My personality and style as a professional disciplinarian is really no different from my own. I am told I have an assertive style, and that I exude a natural air of authority. I am perceptive generally, and enjoy a meeting of the minds – I love to unpick a person and to find out what really makes them tick. I am firm but fair, very honest, and love to be engaged in interesting conversation about pretty much any topic; I am insatiably curious about people, and the world we live in. I approach people from a place of kindness and a desire to meet their needs (not always their ‘wants’!). Sometimes (often), kindness means a very sore bottom. 🙂
I have a bit of a wicked sense of humour and will often laugh with my bottoms in session. Depending on the type of session, you might catch a little joyous gleam, an evil laugh, or at the very least a mischievous twinkle in my eye. I absolutely adore my work as a disciplinarian.
Inspiration For A Coaching & Discipline Programme
I have always seen the potential of corporal punishment and discipline to help those with the requisite wiring to achieve their goals. While I conduct many different types of sessions, including role play and cathartic release/relaxation, I found increasingly that as I got to know my bottoms, there were areas in their lives that they wanted some help with. It made sense to use my role as an authority figure to help keep them accountable with the changes and goals we’d agreed on.
Creating programmes for them to hold these goals together, and to create a path to success was an easy extra step. I have a pretty broad and deep knowledge base in a wide variety of disciplines, including personal training, health, coaching and lifestyle change, so it was an absolutely natural fit and an extension of my existing skills and expertise to link these to discipline.
Reasons Clients Take Up The Programme
They are incredibly varied, but I’ve worked with clients to help them with stopping smoking, weight loss, various fitness goals, dietary changes, reducing alcohol consumption – even helping with unpacking shame around kink, and helping bottoms to feel more comfortable with who they are.
The scope is pretty much limitless – I create a framework with the person, break those goals down into realistic and achievable chunks, and then track them. Consequences for failure, and rewards for success depend on the individual’s preferences – and ultimately, of course, are at my discretion.
Does Being Punished Create An Incentive?
That’s always a bit of a minefield to manage. I have certainly had experiences with masochists who have attempted to engineer a punishment purposefully. However, this can be managed with creating punishments that are absolutely not fun for the individual (for example, corner time, non-spanking or refusal of session time, line-writing etc).
I will always remind an individual that ultimately, it is their goal, and their wish to achieve it that provides the motivation – they only sabotage themselves in their desire for punishment. For a masochist, therefore, a reward can be a punishment-themed session. It’s complicated, but it works as long as I have a grasp of the psychology of the individual – happily, to date, this has been an arrangement that works well.
Advantages Of The Programme
The advantages are the same as any vanilla coaching programme – the client has a coach in their corner, working with them to keep them accountable, with the added bonus of being able to leverage a predilection for punishment to drive change. For someone with a spanking or corporal punishment fetish, the underlying drive is wanting to please, and absolutely never wanting to disappoint the person they allow to wield authority over them. This is incredibly powerful and effective. You get the best of all worlds; a coach helping you, an authority figure motivating you and inspiring you to keep your promises to her, and a corporal punishment session that will either align with deeply-held fantasies, or provide the sharp and unpleasant shock required to get you back on track. The combination of goals with corporal punishment really is a match made in heaven.
In terms of choosing to do a programme with me – well, as I’ve alluded to previously, I’ve got an excellent and highly relevant knowledge base that gives me the ability to give clients specialised input. Additionally, I have my own gym which I will use for clients for fitness testing etc for that extra level of accountability. From a corporal punishment perspective, I’ve got a reputation for not taking prisoners. You’ll get disciplined, and you’ll know about it.
What To Expect Prior To Starting The Programme
You need to be realistic – if you actually just want to be punished, then apply for a session and we can do that. If you genuinely want to change one or a few aspects of your life, then apply for a programme. I invest in your well-being and success, so it’s important that you do too. You need to have a clear idea of what you want to achieve, and for those goals to be based in reality. You also need to be able to attend the sessions regularly to make the programme work. Generally, I work on the basis of a monthly session for programmes. How you report in will vary with your budget and the types of goals you’re pursuing.
While you may have a fantasy of a super-strict disciplinarian who will mercilessly thrash you for any indiscretion, that really isn’t the best way to achieve change. I’ll work with you to make sure you are consistent. Punishments and consequences will be discussed and made very clear. I will encourage you, support you, and respect you as a human being who cannot be perfect, but I will also hold you accountable. I’ve helped many people achieve things they didn’t believe they could; you are no different!
Miss Haldane – A highly educated, intelligent and intuitive disciplinarian. Based near Birmingham, UK, she offers both in person and online sessions, providing a professional disciplinary service for suitable applicants; a safe space for them to be who they want to be, and to explore and express their long-held disciplinary needs and fantasies. Sessions vary from role play, to cathartic release, to structured goals and accountability coaching programmes – whichever direction they take, they are tailored to the individual, and crafted at the hands of a lady who truly ‘gets’ – and loves – CP.
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