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  • 4 Sex Tips For Same-Sex Couples

    4 Sex Tips For Same-Sex Couples

    You think you know it all and that’s fine. Yes, when you first started dating, everything was exhilarating, just looking at your boyfriend made you want to rip his clothes off and eat his cake right there. Perhaps there were even times when you couldn’t even control yourself and you would just do it in a bathroom at a friend’s party. However, this ‘hot, heavy, and always ready’ stage, regrettably, always wanes.

    Even when gay couples presume they’ve mastered the art of lovemaking, they come to realize that they can always learn new ways of being erotic and sexual with their significant other, leading the relationship to a whole other dimension that was never thought plausible before.

    Change Up Locations

    Getting your freak on doesn’t always have to take place in the bedroom. Smart same-sex couples are stepping up their game and taking their lovemaking sessions to the restaurants, clubs, outdoors, and even at church. By changing up the usual locations where you lay the hammer, you and your partner adjust the depth of your emotional connection by hitting right at home in a plethora of new, previously unthinkable, ways. Changing up locations isn’t just for the sake of new, exciting, and fun intercourse – different locations can act like that dash of salt you and your partner have been yearning for.

    Sleep Naked

    Ready to score TONS of health and sex benefits? Sleep naked with your partner. Sleeping in the buff with your partner definitely has its perks and benefits – like getting to snuggle up against their warm body instead of their boring banana pajama set or an overworn-out t-shirt. But that’s not the only benefit of going to bed in your birthday suit. Actually, whether you sleep alone or with your significant other, snoozing with nothing but your skin on can improve both your health and sex life. Ready to look fall asleep faster, enjoy deep sleep, look younger, reduce stress and anxiety, boost your confidence, and have waaay more sex? We bet you are!

    Don’t Skip Foreplay

    While same-sex couples are sometimes having a quick hot session, it’s important to remember that both partners go through a lot of trouble to ensure they’re ready for action and some salacious slip-and-slide action. Sex is so much more than just penetration – lots of foreplay helps prolong the act of pleasure and elevates both your and your partner’s arousal and desire boundaries. Touch and kiss everywhere to stimulate his entire body with hot kisses in varying pressure, moreover, gently bite here and there (you know where!). Explore each other’s bodies and learn where your erogenous zones are so that both of you are aware of how to stimulate more. Get that cake ready for grand entrance by teasing and stimulating with your fingers, tongue, perhaps a realistic dildo, the tip of your penis, etc. Either way, you are both going to show each other some great time, however, ideally, you’d like to have your partner writhing in ecstasy, begging to be mounted on your piercing pole.

    Talk About It

    If you are having a hard time talking about sex with your lover(s), you might want to start with non-sexual emotional vulnerability and intimacy. Talk about your fears, your dreams, your insecurities, and your passions that have nothing to do with sex. Doing so will help you realize that vulnerability is a very rewarding and safety-building process. Log some time experiencing just how safe vulnerability can be and how much emotional intimacy it can create. In this context, you will create an exciting climate and will learn to trust the process of healthy vulnerability, which will lead to meaningful talks about sex. Pave the way to talking about sex by being vulnerable in other areas.

    Fantasies are a healthy for a relationship, and in addition to that, if you go along with one or all of them, you might find unknown levels of pleasure. You may actually discover that you enjoy getting your booty worked up with a realistic dildo or are aroused by a certain fetish or role play that never crossed your mind before.

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  • What To Know Before Having Sex With Your Trans Partner

    What To Know Before Having Sex With Your Trans Partner

    My thoughts on sex are that, in general, it usually can be pretty complicated. Personally, I’m more turned on by the idea of foreplay that could last for hours. But, whether we like it or not, it also can define a major part of your life. Thankfully, I’ve manage to be pretty damn good at it.

    One Misconception About Having Sex With A Transgender Person

    That you may not, or wouldn’t enjoy it.

    Communication Is Key

    As someone who has had quite a few experiences of a guy telling me that I was the first trans girl that they were with or wanted to be with: while some other people might find that endearing, it pretty much kills any kind of sex drive I may or may not have had at that moment.

    My advice would be this: communicate that you are 100% clear with the fact that you know he/she/they are trans, but you’re still down to fuck, suck or whatever else pleases the both of you without actually saying it.

    Tips When Having Sex For The First Time

    Use some type of protection against STD’s, lube is always a good thing to have, and ask what your partner wants done to them; if what they say isn’t something you wanna do, they’re someone you probably shouldn’t be having sex with.

    Spice Things Up & Make It Kinkier!

    I went through a pretty slutty phase in my late teens/early twenties, so there are a lot that I have done outside of anything BDSM related or having to do anything that comes out of your body.

    I’ve been to a sex club before, and it’s something I wouldn’t mind doing all again in the future.

    Aphrodyte – I’m 25, born and raised in New York, picked the name Aphrodyte because I’d like to think of myself as a modern day sex goddess. I’ve been told I give the best head more than once, and I can make myself cum multiple times (meaning more than five) in less than an hour. 😉

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  • Basic Ethics of Transgender Dating

    Basic Ethics of Transgender Dating

    Knowing what’s acceptable and what’s not can be difficult when you’re dealing with transgender dating. It can feel like a minefield that you have to navigate just to talk to someone. You never know what you’re supposed to do and what you’re not supposed to do when you’re dealing with people. The best thing that you can consider is trying to understand what a trans person goes through on a daily basis. Just knowing that can make it easier to understand what they want out of any kind of relationship. It will help you on your way to really dating a trans person.

    They don’t have to disclose themselves

    The very first question that anyone has is whether or not the trans person is under a moral obligation to disclose that they’re transgender. A lot of people are going to say yes. Of course, those people aren’t usually trans. The whole goal behind a trans person’s life is to become the gender they feel they are. I doesn’t matter what gender they are on the outside. It also doesn’t matter what gender they were before their reassignment. That’s not to say that none of them do tell you, though. If you go on any shemale hookup site, you’ll know right away that you’re about to date a trans person.

    They can be gay or straight

    Just like cis men and women, trans people can be straight, gay, or bisexual. It just depends on who they are. Don’t assume that a trans women is only going to date men. She can still love other women and want to be with them. That means you can’t just go and find the nearest trans women and expect her to want to be with you. The same goes for trans men. Men looking for trans men can still find them.

    Trans people have the same rights

    The biggest thing to realize is that trans men and women still have the same rights as cis men and women. They’re not second class citizens. This applies to trans people who are seeking out D/s relationships. Just because a trans person wants to be submissive in the bedroom doesn’t mean that he, she, or they should be submissive in their lives. They’re still people and they’re still afforded all of the same rights as everyone else. Believing otherwise will never lead to a real and fulfilling relationship.

    They can hook up or date long term

    Another thing to keep in mind is that trans people are just like cis people when it comes to sex and dating. Some are going to want to seek out long term partners. Others are only going to be in it for the sex. You just have to figure out which one you want and look for partners that match your desires. That’s really the only way that you’ll be happy. The worst thing that you can do is try to convince the other person that he or she should try out what you want when they want the opposite.

    They can enjoy being fetishized

    Finally, realize that there’s nothing wrong with a trans man or woman who enjoys being fetishized. Some people are just turned on by the thought of having sex with a trans person. There’s nothing at all that’s wrong with that. When you find a trans person who enjoys being wanted because they’re trans, just go for it. There’s nothing wrong with them having the same kind of desires that you do when it comes to sex. In fact, it can be a whole lot of fun.

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  • How To Be A Good Lover For My Trans Partner

    How To Be A Good Lover For My Trans Partner

    I believe that sex is the glue that holds and strengthens the bond between two people in love. Whatever a couple does in private is only important in that they meet each other’s needs.

    For me as a heterosexual man from a conservative family I was nervous about receiving anal intercourse from this beautiful Trans woman the first time. Even more so was performing oral sex. But I felt completely natural because we loved each other. I should point out for clarity, we were a versatile couple.

    What I Love About The Transsexual Community

    The transsexual community offers a wonderful openness once they know you are true in your motives. I found a love, devotion and passion I’d never known.

    Tips To Be A Good Lover

    Listen to your partner, talk about what pleases her. Like any couple, communication is key.

    Be open to new experiences, you’ll be much happier for it. And finally, give all the passion you have.

    What To Avoid

    Remember, you’re with a woman, even if the sex acts are a little different. Treat her like the woman you adore.

    Dr.  Michael Justice – I’m a 50 year old retired medical researcher who was disabled by a truck vs. car accident. I was the happiest in my relationship with my transgender girlfriend and welcome another.

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    I’m hoping to write a book on love and the transgender woman

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  • Do’s & Don’ts For Having Sex With A Transsexual

    Do’s & Don’ts For Having Sex With A Transsexual

    My personal thoughts towards sex……I think sex is something wonderful that not only allows us to express ourselves in many different ways, it feels amazing in just as many ways – and I’m not just talking about the organsm part which is amazing in itself.

    I also feel sex is something way too many people make complicated. Sex shouldn’t be planned – it should be spontaneous . I always have an open mind about it as well and I never look down on others based on what they are into or who they are.

    In short, sex is a wonderful thing that I enjoy in many different ways, places and with all types of people. Cis males and females, and Trans males and females.

    Misconceptions About Having Sex With A Transsexual

    That us who have big cocks (no offense to anyone) like to top. Not so – only a small percentage like that. Keep in mind we are FEMALE, we like to take cock and sometimes with another Trans female or Cis female giving it.

    We are not all dirty – not true at all . Us who do adult videos especially – we get tested every two weeks.

    Not all Transsexual females have had our dicks removed. A lot of people think when we transition, we have that removed – not so – and many of us do not want it removed and that does not make us any less of a woman.

    Also, that we are all crazy. Also not true, most of us are very normal and down to earth .

    And one I personally hate. Men who fuck transsexuals are gay. First, there is nothing wrong with being gay. Here is a fact for you, 99% of men are infatuated by a cock. It doesn’t matter if it’s on a man or a woman, and no, that does not make them gay. Second, gay men are not into transsexuals sexually and transsexuals aren’t into gay men sexually.

    Third, and most important when you’re with a trans female, you’re NOT with a male, you’re with a FEMALE and don’t forget that – if you have to question if you’re gay for finding transsexuals attractive – then your experience with one when you do meet one is not going to be enjoyable. Especially if you ask her if she thinks you liking her is gay that is a very big NO NO.

    What You Should Know Before Having Sex For The First Time With A Transsexual

    Don’t ask us if we think its gay. Don’t ask us about when we transitioned or why it does not matter.

    If you can’t take us out in public, then don’t worry about the sex part.

    You can speak to us normally like you would any other female.

    Things Not To Be Brought Up During Sex

    I would refer back to the last few questions…. Do not bring up transitioning or why or how long. Don’t ask if it’s gay. Don’t ask why or if I plan on removing my dick, if I wanted it gone, it would be gone. I feel my dick makes me a little extra special, if you know what I mean.

    Sex Tips To Have An Orgasmic Time

    Most important – there is more to us than our cock, a lot of guys don’t get this. We are females, we have tits, ass, sexy legs and feet, lips, and all the stuff between. And yes, we have a brain as well, and yes, they, like your cocks, all need to be stimulated.

    Mandy Mayhem – Southern bell turned porn star. Originally from MO. I moved out to Vegas to pursue my music career but found myself getting into adult video very fast – which i love! I am a total nympho – so doing porn just came natural and its lots of fun. I love showing off in front of the camera for others. I love to be nude and to be seen nude nothing at all to hide or that I’m ashamed of showing….. There is NO shame in my game – i am an open book and always speak my mind even if its not what you want to hear.

    When I’m not doing porn i love spending time with my dogs, making beats/ playing my guitars , going to concerts , hiking , going on road trips, and i love to cook as well.

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    I shoot exclusively for my own site so all plans are geared towards that.  have lots of new stuff coming and planned like gangbangs bukkakes lots of outdoor and public stuff and as always working with all genders races and orientations

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  • How To Have Sex With Trans & Genderqueer Persons

    How To Have Sex With Trans & Genderqueer Persons

    I love sex! And sometimes I hate it. Not the act of sex, but how sex is portrayed by some aspects of culture, how it gets bound up in the darker side of human nature. I love everything about fucking, tender intimacies and desperate, sweaty quickies, long drawn out journeys based on touch and scent with no goal other than experiencing every feeling your body and your partner’s body(ies) can communicate to you. From kinky BDSM scenes, to vanilla softness; I love what sex can teach us about ourselves and about consent and our culture.

    Misconceptions About Having Sex With A Trans & Genderqueer Person

    There are many different types of trans person, and every trans person’s body is different. The main type of a trans person you see in porn is a trans women; but there are trans men, non-binary people, gender fluid people, a-gender people, and every permutation of gender possible. The categories I’ve listed are only some terms used by English-speaking cultures to describe the complex rainbow of genders available. Gender changes with culture and language, and I think it is a beautiful thing to have so much diversity at our fingertips.

    Tips For Having Sex For The First Time

    Get to know the person a little bit. How do they present themselves in the world? How do they describe themselves? Transgender and non-binary people do not always have surgeries, and do not always use hormones. There are many different kind of surgeries and hormone therapies. People who identify themselves as transsexuals are usually pursuing (or have completed) some form of hormone therapy or surgeries.

    It’s never wrong to ask someone how they prefer to be addressed and how to best respect their gender. If you’re hiring a professional escort or BDSM worker, look at their promotional material. This will give you an idea of who they are, what services they provide, and how they prefer to be contacted and spoken to and about. Take note of those things and your experience with that sexy professional is sure to be amazing.

    Things One Must Never Do

    Slurs and verbal abuse are never acceptable unless it’s part of a specifically negotiated scene. It is considered rude to ask about “the surgery”, as there are many different kind of surgeries a trans person might pursue.

    Tips To Have An Orgasmic Time

    Communication, communication, communication! Tell them what you’re into, how you get off, what parts of your body are the most sensitive. Ask your partner how they like being touched and fucked. Talk about if you have an injury, illness, or STI. Know your limits and boundaries and respect them and those of your partner’s. And piles of cash directed at your trans lover never hurts. 😉

    Cory Cocktail – International adventure consultant, bespoke power exchange architect, body artist.

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  • Why are Women interested in Gay Porn?

    Why are Women interested in Gay Porn?

    Everyone knows that women watch porn. It would be plain stupid to say that if they are left alone in their home with a laptop that they won’t. After all, they are just are horny as men and are just as interested in seeing their dirtiest fantasies brought to life as the next guy. But did you know that around 1 in 5 women are attracted to the idea of two men having sex? With this interest, it is not surprising that statistics have actually shown that up to 36% of Gay porn viewers are heterosexual and female.

    Why Do Women Watch It?

    If you are a man and you are reading this, you may want to try and think of the reverse in order to answer this question. Why do men watch Lesbian Porn? Is it for the “taboo” thrill, the fantasy that you could have a chance to be with them or maybe, just maybe, you enjoy being able to idolise the feminine form so close up? Take this means of thinking and apply it to the idea of women watching gay porn. If there is something that excites you about watching two women, then you will find that the same thing happens to women who watch two men together.

    No matter what sort of woman watches Gay porn, whether they are one of the many Leyton Escorts or an everyday University student, Janet Hardy, author of “Girlfag” and a sex educator, has claimed that the enjoyment comes out of “seeing two strong men who are vulnerable with each other and the sweetness of finding affection inside that strength.”

    Women enjoy being able to emotionally connect with the actors they watch. That means with porn, they enjoy being able to see a softer to the masculine archetypes that are found within heterosexual porn. Most straight porn usually entails a strong masculine image that usually ends in penetration for the female. That is why it can feel like a safe space for a woman when she watches the reverse happen.

    The Thrill Of The Taboo

    Let’s face it after a while straight porn can become a little dull for those looking for that kinky little thrill. The problem with watching too much porn is that it can get a little stale after a while. Boredom can come along if the same subject matter is repeated, which it usually is within straight porn. Gay porn can add a brand new dynamic or add a brand new fire to those who are interested in exploring their sexuality, without going too far out the box.

    Not only is this explored through video, but going on any sort of fanfiction website can bring you face to face with gay “lemons”, aka. smut, from a range of fanbases. From Harry Potter to Dr Who, there will always be someone who pairs together two male characters in hot and spicy smut, and usually, the writers end up being Female.

    The thrill of this naughty act can truly liberate a woman’s sexual urges. The fact that they can see two masculine bodies together, combined with the feeling of it being a forbidden past time, can really turn up the heat when it comes to their own sex lives. Whilst their partners may not be gay, or they may not be interested in that sort of relationship in real life, that does not mean that they cannot fantasise about it. Being able to watch this sort of porn can be a true release for those who are into it.

    Romantic Subplots

    Women have always been guilty of indulging in the emotional storyline or characters when it comes to porn. However, when this porn is combined with a sensual story, or perhaps even a kinky back story, this is something that makes it ten times better. A lot of Gay Porn tends to focus on the sensuality and vulnerability of the participants. That is why it practically oozes romance. It is also a great way of getting into the mind of men. When a woman is trying to navigate between different potential mates, gay porn is the perfect way to get an insight into the idea of what these men may want. Although they may not want penetration, it is a great way to see how a man reacts to sex and the techniques that they enjoy.

    How Old Are The Women That Watch Gay Porn?

    Honestly, the age range tends to vary between different groups. Gay Porn is the sort of thing that women slowly grow into once they start to uncover their sexuality. Take one look at Tumblr and you can see where these sort of women tend to go in order to find like-minded individuals. It is not unheard of that more mature women go online to find Gay porn to watch. After all, they may be happily married with a fantastic sex life, but still, want to enjoy their own time indulging in some of their deeper fetishes. As Sex Therapist, Vanessa Marin, states in an interview with the Metro:

    ‘I think people are getting more experimental with their porn usage. People are feeling a greater permissiveness in gender and sexual expression, and that’s being reflected in our porn consumption.’

    At the end of the day, whether the user is a gay man or a heterosexual woman, if they feel comfortable with gay porn, then there is nothing wrong with indulging in that. The fact that there is now a feeling of confidence and freedom when it comes to our sexual habits shows that we, as sexual humans, are going in the right directions.

    What’s Wrong With Women Watching Gay Porn?

    Honestly, there is genuinely nothing wrong with a woman being interested in gay porn. What she is interested in is her own prerogative. It is only a compliment if she is willing to share this information with you, due to the fact that it clearly means that she is comfortable in your presence and willing to disclose her sexual fantasies to you. We all have our own dirty fantasies that we can indulge in on Pornography websites. Therefore, never shame a woman about her sexual kinks and interests. Whether she watches Gay Porn or perhaps something more niche, like feet or sensation play, what makes her happy cannot be changed. So simply allow her to relax and indulge in her fantasies. Gay Porn is for all who are stimulated by it and certainly will not be going away any time soon!

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  • 5 Profile Tips For Gay Online Dating

    5 Profile Tips For Gay Online Dating

    Need help creating a profile any man will find difficult to resist? Or you are frustrated at not having enough responses from the guys you reach out to on hookup sites for gays? Well, you are in the right place. In this article, we will be sharing with you 5 tips you need to create an attractive profile for yourself. The main reason why you aren’t getting hits from other users is simply that your profile is boring. Let’s walk you through some of these tips.

    Amazing profile tips for all gays online.

    Here are some of the tips to add to your ammo for a nice dating app profile

    • Profile Picture Is Everything.

    Beyond the whole charade of having a nice bio, your picture is what draws people to your profile. When creating a profile on a dating app, having the right profile picture is everything. It’s no gainsaying to think it is the most important part of your profile.

    Your profile picture should include your face and if some part of your body if you don’t want to go for the whole part. You don’t want to obscure your faces with hats and sunglasses.

    • Your Personality Should Speak For Itself!

    Unless you are new to this, you’ve seen the “about you” section more than a hundred times. That’s where you’ve got to let your personality shine through. What do you want to share with them? This should be determined by what you are looking for. If what you are looking for is just sex, then, listing your hobbies would just be a waste of space and time. On the other hand, if what you are looking for includes dating, conversation, and even a long-term relationship, your profile should say a whole lot about you.

    • Spell Check!

    If we use this whole page to write the importance of proofreading what you’ve written before sharing on your profile, it will be totally worth the stress. Come on! You don’t want to sound like you don’t know what you are doing. People will hardly take you seriously if what you’ve written is poor. When what you have are words to describe who you are, you’ve got to give them the best of that. Before sharing, make sure to read carefully what you’ve written. You don’t want to mess things up at this point, trust me!

    • What Are Your Interests?

    For people to feel connected to you, you’ve got to write about your interests. Fill in the basic information on your profile. It should include basic information about you, your interests, passions, and hobbies too.

    • Promote Yourself!

    The last tip is to promote yourself. Finding it pretty difficult to think about the best qualities you’ve got is quite understandable, so, what you should do is ask a close friend of yours what they think about you. these friends can help with fetching out your best qualities. You also need this when venturing into the gay dating world. Conclusion

    There are other things to consider when creating a stunning profile for yourself, but starting with this one will take you very far in this industry.

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  • Dos And Don’ts In Gay Dating

    Dos And Don’ts In Gay Dating

    Gay dating just like any other type of dating has its ups and downs and just like any relationships counseling and dating rules must be observed. In many regions now, gay and lesbian relationships are getting the society approval with some even the church uniting and supporting the couples. However, this does not come easy and in this article, we look at the Dos and Don’ts in gay dating and also some tips on how to be good in dating or even being a great gay sugar daddy magnet.

    In any form of relationships issues such as sexual needs, trust, ego and the general emotional aspects plays the key role on how long it lasts. In gay dating, partners need to be well aware of such matters to make it a success. Most gay guys are good with making ladies feel good especially when undergoing dating or marital woes, but this does not make them experts when it comes to theirs.

    Dos And Don’ts In Gay Dating

    Do’s

    The first key thing to do in any dating is to create a great first impression to any potential partner. This depends on where and how you meet these potentials and that is why it is great to always look sharp. Some will meet at social gatherings or clubs while others will meet on dating sites like gay cam chat site, in all these areas endeavor to make that striking impression. How do you achieve this? Dress appropriately, be confident, be real and be kind to everyone. These simple tips will help you always court the attention of many and it is bound to make you a catch.

    With the first trick, you are bound to get a second date but you have to keep it on forever. Therefore the second Do is that you should be open and true to what you need. This will help set things in the proper lane. State whether you are looking for a lifelong partner or a casual hookup or even just a friend. This eliminates the awkwardness that may follow anytime one feels that they are being ignored.

    Get to understand each other on matters about life, work, and ambitions. This promotes the general wellbeing of the relationship as you will understand when not to call him and when to expect him. This is common with the gay sugar daddy that tends to feel young hot boys as being stalkers and nagging all the time.

    Don’ts

    Don’t be afraid to speak your mind out and bring your freak on. Sitting silently while dating may not be a good thing. You may look overburdened by the weight of your silence.

    Do not entertain flirtations and other advances that may make your partner jealous. Men are possessive and any threat to what they feel the need to possess may lead to loss of interest or trigger dangerous obsessive behaviors.

    Don’t say or point out to things that may threaten your partners’ confidence and self-esteem. Most gay guys are narcissistic and eccentric, therefore anything said or a comment made needs to be thoughtful in a way that it does not rub them the wrong way.

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  • Frequently Asked Questions for Dating an Intersex Woman

    Frequently Asked Questions for Dating an Intersex Woman

    Taylor Lianne Chandler is a former sign language interpreter and crisis management consultant that came into fame after it was revealed that she was involved with Olympic Gold Medal Swimmer, Michael Phelps.

    Her privacy went away as more stories, images and text were made public. She had a decision to make about what she wanted to do with her life after losing her career on Capitol Hill and shuttering her consulting company.

    Lots of offers came pouring in. She went on to sign a book deal with Riverdale Avenue Books. They published The Making of Going for the Gold and Super Bowl Surprise in 2015. Her memoirs are expected to be released next year. She signed a three-year contract with Steven Hirsch, President of Vivid Corp. They released Going for the Gold which depicts a snapshot of her life after meeting Phelps on Tinder.

    Taylor was outed to the world on the cover of The National Enquirer, RadarOnline and TMZ on November 19, 2014, the same day Michael left The Meadows, as not only Michael Phelps’ girlfriend, but that she was born intersex and had undergone corrective surgery in her early twenties to make her anatomically one gender, female. Since then she has appeared on tons of TV and radio shows: Entertainment Tonight, E! News, Huffington Post, Howard Stern, and many more.

    She was also featured in print media like Time, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, The Guardian, The Advocate, The Washington Post, as well as podcasts like, The Toddcast Podcast, Cyberstation USA, U interview, The Reverend Bob Levy Show and many more.

    Taylor’s interviews and articles about her are in over 100 countries and translated into over 45 different languages.

    1. Are you Transgender?

    Transgender is very different than intersex. Transgender feel like they were born in the wrong body, where as intersex, you are physically born both genders in some variation. The word intersex replaced hermaphrodite. There are more than 55 variations of intersex. Intersex people are born with any of several variations in sex characteristics including, chromosomes, gonads, sex hormones, or genitals that according to the UN Office of the High Commissioner for Human Rights, “do not fit the typical definitions of male or female bodies”. I’m diagnosed Mosaic. In essence, they believe I was twins that morphed into one fetus. Growing up knowing you are the wrong gender feels the same regardless of gender marker. The experience and what you face by society is the same. Sadly, people are more accepting of intersex, as there is physical, scientific proof, not just a feeling. Studies have estimated that as many as 1 in 100 children will be born with bodies that “differ from standard male or female.”

    2. When did you decide to become a man or a woman?

    Thinking that I was born one gender is not only incorrect, but disrespectful! While stories of intersex people may have similarities to those of trans people, they are not the same.  Today doctors recommend assigning a gender at birth and allowing the child to develop physically and emotionally before deciding to undergo surgery to make the genitalia look more distinctly male or female. Many intersex individuals choose not to have surgery. When I was born they assigned me male at birth and did unnecessary genital mutilation. As soon as I could talk and walk I knew I was female. That started a long, painful process of surgeries and medications to undo the chaos that was done to me. I identify as female even though genetically I am both genders.

    3. Does your vagina feel the same as a real girl?

    Don’t get me started how this real girl conversation makes me feel. I have nothing to compare it to. I can tell you the men I have been with haven’t complained. I had vaginal rejuvenation in my 30’s so I am tighter than most women. I also had my outer labia removed so I only have one set of inner labia. I feel I became obsessed with surgeries to “make” me more female, or my vision of what female was. I did not tell the men in my life my intersex past, so until I was outed by The National Enquirer, Radar Online, and TMZ, no one knew. Watch my Vivid film, Going for the Gold, and you tell me what you think.

    4. Does dating you make me gay?

    I can’t help but laugh at this question. If you are a man that is attracted to women, how could dating me make you gay? You are attracted to a woman. There is nothing manly about me. Even if you are attracted to a trans woman that answer is the same. You are attracted to the female you see. Regardless of what is between our legs you are being turned on by the female image. A gay man is not attracted to a woman.

    5. Can you have children?

    As a matter of fact, yes I can. I have a Uterus and can carry a child through IVF, but I do not have eggs, so I can’t have a child in the traditional sense. Because I have so much scar tissue and have had so many surgeries, it would be a high risk pregnancy because I can’t dilate to give birth. I would have to have a C-section. The ability to have a baby doesn’t make you any more or less a female.

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