex technique worth trying
Grapefruits are delicious to taste and often appreciated for their unique flavor. Today, you can find and taste grapefruit-flavored beer, use grapefruit-scented cosmetics and so on. Grapefruit is everywhere and, more recently, it seems that it has made its way into the bedroom.
If you are into blowjobs, you might want to consider Grapefruiting as well. This technique will allow you to take your blowjob-giving abilities to a whole new level. Who knows? Maybe this technique will help your partner get over his erectile problems. Sure, there also exercises for erectile dysfunction that he can try.
The main advantage that grapefruiting has to offer is the novelty element. Your partner will probably expect a normal blowjob, being then pleasantly surprised by your newly-found technique. Made famous in the movies, grapefruiting brings both the benefits of oral and vaginal pleasure. It is great from the very first second.
The important thing is that you do not confuse things. This is a sex technique, and it is meant to bring pleasure, not to enhance size or anything like that. If this is an objective for your partner, he might want to concentrate on those efficient penis enlargement exercises. Grapefruiting is all about pleasure, of the highest possible intensity.
How do you engage in Grapefruiting?
These are the steps that you need to take, about the Grapefruiting sex technique:
Take a grapefruit, slice its bottom and top and then eliminate the middle part. Make sure to take into account the size of your partner’s penis, as it must fit into the respective hole (comfortably).
Stimulate your partner, either orally or manually, until his member gets hard.
Take the grapefruit and slide it over the penis, using a twisting motion. At the same time, use your mouth for the actual blowjob. The trick here is to use both the mouth and the hands at the same time.
If you follow these three steps, you will no doubt manage to give your partner the best blowjob of his life. Due to the combination of oral and manual stimulation, your partner will receive double pleasure and have an amazing time. Moreover, the novelty of the technique will bring the spark back to the bedroom.
Give the grapefruiting technique a try and convince yourself of how sexy and delightful it actually is. You might even be able to help your partner to get over his erectile dysfunction problems. He can also take Primal-X, a highly-efficient nutritional supplement, meant to increase overall testosterone levels.
Even if he did not like grapefruits before, once he will see the different that one single grapefruit can do, he would certainly change his mind. What matters is that you are trying something new and that you are willing to work on juicing your sex life. Who knows? This technique might spark something new in you as well.
Grapefruit Benefits
Grapefruiting, as a novel sex technique, has some unique benefits to offer:
Novelty element – perfect to eliminate the routine in the bedroom and make your partner interested in sexual intercourse all over again
Feeling of both oral and “vaginal” pleasure – this is because you are using your mouth and your hands at the same time; moreover, the twisting motion adds an interesting feeling to the whole experience
Can help one obtain and maintain an erection for a longer period – perfect technique for those who are suffering from erectile dysfunction problems.
Things to consider
It is possible that, during the motions, grapefruit juice will squirt; you have to avoid direct contact with the eyes, as the grapefruit juice can sting quite a lot and it might kill the sexy atmosphere you created in the first place
In the situation, you are allergic to grapefruit, or you cannot come into contact with this fruit because of your medication, do not despair. As an alternative, you can try the same technique, using a large-sized navel orange.
If you are going with a grapefruit, choose the red version, as this is sweeter in taste. It is also important that the grapefruit is at room temperature, so that the whole experience stays comfortable. You can bring it to room temperature by placing it in warm water; however, you should avoid boiling the fruit.
The grapefruit should be rolled before you cut it, in order to stimulate its juices. The juicier the grapefruit, the more intense the whole experience is going to be.
Grapefruiting is best performed with your partner blindfolded. This is because the element of surprise will make him even more excited, turning grapefruiting into an experience to forever remember and repeat.
Getting him hard is an important part of the process, so make sure not to skip this step. You can either stimulate your partner manually or orally, depending on your and his personal preferences.
When he is close to finishing, you can take the blindfold off, so that he sees what has caused this amazing experience in the first place.
Conclusion
In conclusion, Grapefruiting is the most amazing sex technique, guaranteed to bring the spark back into your bedroom. Once you give it a try and see how amazing it is, you will certainly want to repeat it. Your partner will definitely be impressed with this novel technique, wanting to repeat the experience as well. Keep in mind that this technique can help one get over erectile dysfunction problems, as it delivers enhanced satisfaction in such a simple manner. And, yes, have fun, because sex should be fun.
Will O’Conner – He has been a Sexual Health & Fitness Advisor for Consumer Health Digest. He loves to write about General Health & Fitness topics. Will also believes in providing knowledgeable information to readers and constantly motivates them to achieve their goals. He is also passionate about traveling, arts and discovers and writes for people. Connect through: Facebook, Twitter, & Google+.
What is my opinion of sex? Simple. Sex is hard, but somebody has to do it. So I do what I enjoy. I love it and I want to do it as best I can.
How I Started Porn
I found an ad for a photo shoot. I wrote in and agreed on the date and place where the photo shoot will take place. But I found out that it was for porn. I said that since I was here, I would try. So I went to it 100% and found out that this is what I enjoy. Sex, cameras, show off and enjoy every minute on stage.
Kinds Of Rough Sex I Love
When it’s hard sex, the position behind, while he has to pull my hair, cut me, slap my ass and rub my fingers in my mouth. I just love it
I like when a man is a taller, muscular and potent (but not a condition) person. They must have blue or green eyes (I have a weakness for them), especially a gullible look.
I certainly would not have the guy tie me in, or he was banging me and thrashing me. I do not like this kind of sex anymore.
Paris Devine – I’m an ordinary girl who wanted to try the world of porn industry. After work, I prefer to listen to some music (it relaxes well) or I play with my dog. Otherwise I love shopping. Even though it does not look like I love Italian cuisine and Czech. The most popular dishes are Bolognese spaghetti and duck with cabbage and 8 dumplings.
Looking after our sexual health should be step one for everyone who enjoys sexual adventures, especially because not looking after ourselves can severely limit the amount of fun we can have in future – and we wouldn’t want that 😉 I feel responsible not only for my own sexual health, but also for every person I share an intimate encounter with. Safe sex, in my experience, is something you do together – and that is also the way to make it more fun!
Common Myths About Sex
There are a whole bunch of safer sex myths, and I’d like to dispel some for you here:
Myth 1: Condoms ruin sex/they don’t fit me.
Sex with a condom feels different from sex without a condom, but that does not mean it has to be less good. All brands of condoms have different shapes and sizes. If condoms sometimes break or split when you use them, or if they feel too tight, go a size up. If condoms tend to slip off or feel insecure, go a size down. If you get a burning sensation during or after sex with a condom, try some latex free ones – latex intolerance is way more common than you think. Don’t like the taste of condoms? Try out some different brands and flavours – you can find anything from coffee to mint!
Myth 2: Getting a sexual health check is scary.
Luckily, sexual health nurses are specially trained to make a check up as easy and comfortable as possible. Often, you don’t even have to get naked at all! Plus, not being sure whether you have an STI (sexually transmitted infection) is a lot scarier than finding out how your health really is doing.
Myth 3: Having an STI (sexually transmitted infection) is the end of the world!
We’ve come very far from the days that having an STI meant shame and no more sex. Nowadays, many STI’s can be cured with antibiotics, and even people who have HIV but take their medication no longer pass on the virus during sex. On the other hand, some STI’s are becoming antibiotic resistant – so it’s still better to prevent than to cure! The easiest prevention is using condoms and having regular sexual health checks.
Myth 4: Condom use always interrupts sex.
The more you practice, the easier it is to let condoms not interrupt the flow of your sexy encounters. There are a whole lot of tricks to make condom use sexier (which I will tell you all about in a bit), but one of the best ones is to try putting them on several times on your own, before you do it with a partner. Once you are super smooth on your own, you will be smooth and quick when your partner is there as well.
Myth 5: If I don’t have a condom on me, I can’t have safe sex.
Luckily, there are lots of types of sex you can have that don’t involve penetration at all – penises entering orifices is only one of the many things you can do in a sexy encounter. Maybe have a sensual massage, and slide your naked bodies over each other with plenty of oil or lube. Or enjoy some great mutual masturbation. The odds of an STI being transmitted through oral sex on a woman is extremely low, so get down there and pleasure your lady like she deserves! Exploring your partner’s body and finding out all the things they like that don’t involve penetration will only improve your creativity and enjoyment of sex.
Myth 6: I don’t enjoy sex with a condom!
I have literally never met a person who, when given the choice between sex with a condom and no sex at all, chose to have no sex at all. Sex is like pizza: even if it’s not your favourite topping, it’s still pretty good when you’re peckish.. So put your own health first, wrap it up, and enjoy your encounter!
How To Make Safe Sex Fun!
There are so many ways to make safe sex fun. I always recommend having a selection of condoms (and if you like, also gloves and dental dams) so your partner and you can pick your favourites. The best way to communicate about safe sex is to assume your partner is just as happy to look after their health as you are – and usually they will be.
Now, to make condom use more fun I have two tips I highly recommend you use. First of all – if you have sex with men – is to learn how to put a condom on with your mouth. You can always practice on a banana, but it should not be hard to find a willing participant for you to practice this skill on 😉 Mind your teeth so you don’t break the condom, and make putting one on the sexiest thing your partner has ever experienced!
A second tip is to put a drop of lube on the inside of the condom. The main difference between having sex with and without a condom is that there is less lubrication when you use one. When you put a drop of lube in the tip, it slides smoother and will feel even better – especially for men who are circumcised!
And as always when having sex, don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself! Sex is fun, and so is safe sex, so giggle if you drop a condom while putting it on, wink seductively when you put a condom on with your mouth, and don’t be afraid to be less than smooth – if your partner didn’t think you were hot they wouldn’t be there!
Things I Like To Make Sex Better
Finally, lube is fantastic – it makes all kinds of sex feel better, and it also makes it safer by preventing condoms breaking when you have a longer sex-marathon. A drop of lube inside the condom is great, but so is lots of lube anywhere your beautiful bodies rub up against each other. Try a bunch of different brands and types (water or silicone based!) and see which one makes your sexual adventures even more fun.
Anna Williams is a sex-educator and professional escort in London, UK. She specialises in threesomes, new experiences, and safer sex education. She believes strongly that natural beauty, communication, intelligence and feminine curves are sexy. She also believes that everyone should have the threesome of their dreams at least once in their lives!
To paraphrase Belle de Jour, we live in a ‘hook-up culture’ which accepts the idea of people meeting at a club, having unsafe and probably unsatisfactory sex and never seeing each other again, but introduce money into the equation and we have a problem. Like most women my age doing a liberal arts degree, I was conditioned to be very wary of the commodification of my body, but while I paid for that degree, I was working exhausting minimum wage jobs, selling smiles, my time and labour for barely enough to survive on. I was sneered at, exploited and sexually assaulted in those jobs, and was never in control of my environment.
There is a logical inconsistency here. I was raised by a single mother who worked two degrading and back-breaking jobs simultaneously to support us and I never heard complaints that she was being exploited. I have always had a high libido and before escorting was persistently having regrettable sex. I’m still having a lot of sex, only now I have more control over when, where and how, and I am financially rewarded. Being an independent escort, I am in complete control of every aspect of my time and labour. It allows me to make the money I need to work toward my chosen career and live the lifestyle I want in the meantime. The only limitation is the amount of work I choose to invest in generating that income.
The stigma attached to this one detail is residual of a moralising and sanctimonious cultural history. A history of black and white moral imperatives, one of little nuance: right or wrong, love or sex, Madonna or whore, master or slave, bought or offered freely… I believe I tow these lines constantly. Sometimes sex with clients is mechanical, sometimes it’s fluid and explosive and genuinely fulfilling. Sometimes they irritate me, sometimes I feel sincere passion. I experienced all of this before I was ever paid for sex. There are women today who still marry men purely for financial security. Perhaps they can learn to love them, or at the very least tolerate them. That’s the exchange. The only significant difference between them and us is that we know when the time is up.
Personal Relationships With Family & Friends
I’m a firm believer in the notion that anyone you have to lie to wasn’t worth the lie in the first place. Obviously I take my anonymity very seriously because I’m aware of the stigma. I would love to live in a world where I could have every aspect of my identity and lifestyle integrated without repercussions, but I’m not willing to make that sacrifice. I deeply admire all the strong and intelligent sex workers who have chosen to have public profiles, but I have other plans.
I’m fortunate enough to have carved out an existence surrounded by weird and wonderful people who are first and foremost non-judgmental. I am engaged quite heavily in the fetish scene where it’s easy to be honest with strangers about my profession. Beyond that I lead a very compartmentalised life and people who aren’t particularly important to me don’t need to know how I make money. In a nutshell, it hasn’t changed anything fundamental. The family I considered family are still family, and the friends worth considering friends are still friends.
I know other escorts who lead such secretive lives that they feel totally alienated. I have been an open book and I have had that trust deeply betrayed, but I would rather take that risk and discover people who are unconditionally loving and supportive, than live in the safety of total isolation.
Clients Who Request To Be Friends
Boundaries need to be clear at all times. As much as this job consists of uniquely blurred lines, it is ultimately a service we are providing. As much as I have genuinely enjoyed the company of clients, even missed them or have been sad to leave, my only real motivation for being there is the money. A professional relationship is never going to be equivalent to a non-professional relationship because I tolerate things I wouldn’t tolerate otherwise, for the money, as I suspect we all do.
In other words I am a far more easy-going whore than I am a girlfriend. The perfect client understands and respects this distinction. Some tend to fantasize or try to manipulate you to reach beyond the professional version of you. Frankly I have no tolerance for this. I respect the privacy of my clients so when they try to breach this trust I am as annoyed as I suspect a nurse would be if she were expected to give a patient a handjob by virtue of the fact that she’s already in close physical proximity to him.
Reasons Married Men Engage Escorts
I had a client who took a plane to spend the night with me because his wife was disgusted by his particular fetish. She knew that it was a big deal for him, an integral part of his sexuality, when she married him. Lots of women think they can change men, it makes us feel special. I think it’s a result of the historical inseparability of femininity and narcissism. But a fetish isn’t going to disappear just because you don’t like it, even if he loves you. Lots of men see us because there are dirty little secrets they’re too embarrassed to share with their wives. A man once told me he loves anal but would never do it with his wife because she’s the mother of his child. It’s that Madonna/whore thing again. We live in a culture which utilises sex to sell anything and everything but ultimately the mainstream is still repressed.
Aside from that, monogamy is an idea I believe was introduced to societies when it was socio-politically beneficial, and at a time when the average life span was shorter. I don’t think we’re naturally inclined to be monogamous, whatever naturally means, and it’s asking an awful lot for an ever-changing individual to remain forever fulfilled with the same partner for decades.
Ethically this is a minefield for me. Could I ever be married with children after living with intimate knowledge of what so many men really want, how broken the institution is? If I discovered my husband had seen an escort behind my back I would be devastated, but that obviously hasn’t changed my behaviour. I’m ultimately amoral over the issue. There was a sociologist who claimed that our profession serves a vital purpose in keeping the institution of marriage intact and, for better or worse, I agree.
My Escort Experiences
Any readers hoping for sensationalist tales of danger and tragedy are going to be sorely disappointed. I set my fees at a rate to attract a certain demographic of clientele and work hard to ensure my safety. This means that generally speaking I am treated better by clients than I have been by boyfriends. It’s remarkable the effort clients will put into treating you like a princess when they’ve already paid for what they want. I’ve been greeted with expensive champagne, flowers and given gifts.
I once made an outcall to a young man on business at a very plush hotel who was nervous about his submissive instincts, so he let me take the lead. I drank what I wanted from his mini bar, made him watch me make myself squirt all over his sheets, had him worship me and edged him for an hour.
There was a client who spent the better part of our overnight booking rimming me while I drank his champagne; that was when I wasn’t pegging him. Then there are the fetishists. I’ve had clients who only get hard if I ‘lift and carry’ them. One who spends a lot of time licking my armpits. Recently I’ve been working duos with my beautiful dominatrix friend Adreena Angela, during which we are waited on hand and foot while we play with hot wax, whips and rope bondage, and have clients thank us for the privilege of drinking our urine.
I’ve always been naturally submissive and have experienced extreme measures of the dynamic, which gives me good intuition of what a sub needs. My recent foray onto the other side has been terribly exciting. Be sure to follow us both on Twitter, if only to live vicariously, because there’s no way you’re having as much fun as we are.
Amelia is a sex worker, writer and dancer straddling the worlds of kink, academia and nerd culture. Based in London but with a serious case of wanderlust. She’s on a mission to never have to die regretting not having tried something at least once.
The coitus (Sexual Intercourse) is altogether a pleasing activity than all other practices in the universe. So, everybody should have awareness about the charming manners of performance. Here, I suggest modus operandi of the splendid sexual intercourse. Absolutely, this will be very much effective for the couples for their enjoyable and successful sex lives.
Keep in the view that cleanliness is actual beauty. Partners should be more conscious about this. Their mouths, hair and bodies should be aromatic. Both partners may brush the teeth, take a bath, use nice perfumes, eat cardamom and aniseed or take any fine chewing gum.
Sexual arousal may occur suddenly as a response of sexual attraction, or gradually after looking, touching, stroking, kissing and other foreplay activities. During sexual arousal, the man normally has an erection and woman’s vagina may become moist. Other physiological changes may occur, including flushing of the face and neck, the swelling and moistening of the mouth and erection of nipples in both partners.
The foreplay enhances sexual enjoyment. Foreplay means, activities that take place before penetration. The early stages of sexual activity may take place in any position, but by later stages, the couple would take usually the position in which penetration will occur. Foreplay varies very gradual and gentle, to rapid and forceful.
It is significant that sexual partners should sensually undress each other. This act is wonderful which enhances the sexual appetite.
The man may smell, kiss, lick, suck, bite and explore the parts of the female partner’s body with the tongue and lips. This often occurs in sequence of contact with different parts of the body: hands, arms and armpits, lips, tongue, eyes, nose, forehead, ears, cheek, chin, neck, breasts, nipples, abdomen, feet, shin, thighs, buttocks and genitals.
Good manipulation of the partners’ genitals is of great importance. The man may lick and suck the woman’s labia and the clitoris, which helps to arouse the woman sexually vigorously. Inserting the tongue into the vagina, and moving it in and out of the vagina is a replication of the movements of the penis. The woman should also lick the breasts, lower abs, inner thighs and perineum of the man. She may suck the man’s testicles and penis wildly; subject to the social values of society and religion. Pressing and rubbing the genital areas against the partner’s genitals helps to prepare the genitals for penetration.
Couple may adopt any position that allows sexual intercourse to take place. The penis might be inserted gradually; just the tip at first, then progressively more of the penis is inserted in a series of small forward movements and half retreats. This spreads the vaginal lubricants over the penis, and enables the vagina to accommodate it easily.
During the sexual intercourse, the man’s penis moves repeatedly in the woman’s vagina and out again. This is done by rhythmic hips movements, so the genital areas move apart and then together again. Both of the partners may move their hips, or one of them may move while the other stays still. Sometimes the range of movement is small, so the penis stays within the vagina for long duration. Sometimes large strokes, so the penis leaves the vagina completely, and then is thrust back deep inside it, hence more enjoyable.
In the intercourse, couples may use many kinds of movements; large and small, gentle and forceful, fast and slow. Either or both partners may take the initiative, and changes of movement may be gradual or unexpected fast. The couple may also choose to stop and then begin again several times. At the same time, they usually continue many of the actions of lovemaking that preceded intercourse: kissing, fondling and other activities. After the orgasms and ejaculation the couple may go to the completion with kisses and caresses.
Prof. Dr. R.Y. Jalali – Professor Dr. R. Y. Jalali, Ph.D “Professor of Sexology” is Director & Professor of the South Asia Institute for Human Sexuality (SAIHS). An eminent internationally qualified sexologist, he attained the highest education in Clinical Sexology. Professor Jalali is a Diplomate of the American College of Sexologists (USA), Diplomate of the American Board of Sexology (USA) and Diplomate of the American Board of Psychotherapy (USA).
Sex is a natural intimate interaction between two consenting adults. Whether it is done casually after the first meeting and not repeated (a one night stand), casually and repeated (friends with benefits, hookup/booty call), in a monogamous relationship, in a polyamorous relationship (where there is still a romantic inclination but there are other partners), or done as part of a financial transaction such as when one seeks the service of a sex worker. There is no shame in doing it, how often you do it, or who you do it with so long as you do it safely and all those involved consent to it.
Now, I am personally someone who can be intimate with another person and not engage in any kind of sexual activity and still feel fulfilled by the intimacy and their company. I also have a more analytical mind to it. People do it because it feels good, whether the physical aspect of the acts themselves and the biological reactions or the mental and emotional fulfillments and release of endorphins. I’m a very casual, go with the flow person. I go by intuition and instinct rather than itemising every aspect of the interaction and experience. I prefer things to be more organic. If something goes slightly awry I’d rather laugh it off and continue going about the encounter rather than let it ruin the experience.
I prefer people feel comfortable and relaxed with me and whatever happens happens, rather than focus only on the physical pleasure aspect of it. Perhaps I should also note I am pansexual and have had sexual encounters with men, women, and Trans* individuals and enjoy it all equally. My first sexual experience when I was in my teens was with another girl.
How To Initiate Sex Even If Shy
Coming up with a good ice breaker can be hard. As if you’re with another person who is shy and neither wants to make the first move while you are more likely to get the point across by being blunt, “Would you like to fool around sexually?” it may also be too strong a come on to the other person. It’s important to be aware of how the other person is feeling and make sure they’re comfortable with you. If they are more confident than you are, try your best to use your words and body language to make you clearly available and receptive to them coming onto you and making the first move.
-Touch them – you don’t have to grope or fondle – just touch such as on the arm, leg, lean against them. Make yourself open to their touch as well – uncross your legs, don’t keep your arms folded, try to keep your body angled towards them. Eye contact can be difficult for those who are more introverted but one of the best non-verbal ways to express interest in a person is to make eye contact with them. You don’t have to stare but during conversation, try to keep meeting their gaze. As always ,respect physical boundaries and personal space. If your partner is also shy and not very touchy-feely, don’t touch them as much and try to steer conversation towards sex. You don’t have to be explicit. Bring up a movie or TV show that has something very sexual and ask them what they think about it. Ask their opinion on a feature of yours that could be considered sexual – for ladies, ask what your partner thinks of your top, your lipstick, your bottoms.
For men, ask what your partner thinks of a feature you feel particularly proud of and try to direct it after getting answers to what they might think of what you’re packing in your pants. It’s hard to be “smooth” when you’re shy so chances are, especially when first engaging with someone, it’s going to be awkward. Just roll with it! You’ll laugh about it later when you’re done and basking in the post-orgasmic bliss!
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Common Reasons For Being Shy
The most typical reason for shyness during sex is some form of major insecurity. People often feel insecure about their looks and their bodies, for example. Or they feel insecure because of their social experiences (or lack thereof). They worry about making a mistake and the other person not liking them or something going very wrong. They may think the person they are trying to engage with is out of their league and they are not good enough which makes it harder for them to focus on pleasure and being in the moment. Those who faced a lot of rejection even when they are currently involved in a sexual encounter may feel a lot of shyness and insecurity and second guess everything they do and say because they still worry they will be rejected.
Men who are insecure about the size of their penis often experience shyness when engaging with a partner and may even have a difficult time getting and maintaining an erection, or reaching the point of orgasm. Even if their partner assures them they’re fine, what they’re doing feels good, and they want to have sex with them. People with less common sexual preferences and fantasies may feel shy during sex because the typical acts aren’t giving them as much pleasure and they are afraid of their partner judging them and deciding to stop engaging if they bring up what would really get them going.
In turn, someone may feel shy because if their partner brings up whatever they’re doing isn’t doing it for them and they want to try something else that they, themselves, aren’t good enough and are feeling rejected which can lower the mood for them. When it comes to sex, communication is always key but those who are more introverted have to work extra hard at maintaining communication so that they do have a good time because they have a lot more going on in their minds than someone who is more outgoing and be afraid to express themselves.
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Steps To Feel More Comfortable In Bed
If you are in a position where you are consenting to sex and wanting to have sex and you are with a person consenting to sex with you who wants to have sex with you – the best thing to do is accept that it is happening. That it is okay. You are where you want to be and doing what you want to do. Doubt can often get in the way of someone feeling comfortable in bed. Don’t be afraid to communicate with your partner. Tell them what’s feeling good and what isn’t. If it helps you, before you even start, cuddle with them and tell them some of the things you like and ask them what they like so once you get started you’re already comfortable and enjoying yourselves.
People who get nervous about sex and are introverted may want to use alcohol to loosen up and relax and for those who do, moderation is important. Please do not get drunk just to relax enough to have sex. For one you likely won’t enjoy the experience as much as you think you would, and for another more important reason is it is much more difficult for you to consent to things sexually when you are inebriated. You may agree to something during sex you wouldn’t have agreed to sober or you may have given someone the ability to have sex with you when you normally wouldn’t have. It can lead to not always the best situation. It’s important to feel relaxed and comfortable to have a good time but not at the expense of health and safety.
If you are with a new partner or you and your partner do not plan on starting a family, make sure you have the conversation about safe sex and use protection. With a new partner, to reduce the chance of getting an STD, use barrier protection. Nervousness about pregnancy or catching an STD can make someone very uncomfortable in bed if a plan of action isn’t made first.
Taking Control During Sex Despite Being Shy
Taking control can be one of the more difficult things an introverted person can do during sex but can turn into the most liberating when they are able to do it. Dirty talk is a great first step if the partner is open to it. Tell them what is feeling good and what you would like them to do. As you are getting into the groove, take it upon yourself to switch positions or change up the acts (in a safe way).
Always communicate and don’t do things without permission unless you are doing something as part of an established kink between yourselves and already laid out the rules and boundaries ahead of time. (Rough handling and such are common kinks and asking “is this okay” every time you do something rough in that scenario can be a mood breaker.)
Your pleasure is yours so whether you get more pleasure by giving or receiving, communicate that with your partner and you become in control of your sexual encounter.
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Ways To Lead To Sex
The creation of “Netflix and Chill” is a gift from the heavens for the more introverted. Especially when that is what it in fact is at first. You and your desired partner are watching something, sitting close together, enjoying each other’s company. An easy way is to put on something with sexual overtones or outright sex scenes. But also simply watching something that is a common interest can lead to conversation and connection. Connection is what leads to sex.
As you are hanging out, start touching more and let the conversation progress to the subject of hooking up and once you’re there you’re off to the races! I’m a huge geek so I go to the anime, sci-fi, gaming, and comic book conventions. There you can meet like-minded people with the same interests. Most of them take place in hotels where people have their own rooms. As convention activities wind down in the evenings, it is easy to find someone to talk to you’re interested in and if the interest is mutual, one of you can invite the other to your room to “hang out” which usually leads to sex (many times there is drinking involved as well in these hang outs so please see my prior feelings about using alcohol in moderation when wanting to have sex).
Modern technology has also made it a lot easier for those who are introverted to be able to have sex with someone. Many shy people have a harder time with face to face conversations but communicating via text messages is easier. If someone rejects you, the conversation can be deleted and forgotten about with much less shame. Any people also feel more liberated to be more forward with their desires, sexually, via communicating using a smartphone or through a social program on the computer. There are even apps now where all you have to do is swipe a few times and exchange some pleasantries and you can meet up that same day for a sexual encounter already knowing you’re both interested.
Build Your Sexual Confidence
If someone just needs practice talking, there are many sites with men and women who give sexual performances on live streams who will talk with those who participate. One can even pay for a private show where they can communicate directly one on one with the performer. This can help one practice feeling comfortable talking sexually and flirting with someone who interests them without fear of rejection and there’s that additional protective barrier of it being done online.
There are cam sites with performers of all genders, not just women performing for men so that kind of practice is out there for anyone. For someone who needs in person practice in a place where they won’t be judged, especially if they want to practice something sexually, in the state of Nevada, there are legal licensed brothels. The sex workers there are professional and understanding of all situations and go to great lengths to make someone comfortable. It’s not free but many people have reported benefits from paying to have the experience with a licensed legal sex worker that lead to them having more confidence in themselves to initiate relationships and encounters in their regular social lives.
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“Our souls crave intimacy”- unknown author (slipped my mind). A quote I once heard that struck a chord in me at a young age. I have always been fascinated with emotional and spiritual intimacy and what it means. Connecting with the opposite sex and developing our emotional intimacy that develops into sexual energy. Being intimate with someone is a beautiful thing that I take great pride in. Becoming one while being intimate with the opposite sex is something I love to do. I am extremely comfortable with intimacy and find myself able to easily open up to the opposite sex.
First Impressions
First impressions are everything to me. You get to see someones’ character and true colors. Always listen to the way others present themselves to you; they are telling you who they are.
How To Impress You On A Date
I love a stimulating conversation where we find commonalities on a first date. Everyone gets nervous or the jitters when meeting someone for the first time. So it’s nice to find common ground with your date to alleviate the nervousness.
Common Mistakes Guys Make On Dates
I have never had a bad date! I don’t believe in “bad dates”. Maybe not so great experiences but “bad” is a negative state of mind. I try to always shift the energy of a date if I feel it’s moving towards a negative direction. I don’t expect guys to be perfect and to always please me. For the most part I have had nothing but wonderful dates and experiences. Everyone I have came in contact with has been wonderful and fulfilling. The few negative dates I have had; I just kind of write it off and assume they were having a “bad day”. We can’t always be perfect; after all we are human 🙂
Signs I Am Interested
I am pretty expressive! You would be able to tell if I was uninterested. I don’t believe in being “bored”. Boredom is a state of mind and if your “bored”, that’s something you should change! It’s no ones fault but your own if you’re “bored”. For the most part I do a pretty good job of stimulating myself and my dates to keep from being uninterested.
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Well, sex is a normal thing and is for old and young, straight and gay. Sex is the way to let each other know that you love each other. Sex is the way to discover each other body’s and secret places. I think without sex, the world is boring 😉
Difference Between Masturbating & Being Fingered
Well, I know where I have to be, I know where the special places are and how to tease and please my own pussy and clitoris. Some guys are really rude or rough and they think we girls like it, but we don’t. If you finger the right places, then they can give us an orgasm really fast and also often.
Foreplay For Fingering
I think, foreplay is one of the most important things. I like to give a blowjob but I love it when the men licks and fingers my pussy. Then I will be very hot and horny as well. If the foreplay is good enough, then I will squirt by the penetrate.
Of course, the nails must bn cut and wash you’re hands please 😉
I like that the men play with my clit as well and make me wet please!
How To Use Your Fingers
Bring two fingers inside and stimulate my G-spot, do it with a normal speed and I’m gonna squirt.
Lick my clit and grab my boobs, that’s really lovely.
Melody Pleasure – I prefer BB/BBG/GG/GGG/Gangbang till 5 men’s, no anal, no submissive, I’m a Domina.
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