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  • Why Should Men Hire A Sex Coach? (Part II)

    Why Should Men Hire A Sex Coach? (Part II)

    I will tell you that being a tantric sex coach has taught me that there is no stereotype. All seekers who feel called to a higher level of conscious sexuality needs support!

    Why do I coach men? 
    MEN ARE HURTING⁠

    There were decades of patriarchy, still, there are no ROLE models for the men in the 21st century. ⁠

    Think about how you been raised up.⁠

    What stories you have been fed by your parents, the media, your religion, your friends, your ex-lovers. ⁠ All a big B.S, as there is a huge double standard. ⁠

    Your favourite woman teach you how ⁠
    “not to be too sensitive” ⁠
    “not to cry or show emotions” ⁠
    “run the household and just work your ass off” ⁠

    Then another woman ( your girlfriend, wife, lover) will complain that you are not sensitive, present, feeling enough. ⁠BUT it’s not your fault. It’s the society we live in. ⁠Think about growing up – how and where did you learn how to be intimate? Show emotions? Make love? Create a balance between work and play? ⁠

    NOWHERE!⁠

    Everyone talks about the divine feminine, rising of QUEENs, but who will support and heal the KING’s? If no-one teaches the KING’s to be, there won’t be Queens or equality either. So we need both polarities within and around us for ultimate sexual FREEDOM.

    Learning Sex Mastery & Skills For The Bedroom⁠

    One of the biggest cravings for women is the question⁠
    – CAN HE HANDLE ALL OF ME?⁠

    If I let go, go absolutely crazy, wild and deep in orgasms… can he just be there to look into my eyes and hold me in his arms while giving me space and care to surrender into divine feminity?⁠

    A woman wants to know:⁠

    Can he show up and just feel with HER?⁠
    ⁠Can you?⁠

    I’m teaching men how to embrace divine masculinity and use their sexual energy for creating deeper connection, intimacy and presence, so YOU CAN!⁠

    What Is The Truth About Men & Sex? ⁠

    In my years as a mentor and coach to men, I have come to realise that one thing is absolutely clear. ⁠

    Sex matters to men. ⁠No, I mean REALLY matters. ⁠Men crave sex. Men think about sex every few minutes. ⁠

    Men fantasise about sex. ⁠Men do crazy and irresponsible things to get sex. Men like to watch sex. ⁠Some will even pay for sex. ⁠

    Some men demand sex or even take it by force.⁠But, the reality is that for most men, sex can be a source of unending tension. Men are ruled by the three “E’s”, the three sources of men’s sexual tension.⁠

    • Enough⁠
    • Erection ⁠
    • Ejaculation ⁠

    Which of the 3 E’s speaks to you the most? ⁠

    What was the craziest thing you ever done to have sex? ⁠

    A great number of men come to see me because they instinctively know that there is more to sexuality, intimacy and connecting than they are currently experiencing.

    Sex Coaching and Sexological Bodywork can help you to fully inhabit your body, accept yourself with your own unique sexual preferences and needs, learn to overcome shame and communicate about your desires, and acquire tools and techniques to be a better lover, both for yourself and for your partner(s).

    Tantric Sex Coaching welcomes to your new YOU, fully alive, open to pleasure, and thriving. These sessions may be hugely positive for ALL areas of your life.

    What Can We Work On?

    Ultimately, it is YOU who needs to have the choice.

    Mindful Masturbation Coaching and Porn Addiction

    We need to be good lovers for ourselves and with ourselves and explore our own preferences before we can be good lovers for partners. If your masturbation practice is merely a functional release, we look at how to turn it into lovemaking sessions with yourself, involving all of your body in its arousal. Porn addiction may be situational, e.g. very exhausting and soul-destroying shift work. The approach will aim at finding healthier balances rather than cutting out porn altogether.

    Premature Ejaculation & Orgasmic Choice.

    Ultimately, it is YOU who needs to have the choice when to ejaculate. Premature ejaculation is defined as ejaculating sooner than you want. Like all with all performance issues, we would first of all look at your personal history with sexuality and intercourse, when premature ejaculation first showed up, and work on body and arousal awareness, engaging the entire body in your arousal via breath and movement, and being able to be fully relaxed while fully aroused. We would also look at shifting your view of sexuality to process rather than goal-oriented, and pleasure rather than performance.

    Delayed or Voluntary Ejaculation

    A number of men find it difficult to achieve ejaculation, particularly with a partner, or in the presence of a partner. We would look at underlying factors, work on relaxation while aroused, body and arousal awareness, and gradually cultivate the feeling of ejaculatory choice. We would also look at shifting the focus on being present in each moment, rather than anticipating ejaculation, or the lack of it.

    Read Part I here


    Alexandra Holovitz is a tantric sex coach & hypnotherapist. She is known for her honest, passionate and authentic coaching style. 

    She works with high achieving men in their 40′ helping them to heal, express and empower thought tantra, mindset and self-compassion. 

    She believes in holistic healing (mind-body-soul) and by awakening sexual energy to thrive in life and business with deep connection, love and sexual liberation! 

    You can learn more about her work at www.alexandra.guru and connect with her via  Instagram.

    Follow Alexandra on:

    Work with me: https://www.alexandra.guru/work-with-me/

    Instagram: www.instagram.com/alexandra_guru

    Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sexyliberation

    Promo: https://www.alexandra.guru/sex-master-hypnosis ( this is a self-study Hypno bundle for more confidence) 


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  • Model & Poet Karishma Jhaver

    Model & Poet Karishma Jhaver

    My name is Karishma Jhaver and I’m a published model, poet, and full time student. I was born in India and moved to Vancouver, when I was two. I’m truly grateful for my parents’ brave decision to restart their lives. They have kept me grounded and inspired to put in hard work. Currently, I’m in university to become a registered nurse. I hope to make an impact in people’s lives.

    What is your fashion style like and where do you get inspiration from?

    There’s definitely a time and place for everything. My style is a mix of the newest fashion trends to classic looks. Without a doubt, the Kardashian/Jenner’s influence my style. There’s something to take from each of them.

    Do you follow any beauty or exercise regime to look so fabulous?

    Maintaining healthy hair and skin is so important to me. From drinking water to weekly masks, I always make time to pamper myself. Self care is always rewarding.

    Which is the best compliment you have received?

    There’s nothing more rewarding than hearing how proud your parents are of you. As an only child, my parents are my entire world.

    On a scale of 1-10, how much of a foodie are you?

    100/10. Eating is the most exciting event of the day. You never know what foods you could be missing out on if you never try them. I love to try new things!

    Is there something you’ve always wanted to do but have yet to find the time for it?

    Travelling!

    Which flavor best describes you?

    Easy-chai. I’m a fusion of classic with some spice.

    What turns you off on a date and do you have a bad date experience to share?

    I love a guy who pays attention to the small details like showing up early to pick a good seat, smelling good, and small surprises. Anything that opposes thoughtfulness is, surely, a turn off.

    Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Karishma. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”? 

    “Sexy” is you at your best. It’s the way you show your intent to strive for the best.


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    Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kjhaver


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  • How To Explore & Enjoy Taboo Role Play Fantasies With An Escort

    How To Explore & Enjoy Taboo Role Play Fantasies With An Escort

    SimplySxy has the pleasure of featuring Pure Lily from London, a premier escort who specialises in taboo role play. Read on as we find out what taboo role play is all about, how to make them realistic and why Pure Lily is the perfect companion for you to explore with!

    What Are Your Views Towards Kink?

    Well, I’m really in awe of kink because I think it looks to be very welcoming to everyone, well at least in a perfect world it would be. I think in kink, you could be having such different kinks and kink events are so open minded! 

    What Is Taboo Roleplay Fantasy All About?

    Taboo is whatever is seen forbidden/prohibited in each culture, country, religion, by customs. Taboo in sexual life as we know it from the Bible, ethnology could be adultery, incest, etc. So, here we would have ‘cheating wife fetish’ and other fantasies. 

    When have I started exploring it? I wouldn’t even know it? Whenever I started exploring my sexuality and I will tell you I was a late bloomer, haha. 

    Why I Love Taboo Roleplay

    I think when asking people why they have particular tendencies, it is good to ask for them to explain it but I also find it sometimes frustrating, because usually it just clicks for you from some long time ago and it just does for you – makes you hard or makes you wet and that’s it. Why do I love it? Because it’s hot, haha. 

    I could tell you what is popular in my expertise, what people choose to explore with me and as well, it’s because I do advertise it. Such scenarios like (step) brother-sister action, as well as uncle/step-daughter, also some other forbidden acts such as r*pe play and sleep assault play and I can tell you, in such role play it’s never too rough, or rough at all.

    Of course, role play comes with action, but mostly it is about words, about interaction. In sleep assault, I would say it’s mostly about ignoring, letting clients to explore their fantasies, but obviously everything is done very safely, I rarely let clients bound me, never use an eyemask and for things such as sleep assault, I always check if protection is in tact.

    Another taboo roleplay could be about power positions such as the headmaster forces to do something after school or perhaps your boss wants to take advantage, it can be just because or because your grades are low/you stole from work, etc. Maybe even daddy/daughter where daddy wants you to explore sexuality, maybe he brings some of his friends in his office and tells you what to do. Or a teen coming for a gynaecologist visit… 

    Misconceptions About Taboo Roleplays

    I would say probably one of them is that taboo roleplay fantasies equals ageplay, but in role play scenarios, there can be so many different scenarios and variations about it. 

    Making Taboo Roleplays Realistic

    As I mentioned before, yes outfits do help, and I myself have more clothing fetish and have at least three drawers of a variety of outfits. One thing I haven’t mentioned before, I do cater for adult babies/diaper lovers, for bottoming and topping and switching. I have a few diapers, baby bottles, etc.

    For schoolgirl, daddy dom/little girl role play I have coloring books, gingham dresses, I also have such things as crop tops and frilly socks, which could be more of a babysitter teen vibe of outfit for such taboo role play. I have a genuine schoolgirl outfit, all my outfits are just genuine pieces, it’s not a sexy schoolgirl/nurse outfit from sex shop.

    But really, it’s all about words, scripts, actions, interactions. It’s weird because I have never been in any drama class but now I think I’m such a good actress. 

    Tips For Beginners Into Taboo Roleplay

    I would say do and don’t make elaborate plots in your mind because reality can be very different. For me, I would just ask what’s my character in the role play – is it slutty schoolgirl, or perhaps naive and shy girl next door.

    And then we would get to roleplay which in the beginning could be more scripted but later it should just go by two or more people’s flow. 
    Anyways, if any taboo role play is making you hard/wet when you are reading about it, it means it’s your thing and go try it at least once in your life 🙂 


    Pure Lily – London’s premier Submissive Escort, Kinky Taboo Role Play companion. Independent London (UK) based Fetish Escort offering ageplay, dd/lg & kinky GF experiences. Redhead darling & cute as button companion for Dinner Dates & Travel Companionship. Some Asia, Middle East, Europe tours from 2022.

    Follow Lily on

    Website: https://www.purelilylondon.com/

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/PureLilyLondon

    Email for bookings: daterequestpurelily@gmail.com

    Paid private members page with role play video clip store: https://www.clips4sale.com/studio/179465/pure-lily-taboo

    Tour info: Singapore & Hong Kong short tour 2022 end of September.
    Then based in London, UK, available for FMTY


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  • Makeup Artist, Influencer & YouTuber Shreya Ghosh

    Makeup Artist, Influencer & YouTuber Shreya Ghosh

    Hey, I am Shreya Ghosh from Kolkata, India an honours graduate in commerce by academics, a self taught MUA, fashion and beauty influencer, and a YouTuber just suddenly and now it has became my passion. 

    What inspires your fashion style and where do you love to shop from?

    There’s a lot but mostly vintage clothing or say the retro look, after all, old is the new trend! And of course comfortness and budget too.

    I love to shop from Zara, H&M, Forever 21, Vero Moda, Roadster.

    And also from Westside, FBB, Pantaloons, Max – quite budget friendly.

    Do you have any hobbies or interests?

    A little bit of everything from painting to stitching, from cooking to singing, from dancing to writing, from photography to editing.

    How is a typical day like for yourself?

    Shoot, edit and submit, really enjoying my work and then again a little chilling out with my cousins.

    What have you always wanted to do or learn but have yet to find the time for it?

    I really want to learn playing the guitar ever since my teenage years and couldn’t get time so far. And the language Turk as I love Turkish dramas. Am a big fan of Hande Erçel and Birce Akalay but sadly very few are dubbed in English or Hindi, so yeah!

    Have you been in an embarrassing situation before that is funny now when looking back?

    I brought my phone in my school mistakenly and got caught at assembly in front of the whole school. The whole day, students were coming to ask me about it, so embarrassing a day it was. Haha, now it seems funny though.

    Would you rather be able to play every musical instrument or master every type of sport?

    I am too lazy to play sports since my childhood, so definitely would rather be able to play every musical instrument.

    What do you not get about guys?

    How are they blessed with the natural straighten silky hair, shaped eyebrows and thick eyelashes? Really jealous! Can’t god see us? LOL!

    Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Shreya. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”? 

    For me the definition of “sexy” is the confidence, the self-assurance and the inner beauty.

    You will look sexy in shorts and in saree as well if you believe you do!


    Follow the pretty Shreya Ghosh on

    Instagram: https://instagram.com/__sassyshreya__

    YouTube: https://youtu.be/3rZ1MY44D4I

    Amazon Influencer profile: https://www.amazon.in/gp/profile/amzn1.account.AFY3WGL4YANTIPBLN6LHM5X6AYZA?_encoding=UTF8&ref_=sv_ys_4

    I have some exciting fashion collaboration ahead and a lot of beauty collab with foxy and woovly app as well as from other brands so stay tuned for that


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  • Model, Host & Content Creator Nicole Gonzales

    Model, Host & Content Creator Nicole Gonzales

    I am a content creator, model and freelance host/livestreamer based in the Philippines. I’m also taking up a Bachelor of Arts in Communication at University of Santo Tomas.

    How will you describe your fashion style and where do you draw inspiration from?

    My fashion style is very simple and chic. I prefer outfits which will make me feel confident and secure with myself. I love wearing comfortable dresses that will highlight my  smart elegance with sophistication as it will also allow me to move freely and express myself especially when I am hosting whether in front of the crowd or in front of the camera.

    Do you have any hobbies or interests?

    I love hosting, going out with family or friends, watching movies and eating! I enjoy spending time with my cousins and friends in my free time. We usually watch movies or series together while eating snacks. I also love sleeping because I have learned to rest to free my mind from thinking or worrying too much. I realized that it is really important to spend time with yourself as well and relax because stress could affect your productivity and drive for goals. Self-care is a must!

    What is a typical day like for you?

    A normal day for me will start in the afternoon because I am not a morning person. I only wake up early when it is necessary for work or school. I prefer starting my day around lunch time or afternoon because my body clock really changed during the pandemic. My classes start around 1 o’clock in the afternoon then end at 4 or 7 o’clock pm. After classes, I do a lot of  tasks, check emails, and use social media for work and entertainment purposes.

    On a scale of 1-10, how much of a foodie are you?

    I guess it’s a 10.

    Would you rather be able to have supersonic speed or control fire?

    I’d prefer to have supersonic speed because it would allow me to accomplish my requirements and work faster. I value my time so much and I want to invest most of it to tasks which are beneficial for my growth and learning. I hate wasting time, so speed could make me more productive and efficient.

    Are you more of a lingerie or bikini babe?

    I think I’m a bikini babe because I love going to the beach because it’s calm and chill. I find peace on simply staring at the waves while wearing my bikini.

    What is the funniest or lamest attempt a guy has tried to know you?

    I think it’s funny when some guys tend to pretend that they just accidentally sent a wave through chat then after I replied, they will start asking questions like, “Have you eaten your dinner?” or “Btw, how are you?”.

    Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Nicole. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”? 

    Sexy is about being proud and not afraid of showing to the world how beautiful you are even if you have imperfections. It’s all about your assurance within yourself as you conquer every day with a kind and brave soul.


    Follow the amazing Nicole Gonzales on

    Instagram: @iamnicoleshane

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nicoleshanem.gonzales/

    Tiktok: @iamnicoleshane_


    Images courtesy of Nicole Gonazales

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  • Cebuana Foodie Daffnie

    Cebuana Foodie Daffnie

    Proud and loud representing the Province of Cebu. Hello! I am a pure Cebuana. I am 19 years old, currently enrolled in UCLM studying Tourism Management. A lot of people always thought that I’m a vicious person because of my ferocious face.

    But nah! You don’t know how soft I am as the cotton, seriously! I am always the crying baby and I hate it. My parents taught me always how to be independent and be kind to everyone.

    How is your fashion style like and where do you draw your fashion inspiration from?

    In terms of my fashion style, I prefer to wear simple and comfortable clothing, but I’m more on pants. I get my fashion inspirations from Pinterest.

    Which is the best compliment you have received?

    “You inspire me”

    Who doesn’t want to be viewed as someone’s role model? It’s an instant mood lift. Like wow! That was really sweet. I really put a lot of thought but hearing those words made my heart melt.

    On a scale of 1-10, how much of a foodie are you?

    To be frank, I will rate myself in a 10. I can eat all day, imagine I can’t sleep without eating my midnight snacks. LOL and I’ll always put in my mind *Diko pwede magutman.

    Is there a city or country you’ve always like to travel to for a holiday?

    I really love traveling in the City of Balamban, It gives me a peace of mind. Everytime I visit the place, the wind, trees and the people there gives me butterflies.

    Would you rather be able to control fire or water?

    I would want to be able to control water. If you control water, you also kinda control fire because you can just flood the fires.

    If you could time travel, what will you like to witness or experience?

    “You cannot change the course of events.”

    Well, that gets rid of going back to the most embarrassing mistake I ever made and correcting it before it happened.

    What turns you off on a date?

    The biggest turn-off must be if they’re using their mobile phone or checking their Facebook, Instagram or other ‘un-social’ networks every few minutes rather than concentrating on you or have an intelligent or not so intelligent (flirting, joking) conversation with you. It is a definite deal-breaker.

    Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Daffnie. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”? 

    Being sexy is not just a physical appearance, It can also be found in your manners. Sexy is nothing without a manners. Remember that!


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    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/daffnie.paquibot.1


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  • Why Should Men Hire A Sex Coach?

    Why Should Men Hire A Sex Coach?

    A sex coach is more of a facilitator than a therapist – talking about future solutions versus the past and traumas.⁠

    Reasons you need to see a sex coach:⁠

    1. You don’t understand sex.
    I mean you get it, but you don’t “get it!” When you see it in all the movies, it looks super juicy but in real life is not the same…⁠(the most common issue you can’t relax fall into body shame or guilt about your body or pleasure)

    2. You are out of ideas.
    You remember when the sparks used to fly in the beginning! But you don’t feel the same way anymore. You find yourself in what looks like a routine transactional exchange. You feel a peak tweak kinda orgasm… but you don’t feel orgasmic daily.⁠

    3. You spend way too much intimate time with your phone instead of on your own love life.⁠ (What are you trying to avoid? Being vulnerable is sexy)

    4. You feel there is more out there…
    You know we made of energy.
    You know that sexual energy is healing life force energy, but you can’t activate it nor use it for creation (just yet!)

    Sex coaching isn’t just for the sexless.

    We talk through potential approaches. I offer a holistic healing method – coaching, hypnotherapy, breathwork or other tantric practices – to resolve your challenges in all aspects of your life. As sexuality is just a place where you can’t hide anymore. But most certainly other aspects of your life as a carrier, health would benefit if you could have more energy, wouldn’t it?

    The cultural narrative suggests that only a certain type of person would go to coaching and therapy.

    Part II to follow…


    Alexandra Holovitz is a tantric sex coach & hypnotherapist. She is known for her honest, passionate and authentic coaching style. 

    She works with high achieving men in their 40′ helping them to heal, express and empower thought tantra, mindset and self-compassion. 

    She believes in holistic healing (mind-body-soul) and by awakening sexual energy to thrive in life and business with deep connection, love and sexual liberation! 

    You can learn more about her work at www.alexandra.guru and connect with her via  Instagram.

    Follow Alexandra on:

    Work with me: https://www.alexandra.guru/work-with-me/

    Instagram: www.instagram.com/alexandra_guru

    Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sexyliberation

    Promo: https://www.alexandra.guru/sex-master-hypnosis ( this is a self-study Hypno bundle for more confidence) 


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  • Transformation Coach & Content Creator Michelle Woolfolk

    Transformation Coach & Content Creator Michelle Woolfolk

    Hi! Thank you so much for having me. I am Michelle Woolfolk, 32 years old, mom of one and a wife. I am based in Austin, TX originally from the Philippines. I am an online coach, content creator and a business builder promoting premium non-toxic hair and skin care products.

    How long have you been a transformation coach and why do you love being one?

    I have been a transformation coach for two years now. I love helping women reach their goals from the inside out. It’s not always about weight loss, for me it’s working with your mindset, how you talk to yourself and also enjoying the journey. I love connecting with women from different parts of the world.

    What does one aim for when engaging a transformation coach such as yourself?

    A client would reach out to me to help them with fat loss, lose the last 10lbs post baby, learn how to eat healthier, gain confidence (mindset) and overall health.

    Which is the best compliment you have received?

    Thank you for helping me, I wouldn’t be able to do this without you! You are my inspiration! -These words make me tear up all the time.

    If you could change one thing about the world, what will it be?

    Kindness. If people treat each other with kindness and are less egoistic, I think the world will be a better place. Treat people how you want to be treated.

    How do you like to spend your free time?

    I like to go on hikes! There’s something about nature that calms my mind. Thankfully, there are tons of places to go to in Austin. My dream place will be by the beach though, I am forever an island gal. Beach walks are the best!

    On a scale of 1-10, how much of a foodie are you?

    I would say 8. I love trying out new foods. Experience different cultures through food. I actually took up Culinary back in 2015, so eating at Michelin restaurants and street food is a must.

    Which flavor best describes you?

    I have a sweet and salty personality! I can be the sweetest girl in the room and get upset within 60 seconds. Ooops… I know! I am really working on it. It’s a journey, people on social media think you are perfect based off the photos and videos you post. But we are all a work in progress.


    Follow the inspirational Michelle Woolfolk on

    Website: www.mitchwoolfolk.mymonat.com

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/MichelleMadrigalW

    Instagram: www.instagram.com/mitch_madrigal

    Website: www.mitchwoolfolk.mymonat.com

    Download my app to start training with me or fill up the application form for my 1:1 online coaching. https://mitchwoolfolk.typeform.com/to/j642VI


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  • How To Explore & Enjoy Shibari

    How To Explore & Enjoy Shibari

    Those who practice BDSM have the pursuit of pleasure as their goal and during the session, it is possible to carry out this search with the most disparate tools. Within the practice, we can explore our desires and share them with the person we play with. We can feel ashamed, cry, relax, enjoy, be afraid, let go of control in total freedom, without worrying about the judgment of who is there with us at that moment. This allows us to get closer, to get more intimate with your partner.

    I do not share only my body with you but I open a window on my secrets and allow you to see things about me that on other occasions I do not show. In addition, as individuals, practicing BDSM leads us to ask ourselves what we are looking for in a relationship (whether it lasts in the time of a session or whether it is the relationship with our partner), who we are, what we want. In short, from my point of view, it is a full-blown self-determination tool.

    Ropes by Alithia Maltese; Model Momo Usagi; Pic by Vazkor

    How My Interest In Shibari Developed

    As a child I loved to tie things up. I used what must have been a jump rope: chairs, tables, bottles, nothing could stay in its place. I built forts, tents, castles. Upon reaching sexual maturity, I started fantasizing about bonding people. In a short time, the fantasy became reality. I felt, however, that something was missing. Using scarves and belts wasn’t that satisfying. Playing with wax and having extreme sex with the people I dated didn’t tell everything about me. Also, I needed to talk to someone who had my same instincts, I needed confrontation. So I asked for advice from a friend who I knew had the same interests as me and she suggested that I join FetLife, a social network dedicated to BDSM that has nearly nine million subscribers around the world. Here I discovered the existence of a community in Turin, the city where I live, of parties and bondage workshops.

    I am a curious person and as soon as I approached bondage I began to explore the various existing styles, to research the most famous masters, and so I discovered shibari and chose who I wanted to study with. The further I went along my path, the more I realized how relevant this was becoming in my life, how ropes had become one of my favorite communication tools and certainly my favorite BDSM practice.

    Ropes by Alithia Maltese; Model effe.emme; Pic by Vazkor

    Is It Easy To Learn Shibari?

    It all depends on what is the goal you want to achieve.

    You can start playing safely very quickly. The important thing is to know what your abilities are and not to overdo it, not to try to do things that have not yet been learned. Those who want to learn to suspend have a longer course of study ahead of them but the duration depends on several factors, for example on what is the goal of the people who are studying and how much time they dedicate to practice and training. For those who, like me, love shibari and decide to cultivate it and perfect (and to perfect/refine) technique and aesthetics, the path can last a lifetime.

    What I Love About Shibari

    I’d like to say that I love everything about Shibari! I love tools, aesthetics, technique, communication. The most important thing for me I think is the relationship that is created between rigger and rope bottom. Trust, communication, understanding, eroticism are essential components for me in my practice.

    Sometimes I play as a bottom with my partner. In that case, I love to feel his desire for me. As I said before, ropes have become one of my favorite communication tools, it’s amazing how much they can amplify what rigger and rope bottom want to say to each other.

    GyakuEbi Ropes and Pic Alithia Maltese; Model effe.emme

    Safety Precautions Before & During A Session

    Based on their experience, everyone develops their own personal security strategies. The advice I can personally give are: to know what the health conditions of the rope bottom are (for example if they have had joint problems, if they suffer from claustrophobia or low blood pressure), to gradually increase the intensity of the tying to give way to the rope bottom to feel what is happening (both to enjoy the moment more and to communicate if there is something wrong), to read the signals of the rope bottom’s body to understand if everything is okay, be aware of your abilities and not overdo it, not to try ties that are not mastered during a session, especially when if you are a beginner.

    Alithia Maltese pic by Vazkor

    What To Expect As A Beginner

    I recommend starting with a workshop held by a reliable teacher. Look at the photos, follow people on social networks, ask for feedback from those who have already studied or done Kinbaku with them, ask someone who is part of the community. This also applies to those who want to be tied up.

    The sensations experienced in Shibari are very intense. If you are looking for something comfortable, Shibari is not for you. If instead you want to start a journey, perhaps together with your partner, if you are ready to share your deepest emotions with this person, then give it a chance.

    Maybe there will be times when studying will seem boring or frustrating, but if you are willing to overcome them you will be rewarded and you will discover a new world, something you didn’t even know existed before.


    Alithia Maltese is a rigger, an alternative sexuality educator, a kinbaku teacher. She lives in Turin, Italy.

    Alithia organizes events about consent, meetings for people interested in BDSM, classes on non-verbal communication and bondage workshops. Her main interest is interpersonal communication and she has found in ropes the tool that allows her to express herself at best. She is convinced that BDSM can be a great way to learn to communicate through our body, so she studies its potential.

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  • LA Beauty Vlogger Anneprettyness

    LA Beauty Vlogger Anneprettyness

    Hi, my name is Anne aka Anneprettyness. I’m a beauty Vlogger from Los Angeles California. I’m Filipino, originally from Manila Philippines. I’m a Physical Therapist by profession but turned to become a beauty content creator.

    My social media started to get noticed in 2016 when my one of my videos went viral worldwide, it’s the Jamsu-Water Dipping Makeup on Instagram https://instagram.com/p/BKru1AKBaJp/

    I won the PopBeauty 2020 Pop-Halloween Grand Prize Winner and I’m the 1st Runner up for Moda Brushes 2020 Halloween contest.

    I have a viral Tiktok video: “Calling all Gucci Lovers” in 2020 https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMJwjjCJr/

    I had my own Makeup Seminar in 2019 https://instagram.com/p/B5UKpFRgEnl/ here in the Los Angeles Embassy Suites Hilton with 27 Brand sponsors including: Urban Decay Cosmetics, Laura Mercier, Elemis, Miniso USA, Girlactik, DermaE, Annasui Cosmetics US and Charlotte Tilbury etc.

    I did a collaboration with Ulta Beauty x Avengers on Instagram in 2019 and I was nominated for the CEW Rising Influencer Awards in 2019. I’m the Benefit Cosmetics Brow winner for Influencers contest in 2018

    What is your fashion style like and where do you love to shop from?

    I love trends! I feel like I look the best when I’m wearing what’s trending, especially on Instagram… I can be in a sexy high heels stilettos but I can also rock running shoes at events! I love sexy dresses but at the same time I love comfy sweaters and joggers (I mean I’m from California and it’s the most common OOTD here)

    Do you have a strict beauty regime to look so fabulous?

    OMG I have a lot. First of, skincare has to be one of your top priorities in life…always wash your face before you go to bed! Never sleep with your makeup on cause it will definitely give you break outs!

    Also, don’t wash your face so quickly, you need to take time to really remove any makeup left. And exfoliate.. but it has to be gentle exfoliation and you’ll see how good your skin will be. 

    Is there something you have always wanted to learn or do but haven’t had the time?

    I was able to finally do it and it’s my Vanity/ Makeup Collection video. I’ve been wanting to organize my vanity for such a long time and because of the pandemic finally I was able to do it! I actually have a bajillion of makeup and if you’d like to watch it…just Google Anneprettyness_ph on YouTube. 

    What food or cuisine do you enjoy most?

    I super love Thai food! Cause they also have a resemblance with Filipino taste… and my most favorite food would be the Chicken Madeira from Cheesecake Factory and also, I love sweets so much! 

    If you could be a superhero or villain, who will you be?

    I always love Barbie but maybe I can be Wonder Woman so that I can be a part of the Avengers! I love Avengers because I had the opportunity to have a partnership with Ulta Beauty when they had the Makeup Collection with Avengers. 

    Would you rather stay in or go out for a date?

    Me and my husband used to go out to dinner almost everyday, if not everyday…but during this pandemic…we’ve only dined-in at Cheesecake Factory restaurant only for one time and that’s it. We enjoy going out on a date at night because it’s kinda our relaxing time after a long day of work and we don’t have time to cook in the house.

    What do you not get about guys?

    Honestly, why would guys always ask…where do I wanna eat and if I answer I don’t know… they don’t like it? But they know where I really wanna eat and that I always have the same restaurants of choice but they will still ask…I don’t get it.

    Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Anne. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”? 

    It’s not just about the physical appearance but also the level of intelligence for me! And also perfume! When someone smells so good, it’s so sexy for me! Just like my husband Ara. 


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    Email: anneprettygirl@yahoo.com

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    Upcoming Works: I have an on going giveaway!!! $2k worth of makeup/skincare Enter here: https://youtu.be/g9QzokgvTd8


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