Category: Kink

  • How Do We Embrace Our Sexual Desires?

    How Do We Embrace Our Sexual Desires?

    The human mind is a complex, crazy, beautiful thing that can be both aware and unaware of its processes. Each one of us is designed differently. The differences between us make us unique but we are, by nature, always comparing ourselves to others. And when your sexual desires and urges don’t match up with everyone else’s, we assume that something is wrong with us. We become aware that we’re different and most of us translate that into being wrong.

    Are you actually wrong? Is there truly something wrong with being different? Right and wrong are strong feelings that we get from ideas or situations. Some of those feelings are learned and some come naturally. If the sexual desires that you have feel right, then how could that be wrong?

    I am not a psychologist, but I have been down this path and I’ve met a lot of people in my line of work who are also on this path. It takes a lot to be completely at peace with kinks or niche fetishes. Depending on how you were raised, there can be a lot of shame that comes along with these unique fantasies or any type of sexuality in general. Sexuality plays a small role in who we are as people, but it gets so much focus from ourselves and the outside world. If our sexual desires are met, we are apt to function better and be more productive in our lives. But if sexual desires are buried down inside, they start to eat away at us and almost consume us. The combination of not having our needs met and the constant fear of being judged by others is a poisonous mix. But how do you get over it?

    Since the growing ease of access to the internet in the 1990’s, people have been able to find like-minded people around the world. From hobbies, to experiences, to fetishes and kinks, the internet has given a lot of us a sense of connection and an outlet for our non-conventional desires. It allows us to see that we’re not alone in our thoughts, which makes us feel less isolated. But is that enough?

    Within the past decade, BDSM has become very popularized and normalized among the general public. A once taboo sexual outlet is now embraced by a younger generation. We’re now finding that people from all generations fantasize about the idea of some type of power exchange. More and more people no longer feel ashamed to be vocal about these kinks and desires. We can attribute this change to the book, Fifty Shades of Grey. A book that told the story of a power dynamic between a submissive female character and a dominant male character. The book sparked a conversation about a fantasy most of us were having. But unfortunately, that particular power dynamic is the only one widely accepted or even commonly known of. What happens to everyone else in the BDSM world who aren’t a submissive female and a dominant male? Or even people who have fetishes outside of the traditional umbrella of BDSM?

    Those of us who fall under these categories often feel unknown, forgotten about, or dismissed which propels the notion that what we’re into is wrong. Myself and other female dominants as well as switches have been laughed off by other people in the BDSM community. I’ve met a lot of people in the BDSM world who will size you up and dismiss you for not being “real” in some regard to the lifestyle because your kink is different from theirs. Often, these are people who themselves have been alienated for one reason or another and find power in alienating others as a form of retribution. Which is very counterproductive in a group geared toward the acceptance of outsiders.

    This dismissal paired with the rejection of “taboo” sexual fantasies from the general public leads us to feel more shame and isolation. How do we embrace our sexual desires? It helps to embrace something when we can look at it from a logical standpoint with questions. Does my fantasy hurt me? Does it hurt others? Oftentimes, we realize that our fantasies are things we would never want to happen in real life. We merely enjoy the idea of it. Especially things that involve elements of non-consent or even fatality. Some fantasies aren’t even plausible in real life like regressing back into a baby or shrinking down and being eaten by a giant woman. Yes these are real, and very common, fantasies.

    Even though we know that some things can’t happen in real life, we’re still plagued by the fear of being found out and having that information used against us. Unfortunately, this is a real concern to have for some. If someone who has no idea or understanding of a certain taboo topic, they could perceive you as being a danger to others or yourself if they discovered that you were viewing that taboo material. That could affect your real life. The element of secrecy for those people doesn’t help them come to terms with their sexual desires but it doesn’t mean that they can’t accept themselves and their fantasies.

    Some of us want our fantasies to be kept private. Some of us want to share our desires with our sexual partners. It’s not easy to share with your partner that you dream of swallowing them whole or controlling them with a magic remote that turns them into a robot. And sometimes it seems impossible to share with your partner that you’re a male who enjoys being dominated by powerful women and you do very much want that to be incorporated with roleplay in the bedroom. If the weight of holding something back is holding you down, you need to express it. You need an outlet. Maybe it’s with a partner or a professional. Maybe it’s just a video or an online forum. But you need an outlet, we all do.

    I’ve met the people who never embrace their sexual desires. They try to suppress it and it comes out in their personality and in their relationships with others. They’re miserable and angry. They try to pass the blame off onto others, but truly it is their own unresolved issues. Please don’t let yourself be that person. Embracing our differences is difficult. It doesn’t happen overnight. It takes being able to retrain the way you think and respond to the feelings that you have and that only comes from practice. It’s been years and I’m still working on fully accepting my sexual kinks and nature. It might take the world a long time to fully learn and accept the full spectrum of human sexuality, but all you can do is work on yourself.

    Take solace in the fact that you’re not alone in your desires and know that your sexuality or fantasies do not define who you are as a person. Reality you and fantasy you are not the same. One is real and one is fiction. But both must be indulged to attain balance. If you feel you cannot achieve this balance alone, seek out a professional sexual mental health specialist. Vocalizing the issues that you’re having in a safe environment is a great way to identify where you’re holding yourself back and areas where you need to improve. We all deserve sexual happiness and self acceptance. Best of luck on your personal journey.


    Goddess Valora is an American adult entertainment performer, director, and producer. She is also a professionally trained Dominatrix and a webcam performer. Valora has won awards for her work and has worked for major companies such as Kink and Playboy. She has a diverse professional entertainment background ranging from print magazines, TV show hosting, voice acting, and having her written articles and interviews published. Valora also teaches business management and marketing in workshop settings. She offers consultation services for new and current performers.

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    ValoraFemdom.com for traditional BDSM female domination videos

    BoysBound.com for gay male bondage and femdom male bondage videos


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  • What Is ASMR & How Is It Incorporated In BDSM?

    What Is ASMR & How Is It Incorporated In BDSM?

    Having been an active member of the BDSM fetish scene for well over a quarter of a century, I only have positive things to say about it. I wish more people would truly get involved with it, learn the skills and history, and not just see it as a means to make money.

    Not only am I a professional dominatrix, but I also am a BDSM educator as well. I give free talks and demos at fetish events etc. However, I have taught my monthly group workshop for eight years. I can do 1-2-1 classes or Skype workshops or private sessions on Wax Play, Anal Play and Pegging, Impact Play, Needle Play and for those ladies that want to go into this as a profession, I teach Social Media Marketing workshops. All dates and details are in my mistressworkshop.com.

    It makes perfect sense that I have come up with a new form of BDSM, as it plays into my teaching background. I’m very creative, playful and sensual. Every mistress is different and I feel like this is one of my unique selling points (USP). I also have a large collection of items for rubber-bondage-play. Very accomplished at CP (Impact Play). Love nipple and CBT play. Huge collection of dresses, shoes and undies for sissy play. My play space is fully equipped but is not traditional in its look. It has an enchanting feel. My fetish wardrobe is vast due to running a fetish club –www.club-rub.com for 20 years, which has monthly themes. I still operate a latex-only event in London called www.ruber-cult.com twice a year.

    Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response (ASMR)

    It involves basically whatever I decide, as I made it up! I like to use my voice whispered in the ear of the client. Usually perverted BDSM stories, perversions, suggestions, dirty talk etc. I also like to use a playlist of soundscapes; birdsong, waves, babbling brook, wind in the trees, heartbeat etc.

    If this is loud, it fills up their thoughts, over takes the mind, so I can infiltrate it with my own ideas of perverse scenarios. There is lots of touching with feather, fur, satin, latex, silk…well, anything that feels great on the skin. I can get quite creative!

    Is ASMR Popular?

    Not really popular. It’s a niche market thing. It’s for those that want elements of domination and restraints, but who don’t enjoy pain. It’s a hedonistic approach that appeal to those who like the senses to be bombarded.

    How ASMR Links With BDSM

    I have linked it through the use of bondage, mistress attire, my demeaner and the environment of my playroom. If you Google ASMR, you will get lots of YouTubers whispering in their videos. That is certainly where my idea came from. I have used it as a blanket term for sensation play. A few years back, I noticed that when I whispered into a clients’ ear, he squirmed with delight…his body shuddering with delight.

    Popular ASMR Requests

    I like to add smells too, like a masculine perfume on a silk scarf dragged over their face, zest of a lemon rind, cake, coffee, basically anything that arouses the olfactory nerves.

    Trying ASMR For Beginners

    It can be a very emotional experience. Although, not necessarily! I’ve had clients want a hug after. One even looked like he was going to burst into tears during the session. I touch the body very intimately and some guys don’t get that in their lives. Maybe they’re single and no one ever lays hands on them. I’m not afraid to touch them, and in a meaningful way too.


    Miss Kim Rub – As a professional London Mistress  living and working in Shoreditch/Hoxton, London E2 UK.  I have always had a passion for BDSM and fetish. With more than 32 years of experience, Both lifestyle mistress and pro domme, I have the skill and the knowledge to make for a very interesting private BDSM client session, and Mistress Workshop class.

    I discovered the BDSM fetish scene a long time ago. It happened when I found myself, in a fetish club, it should have scary but it wasn’t –  I felt like I’d found my place in the world.

    So my journey as a professional in the arts of domination, happened when the whole scene was underground. It has taken many years to gather the wealth of information and skills that I have acquired. The most important, of course, the ability to be able to tap into your psyche and give you the session of your dreams.

    I am a powerful woman with ageless charm and a creative mind. Surrender to me and enjoy the delights of submission. Or assume the position for something a little more impactful. Engage in playfulness as we role play or the sensuality of a touching scene.

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  • How To Give A Great Footjob

    How To Give A Great Footjob

    Footjobs can be super sexy and a new sexual adventure for many. Giving a footjob can be extremely erotic if you or your partner are sexually attracted to feet. For me, foot play is a newer skill I’ve developed and I can’t believe it took me so long to try! The sensations are different than blowjobs or hand jobs.

    Footjobs are so versatile, they can be the whole shebang or just foreplay. I love that most positions for giving a footjob allow me to watch the pleasure my partner gets out of the footjob I’m giving him.

    How Popular Are Footjobs?

    Footjobs are surprisingly popular. Even guys who don’t have a foot fetish like to change things up. Try it, you might find that you and your partner enjoy something different.

    For those who already know they have a foot fetish there is nothing sexier than the curves of feet stoking, grabbing, and wrapping around your cock. I love to look these guys right in the eyes and talk dirty about all the sensations they are receiving from my feet.

    How I Love To Start Things Off

    If my partners are into feet I like to prepare by making sure my pedicure is on point. I like to wear some killer sexy heels or whatever type of footwear I find out my partner finds sexy to get them thinking about what is coming next.

    I whisper in their ear all the naughty things I’m going to do to them with my feet. Instant boner. Partners that love feet might like to kiss, lick, or suck your toes before a footjob. I found out I absolutely love to have this done.

    3 Essentials To Giving A Great Footjob

    The sensations of your feet against him are exciting and a turn on. Vary your pressure and keep communication open to see what he likes. Some partners will be nervous and just enjoy a soft stroke while others literally want you to step on their balls. Ask what feels good, if you should go harder or gentler and watch his facial expressions.

    Get ready to be messy and provide plenty of lubrification. Your feet, unlike your mouth or vagina don’t have any natural lube so you’ll want to use spit, lube, or another wet substance (if you are going to use a condom during or after, stick to a water based lube).

    Eye contact can turn an ordinary footjob into a crazy erotic sex act. Not only do you give off a confidence that is irresistible, you can also easily watch their expressions and body language. You can vary from completely dominant to submissive just by using your eyes.

    Mistakes To Avoid When Giving A Footjob

    Don’t be afraid to try something new. You might think it is odd but your partner could find feet to be the sexiest part of your body. Talk with your partner and find out what they like, what feels good, and what they could be into but aren’t sure yet.

    Don’t forget the lube. A dry foot against a hard penis is not ideal.

    Don’t just put your feet around him and stroke. Get creative. Use your toes, knuckles, and pay attention from the tip to his balls. If he’s into it, even try gently pushing your toes against his perineum (just under his ball sack).

    Preferred Angles Or Positions For Footjobs

    I find it easiest to sit face-to-face in front of him. The muscles in your legs start to burn from the leg raises (bonus- exercise in for the day – check). You can also achieve this by laying with your back on the floor and raising your legs (abs – check) while he stands over you.

    If you are petite like me or he likes it when you sit on him, you can try to sit on his chest. This way he has your butt in view and can only feel the sensation of your feet on his cock. Surprise!

    I recommend some light stretching before your date and if you know your partner is into feet, focus on some weight-bearing exercise on your legs. This can help with stamina and flexibility that is useful when giving a footjob.


    Lev Assets – Smiley, sensual redhead with a naughty side. My cam fans call me Lev. I cam, make content, clips, and customs.

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  • My New World Order

    My New World Order

    Am I dreaming?

    God created men from a bone. But he haven’t seen coming. Are we in a wonderful imaginary world where women dictate rules and are uncontested Goddesses? Where men are some devoted servants? Women understood how strong they are. Especially Lady Eve! Goddess Lady Eve.

    Pray for mercy!

    Welcome Femocracy!


    Three weeks have passed since I’ve been found in a trash dunk half-naked, handcuffed and hysterically laughing. The police asked me for details unable to understand why I was, me a financial counsellor, looking like some sort of homeless weirdo smelling of urine a mile around.

    Neither me. But I knew that I survived to Lady Eve’s sexual treatments. In fact, the more I thought about what happened to me, the higher my passion for her Authority grew to a point of unbearable sexual attirance. I needed her more, more and more.

    Every man dreams of being able to serve a Goddess. Is that a fetish? A subconscious anti- human evolution? But this Lady is Goddess.

    I tried to contact her to renew my servile fetish experience. Emails, phones to the office where I was working for three years. Nothing. A Dead-end. Expecting something from Her was not in her plans I guess.

    But…

    Two days ago, she granted me with a meeting in a café downtown.


    This is it! Happy to arrive well in advance for the rendezvous, I sit down at a table waiting. Five minutes, fifteen more. Half-an hour!

    Suddenly, the door opens. I hear the voices of women, but above all I hear the sound of heels that trample the floor with a firm step. I see three wonderful women coming. Two are girls who will be in their twenties, while you are in the middle. You are wonderful.

    A Goddess among the goddesses wearing a black leather coat. Below, you can see a knee-skirt and black high-heeled boots. You take off your sunglasses and look me straight in the eye. You easily spotted your prey. Without you saying anything, I jump to my feet and take you a chair to make you comfortable.

    I can finally hear your wonderful voice, “Well, don’t you offer us anything to drink?

    I immediately run to the waiter to get three coffees. I am very excited and that’s why I act like an idiot. Saying to myself, “I gave you the honour of meeting me because you owned me a lot of money since you screwed up the negotiations for this big contract with the Russians.

    What do you think you are up to it, bitch? »

    I would do anything for you, my Goddess!” I answered.

    Then you look at me smiling, “It is very easy to put it into words! Get on your knees here, in front of everyone. Thanks for the opportunity I gave you and kiss my boots!

    My man’s nature wouldn’t accept that kind of degradation in public spaces. In a secluded area or room, nice! Here? Fuck no! I resist.

    The girls stand up, taking my head down to the floor. So noisy that people turn around and look at us. Force me to kneel at your feet, begin to kiss your boots, I try to resist. Students, workers, clients in the café look at us intrigued.

    With a glance you draw the attention of your young assistants, who start to trample my hands with the heels of their sandals. I noticed that both wear open sandals, with black nail polish on the toes. Is that time to to have an erection here I thought to myself ? Fuck no! Containing my toes fetish.

    I begin to cry out in pain. You look at me angry and cover my mouth with the tip of the boot. With a Dominatrix look you tell me, “This is the least pain you will feel to pay back your dues.”

    The girls increase the pressure on my hands and I, with a tear of pain running down my face, ask for mercy. I see that you take off your coat, remaining with a beautiful black dress that pays tribute to your wonderful body. So you order me to lick the other boot, from heel to toe.

    To do this, you change the position of your legs, crossing them slowly. Hypnotized by the view, I can’t help looking up slightly to see this gesture of yours. I can’t help looking at your calves, knees, thighs…

    And what I seem to see is Heaven. I haven’t seen very well, but from the bare thigh, I haven’t been able to see your panties. I get lost in this thought.

    You notice it! But I go back to earth when your assistants change their legs and start to crush my hands with their heels harder. As I almost cry in pain, I finally convince myself to tell you that I am willing to do anything to make you happy. I tell you I will do whatever I am ordered by you and your assistants. That I’m lucky for this opportunity and I won’t miss it. That I am willing to lick your feet and sandals whenever you want.

    You say to me, “For now it can be enough.” Whoever followed the whole scene, in the café are smiling. Shame! But the sexual power of this woman is so addictive.

    So you get up, while your assistants help you put your coat back on. My hands hurt, I look at you from the bottom up like the Goddess you are, with admiration and devotion.

    If I feel like it, they will contact you on my behalf!” So you start walking to the door and leave me there on my knees.

    Instinctively, I ask, “Excuse me, Miss! But are you wearing panties?”

    You stop and your assistants seem stone. I immediately realize my huge mistake! Why did I do it, I wonder? I was just thinking it loud, I mustn’t say it. It was stronger than me. I start to despair, to be so impudent, but I don’t have the courage to say anything. A few seconds passes, but it feels like hours. Or even that time has stopped?

    You turn your head, look at me and take off your glasses. You say, with a grin on my face, “In your opinion?” So after, putting your glasses back on and go.

    «Prenez-le jusqu’à la toilette des femmes. Traitement numéro 9 pour que cette salope comprenne bien les règles».

    Your assistants take me by the arms strongly, push me straight to the back of the café, open the ladies’s room doors, unzipped my fly, start playing my cock, stroking it fast with their leathered-hand gloves.

    My God, if you exist, help me.” I hear the sound of heels outside the room, the door opens, two ladies wishing to go inside. The other assistant blocks them with a smile saying that the room will be ready in less than three minutes. I try to resist, “Do not cum! Do not cum! Do not cum.” The pleasure is so intense, my rock-hard cock is bigger that normal. This woman knows how to play with my balls, the sensitive nerves of my dick are turning blue of excitement, squeezing the head of my cock hard and gently at the same time. An experienced hand jerking the hell out of my manhood. Pre-cum glistening. Try to resist. More pre-cum. resist! Resist control! Control…

    I cum so hard with a noisy growl of unbearable shame of pleasure. The woman is pointing my dick to the clean floor. Strong jets floods it with my sperm. Then, she rubs the head of my dick on the ceramic to make sure every drops of cum is covering it.

    I lasted three minutes. They knew how long I could’ve supported the this guilty treatment. Three minutes. Hell! Not more!

    The other women take a sharpie and write:

    I’m the guy sitting at the table next to the door drinking a Cappuccino. I jerked my dick and came here on the floor. I loved it. Do you like ladies to see my cum covering your public room? Let me know.

    The two women take me out of the room, buy me a Cappuccino and force me to sit at the table.

    You must stay here. For half an hour! If you go… You don’t want to know the consequences.”

    …and I’m alone again!

    The ladies’ room door open, two women are walking to my table…


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  • BDSM The Poshtotti Way

    BDSM The Poshtotti Way

    BDSM to me is the total control over a human being, both in mind and body. This can be administered in many different ways, the spectrum ranges from the soft to the very severe.

    What Makes Mistress Poshtotti Unique

    The best tool in my box is my seductive techniques, I am not a mistress who screams and shouts, I use mind control to exert my will over my subjects. One look into their eyes, one honeyed whispered command and they drop to their knees in complete subjugation and will do anything to please me.

    However, my unique qualities rely on my ability to be exceptionally severe and controlling when the need arises.

    Kinks I Specialise In

    I cover the full spectrum of BDSM activities. Each of my sessions is bespoke to the individual client.

    It is my style that is specialist rather than any particular activity. All Mistress’s have their own individual style, mine is based on mind control and seduction delivered with a sadistic twist.

    Favorite Accessories I Love To Use

    What a fantastic question, I have a uniquely well equipped chambers. To name just a few.

    Ginger bread man: A device to restrain my subjects, spread eagled and at my complete mercy.

    Vac bed: My subjects are completely cocooned in latex, unable to move or communicate. My subjects tell me they have no concept of time and are transported to sub space which is on a level they have not experienced before.

    Electrics: My electrics are some of my favourite devices. Some deliver sensual tingles, others “shocking” agonising pain. They can be used on any part of the anatomy.

    Not so much a piece of equipment but a whole room, dedicated to feminisation and sissification, this is one of my true passions, and the room is something I am immensely proud of.

    What I Expect Of My Subs

    To relinquish control, to have an open mind towards new exquisite experiences. To trust in me and follow every command and most of all, enjoy themselves in this world of mine.


    Mistress Poshtotti – With my style you will feel the real intensity of being under the seductive control of a beautiful, yet powerful mistress. You will surrender your mind, body and soul to my whim. You will know you are in capable and safe hands.

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    www.poshtottifeminisation.co.uk

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    My chambers are in Pembrokeshire but I regularly tour Cardiff and London.


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  • What To Know About Sissy Training

    What To Know About Sissy Training

    I live my life as a Goddess and embrace the lifestyle of kink/BDSM. I think every person is kinky, this can be bedroom slap and tickle for example, the lighter sides seen on social media, or from some well known online sellers to those who are very heavy into kinky play and visit others to live out those kinks.

    BDSM as a general term, is often used as a gateway into the realm of kink and opens up many doors to play. For myself, I have many kinks which are embraced from pet play, impact play, panty selling and feminization/sissy play, which is what we shall be delving into today.

    I first discovered kink in my sexual awakening and have jumped headlong into it since, it has taken many years of exploring and learning to get to where I am now and happy to call myself a Pro Domme – although I still am always learning more and more.

    I love how kink offers closeness in relationships which I have found others cannot. Kink relationships to me are as close as partners (or more so) due to the deep trust and connections which are made in sessions and of course, with friends you meet in the scene or at events. The highs of a wonderful session are what make myself and many come back for more. It’s not to say I am chasing the high, I love what I do and need it to feel myself.

    What Is Sissy Training?

    Sissy training from my point is a male who wants to be put in situations to be feminine, this can be maid training, sluts, princess to name a few aspects. It often involves chastity or small penis humiliation (not always) as well as dressing up. Most of the dressing up involves panties, I do love it when it’s my pre-worn undies so they smell like a female, also which helps create the scene more. A lot of sissies do enjoy strap-on or cock training which can have links into coerced bi or cuckold, but there are equally the same amount who just enjoying a female using a strap-on on them.

    I love it for many reasons…I love the change (which can be humiliation or embracing the switch) as well as what I can do to help facilitate the kink. If they are a slutty type it can be putting them in crotchless panties, red lipstick and making them enjoy pleasure in many forms (i.e. self and strap-ons).

    I love sissies being treated like a tart, smearing their lipstick with my strap-on (I have a few sizes and shapes) and often ending with some cum eating, which can be their own or anothers if into cuckolding, for example.

    I am equally exploring hypnosis which works well with sissy bimbos such as Barbie style sissies who think nothing but wanting to look pretty. It equally works well with what I enjoy, which is making a toy of my plaything.

    Reasons Subs Love Sissy Training

    Sissy/feminization play came to me as a humiliation at first but I equally learned it’s not always about humiliation for the ones dressing, it’s a way to be girly, feel sexy, be used as escapism and then those who actually wish to be a girl.

    So the men who come to me want to embrace being treated like a maid, a girl or humiliated by their clothes being taken away. Many of the aspects do have a sexual leading them to be such, but not all, I don’t offer all those who come to mine the chance to relief themselves sexually. For example, pleasure whores can be kept in chastity or be made to cum many times in a session and maids are often in chastity.

    Not all sissies are submissive, most I have come across are as that’s who I like to deal with. I have found most like to be restrained and guided in submissive training.

    What A Typical Sissy Training Involves

    One of my favourite scenes is my damsel, it’s a rope scene play which they dress in lovely undies and I tie them up to which they try to escape…if they do they get punished and we try many different ties as well as timed escapes. But equally, I do love a good maid who turns up dressed in a maids uniform and does my cleaning, no questions or other play.

    I have a personal sissy who is a maid, slut, hypnosis plaything and gives pleasure to gentlemen I desire for them to. This sissy also has a sissy tattoo, and can be found on Twitter as @tweenie_weenie for her training. So a sissy can have many lessons and embrace all aspects of being sissy as well as being submissive.

    What To Expect If You’re A First Timer

    Read up on it as it’s so varied, find out what works for you and explore with someone safely. There are many sites out there which can help you learn, but slowly does it.

    The training can take time and it isn’t something that will click over night, keep working at it and learning more as you go!


    Goddess Kikka Jennie – Ellie may have been a late bloomer sexually, but she fully enjoys adventures with friends now, in and out of the bedroom. She enjoys traveling to explore new places and cuddling up for a good movie. She sells used panties and other items online along with pictures and videos.

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  • What To Know About Human Pet Training

    What To Know About Human Pet Training

    Human Pet Training is being able to bring the fantasy to life and give the “pet” the experience they crave to portray their inner desire of being the pet they relate to.

    Are Only Subs Interested In Human Pet Training?

    I know quite a few Tops, Doms and Masters into animal/pet identity and play. Some subs are only submissive in this method of role-playing and submission. So it is just another method of submission for some, but not always others.

    Favorite Forms of Training

    I enjoy the protocol training of dogs and pups play. I have experience as a pet trainer and handler so I incorporate all the same protocols, methods and gear that is used in English, American and Domestic dog training/care. I feel, if an individual feels they connect or wants to portray the life and style of a “pet”, then they are to have all the experiences that are humanly possible.

    Must Have Tools For Pet Training

    This depends on the levels that the pet wants to go. Some enjoy the casual role-play aspects and only enjoy certain aspects of the “pet/ animal play role”. So I like adapting to more realistic interactions. My clicker, dog whistle, training leash, and squeakers/ pet toys of choice are mandatory in my bag.

    Things Subs Must Know Before Engaging In Pet Training

    • Know your limitations physically, emotionally and mentally. The way one speaks to a “human portraying a pet role” is different than a human who is role-playing a position, not an animal or objectification role.
    • Research your kink, know what your fetish and role as a pet/ animal figure. Know what you are partaking in and know what you enjoy to communicate these desires to negotiate properly for this learning experience or dynamic.

    Mina De Sade Fatale – Mix race Leather Master & Professional Fetish Domina. They are an educator for the BDSM, KINK, Fetish, Leather, and Sex-positive communities. They reside in California and Provides their expertise in Las Vegas & Los Angeles as well as abroad.

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  • The Slave’s Suppose To Know…

    The Slave’s Suppose To Know…

    I’m here in the middle of nowhere, alone with my only friend, the Fear. That unbearable feeling of not knowing. Maybe I should had it see coming? Working for her! Only if I had never screwed up that contract!

    Now, no one can hear me except my frightening thoughts of the near so-close future consequences of my strictly forbidden love for my Lady Eve!


    Two nights and days passed. The potent stenches in the room had faded in the wind, the cold freezing air out through the open window that kept Goddess Eves bound slave shivering and suffering in silence and alone.

    All those stenches had dispersed the room but not where I had laid for two whole days, bound to a table. cemented in those horrible smells of cum and sweat and old cigarettes. My body was trembling in cold suffering. My balls has shrunken in the cold and my cock, still swollen and hurting from Goddesses abuse, was starting to turn a faint shade of purple.

    Suddenly it begins to twitch as I’m alerted by the distant sound of Goddesses’ foot steps. They get louder and louder as they echo in the room. My heart starts to race, that after two days of isolation and suffering, that I am greeted by someone.

    I hesitate at the thought if that’s worth it at the cost of Goddesses ‘extensive’ torture and abuse. It’s too late to answer myself as you finally approach and stand beside me. As harshly cold in the room as it is, you prepare considerably wearing a tight, shiny, black leather uniform and dawning a long black trench coat.

    The table I am strapped down to is level with your waist. You remove one of your black leather gloves to reveal your pale white hand. Your light skin contrasts all that black leather I think. You graze your bare fingers across my frozen and bruised skin. It hurts a little bit, but it still feels nice to feel the warmth of your soft and heavenly skin.

    You trace your fingers across all my scars from your thrashings. The scars have swelled in the cold air. All the more to display that I am owned by my Goddess. You feel the cold touch of my frozen skin. You can only imagine how much it suffered as your slave and that brings you so much pleasure and makes you grin. You remove your long leather jacket, revealing your tight black leather uniform. I bite on my lip in bashful arousal. I can’t hide how aroused my cock is. You rest your long jacket on a hanger in the corner of the room.

    Walking back towards me, you return holding a strap-on. At first sighting my body clenches, already feeling swollen, bruised and frozen stiff. Not prepared for such ownage, though instead you to attach it to my waist… strapped down already, I am unable to protest or make resistance.

    You get on top of me on the table, looking down at my frightened, submissive expression and my used restrained state. You slide your tight leather pants down bellow your thighs. I take notice at the contrast between the black leather and your exposed pale, white skin. It just makes my Goddesses body ever so more sexy and alluring.

    You lubricate the strap-on and begin to adjust your ass exactly below the black, six inch strap-on as you slowly lower your butt down on it. I can feel the base of strap-on dig into my stomach as the tip of the shaft squeezes down against your butt cheeks. Slowly you push it deeper and deeper in your butt till your ass is resting on my cold stomach.

    Soon you begin to move up and down on the strap-on at a steady but faster pace as your head rolls back and you completely ignore that I am alive. As cold as I may be and as warming it is to feel your perfect skin against my cold suffering, the base of the strap-on digging at my stomach hurts oh so much and the constant repetition of your ass cheeks smacking my frozen body and lifting back up as you ride that strap-on feels so very painful.

    You start to ride the strap-on harder. I in return, grown and grunt as you smash your cheeks up and down my waist, riding that black cock, thrusting harder and harder..

    You lift your butt up and off the springing thick strap-on and seat yourself on my chest. My chest is heaving. Breaths deep and intense from all that fucking I didn’t even have the joy to feel but nothing should make me happier than to be used by Goddess in any such way however that may please or pleasure her. After being left alone, freezing naked and strapped to a table for two days and two nights, I should be so lucky to have this.

    You do look so warm and comfortable in your black leather outfit. My eyes gaze at that long black leather coat of yours in the corner though such a well tailored and high quality piece of attire is only exclusive to a pure and dominant Goddess.

    You take notice at my gaze and see my desire. You slide that leather glove back over your hand and begin to slap my face and slap my check. Goddess slaps me relentlessly as I lay there under her and take her discipline and dominance obediently. My face is bruised black and red. One of my eyes is only half open. My look on my bruised and beaten face. You paid me no mercy, and my defeated and suffered beaten state turns you on immensely. “I need to fuck slave,” you remark, moving back down to my stomach, now positioning your pussy just above the long black strap-on as you slowly push down on it as it fits deeper and deeper in your precious cunt.

    You lay your body face down on my own. Your crotch at my waist and your breasts pressing down on my beaten face as you thrust and ram and pound your pussy against that black cock attached to my body. Whilst you ride and fuck that strap-on, you unzip the upper half of your shiny leather outfit.

    Your gorgeous, perfect, white breasts pop out and you not so gently grab me by the hair and guide my lips to meet your erect nipple. I suck my Goddesses’ wonderful nipple as you fuck that dildo attached to my waist. Still pulling me by the hair, you shift my head to suck your other nipple. I take it into my mouth and suck and submit and worship.

    You ram yourself harder down on that plastic cock. Now you hold my head in-between your breasts, pressing me against your heaving bosom as you thrust in and out of that cock. You hold my head tighter against your smothering breasts the closer you come to climax. My waist and thighs begin to feel numb as you pound in and out, fucking that dildo. You hold me so tight between your huge and perfect boobs as you thrust faster and faster and climax all over that thick black piece of plastic.

    You just lay on top of me, heaving and breathing heavily. That orgasm enveloping you whilst my waist cramps and aches. At least I get to feel Goddess’ warm whilst remaining completely naked in this freezing cold room. You un-strap the dildo from my waist, red markings remain having been buckled and strapped so tightly on my frame. You wipe the cum covered strap-on over my body to wipe it clean but you put it in my mouth and force it down my throat to suck it clean anyway.

    You make sure that plastic dick fits all the way down my throat. “You look like you are warming up a bit slut,” you remark. “You must be so thirsty and hungry…” I nod my head desperately in admittance while sucking that plastic cock clean for you.

    You pull the strap-on from out of my mouth. My breaths are heavy but then my eyes gleam at the thought of quenching my hunger. You look down at me at smirk, “Then how about a warm drink from my cunt because I need a good piss after a good fuck…

    You derive so much pleasure from the reality hitting me. I submit in subservience and obedience in my strapped down circumstance as you move nearer. My face is between your legs and then you straddle my face, your legs hang off the edge of the table.

    Now I don’t want you swallowing my urine straight away… You got that slut! If you can hold all my urine in your mouth for however long your Goddess decrees …. Then I will unstrap one of your wrists and maybe sometimes I will let you touch your cock. You got that!” I nod in obedience.

    You make sure you are positioned correctly and let out a warm stream of golden salty piss into my open mouth. I make a great effort not to swallow a single drop of your urine as my mouth begins to fill up and bloat with piss.

    I have to breath through my nose. The strong pungent scent of your urine filling up my mouth runs through my nostrils. It makes me not want to smell but it’s the only way I can stay alive and still submit to and obey your demands. You sit on my chest, thighs on either side between my face. You watch me hold that urine in my mouth, smirking at my bloated expression, struggling, tears streaming down my eyes.

    You pick up a cigar from the pack that rested on the table. Lighting it with a wooden match, you inhale the tar and smoke and blow it in my face… My eyes tear up more and now red and stinging.

    When I finish this expensive Cuban piece, you are allowed to drink my urine slave.” I nod my head quickly, your piss sloshes around in my mouth. I hold every drop in.

    You blow another puff of smoke in my face as you take pleasure and content in all my struggles and teary eyes. I can feel my tongue drowning in your urine the scent so unbearable. Another puff of smoke in my face and another. My throat feels so bitter and dry having sucked and cleaned your strap-on, I feel so tempted to swallow your urine to moisten my hurting throat.

    I try to think about the cigar, your smoke, your gorgeous deadly beauty but your urine still envelops my tortured senses. Finally, the cigar begins to cinder lesser, and then no more, and you give me permission to swallow.

    The heavy thick stream of your urine washes down my throat like a crashing river. My, I still can feel your golden rain in my mouth and abused tongue. I can taste that salty piss running all the way down my throat. The scent exits my mouth and re-enters through my nostrils. I am utterly over powered and overwhelmed and absolutely dominated.

    Having lifted yourself off of me off the table, pulling up your tight leather black pants and zipping your leather black shirt, the sound of your tapping boots taking you to your long black leather coat. You reach one arm out to put it in whilst walking further away towards the door way leaving me completely restrained again.

    Aren’t you going to free one of my arms Goddess, didn’t you say you would!?.” Your slave cries out. “I don’t remember where I put the key, it might turn up eventually,” you respond as your voice distances as does the sound of your tapping footsteps, leaving me in bondage again. “Goddess”

    …and alone again! I want more! OMG! If only I had never become a counsellor in the Lady Eve’s Financial Trust Office!


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  • How To Get Started Into BDSM

    How To Get Started Into BDSM

    Alternative lifestyles are fun and exciting and I could not live any other way. I honestly believe that people who live normal, boring lives by subscribing to society’s standards are truly missing out on all sorts of debauchery that they could be enjoying. Of course, to each their own, but once I fully embraced what a weirdo I truly am, my life became meaningful and fulfilling. I would encourage anyone who knows deep down that they are not like other people and want to live their own life for themselves should do it and see where life takes them, whether it be exploring new kinks or living in a van down by the river.

    As far as kink goes, kink has made such a difference in my personal sex life and my career and I am eternally grateful for discovering it. I think it’s a great tool for escaping the humdrum monotony of life without relying on mind-altering drugs, though endorphins can be quite powerful. I truly believe that sex is an important facet of life, as it helps with mental health, building and sustaining relationships, and having fun (which every adult needs). Kink can be essential in providing the stepping stones to a fulfilling and satisfying sex life, as it’s important to try new things with your partner(s) to keep the flame going. It can be scary and exhilarating at times, which makes the outcome all the more worth it!

    How My Interest In BDSM Began

    I had had an interest in BDSM since age 6, having fantasies of being tied up and forced to do naughty things. I first experimented with blindfolds and handcuffs with my first girlfriend at age 13, which I loved. Other than some light choking and spanking with a partner of mine in my later teens, I didn’t really get to try out BDSM until age 22 (I am 27 now), when I started dating a woman who fully introduced me to the BDSM world by doing both dominant and submissive scenes with me. We went to play parties together and I became acquainted with the local BDSM community as well.

    How Will Someone Know If BDSM Is For Them?

    The only way to know is to try it and see if it does anything for you. Having an interest in watching BDSM porn is a good starting point, but actually doing it is kind of a different ballgame. Playing with someone who shares similar interests and whom you trust is important, as consent is the most important aspect of BDSM.

    Ways To Explore BDSM & Get Into It

    You can create a Fetlife account, which is essentially a kinky Facebook (except with much less censorship). In other words, it’s a social networking site for kinky people. This is a great way to meet people in your area with similar interests. In addition, you can discover local events, like munches, which are get-togethers, usually at restaurants or cafes, for kinky folks to meet new people and ask questions. I would definitely recommend munches to any newcomers to the scene. From there, play parties are also a great place to get into the community, though I would recommend going with another kinky friend and observing for your first time since it’s important to understand how these parties function first before diving into it. Some play parties will even have an introductory session before the party begins for newcomers to explain guidelines and expectations.

    If you’re not quite ready to be open and social about your kinks, buy some porn from creators that make BDSM porn that piques your interests. This will give you lots of ideas and help you discover what interests you. You can explore the world of BDSM porn and whatever catches your eye, you can learn more about through Wikipedia or BDSM Wiki (as a start), basic Internet searches (there is a wealth of knowledge on the Internet nowadays, but be careful that you’re not getting advice from a novice – perhaps look for articles written by professional Dominatrixes), and books (not Fifty Shades of Grey). Once you’re ready, going to a munch is a great place to expand your horizons.

     

    What Beginners Should Know Before Exploring BDSM

    BDSM covers so many kinks and it can be a little overwhelming at first so starting with the basics is usually a good way to begin your journey. Also, if you think real-life BDSM is anything like 50 Shades of Grey, you will be sorely disappointed. Like I mentioned earlier, consent is the most important aspect of BDSM play. Having a safeword, checking in with your partner periodically throughout the scene, respecting boundaries, and aftercare are essential to safe and fun BDSM play. Safety is a key concern during play, especially with impact play, breath play, and bondage, just to name a few kinks.

    BDSM can be dangerous and it’s important to start slowly. An important term regarding safety used in the BDSM community is RACK, or risk-aware consensual kink, which is a safety philosophy that permits risky play so long as the participants are fully aware of the risks involved. Risk-aware means being aware of the risks (and hopefully minimizing risks as much as possible). Consensual means that both parties are in agreeance with the activities taking and about to take place. And kink is the actual act of play or scene. There is also SSC, or safe, sane, and consensual (is it a safe thing to do? Is it a sane thing to do? Are both parties consenting?).

    Lastly, there is PRICK, which stands for personal-responsibility, informed, consensual kink. The idea behind this philosophy is that all parties should take personal responsibility for their kinks, understand the inherent risks involved, and consent to the kinks and risks themselves. This is only a brief explanation of these philosophies and I highly encourage anyone who is willing to put some time into delving into BDSM to figure out which philosophy fits their ideals best, as there is no right answer.

    But I think it’s important to note that the general public can at times have a skewed impression of what BDSM really looks like because of movies like 50 Shades of Grey or even Secretary. Movies like these totally disregard how important it is to establish boundaries and consent during BDSM scenes. They also fail to show aftercare, an important aspect of ending a scene, in which the dominant actor steps out of their role as the top to pamper and nurture the bottom, as some scenes can be quite intense for the bottom and induce vulnerabilities.

    So if you decide to try your hand at some kinky sex, keep an open mind and you may find that BDSM can be a rewarding, fun, and exciting way to express your sexuality.

    Favorite Fetishes I Have

    That’s like asking someone what their favorite movies are… but I would have to say bondage, impact play, and power exchange. Bondage is the act of restraining someone during play with a physical instrument or by instruction, which can be done with leather restraints or rope bondage, mouth gags, or complicated devices that restrain the whole body.

    Impact play varies depending on the instrument used, but it involves hitting someone with tools like floggers, canes, or paddles, or with body parts like hands or feet. Power exchange, a broad term in the grand scheme of BDSM play, means a dominant and submissive relationship of consensually relinquishing control as a submissive in exchange for dominance from another partner. Impact play, for instance, is a type of power exchange, as the dominant person holds power over the submissive by hitting them.


    Ruby Riots – Ruby Riots is a professional switch, an independent fetish clip creator, and an alternative, fetish model. She was recently in a film titled Chelsea Submits by TroubleFilms, which was nominated for best BDSM film of the year by both XBIZ and AVN Awards. She has been published in Féroce Magazine and Sour Magazine. Ruby identifies as a punk and pansexual, and she is also a musician, artist, and writer.

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  • What One Should Know About Domestic Discipline

    What One Should Know About Domestic Discipline

    I absolutely love kink, of course. After I was outed by a cyberstalker five years ago and my lifestyle splashed open in the South African media for all to see, I started living this life openly and proudly. Besides satisfying my own Dominant and sadistic urges, I am a BDSM educator and film producer.

    I specialise in roleplay (I have a drama degree and used to be an actress in the vanilla world, before I embraced this lifestyle completely), corporal punishment and domestic discipline. I love touring the world and meeting fellow kinksters.

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    What Is Domestic Discipline?

    Domestic Discipline is spankings you’d expect to receive as a child.

    In BDSM, it manifests as either roleplay or as straight spankings, with no roleplay. Roleplay is often age play: parent/child, aunt and niece/nephew, neighbour, teacher/student. Non-ageplay scenarios could be wife/husband.

    You can be punished for real infractions, imaginary infractions or just for fun.

    Then there are also Female-Led Relationships (FLR), where two people who are in a romantic relationship or married and who decide that the Woman leads the relationship and is the Dominant partner. Domestic Discipline is often a part of such a FLR.

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    Are There Rules?

    Rather than rules, there are traditions:

    * The disciplinarian wears common/vanilla clothing rather than fetish wear.

    * A domestic setting like a lounge or study, even just an armchair in a corner, rather than a dungeon.

    * No BDSM furniture like caning benches, just everyday home furnishings.

    * No restraining with rope or leather cuffs or chain. Restraining is done with leg locks and/or armlocks.

    * No whips, needles, humblers, etc., but rather household implements. In Domestic Discipline scenes, the implements used are hand, brush, belt, wooden spoon or ruler type implements. Canes (especially short OTK canes) may be used, too.

    * Domestic Discipline punishments involve humiliation practices like corner time and corporal punishment on the bum or hands. No face slapping, CBT, etc.

    Basically, you need a spanking for your behaviour and you’re going to get one. Probably over the knee, but can be bent over, on a bed, over a chair, etc.

    Is Preparation Required?

    No prep needed. (Though make sure your bottom is clean, since your bottom will only be a few centimetres from the Disciplinarian’s nose, if you’re pulled over their lap).

    If you feel you want/need a bare bottom spanking from a grown adult, find a capable woman—like me—with a willing lap and a stout brush and that’s it!

    Misconceptions About Domestic Discipline

    Misconceptions? No. But I’ll tell you an interesting fact, though, of which I only recently found out:

    There was a type of professional service that was available for parents back in the 50s in England. Some parents were too soft-hearted to discipline their own children, and they could pay professional Disciplinarians outside of the school system to punish their children. This usually happened at their own home, or at the home of the Disciplinarian. Obviously, not any more, as the legal use of corporal punishment has since been abandoned in most countries. But at that time it was a fairly commonplace occurrence in society.


    Mistress Baton – South African Dominatrix, Disciplinarian, Tour Domme and content producer. I love latex, CP, Domestic Discipline and Roleplay. Touring your country soon.

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