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  • How Stripping Taught Me To Be A Better Lover

    How Stripping Taught Me To Be A Better Lover

    I think that sexuality starts in the mind. I’ve worn many hats as an erotic professional – dancer, escort, and model, and the common theme has always been that of inspiring the erotic imagination of my admirers. The sex act itself hasn’t changed since the dawn of the human species, but the stories we tell ourselves about sex are always evolving. My goal, whether I’m dancing for a group of women, or crafting a dream date for a gentleman, is to tell joyful, life-affirming stories about sex.

    Why Stripping Turns Men On

    Men often tell me that they fantasize about sensual, sexually-confident women who enjoy eroticism. So, I think it’s more the attitude of the woman performing the striptease, rather than just the stripping itself that arouses men. That’s why, when I teach erotic dance classes to women, I tell them to focus on having fun, connecting with their inner fabulous, and eye-fucking their audience, rather than worrying about the technical aspects of the dance.

    Why I Love It

    I’m naturally shy, introverted, and a bit of a nerd. Dancing has helped me to come out of my shell, and step into the sexual superheroine version of myself. You can’t hide when you’re on stage, nor should you. And watching this transformation in my dance students just reinforces my belief that women feeling good in their own bodies is incredibly empowering.

    How Stripping Empowers

    Again, it’s not the stripping itself that I find empowering, but the gall it takes to expose oneself in such a vulnerable and openly erotic way. When I worked in a strip club, I loved dancing, but I found the working conditions to be exploitative and the narrowly-defined beauty standards were demeaning. I’m excited by neo-burlesque, the proliferation of pole dancing studios, camming, and other opportunities that have emerged in the last ten years that have allowed a greater diversity of people to experience striptease for themselves. I’ve seen trans-women, men, and women of all shapes and ages reclaim their bodies through this medium. I think everyone should try it, at least once!

    Incorporating Stripping Into Sex

    You can strip for yourself just because it makes you feel sexy.

    If you’re stripping for a partner, then striptease is a wonderful form of foreplay. Get rid of any distractions: turn off the phones, send the kids to a babysitter, and get ready to create a private fantasy that’s just for you and your partner. I like to set the mood with music, ambient lighting and a comfortable space like a bedroom or living room. Wear an outfit that makes you feel fabulous, and is relatively easy to take off (it helps to practice beforehand). Move very slowly and sensually, touching yourself suggestively, smiling, and maintaining eye contact with your partner as much as possible. Remember, what’s most important is to have fun, and feel good in your own skin. If you take your time, and you’re enjoying yourself, then when you’re finally naked, both you and your partner will be so aroused you won’t be able to keep your hands and mouths off of each other!

    If you are lucky enough to be at the receiving end of sexy striptease, please be respectful and supportive of your partner – stripping is a vulnerable act!

    Stripping Tips For Beginners

    There are so many fun elements one can introduce into a striptease to change the flavor of the experience!

    Be playful and experiment with different types of clothing – a shirt with lots of buttons offers different possibilities than a robe with a long sash. A little BDSM can be very exciting: I seat my partner in a chair, and gently tie his wrists with a scarf so that he can see me seductively peeling off my clothing, but cannot touch me. It’s tantalizing torture for the person watching! I’ve also tucked a riding crop into my garter belt, and told her that she’s welcome to try and touch, but will receive a punishment if she touches too much. Sometimes I blindfold my partner right before I’m fully nude, then tease him by removing my bra and panties when he can’t see, and brushing my breasts or lips against his face or bound hands.

    Alternatively, I may allow my partner’s hands to wander over my body as I indulgently undress myself.

    Fruits, candies, and whipped cream can be incorporated into your striptease. Once I’m naked, I like to drip warm, melted chocolate all over my body so my partner can lick it off.

    Other ideas: run a bubble bath and take turns stripping for each other before jumping in the tub; ask your partner to rub massage oil on each part of your body as you remove more and more clothing; or play a sexy game of strip poker where each item of clothing must be removed by the other partner’s teeth.

    There are no rules when it comes to stripping – you can, and should do whatever excites you. In my experience, the biggest turn-on to my partner or audience is when I feel sexy and excited. So, focus on having fun and the rest will follow.

    Good Striptease Songs To Use

    I prefer slow, sexy songs or naughty hip hop tracks (I love Nicki Minaj and the Weeknd), but obviously you should dance to whatever you love! Here are some suggestions to get you started:

    Booty – Blac Youngsta

    Ballerina – The Weeknd

    Good For You – Selena Gomez

    I Put a Spell On You – Nina Simone

    Closer – Nine Inch Nails

    Night Crawler – AC/DC

    Pretty Priya – Pretty Priya is an exotic dancer, model, and elite companion based on the West Coast of Canada. She teaches group and private dance classes, and creates personalized erotic experiences for both individuals and adventurous couples.

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  • What It Is Like To Be A Male Stripper

    What It Is Like To Be A Male Stripper

    Stripping has always been just a job to me. Far from your typical 9-5 job but nevertheless, a job. To me it’s an act, when I walk out I am ‘Brodie Banks’.

    A completely different person to who I really am.

    In saying that, I absolutely love my job. The rewarding feeling you get when you walk out of a room with everyone smiling and laughing and sometimes gasping is amazing. The way I see it is, ladies only ever have one Hens night (touch wood) which means they’re going to remember it for the rest of their lives. Don’t half ass it or come in with a chip on your shoulders. Make it unforgettable and be polite once the show is over, take some photos and wish the lovely hen all the best for her wedding day.

    The industry is misunderstandood I guess. Majority of male strippers are respectful men and not sleazy jerks.  The company I work for, Magic Men prides itself for being extremely professional and hiring only the best of the best.

    Photo: Japs Rodriguez Photography

    How I Got Started As A Male Stripper

    I got started through an old tennis mate of mine. He was the MC for the stripping company I now work for. He messaged me one day asking if I had ever considered getting into the male entertainment industry…..and well…2 years later here I am.

    What I love about stripping is the excitement you receive from your clients and their initial reaction when seeing you! Walking into a job, you never know what to expect and sometimes you have strips back-to-back and you’re flat out making it to the next one on time after doing 6 or 7 beforehand but to the girls, you’re the highlight of their night. It’s extremely rewarding to see the smiles and laughs from everyone, knowing I tried my hardest to make their night memorable.

    Photo: Japs Rodriguez photography

    Important Characteristics Of A Stripper

    Having a good physique and looking after your body is unquestionably a very important characteristic of a male stripper. However, even though your looks and body are incredibly important and will ultimately get you booked by new clients; charisma is equally as important. You can have the best body walking around, and be a splitting image of Brad Pitt….but, if you can’t charm your clients or simply hold a conversation then they won’t go out of their way to suggest or talk you up to their girlfriends.

    If you put in effort to ensure everyone at the function is comfortable whilst being flirty and fun, then you’ll leave the party with the girls saying “he was hot AND nice” instead of just “good looking”. I can’t tell you the amount of times I’ve been told by clients they expected me to be an arrogant tosser and are completely shocked that I am the total opposite. A good reputation in this industry is extremely important.

    Photo: Matt Ruderman

    Crazy Party Experiences

    Haha to be honest, most of those stories are probably a little too R rated to publish.

    I try to keep the actual performance as professional as possible. But there has been times when I’ve not been able to complete my act and basically had my clothes ripped off me by the girls. My very first strip was actually one of those exact scenarios. Baptism by fire you could say.

    Having girls try to push their way into the room when you’re changing back into your clothes and sleep with you is a pretty common occurrence.  I think I’ll end that question by saying mixing alcohol and a group of rowdy females egging each other on makes for some very interesting campfire stories. I’ll leave the rest up to your imagination.

    Dealing With The Overzealous

    Depending how out of control, sometimes you do have to cut the performance short. I always tell people that one of the most important skills of a male stripper to have is people skills. Being able to talk your way out of sticky situations is your best weapon.

    In saying all that, it’s generally the males (if there are any present) you need to worry about. Oh….and having the soon to be husband walk through the door as you are naked on top of his lovely bride, that was a rather interesting scenario.

    Photo: Matt Ruderman
    Female Model: Poppy Frances

    Misconceptions About Male Strippers

    I think the biggest misconception still to this day is that male strippers are all sleazy jerks who sleep with anything that moves and party 24/7. It’s far from the truth. Some of the guys I work with have been in committed relationships for years and work in professional industries during the week.

    I won’t deny that some guys do fall into that sleazy category. But most of us are respectful. I myself, must admit I am a party boy, I do love to get a little rowdy and let my hair down. But during the week I model full time and need to keep a lid on the partying. I saying that, the sleazy attitude I cannot stand. It reflects poorly on all of us and something that I pride myself on NOT being.

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    Featured image courtesy of Matt Ruderman
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  • How to striptease and drive him wild

    How to striptease and drive him wild

    Megan is a flirty bisexual from England with an extremely high sex drive. She sells her panties and does video sets of herself performing a striptease for her customers which she absolutely enjoys and gets turned on by it. Here, Megan shares tips on how to do a striptease which will turn any men on and drive him wild, which, will lead to amazing sex.

    What is it about striptease that turns men on?

    I think it’s the anticipation and the build up of sexual tension.  You’re allowing him a glimpse, to gradually see more and more of your body. With each part of your body you reveal, he will want more, and get more and more turned on. But he can’t touch it. You’re in control. He gets to see what you reveal, when you reveal it.  Removing the ability for him to touch you until you let him, makes him want you even more.  As I’m single currently, all of my strip teases are done on videos, but if you are performing a strip tease for your partner, it’s even more exciting as they sit there getting more and more turned on but not in a position where you are touching them or they can touch themselves.  By the time you finish your strip tease and are naked and ready to touch your man, I can guarantee he will be ready to burst!

    What I enjoy when doing a striptease

    I love all of it, from choosing a sexy song to strip to and planning an outfit, working out exactly which bra and panties to wear with the outfit, which shoes or stockings to wear, how much to take off and when, to the strip itself.  I put a lot of thought into it to make sure I get it as sexy as possible.  If I’m doing it on a video I love to imagine what the man watching is doing, whether he might be playing with himself, etc – so there is as much anticipation and excitement for me that way, and I find myself getting totally engrossed and carried away with it myself! It comes very naturally to me.  If I’m doing it in person, I love to be able to see the look of lust in my partner’s face, and to see how much they want me, not to mention the bulge in their pants!

    Another thing I love to do is to incorporate things that are specific to the viewer so that it will drive them even more crazy. So if he loves blow jobs I will try to focus on sucking something to simulate what it might feel like for him, or if he is a boob man or a bum man, focus more on these areas.

    Do you get turned on and wet yourself during a striptease?

    Absolutely!  It’s so very sexy, I get so turned on! I always need to climax afterwards! It’s a great form of foreplay in a couple!

    Striptease moves you love which will make guys go crazy

    One of my favourite outfits is a sexy nurses outfit. Who doesn’t love a naughty nurse, right? It’s ultra short so you can play to start with bending over, so that the guy can see you from behind, maybe hitch it up a little so that they see a bit of ass cheek, moves which give a glimpse of panties. Just a glimpse mind you, we’re only at the start!

    It zips up from bottom to top, so you can undo the zip really slowly. At first you will see cleavage, then more cleavage as my bra is revealed and my boobs are starting to be revealed.  As the zip undoes further, you get a glimpse of tummy, and then further down until the dress is undone and you get a glimpse of my panties. At that point I would quickly turn away so my back is to the guy, they can no longer see the cleavage and panties you just teased them with. Then I might look over my shoulder with a saucy look and maybe a wink, and gradually reveal a shoulder, and the other shoulder, and ease the dress down until I’m in my underwear and stockings, still with my high heels on.  Guys will be teased and tantalised, and you’ll leave them desperate to see what’s underneath your underwear in the next part of your striptease!

    Stockings is another favourite of mine. There are so many ways to make taking a stocking off sexy.  But one of my favourite things to do is right at the start, before removing anything else, and whilst you still have your killer heels on, put your foot up on a chair, ideally the chair that your guy is sitting on, between his legs (or if on camera make it look like that’s what you are doing).  He will get a view straight up your mini skirt, a sneaky peak of what is to come. It will drive him wild!

    Other things I do which will make it wilder, and which I adore doing particularly if it’s a video striptease, is to do it without music but to talk dirty all the way through, describing how I’m feeling, what I wish I were doing to the viewer, or indeed what I wish they were doing. I speak to buyers first to find out more about their fantasies and what really turns them on, so that I can build this into their strip tease for their maximum pleasure.  With the camera you can get a lot of up close angles, so if someone says they love ass worship for example, I would focus a lot on my bum when it got to that part, and talk to the viewer about it with a commentary.  I do a lot of it from the heart based on exactly how I am feeling at the time, so I may film my skirt hitched up and my panties showing from underneath as if I were about to sit on their face, perhaps, and talk to them about what I would want them to do, but it’s always how I am genuinely feeling.  One thing to note here is that I wouldn’t be that explicit in a strip tease in person.  The key word is “tease”. If you’re on a video you can go a lot further and still be just teasing, because the viewer can’t touch you.  If you’re in person with a partner, pretending to sit on their face would no longer be teasing!!  Strictly no touching!

    Another tip for making it more saucy, though, anything you have to hand that you can suck on will always be a winner. So if you are doing a naughty school girl, then making a big deal out of sucking a lollipop imagining it’s the end of a dick.  If the outfit you are wearing doesn’t really call for that then anything you can do that involves sucking will work, even your fingers.  If you want to be even naughtier, then you could even put your fingers inside yourself and then lick your finger clean, perhaps whilst you still have your panties on – the message you are giving is “you still can’t see what’s inside my panties, but I know, and I can taste it. And It tastes amazing!” Many men would find that a total turn on.

    So in summary, no touching, be creative, try to incorporate things according to what your partner loves specifically, but most of all have fun!!

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