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  • How To Have Sex With A Transsexual Pornstar

    How To Have Sex With A Transsexual Pornstar

    Sex for me is a lot. I use sex as a liberation, as a way to remove stress from my body, as a way to express and do all I fantasy,

    My First Sexual Encounter

    Well my first sexual encounter was just a test for me to understand and start exploring my sexuality. I must say it wasn’t that great as I was 15 and he was 28 so obviously I didn’t know what to do and what I was doing but I didn’t even imagine to become the pervert that I am now.

    How To Give Oral Sex To A Transsexual

    Well who doesn’t like to receive oral sex LOL and obviously I love it! And a guy should be confident and so into me that everything comes so naturally, you don’t need to know what to do, you just do what the chemistry and your body tells you to do to enjoy the moment.

    Sex In Porn & Real Life

    Obviously there is a massive difference between the two but I’m not gonna lie that with some male performers, I have a massive chemistry and I forget about the camera.

    Sex Tips To Follow

    Be yourself, let yourself go without focusing on your cock or on the erection. Just enjoy the girl you like and you finally have there in bed with you!!

    Eva Paradis – The stunning Italian pornstar born in Italy (Naples) and managed to become a world star in the porn industry in less than 4 years.

    Based between London (UK) and Los Angeles.

    The stunning body naturally blessed by mother nature with an incredible fit and curvy body with soft smooth skin and a nice perfect sevenand half inch uncut cock.

    Follow Eva Paradis on:

    Website: Evaparadisxxx.com
    Twitter: Twitter.com/evaparadisxxx

    Instagram: Instagram.com/evaparadis

    Upcoming Events:

    Well as first my website evaparadisxxx.com and my dvd where fans can easly get it on soon my onlyfans profile and another dvd

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  • Sex Tips With A Transsexual

    Sex Tips With A Transsexual

    Sex for me and as for everyone is a method of relaxation, it is something indispensable for the human being which we use to vent, in my case, the sex is exquisite. I enjoy it to the maximum from the first minute to the end and I let go to get a better orgasm

    First Time Tips

    For a person who is having sex for the first time the important thing is to have desire and things let go so that it flows better. In any sexual relationship, the rapport is indispensable and if that exists safely, ther will be a perfect sexual relationship.

    Never Do This

    First be clear that a sexual relationship is completely normal, and it is good for the other party to know or have an idea of ​​what you want to do. In this case, we talk if you want to be active or passive and from there everything will flow.

    Misconceptions About Sex With Transsexuals

    Sex with a transsexual is something very different, the man who wants to experiment with a trans has to be clear that it will be achieved with a girls’ body but with a genius equal to it. That is why sexual relationships are very orgasmic or at least in my case. I know at all times what the person who is going to be with me likes, but the important thing about all of this is as I told you before, the desire to experience and let go when you do it so that way, everything flows and you get magnificent results.

    Vanessa Jhons – Adult film star and erotic model from Venezuela

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    Twitter: https://twitter.com/vanessajhons
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanessajhons

    Facebook: Vanessa Jhons

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  • Why The Worship Of Heterosexual Masculinity Is Endangering The Gay Community

    Why The Worship Of Heterosexual Masculinity Is Endangering The Gay Community

    In case you haven’t noticed, the gay community is currently facing a severe identity crisis that can forever change its face and value. The once highly celebrated diversity in the community is now replaced by the worship of heterosexual masculinity. More people, including some of my friends and myself, are feeling marginalized more than ever because they don’t fit into the criteria of heterosexual masculinity. Everywhere you check, be on the dating apps, streets, gay neighborhoods or bars, it’s not hard to see that the value and ideality of masculinity has become so entrenched within the gay community that we, gay people, are drifting further away from who we once were as a community.

    In a recent conversation with a friend, we shared our personal experiences of being labeled as “too feminine” or “not attractive” because of the things we do or even the food we choose. During his trip to Thailand, Danny was accused of being sissy and girly by a friend simply because he ordered the popular Unicorn Frappucino from Starbucks and posted a picture of him sipping the pink beverage on Instagram. When he offered to let the friend try the drink, the “straight-acting” friend rejected him by saying “I don’t drink sissy stuff like this.” While Danny isn’t traumatized by this particular incident, it does reflect a worrying phenomenon that’s taking over the gay community by storm: the worship of heterosexual masculinity and the rejection of respecting diversity.

    If you don’t find Danny’s incident convincing enough, try to open Grindr or Hornet on your phone and browse through a few profiles. What you can easily see are people openly saying they are “straight-acting” and prefer guys that are the same. Some go even further by outright stating their preferences, such as “masculine only” or “No fem.” If you happen to have a slimmer figure or more gender-neutral interests, chances are you most likely won’t get too much response on the apps. In real life, the popular trend of building up muscles and looking buff is adopted by many gay men, and considered by many as the way to maintain their attractiveness. The reason behind it can be multi-faceted, but one thing for sure is all these behaviors reflect the wish of being accepted or considered normal by the heterosexual community. However, my question is, why do gay men still want to work so hard to fit the heterosexual standard?

    In my opinion, these tendencies are not only selling ourselves very short, but also hurting our own kinds more than anything else. When we no longer celebrate diversity, which has long been the core value of our community, and try so hard to impose the heterosexual standards on fellow gay men, we are normalizing the discrimination that our community once felt. The worship of heterosexual masculinity is also helping to discredit the theme of diversity that we have been championing in LGBTQ movements worldwide. And if you really think about it, does the adoption of heterosexual masculinity help to stop those who used to discriminate us from shaming us? I don’t think so. Instead, it is weakening the community’s strength as a whole, and inflicting deep yet invisible wounds internally.

    So if you have rejected a fellow gay man because he likes pink drinks or enjoys sewing, please stop for a moment and try to imagine how you would feel if your heterosexual colleague discriminated you simply because you are gay. If you don’t want to go through that traumatic experience again, then try not to judge other gay men only because they are not masculine. And remember, diversity will always be in our gay DNA.

    William is a freelance writer and photographer based in Taiwan, with tremendous passion for human rights and storytelling. He holds a Master of Journalism degree from Temple University, and has extensive experiences interning at global NGOs such as Human Rights Watch and Mercy Corps. Contact William via email at wy30611@gmail.com

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  • Things You Should Know Before Dating A Transgender Woman

    Things You Should Know Before Dating A Transgender Woman

    Dating has always been difficult for me for several reasons. First I am a Transsexual woman who is involved in the Adult Industry. It’s like a double edged sword as I am either seen as a “fetish” or seen as “Wendy Williams” the Pornstar.

    I tend to believe I am passable enough in public so when I meet men it’s difficult to know what or if they know that I am a transsexual then that leads to the conversation of having to tell them. Too many Trans women are being killed because of their gender so I am not going to lead anyone on and not be upfront immediately. I also use sites like Tinder for dating and I put it in the first paragraph that I am a pre-op Transsexual and if they don’t know then please look it up, LOL. You would be surprised at how many guys don’t bother to read and then get mad when I ask “Have you been with a Transsexual before?”. With Trans women becoming more visible on television and in Hollywood we are becoming more the norm but have light years to actually feel equal to our genetic female counterparts.

    As a Pornstar most (well almost every) guy assumes that the conversation needs to be about sex or my career. It’s difficult for these guys to see past my film career and see me as a woman , let alone a Trans woman. I have been the Industry for 15 years so I’ve heard it all and seen it all. When you add my gender to the equation it makes for a interesting and difficult dating relationship.

    Dating Challenges Faced By Transgenders

    I think most Trans women will say the “fetish” element. To their defense most men have been only subject to Trans woman in the sex industry. Mainstream its always been Jerry Springer or the “hooker” story line on a television show. I guess men don’t understand why we don’t want to talk about our penis or sexuality in the early stages of our relationship. I always ask “Would you ask a genetic female about her pussy in the first week?“.

    I as a Pornstar understand the fetish aspect as I’ve used it to sell DVD’s and website memberships but I would hope that people understand Porn is more fantasy and not reality, therefore don’t bring those expectations into potential relationships whether personal or sexual, especially in the beginning.

    Misconceptions About Transgenders

    Let me say before I answer this that I speak from a Sex Workers perspective so my views are from a different place compared to someone who lives a vanilla lifestyle. Being a bit older, things have changed quite a bit over the past 10 years for Trans women. In the beginning it was all Trans women were hookers, had HIV, couldn’t be professionals, etc. We have seen a major shift with visibility so many of those stereotypes are changing.

    Being a Pornstar I am held to the same testing standards (every 14-30 days) as the genetic female Pornstars. We are NOT classified in the gay side but with the straight Industry because the majority of men who are into Trans women identify as straight. I think that’s the biggest misconception when it comes to men who are into Trans women. These men are attracted to the feminine qualities and how we present ourselves to society and the fixtures are just a bonus.

    Tips To Follow When Dating A Transgender

    You have to understand that terms like “shemale” and “tranny” are derogatory for many trans women. Those terms were introduced by the adult industry as a way to pitch us to a market of people who have never seen, let alone met, a trans person. But in every day usage, we don’t like it. So just relax and don’t make it harder for us – just refer to us in the way you normally refer to women.

    Unless you are meeting on a site that is specific for hooking up or casual sex, then please don’t bring up sex or our bodies, especially our private parts, in the first initial conversations. Many trans women feel like most men objectify us sexually as a fetish or experiment, and it doesn’t help to defeat those stigmas by asking about our penis or if we are a top or bottom. Ease into those conversations once you know us better, or allow us to make the first move. For newcomers, it’s especially important to be careful and not anxious or your first impression won’t be what you intended it to be.

    We hear things like, “It’s my first time” or “I’ve never sucked a cock” or “My ass is tight” or “I’ve always had this fetish“, and you need to understand that this is a really big turn-off in early stages of any relationship. We’re not here for your sexual education; we want this to be pleasurable for both of us.

    We understand that most men are trying to figure it out as they go, hell we are too, but please don’t start the dating process unless you really want to date a Trans woman and not just a hook-up.  Be 100% comfortable when it comes to going out in public or introducing us to your friends and family.  It takes a confident and strong man not to listen to the taboo part of society who thinks we should be dirty little secrets.

    Wendy Williams – I am a Transsexual Pornstar, Producer, Publicist and Activist from Lexington, KY. I am a AVN Hall of Fame Inductee and won Awards from most every major Adult Award ceremony in the Industry. Follow me at:

    Website: www.wendywilliamsxxx.com

    Twitter: twitter.com/tswendywilliams

    Instagram: @tswendywilliams

    PR: twitter.com/hotwendpr

    Spanchat: “tswendywilliams”

    Monthly Parties I host: lexingtontgirlparties.com

    Images courtesy of Wendy Williams
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  • Let’s Connect: TIQFF 2016 Aims To Establish Sustainable Connection Through Queer Films

    Let’s Connect: TIQFF 2016 Aims To Establish Sustainable Connection Through Queer Films

    October has always been a busy month for the LGBTQ community in Taiwan, and 2016 is no exception. With Taipei LGBTQ Pride Parade scheduled to take place on October 29, the island nation, dubbed one of the most LGBT friendly countries in Asia, is also expecting a series of LGBTQ events leading up to the final climax. Jay Lin is the man behind the series of exciting LGBTQ events that aim to bring the Taiwanese LGBTQ community closer and further connect it to the rest of the world.

    Into its 3rd year, the Taiwan International Queer Film Festival (TIQFF) is back with a whole new theme and vision: Let’s Connect. He wants to connect individuals in the LGBTQ community with each other, and it will be at a global scale.

    “The goal of TIQFF is to bring diverse and engaging stories of the queer experience to Taiwan, and to allow the audience to create authentic connections with the movies, and, even more so, with each other,” said Lin.

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    He has also been endeavoring to build connections with numerous film festivals around the world. The formation of the Asia Pacific Queer Film Festival Alliance (APQFFA) in 2015 is one example. The alliance brings together existing queer film festivals in Asia and established formal ties between all of them. Additionally, Lin was invited to be a juror at the 30th Teddy Awards of the Berlinale earlier this year. The experience inspires him to connect the two film festivals by introducing several award winning films from the 30th Teddy at this year’s TIQFF.

    “We will continue to connect with festivals worldwide, as well as fortify the relationships within the Asia Pacific Queer Film Festival Alliance,” said Lin.

    The list of award winning films that will be screened at TIQFF 2016 include winner of the Best Feature Film, TOMCAT, winner of the Special Jury Award, You’ll Never Be Alone, winner of the Best Documentary/Essay Film, Kiki, winner of the Best Short Film, Moms on Fire, and winner of the Audience Award, Paris 05:59. Additionally, several of the nominated films and Berlinale shorts will also be screened at TIQFF 2016. Apart from film screening, TIQFF will also organize 3 international filmmakers’ panels for the public to attend and gain more insight about the current state of LGBTQ film production.

    After three years of organizing TIQFF, Lin realizes that he wants to expand the scope of the festival so more people can experience it. This leads to the establishment of the first LGBTQ awards ceremony in Taiwan: Queermosa, which “celebrates the LGBTQ progress taking place in Taiwan.” Lin hopes to continuously promote positive portrayal of the LGBTQ community in media while cultivating positive changes in society. He believes that this needs to be achieved by incorporating efforts from other communities.

    At the inaugural Queermosa, 10 awards will be presented to celebrities, businesses and artworks that have contributed to the advancement of LGBTQ rights in Taiwan. The ceremony will take place on October 28 at the W Hotel in Taipei. For more information, including purchasing tickets, please click here. If you want to learn more about TIQFF 2016, please click here.

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  • Behind The Scene: How Does Vlogging Help Gay Porn Stars To Truly Be Themselves

    Behind The Scene: How Does Vlogging Help Gay Porn Stars To Truly Be Themselves

    What might be your general reaction when someone tells you that they do porn for a living? Over half of the time, the reaction could be negative. After all, the porn industry has long been regarded as a source of negative social impact. Too much misunderstanding has been associated with its impact on the overall well-being of society, youth and the entire population that the general public can hardly gain any meaningful and objective insights of the industry itself. However, that might be about to change with some gay porn stars beginning to embrace vlogging as a way to introduce their true selves to the world.

    Unlike most professions, being a porn star is often a lonely choice because behind the glamorous on-screen performances, porn stars can hardly talk to people about their work lives. Most of the time, people frown upon the idea of doing porn for a living, so porn stars usually don’t even bother to share their professional lives with people, including those around them. However, vlogging opens a new channel for them to talk about their lives and feelings without having to face the awkward or disgusted reaction from people that disapprove their identities as porn stars. Vlogging allows porn stars to achieve something mutually beneficial to themselves and the general public: an outlet to share their feelings and a way to gradually help the outside world learn anything about them.

    In case you are looking for an example, you can check out the popular gay porn star, Rustin Low’s one year vlogging anniversary video. It can give you a pretty good idea about vlogging, the motivation behind it and how it really helps porn stars. And if you wonder why I spend time to write about this topic, I will tell you it is all about respect and compassion. As human beings, regardless of your sexuality, we have all benefited from the existence of porn in some ways. It satisfies certain aspects of our needs, and in some cases, it fulfills our fantasies about sex. However, we seldom pay respect to those who make porn possible, and what’s worse is we often judge them for performing in those videos that we watch to pleasure ourselves.

    To do these porn stars some justice, I hope to help open a window for the world to learn a bit more about them and their daily lives. After all, every group deserves some respect, love and appreciation for what they do and contribute to the world. If being a porn star is a crime, then those who have ever watched porn should be judged as much as the porn stars do. Rather than judging, we should appreciate their courage and show some respect and support that they deserve. Then hopefully one day, porn stars can openly discuss their jobs with people without having to worry about any backlash.

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  • Are we all just a bunch of dicks?

    Are we all just a bunch of dicks?

    Now I used to use two “social networking” apps, Grindr and Scruff, more out of habit and also still a vague belief that I may actually meet someone half decent after all I am on there and I am half decent.

    Now as someone who has a wealth of experience of working in sexual health promotion, HIV prevention and also general emotional support roles for gay and bisexual men, I am no prude. Why I am saying this, well, it’s the context of what I am about to say! I can tell you some of my experiences that would make men think twice.

    Now it’s enough that many profiles are faceless, body shots or some other random picture other than your face. Now I appreciate that being a gay is still an issue for some guys and there is plenty of support out there if you want it! (Another blog about the “closets” issue another time) However, why when one (I) asks for a face picture, am I greeted with a pic of their dick or cock or arse as an opener than just a Hi! Would I go around a bar with my face covered, poke someone in the back, get my dick out and wave it about really thinking that I will get laid that way? I think not, even in saunas you can see a bloke’s face, whole body and not just his cock or arse! The whole point of having a profile and info there is to give a sense of what and who you are, yes, even if it is just a one off encounter. I really have to wonder just how many gay men have sexual addiction problems and many agencies just aren’t going there and if anything colluding with the behaviour with sometimes very PRO sex, sexual health campaigns!

    Now I am not subscribing to the Mary Whitehouse school of sexual repressions. I like and enjoy sex as much as the next man and have had a reasonable amount of sexual partners in the past, even if it has been almost 14 months since I last had sex. I just feel that we (as a gay male community) really don’t make the effort any more in pursuing sex. We just expect to message someone, turn up at a random strangers house and have sex! Even without seeing who they are first! I have lost count of the amount of men who have expected that of me lol! Even though I was accused of being a bare backing crystal meth head because of some of my pics, despite them being about 5% of my pics, all the other ones of my face, my body and one of my cock. Which brings me back to the pics issue, why do we need to see 10, 15 or 20 pics of it! One is enough surely, when I have sex with a man, it’s not just his cock and arse that I am interested in, but his face as well his body etc!

    Surely putting in a bit of effort is part of the fun of the pursuit? Having a few more face pics, details in your profile about you etc. Not just about what you “demand” in a sexual partner or what you’re looking for, how about what you have to offer as well. Nothing worse than the narcissistic bloke who thinks he’s so amazing that we ought to be lining up for him. Surely sexual interaction is a two way street, or if you’re wanting more, then dating is a two way process!

    Or are we just a bunch of dicks really now! Just our cocks or arses and nothing more or less?

    I feel we are more than that and worth more than that!

     

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  • What can parents do when they first find out their child is gay/lesbian/bisexual/transgender?

    What can parents do when they first find out their child is gay/lesbian/bisexual/transgender?

    Have a question on your mind about sex or seeking advice? Ask us on any topic and we’ll provide you with the answers from an expert. Send them in to editorial@simplysxy.com. 

    We have collected your questions on the topic of LGBTQ, and are delighted to have Arielle Scarcella to answer them below.

    What are the different stages in coming out?

    Coming out stages varies for everyone. For some, it’s all about telling people one by one. For others it might be making a YouTube video. Everyone’s experience is very different.

    What can parents do when they first find out their child is gay/lesbian/bisexual/transgender?

    They can contact an LGBT center, call up a hotline for tips, watch LGBT YouTubers and learn and simply but most important, talk to their child about it!

    Do lesbian couples always reflect a butch-femme relationship?

    Lesbians come in all shapes, colors, sizes and gender roles. Some butch women like other butch women. Some femmes like other femmes. And some are more like a traditional heterosexual relationship. All are OK.

    What are the types of lesbians?

    Butch, femme, tomboy, andro (Shane type) femme artsy, And everyone else in between.

     

    Hi, Girlfriends and Boyfriends! I’m Arielle! I’m the best friend you’ve always wanted. I share crazy experiences / advice on dating, LGBT issues, relationships and sex. I’m a big lesbian.

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  • Demonisation of the Masculine

    Demonisation of the Masculine

    Now before I get hated on for saying what I am about to say, I will be very very clear here. I have absolutely nothing against, campness, effeminacy, flamboyance and wearing drag etc. I will be honest sexually, I am attracted to more masculine orientated gay men.

    I have noticed of late a reclaiming of this identity in our community. I see increasingly more regularly at charity events, gay men in drag or wearing dresses make up etc. Even most LGB&T charities now dictate that everything has to be pink (T Shirts, Hi Viz Jackets etc). I am not sure if this a lack of originality or an agenda to push one way of being over another. I get the need to make this a way of being acceptable due to the homophobia and discrimination against gay and bisexual men. I saw the backlash over what Russell Tovey said a few months ago, even though it was taken completely out of context and a whole heap of hate was directed at him!

    Now my issue is that masculine gay men are demonised and seen as in denial, like saying the only acceptable way to be gay is to be camp, outgoing, flamboyant etc. Now what sort of message is that? We are seen as haters, homophobes and all manner of things just because we are the way we are. Some of this is bitterness because we are attracted to other masculine men. A lot of it though is ignorance and intolerance of difference. Recently, a professional rugby player came out, one reason given was that he felt that gay men were one thing or could only be one thing and this is down in part to media representation and a lot to do with our own communities. He felt he couldn’t be gay as he didn’t fit that stereotype we are now promoting fully.

    So this demonization of masculine gay men is detrimental to our community. It’s preventing many men from coming out as they see perhaps that this is the only way to be. This is harmful to them and causes so much distress and anxiety about who they are and where they fit in with our community. Yes I know we have the bear community which is seen as alternative and predominately masculine but even there, there are rules and regulations that dictate whether or not you will be accepted (beard, belly, bulk etc).

    Surely we are all in this together however we orientate in terms of expression of identity and we all have a right to be who we truly are without having to behave in a way in order to fit in and be accepted. Otherwise why are we fighting for equality?

     

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  • What to expect when having sex with a transsexual girl for the first time

    What to expect when having sex with a transsexual girl for the first time

    Sex is one of the most connective experiences we can have as human beings.  By my nature I’m a very sexual human being – so it permeates a lot of how I interact with the world around me.  To me sex isn’t just limited by acts of penetration… there’s a whole world of ways to get your rocks off, and I like to explore every way possible particularly when we get into the kink scene.  I’ve a personal motto, “Try everything twice.  I may have just been in a bad mood the first time.”  It’s led me to a lot of sexual experiences that I really enjoyed that I might not have ever tried if I was more timid.

    Primarily I enjoy sexual encounters best with people I care about, but I also don’t particularly respond well to labels being assigned to those relationships.  I’m an ethical slut… while I have sexual relations with multiple partners whom I am close to, it’s important for me to be open and honest with everyone as to what’s going on.  If I was born earlier, I’d definitely have fit in amongst the free-loving 60s.   The sexual roles I play with my partners (top/ bottom) changes from person to person based on what our connection with each other is like.

    I also dig my sex being safe, sane and consensual.  As great as sex is, there are some risks involved given diseases.  That means both giving and receiving respect from partners, including being up to date with STD testing.  It means making sure we learn and respect each others sexual boundaries.  Sex is an act of trust and trust needs to develop from open and honest communications – about likes, desires and even fears.  You can have sex without that level of trust, but in my experience that type of sex isn’t nearly as fulfilling.

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    First Time Nerves

    Just chill.  Don’t rush into anything.  Start with the simple stuff… Touching one another.  Caressing.  Kissing.   Foreplay is all about relaxing — about pulling yourself into the moment,  Did you know that some of the most erogenous zones on the body have nothing to do with genitals?  When I’m with a new lover the first time, I like to explore as much of their body as I can before we move into fucking.  It helps me learn who they are and how best I can give them pleasure.

    If you focus on these small interactions with your partner, the sexual tension builds until it’s natural to orgasm.   It’s very similar to an idea which actors profess, “be in the moment.”  The best sex involves losing yourself in the immediate acts of lovemaking rather than focusing on anything else.  Let’s face it — when it’s good, time stops.  There’s no thought other than the pleasure you and your partner are having.  I find organically getting there through foreplay is the best way to relax during my first time with someone.

    The Experience

    That all depends on the transsexual woman.  Is she a top or a bottom with you?  How comfortable is she with her own body?  One thing that’s key to understanding transsexuals is that because we were born in a body that’s inconsistent with who we are, we experience some level of dysphoria from it. This varies from person to person.  Personally I’m okay with the fact I still have male genitals.  While I would have preferred to have been born with a vagina, I’m okay with both lovers and myself pleasuring my cock – it doesn’t trigger emotional discomfort for me to use my cock during sex.  But there are other transwomen who can’t bear to see their cock let alone to have it touched or used during sex.

    If you want to have a great sexual experience with a transwoman, you’ll need to have communication with her.  How comfortable is she with her body? Does she want to penetrate or be penetrated?  Like any other sexual encounter, you and your partner will need to negotiate what’s enjoyable for both of you.  Once you are past that, it’s just like any other sexual encounter.

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    Recommended Sex Position

    Again, I think this depends on the person.  For example, when bottoming, I personally dig positions like cowgirl where I can look in my lover’s eyes as we make love.  When topping, I love doggie style because it gets me in the right mindset to fuck the living shit out of someone.

    Kink it up a notch!

    There’s a whole world of kink out there.  Google it – lol.  Some of my personal favorites include electroplay and ropeplay.  Fifty Shades of Grey barely touches the surface of what’s possible.  For folks wanting to explore BDSM, I suggest starting with a book called “The Loving Dominant” – it’s not a perfect book by any means, but it does cover both the physical and emotional aspects of dominant/ submissive play and is a great introduction to those concepts.

    TS porn star Wendy Summers was the 2013 RISE Shemale Performer of the Year and a three-time Transgender Erotica Award winner.  Wendy has appeared in the DVD releases I Kill it TS Vol 1, Shemale Strokers 50; Bang My Tranny Ass 10; and 5th Annual Tranny Award Winners and has appeared on websites like Shemale Strokers, Shemale Yum, Shemale Pornstar & Wendy Williams XXX. Read the rest of her profile below and the links to her website www.WendySummers.com!

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