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  • How Stripping Taught Me To Be A Better Lover

    How Stripping Taught Me To Be A Better Lover

    I think that sexuality starts in the mind. I’ve worn many hats as an erotic professional – dancer, escort, and model, and the common theme has always been that of inspiring the erotic imagination of my admirers. The sex act itself hasn’t changed since the dawn of the human species, but the stories we tell ourselves about sex are always evolving. My goal, whether I’m dancing for a group of women, or crafting a dream date for a gentleman, is to tell joyful, life-affirming stories about sex.

    Why Stripping Turns Men On

    Men often tell me that they fantasize about sensual, sexually-confident women who enjoy eroticism. So, I think it’s more the attitude of the woman performing the striptease, rather than just the stripping itself that arouses men. That’s why, when I teach erotic dance classes to women, I tell them to focus on having fun, connecting with their inner fabulous, and eye-fucking their audience, rather than worrying about the technical aspects of the dance.

    Why I Love It

    I’m naturally shy, introverted, and a bit of a nerd. Dancing has helped me to come out of my shell, and step into the sexual superheroine version of myself. You can’t hide when you’re on stage, nor should you. And watching this transformation in my dance students just reinforces my belief that women feeling good in their own bodies is incredibly empowering.

    How Stripping Empowers

    Again, it’s not the stripping itself that I find empowering, but the gall it takes to expose oneself in such a vulnerable and openly erotic way. When I worked in a strip club, I loved dancing, but I found the working conditions to be exploitative and the narrowly-defined beauty standards were demeaning. I’m excited by neo-burlesque, the proliferation of pole dancing studios, camming, and other opportunities that have emerged in the last ten years that have allowed a greater diversity of people to experience striptease for themselves. I’ve seen trans-women, men, and women of all shapes and ages reclaim their bodies through this medium. I think everyone should try it, at least once!

    Incorporating Stripping Into Sex

    You can strip for yourself just because it makes you feel sexy.

    If you’re stripping for a partner, then striptease is a wonderful form of foreplay. Get rid of any distractions: turn off the phones, send the kids to a babysitter, and get ready to create a private fantasy that’s just for you and your partner. I like to set the mood with music, ambient lighting and a comfortable space like a bedroom or living room. Wear an outfit that makes you feel fabulous, and is relatively easy to take off (it helps to practice beforehand). Move very slowly and sensually, touching yourself suggestively, smiling, and maintaining eye contact with your partner as much as possible. Remember, what’s most important is to have fun, and feel good in your own skin. If you take your time, and you’re enjoying yourself, then when you’re finally naked, both you and your partner will be so aroused you won’t be able to keep your hands and mouths off of each other!

    If you are lucky enough to be at the receiving end of sexy striptease, please be respectful and supportive of your partner – stripping is a vulnerable act!

    Stripping Tips For Beginners

    There are so many fun elements one can introduce into a striptease to change the flavor of the experience!

    Be playful and experiment with different types of clothing – a shirt with lots of buttons offers different possibilities than a robe with a long sash. A little BDSM can be very exciting: I seat my partner in a chair, and gently tie his wrists with a scarf so that he can see me seductively peeling off my clothing, but cannot touch me. It’s tantalizing torture for the person watching! I’ve also tucked a riding crop into my garter belt, and told her that she’s welcome to try and touch, but will receive a punishment if she touches too much. Sometimes I blindfold my partner right before I’m fully nude, then tease him by removing my bra and panties when he can’t see, and brushing my breasts or lips against his face or bound hands.

    Alternatively, I may allow my partner’s hands to wander over my body as I indulgently undress myself.

    Fruits, candies, and whipped cream can be incorporated into your striptease. Once I’m naked, I like to drip warm, melted chocolate all over my body so my partner can lick it off.

    Other ideas: run a bubble bath and take turns stripping for each other before jumping in the tub; ask your partner to rub massage oil on each part of your body as you remove more and more clothing; or play a sexy game of strip poker where each item of clothing must be removed by the other partner’s teeth.

    There are no rules when it comes to stripping – you can, and should do whatever excites you. In my experience, the biggest turn-on to my partner or audience is when I feel sexy and excited. So, focus on having fun and the rest will follow.

    Good Striptease Songs To Use

    I prefer slow, sexy songs or naughty hip hop tracks (I love Nicki Minaj and the Weeknd), but obviously you should dance to whatever you love! Here are some suggestions to get you started:

    Booty – Blac Youngsta

    Ballerina – The Weeknd

    Good For You – Selena Gomez

    I Put a Spell On You – Nina Simone

    Closer – Nine Inch Nails

    Night Crawler – AC/DC

    Pretty Priya – Pretty Priya is an exotic dancer, model, and elite companion based on the West Coast of Canada. She teaches group and private dance classes, and creates personalized erotic experiences for both individuals and adventurous couples.

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  • How To Do A Sexy Striptease

    How To Do A Sexy Striptease

    I believe that sex begins and ends in the mind.  The rest of it occurs throughout the body and the heart.  A private striptease for a lover or a performance for a room filled audience is very sexy and unique. Stripteases allow us all to explore sexuality together without crossing too many boundaries. Alternatively, if you’re interested in breaking the rules and have the desire to try something new yet familiar, then striptease is the perfect thing for you.  In some ways it can be therapeutic, and in others it can be the sexiest thing you’ve ever been involved in.

    Whether it’s a private invitation to the bedroom wearing midnight lingerie or something dark, wicked and kinky involving all black latex, a whip and collar, nothing is more seductive for getting the mind to run wild with lustful fantasies than a striptease. Naughty or nice, it feels incredibly sexy feeling my audience undress me with their eyes as I walk into the room. I love seduction and feeling sexy with my hands, body, and mind. Proud of my sexuality and confidence, without striptease I wouldn’t be the person I am today.

    How My Interest In Striptease Began

    My interest in striptease began at an early age, during my teen years. Before I ever began HRT (hormone replacement therapy) for male-to-female transition in the Spring of 2016.  I used to be a teen male model overseas in Thailand. During the ages of 14-17 years old, I modeled for Pepsi, Milo chocolate drink, a hard candy called Heartbeat, and for my international high-school magazine which was used to advertise new schools for parents to send their children. There were 3 male models in the entire school, I was one of them.  I was never good as selling the actual products, but for some reason I got a lot of attention towards my body.

    As time passed and I grew to be an adult, I was exposed to more clothing styles which brought attention to certain parts of the body.  In my mid-20s I discovered a website called PartyHardcore.com which featured male strippers performing in front of drunken amateurs in a club. Around the same time I found a website / desktop service called VirtuaGuy and VirtuaGirl (now known as iStripper), which featured girls and guys stripteasing directly on your desktop in different styles of outfits. The level of sensuality was very erotic, relaxing to watch, and very sexy. I quickly learned that striptease can occur while wearing any outfit, in any setting.

    I began teaching myself how to striptease as a male performer in 2011, and performed numerous private shows for friends and a few clients. Then in 2012 I learned how to massage with my hands. So putting striptease and massage together I developed my own styles of teasing, whether the audience is one person or many. I had to relearn how to dance and striptease all over again in 2015 just before I began my hormone transition on March 1, 2016. I honestly enjoy stripping more as a girl than as a guy.  There’s so much more I can do with my body and many more outfits to wear.

    Whether your hands are touching me or not, it’s my job to make sure that you feel like you’re ready for sex by the time I’m done touching myself and taking off my clothes while doing so, without ever actually having sex itself.  If you can have an erotic moment in your eyes, thoughts, and even your hearts, then I’ve done my job of turning you on, teasing you and making you want much more after I’m done with the performance. My goal is to make you part of my performance. Without the audience, a striptease is more of a dance. Engaging the audience with my eyes, my body, and occasionally my touch, that’s what makes a striptease erotic and such a thing can even become quite personal.

    Is Song Choice Important?

    Yes, the choice and accompaniment of music can play an important role in the striptease. Music isn’t always necessary, especially between lovers that already know each other. However, the audience member(s) may like or dislike the music being played in the background or in some cases the main part of the show.  What attracts the most in a striptease is the freedom of movement, confidence, and the sexual nature in which the dancer / performer is revealing themselves towards the audience.

    If the music plays too slow or fast, it may change the mood of the entire performance and the speed at which the striptease is happening, even if clothes aren’t fully being taken off yet. As more skin is revealed and you connect with your audience, be it an individual or a room full of people, sometimes the music can assist in how playful or erotic the striptease is. For sure music certainly helps in getting the attention of people, exposing their sensuality and allowing personal space to get more comfortable and more erotic.

    Favorite Outfits For A Striptease

    I do have a few favorites, not a single outfit in particular. A classic choice of clothing will always be lingerie, stockings, high heels, and any other props or clothing that you would typically wear in the bedroom. However, my personal style of clothing for stripping is something that I wouldn’t mind wearing outside in public. I find it to be more erotic and playful; knowing that whatever I’m wearing can be worn by anybody or taken off by anybody.  What’s different is the way I appear to move in my outfits. Being playful with my attitude, body, and of course the way I take off each piece of my outfit will change depending on what I’m wearing.

    For example, wearing lingerie I may want to move slowly and more seductively. Alternatively when wearing a yoga or dancers outfit I can still move slowly, but I might move faster or just move my body in a different way to accompany the feeling I’m trying to project with that style of clothing. Yet both the dancer and lingerie outfits can use a bra and high heels. So the way I’d move or reveal my skin when I’m taking off my bra and heels will change depending which outfit I’m wearing. I have no favorite, but if the outfit allows me to become playful and explore my own sexuality, then I’m going to wear it, or rather take it off for you, haha!

    Other Important Things To Note

    Striptease is like a massage for the eyes and the erotic zones of the mind.  Eye contact is very important. If you have props then that’s fun and can really spice up the performance.  Through my experience I’ve found three important elements for any striptease: confidence, playfulness, and engagement.

    Whether you’re aging or in the younger years of your life, fat or slim, it’s important to believe in yourself. Emitting confidence is very sexy and showing that you’re comfortable exploring your own body will often make your audience want to touch you and explore your body for themselves. Making them want you more is always a good thing. Believing in yourself will allow the audience to believe in you as well.

    Being playful is important. Let’s say you cannot dance at all, you have never danced before and have no desire to in the future. You can still striptease. If you cannot rotate your hips then it’s okay.  Striptease is about allowing your audience to look over your entire body inch by inch. They are checking you out with their eyes, but most likely having sex with you in their minds. Here’s an example for both guys and girls, unbuttoning your shirt will give your audience a view that’s very teasing, giving them that desire to see more of what’s underneath your shirt. Let them watch, they are becoming part of the show and may not even know it yet.

    This brings me to engagement, the last part of a good striptease. If your audience isn’t allowed to touch you then sometimes being off limits can be a tease in and of itself. But let’s say for instance, that an audience member is handicapped, cannot see or hear as well as others. You always want to engage in eye contact. But if they can’t see you then you can gently touch them in seductive ways. If they cannot hear your voice as you speak seductively to them, you can still breathe very sensually on their skin. If your audience is shy and is all giggles because they don’t want to be embarrassed, then you can still gently put your body against theirs allowing them to smell your perfume. Or even grab their hands and move them around your body to explore as you would yourself.

    Striptease Tips For Beginners

    Beginners who are interested in stripteasing for the first time, I highly recommend first getting comfortable with your own reflection in mirror and touching your bodies.  Don’t be afraid to explore your own sexuality. When you’re comfortable with touching yourself all over, it’s time to begin getting comfortable in clothing.  Exploring your body in clothes is different than when totally nude.

    Anybody can take off their clothes, but there’s no secret to taking off a particular piece of clothing to make it look erotic.  If you move your body in small ways, even slowly moving your hips, legs, back, or shoulders while taking off a shirt can be very erotic. Showing your body from all angles is entertaining. Turning around once in a while or even getting on the floor can add a sexy touch to the striptease, before any skin is revealed.

    Remember to make eye contact with your audience. It’s understandable to look at your own body to ensure you’re taking off your clothes without getting things caught in a zipper or stuck button.  If you’re having trouble taking off a piece of clothing, you can even let the audience take off just one little piece for you.  This will allow them to become part of the show and it adds a personal touch.  Just remember to look at the person you’re stripteasing for instead of focusing on dance moves.  Even if you can’t dance at all, that’s okay.  It’s about engaging contact with your audience, while at the same time being playful and sexy with your own body. They will know and can feel your energy. The erotic desire and sexy vibes will fill the room very quickly. Have fun, stay sexy, and remember to love your body and your audience will love you back.

    Hi everybody! My name is Jamie Gaymer, I’m Thai-Chinese and American. I’m also a transgirl and I absolutely love porn and design. In my free time I’m a camgirl on Chaturbate, and I enjoy performing and producing in the adult industry. My goals are to become a successful trans model in the porn industry and since I’m also a video game designer I plan to release at least 2 video game titles in my life. Lately singing and dancing has filled me with great joy, and I can’t wait to share my smile, love and passion with all of you! Follow me on:

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    I’m always looking for new opportunities for solo work, as well as other models to work with. I’ve been involved with adult content since 2015, but my career started to broaden since Nov 2016. I look forward to all the opportunities this year in 2017.

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  • Best songs to have sex to in 2015

    Best songs to have sex to in 2015

    Hello! I’m Annette Worth; adult film actress, disc jockey’ dancer, and a Scorpio. Previously, you might have seen my list of the Top 20 songs of 2014 to have sex too here. Well guess what, this time, I’m back with a kinkier list for 2015. Check these songs out and add them to your playlist so that you’ll be in the mood and rockin’ when participating in these different acts.

    Songs to dance to striptease ψ(｀∇´)ψ – What’s a striptease without any music? Strip to the tune and beat of the following songs for a naked good time.

    #1. The roots – Break you off
    #2. The Chakaschas – Jungle fever 1972
    #3. Tito & tarantula – After dark
    #4. Mo horizons – Dance naked under palm trees

    Getting a blowjob in the car – Nothing beats getting a blowjob in the car. Turn the music with this soundtrack and you’ll be cumming all over in no time.

    #1. My life with the thrill kill kult – Sex on wheels
    #2. Lords of acid – I sit on acid
    #3. Lil Louis – French kiss (original mix 1989)
    #4. N.W.A – She swallowed it

    Threesomes – Whether it’s your first time and there is a sense of shyness, or you’re a seasoned participant, listening to these will unleash all your inhibitions and put you in the mood to Ménage à Trois.

    #1. Pete moss – Strive to live
    #2. Ennio Morricone – A lindia (swell session remix)
    #3. Moloko – Forevermore
    #4. Jette Ives – In the presence of love

    Orgy – The heat of excitement and all the sex might drown out the music playing in the background. Not to worry, these songs are perfectly chosen to keep the party going while everyone is lost in sex.

    #1. The Herbaliser – Sensual woman (erotic version)
    #2. Luomo – Body speaking
    #3. La roux – In for the kill
    #4. Uptown funk empire – I’m a man child

    Masturbation – For that solo play, move your hand and fingers according to the rhythm while you fantasise dirty thoughts. Beats touching yourself to total silence.

    #1. Whirlpool productions – From disco to disco (original version 1996)
    #2. Fedde le grand & Funkerman & Dany P – New life
    #3. Oi va voi – Yesterday’s mistakes
    #4. Madonna – Justify my love

    Special thanks going out to Jeru Davis
    Also know as JeruTheDamaja his visit to Seattle was my inspiration for this list
    http://m.jeruthedamaja.com/
    @Jeruthedamaja
    Special thanks to B-Boy Crazy legs of The Rock Steady Crew and the entire Rock steady crew for always keeping me in check
    @CrazyLegsRSC http://crazylegsworkshop.com/
    Special thanks to the nightclub Tia Lou’s and Amber in Belltown Seattle Washington
    Special thank you to the Seattle symphony orchestra who I work for and are so awesome they gave me time off to complete this list http://www.seattlesymphony.org/
    And finally thank you John Howie steak in Bellevue your bananas foster and filet mignon got me through the sleepless nights of this DJ life http://www.johnhowiesteak.mobi/

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  • How to striptease and drive him wild

    How to striptease and drive him wild

    Megan is a flirty bisexual from England with an extremely high sex drive. She sells her panties and does video sets of herself performing a striptease for her customers which she absolutely enjoys and gets turned on by it. Here, Megan shares tips on how to do a striptease which will turn any men on and drive him wild, which, will lead to amazing sex.

    What is it about striptease that turns men on?

    I think it’s the anticipation and the build up of sexual tension.  You’re allowing him a glimpse, to gradually see more and more of your body. With each part of your body you reveal, he will want more, and get more and more turned on. But he can’t touch it. You’re in control. He gets to see what you reveal, when you reveal it.  Removing the ability for him to touch you until you let him, makes him want you even more.  As I’m single currently, all of my strip teases are done on videos, but if you are performing a strip tease for your partner, it’s even more exciting as they sit there getting more and more turned on but not in a position where you are touching them or they can touch themselves.  By the time you finish your strip tease and are naked and ready to touch your man, I can guarantee he will be ready to burst!

    What I enjoy when doing a striptease

    I love all of it, from choosing a sexy song to strip to and planning an outfit, working out exactly which bra and panties to wear with the outfit, which shoes or stockings to wear, how much to take off and when, to the strip itself.  I put a lot of thought into it to make sure I get it as sexy as possible.  If I’m doing it on a video I love to imagine what the man watching is doing, whether he might be playing with himself, etc – so there is as much anticipation and excitement for me that way, and I find myself getting totally engrossed and carried away with it myself! It comes very naturally to me.  If I’m doing it in person, I love to be able to see the look of lust in my partner’s face, and to see how much they want me, not to mention the bulge in their pants!

    Another thing I love to do is to incorporate things that are specific to the viewer so that it will drive them even more crazy. So if he loves blow jobs I will try to focus on sucking something to simulate what it might feel like for him, or if he is a boob man or a bum man, focus more on these areas.

    Do you get turned on and wet yourself during a striptease?

    Absolutely!  It’s so very sexy, I get so turned on! I always need to climax afterwards! It’s a great form of foreplay in a couple!

    Striptease moves you love which will make guys go crazy

    One of my favourite outfits is a sexy nurses outfit. Who doesn’t love a naughty nurse, right? It’s ultra short so you can play to start with bending over, so that the guy can see you from behind, maybe hitch it up a little so that they see a bit of ass cheek, moves which give a glimpse of panties. Just a glimpse mind you, we’re only at the start!

    It zips up from bottom to top, so you can undo the zip really slowly. At first you will see cleavage, then more cleavage as my bra is revealed and my boobs are starting to be revealed.  As the zip undoes further, you get a glimpse of tummy, and then further down until the dress is undone and you get a glimpse of my panties. At that point I would quickly turn away so my back is to the guy, they can no longer see the cleavage and panties you just teased them with. Then I might look over my shoulder with a saucy look and maybe a wink, and gradually reveal a shoulder, and the other shoulder, and ease the dress down until I’m in my underwear and stockings, still with my high heels on.  Guys will be teased and tantalised, and you’ll leave them desperate to see what’s underneath your underwear in the next part of your striptease!

    Stockings is another favourite of mine. There are so many ways to make taking a stocking off sexy.  But one of my favourite things to do is right at the start, before removing anything else, and whilst you still have your killer heels on, put your foot up on a chair, ideally the chair that your guy is sitting on, between his legs (or if on camera make it look like that’s what you are doing).  He will get a view straight up your mini skirt, a sneaky peak of what is to come. It will drive him wild!

    Other things I do which will make it wilder, and which I adore doing particularly if it’s a video striptease, is to do it without music but to talk dirty all the way through, describing how I’m feeling, what I wish I were doing to the viewer, or indeed what I wish they were doing. I speak to buyers first to find out more about their fantasies and what really turns them on, so that I can build this into their strip tease for their maximum pleasure.  With the camera you can get a lot of up close angles, so if someone says they love ass worship for example, I would focus a lot on my bum when it got to that part, and talk to the viewer about it with a commentary.  I do a lot of it from the heart based on exactly how I am feeling at the time, so I may film my skirt hitched up and my panties showing from underneath as if I were about to sit on their face, perhaps, and talk to them about what I would want them to do, but it’s always how I am genuinely feeling.  One thing to note here is that I wouldn’t be that explicit in a strip tease in person.  The key word is “tease”. If you’re on a video you can go a lot further and still be just teasing, because the viewer can’t touch you.  If you’re in person with a partner, pretending to sit on their face would no longer be teasing!!  Strictly no touching!

    Another tip for making it more saucy, though, anything you have to hand that you can suck on will always be a winner. So if you are doing a naughty school girl, then making a big deal out of sucking a lollipop imagining it’s the end of a dick.  If the outfit you are wearing doesn’t really call for that then anything you can do that involves sucking will work, even your fingers.  If you want to be even naughtier, then you could even put your fingers inside yourself and then lick your finger clean, perhaps whilst you still have your panties on – the message you are giving is “you still can’t see what’s inside my panties, but I know, and I can taste it. And It tastes amazing!” Many men would find that a total turn on.

    So in summary, no touching, be creative, try to incorporate things according to what your partner loves specifically, but most of all have fun!!

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