Category: Sex Ed

Frequently Asked Questions for Dating an Intersex Woman

Taylor Lianne Chandler is a former sign language interpreter and crisis management consultant that came into fame after it was revealed that she was involved with Olympic Gold Medal Swimmer, Michael Phelps.

Her privacy went away as more stories, images and text were made public. She had a decision to make about what she wanted to do with her life after losing her career on Capitol Hill and shuttering her consulting company.

Lots of offers came pouring in. She went on to sign a book deal with Riverdale Avenue Books. They published The Making of Going for the Gold and Super Bowl Surprise in 2015. Her memoirs are expected to be released next year. She signed a three-year contract with Steven Hirsch, President of Vivid Corp. They released Going for the Gold which depicts a snapshot of her life after meeting Phelps on Tinder.

Taylor was outed to the world on the cover of The National Enquirer, RadarOnline and TMZ on November 19, 2014, the same day Michael left The Meadows, as not only Michael Phelps’ girlfriend, but that she was born intersex and had undergone corrective surgery in her early twenties to make her anatomically one gender, female. Since then she has appeared on tons of TV and radio shows: Entertainment Tonight, E! News, Huffington Post, Howard Stern, and many more.

She was also featured in print media like Time, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, The Guardian, The Advocate, The Washington Post, as well as podcasts like, The Toddcast Podcast, Cyberstation USA, U interview, The Reverend Bob Levy Show and many more.

Taylor’s interviews and articles about her are in over 100 countries and translated into over 45 different languages.

1. Are you Transgender?

Transgender is very different than intersex. Transgender feel like they were born in the wrong body, where as intersex, you are physically born both genders in some variation. The word intersex replaced hermaphrodite. There are more than 55 variations of intersex. Intersex people are born with any of several variations in sex characteristics including, chromosomes, gonads, sex hormones, or genitals that according to the UN Office of the High Commissioner for Human Rights, “do not fit the typical definitions of male or female bodies”. I’m diagnosed Mosaic. In essence, they believe I was twins that morphed into one fetus. Growing up knowing you are the wrong gender feels the same regardless of gender marker. The experience and what you face by society is the same. Sadly, people are more accepting of intersex, as there is physical, scientific proof, not just a feeling. Studies have estimated that as many as 1 in 100 children will be born with bodies that “differ from standard male or female.”

2. When did you decide to become a man or a woman?

Thinking that I was born one gender is not only incorrect, but disrespectful! While stories of intersex people may have similarities to those of trans people, they are not the same. Today doctors recommend assigning a gender at birth and allowing the child to develop physically and emotionally before deciding to undergo surgery to make the genitalia look more distinctly male or female. Many intersex individuals choose not to have surgery. When I was born they assigned me male at birth and did unnecessary genital mutilation. As soon as I could talk and walk I knew I was female. That started a long, painful process of surgeries and medications to undo the chaos that was done to me. I identify as female even though genetically I am both genders.

3. Does your vagina feel the same as a real girl?

Don’t get me started how this real girl conversation makes me feel. I have nothing to compare it to. I can tell you the men I have been with haven’t complained. I had vaginal rejuvenation in my 30’s so I am tighter than most women. I also had my outer labia removed so I only have one set of inner labia. I feel I became obsessed with surgeries to “make” me more female, or my vision of what female was. I did not tell the men in my life my intersex past, so until I was outed by The National Enquirer, Radar Online, and TMZ, no one knew. Watch my Vivid film, Going for the Gold, and you tell me what you think.

4. Does dating you make me gay?

I can’t help but laugh at this question. If you are a man that is attracted to women, how could dating me make you gay? You are attracted to a woman. There is nothing manly about me. Even if you are attracted to a trans woman that answer is the same. You are attracted to the female you see. Regardless of what is between our legs you are being turned on by the female image. A gay man is not attracted to a woman.

5. Can you have children?

As a matter of fact, yes I can. I have a Uterus and can carry a child through IVF, but I do not have eggs, so I can’t have a child in the traditional sense. Because I have so much scar tissue and have had so many surgeries, it would be a high risk pregnancy because I can’t dilate to give birth. I would have to have a C-section. The ability to have a baby doesn’t make you any more or less a female.

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October 24, 2017
How To Maintain Strong Erection And Healthy Libido

Erection and libido

Every man dreams to have a satisfying sex life, and they have immense pressure to satisfy their partner in the bed. However, this dream is obstructed due to various reasons. One of the most common reasons for a man not being able to satisfy their partner is due to sexual dysfunction. Among various sexual dysfunctions, premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, and low libido are some of them.

According to the published statistic, over 18 million American men are diagnosed with erectile dysfunction, which is a serious issue. Without having an adequate sex drive, a person will not have any willingness to have sex with their partner. And, a strong erection is needed for vaginal penetration.

Without strong erection and an adequate libido, a satisfying sex is impossible. Now, the question is how men can maintain a strong erection and healthy libido for a satisfying sex life. There are many causes of an erectile dysfunction, and low testosterone is one of the major causes of a low sex drive.

Ways to maintain a strong erection and a healthy libido

Like with most of the problems in the world, there are solutions to various male sexual dysfunctions. In this section of this article, you will get to know about some of the useful ways, which can help you to maintain a strong erection and a healthy libido.

Eat right

The first thing one should do to enhance their sexual health is to change their eating habits. There are certain foods that one must avoid, and there are certain foods that can incredibly improve the sexual health of a person. Avoid cigarettes and alcohol if you consume them because they have adverse impacts on your erection. The study shows that the individuals who drink a lot have an increased risk of an erectile dysfunction.

Some of the foods, such as banana, figs, dark chocolates, and others should be added to your diet plan. It helps in increasing your libido.

Stay away from excessive masturbation

Male masturbation is a very common practice. Most of the men have the habit of masturbating a lot, which is not a healthy practice. Remember, men should aim to satisfy their partners, not their emotions. Practice self-control if you want to enhance your sexual performance. There are many adverse impacts of vigorous masturbation. The men who masturbate a lot have a decreased sensitivity, and they may also experience premature ejaculation and weak erection.

A decreased sensitivity can create many issues while having sex with a female partner. It can drastically reduce the overall sexual performance of men.

Consider using some products

There are many people who are struggling to have a satisfying sex life, and there are many business houses too who are trying to solve the people’ problems. All sorts of products can be found on the internet. There are male fertility boosters and many other products. Some of them deliver the results while many other products are just useless.

Some of the useful products that can help men in maintaining a strong erection are:

Cock Ring: This tool is to be placed around the base of a man’s penis, which must be just behind the testicles. It helps in trapping the blood flow for holding an erection. However, this ring must not be placed over 15-20 minutes.

Sex pillow: Using sex pillow allows both the partner to have a comfortable sex. While a female partner can bend back and relax, a male sex partner can stand, kneel, or squat, according to his comfort. This helps in a better sexual performance.

Male Enhancement Supplements: There are plenty of male enhancement supplements that are sold over the internet. Most of them are not effective, though, while some supplements are effective in enhancing the sexual performance. Consuming these supplements can enhance the sex drive; improve the sperm count, erection, and more.

Get enough sleep: The modern lifestyle is hectic for some people because of a busy work schedule. However, this lifestyle must not restrain you from getting enough sleep. A lack of sleep can lead to exhaustion, which reduces the sex drive of a person. Manage a time out of a busy schedule to get enough sleep. This will restore your energy, and you will have a greater desire of having sex.

Manage medications: There are plenty of people who are regularly consuming specific drugs for their depression, anxiety, social phobia, and other mental disorders. These medicines may provide a relief for a certain period, but these medications can lead to an erectile dysfunction. Consult with a doctor and make sure that you’re not overdosing these medicines.

Proper sex position: The sex position plays a crucial role in determining the sexual satisfaction. There are many sex positions that can be tried out by the couples; however, some sex positions are comfortable in comparison to others. A man standing or being on the top of a woman helps in a better blood flow, which leads to a better erection.

Try placing your partner at the end of the bed and ask her to hang her legs up. It will allow you to stand and have a comfortable sex.

Exercises: A person must be involved in regular workouts. There are numerous health benefits of exercises, as it can enhance both physical and mental health. There are different types of exercises; however, there are some specific exercises that can enhance one’s sexual health. Try out abdominal exercises as it can strengthen abdominal muscles for a better erection.

Combine weight training and cardio, as both of them, help in fat loss. The study shows that obese people are at a higher risk of erectile dysfunction, and losing some pounds can certainly help in reducing a risk of an erectile dysfunction. Finally, add pelvic floor exercises in your fitness routine. These exercises can strengthen pelvic floor muscles, which results in a better erection.

Maintain healthy relationship: A lack of communication can destroy a relationship. It can lead to a lot of misunderstanding, leading to many conflicts. After a conflict, it’s obvious that a person does not want to talk with his partner, which ultimately kills his/her desire to have sex.

For a better sex, it’s very important for couples to have a strong emotional bond. It leads to a better sexual intimacy, which leads to better sex. If there are unresolved conflicts, then it’s better to sort it out before it ruins your sex life and marital relationship.

Conclusion

All the tips mentioned in the above section of this article are very practical and effective. The thing is clear, and it’s that you need to adjust your lifestyle in most of the cases to have a healthy lifestyle. The study shows that the sexual frequency is one of the major causes of divorce. A better erection and libido means an increased sexual frequency and a better chance of a healthy relationship.

In the case of a serious sexual disorder, it’s recommended to consult a doctor.

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October 23, 2017
How Sleeping Apart Can Save Your Marriage

The image and idea of a couple sleeping together has long been one of the main symbols representing unity, content and happiness in a relationship. After all, if you can’t share the same bed, what is there that you can share?

That’s the most popular opinion, at least. But what happens when sleeping together with your spouse becomes an inconvenience for one of you, or even both of you? Is it okay at that moment to opt out for separate beds, or even separate sleeping quarters? Still, most people you talk to would say absolutely not, and that does seem to be status quo nowadays.

However, today I’m here to explain why I think that is prejudice and nothing more, and whether you sleep together or apart doesn’t have to affect in a negative way at all. In fact, I’m of the opinion that it can bring a lot of good things to your relationship, and here’s why.

Snoring, Active Sleepers and Different Bedtimes

Many people don’t know this, but back in the day of our grandparents it was perfectly normal for a married couple not to share a bed, and they did so for numerous reasons. My grandparents are a fine example of this; they’re one of the happiest couples I know going on their 50^th wedding anniversary in a few years, and during 49 of those they’ve slept in separate beds. Why? Simple; my grandpa is an avid snorer, and it was simply impossible for my grandma to get a good night’s sleep in the same room as him, let alone in the same bed.

Another reason why you might be considering sleeping apart is if one of you is what is called an active sleeper and has either done unintentional damage to the other person while unconscious, or is simply too frantic in his tosses and turns for their spouse to be able to stay asleep.

And perhaps the most common one these days is simply that you work opposite shifts sometimes, and so your biorhythms differ either slightly or significantly. In such a situation, it’s really good to have separate sleeping quarters so that each of you can go to bed and get up at your convenience, without disturbing each other.

Why Sleep is Important

Most couples that go through this problem bare it for years before they realize they actually have a problem, and this is due to how the importance of sleep is vastly underestimated in this country. A recent study showed that a third of Americans are constantly sleep deprived, and this is having a detrimental effect on their health.

A lack of sleep can lead to weight gain; it also messes with the insulin balance in your blood, raising the risk of diabetes and heart disease, and let’s not even begin to get into what it does to your mental focus and cognitive ability. Especially if you have children, being well-rested every day is paramount to conducting a successful romantic relationship.

Your Sex Life Doesn’t Have to Suffer

One of the most common reasons why people dislike the idea of sleeping apart is that they think their sex life will somehow diminish by doing so. And honestly, I really don’t see where people get this; the bed is far from the only place you can have sex.

Furthermore, I think that not sleeping together can actually enhance your sex life by taking away the element of routine. You’re no longer sleeping in the same bed, so you can take the action to other parts of the house. Use the opportunity to get imaginative and bring some unpredictability into your sex life, because as we all know, you can never get enough of that.

Summary

So, as you can see, sleeping apart can actually be pretty beneficial to your marriage. The number one priority is that both of you are getting as much sleep as you need to deal with everything you need to deal with during the day, and some modern-day prejudice that says you’re a bad couple because of it should be just ignored and left behind. I hope this article has been helpful and I wish you the best of luck!

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October 19, 2017
How To Give Her An Orgasm

Sex is a heap of sensations, and games full of eroticism, glamor, passion and fetishes.

How Long I Can Have Sex For

Depends on the situation and the moment. I can have fast sex, intense but fast sex for ten minutes. But I also enjoy long sex relationships that last sixty minutes.

What Do Women Want During Sex

It depends, every woman has some tastes and ways to enjoy sex. But mainly, they want to be heard, in relation to sex, that the boy is not selfish. They also want to enjoy sex and orgasms.

Favorite Sex Positions

I like all positions, and I also like to play and test new or difficult positions. But one of my favorites is doggy and anal sex. I love anal sex and also giving oral sex to the woman.

One Thing Guys Must Never Do

To be selfish. Do not be selfish.

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October 13, 2017
How To Satifsy A Lady Through Oral Sex

Giving oral sex, like anything, is one of those things that you’re either into or you’re not. I find most people who enjoy giving oral, are usually those that get very excited by the idea of pleasing/pleasuring, and in an incredibly intimate way. I love oral sex, giving and receiving but if not practised with sensitivity and good communication, can be one of those things that can go horribly wrong.

Is Foreplay Required & Can There Be Too Much?

Again it comes down to individual taste (pardon the pun!) – but I would say usually foreplay is extremely important in satisfying a lady. Sex is extremely psychological for women. Foreplay/seduction starts well before the clothes come off – and when they do, you want to feel appreciated – you want your whole body to be explored. You want to be driven to a point where you can stand it no longer. Foreplay is the journey to orgasm – and the more spectacular the journey, the more amazing the destination!

Yes absolutely, there can definitely be too much! You don’t want to foreplay a lady to the point of desensitising her.

Tips To Pleasure Her

Firstly always communicate with her. Don’t just assume she likes it. Ask her how sensitive she is down there. Practise a bit of restraint. Don’t just head for the bullseye – start north and slowly head south. Remember, you’re dealing with a female. We love attention so don’t neglect the other parts of us! Once you’re down there, give the surrounds some light teasing – be patient.

Definitely commence with a gentle touch and really tune into what her body is doing – is she relaxed? Is she pushing back or melting into you? Now is the time to practise complete presence and just get inside the whole sensory experience. Tell her how much you’re enjoying going down on her and compliment her how great she feels and looks. This will relax her.

Read her body language. Start off with a barely there pressure of the tongue and gradually increase and see how she responds. If you start off too hard first up, you can actually hurt her and most definitely you will desensitise her. Watch your teeth – and don’t suck the living daylights out of her, unless of course it’s something she wants you to do.

Just be yourself, and do what feels right. Don’t compare yourself to how you think you should be. Trust in your own ability to please your lady. It takes two to form great chemistry and often, it’s about learning as you go and this will differ from each experience. Don’t always rely on porn for tips.

Remember, the majority of porn is fantasy. Relax and enjoy!

Be Safe or Experimental?

Again it comes down to the individual. I don’t think there is a formularised method which is why it’s so important to communicate or suss out where she’s at with her sexual parameters. Maybe she likes to have her boundaries pushed, but never assume – do your groundwork – check in with her. This is showing her respect and that you’re someone she can trust and relax with.

Should You Kink Things Up With Toys?

Of course, but again, don’t assume, communicate. Toys aren’t for everyone and that’s okay too.

Never Do These When Giving Her Oral Sex

Diving straight in too hard too fast – it’s not fun being smashed in the nether regions by an overly enthusiastic set of gums and teeth!

Don’t be greedy and assume she’s going to multiple orgasm. If she’s had an orgasm check in, she may need a moment to recover – continuing after she’s cum can be too much and as a result, desensitize her.

Cleanliness and good hygiene is such a turn on. Make sure you teeth and mouth are clean.

Definitely spit gum out before even thinking about going downtown!!!

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October 12, 2017
Exploring Fetishes Without Judgement

I am very open-minded. As long as something is legal I am open to it. I engage in a very wide range of fetishes with my clients on a daily basis. Although I was always an open-minded person, being a cam girl has opened me up to so many fetishes I never knew existed, and every day I continue to explore new fetishes with people and I love that.

Misconceptions about Fetishes

That it’s weird, freaky, something along those lines… but I mean, if you love boobs, it can be said that you have a boob fetish, a fetish can still be vanilla.

How To Develop A Fetish

Depends entirely on the person. Most people develop them by accident. Although, it seems rather common that ex-partners have introduced (that person) to the fetish and it kind of just stuck as something they enjoyed.

How To Embrace Your Fetish

Engage in it. Share it with your partners without shame! Shame and embarrassment are the biggest things holding someone back from enjoying their fetish!

Incorporating Fetishes Into Sex

Depends on the fetish. If it’s a fantasy that can be acted out, act it out with your partner! If it’s something else, just discuss it with your partner and see if they are comfortable helping you explore and discover your fetishes. If someone is vanilla and maybe a bit more conservative, maybe discuss it with them and slowly try it if they are game. I believe being sexually content in a relationship is of high importance, if a couple wants to succeed they should try their best to help the other enjoy their sexuality.

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October 6, 2017
Why Couples Should Choose An Escort For Their First Threesome

I find, personally, threesomes need to be carefully cultivated. You need to figure out you and your partner’s level of comfort – for example, do both of you have your eye on a particular friend? Is this a friendship you trust? Can you handle seeing that same person again afterwards? And on the flipside – would you both prefer a stranger? Are you willing to take that risk? How are you going to go about meeting her? Tinder? A bar? The club? A vacation? I would think there’s a lot more to discuss about a threesome prior to actually initiating it, less you wind up in a devastating blow-up from poor planning. A threesome should be a fun, erotic adventure for the two of you – and absolutely not something that could come back to haunt either of you. So essentially I think like with anything in life, they come at a risk – and a great payout.

Should Couples Try A Threesome At Least Once?

I wouldn’t actually say they had to. This may not sound interesting to some people. For some – a tangled mess of bodies, writhing, moaning, delighted with each other, is a dream. For others, flip it, and it’s a tangled mess of bodies, rubbing the wrong things, getting in the way, sweating on their clean sheets. Nightmare. I think if it’s a scenario both couples want, they should try it… exploring your sexual side is always exciting. But if you don’t want it, don’t force the situation, it’ll just be hell on everyone involved. There are other fun things to explore, anyways.

Benefits Of Engaging An Escort

I think hiring an escort for your first threesome (especially if you intend to have many more than just one) is a great idea. These girls are professionals. They know what they’re doing, and they’re guaranteed comfortable and confident in their own bodies. There’s no elaborate seduction (unless you ask for that scene!) and everything can go to your plan. When you hire an escort, they are there to please you. There’s no intense romantic emotions tied in, no risk of day-after talks about unwanted feelings, and I stress the romantic emotions as of course your escort will be enjoying herself and very much into the two of you, just no worries about any disturbance afterwards or during. As well – an escort could offer many other things you want in a session, a specific outfit, a roleplay idea… etc, that you may feel uncomfortable asking a civilian girl you met at a bar. These types of encounters are carefully controlled, safe, and most important of all – very exciting.

How To Ensure Everyone Gets Equal Action

Ask. I always ask what someone wants to do. That’s the easiest way. If say, I’ve been with the girl too long and he’s been sitting there – you can easily say ‘Do you want to -do X thing- too?’, and bam, no more outsider. And you really just have to pay attention to both parties – make sure one isn’t just watching (unless they want to) and always try and pull them in. Just make sure hands are everywhere, all the time. Haha.

Rules & Etiquette To Follow

I couldn’t give you a direct list, but always listen to any restrictions (physical or otherwise) that either party has laid out in advance. You don’t want the threesome stopped because someone kissed or penetrated somewhere they shouldn’t have – what an uncomfortable, awkward experience. And as always, always use protection with someone new.

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October 4, 2017
Masturbating With Sex Toys

I started masturbating when I was 4 years old. And couldn’t stop till maybe I was 14. And at 15, I started using a neck massager and it felt so amazing. I bought my first real vibrator at a sex store and it was the best!. I always loved to come home and masturbate. It was a dildo shape vibrator and then later on when I used it for cam it broke.

My Favorite Sex Toy

Right now I really love using the Hitachi which is probably the biggest sex toy I ever got. And I had the most amazing orgasms ever where I couldn’t stop using it. But when my cam members taught me how to really use it inside and also used it against my clit, I wanted to scream. Because it felt so good. I also started using the dildo which is an average of 6 inches. So I use it when penetrating in me while using the Hitachi and I feel satisfied every time. And a lot of other models gave me some good tips and pointers too.

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Tips For Sex Toy Play

I think you have to be really patient and find a private time for yourself so you can find what works for you. There are millions of sex toys out there to choose from. And always be very careful to make sure you are not allergic to certain dildos that could cause allergic reactions. And if you do choose a dildo that fits to your liking, always use lube. By far the best vibrators for reaching the best orgasm is Doxy and Hitachi.

Tips For Beginners

I strongly believe that masturbation is healthy at any age. And I believe that it’s good for your skin and health. And helps you get that release you need. Even if your partner isn’t around to please you. I do feel that it’s good for you even before having sex or if you are sexually active, or if you want to be more sexually independent, always have one of the best toys for you. Which is the vibrator. And I feel that nobody is ever gonna love you but you. And always practice on yourself to have the best orgasm. When you have the right partner you can experiment as well. Where they can use it on you. It’s always important to masturbate to find out what works for you.

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October 2, 2017
How To Feel Pleasure During Sex

Sex is such a deep rooted part of being a human, and I love that our society is growing more and more open about sex, what turns them on and what they’re happy to talk about with other people. It is so intimately connected to our psyche and we really have no reason to be ashamed about talking about it or having sex – but a lot of people really don’t know what they’re doing! Sex really can be an artform – it can take time to figure out especially with women and what will make them cum.

How Underrated Is Foreplay?

SUPER UNDERRATED!!! Women really need to be warmed up – it plays a massive role in whether she will orgasm or not. But take care – all women warm up differently. For example, a lot of women can have clitoral orgasms but it isn’t for me – I’m just too sensitive and it actually makes it harder to relax. So you really need to ask her what feels good to her, and maybe even ask her to show you, if you want to get it right and give her a mind blowing experience. Some examples include body strokes, breast massages, running your fingers around the opening of her pussy, gentle and slow strokes inside it, body kissing….. there is a lot that you can do. But too much foreplay or foreplay that is too rough can also be overstimulating and makes it harder. So go gently and tune into the signs of whether it’s turning her on or turning her off…. And ask her to give you directions!

Possible Reasons Women Don’t Get Orgasms

I wrote a blog not long ago about the pleasure spots on a woman and there are many more than men probably realize – there are five alone related to the pussy! Like I said earlier, not all spots work for all and it’s a bit of combination practice sometimes to figure out what someone likes.

Sometimes women are our own worst enemy too – a stressful day can make it infinitely harder to relax and tune into our bodies. On the flip side, sometimes men will also experience this although usually it results in them not paying attention to what the woman wants…. They’re just focused on getting what they need from sex, and forget sometimes that someone else is there that also wants to get off.

And sometimes, sadly, we let societal pressures get in our head. For some women, they don’t like sex – it feels dirty, they feel uncomfortable, they have this irrational notion in their head that lots of sex is bad. Maybe they’re fearful of how they will be perceived by their partner if they just let go, or explore their deepest fantasies, so it’s easier to just not have sex. And some women just don’t have a sex drive although honestly I believe that everyone has one to tap into – it all comes down to if you explore it the correct way.

Absolute Deal-breakers Guys Make During Sex

Doing something she is not comfortable with is deal breaker number one. Mind blowing orgasms rely upon a really trusting relationship, and if you’re trying to sneak fingers into holes you’re not allowed, or sticking tongues in her ears when it feels gross to her, it’s just not going to happen – sorry, not sorry.

Any time you play with a pussy with your fingers too the strokes should be soft and firm but please, for god’s sake…. Don’t act like you’re a diabetic in an insulin crisis desperately scooping ice cream from a tub. Don’t poke your finger in hard and consistently like when your phone refuses to hang up at the end of a call – no manic button pressing please. It feels horrible.

But other than that, if she’s down and you’re down, there aren’t really many general deal breakers. It will just be deal breakers specifically to her or to you, so just be open enough with each other that you can tell each other if you’re going somewhere you don’t want to go.

Ways To Heat Sex Up

Sex toys are the fucking bomb. You know how I said earlier that everyone is different, everyone gets off differently? There’s a sex toy for every possible combination out there. It took me four purchases to find my favourite and now, even though I struggle to come from sex, this toy will crack me in under two minutes consistently. I had my first double orgasm with it.

Just purchase according to the spots that you know feel the best for you. For me, I like penetration but found that a little bit of clitoral stimulation sent me over the edge – so I purchased a rabbit toy with a curve at the end to hit the A spot (the most important spot for me).

Keep an open mind too – sex toys aren’t just for women. There are incredible prostate toys out there for men, and I honestly think that all men should have a go at prostate play at some point in their life. It may not be for you, but if you find out it is…..well, you’re welcome in advance.

Roleplay is super fun, you can consider scripted vs unscripted. I personally find unscripted roleplay suits me best, but sometimes you do need a script in advance – especially if you’re a little more nervous about it. It will just take the improv pressure off so you can enjoy it more.

My personal way to spice things up – I am a food junkie, so let me eat food off your body and I’m a happy camper. There are so many ways you can put a twist on sex, just think about some of the things that you love to do and incorporate them. If you’re an outdoorsy type, go away for a naughty camping trip. If you love to be pampered, draw a bath together – fooling around in water is super sexy too. There will always be a way to incorporate what you love into sex, just get creative.

Tips For Solo Play

Honestly, again everyone is different. I generally need toys for masturbation because my favourite pleasure spots are deeper and toys just make it a hell of a lot easier to reach them…it means I don’t have to scrabble for them. I suggest taking some time to relax beforehand, stroke your body, warm yourself up before you go straight to masturbation – it honestly helps. And I love to think of fantasies, it really helps me get over that edge.

Charlie Forde is a very down to earth, goofy gal well known for the twinkle in her eye, her natural and toned body and her slight geeky side. She loves helping people to explore their sexuality, and shares a lot of information via her blog on her personal site. Lover of gin, dogs, the outdoors and video gaming, experiences with her are chilled, full of intellect and ultimately unforgettable.

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September 26, 2017
How To Have Sex With A Transsexual Pornstar

Sex for me is a lot. I use sex as a liberation, as a way to remove stress from my body, as a way to express and do all I fantasy,

My First Sexual Encounter

Well my first sexual encounter was just a test for me to understand and start exploring my sexuality. I must say it wasn’t that great as I was 15 and he was 28 so obviously I didn’t know what to do and what I was doing but I didn’t even imagine to become the pervert that I am now.

How To Give Oral Sex To A Transsexual

Well who doesn’t like to receive oral sex LOL and obviously I love it! And a guy should be confident and so into me that everything comes so naturally, you don’t need to know what to do, you just do what the chemistry and your body tells you to do to enjoy the moment.

Sex In Porn & Real Life

Obviously there is a massive difference between the two but I’m not gonna lie that with some male performers, I have a massive chemistry and I forget about the camera.

Sex Tips To Follow

Be yourself, let yourself go without focusing on your cock or on the erection. Just enjoy the girl you like and you finally have there in bed with you!!

Eva Paradis – The stunning Italian pornstar born in Italy (Naples) and managed to become a world star in the porn industry in less than 4 years.

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The stunning body naturally blessed by mother nature with an incredible fit and curvy body with soft smooth skin and a nice perfect sevenand half inch uncut cock.

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