Category: Kink

  • What you should know about Anal Enemas

    What you should know about Anal Enemas

    Mistress Panzar is a young professional Domme based in Sydney, Australia and one of her favourite fetishes is Anal Enemas. Let Mistress Panzar share her expertise on the preparation that goes into anal enemas, a typical anal enema session with her and what you ought to know if you plan to try this at home.

    What are anal enemas?

    Enemas involve injecting a fluid into a body cavity, namely the lower bowels (mostly the rectum and sigmoid colon), and subsequently expelling it. The general medical use is to treat constipation or cleanse the bowels prior to a medical exam, such as a colonoscopy. They are also employed by many anal sex lovers as a method of ensuring their lower bowel is relatively free of fecal matter, which can be irritating and messy when present during anal play. A douche is a device used to perform enemas, and can be in the form of a syringe, bucket or bag, giving rise to the term ‘douchebag’.

    How popular are anal enemas sessions and how often do you get the requests?

    For any session that involves anal play, enemas form an integral part of such sessions. Not only for practical reasons of cleaning the rectum beforehand, but also for the humiliation aspect. It’s certainly non-negotiable with an anal session, so a good submissive would be compliant! I occasionally get requests for enemas intended for more than just the initial cleansing, and this can involve the client being filled and forced to expel in front of an audience.

    What preparation do you do when there is enemas involved?

    To perform an enema, several things must be in order. Firstly, it is recommended they be performed in a bathroom, or anywhere with a toilet/bathtub/shower to eliminate the waste.

    Next, a device of your choosing:

    • Disposable enemas can be purchased at the chemist. They comprise of a small bottle with a nozzle filled with an isotonic, body safe solution. They are of one time use only, and thus are the most hygienic of all the methods.
    • Bulb syringes are very similar to disposable enemas, but can be reused, and are generally larger. The nozzle does not need to go too far inside as the liquid can get stuck further up and be hard to eliminate.
    • An enema bag is commonly a hot water bottle attached to a tube connected to a nozzle at the end, and relies on gravity to induce water flow – hence the bag must be positioned up higher than your body.
    • In a pinch, use your shower hose, minus the head. Be mindful of the water pressure – too high will inject too much water too deep into the bowels, and may be difficult to eliminate the entire amount.

    Regarding the fluid used, it is recommended to either use sterile water that is either fresh or salt water. Arguably, salt water is isotonic and is not likely to draw electrolytes from the body, however, a moderate one-time enema is generally unlikely to cause electrolyte imbalance, in my experience. Warm temperature is recommended for comfort, and certainly not too hot. A good way to test the water temperature is to drink it first. Your bowels respond to temperature in the same way your mouth does – they are all part of the gastrointestinal tract, after all! Other fluids can be used such as wine and coffee, but as there is no general consensus on how safe it is to inject such fluids, I will refrain from discussing them.

    *While not required, it is highly recommended to maintain a clean diet prior to any anal play including enemas. Clean refers to a diet free of processed and highly refined foods such as fast food and snacks, and high in healthy lean foods such as meat and vegetables. By doing so, the cleaning process will go much more smoothly.

    While many people recommend dietary fiber to be regular, you must ensure that you eat both soluble (e.g. psylium husk) and insoluble (e.g. whole grains) fibre, supplemented by lots of water. The last part is especially important as without it fibre can have the opposite effect of constipation.

    Describe a typical process of anal enema play one can expect from you?

    For simplicity’s sake, I will refer to the ’shower hose’ method to describe a typical enema.

    The ‘enem-ee’ (ha) will assume a position on the floor conducive to introducing fluid into the bowels. Typically, this is on all fours, with the buttocks raised. The hose is then turned on prior to inserting into the anus – very important to ensure that air doesn’t enter the rectum – and then inserted, usually with a bit of non-water based lubricant around the tip. The ideal flow is not too high and not too low. The enem-ee will stay in this position while I monitor them, and perhaps humiliate them while I’m at it. I check up on them frequently to see whether they are reaching the limit of what they can hold in, and once they reach that point I remove the hose and force them to hold it in for a period of time. Usually, it’s no longer than a minute. Then, they are given permission to expel it.

    If I don’t feel they are clean enough, the process begins again.

    How is anal enemas used as a punishment in the context of BDSM?

    Having an enema can arouse many different emotions. To perform one in front of another, or have someone administer one to you and watch you subsequently defecate is humiliating – we’re normally accustomed to such activities behind a closed door. To have someone observing you in a compromising, oft-naked position can evoke feelings of vulnerability. The idea of relinquishing power under the control of the administrator, who determines the amount and duration of retention, can be a form of torture both physical and psychological if the submissive is not accustomed to a large or long retention.

    What are some precautions to ensure safe anal enemas especially if trying at home?

    Some advice regarding specific methods:

    • The bulb syringe method – When pulling out the device out of the rectum once it is empty, make sure that you squeeze it very tightly to avoid a ‘suction’ effect from happening which can be very painful.
    • The shower hose method – Make sure the water is running prior to insertion, to avoid air entering and being trapped, which can cause an embolism (serious emergency room stuff).

    In general:

    • Be mindful of your body’s limits, and don’t inject more fluid than what is necessary. If you cannot expel your enema fully or at all, the body will absorb at least some of the liquid. I have had a few unfortunate incidents involving large amounts of water coming out in the middle of a strap on session as a result of not being able to expel the enema fully. One method of getting fluid out is to insert a soapy finger into your rectum. This may induce flow (much like how the strap on fucking did) and get the last remaining bits out.
    • Make sure the fluid is as sterile as possible. Remember, the rectum is like your second mouth – you wouldn’t want to drink anything dirty, would you?
    • You may read on some websites that frequent use of enemas can result in dependence. While I do not discount those experiences, I know of those who have used enemas for decades who have no such issues. I thus cannot make a judgment on the overall safety of enemas in this respect, only that you make an informed decision based on the potential risks.
    • I have had experiences of people who were unable to expel an enema. Sometimes it was a matter of using less fluid than usual, but other times alternatives were required. Suppositories such as glycerol can also be used to induce a bowel movement, but some can be very irritating to the bowel, and it is NOT recommended to engage in anal sex less than one hour after such cleansing. These generally have a higher likelihood of success in cleansing for those who find enemas difficult.

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  • 5 Things that make me Horny and my Panties Wet

    5 Things that make me Horny and my Panties Wet

    The idea of panty selling came up for the first time as a joke, something I didn’t know much about and never thought I had the skill or tact to pull it off. I’m a struggling college student just like many, and because I live on a budget, I can only afford so many luxuries for myself. When thinking of a way to make more money, I jokingly thought “What about selling my used panties?” After doing some research on the subject and reading various articles from experienced panty sellers, I realized how viable of an option panty selling really was and I was very excited by the prospect of becoming a part of the fetish community while making a little bit of money to help support myself on the side.

    I have always had an active sex drive, so becoming a panty seller has been more than just a money maker for me, it has been a fun way to satisfy other people’s fetishes while discovering my own. That’s why, just for the fun of my fans and community members, I’m going to share five things that turn me on, and wet the panties you all love so much!

    Number one on my list is fantasy hentai. Having played video games and read manga since I was a child, I grew up with all sorts of fantasies about elves, ninjas, and dragons. When I became an adult, you can imagine how all those fantasies took a sexual turn! Whether it is on my own free time or for a buyer, I love to masturbate to fantasy hentai and imagine myself as the little elf girl being violated by the gnarly orc!

    The second turn on in my list is female dominated BDSM. I’m a bit of a dominatrix myself, and I love a guy who is sweet and submissive so that I can be sexually dominant. Things like bondage, cuffing, and gagging excite my imagination and get my panties wet without me even having to touch myself! Currently I have a favorite pet who is very sweet and kind to me, he collects my panties and listens to whatever I tell him! I’m kind to him as well and I even gave him a leather collar as a gift, so I consider myself a generous master.

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    My third turn on is gangbang porn. I know, pretty lewd right? It’s a guilty pleasure of mine, and I enjoy it so much probably because it’s a foreign experience to me! I’ve never been in a gangbang and I always like to imagine what it’s like when I watch it, as it’s a huge turn on for me. So if you’re ever buying panties from me and you want me to masturbate in them for you, feel free to recommend some good gangbang porn, whether it’s real life or hentai!

    My fourth turn on is silk and lace! I’m sure most girls like silk and lace, but to have it in my lingerie and nightwear makes me feel so amazing that I actually get aroused! I’ve received satin and silk nightwear from my pets, and I’m always so grateful and do lots of custom pics to show how much I love it. Receiving silky and lacey lingerie is such an experience for me, and if you ever send me something like that as a gift I can guarantee that I will be masturbating in it for fun soon after!

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    The fifth and final turn on for this list is an eloquent guy! Someone who can express their wants and desires in a creative and powerful way is very attractive to me, and I can’t help but get all hot and bothered when a guy like that describes his fetishes! I once had a buyer who, during the course of our transaction, wrote me long emails describing what he wanted and complimenting me in such articulate ways that it made me blush reading them. I can’t help but swoon over someone who has such a way with words!


    I hope this list of strong turn ons for me was a good read for my current fans, and may even inspire more of you to take an interest in sharing you fetishes with me! You can check out my Panty Trust membership page at www.pantytrust.com/Kitten-Alice to see my ads and services, or follow me on twitter at @Alice_Panties to see what sexy pictures I’m posting today! I love selling my used lingerie, so contact me at kittenalice@hotmail.com and we can both have fun over my dirty panties!


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  • Dominating Lingerie … It’s Kinky and Risqué!

    Dominating Lingerie … It’s Kinky and Risqué!

    Sticks and stone may break your bones … but this is the 21st century and women love to dominate in the bedroom … so is it that men are engrossed with the mere thought of chains and whips exciting them or the vision of the woman when she slides into a naughty piece of leather lingerie? Fact is, a woman who wears sexy lingerie can subdue a man’s mind because it’s kinky, it’s risqué and it will wet his appetite with hunger.

    There is definitely something to be said about a woman who loves to control the level of romance and spice in the bedroom. Men certainly cannot get enough of it. Blindfolds and bondage are growing ever so popular as couples experiment with a diversity of sexual illusions. Why is it that men are suddenly brought to their knees with anticipation of what she is going to do to him next that will taunt and tease him in a way that surpasses erotica and takes him to a utopia like nowhere he has ever been?

    Do you ever wonder if a man gets tired of being the one who always holds all the cards, makes all the moves and calls the shots to arouse his partner? A man loves a woman who knows what she wants, especially when it comes to making love. It’s unmistakable not to mention seductive when he is enticed by her charm and her wit. He loves that she is sexy and in complete control and he is game to try anything at all provided she role-plays his deepest, darkest fantasy so whereas he envisions the entire evening as a mental picture in his mind.

    He quivers and tremors with anticipation because he knows that he is her aphrodisiac. She arouses him as she whispers in his ear the most sexual things that she wants to do to him, and he gazes into her eyes as if he has been hypnotized by her feminine way.

    Is it the swagger in her step that he finds provocative or is it the ‘not knowing’ what she has in store for him that he is envisioning that makes him feel as if he were in a fool’s paradise? It very well may be a hypothesis of her plan, or it might be the merrymaking of an amorous game, nonetheless her lingerie bodysuit of leather is the centerpiece that monopolizes his mind.

    At Simply Delicious Lingerie you will find quite the enticing selection of bodysuits and body stockings as well as erotic corsets and undergarments in an array of fabrics and styles that will raise the bar in the bedroom so high that the thrill of her calling the shots will literally immobilize his judgment. At this point, all bets are off as she has the upper hand at playing the devil’s advocate titillating his libido.

    This trumps all forms of erotica. Will she surpass a level of foreplay and suspense like nothing he has ever, or will ever grasp? Yes. Whether it is her sexy lingerie, the whip, or both, any man that has ever imagined being persuaded by a woman with such confidence should know that her lewd gestures would gussy up an evening of passion from a lustful state of mind in a manner that leaves him totally moonstruck.

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  • What do you do when you’re 23 years old and want to try BDSM?

    What do you do when you’re 23 years old and want to try BDSM?

    You come and see me!

    Last night I saw a young guy, just 23 years old who wanted to try BDSM. He wanted to try a fantasy and had been too scarred to tell his partners what he wanted. The fear of being mocked or judged for having these fantasies was, I think, one of the reasons he came to see me. The other of course is that he knew from my website that he would be safe, that he wouldn’t catch anything and that I wouldn’t hurt him in anyway.

    I know how he feels, in fact I did the same thing 20 years ago when I wanted to try out this Bondage, Discipline, Sado-Masochistic (slave / Master could also be substituted here). A safe environment is so important to being able to relax and then enjoy a session of this sort.

    Just like the main character in 50 Shades of Grey, the torment that goes through a submissive’s head prior to a session can be anything from amazingly intoxicating to excruciating nervousness. I could tell this boy was terrified when he arrived, his eyes showed a mix of rampant sexual energy as well as complete terror.

    His fantasy was around being verbally humiliated and sexually dominated.  Having a fantasy around being verbally humiliated is something that is hard to come to terms with. Verbal sexual/erotic humiliation, putting someone down or shaming them is a challenge for me.  However, I understand when someone comes to me with this fantasy, I need to hold space for them and allow them to explore this. I also have found that in this humiliation there is often a deepness that triggers the person to actually heal themselves from shame, fear or guilt that they may be harbouring.

    So when someone does come to see me with a desire for erotic humiliation, I am glad that I can assist. My hope is that their session gives his/her the feelings and sensations that they are craving in a safe, sane and supported environment.

    Definition of Erotic Humiliation from Wikipedia:

    Erotic humiliation is the consensual use of psychological humiliation in a sexual context. Whereby one person gains arousal or erotic excitement from the powerful emotions of being humiliated and demeaned, or of humiliating another; it is often, but not always, accompanied by sexual stimulation of one or both partners in the activity. The humiliation need not be sexual in nature; as with many other sexual activities, it is the feelings derived from it that are sought, regardless of the nature of the actual activity. This is usually a feeling of Submission for the person being humiliated, and Dominance, for the person doing the humiliation. It can be verbal or physical, or in private or public. Often it can become ritualized, and unlike some sexual variations it can also be easily carried out over a long distance (as online). Humiliation is an example of the power dynamic that exists in a D/s or M/s relationship. E.g. In an activity such as spanking, the sought effect is primarily the humiliation; the activity is just a means to that end.”

    If you’d like to explore erotic humiliation or BDSM, feel free to contact me via my website: aaronjking.com


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  • BDSM, the Chinese way

    BDSM, the Chinese way

    If you think you have seen it all when it comes to unusual erotica, one blog I just discovered could make you reconsider. Chinakunbang, subtitled ‘Chinese jail and bondage culture’ sure is different – at least to our western eyes. Born at the online intersection between historical heritage and uncomprehending emulation, this simple website is the window front of a virtual store selling BDSM erotica… as seen from China, where sexuality remains mostly an unspoken, mysterious topic.

    In accordance to local laws the daily sample pictures are strictly non-pornographic. They somehow remind of the fetish pictures from ‘50s America, when Bettie Page and her colleagues were very careful not to show too much skin and the titillation was in the little details of their costumes or expressions. They also betray very low production values: the dresses are shoddy and occasionally ill-fitting, lighting and composition are unheard of, the backgrounds remind of dirt-cheap school plays and the outdoor shots smell of clandestine, hit-and-run sessions. The subjects, however, are a mesmerizing bizarro-version of every kinky website you’ve ever seen.

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    Western BDSM, you see, is the conflation of countless erotic iconographies through the centuries. There are elements of Christian martyrdom, of the writings of de Sade, of medieval punishments, the Inquisition, Nazi atrocities, high literature and pulp, popular movies, fashion, illustration, comics and classic art, porn, theatre, technology, music and much more – all ground up and processed through the interplay of many local cultures from liberal northern Europe to repressed south, from the Puritanical United States to the non-moralism of Japan. What we masturbate to on sites like Kink.com or House of Gord is the distillation of the strongest archetypes from all of these sources, mixed together in a constantly evolving blend.

    Most Chinese, however, never encountered any of this. The refined sexual culture of ancient Chinese nobility was based on an archaic conception of the female role and on a generally pre-technological view of the world. The Cultural Revolution destroyed all of it anyway and relegated sex to a purely reproductive purpose. Even recent generations grew up in a culturally insular country with little or no access to western erotica. Sexual education is lacking, and the “Internet great wall” of State censorship sure doesn’t allow the kind of easy access to porn we are all accustomed to.

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    In this context the idea of erotic power play naturally took a very different form from western BDSM. Browsing the blog you will notice in example that “bondage” is in fact just a couple of standard military punishment ties, with none of the fancy rope work of Japanese kinbaku, nor of American-style restraints. Incidentally, Chinese ties tend to be very dangerous as they often constrict vulnerable points including the neck.

    Talking about other practices, it is shocking to see that while Westerners have a vast vocabulary of sensual pain games, China takes the concept of “torture” very literally, replicating horrors like the infamous tiger bench and even mock executions like they were fashionable turn-ons. With badly applied lipstick “beatings” marks, but no less chilling for that.

    The other aspect I found amazing is also the most evident. Beside the many general, bland “fetish” shoots, three scenarios keep popping up again and again: military and Red Guard abuse of common people, contemporary police interrogations and imprisonments, and historical Imperial-age reenactments. While the photos are clearly staged and the actresses have an amusing habit of maintaining a very professional-looking “no inappropriate touching” attitude, you won’t find much consensual exploration depicted. In this country (and under their laws) doing kink for mutual pleasure is clearly not conceivable. Conversely, abuse of power and the thrashing of human rights are considered normal.

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    The helpful tags above every photo are equally fascinating. Probably to differentiate the site from illegal pornography they are very keen of pointing out that all the pictures are ‘cosplay’ or ‘recreeations’, but sometimes they manage to turn a banal photo into a nightmare. The bored girl in the picture above, in example, is explained to be just another victim of a common wartime mode of execution where people was simply left half-buried to die. Thanks for the note, buddy.

    I don’t think Chinakunbang will ever become my fap shop of choice, but as a cultural phenomenon, I find it incredibly interesting. Who knows what they think of ayzad.com in Beijing…


     

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  • 5 Things you should know about Financial Domination

    5 Things you should know about Financial Domination

    What does financial domination entail?

    From my experience, Findom is an act of devotion and submission to the Domme (or Dom) through money. I’ve primarily dominated men by having them send me money. I’ve had one man buy me a $600 laptop and give me $1,500 to fund my breast augmentation surgery fund. His reasoning was because he liked to see me happy and wanted to spoil me.

    How much are slaves required to contribute to their mistresses in a Findom relationship?

    I don’t have a set income for slaves to meet to be able to serve me. If someone would like to send me gifts/money, I won’t say no.

    What do you call these slaves and why do you think they enjoy giving their money to their mistresses?

    Paypigs, Moneypigs, Wallet Slaves, etc. I think the joy men get from it is to feel powerless, blackmailed, or just in need of having someone else control their life.

    What are some items which Dominatrixes will spend on from the money they get?

    I don’t know what other Dommes would buy, but if I were to buy anything with a large sum of cash from a slave, I’d buy clothes, make up, get my nails done, go to a salon, get a massage, buy myself nice gadgets, buy a new car, live in a bigger apartment, etc. I’d basically splurge and be selfish. I’m a pretty bratty Domme. I have not yet micromanaged a slave’s financial situation, but I would like to someday soon.

    What is the main appeal of financial domination to the Dominatrix?

    For me, it’s the money and the power I can have over someone else with their money. At that point, their money becomes my money.


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  • A Guide to Cuckold Terminology

    A Guide to Cuckold Terminology

    There are many euphemisms and slang used for sex and for those in the cuckold/hot-wife lifestyle is no exception. Here are some terms, not necessarily associated with cuckoldry that reader might encounter:

    Cougar/Puma is a term used to describe a mature or older woman who seeks out young men for partners. Some “cougars” are married women involved with cuckoldry who  will describe themselves as being a “cougar” because they enjoy the age difference they have with young, virile men so much. There are wives who enjoy the age play of this lifestyle so much that they will frequent bars and clubs near military bases so they can help “support the troops”—at least all that they can handle.

    Cream Pie or Cream-pie refers to the state of a woman’s vagina after she has had unprotected sex. This term is usually used as a woman “has a cream pie” that was created by her and her lover. For some women, this is the ultimate way to humiliate her cuckold or make him acknowledge and confront the special lifestyle they share is to make him clean up her cream pie.

    Cuckquean  the female version of a cuckold. Here, a husband has sex with other women all with his wife’s acceptance and support while she remains faithful to him. In these relationships, the man is usually dominant over his cuckquean and sometimes she is bisexual or performs bisexual as directed by the man. In these relationship, the man is sometimes called a “hot-husband”.

    Double Penetration is when a woman is simultaneously penetrated by two men in some combination; vaginal & oral, vaginal & anal, anal & oral.

    Gangbang refers to a gathering where a woman has sex with many different men one after another. This is also called “training” because the men line up to have sex with the woman. Sometimes, this also involves some form of simultaneous penetration; see double or triple penetration.

    Greedy wife/Greedy woman is only used in the UK that I know of and described a women, usually married, who crave sex with many different men. Supposedly these women are “greedy” because they are not satisfied with just one man and want more men than they are supposedly entitled to have.

    On a sidenote, I would be interested from hearing from anyone outside the UK where this term is used the same way.

    Gloryhole/Glory Hole refers to a make shift opening a booth or closet through which a man puts his penis so someone on the other side can perform orally on him. Quite often “gloryholes” can be found in “adult entertainment centers” or “peep shows”. This activity is for women that enjoy truly anonymous sexual activities. Some  involved with a cuckold lifestyle create a gloryhole somewhere in their home.

    Hen Party refers to a gather of women or mostly women to drink and have some fun. while this is not specifically a cuckold-related term some women involved with cuckoldry like to have special hens parties where bring in or go somewhere featuring male strippers. Sometimes a cuckold husband will serve as the designated driver for a girls’ night out.

    QOS/Queen-of-Spades is often used to describe a wife with a white husband who seeks out black men for sex. Some women like this will get a spade-symbol or “QOS” tattooed somewhere on their body’s which in certain social situations serves as a sign to others of their special interest in black men.

    Size Queen refers to a woman who prefers and seeks out sexual partners that are well-endowed. Often a wife involved with a cuckold-lifestyle will refer to herself as a “size queen” and that she got into the lifestyle because her husband is under endowed.

    Snowball  refers to a woman hold a load a ejaculate in her mouth and pass it to to someone else by kissing them. Often a woman will take the ejaculation of a man into her mouth and then she kisses her cuckold thereby giving him a “snowball”. This again, can be one of the ways a woman humiliates her cuckold—by giving him the cum from her lover in a kiss.

    The Look refers to instances where a woman, usualy married, approaches or is engaged in a sexual act with another man and she looks back at her husband to make sure he sees her and what she is doing. This is also called “eye contact”.

    Triple Penetration where a woman is penetrated simultaneously by three men. Some also call this an “air tight” scene.


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  • What you need to know about Shibari

    What you need to know about Shibari

    The following interview is republished courtesy of Mosafir, Shibari rope bondage specialist from Russia.

    What Shibari means to you personally?

    For me, Shibari — is communication between two adults. It is about tenderness and pain, about trust and passion, about sexuality and identity. Also Shibari — is about beauty, the beauty of a woman, the beauty of self-denial.

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    How did you become interested in this?

    Firstly I have been attracted by the beauty, aesthetics, and sexuality of shibari. I saw a few pictures on Internet and interested in it. Later, having learned how to tie, I discovered other sides of shibari, and it fascinated me even more. Shibari is multifaceted. It’s like the ocean: the deeper you sink into it, the more mysterious depths open to you.

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    Who can be a model?

    Shibari model – is slightly generalized notion. If we consider Shibari as erotic game, then the model can be anyone who wants to diversify his sexual life. If this tie is for the photo, then the model is also can be any person. If shibari is for the show, then the person must have some endurance and desire to be in spotlight. This is only sides of shibari. If person have a deep interest in the practice, then the model should be a masochist. Without it, nothing happens. The desire to be tied up must come from deep inner virtue of person. Good when everything mixed in one person. It happens rarely, but I was lucky to meet such person a number of times.

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    What is necessary for rigger?

    Shibari — a sadomasochistic practice with a high degree of visual component. Therefore, a good shibari master – is first of all a man which is not indifferent, but active, hardworking and loving sex. Well, he is also must have a little bit of sadism. We must remember that Shibari is one of the most dangerous SM practices. Therefore rigger should be responsible, hardworking and inquisitive. And one more – you need to love what you do.

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    What the difference between Shibari and bondage?

    Well, first of all Shibari is the bondage. This is Japanese rope bondage. My choice is Japanese style and technique of tying. I started to work in this style and staying in it. If we talk about the difference between European-style rope bondage and Japanese style, it is a very difficult question. You can try to find external visual differences but it will be subjective. Observer will evaluate all subjective. Shibari is within a couple, in their minds and souls. The difference can be shown in process of tying, in aims. I can say that the European rope bondage is tying for any further action, I mean it’s fixation in order to do something with fixed person.

    Shibari is a self-contained process. It can last 30 minutes, one hour or two …tying — self-sufficient. This is of course roughly definition because everything is ambiguous.

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    What is community of Shibari lovers?

    Shibari is a unique phenomenon. As SM practice and part of BDSM, Shibari at the same time has a very strong visual component. It made simple rope bondage become a phenomenon, conquered all continents and came to Russia. Just because of aesthetics, we have that «visually intricate patterns» of what Wikipedia write. It is allow making public events showing shibari-actions. It has led to an understanding of the need to meet and exchange experiences. It makes possibility to show shibari and keep up the interest in audience.

    If you remember that shibari is dangerous practice and you need to learn how to tie, need to use experience of experienced riggers then it becomes clear why we need to make communities of riggers.

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    Is it possible to take part of such events? Where and what format it is?

    Such communities are not common, but you can find it in the big cities of most European countries, certainly in Japan and now in Russia. For example, here in St. Petersburg, we have shibari club «Yugen» which exist more than 5 years. The club meets once a month. This is a party where you can do bondage, be a model, watch and chat. It’s not difficult to take part of it: you just need to join the Club (This is a group in VK-Russian social network) and answer a few questions from administrators. Also we have parties and festivals of Shibari where you can meet and talk with like-minded people. In St. Petersburg for three times was hold international shibari festival RopeFest. We must remember that Shibari is a sexual practice that is available only to adult. It’s also concern of events.

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    Where we can see live performances of Shibari?

    Shibari is no longer an exotic now. In Moscow and St. Petersburg we have big festivals in which shibari masters come from Japan, Europe and other countries and cities of Russia. Almost any BDSM party has riggers, and if there is a show program then there for sure will be bondage. At one time it was fashionable to do shibari show at parties, even far from the BDSM.

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    What are your favorite masters?

    The list is long.  I will mention only some names In Japan: Akira Naka, Nawashi Monko, Hajime Kinoko. In Europe: Bruce Esinem, Stefano Laforgia, Riccardo Wildties. In Russia, I really like what makes Kalahari. In general, we live in a time when shibari progress is very fast. Constantly appears very interesting and original riggers. Very pleased that the Russian masters of the rope are in the epicenter of this process now.

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  • Different male milking techniques for more control

    Different male milking techniques for more control

    With male chastity becoming ever more popular either as a lifestyle or occasional kink, prostate milking of males is also ever-increasingly referred to, discussed and probably practised. Often in chastity circles, people just talk about milking the prostate without considering how to carry out the procedure to gain the desired effect. If you’re currently milking your chaste male, the chances are that he’s probably getting a lot more pleasure from milking than you think.I’ll leave the debate about whether it is actually necessary to milk a chaste male to other forums and concentrate instead on how you can increase and decrease the amount of pleasure he will experience from it. After all, even if it is not necessary to drain the prostate regularly, the procedure still gives benefits to both the male and his keyholder.

    If you aren’t familiar with the basic technique and principles of prostate milking, do a quick Google Search now and read one of the many available guides to acquaint yourself with the male anatomy involved and safety precautions. I have written this guide from personal experience to give keyholders, an insight into how it’s possible to vary the pleasure levels from a shakingly earth-shattering orgasm which will probably be the most intense he will experience, to a hugely frustrating anti-climax without any orgasmic contractions and almost no pleasure at all for the male in question. I guess the latter is the kind that keyholders will be most interested in and of course my apologies to those poor men who are currently enjoying their milkings and are about to submit to an even greater depth of control by their keyholders. It is actually quite an art to give a pleasureless milking which is why I’m fairly sure that the chances are that your male is currently enjoying an orgasm every time you milk him.

    First off, it’s almost impossible to milk a man’s prostate without him getting *some* pleasure from the pressure on the prostate. Particularly cruel mistresses advocate the use of an ice pack or chilli to reduce/remove this pleasure. I haven’t experienced either so I can’t comment.  However, when my prostate is being gently massaged, I can feel sensations right to the end of my penis, it’s a delicious feeling but is somehow an empty pleasure which only feels truly satisfying when it’s accompanied by stimulation of the head of the penis and/or testicles. The beauty of prostate milking is that even though it’s a pleasurable feeling for the male who is being milked, if done carefully you can leave it just as an empty pleasure which leaves the male wanting more but unable to get satisfaction because he hasn’t got any prostate fluid left and therefore is unable to orgasm.

    I’ll give you a guide on three main different types of milking experience:

    1. Maximum Pleasure
    2. Ruined Orgasm Milking
    3. Minimum Pleasure

    The lines between each are of course blurred so infinite variation is possible once you know what you’re doing.

    I’m writing this from personal experience—I’m regularly milked for pleasure and tease/denial by my partner and through trial and error (and with my help!) she has learnt a lot of the subtleties to be able to vary my pleasure levels according to her whim. I love it. Please bear in mind that these are my own observations and there might be some variation between different males but the principles are probably true for all. The biggest variation I suspect will be between those who have been circumcised and those (like me) who have not.

    There are two main objects you can use to milk a man—either your fingers or with a purpose-built prostate massager like the Aneros. If you’re looking to follow the instructions below, I’d advise you to purchase some Nitrile gloves and lube and use one or two fingers so that you can feel what the stimulation is doing to your subject’s prostate and surrounding area. You will feel things begin to contract the closer he gets to orgasm. Once you have learnt the signs and no longer have to rely on internal feel, you can then probably use a prostate massager to get the same effect.

    There are also two main ways that you can position your man: on his back, or in a kneeling position. The key thing is that you make sure that you are in complete control of his penis—you don’t want it to be able to touch anything because if you control the amount of stimulation here, you control his pleasure levels. Some kind of restraint to hold the arms and hands well out of the way is also probably a good idea, I can heartily recommend a pair of leather mitts from Top to Bottom Leathers: very comfortable and highly effective. Generally, my partner and I prefer the kneeling position with my legs apart and a stack of four pillows supporting my chest. My arms are fastened behind me and I’m usually blindfolded, occasionally gagged. She can then sit between my legs and has full access to all the parts of me that she needs. This works best because with me in this position, she is in total control and also if she decides to give me a pleasureless milking without any contractions, the fluids simply drain out by gravity and be caught if desired.
    The final thing to bear in mind in this introduction is that apparently some males can be milked without any stimulation of the penis/testicles. This is great if you want to milk a chaste male without removing his chastity device. From my personal experience, I know that I cannot be milked like this and need at least some stimulation, either to the penis or testicles or a set of clover clamps to the nipples also does the job, but beware—the clamps can give enough stimulation for an orgasm so use them with care. Lastly, not all stimulation to the penis is equally pleasurable, if you want to expel pre-cum during the procedure (or just want to tease him) then gripping the penis at the base and sliding your hand upwards (even over the glans) will almost certainly not result in an orgasm or even very much increased pleasure. However, moving your hand in the opposite direction most certainly will!

    1. Maximum Pleasure: How to Give Your Man an Earth-Shattering Orgasm.

    Put on a Nitrile glove and lube thoroughly. Insert one or two fingers from your dominant hand and begin to gently massage the prostate and surrounding area. Ask your man what feels best. The one thing that your male will be wanting more than ANYTHING else in the world while you’re stimulating his prostate is for you to hold his penis and gently pull his foreskin up and down over the glans. Alternate between a few seconds of this and also stimulating his scrotum and testicles. There are many ways of giving him pleasure by touching his ball sack—my favourite is when my partner fans out her fingers and gently scratches the backs of her fingernails up and down it. A firm massaging of the testicles, combined with gentle tugging and squeezing also feels very good. Play with different levels of teasing and intensity while continuing slow-ish rhythmical stimulation of the prostate. Nipple clamps are an optional extra, too. After a while, you’ll feel as the prostate and surrounding area begin to get harder and contract.  As the contractions of orgasm begin (or just before once you’ve learnt the signs!) keep massaging gently and concentrate your other hand on his penis—a vigorous up and down movement will give him maximum pleasure. Continue stimulation until contractions cease and withdraw your finger(s). Don’t be surprised if he doesn’t last too long. I can manage only a few minutes of this type of stimulation (usually less than 5, depending on how I’m teased and stimulated). You can finish prostate stimulation as soon as orgasmic contractions subside. Contrary to common belief, milking does not produce any more fluid than any other type of orgasm, but I’m willing to bet that the description above will be the nicest way for your man to produce it!

    2. How to Give a Ruined Orgasm Milking.

    Follow the instructions above, to massage the prostate and stimulate the penis/scrotum/testicles. It’s probably best to restrain your male’s arms/hands so that you can be sure you have full control. What you want to do is stimulate up to the point or orgasm with as much teasing as you like and make him think that he’s about to have an orgasm like the one described above. However, as soon as you sense that he’s about to orgasm (believe me, you’ll know after you’ve done it a few times!) remove all stimulation except the gentle massaging of the prostate. He will ejaculate with orgasmic contractions but it will be a very unsatisfying orgasm. Remember from above—as he is about to ejaculate, the thing he wants most in the world is stimulation to the head of the penis so make sure that nothing is touching it and that he is unable to wriggle into a position where he can hump something—the desire for stimulation is very strong at the moment of orgasm!  If you want to expel as much fluid as possible, after the contractions have finished, grasp the base of the penis and slide your hand up towards the glans to force it out.

    3. Minimum Pleasure: How to Milk a Male and Give as Little Pleasure as Possible.

    This is the most difficult technique to master but can have a strong psychological effect on your male. If you ensure that your male doesn’t experience any orgasmic contractions at the end of milking then he’ll receive almost no pleasure from the procedure. When I’m being milked, the ‘hollow pleasure’ of prostate stimulation is almost psychologically like a promise of a lot more pleasure to come (if you’ll pardon the pun!), it is utterly delicious in an orgasm denial scenario to be denied any pleasure but to have my prostate drained anyway, thus preventing any chance or orgasm in the next while (probably about 6 hours minimum for me).

    Follow the instructions above but keep the stimulation of penis/scrotum/testicles to a minimum (or avoid this completely if your male is able to be milked with no extra stimulation—trial and error will tell you). If you need to give some stimulation, then see if you can avoid touching the penis and instead concentrate in massaging/squeezing/tugging the testicles. Another very good tease is to grip his penis behind the glans and gently pull back, to simulate the feeling of it being pushed in during intercourse—a small amount of this is probably adequate, and be careful because it is almost definitely enough to cause an orgasm if you do it at the critical moment.

    Keep the gentle rhythmic massaging going and look out for the point where you can feel the prostate and surrounding area contracting.  At this point, reduce the massaging and prepare to stop just at the point where orgasmic contractions are about to start.  In my experience there are two stages of contraction in the male orgasm—the prostate goes hard and contracts to initiate ejaculation and then the pleasurable orgasmic contractions (perhaps six or seven of them) follow. What you’re aiming to do is keep stimulation going up to the point that the initial (less pleasurable) prostate contraction is about to start, then cease prostate stimulation for a few seconds (5 or so) and then restart gentle milking to clear the fluids out of the prostate but all the time keeping stimulation below the threshold for orgasmic contractions. It’s tricky to do the first time but if you pause milking before orgasm begins you should be OK.

    Depending on the male and how much extra stimulation you give him, this procedure will take anything between 10 and 40 minutes. If it’s taking a while then verbal reassurance that this is OK will probably put your man’s mind at ease, he may have been worrying that he’s not performing and find it a massive turn on that you’re spending this time to milk him in such a subtle and devilish way.

    I hope that you find the above information of use and that your relationship benefits from it.  If you were to ask me which of the three techniques feels best, that would be a very difficult question to answer. Obviously the first feels intensely pleasurable, however the relationship between pleasure and frustration is a very complicated one for a chastity enthusiast.  Each scenario is very pleasurable, you either get a huge orgasm or indefinite frustration which is of course what the chaste male really craves.  I personally recieve a ruined orgasm milking most often, which I both love and hate, and very, very rarely receive the full-on orgasm. The third technique is particularly cruel, especially after a long period of tease and denial (both in terms of the single session and an extended time period), but it is probably the scenario that I crave the most, and that’s the mysterious paradox that is male chastity!


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  • What’s the best way to introduce her to Kinky sex?

    What’s the best way to introduce her to Kinky sex?

    From my experience it’s been easiest to just suggest certain things and see the persons reaction. Such as mentioning the new 50 Shades of Gray movie or maybe even going to a strip club. I would base moving forward by their reaction to whatever it is you mentioned. If they display interest in some kinkiness then visit a strip club or maybe even go to a sex toy shop and look around. Point things out while you’re there or maybe even buy them an undergarment. If they display a negative reaction, then either drop the subject for that time or it may be that that person is just not the sexual partner you’re looking for at the moment.

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    I’ve worked at ten different strip clubs. So obviously I’ve talked a lot about sex and different styles and what not. Before I began dancing professionally, I was very stand-offish about sex and kept it pretty traditional. I’ve done web cams, bachelor parties and live sex shows since then so I’ve used vibrators, dildos, straps, handcuffs, lubricants, restraints, butt plugs, etc. I’ve dabbled in a little playful BDSM as well but nothing too extreme. I love anal sex with the right person and 69 can get a little kinky!!!! I’ve actually never tried a threesome but I’m looking forward to it someday!!!!!!

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    Some kinky sex ideas a couple can try if they are looking for something exciting are:

    69 sex position.  Where one partner lies down and the other on top and you both give head. Although it usually works best with the female on top 😉

    Light spanking. Just tap the ass a little bit. It kinda just gives a little spark , not too sure how to explain it.

    Watching Porn. I personally like softcore when I’m watching it with a significant other. Some girl on girl action or even some playful bondage. I’d save the extreme gangbanging etc for when you both are completely comfortable being a little kinky. 🙂

    Cock rings. Its a little ring you slip on the penis that vibrates !!! Trust me it works wonders.

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