Mistakes Men Make During Sex

I love sex. I’ve always been fascinated by it, and I got into porn not just to have sex, but to make art about it. I’ve always used it as a way to connect with other women. I like to say that sex is like a conversation – a human interaction that can have a lot of different meanings. I’ve never been monogamous and I’ve never been with a man. I have no interest in either.

What Turns Me On

I like getting girls off, and doing it right. I like strap-ons, fisting, group sex, public sex, and pushing extremes. I like submissive girls, butches who can give me a run for my money, and high energy experiences. I love being a porn star.

Do Ladies Satisfy Other Ladies Better?

Women are objectively more likely to get off in a lesbian encounter than a straight one. Lesbian sex has female pleasure as it’s sole focus, and much less weird cultural bullshit wrapped up in it. Plus, it’s a safer activity on many levels so it’s easier to relax.

When I fuck a girl, my whole focus is on her. I also do have a sense of what the things I do feel like – a sort of physical empathy – but mostly I pay attention to her reactions rather than what I would want myself.

Common Mistakes Men Make During Sex

Most of the complaints that I hear about men stem from men being inattentive lovers and not knowing how to touch their bodies.

Your dick matters way less to women than it does to you. Women are much, much less likely to fuck you for your dick than to fuck your dick for you. Don’t send her dick pics unless she asks, and if you do send them, make sure the energy in the pictures is “I am so turned on by you, personally” and not “I have this thing I want you to touch.” Don’t make the sex all about your dick. Make it about the connection, and use all the parts of your body as a tool to foster it.

Speaking of dicks, size isn’t the end all be all. Sure, there are size queens out there, but even for a size queen, just being hung doesn’t make you good. On the other end of the spectrum, just because you have a small dick, it doesn’t mean you can’t satisfy your partner.

If you want to have good sex with women, focus on them during sex. Pay attention to their pleasure instead of just yours. Rather than touching her boobs in a way than turns you on, touch them in a way that turns her on (which will still turn you on.) Sex is best when you’re open to learning.

Lily Cade is “Porn Valley’s Gold Star Lesbian” and a veteran adult performer and director. She’s known for her strap-on skills, her aggressively passionate sex scenes, and her characters such as “Officer Cade” and “Kristen Grey.”

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Catch Lily Cade in her upcoming work:

Evil Lesbian Stepmother, coming soon from FillyFilms.com, is my latest movie. In my first “Milf” role, I tackle the popular incest genre in my own delightfully twisted way. The movie stars Bianca Breeze, Piper Perri, Mona Wales,  Lana Lovelace, RenéeRoulette and Summer Day.

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